October 2, 2024 • 30 mins
Remember the days when life seemed simpler, and time didn't fly by quite so fast? Or, are you more excited about the cutting-edge technology that makes our leisure time even more enjoyable? Our latest episode explores this fascinating duality. We reminisce about the simplicity of the past while celebrating the wonders of modern advancements like the Steam Deck. Kids, we encourage you to savor your childhood moments! Meanwhile, adults, we delve into the overwhelming abundance of choices we face today, such as the explosion of coffee shops, and how to strike a balance between appreciating our past and embracing our future.
Ever feel drained after a social event or struggle with navigating humor in today's world? You're not alone. We discuss the challenges of social interactions, the need to recharge, and the awkwardness of forced activities like golfing with colleagues. Family game nights can be a battlefield of competitiveness and rule-bending, leading to frustration. We wrap up with an honest conversation about the complexities of dark humor in our sensitive society, the impact of cancel culture, and how these shifts have changed the way we joke. Plus, we highly recommend checking out "Tulsa King" for a show that navigates these changes masterfully. Tune in for a rich discussion filled with personal insights and cultural reflections.
Josh aka Bearded_Nova
I'm from Australia and am what you would call a father who games. I have 5 kids so not as much time to game as I used to. But I still game and stream when I can. So come join me on Twitch in chat as we chill out.
Business Inquiries: Bearded-n0va@aussiebb.com.au
Josh aka Moorph
I'm a US-based husband and father of two boys. I work full-time and have been a content creator since 2000. I'm a YouTube partner, Twitch and LiveSpace streamer who founded a content creation coaching company called Elev8d Media Group (elev8d.media). I'm a blogger, streamer, podcaster, and video-er(?).
Business Inquiries: josh@elev8d.media
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Turning off normal human male mode.
Switching to dad mode.
Welcome in to dad mode Withyour hosts Bearded, Nova and
Morph.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Shit's always changing.
It is always changing.
I can't believe how I can't.
25 years, it goes so fast.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Time goes fast.
You know that's your topic initself.
Time goes fast.
It does go fast, and I amconstantly stuck in the past
thinking about how things wereor how things should have been,
or then it even.
I don't know if you get thesense that you think of
something and then by the timeyou react to it, it's it's
(00:46):
months later it's been me lately.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
It's been me and I'm trying to adapt, so go ahead
guys.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
I said I'm trying to keep up with it.
I'm not, but I'm trying toright on the flip side.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Like time goes fast for me, like I don't realize,
like we were talking earlier,like the matrix was 25 years ago
.
I can't believe that, but it'strue, like.
But my kids, like, they're likeyou know.
You say, hey, we can do thisthing in three months.
That's so far from no.
No, it's, it's not three months.
I could do that with my eyesclosed, like it's not.
(01:19):
Or they can't wait to grow upand it's like, why?
Like there's nothing.
There's a lot of shitty thingsthat happen when you're being a
kid.
It's usually the best time ofyour life.
You have no responsibilitiesand everybody loves you.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Yes, yes, I'm constantly saying that to the
kids.
At the moment, it's like I wantto do this and that I'm like,
no, just enjoy where you are.
Enjoy, enjoy where you are,because you're gonna regret
saying these things in a fewyears.
So I'm gonna like change timebits and pieces.
I want to.
I want to get a stream deck.
(01:53):
I feel like I'm at an age nowthat I want to get a stream deck
, because I don't have time tolike come from the lounge up to
here to play games.
And it has dawned on me becauseFriday night, I'm doing a
stream.
It's going great, yep, andplaying an indie game with a
couple of friends.
We're all having fun.
(02:15):
Next thing, you know, one friendgoes offline.
He hops back on in a differentaccount.
We didn't realize what wasgoing on.
Turns out, he had jumped fromhis PC to his rog ally, which is
just like a steam deck.
Yeah, and he responds I didn'tfeel like sitting at the desk.
I'm laying in bed playing.
I'm like jeez, son of a bitch,you've unlocked it.
(02:37):
You've unlocked something in me, though, and I've seen it.
He came and handed me thisdevice months ago.
This is why we're talking abouttime and sets Months ago.
I'm catching up.
He's like here, have a feel ofthis.
I'm like, oh my God, why didyou give me this Now?
I want this in my life.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that was sixmonths ago.
Six months ago.
It was only just caught up tome again after Friday and him
(03:00):
mentioning that.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I'm like that's right , I was gonna buy a steam deck,
so I actually put a deposit onit when it was first announced
and I didn't mind buying itbecause I convinced myself that
I would never need it, I wouldnever use it.
But just the other day I boughtone of those backbone things to
put your phone in.
You can play I actually gotaround to finish setting it up,
but because I realized when I'min the car and I'm not driving,
(03:23):
I want to play Call of Duty, Iwant to play games.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Hasn't this time, in a sense, gotten better for us?
In ways, we're just talkingabout how you're a kid you don't
want to grow up, and that'sgreat.
But now, as an adult, I wanttime to go faster, just so I can
get these new things to make mylife a little bit more easier
in a sense.
But I'm excited.
I've got about 40 messages outof facebook at the moment on
(03:50):
marketplace, for scheme decksand all that that I'm trying to
hunt because I'm dodging fuckingscammers left, right and center
, trying to figure out what's areal ad, what's a fake ad.
I just message them all andthen wait for the response.
Basically, yeah, but I'mexcited for that.
Like, come on, give someone,someone respond and say, yes,
you know, here's a, here's alocation to pick up, and I'm in
(04:10):
my car, you know, throwing moneyat them.
That's something that time hasgiven me that I'm excited for.
Yeah, but then there's a lot ofthings you know, like we're at
the shops yesterday and I'mwalking around, I'm like why
can't I just go back to theother?
You know, years ago, when I wassimple, so many different shops
, so many different things youknow, I went, we got coffee at
starbucks while we're there andby the time I got the coffee
(04:33):
left starbucks and we startedwalking through the mall, I went
through five other places thatsold coffee within like 20
minutes.
20 minutes, that's way too muchcoffee, in a sense.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Like well, you got coffee each of those places no,
I didn't.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
I didn't.
I got the big, the big cup frombig latte from starbucks.
But I'm just where we in asense that we need so many
coffee shops.
As a kid, there wasn't thismany coffee shops.
You know that the shops, theshop selection was a lot more
minimum, a lot more simpler forme.
I didn't need this and that youknow what I mean.
(05:08):
That's where I'm getting atwith what's going on here.
I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Yeah, yep, it's funny .
So every time my kid says, yeah, I want to grow up, I'm like I
want to be back, I want to be akid again.
You go to school, you come home, you play video games and then
you play on your phone.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
Someone makes dinner for you and does your laundry,
and then you go to bed like yeah, yeah, but is there things that
you don't like nowadays, thatyou'd rather go back to, I guess
, like not just the lifestyle asit, but like things that we've
gotten over time that you wishwe didn't have anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
So this will make me sound old, but like I do think.
Too much screen, you know whatI mean.
