Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Dating should be fun! But it also should be intentional....especially if you're looking for a life partner. With all these conflicting messages, it's hard to know the expectation of a first date anymore....especially when you reach your 30s and people are looking for something more serious. We're breaking down the difference between self-imposed pressure and the organic evolution when dating, how to balance fun and deep...

What happens when you're trying to be Dateable....yet not finding anyone of interest? We're re-airing one of our fave interviews with the fabulous Damona Hoffman as we go into getting out of that dating rut, finding the necessary clarity to move forward in your love life, and how to start connecting deeper on dates. Plus, Damona answers the question: Now that I’ve stopped chasing unavailable men, I can’t seem to find anyone...

They're texting every day, replying quickly, and making plans...everything's running smoothly until one day it just stops. In this week's #brunchtalk, we're discussing one of the most common dating dilemmas: inconsistency. We're discussing the reasons behind this behavior, why we have to communicate our needs and expectations effectively, and how to establish standards that help you find the right person.

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From dating books like 'The Rules' to TikToker's giving dating advice, we're here to say the rules don't freaking work – yet they are so much more engrained in all of us than we may even think. If you're debating when to text next, finding the "right" time to have sex or strategically keeping dates short, then it's likely these dating "rules" are actually keeping you stuck. We're join...

Ever feel like you just can't move past those first couple dates or actually get into a committed relationship? You're not alone. Join us this week as we discuss why it's so common to feel this way – even when the reality is that most date's don't turn into more! We're discussing what metrics to focus on when quantifying dating "success", why dating apps have changed the dynamics of dating, and how y...

We're officially on the off-season and kicking it off with some life updates from both of us. We recap the first part of 2025 – from our book tour to potential moves to wedding planning. Join us as we debrief about our favorite parts of the year so far and what has been a challenge. Enjoy!

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We're back with some of our most popular #brunchtalks and a question we always get is: what should I do if they say they like me but they just aren't ready right now for a relationship? Should I stay and give it more time or just let it go? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to navigate this tricky situation, especially when it's more of an external factor keeping your relationship from pro...

What if we were to tell you there's a way to find the right partner that doesn't feel like you're looking for a needle in a haystack where you will absolutely never settle. In our season finale, we saved one our favorite topics from our book 'How to Be Dateable': our perfect partner equation. We discuss the three core components of this equation, how they're different than your typical list, and why we belie...

Yue almost walked out of the movie Materialists...it may be one of Julie's favorite movies of all times. Whether you've seen it or not, we're having a debate about the messaging and takeaways of the movie as it pertains to modern dating, financial disparities in relationships, height surgery, and the matchmaking industry. We're revealing our true feelings of matchmaking from our own experiences and hope you enjoy th...

What happens when you meet the love of your life but then the relationship completely falls apart not long after you get married? You learn what you probably needed to know lonnng before you tied the knot! We're joined with Casey & Meygan from Marriage365 to talk about how their relationship nearly collapsed – and what they did to get it back on track. We're discussing the green/red flags when picking a par...

You met someone amazing. The chemistry is incredible and you really enjoy their company. So this is obviously headed into relationship territory, right? Not always...We're discussing if your situationship could actually turn into a relationship or if it's stuck in casual territory. We're discussing what to do when you aren't fully aligned with what a relationship entails, how to gain clarity into what you actually w...

Ever want to pick the brain of a matchmaker? Well we're about to as we're joined with Matchmaker Maria to discuss her journey as a fourth-generation matchmaker and what it's like to be a matchmaker in today's world. We're discussing the pivotal quality she bases her matches on, how the 12 date rule can set you up for success, and why it's important to take the 5 different levels of compatibility into account...

So you met someone you could be into. And then it just hits you and takes over the entire situation. Something they did gave you the ick – so much that you are debating never seeing them ever again. We're discussing the two main reasons you get the ick, the origination of how the ick came to be, and what to do when you get it. Enjoy!

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From monogamy to nonmonogamy, casual dating to queerplatonic partnerships, married couples living separately to those who are single by choice, we're diving into the many ways to do relationships – and how to find what works for you. We're having our first official fivesome as we chat with the crew over at Multiamory about everything from the evolving nature of love in modern society, how to look at relationship milestones ...

We're catching up as we talk about a situation of 'should you tell them or not' when you know something about their relationship but you're not sure if it's your place to share. We're also chatting about a new dating app that caters to foodies and debate if this is a good idea for a first date. And of course, we answer a listener question about love bombing and what's the difference of showing a lot of i...

Reality check: You can find love at any age. And often times the BEST relationships happen "later in life" (which for the record is definitely subjective) We're diving in with our guest Sandy Weiner who shares her own story and those of her clients. We're discussing why age should not deter you from dating, the different complexities that come from meeting someone when you may be more established / independent, and ...

Nothing is worse than when you have a seemingly great first date...and then the next one just never happens. Whether they ghost, tell you there wasn't a connection, or whatever other excuse comes up, it can be so damn confusing! We're diving into why this happens – from the reasons that come with dating to what could be personal to the person. We also recount dates of our own where we thought the connection was going somewh...

The #1 thing we hear is: But I don't want to waste time. We feel you! Time is our most valuable asset and nothing feels more discouraging than spinning your wheels when dating without results. But what are the perceived time wasters versus the true ones? We're diving into the areas that we believe are the hidden time sucks, how to maximize and preserve your energy on everything from dating apps to events where you meet peop...

Grab your mimosas, we got a good one as we chat about why you can be great on paper, attractive, the whole nine yards – yet still have trouble attracting people to date. We're also debating a question around your boyfriend sleeping with a friend and how travel really shows if you can make a relationship work. Enjoy!

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