March 12, 2025 • 17 mins
Discover how social media shapes our perceptions and contributes to anxiety overload. This enlightening talk highlights crucial strategies to regain control and prioritize mental wellness amidst curated online realities.
• Discussion around how social media impacts mental health and anxiety
• Understanding the façade of perfection on social media
• Strategies on curating your social media feeds for better mental health
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Is social media killing your vibe?
Is social media making youanxious?
I think that's something we'vegot to become aware of, isn't it
, as it is the number one causeof anxiety today?
It is, and that's what we'regoing to be chatting about.
(00:20):
So stay tuned for this week'sepisode of get real with the
english sisters, and we're goingto give you three really easy
ways of stopping you becominganxious because of social media,
and the first, the first, yes,is what is the first?
(00:43):
Because I don't know, I can'tremember it.
The first is there's nothing toremember.
The first is that it's not real.
Yeah, there's nothing toremember.
The only thing that we have toremember is it's fake.
There's nothing to remember.
It's fake.
It's not a real life situation,it's just something that's being
staged, and a lot of time theyput filters on it and a lot of
(01:05):
time it's all.
Do you know what?
It made a really good pointthere, because I think in the
past, when we used to watchmovies and films, we would kind
of know they were movies andfilms and we knew it was there.
There was a stage.
Yeah, you know, they'd be likein hollywood, far removed lives,
yes, and so we did not expectthat.
I mean we might.
(01:26):
If you're watching a romanticcomedy, we might come out
feeling, oh romantic, and youget the vibe.
But you didn't actually expectto relive that exact situation.
Well, you didn't expect to haveto look like the female or the
male lead.
You would want to, you'dprobably want to aspire, you
might be inspired to, but youwouldn't expect you would think
(01:47):
that was far removed from yourreality.
Yes, that was I don't know thatfamous, you know actress or
actor, and that was it.
You know, you didn't expect Ihave to look like that.
No, no, that was a movie, or Ihave to behave like that.
That's like the, it's likealmost like a fairy tale.
It's a Cinderella.
Yes, it was like that, wasn'tit?
(02:07):
You'd all oh, lovely, beautiful, she's beautiful, he's
beautiful, but that was kind ofit.
Then you'd get back into yourreal life and know that that was
on the movie screen.
Yeah, but today and there wasno expectations of you to look
like that I mean, you'd getphotos taken of you with a
little tiny camera and and yousee them like three weeks later,
and you'd think, oh, that'sokay and you'd put it in an
(02:27):
album, but you wouldn't have toshow it to the whole world, and
it wasn't all the time photos,it was rarely you'd get a
picture taken and so life was.
It was different.
But nowadays we actually have,you know, cameras on us all the
time and so there's so muchpressure.
(02:48):
There is, you know, there's alot of pressure going around
when you always think you haveto look great, you know, camera
ready, as to say, the food youeat has to be camera ready,
everything has to be staged.
Your home, yes, your home, comeon, what about, you know, the
(03:09):
dirty socks in the corner there?
That's everyday life, you know,for most people it's not
perfect, you know, come on,we've got to realize that it's
fake.
Yeah, we have to realize thatthese are, you know, they're
normal people like us, butthey've got profiles and there's
, these profiles are staged andcurated a lot of the time,
(03:30):
especially if they're verypopular.
Yes, and even if they're notvery popular, if you are
following somebody that'sperhaps your own age, maybe they
put a lot of filters on that,you know, make sure and then
make a big effort to have allthe lights.
It is becoming something thatpeople are becoming aware of.
(03:55):
Yeah, I think, you know, there'sa part of everybody that knows
it's not real, but yet you stillaspire, you still want it, you
still think it is real.
There's a part of your brainthat's like tricked into
thinking it's real.
That's what's so toxic anddangerous.
Yes, you that, you're right.
Yeah, that is a toxic part ofit.
And how?
Because how many hours do wespend looking at those images?
Yes, on the phone.