Like screen time for kids likethey do less, like I played
outside a lot more than my kidsever do, you know.
Yes, for kids like they do less, like I played outside a lot
more than my kids ever do, youknow.
Yes, I feel like I used, I hadto use my imagination a bit more
because everything wasn'treadily available for me, you
(06:13):
know.
Um yeah I feel like that helped.
That helped my creativity andmy innovation as I got to be an
adult.
I don't.
I think like nowadays it's alittle bit too easy to just look
something up you know and andnot have to figure it out.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Yeah, I find that, like the kids, they come home
after school and it's likethrough the door, hi, and then
into the rooms and then I'll seethem.
You know lunch, dinner,whatever time it is, you know
school holidays now I might notsee some until lunchtime and
then they're out, say goodmorning, then they go back in
the room, then I'll see himagain at dinner.
Like it's the.
The sense of going outexploring has has gone.
(06:51):
I'm hoping in a sense with a 16year old now that her friends
are starting to get car licensesand that that they might ask.
I know she's asked to go placesand I guess that's a topic for
another day how far do you letyour child go, at what age, I
guess?
But you know she's asked to gosome places and I'm like meh.
(07:13):
But she went to the city theother day.
My wife works in the city.
She went in with my wife andher friend and I think I've
talked about it before.
In Brisbane we've got got southbank which is like one half is
one half.
The rivers like park and beachtype of like it's artificial
beach but it's along the riverso you can swim these lagoons
(07:34):
and then there's water.
There's lots of museums,science, building, heaps of
stuff to do in the city.
You can go across the, you know, go across the river back to
where all the shopping is andyou've got all the high-end
shops and heaps of stuff to doin the city.
You can go across the, you know, go across the river back to
where all the shopping is andyou've got all the high-end
shops and heaps.
You know, eight-story malls andheaps of.
You know heaps of stuff to domovies, food, botanical gardens.
(07:57):
Her and her friend were donewith like two hours of being in
the city.
They went over to south bank,laid on the beach, didn't swim
because they thought there wastoo many people to be bothered
swimming, so just lay there fora little bit, add some food and
then kind of were done.
And she, you know I got home.
They told me this and I welldid.
(08:18):
You go up and down the mallbecause the mall, like the queen
street mall itself, is a bigstreet.
It's only foot traffic there's.
You know, malls and buildingseither side.
You can go in jewelry.
You know lots of heaps to do,especially for a girl.
A boy is probably, you know,not as much.
Boys are streamlining shoppers.
You know what I mean, but girls, they love looking at all that
(08:40):
girly girls love looking at allthat clothes and fashion and
that keeps to do there.
Oh, yeah, we did that, we didit all.
I'm like, no, you did, youcouldn't have, you couldn't have
.
Yeah, you couldn't have.
And I feel like that's, that'sa part of the screen time online
shopping.
I don't know what it is, butit's just.
She couldn't spend a whole dayin the city as a teenager
exploring when they haven'treally been around, whereas the
(09:02):
sense I spent many of days andnights and that way before I was
an adult in the city, arcades,you know we'd be in arcades for
half a day.
I could be in an arcade foreight hours in a day, but in
that time we'd still stop andthe crew from the arcade would
go down the road and we'd all goto this chinese noodle bar that
(09:22):
was down the road jackpotnoodles we'd get like wonton
noodle soup for like five bucksit was, and a drink, and you
know I could spend a day there,but she was bored within, and
that's within, like a block.
I could spend a day within ablock of the city.
She had the whole city and shewas bored within two, two hours,
yeah, and that's what I thinkit's just.
(09:44):
You know, backwards, like,especially at the moment, we got
50 cent fares everywhere, sothat's all.
Public transport for us is 50cents, no matter where you're
going.
Wow, really great.
You know, sense of sense ofexploration there for kids like
especially her age.
We trusted to get on a trainand that she did want to go to
(10:05):
the beach, which was like atwo-hour train each way, and I
said, no, that's a bit too far,but still in a sense of where
she could go within, you know,within an hour, on a train,
there's heaps of places.
Or bus, you know there's heapsof places they can come and do
and things like no interest.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
You know part, part mini, you know mini golf, pop,
there's just so many things kidscan do, but it's just nah, yeah
yeah, my, my kids are are thesame way, where they don't like,
if we're gonna, hey, let's goto this beach or go to the park,
I just want to stay home andwhat?
Play games or look on my phone.
You know it's weird to mebecause I wanted to go places
(10:49):
and do things and experiencethings.
And yeah, like, even whenthey're talking to their friends
, like their friends don't comeover to our house, they talk to
them online or they talk to themwhen they're playing fortnite
or whatever.
Yeah, it's like, don't you wantto see them like and interact
with them in person?
Speaker 3 (11:06):
you know, in a sense I'm gonna put it.
You know, I played a little bitdevils advocate here.
As an adult, you want to see alot of people a lot of time
anymore.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
No, but I'm, I'm a introvert so I spent years being
social.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
I don't need that in my life anymore yeah, I don't
like.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
I don't like people.
So I mean, that's, that's a bitdifferent.
Or maybe that's why they dothat, because they're taking
after me.
It's a learned habit.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Yeah, that's what I'm trying to think, in a way, like
there's a sense of this I don'tlike to do a lot of things
anymore or go a lot of places,and maybe that's the children
just mimicking us.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
As parents as well try to do what we do, I guess if
they mimic me as they grow up,then I don't worry about them at
all, because my boy, the olderone, will come on Saturdays.
I don't like to get up if Idon't have to get up, so I'll be
in my bed playing on the Xboxtill like 11am and he'll come up
(12:03):
and be like Dad, are you evergoing to get out of bed?
And I'm like no, I don't haveto, I'm going to stay right here
.
And if he starts mimicking thathabit of just hanging around
and playing games and notgetting in trouble, I'm fine
with it.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
that's that's yeah, I go back to the other week when
we're talking about onlinebullying and stuff.
In a sense, my kids ain'treally doing that much online.
They're not gaming, they're notdoing anything, they're in
their room, they're kind ofdesensitized, not desensitized,
shelled in a sense, to a lot ofthe the things that are going on
anyway because of thislifestyle choice that they've
done.
(12:36):
And my wife wife says you know,my wife's very introverted, she
doesn't like doing things.
In the best of days I'll beeven talking to people,
including myself, but she, youknow that's.
I think the girls copy her alot in a sense.
So that way I'm like trying topush them to be a bit more
extrovert.
I was extrovert, I do likepeople.
I can handle that, but at thesame time I could.
(12:59):
It's like a.
It's like I'm like a candle.
I can go out there and do itfor so long until I'm burnt out,
and then I'm like, nope, goingback inside, I'm going back to
my cave, but I want to talk toyou guys.
