5 Life Lessons That Changed My Life

Ever wonder how embodying the traits of your role models could skyrocket your career? Here's a sneak peek into my world of mentorship and personal growth, where I reveal the secret sauce to career advancement. Step into my shoes as I recount the influential lessons ingrained in me by my mentors and coaches. Experience the profound power of communication and listening skills in building your own brand and reputation. Witness the transformative influence my chef mentor had in sculpting me into a leader who prioritizes active listening.

Now imagine, giving without expecting - an exchange that fosters stronger relationships and connections. Curious, isn't it? Join me as I uncover the rule of Reciprocity, a principle that has revolutionized both my business and personal life. Learn how, by simply offering value to others without expecting anything in return, you can impact your relationships, business dealings, marketing strategies, and personal growth. So, if you're ready to reshape your identity and carve out your desired path, tune in to this engaging episode of ours!

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey guys, welcome to Business Chef Podcast, where we
talk about how to make content,personal, brand and monetize
your skills online, other thanworking in the kitchen, so that
you can have multiple incomesource to feed your family, live
better life and, mostimportantly, love yourself.
As a chef, I'm on my journey,building a million dollar empire
, documenting my process and I'msharing with all of you, so

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please share and enjoy.
These are the 5 life lessonsthat I learned from my mentors
and my coaches that changed mylife in terms of my career, my
business and my personaldevelopment.
This helped me become a betterperson.
This helped me make more money.
This helped me become moremature.
This helped me strengthen myrelationship.
This helped me gain more trustfrom other people as well.

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So, for those of you who wantto change your life, who want to
make your life better, who wantto be a better person, these
life lessons are for you.
I want to share these 5 lifelessons that I learned from my
mentors with you all.
My first lesson is careerlesson.
Think like one, work like one,speak like one and you will
become the one.
This lesson is for those of youwho want to reach a bigger goal

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in your career.
You want to get promoted.
You want to get a betterposition.
You want to do a better job inyour group.
You want to boost yourperformance.
A lot of people just believethat time will solve it.
Right, if you just workconsistently for a very long
time and you'll just eventuallyget it Part of it, which is true
.
This is the most importantlesson that most people forget,
which is if you want to be acertain identity, you don't just

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get it by spending a lot oftime on it.
If you want to get there, youactually have to think like that
person.
You want to become a leader.
You want to think like a leader.
You want to act like a leader.
You want to speak like a leader, and eventually you will become
the leader.
It doesn't really matter whereyou are right now.
You might be an evergreenemployee in your company, in
your group, right?
It doesn't really matter whereyou are right now.

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If you participate, if youcommit every duty, is that you
every job?
If you commit to everythingthat you do in your daily life
like the leader, think like aleader, you solve problems like
leaders, you build arelationship like leaders, you
will become leader one day.
That's guaranteed.
You don't just do a repeatedstuff over and over and, over
and over again and you will justget a leader.

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No, that's not going to happen.
If you want position, if youwant to be the manager, you want
to be the leader.
Lead the people.
You want to be the top of thegroup?
You have to think like one, youhave to act like one, you have
to work like one, you have tospeak like one and eventually
you'll be the one.
The second life lesson is aboutpersonal development, which is
you're building your reputationevery single moment with your

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communication skills.
The way you communicate withother people dictates how you
build your relationship withother people.
This is one of the most commonobstacles that I see from many
people when they're trying toachieve something in their
career or in their business.
This communication skill isstopping them from getting where
they want to be.
They're having hard timecommunicating with other people,
communicating with strangers,communicating with new employees

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, communicating with theirmanagers, communicating with
their friends.
That's why it's stopping themfrom being where they want to be
.
I've seen a lot of times, butthis is something that you've
got to keep in mind the way youdeal with your colleague, the
way you deal with your friends,the way you deal with your
everyday relationship, yourgirlfriend, your boyfriend, your
partners, your managers, yourparents.

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You're building your reputation, you're building your brand
every single moment that you'retalking to them.
The choice of words, yourfacial expression, your voice,
your tonality, everythingmatters when it comes to
communication.
Again, I'm not a master ofcommunication.
I suck at some parts too.
I fuck up some relationshipstoo, but I work on this skill a

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lot enough to have minimumproblems when it comes to
building my career or mybusiness and that's what I think
everybody should participatewhen it comes to personal
development or when it comes topersonal success and, believe me
, that will make your life a loteasier.
When it comes to your workenvironment, building your
business, your friendships oryour relationships between your

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partners or your parents,whatever that you're struggling
with, this skill will make yourlife a lot easier.
The third life lesson isleadership lesson, which is
great.
Leaders are great listeners.
This is the lesson that Ilearned from my mentor chef.
This is what I've observing mymentor chef for the last five,
six years working with him, andhe's one of the chef that I've

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seen in my career.
He has the lowest turnover rate.
He never yell at people, like.
Wherever he goes, his cookswill follow.
He managed to satisfy most ofhis team members at the same
time satisfying the companyneeds, which is extremely hard
for managers, especially workingcorporate companies.
But this is what I've observedfrom him and this is also a life
lesson that I learned from him,which helped me a lot when it

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comes to building my businessand building my relationship
with other people.
People think great leaders haveto be, you know, charismatic,
have to be yelling all the time,being aggressive, which I've
seen a lot of people like that.
They're like abusing theirpower, abusing their positions,
right?
The one thing that I observedfrom him was, no matter how
ridiculous request that he getsfrom his team member, he always
listen and he always tries tosolve problem for every single

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person as much as he can.
I think that's what made him agreat leader when it comes to,
you know, buildingwhole-restaurant team members,
and he's trained like four orfive heptical teams of the
company, and that's one of thebiggest life lessons that I was
influenced and inspired, and Ithink this is one of the most
important skills when it comesto leadership If you guys are
leading a team.