(04:15):
Yes, they're conditioning ourbrains to think that is what my
home should look like, that'swhat my garden if you've got
home in a garden, if otherwise,if you're, uh, you know, that's
what I should look like yeah,which can become very, very
dangerous if you start thinkingI want to look like that person
there, like, like, look at her,she's so thin, or she's got this
(04:37):
hair and, whatever it is, youknow, hasn't got any wrinkles,
or oh, that can become extremelydangerous because you're
comparing yourself to somebodyelse and you're comparing
yourself to something that isnot real.
So how could you ever compare?
You can't, you can't, you can'tcompare to that, can you?
That's why it's so dangerous,yeah, and then I think also so
(05:02):
how do we stop this happening?
Well, stop spending so muchtime on your phone, that's the
first thing, and then startbeing a curator yourself.
So curate your feed.
Don't follow people that areshowing the perfect perfection
in in the way you know for, forif you want to follow someone,
follow a more normal person.
That's going to be, you know.
(05:23):
Show them.
It's going to inspire you.
It's going to inspire you andshow them themselves as they
really are, and I think more andmore people are appreciating
that today.
Yeah, they are.
That's a good.
That's a good, that's somethinggood that's coming.
You know that we're becomingmore aware, becoming more, I
think, more fed up and more likewe're realizing how anxious
we're actually becoming andwe're starting to fight back on
(05:46):
on that, thank goodness, andwe've got to become more and
more aware.
I think we have to be so carefulbecause there's so much stuff
out there as well that's just,it's.
It's also not true, it's fakeand it's not true.
There's so many influencersthat are going around spreading,
like all this, falseinformation, making you think
that that's that's how it reallyis and and it's.
(06:07):
It's not like that.
No, and it's and it's.
It is quite, very dangerous.
It's dangerous and it's quite.
You know, if you think you'regrowing up with this kind of you
know feed that's going intoyour brain.
It can be quite you know it.
It's tough and it causesanxiety because you're never
really going to look like that.
Oh, you will be like that, orhave that house or that room and
(06:29):
you have no control overlooking like that either.
There's no way in hell you'regoing to be able to look like
that Exactly Because it's notyou for a start.
You're a different person.
So why would you want to looklike that in the first place?
That's, that's.
That's a real question.
And and to become obsessed withthat can become, you know,
pretty, pretty pretty somethingwe've got to become aware of.
(06:50):
I think, if it's happening tous or if it's happening to the
people that we love around us,like if you're a parent, you've
definitely got to become awareof this.
You probably already it, butit's even more subtle sometimes
and you think, no, my, you know,my kids aren't affected by that
at all, but it's almostimpossible not to be affected by
it.
It is, it is, but it's.
(07:11):
It's something that we've gotto become aware of.
So we have to really keeptelling ourselves that it's not
real and that it's fake, andthat it's it's even though it
looks so real, because it justlike you know they're like
they're, they're probably thesame age as we are, and you know
we're following people the sameage, they've got the same like,
they've gone through the samestudies we have, maybe.
(07:32):
And then and then look, but look, look where they are, they're,
they're so far ahead.
You know they've got all thismoney or they've got all these
beautiful things and I haven'tgot it.
Why haven't I got it?
And then you start the.
You know so.
So don't compare.
I mean, that's the third thing.
Do not compare yourself.
It's harder, you know, it'sharder said than done, isn't it?
(07:54):
Because it's like what you said, it's so.
It appears to be so real and sosubtle.
Yeah, but we have to reallythink of it as like, like when
you stop drinking, I think Ihave to stop doing this.
Yeah, I think like, almost likean addiction.
You're saying it's like I haveto stop.
I have to like limit myself.
I'm not gonna.
I'm gonna curate my feed.
(08:14):
I'm gonna turn offnotifications.
I'm going to turn offnotifications.
I'm going to, you know, make areal effort.
Leave those people that make youfeel bad when you watch a reel
or you read a story or whatever.
You look through a story andyou find that it's actually
making you feel anxious and, youknow, making you feel like, you
(08:36):
know, I really want this thing.
You know, just say, okay, thisis someone that I'm not going to
follow anymore.