Anyone, for now you can catchme online gaming or something
like that yeah, yeah, yeah, II'm the same.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Well, I mean, I was never an extrovert, but I can
play an extrovert if I have toin public.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
That's what that's that's what I think I mean is
the best way to put it.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
I can play an excellent extrovert in a sense
that is comically believablelike I'm the most social person
in the world if I have to, andthen quite simply shut that off
yeah, and like if, when I go tosocial events for work or
whatever, I will make the rounds, I'll say hi to people, I'll
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make it my presence known andthen I will quietly sneak out
the back and go home I don'teven really do that, oh really.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
No, I might say hello to the people I feel
comfortable saying hello to, andthen a lot of people I'll just
avoid contact with for the sake,because I don't really know you
, so I don't want to talk to you.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Yeah, yeah, my boss at work just got into golf
because you know he wants toplay with the senior leaders,
you know, and like, mingle withthem, and he was like suggesting
that I should play golf.
You know, and like, yeah,mingle with them.
And he was like suggesting thatI should play golf.
I'm like I'm thinking I have nodesire to spend time with you
outside here anyone.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
No, no, I'm good dude , I'm good I go golf clubs but I
don't play golf.
I used to play golf quitefrequently with friends, but
they're all everyone's moveddistance.
We're all spread apart.
We can't play golf like thatanymore.
We haven't done that in youknow, since basically the start
of children 10 years plus nowand I got a set of golf clubs I
(14:45):
brought.
Another guy didn't buy.
Yeah, I did buy a set of golfclubs.
I've gotten cheap around thegarage.
I haven't done anything withthem yet.
I think I brought it in the inthe idea of liking, the idea of
doing something, but this didn'tdo that.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Yeah, yeah, I don't see myself getting into golf.
It wasn't a thing for megrowing up and I don't know
enough people now that really doit and, like you know, it's not
something I really want to do.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
Golf to me as an adult, as a parent, as a dad,
it's more of a socialinteraction, not really the
sport as such.
But if I'm going out with acouple other dads because it's
not a short game Right, you knowwhat I mean, and it doesn't
have to be alcoholic fuel, butit's not a short game so you
could be going out there to playjust nine holes because you'd
(15:34):
still be gone three, four hours.
Right, play just nine holesbecause you still be gone three,
four hours.
Right.
If you're walking and it's justa social chat and walk, it's
like a private walk.
I guess would be the best wayto put it right with friends,
where you know you're not goingto be bothered because you guys
have all paid money to to gointo a park to walk, where no
children and partners and anyoneelse can run up to you and
(15:55):
annoy you because, yeah, that'sa better way to look at it.
If you're looking at it purelyas a social aspect, great, it's
a great sport for that, becauseyou can do that in a more
comfortable way, rather than,say, baseball or football where
you're running and you're a lotmore physically involved in the
moment.
I guess would be the best wayto put it, and that's definitely
(16:16):
not me.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
In any way, I'm not a physical person anymore yeah, I
would say that's probably why Idon't play golf, because I
don't want to hang out with alot of people.
I just I have a really one ofmy really good friends who lives
close, which is odd becausemost of my friends live hours
away.
Um, yeah, he loves golf.
He's like you want to go.
I'm like, no, no, I appreciateyou, man, but no, I'm not.
(16:41):
No, I don't know.
We can go to a bar and drink,that's cool, you know, but no, I
don't want to go play golf, youcrack it one day.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
One day you will.
It's not too bad.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Maybe just do top golf or something like that so
one thing I don't do, and wetalked about this a while, a
long time.
We were talking about, like,what are good games to play,
like with your family, and youwere mentioning the golf game,
golf of Friends.
Right, yeah, yeah, it's like amini golf kind of thing, yeah,
and so mini golf, by the way,that is something we don't do as
(17:11):
a family anymore, because,right, yeah, right.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Yeah, more because rage.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Yeah, right, yeah, and yeah, somebody is cheating.
When one boy can't make it,he's throwing his club.
He's just oh, my it's, we don't.
We don't golf anymore, minigolf anymore, no, we're in the
same sense.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Actually, us as a family don't do many games as as
a whole, because we have onechild who loves to bend the
rules and cheat and make up herown shit every time, and I just
refuse to play anything anymorethat revolves around her, as a
simple fact that I don't want toget frustrated.
Yeah, anymore.
(17:49):
We played a game of scrabbleand that turned into rage with
my wife and her once, yeah,because she was the oldest and
couldn't spell more than athree-letter word, and it was so
frustrating to my wife that,yeah, and even I think that was
the last game I played.
I'm like you know what this is.
This has proved to me as awhole we can't play these games
(18:13):
as a family and I'm stepping out, I'm accepting the fact that we
will never be a family thatplays board games.
I'm happy with that.
Yeah, I've got a card gamesomewhere here in this room.
There's a card game in thisroom that I brought in the sense
that I was going to play withfriends and that, and I thought
I could play it with the kids,and I really do want to, but at
(18:34):
the same sense, I like my sanityand it sounds like a great game
and I feel like I'm gonna loveit and enjoy it, and but I don't
want to be pissed off trying toexplain it.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
We don't play a lot of games board games for the
same reason, and in betweensessions, we, you, you tend to
forget how bad it was.
You're like you know what,let's play a game.
I don't know why we don't playa lot, and then you start
playing and all the shit happens.
You're like that's why we don'tplay that.
Yeah, that's why we don't dothis, because you know family
(19:06):
time is important.
But it's great, more better.
It's better conceptually thanit is, you know, doing it
sometimes.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
The one that I've actually been intrigued in
playing is something like maybea Jackbox on the TV, like I'm
thinking the possibility of anelectronic board game, even
Monopoly, as an electronic gamewhere people can't cheat, you
know, I mean you can't, youcan't cheat, you can't.
(19:38):
There's only so much you can do.
It's very controlled by thegame, which kind of takes that
sense away of the kids spackingit in it.
I feel like it might be an easyway to explain a game without
losing it myself, like it's.
It's something I've alwaysthought about in my head.
Like you know, this issomething we should try or
something I should propose, butI haven't yet yeah, one of the
(20:01):
problems too is is all my fault.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
I'm very competitive and you know when we play the
game kids getting upset my wifewould be like let him win.
I'm like no, not happening.
Like we lost with like minigolf the little one was beside
himself because it wasn't goingwell.
It started out a bit of luckand my wife's like let him win.
I'm like no.
So she just threw the game likeshe was missing putts left and
(20:25):
right, just like to make surethat she lost.
But like I, I refuse to do it.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
I just I, I can't I you know, now we've spoken about
this and I'm thinking about itmore, I am actually going to try
a game on the tv with the kids,possibly this afternoon now,
okay, and I will feedback onwhether it is a successful game
for anyone to attempt like, ifit works out, are you gonna let
(20:51):
them win?
Speaker 2 (20:51):
are you gonna?
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 3 (20:52):
no, no, I can't, I can't let them win, because
that's the part of the game youknow it's whatever's one that
happens, that happens.