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If you guys are a manager, inmy opinion, listening skill is
one of the most important skillsthat you have to genuinely
listen to people.
You have to genuinely hear whatthey say, which you have to
care about your team members,not with your own way.
Think about from other people'sperspective like be mature,
listen to their voice, work ashard as you can to solve other
people's problems, because thatwill build your reputation.

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The fourth life lesson that Ilearned is a mindset lesson.
This is also I learned from mychef.
He's one of those guys thatearned one of the biggest
respect from me.
The fourth life lesson that Iwas inspired from him was people
say they are all tired and youknow they have no time.
They're exhausted.
The truth is you're not tired,you chose to be tired.
That is unspoken truth aboutthe word tired, which is a

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mindset lesson that I learnedfrom my chef.
When we do something, we neveralmost get tired by doing
something we enjoy, right, if wedo something we enjoy and if we
are committed and if we makemoney from it, we'll never get
tired, you know.
But guess what?
People get tired because theydo something that they don't
fucking enjoy and they'resomehow forced to work a lot of

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hours and make themselvesexhausted, even though they
don't even want it.
Right?
You always have a choice inyour life.
There's no such thing as I wastold to do.
I was brainwashed.
I don't know how to do it.
There's no way of blah, blah,blah.
It's all fucking excuses.
When you're tired, you canchoose to work less.
You can choose to make lessmoney.
You can choose to take a break.
If you can't, you have to finda way to not make yourself tired

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.
Go work out regularly, increaseyour basic stamina, make
yourself not tired.
If you can't do that, work less.
You always have a choice.
Or then you learn less.
Guess what you got to learn howto love something.
Guys, remember, if you say thatyou're tired to yourself,
everybody else around you youare like the cancer.
I'm sorry to say this, butyou're like the cancer.

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Everybody else around you mightbe enjoying what they do, might
be, they might love what theydo.
They might spend 14, 15, 16hours a day to just, you know,
do what they love to do.
You know, in their life andfind a way to make more money,
find a way to increase theirproductivity and, you know, get
better at themselves everysingle day in their life.
But when someone around themsay, oh, I'm tired, I work too

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much, you know, life is unfair.
Blah, blah, blah.
Like you are the cancer.
You like you got to stop sayingthat If you're tired, choose to
not be tired, work less orchoose to love something.
Like you got to find your wayout.
But, man and the last lifelesson is about relationship,
which is rule of reciprocity.
Be the giver in every aspect ofyour life.
Be the giver.

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It doesn't have to be physicalgoods or money.
Right your mindset, yourmentality.
Has to be a someone who givesaway value to other people.
It can be respected, it can beemotions, it can be love, it can
be favor.
If you treat others withrespect for free, those people
will feel obligated to pay youback with the same amount of
respect or even bigger.
Like that applies Same thing tolove, favor, money, food.

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You want to build a betterrelationship.
You want to make more money.
You want other people to treatyou better.
You want to be a better person.
Remember this relationship rule, rule of reciprocity.
Like this applies to businesses, applies to marketing and sales
.
Like this is like a universalrule that we all talk about, and
this can apply to every aspectof our life, whatever it can be,
like business, sales or, likeyou know, love, relationship,

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career.
This rule of reciprocity is suchan amazing lesson that I
learned in my life.
It dramatically changed my life.
It helped me build betterrelationship with my friends.
It helped me build a betterrelationship with my colleagues,
even with my partner, and, mostimportantly, I became a better
person.
I became the better version ofmine, which I think is the most

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valuable experience that you canever have in your whole life.
I always try to buy dinner to myfriends.
Whenever I go to work, I wouldalways try to buy something.
And, you know, give mycolleagues to eat, or for their
breakfast, or I make them freestaff meal.
I would spend like $5,200 amonth to actually feed them.
Or, you know, give themsomething that you know they
would appreciate, like for free,like I don't expect any returns

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because I know if I givesomething out for free, if I
have the giver mindset, I knowthere are people out there who
will feel obligated to pay meback in some sort of way, and it
doesn't have to be money, itdoesn't have to be the same
medium that I gave them.
The most important fundamentalof rule of reciprocity is that
you're earning favor.
Like you're building yourreputation, you're building your

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brand, a positive brand, aroundyou, and that is, I think, the
secret of everything in life.
You have to know how to build apositive vibe around you, to be
a better person, to besuccessful, to excel in any
aspect of your life, your career, your business, your personal
development, your relationship.
You can literally becomewhoever you want Like guys,
listen, you can become whoeveryou want, whoever you imagine in

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your head right now, in yourbrain right now.
You can become the person.
You can become that identity.
All you have to do is to chooseto become one.