Exactly, yes, you can sort oftune in to the emotions that
they're bringing up.
Are they making you smile?
Are they making you feel goodabout yourself as well, relaxed?
Is it inspiring to you, but ina good way, yeah, you know
(08:58):
thinking, oh, yeah, that was agreat idea.
Actually I could try, you know,that, or baking that, or making
that, or something that'sinspiring to you.
Is this generally giving yousomething, or is it creepily,
taking away, cutting out bits ofyour own self-esteem day by day
(09:19):
, by day, without you realisingit?
You know that's a creepy part.
That's why it becomes so subtle.
It like sets in, you know, andstarts taking away until you do
what it wants you to do, whichis to buy, to purchase, to
become a victim of, you know,consuming whatever that feed
(09:42):
really wants you to do, which isto spend money in it.
Come on, ultimately, even a lotof these influencers they are
sponsoring things, yeah, and sosome of them aren't, and they
just, you know, they maybe gettheir money from something else
and they're not.
They might not be there, yeah,that might not be their
intention.
(10:02):
So you might think, oh, butthey're not.
The person I'm following isn'tdoing that.
But you have to think, yeah,but how's?
How is that person making mefeel like what you said?
Are they making me feel goodafter I watch them, or is?
Do I feel a lack and do I feelbad about something?
And am I yes, that's right am Iin a place of abundance, like I
(10:23):
feel oh, or do I feel like,like lacking, there is something
lacking.
When you're in that state oflacking, it's really difficult
for you to see the abundancethat's already around you.
It becomes so difficult becauseyour mind is concentrated.
You know it's like what yougive your mind is what your mind
will focus on.
So what you eat will, you know,reflect in how you feel exactly
(10:48):
.
So if you're always in the Idon't have that and I don't have
that and I wish I had that andI wish I was there, and you're
in this place of you knowlacking, you lack everything,
then you'll just look for morethings that you lack in.
You know you don't have thatpartner that gives you roses on
St Valentine's Day and you lackit.
(11:10):
What social media does as well,you know the anxiety it causes.
It makes you feel as if you'realone, that you're not connected
to other people Isolation,isolation, and that's another
cause of anxiety today, exactly.
Yes, you become more and moreisolated because you stop doing
things, because you think whatI'm, what I'm doing, isn't good
(11:30):
enough, so I'm not going tobother.
You know, I'm not even going togo and do things, go out or do
anything.
I've got nobody to go with.
Yeah, there's no.
Who am I going to go out with?
You know, I haven't got a wholegang here to start taking
pictures.
Yeah, having the perfect shotand at the perfect club and
doing all of this.
No, what am I doing?
I'm just at home and, you know,gonna invite a few friends
(11:52):
around.
That's boring, you know,everything just appears to be
like boring compared to all thethings which is so difficult,
like if you want to organize abirthday party and you haven't
got millions of balloons or amassive cake.
What's the point?
I mean, you've just had yourbirthday.
We had it at home, here withthis, just a family.
Yeah, just ordered.
I made the cake which, luckily,was very delicious and it
(12:17):
turned out really well.
But if it hadn't, who cares?
We would have still eaten it.
Even if there's many a pastbirthday cake that has come out
as hard as a rock, I can saylike 90% we just dip them in the
tea, yeah, and that's fine.
And the photo we have a biglaugh about it yeah, and that's
fine.
That's perfectly fine.
Why?
Because it's real, becauseyou're surrounded with real
(12:38):
people, real emotions, peoplethat love you and they're real.
And if you don't have that, youknow you, you find it, you can
find all the real people aroundyou.
But the more isolated you become, then it becomes harder.
So you've got to become awareof it.
It doesn't matter and there areso many if you are.
(12:59):
If you do feel isolated, youfeel as if you haven't got any
friends, or you haven't.
You know, start looking forthings to do.
You know there's so many placesthat have games, nights, or you
know you can join a communityof something, or there's so many
things.
There's walks for lonely people, there's your.
If you look, oh, there arewalks for lonely people.