But yeah, I will try adifferent sense of games with
the kids more electronic version, you know, tv friendly screen
time, heavy screen time wherethey have to use their phones or
something, and I'll report backif that was a win, if it was
fun, if, if we had an enjoyabletime if you guys listen to this,
(21:17):
let us know, before he reportsback, how you think it's gonna
go.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
I'd love I have an idea how I think it's gonna go,
but I'm gonna hold that back.
I don't wanna now.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
Now think about it more when I do play these games.
I've always played them withfriends, like we might have
drinks and drinks and snacksnight.
So at a friend's place andwe'll with your kids, yeah, and
very like you know, toned down.
What I find hilarious to writeand draw in these moments is
(21:50):
obviously not going to fly withchildren and my wife yeah, I,
I'm dirty when I play jackbox.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
I'm horribly dirty.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
Yeah, I'm borderline.
I'm pretty much cancel, cancelculture when I play them games.
I shouldn't be.
I don't play them online forthat reason I played it.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
I've done jackbox on when I was streaming.
Did you ever play with me?
No, I wouldn't have.
I wouldn't have.
Okay, I definitely wouldn'thave.
Yeah, they were.
It starts off okay like normalin the first game and then it's
just dirty joke after dirty jokeand then when you get into the
one where you have to draw stuff, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (22:29):
Yeah, yeah, I did play him on my stream once and
then I had a lot of people go.
You can't say that.
I'm like, oh, I can't say that,what's wrong with that?
And then and then I've beenfollowed.
You know, incorrect,politically incorrect in ways or
something like that.
Nowadays, you know, back to thestart of this episode, age I
haven't adapted with time with,so obviously some things and
(22:50):
things I thought were cool wereapparently not cool anymore.
You can't say those things.
So there's a lot.
There's a lot that I can't sayanymore.
Yeah, actually, I'm going touse that part of the topic right
now to switch.
Segue it a little bit.
Do you ever say stuff in a senseof a joke but you say a really
serious way to your wife andyour wife doesn't know if you
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are serious or you are joking,because, because I say things a
lot to my wife and I feel likeshe actually believes half the
things that I say, and I'msaying it without a thing and
just looking direct into hereyes, I'm trying to figure out
how to say this on this withoutmaking it sound horrible.
We're going to say two mensexually and I describe the
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action as medieval jousting, andthat's how it works and she
thought that's actually what Ithought happened.
I kept that joke going for likea year, but that's that's
that's my sense where I'm.
I'm having a joke.
I know seriousness, I'm notmaking fun of people.
I just know I can say this toher without upsetting her, and
it actually does upset her.
So in a way it drives me to saymore of it or expand on my
(24:02):
stupid thoughts.
That I know ain't real, butI'll make it sound more stupider
and draw it out further andfurther as it keeps going.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Yeah, one thing I'll say is, when I find out that
something I did you don't like,I will do it more, so don't let
on.
Yes, don't like it, because Iwill, just I will jump all over
it.
But yeah, I make a lot of jokesthat are well sarcastic is
obvious, but like sarcastic isthe best way to put it a lot of
dark jokes, a lot of morbidthings, definitely some
(24:34):
inappropriate shit.
Oh, yeah.
I try to make it sound like ajoke.
It's like opposite I make itsound like a joke, but then they
take it seriously.
Speaker 3 (24:44):
I'm like I'm just joking, like now the way my
daughter had a friend over andshe goes, don't worry, my dad's
just racist, I am not racistlike I.
And then, like my wife has togo like she says that to her
work, where she works, she goes.
Oh, my husband can come acrossreally racist and like, oh, okay
, and they don't.
(25:06):
They don't understand that I'mindigenous and like I'm also
native american, like buchang,native american, very indigenous
australian.
My wife is indian well, she'shalf indian.
Like we're very dark in a sensein the family, except for one
child is extremely white.
And but the jokes that I comeout with I'll say something
(25:27):
horribly horrible against my ownindigenous culture and it's
like, oh, you're racist.
It's like, no, I can't beracist.
I'm making fun of myself here.
Like I'm making fun of myselfand my own indigenous culture.
And it's like, oh, you'reracist.
It's like, no, I can't beracist, I'm making fun of myself
here.
Like I'm making fun of myselfand my own people here.
That's where my daughter comes.
She'll say that to friends.
She goes oh, my dad, my friendsthink you're just like this
funny old racist person.
I'm like I'm not racist, I'mnot this, or you're a phobic or
(25:56):
something.
I'm like no, like somethinghappened.
I had to explain to the family.
I said something and they wereoh, I had to explain that I have
trans friends.
I have multiple trans friendsand and and gay friends.
Like, I'm definitely nothomophobic or transphobic, I
have plenty.
You know, we have mutual transfriends and I have full respect
for them and I will stand up foranyone of any, any community
race, of that.
But my humor is dark and itsometimes comes across as racist
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and I say it to people that Ithink can take it or understand
that sense of humor.
I'm not.
Yeah, yeah, that's that's whereI get caught out.
Like I had to talk about howone of my daughter's friends is
a soul sucker because she's aginger.
She goes I don't understandwhat you mean.
So I have to explain that youknow every freckle you got is
for each soul you've consumed inyour lifetime.
It didn't mean I hate her, Ijust wanted to let her know.
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That's what I thought about herthere.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
It's a joke cancer culture is a big thing nowadays.
I'm not saying that peopleshould make jokes.
You know, do do stuff if youthink it's appropriate around
people.
You think it's appropriate, yes, well, yeah, just, I guess,
just be careful what you say andwhere you say it.
You know, I honestly believethat everyone has these kind of
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thoughts and jokes in their headand they just don't always say
it because people you know youcould get yourself in trouble.
Nowadays you get yourself in somuch trouble.
That's changed from when wewere younger, like some of the
shit they used to say on TV andin movies when we were yeah, you
cannot say it now, no, have youwatched?
Speaker 3 (27:25):
It's coming up to season two.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Tulsa King I saw like one episode because I got a
preview, but I haven't seen thewhole thing.
Speaker 3 (27:30):
It's great like preview but I haven't seen the
whole.
It's great, I don't mind.
If I didn't mind the firstseason I'm like I'm sorry season
but it's his way of adapting tocancel culture into changes and
things you can and cannot sayin society anymore.
It's very much a show aboutbeing back in.
You know someone who's been,because his character was in
prison for a long period of time, then coming out with social
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media now and you can't say thatyou can't do that.
It's it's.
It's his take on someone cominginto a world that hasn't had
that exposure to change, I guess, over time.
But really worth it, reallyreally is worth it I'll see if I
can.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
I'll see if I can find a way to watch it.
But yes, a lot, a lot of shithas changed.
As you know, when you grow upand like you, just gotta, you
just gotta kind of roll with itand figure it out, even though
it's crazy, when you think of amovie that you love, then you
realize it's 25 years old andthat means you're, you know,
like every now and then I thinkabout oh my, I renew my license
(28:26):
again.
Oh my god, I've had it for thatlong, you know, yeah yeah, I
was.
Speaker 3 (28:31):
I did that just yesterday.