Yeah, if you look at I'm lonelyand I want to go, I want to go
(13:21):
and do something, you'll saywhat can I do if I'm loaning?
You know you can look that up.
You can use social media foryour own advantage, for your own
advantage, for your benefit,for you to actually get
something from it.
Because when I go through myfeed, I'm always inspired.
Yeah, mine as well.
I put a smile on my face, I'minspired.
There's usually somebody eitherthey're doing like some kind of
(13:43):
exercise because I want tobecome more flexible and like
lately I've been suffering fromsciatica pain, so normally I
wrote that down and I get allthese lovely, you know,
exercises, make yourself moreflexible, or healthy eating, and
so I get ideas on how to cookthings which are really really
dirt easy.
And you know something easy forme to make?
(14:05):
Well, yeah, and I'm inspired bythat.
Yesterday I was inspired by whatyou told me about something
you'd seen on instagram.
It was how to make those littlecakes, those cakes that you
made with carrots, yeah, and egg.
She just grated that.
They were like high protein,like literally I found she was
the girl on Instagram wasgrating the carrots and she put
(14:26):
some cottage cheese or some kindof cheese in it and two eggs
and then she's like rolled itall out.
She didn't even roll it, shejust put it with a spoon on some
greaseproof paper and she putthem in the oven.
So I did my own version.
I opened the fridge and I saw Ihad lots of carrots.
Some of them were going a bitbad, so I peeled them, grated
them, put two eggs, put somesoft cheese I had in it and then
(14:51):
I just lumped them on thisgreaseproof, you know paper and
put them in the oven, put someparmigiano on the top and
actually they came out reallynice.
So that was inspiring andsomething healthy for me to eat.
Parmesan for those who speak oh, parmesan, I said it in italian
.
Okay, some parmesan cheese,because that's what I had in the
(15:11):
fridge.
If I didn't have that, I wouldhave just been flexible and got
any old piece of cheese I had.
Well, I was inspired by what youtold me, and yesterday for
lunch, when I was on my own, Ijust had an old salad that was
going.
It wasn't bad, but it was likepast its best, so it was all in
it.
I just put, lumped it in afrying pan with a tiny bit of
(15:32):
olive oil, yeah, salad, and thenI added two eggs to it and
that's what I had for lunch anda little bit of cheese, like
what you said.
Yeah, you put some, so itturned up like a bit of a like.
It was like a bit of a stir fry, yeah, because it was like a
mixed salad, exactly.
So there you go, and then I atethat, but that was inspiring to
you.
So it's not, but that wasinspired by you.
(15:53):
It was the second handinspiration from your Instagram
feed, yeah, so what I mean isthat make you feel good, how you
feel after, after watching, or,yeah, when you put your phone
down.
You know you've got to havemoments with no phone as well.
Yeah, and just be conscious ofthat.
(16:15):
Get inspired on your own.
Well, just go and do more thanyeah, scroll more than scroll.
Yeah, you have to do more thanscroll.
That's it, because thisconstant scrolling can keep you
so busy that your days pass byand you think what have I done?
Yeah, you know a lot of thetime.
You know how have I spent myfree time when I'm not working
(16:37):
or studying or doing somethingelse, how have I spent my free
time?
Yeah, you know.
I mean, this podcast is aboutmind health, and anxieties are
going to do something good foryour mind something that's
healthy and something that'sgoing to help you feel anxiety
free.
Yes, whatever that.
Yeah, whatever that is exactlyso, have a little think about it
(16:58):
and let us know, and please doshare with your friends and
family so you can help us grow.
And what were you going to say,youka?
What was I gonna say?
Are you putting me on the spotnow?
I don't know.
You said you said you wanted toask them to write to us.
Oh, yes, yes, yes, that's right.
If you do have any questions oranything you want us to talk
(17:21):
about, you know, definitelywrite to us, leave us a comment
and we'd love to.
You know, get inspired by you,by your needs as well, and we,
hopefully, will be able to giveyou some good ideas, some advice
, maybe from our lives thatwe've lived.
And you know, life, life's welltrodden.
Yeah, exactly, from life's welltrodden.
(17:45):
Yeah, lots of love from liveswell trodden, well said, let's
go and try some more.
Lots of love and smiles fromthe english sisters.
Bye.
Is social media killing your vibe?
Is social media making youanxious?
I think that's something we'vegot to become aware of, isn't it
, as it is the number one causeof anxiety today?
It is, and that's what we'regoing to be chatting about.
(00:20):
So stay tuned for this week'sepisode of get real with the
english sisters, and we're goingto give you three really easy
ways of stopping you becominganxious because of social media,
and the first, the first, yes,is what is the first?
(00:43):
Because I don't know, I can'tremember it.
The first is there's nothing toremember.
The first is that it's not real.
Yeah, there's nothing toremember.
The only thing that we have toremember is it's fake.
There's nothing to remember.
It's fake.
It's not a real life situation,it's just something that's being
staged, and a lot of time theyput filters on it and a lot of
(01:05):
time it's all.
Do you know what?
It made a really good pointthere, because I think in the
past, when we used to watchmovies and films, we would kind
of know they were movies andfilms and we knew it was there.
There was a stage.
Yeah, you know, they'd be likein hollywood, far removed lives,
yes, and so we did not expectthat.
I mean we might.
(01:26):
If you're watching a romanticcomedy, we might come out
feeling, oh romantic, and youget the vibe.
But you didn't actually expectto relive that exact situation.
Well, you didn't expect to haveto look like the female or the
male lead.
You would want to, you'dprobably want to aspire, you
might be inspired to, but youwouldn't expect you would think
(01:47):
that was far removed from yourreality.
Yes, that was I don't know thatfamous, you know actress or
actor, and that was it.
You know, you didn't expect Ihave to look like that.
No, no, that was a movie, or Ihave to behave like that.
That's like the, it's likealmost like a fairy tale.
It's a Cinderella.
Yes, it was like that, wasn'tit?
(02:07):
You'd all oh, lovely, beautiful, she's beautiful, he's
beautiful, but that was kind ofit.
Then you'd get back into yourreal life and know that that was
on the movie screen.
Yeah, but today and there wasno expectations of you to look
like that I mean, you'd getphotos taken of you with a
little tiny camera and and yousee them like three weeks later,
and you'd think, oh, that'sokay and you'd put it in an
(02:27):
album, but you wouldn't have toshow it to the whole world, and
it wasn't all the time photos,it was rarely you'd get a
picture taken and so life was.
It was different.
But nowadays we actually have,you know, cameras on us all the
time and so there's so muchpressure.
(02:48):
There is, you know, there's alot of pressure going around
when you always think you haveto look great, you know, camera
ready, as to say, the food youeat has to be camera ready,
everything has to be staged.
Your home, yes, your home, comeon, what about, you know, the
(03:09):
dirty socks in the corner there?
That's everyday life, you know,for most people it's not
perfect, you know, come on,we've got to realize that it's
fake.
Yeah, we have to realize thatthese are, you know, they're
normal people like us, butthey've got profiles and there's
, these profiles are staged andcurated a lot of the time,
(03:30):
especially if they're verypopular.
Yes, and even if they're notvery popular, if you are
following somebody that'sperhaps your own age, maybe they
put a lot of filters on that,you know, make sure and then
make a big effort to have allthe lights.
It is becoming something thatpeople are becoming aware of.
(03:55):
Yeah, I think, you know, there'sa part of everybody that knows
it's not real, but yet you stillaspire, you still want it, you
still think it is real.
There's a part of your brainthat's like tricked into
thinking it's real.
That's what's so toxic anddangerous.
Yes, you that, you're right.
Yeah, that is a toxic part ofit.
And how?
Because how many hours do wespend looking at those images?
Yes, on the phone.
(04:15):
Yes, they're conditioning ourbrains to think that is what my
home should look like, that'swhat my garden if you've got
home in a garden, if otherwise,if you're, uh, you know, that's
what I should look like yeah,which can become very, very
dangerous if you start thinkingI want to look like that person
there, like, like, look at her,she's so thin, or she's got this
(04:37):
hair and, whatever it is, youknow, hasn't got any wrinkles,
or oh, that can become extremelydangerous because you're
comparing yourself to somebodyelse and you're comparing
yourself to something that isnot real.