I have to renew my license nextmonth it is and I was looking
at the photo going.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
I probably should go get a photo because I have like
a lot of hair yeah, well, I'm ata point where I want to keep
each license photo because Ilook better, because I was yeah,
yeah, you know, slowly goingdownhill it's a decline.
Yeah, it's like you could havelike keep all your license, like
you see a time lapse of me justdeteriorating.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
It's sad, it's my soul emptying my body Right.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Like you know, you look at me like you don't think
you.
You don't really think you lookany different.
But then you look like an oldphoto of you, like oh, oh, shit,
yeah.
Speaker 3 (29:09):
I look great back then.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
Yeah, I look great.
Speaker 3 (29:11):
back then Look at me back then.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
Yeah, you want to go back in time.
No, man, you actually lookgreat right now.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
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Speaker 2 (00:18):
Shit's always changing.
It is always changing.
I can't believe how I can't.
25 years, it goes so fast.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Time goes fast.
You know that's your topic initself.
Time goes fast.
It does go fast, and I amconstantly stuck in the past
thinking about how things wereor how things should have been,
or then it even.
I don't know if you get thesense that you think of
something and then by the timeyou react to it, it's it's
(00:46):
months later it's been me lately.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
It's been me and I'm trying to adapt, so go ahead
guys.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
I said I'm trying to keep up with it.
I'm not, but I'm trying toright on the flip side.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Like time goes fast for me, like I don't realize,
like we were talking earlier,like the matrix was 25 years ago
.
I can't believe that, but it'strue, like.
But my kids, like, they're likeyou know.
You say, hey, we can do thisthing in three months.
That's so far from no.
No, it's, it's not three months.
I could do that with my eyesclosed, like it's not.
(01:19):
Or they can't wait to grow upand it's like, why?
Like there's nothing.
There's a lot of shitty thingsthat happen when you're being a
kid.
It's usually the best time ofyour life.
You have no responsibilitiesand everybody loves you.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Yes, yes, I'm constantly saying that to the
kids.
At the moment, it's like I wantto do this and that I'm like,
no, just enjoy where you are.
Enjoy, enjoy where you are,because you're gonna regret
saying these things in a fewyears.
So I'm gonna like change timebits and pieces.
I want to.
I want to get a stream deck.
(01:53):
I feel like I'm at an age nowthat I want to get a stream deck
, because I don't have time tolike come from the lounge up to
here to play games.
And it has dawned on me becauseFriday night, I'm doing a
stream.
It's going great, yep, andplaying an indie game with a
couple of friends.
We're all having fun.
(02:15):
Next thing, you know, one friendgoes offline.
He hops back on in a differentaccount.
We didn't realize what wasgoing on.
Turns out, he had jumped fromhis PC to his rog ally, which is
just like a steam deck.
Yeah, and he responds I didn'tfeel like sitting at the desk.
I'm laying in bed playing.
I'm like jeez, son of a bitch,you've unlocked it.
(02:37):
You've unlocked something in me, though, and I've seen it.
He came and handed me thisdevice months ago.
This is why we're talking abouttime and sets Months ago.
I'm catching up.
He's like here, have a feel ofthis.
I'm like, oh my God, why didyou give me this Now?
I want this in my life.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that was sixmonths ago.
Six months ago.
It was only just caught up tome again after Friday and him
(03:00):
mentioning that.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I'm like that's right , I was gonna buy a steam deck,
so I actually put a deposit onit when it was first announced
and I didn't mind buying itbecause I convinced myself that
I would never need it, I wouldnever use it.
But just the other day I boughtone of those backbone things to
put your phone in.
You can play I actually gotaround to finish setting it up,
but because I realized when I'min the car and I'm not driving,
(03:23):
I want to play Call of Duty, Iwant to play games.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Hasn't this time, in a sense, gotten better for us?
In ways, we're just talkingabout how you're a kid you don't
want to grow up, and that'sgreat.
But now, as an adult, I wanttime to go faster, just so I can
get these new things to make mylife a little bit more easier
in a sense.
But I'm excited.
I've got about 40 messages outof facebook at the moment on
(03:50):
marketplace, for scheme decksand all that that I'm trying to
hunt because I'm dodging fuckingscammers left, right and center
, trying to figure out what's areal ad, what's a fake ad.
I just message them all andthen wait for the response.
Basically, yeah, but I'mexcited for that.
Like, come on, give someone,someone respond and say, yes,
you know, here's a, here's alocation to pick up, and I'm in
(04:10):
my car, you know, throwing moneyat them.
That's something that time hasgiven me that I'm excited for.
Yeah, but then there's a lot ofthings you know, like we're at
the shops yesterday and I'mwalking around, I'm like why
can't I just go back to theother?
You know, years ago, when I wassimple, so many different shops
, so many different things youknow, I went, we got coffee at
starbucks while we're there andby the time I got the coffee
(04:33):
left starbucks and we startedwalking through the mall, I went
through five other places thatsold coffee within like 20
minutes.
20 minutes, that's way too muchcoffee, in a sense.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Like well, you got coffee each of those places no,
I didn't.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
I didn't.
I got the big, the big cup frombig latte from starbucks.
But I'm just where we in asense that we need so many
coffee shops.
As a kid, there wasn't thismany coffee shops.
You know that the shops, theshop selection was a lot more
minimum, a lot more simpler forme.
I didn't need this and that youknow what I mean.
(05:08):
That's where I'm getting atwith what's going on here.
I don't like it.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Yeah, yep, it's funny .
So every time my kid says, yeah, I want to grow up, I'm like I
want to be back, I want to be akid again.
You go to school, you come home, you play video games and then
you play on your phone.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
Someone makes dinner for you and does your laundry,
and then you go to bed like yeah, yeah, but is there things that
you don't like nowadays, thatyou'd rather go back to, I guess
, like not just the lifestyle asit, but like things that we've
gotten over time that you wishwe didn't have anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
So this will make me sound old, but like I do think.
Too much screen, you know whatI mean.
Like screen time for kids likethey do less, like I played
outside a lot more than my kidsever do, you know.
Yes, for kids like they do less, like I played outside a lot
more than my kids ever do, youknow.
Yes, I feel like I used, I hadto use my imagination a bit more
because everything wasn'treadily available for me, you
(06:13):
know.
Um yeah I feel like that helped.
That helped my creativity andmy innovation as I got to be an
adult.
I don't.
I think like nowadays it's alittle bit too easy to just look
something up you know and andnot have to figure it out.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
Yeah, I find that, like the kids, they come home
after school and it's likethrough the door, hi, and then
into the rooms and then I'll seethem.
You know lunch, dinner,whatever time it is, you know
school holidays now I might notsee some until lunchtime and
then they're out, say goodmorning, then they go back in
the room, then I'll see himagain at dinner.
Like it's the.
The sense of going outexploring has has gone.
(06:51):
I'm hoping in a sense with a 16year old now that her friends
are starting to get car licensesand that that they might ask.
I know she's asked to go placesand I guess that's a topic for
another day how far do you letyour child go, at what age, I
guess?