So how could you ever compare?
You can't, you can't, you can'tcompare to that, can you?
That's why it's so dangerous,yeah, and then I think also so
(05:02):
how do we stop this happening?
Well, stop spending so muchtime on your phone, that's the
first thing, and then startbeing a curator yourself.
So curate your feed.
Don't follow people that areshowing the perfect perfection
in in the way you know for, forif you want to follow someone,
follow a more normal person.
That's going to be, you know.
(05:23):
Show them.
It's going to inspire you.
It's going to inspire you andshow them themselves as they
really are, and I think more andmore people are appreciating
that today.
Yeah, they are.
That's a good.
That's a good, that's somethinggood that's coming.
You know that we're becomingmore aware, becoming more, I
think, more fed up and more likewe're realizing how anxious
we're actually becoming andwe're starting to fight back on
(05:46):
on that, thank goodness, andwe've got to become more and
more aware.
I think we have to be so carefulbecause there's so much stuff
out there as well that's just,it's.
It's also not true, it's fakeand it's not true.
There's so many influencersthat are going around spreading,
like all this, falseinformation, making you think
that that's that's how it reallyis and and it's.
(06:07):
It's not like that.
No, and it's and it's.
It is quite, very dangerous.
It's dangerous and it's quite.
You know, if you think you'regrowing up with this kind of you
know feed that's going intoyour brain.
It can be quite you know it.
It's tough and it causesanxiety because you're never
really going to look like that.
Oh, you will be like that, orhave that house or that room and
(06:29):
you have no control overlooking like that either.
There's no way in hell you'regoing to be able to look like
that Exactly Because it's notyou for a start.
You're a different person.
So why would you want to looklike that in the first place?
That's, that's.
That's a real question.
And and to become obsessed withthat can become, you know,
pretty, pretty pretty somethingwe've got to become aware of.
(06:50):
I think, if it's happening tous or if it's happening to the
people that we love around us,like if you're a parent, you've
definitely got to become awareof this.
You probably already it, butit's even more subtle sometimes
and you think, no, my, you know,my kids aren't affected by that
at all, but it's almostimpossible not to be affected by
it.
It is, it is, but it's.
(07:11):
It's something that we've gotto become aware of.
So we have to really keeptelling ourselves that it's not
real and that it's fake, andthat it's it's even though it
looks so real, because it justlike you know they're like
they're, they're probably thesame age as we are, and you know
we're following people the sameage, they've got the same like,
they've gone through the samestudies we have, maybe.
(07:32):
And then and then look, but look, look where they are, they're,
they're so far ahead.
You know they've got all thismoney or they've got all these
beautiful things and I haven'tgot it.
Why haven't I got it?
And then you start the.
You know so.
So don't compare.
I mean, that's the third thing.
Do not compare yourself.
It's harder, you know, it'sharder said than done, isn't it?
(07:54):
Because it's like what you said, it's so.
It appears to be so real and sosubtle.
Yeah, but we have to reallythink of it as like, like when
you stop drinking, I think Ihave to stop doing this.
Yeah, I think like, almost likean addiction.
You're saying it's like I haveto stop.
I have to like limit myself.
I'm not gonna.
I'm gonna curate my feed.
(08:14):
I'm gonna turn offnotifications.
I'm going to turn offnotifications.
I'm going to, you know, make areal effort.
Leave those people that make youfeel bad when you watch a reel
or you read a story or whatever.
You look through a story andyou find that it's actually
making you feel anxious and, youknow, making you feel like, you
(08:36):
know, I really want this thing.
You know, just say, okay, thisis someone that I'm not going to
follow anymore.
Exactly, yes, you can sort oftune in to the emotions that
they're bringing up.
Are they making you smile?
Are they making you feel goodabout yourself as well, relaxed?
Is it inspiring to you, but ina good way, yeah, you know
(08:58):
thinking, oh, yeah, that was agreat idea.
Actually I could try, you know,that, or baking that, or making
that, or something that'sinspiring to you.
Is this generally giving yousomething, or is it creepily,
taking away, cutting out bits ofyour own self-esteem day by day
(09:19):
, by day, without you realisingit?
You know that's a creepy part.
That's why it becomes so subtle.
It like sets in, you know, andstarts taking away until you do
what it wants you to do, whichis to buy, to purchase, to
become a victim of, you know,consuming whatever that feed
(09:42):
really wants you to do, which isto spend money in it.
Come on, ultimately, even a lotof these influencers they are
sponsoring things, yeah, and sosome of them aren't, and they
just, you know, they maybe gettheir money from something else
and they're not.
They might not be there, yeah,that might not be their
intention.
(10:02):
So you might think, oh, butthey're not.
The person I'm following isn'tdoing that.
But you have to think, yeah,but how's?
How is that person making mefeel like what you said?
Are they making me feel goodafter I watch them, or is?
Do I feel a lack and do I feelbad about something?
And am I yes, that's right am Iin a place of abundance, like I
(10:23):
feel oh, or do I feel like,like lacking, there is something
lacking.
When you're in that state oflacking, it's really difficult
for you to see the abundancethat's already around you.
It becomes so difficult becauseyour mind is concentrated.
You know it's like what yougive your mind is what your mind
will focus on.
So what you eat will, you know,reflect in how you feel exactly
(10:48):
.
So if you're always in the Idon't have that and I don't have
that and I wish I had that andI wish I was there, and you're
in this place of you knowlacking, you lack everything,
then you'll just look for morethings that you lack in.
You know you don't have thatpartner that gives you roses on
St Valentine's Day and you lackit.
(11:10):
What social media does as well,you know the anxiety it causes.
It makes you feel as if you'realone, that you're not connected
to other people Isolation,isolation, and that's another
cause of anxiety today, exactly.
Yes, you become more and moreisolated because you stop doing
things, because you think whatI'm, what I'm doing, isn't good
(11:30):
enough, so I'm not going tobother.
You know, I'm not even going togo and do things, go out or do
anything.
I've got nobody to go with.
Yeah, there's no.
Who am I going to go out with?
You know, I haven't got a wholegang here to start taking
pictures.
Yeah, having the perfect shotand at the perfect club and
doing all of this.
No, what am I doing?
I'm just at home and, you know,gonna invite a few friends
(11:52):
around.
That's boring, you know,everything just appears to be
like boring compared to all thethings which is so difficult,
like if you want to organize abirthday party and you haven't
got millions of balloons or amassive cake.
What's the point?
I mean, you've just had yourbirthday.
We had it at home, here withthis, just a family.
Yeah, just ordered.
I made the cake which, luckily,was very delicious and it
(12:17):
turned out really well.
But if it hadn't, who cares?
We would have still eaten it.
Even if there's many a pastbirthday cake that has come out
as hard as a rock, I can saylike 90% we just dip them in the
tea, yeah, and that's fine.
And the photo we have a biglaugh about it yeah, and that's
fine.
That's perfectly fine.
Why?
Because it's real, becauseyou're surrounded with real
(12:38):
people, real emotions, peoplethat love you and they're real.
And if you don't have that, youknow you, you find it, you can
find all the real people aroundyou.
But the more isolated you become, then it becomes harder.
So you've got to become awareof it.
It doesn't matter and there areso many if you are.
(12:59):
If you do feel isolated, youfeel as if you haven't got any
friends, or you haven't.
You know, start looking forthings to do.
You know there's so many placesthat have games, nights, or you
know you can join a communityof something, or there's so many
things.
There's walks for lonely people, there's your.
If you look, oh, there arewalks for lonely people.
Yeah, if you look at I'm lonelyand I want to go, I want to go
(13:21):
and do something, you'll saywhat can I do if I'm loaning?
You know you can look that up.
You can use social media foryour own advantage, for your own
advantage, for your benefit,for you to actually get
something from it.