But you know she's asked to gosome places and I'm like meh.
(07:13):
But she went to the city theother day.
My wife works in the city.
She went in with my wife andher friend and I think I've
talked about it before.
In Brisbane we've got got southbank which is like one half is
one half.
The rivers like park and beachtype of like it's artificial
beach but it's along the riverso you can swim these lagoons
(07:34):
and then there's water.
There's lots of museums,science, building, heaps of
stuff to do in the city.
You can go across the, you know, go across the river back to
where all the shopping is andyou've got all the high-end
shops and heaps of stuff to doin the city.
You can go across the, you know, go across the river back to
where all the shopping is andyou've got all the high-end
shops and heaps.
You know, eight-story malls andheaps of.
You know heaps of stuff to domovies, food, botanical gardens.
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Her and her friend were donewith like two hours of being in
the city.
They went over to south bank,laid on the beach, didn't swim
because they thought there wastoo many people to be bothered
swimming, so just lay there fora little bit, add some food and
then kind of were done.
And she, you know I got home.
They told me this and I welldid.
(08:18):
You go up and down the mallbecause the mall, like the queen
street mall itself, is a bigstreet.
It's only foot traffic there's.
You know, malls and buildingseither side.
You can go in jewelry.
You know lots of heaps to do,especially for a girl.
A boy is probably, you know,not as much.
Boys are streamlining shoppers.
You know what I mean, but girls, they love looking at all that
(08:40):
girly girls love looking at allthat clothes and fashion and
that keeps to do there.
Oh, yeah, we did that, we didit all.
I'm like, no, you did, youcouldn't have, you couldn't have
.
Yeah, you couldn't have.
And I feel like that's, that'sa part of the screen time online
shopping.
I don't know what it is, butit's just.
She couldn't spend a whole dayin the city as a teenager
exploring when they haven'treally been around, whereas the
(09:02):
sense I spent many of days andnights and that way before I was
an adult in the city, arcades,you know we'd be in arcades for
half a day.
I could be in an arcade foreight hours in a day, but in
that time we'd still stop andthe crew from the arcade would
go down the road and we'd all goto this chinese noodle bar that
(09:22):
was down the road jackpotnoodles we'd get like wonton
noodle soup for like five bucksit was, and a drink, and you
know I could spend a day there,but she was bored within, and
that's within, like a block.
I could spend a day within ablock of the city.
She had the whole city and shewas bored within two, two hours,
yeah, and that's what I thinkit's just.
(09:44):
You know, backwards, like,especially at the moment, we got
50 cent fares everywhere, sothat's all.
Public transport for us is 50cents, no matter where you're
going.
Wow, really great.
You know, sense of sense ofexploration there for kids like
especially her age.
We trusted to get on a trainand that she did want to go to
(10:05):
the beach, which was like atwo-hour train each way, and I
said, no, that's a bit too far,but still in a sense of where
she could go within, you know,within an hour, on a train,
there's heaps of places.
Or bus, you know there's heapsof places they can come and do
and things like no interest.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
You know part, part mini, you know mini golf, pop,
there's just so many things kidscan do, but it's just nah, yeah
yeah, my, my kids are are thesame way, where they don't like,
if we're gonna, hey, let's goto this beach or go to the park,
I just want to stay home andwhat?
Play games or look on my phone.
You know it's weird to mebecause I wanted to go places
(10:49):
and do things and experiencethings.
And yeah, like, even whenthey're talking to their friends
, like their friends don't comeover to our house, they talk to
them online or they talk to themwhen they're playing fortnite
or whatever.
Yeah, it's like, don't you wantto see them like and interact
with them in person?
Speaker 3 (11:06):
you know, in a sense I'm gonna put it.
You know, I played a little bitdevils advocate here.
As an adult, you want to see alot of people a lot of time
anymore.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
No, but I'm, I'm a introvert so I spent years being
social.
Speaker 3 (11:19):
I don't need that in my life anymore yeah, I don't
like.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
I don't like people.
So I mean, that's, that's a bitdifferent.
Or maybe that's why they dothat, because they're taking
after me.
It's a learned habit.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Yeah, that's what I'm trying to think, in a way, like
there's a sense of this I don'tlike to do a lot of things
anymore or go a lot of places,and maybe that's the children
just mimicking us.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
As parents as well try to do what we do, I guess if
they mimic me as they grow up,then I don't worry about them at
all, because my boy, the olderone, will come on Saturdays.
I don't like to get up if Idon't have to get up, so I'll be
in my bed playing on the Xboxtill like 11am and he'll come up
(12:03):
and be like Dad, are you evergoing to get out of bed?
And I'm like no, I don't haveto, I'm going to stay right here
.
And if he starts mimicking thathabit of just hanging around
and playing games and notgetting in trouble, I'm fine
with it.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
that's that's yeah, I go back to the other week when
we're talking about onlinebullying and stuff.
In a sense, my kids ain'treally doing that much online.
They're not gaming, they're notdoing anything, they're in
their room, they're kind ofdesensitized, not desensitized,
shelled in a sense, to a lot ofthe the things that are going on
anyway because of thislifestyle choice that they've
done.
(12:36):
And my wife wife says you know,my wife's very introverted, she
doesn't like doing things.
In the best of days I'll beeven talking to people,
including myself, but she, youknow that's.
I think the girls copy her alot in a sense.
So that way I'm like trying topush them to be a bit more
extrovert.
I was extrovert, I do likepeople.
I can handle that, but at thesame time I could.
(12:59):
It's like a.
It's like I'm like a candle.
I can go out there and do itfor so long until I'm burnt out,
and then I'm like, nope, goingback inside, I'm going back to
my cave, but I want to talk toyou guys.
Anyone, for now you can catchme online gaming or something
like that yeah, yeah, yeah, II'm the same.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Well, I mean, I was never an extrovert, but I can
play an extrovert if I have toin public.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
That's what that's that's what I think I mean is
the best way to put it.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
I can play an excellent extrovert in a sense
that is comically believablelike I'm the most social person
in the world if I have to, andthen quite simply shut that off
yeah, and like if, when I go tosocial events for work or
whatever, I will make the rounds, I'll say hi to people, I'll
(13:47):
make it my presence known andthen I will quietly sneak out
the back and go home I don'teven really do that, oh really.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
No, I might say hello to the people I feel
comfortable saying hello to, andthen a lot of people I'll just
avoid contact with for the sake,because I don't really know you
, so I don't want to talk to you.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
Yeah, yeah, my boss at work just got into golf
because you know he wants toplay with the senior leaders,
you know, and like, mingle withthem, and he was like suggesting
that I should play golf.
You know, and like, yeah,mingle with them.
And he was like suggesting thatI should play golf.
I'm like I'm thinking I have nodesire to spend time with you
outside here anyone.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
No, no, I'm good dude , I'm good I go golf clubs but I
don't play golf.
I used to play golf quitefrequently with friends, but
they're all everyone's moveddistance.
We're all spread apart.
We can't play golf like thatanymore.
We haven't done that in youknow, since basically the start
of children 10 years plus nowand I got a set of golf clubs I
(14:45):
brought.
Another guy didn't buy.
Yeah, I did buy a set of golfclubs.
I've gotten cheap around thegarage.
I haven't done anything withthem yet.
I think I brought it in the inthe idea of liking, the idea of
doing something, but this didn'tdo that.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Yeah, yeah, I don't see myself getting into golf.
It wasn't a thing for megrowing up and I don't know
enough people now that really doit and, like you know, it's not
something I really want to do.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
Golf to me as an adult, as a parent, as a dad,
it's more of a socialinteraction, not really the
sport as such.
But if I'm going out with acouple other dads because it's
not a short game Right, you knowwhat I mean, and it doesn't
have to be alcoholic fuel, butit's not a short game so you
could be going out there to playjust nine holes because you'd
(15:34):
still be gone three, four hours.
Right, play just nine holesbecause you still be gone three,
four hours.
Right.
If you're walking and it's justa social chat and walk, it's
like a private walk.
I guess would be the best wayto put it right with friends,
where you know you're not goingto be bothered because you guys
have all paid money to to gointo a park to walk, where no
children and partners and anyoneelse can run up to you and
(15:55):
annoy you because, yeah, that'sa better way to look at it.
If you're looking at it purelyas a social aspect, great, it's
a great sport for that, becauseyou can do that in a more
comfortable way, rather than,say, baseball or football where
you're running and you're a lotmore physically involved in the
moment.
I guess would be the best wayto put it, and that's definitely
(16:16):
not me.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
In any way, I'm not a physical person anymore yeah, I
would say that's probably why Idon't play golf, because I
don't want to hang out with alot of people.
I just I have a really one ofmy really good friends who lives
close, which is odd becausemost of my friends live hours
away.
Um, yeah, he loves golf.
He's like you want to go.
I'm like, no, no, I appreciateyou, man, but no, I'm not.
(16:41):
No, I don't know.
We can go to a bar and drink,that's cool, you know, but no, I
don't want to go play golf, youcrack it one day.
Speaker 3 (16:48):
One day you will.
It's not too bad.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Maybe just do top golf or something like that so
one thing I don't do, and wetalked about this a while, a
long time.
We were talking about, like,what are good games to play,
like with your family, and youwere mentioning the golf game,
golf of Friends.
Right, yeah, yeah, it's like amini golf kind of thing, yeah,
and so mini golf, by the way,that is something we don't do as
(17:11):
a family anymore, because,right, yeah, right.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Yeah, more because rage.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Yeah, right, yeah, and yeah, somebody is cheating.
When one boy can't make it,he's throwing his club.
He's just oh, my it's, we don't.
We don't golf anymore, minigolf anymore, no, we're in the
same sense.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
Actually, us as a family don't do many games as as
a whole, because we have onechild who loves to bend the
rules and cheat and make up herown shit every time, and I just
refuse to play anything anymorethat revolves around her, as a
simple fact that I don't want toget frustrated.
Yeah, anymore.
(17:49):
We played a game of scrabbleand that turned into rage with
my wife and her once, yeah,because she was the oldest and
couldn't spell more than athree-letter word, and it was so
frustrating to my wife that,yeah, and even I think that was
the last game I played.
I'm like you know what this is.
This has proved to me as awhole we can't play these games
(18:13):
as a family and I'm stepping out, I'm accepting the fact that we
will never be a family thatplays board games.
I'm happy with that.
Yeah, I've got a card gamesomewhere here in this room.
There's a card game in thisroom that I brought in the sense
that I was going to play withfriends and that, and I thought
I could play it with the kids,and I really do want to, but at
(18:34):
the same sense, I like my sanityand it sounds like a great game
and I feel like I'm gonna loveit and enjoy it, and but I don't
want to be pissed off trying toexplain it.
Speaker 2 (18:45):
We don't play a lot of games board games for the
same reason, and in betweensessions, we, you, you tend to
forget how bad it was.
You're like you know what,let's play a game.
I don't know why we don't playa lot, and then you start
playing and all the shit happens.
You're like that's why we don'tplay that.
Yeah, that's why we don't dothis, because you know family
(19:06):
time is important.
But it's great, more better.
It's better conceptually thanit is, you know, doing it
sometimes.
Speaker 3 (19:16):
The one that I've actually been intrigued in
playing is something like maybea Jackbox on the TV, like I'm
thinking the possibility of anelectronic board game, even
Monopoly, as an electronic gamewhere people can't cheat, you
know, I mean you can't, youcan't cheat, you can't.
(19:38):
There's only so much you can do.
It's very controlled by thegame, which kind of takes that
sense away of the kids spackingit in it.
I feel like it might be an easyway to explain a game without
losing it myself, like it's.
It's something I've alwaysthought about in my head.
Like you know, this issomething we should try or
something I should propose, butI haven't yet yeah, one of the
(20:01):
problems too is is all my fault.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
I'm very competitive and you know when we play the
game kids getting upset my wifewould be like let him win.
I'm like no, not happening.
Like we lost with like minigolf the little one was beside
himself because it wasn't goingwell.
It started out a bit of luckand my wife's like let him win.
I'm like no.
So she just threw the game likeshe was missing putts left and
(20:25):
right, just like to make surethat she lost.
But like I, I refuse to do it.
Speaker 3 (20:30):
I just I, I can't I you know, now we've spoken about
this and I'm thinking about itmore, I am actually going to try
a game on the tv with the kids,possibly this afternoon now,
okay, and I will feedback onwhether it is a successful game
for anyone to attempt like, ifit works out, are you gonna let
(20:51):
them win?
Speaker 2 (20:51):
are you gonna?
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 3 (20:52):
no, no, I can't, I can't let them win, because
that's the part of the game youknow it's whatever's one that
happens, that happens.
But yeah, I will try adifferent sense of games with
the kids more electronic version, you know, tv friendly screen
time, heavy screen time wherethey have to use their phones or
something, and I'll report backif that was a win, if it was
fun, if, if we had an enjoyabletime if you guys listen to this,
(21:17):
let us know, before he reportsback, how you think it's gonna
go.
Speaker 2 (21:22):
I'd love I have an idea how I think it's gonna go,
but I'm gonna hold that back.
I don't wanna now.
Speaker 3 (21:29):
Now think about it more when I do play these games.
I've always played them withfriends, like we might have
drinks and drinks and snacksnight.
So at a friend's place andwe'll with your kids, yeah, and
very like you know, toned down.
What I find hilarious to writeand draw in these moments is
(21:50):
obviously not going to fly withchildren and my wife yeah, I,
I'm dirty when I play jackbox.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
I'm horribly dirty.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
Yeah, I'm borderline.
I'm pretty much cancel, cancelculture when I play them games.
I shouldn't be.
I don't play them online forthat reason I played it.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
I've done jackbox on when I was streaming.
Did you ever play with me?
No, I wouldn't have.
I wouldn't have.