Because when I go through myfeed, I'm always inspired.
Yeah, mine as well.
I put a smile on my face, I'minspired.
There's usually somebody eitherthey're doing like some kind of
(13:43):
exercise because I want tobecome more flexible and like
lately I've been suffering fromsciatica pain, so normally I
wrote that down and I get allthese lovely, you know,
exercises, make yourself moreflexible, or healthy eating, and
so I get ideas on how to cookthings which are really really
dirt easy.
And you know something easy forme to make?
(14:05):
Well, yeah, and I'm inspired bythat.
Yesterday I was inspired by whatyou told me about something
you'd seen on instagram.
It was how to make those littlecakes, those cakes that you
made with carrots, yeah, and egg.
She just grated that.
They were like high protein,like literally I found she was
the girl on Instagram wasgrating the carrots and she put
(14:26):
some cottage cheese or some kindof cheese in it and two eggs
and then she's like rolled itall out.
She didn't even roll it, shejust put it with a spoon on some
greaseproof paper and she putthem in the oven.
So I did my own version.
I opened the fridge and I saw Ihad lots of carrots.
Some of them were going a bitbad, so I peeled them, grated
them, put two eggs, put somesoft cheese I had in it and then
(14:51):
I just lumped them on thisgreaseproof, you know paper and
put them in the oven, put someparmigiano on the top and
actually they came out reallynice.
So that was inspiring andsomething healthy for me to eat.
Parmesan for those who speak oh, parmesan, I said it in italian
.
Okay, some parmesan cheese,because that's what I had in the
(15:11):
fridge.
If I didn't have that, I wouldhave just been flexible and got
any old piece of cheese I had.
Well, I was inspired by what youtold me, and yesterday for
lunch, when I was on my own, Ijust had an old salad that was
going.
It wasn't bad, but it was likepast its best, so it was all in
it.
I just put, lumped it in afrying pan with a tiny bit of
(15:32):
olive oil, yeah, salad, and thenI added two eggs to it and
that's what I had for lunch anda little bit of cheese, like
what you said.
Yeah, you put some, so itturned up like a bit of a like.
It was like a bit of a stir fry, yeah, because it was like a
mixed salad, exactly.
So there you go, and then I atethat, but that was inspiring to
you.
So it's not, but that wasinspired by you.
(15:53):
It was the second handinspiration from your Instagram
feed, yeah, so what I mean isthat make you feel good, how you
feel after, after watching, or,yeah, when you put your phone
down.
You know you've got to havemoments with no phone as well.
Yeah, and just be conscious ofthat.
(16:15):
Get inspired on your own.
Well, just go and do more thanyeah, scroll more than scroll.
Yeah, you have to do more thanscroll.
That's it, because thisconstant scrolling can keep you
so busy that your days pass byand you think what have I done?
Yeah, you know a lot of thetime.
You know how have I spent myfree time when I'm not working
(16:37):
or studying or doing somethingelse, how have I spent my free
time?
Yeah, you know.
I mean, this podcast is aboutmind health, and anxieties are
going to do something good foryour mind something that's
healthy and something that'sgoing to help you feel anxiety
free.
Yes, whatever that.
Yeah, whatever that is exactlyso, have a little think about it
(16:58):
and let us know, and please doshare with your friends and
family so you can help us grow.
And what were you going to say,youka?
What was I gonna say?
Are you putting me on the spotnow?
I don't know.
You said you said you wanted toask them to write to us.
Oh, yes, yes, yes, that's right.
If you do have any questions oranything you want us to talk
(17:21):
about, you know, definitelywrite to us, leave us a comment
and we'd love to.
You know, get inspired by you,by your needs as well, and we,
hopefully, will be able to giveyou some good ideas, some advice
, maybe from our lives thatwe've lived.
And you know, life, life's welltrodden.
Yeah, exactly, from life's welltrodden.
(17:45):
Yeah, lots of love from liveswell trodden, well said, let's
go and try some more.
Lots of love and smiles fromthe english sisters.
Bye.
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