Okay, I definitely wouldn'thave.
Yeah, they were.
It starts off okay like normalin the first game and then it's
just dirty joke after dirty jokeand then when you get into the
one where you have to draw stuff, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (22:29):
Yeah, yeah, I did play him on my stream once and
then I had a lot of people go.
You can't say that.
I'm like, oh, I can't say that,what's wrong with that?
And then and then I've beenfollowed.
You know, incorrect,politically incorrect in ways or
something like that.
Nowadays, you know, back to thestart of this episode, age I
haven't adapted with time with,so obviously some things and
(22:50):
things I thought were cool wereapparently not cool anymore.
You can't say those things.
So there's a lot.
There's a lot that I can't sayanymore.
Yeah, actually, I'm going touse that part of the topic right
now to switch.
Segue it a little bit.
Do you ever say stuff in a senseof a joke but you say a really
serious way to your wife andyour wife doesn't know if you
(23:11):
are serious or you are joking,because, because I say things a
lot to my wife and I feel likeshe actually believes half the
things that I say, and I'msaying it without a thing and
just looking direct into hereyes, I'm trying to figure out
how to say this on this withoutmaking it sound horrible.
We're going to say two mensexually and I describe the
(23:39):
action as medieval jousting, andthat's how it works and she
thought that's actually what Ithought happened.
I kept that joke going for likea year, but that's that's
that's my sense where I'm.
I'm having a joke.
I know seriousness, I'm notmaking fun of people.
I just know I can say this toher without upsetting her, and
it actually does upset her.
So in a way it drives me to saymore of it or expand on my
(24:02):
stupid thoughts.
That I know ain't real, butI'll make it sound more stupider
and draw it out further andfurther as it keeps going.
Speaker 2 (24:10):
Yeah, one thing I'll say is, when I find out that
something I did you don't like,I will do it more, so don't let
on.
Yes, don't like it, because Iwill, just I will jump all over
it.
But yeah, I make a lot of jokesthat are well sarcastic is
obvious, but like sarcastic isthe best way to put it a lot of
dark jokes, a lot of morbidthings, definitely some
(24:34):
inappropriate shit.
Oh, yeah.
I try to make it sound like ajoke.
It's like opposite I make itsound like a joke, but then they
take it seriously.
Speaker 3 (24:44):
I'm like I'm just joking, like now the way my
daughter had a friend over andshe goes, don't worry, my dad's
just racist, I am not racistlike I.
And then, like my wife has togo like she says that to her
work, where she works, she goes.
Oh, my husband can come acrossreally racist and like, oh, okay
, and they don't.
(25:06):
They don't understand that I'mindigenous and like I'm also
native american, like buchang,native american, very indigenous
australian.
My wife is indian well, she'shalf indian.
Like we're very dark in a sensein the family, except for one
child is extremely white.
And but the jokes that I comeout with I'll say something
(25:27):
horribly horrible against my ownindigenous culture and it's
like, oh, you're racist.
It's like, no, I can't beracist.
I'm making fun of myself here.
Like I'm making fun of myselfand my own indigenous culture.
And it's like, oh, you'reracist.
It's like, no, I can't beracist, I'm making fun of myself
here.
Like I'm making fun of myselfand my own people here.
That's where my daughter comes.
She'll say that to friends.
She goes oh, my dad, my friendsthink you're just like this
funny old racist person.
I'm like I'm not racist, I'mnot this, or you're a phobic or
(25:56):
something.
I'm like no, like somethinghappened.
I had to explain to the family.
I said something and they wereoh, I had to explain that I have
trans friends.
I have multiple trans friendsand and and gay friends.
Like, I'm definitely nothomophobic or transphobic, I
have plenty.
You know, we have mutual transfriends and I have full respect
for them and I will stand up foranyone of any, any community
race, of that.
But my humor is dark and itsometimes comes across as racist
(26:19):
and I say it to people that Ithink can take it or understand
that sense of humor.
I'm not.
Yeah, yeah, that's that's whereI get caught out.
Like I had to talk about howone of my daughter's friends is
a soul sucker because she's aginger.
She goes I don't understandwhat you mean.
So I have to explain that youknow every freckle you got is
for each soul you've consumed inyour lifetime.
It didn't mean I hate her, Ijust wanted to let her know.
(26:41):
That's what I thought about herthere.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
It's a joke cancer culture is a big thing nowadays.
I'm not saying that peopleshould make jokes.
You know, do do stuff if youthink it's appropriate around
people.
You think it's appropriate, yes, well, yeah, just, I guess,
just be careful what you say andwhere you say it.
You know, I honestly believethat everyone has these kind of
(27:03):
thoughts and jokes in their headand they just don't always say
it because people you know youcould get yourself in trouble.
Nowadays you get yourself in somuch trouble.
That's changed from when wewere younger, like some of the
shit they used to say on TV andin movies when we were yeah, you
cannot say it now, no, have youwatched?
Speaker 3 (27:25):
It's coming up to season two.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Tulsa King I saw like one episode because I got a
preview, but I haven't seen thewhole thing.
Speaker 3 (27:30):
It's great like preview but I haven't seen the
whole.
It's great, I don't mind.
If I didn't mind the firstseason I'm like I'm sorry season
but it's his way of adapting tocancel culture into changes and
things you can and cannot sayin society anymore.
It's very much a show aboutbeing back in.
You know someone who's been,because his character was in
prison for a long period of time, then coming out with social
(27:51):
media now and you can't say thatyou can't do that.
It's it's.
It's his take on someone cominginto a world that hasn't had
that exposure to change, I guess, over time.
But really worth it, reallyreally is worth it I'll see if I
can.
Speaker 2 (28:05):
I'll see if I can find a way to watch it.
But yes, a lot, a lot of shithas changed.
As you know, when you grow upand like you, just gotta, you
just gotta kind of roll with itand figure it out, even though
it's crazy, when you think of amovie that you love, then you
realize it's 25 years old andthat means you're, you know,
like every now and then I thinkabout oh my, I renew my license
(28:26):
again.
Oh my god, I've had it for thatlong, you know, yeah yeah, I
was.
Speaker 3 (28:31):
I did that just yesterday.
I have to renew my license nextmonth it is and I was looking
at the photo going.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
I probably should go get a photo because I have like
a lot of hair yeah, well, I'm ata point where I want to keep
each license photo because Ilook better, because I was yeah,
yeah, you know, slowly goingdownhill it's a decline.
Yeah, it's like you could havelike keep all your license, like
you see a time lapse of me justdeteriorating.
Speaker 3 (28:56):
It's sad, it's my soul emptying my body Right.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Like you know, you look at me like you don't think
you.
You don't really think you lookany different.
But then you look like an oldphoto of you, like oh, oh, shit,
yeah.
Speaker 3 (29:09):
I look great back then.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
Yeah, I look great.
Speaker 3 (29:11):
back then Look at me back then.
Speaker 2 (29:12):
Yeah, you want to go back in time.
No, man, you actually lookgreat right now.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
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