January 22, 2025 • 15 mins
Your resting face conveys powerful messages about your emotional state, impacting both your well-being and the moods of those around you. By consciously managing our expressions and embracing genuine connection, we can transform our interactions and foster warmer relationships.
• Exploring the unconscious signals of facial expressions
• Impact of smiling on children and households
• Creating a friendly environment through body language
• The reciprocal nature of friendliness and connection
• The significance of eye contact in communication
• Using humor to strengthen interpersonal relationships
• Mindfulness in engagement for positive interactions
• Real-life examples showcasing the power of expressions
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What your resting face tells people around you
about you, about how you'refeeling.
Even when you might not evenrealise it, you know that you're
actually sending off all theseunconscious messages.
Yes, and they can either bereally like, oh, she's really
happy, or he's really happy,they're really happy, or oh no,
(00:23):
what a mood they're in.
Yeah, it can actually be socontagious as well, super
contagious.
Absolutely.
That's what we're going to betalking about in this week's
episode of get real with theEnglish sisters.
So, watch out, your face istelling a lot about you.
(00:44):
Ah, yes, absolutely.
When we realized this, it wasan epic moment that changed our
lives forever.
I like the way you say that itdid.
Actually, it't.
It Changed everything.
Absolutely.
We didn't really realise thatour faces had so much to say
(01:09):
about ourselves.
No, I don't think I realisedthat either.
I kind of just would go aroundmy you know everyday life.
At the time when we firstlearnt it, we had small young
children and I didn't reallyrealise how much.
Also, you know, the kids wereactually looking at me as well,
(01:30):
because I kind of just thought,yeah, they don't really, but no,
they look at every single thing.
You're all the microexpressions you have on your
face.
Children look at it, and butit's not only children, it
everybody.
But I do remember when I firststarted thinking about
especially about the childrenand I remember I was actually I
made the conscious choice ofactually having like a little
(01:54):
smile on my resting face while Iwas making these pancakes in
the morning for them to go toschool.
And I remember I turned aroundwith this little smile on my
face instead of just being in mynormal resting face, which was
quite probably tired andstressed, thinking god, rush,
rush, get them to school.
And I turned around and I sawmy little five-year-old
(02:16):
instantly beam with a massivesmile, and the other little
six-year-old as well.
I mean, they were both so small.
They were instantly happy and Ithought, goodness me, this is
amazing.
It wasn't like I was beaming,you know, laughing, I just had
just a little smile, like alittle smile like this.
If you're watching us onYouTube you can see it just like
(02:38):
, just like that, you know, justjust like made a conscious.
It wasn't a fake smile, was itlike a real smile kind of, but
really inside it wasmanufactured, it was conscious,
but it wasn't fake.
No, obviously, I mean maybe itwas a little bit fake because I
just started learning, but itwas still valid.
(02:59):
It was now.
But I think it was like a bitcheeky because you were thinking
what effect is this going tohave on them?
Well, probably, yeah, becauseapparently you can tell if it's
a fake smile.
People will not react to it.
Well, no, that's like the airhostess smile.
I was also an air hostess formany, many years and I know what
the air hostess said Hello,welcome on board.
(03:20):
Hello welcome on board.
I mean, if you say it,sometimes you say it with a real
, genuine, but other times, whenyou're really exhausted, you
know, I mean, I can remember.
I always trying to make a bitof an effort because I was
always kind of like consciousabout these things.
Obviously that's a profession Iended up in.
I wouldn't have ended up inthis profession otherwise, yes,
(03:41):
it was a service, it was uh, yes, but the of service, well, no,
to end up in the psychology kindof yeah, no, when I was an air
hostess, it wasn't.
You know, that was just andjust turned out to be an air
hostess forever.
Yeah, but it was still tellingyou a lot about people working
with people.
You learn so much, so much.
Goodness, yeah, it was amassive learning experience.
(04:04):
And to keep calm as well whenyou had irate passengers oh yes,
you know, weren't very happywith the service or what well,
you can certainly tell fromtheir resting faces whether they
were happy or not, that's forsure.
But apparently, people that, uh, the people that are liked the
most.
I was listening to a podcast andit was saying that the people
that are like this expert wassaying, the people that are like
(04:27):
the most are the ones that likepeople the most.
So if you like people, you'regoing to be liked.
Well, yeah, that kind of makessense, doesn't it?
I mean, obviously, if you youdon't like obvious, but you
might not when you're goingabout your daily lives, you
might not actually realize howmuch your body language is
affecting the people around you,whereas if you show an interest
(04:50):
in people and you really likethem, they're gonna like you
back.
Well, you mean, if you like, ifyou're not like closed off,
like you enter a room where,whatever it is, and you're not
like closed off in your ownthoughts, but you're, you kind
of look around and have a littlesmile here and there obviously
acknowledge people around you.
(05:10):
Yeah, it's that famousunconscious hello, isn't it that
we learned?
Yeah, that we learned thatyears ago from Barbara Stepp and
her wonderful husband?
Yes, yes, and that is so true.
That's also like an unconscious, unconsciously you're sending
off that vibe, that you'resaying hello, I'm open to
(05:30):
listening to you.
Yeah, you're like giving off.
You know you could say friendlyvibe nowadays.
You know, just say you'regiving off a friendly, friendly.
That's a bit of a tonguetwister friendly vibe, friendly
vibe.
I can't say that now.
Yeah, you're giving that offand I think that's what.
(05:52):
But what if you don't feel likegiving that off?
You know well, you don't feellike it.
You won't get friendly vibesback exactly.
So sometimes I think it may beit may be more worth your effort
to make an effort to to befriendly than than not be
friendly, because that if you'regoing to go into a meeting and
you're completely closed off,you might as well not have gone.
(06:12):
Well, yeah, yeah, you'll bewasting everyone's time and your
own in the end.
Yeah, I know you have to,sometimes you have to.
But why not go with theattitude, with a good attitude,
and say look, I know I can't bebothered with this meeting or
whatever, but I'm going to makethe most out of it and you might
actually learn something, and,well, something might actually
be beneficial to you, or youmight form a new connection with
(06:34):
someone that's going to behelpful to you in the future.
And so, what is this restingface, then, that we have to sort
of put a little smile on?
Well, yeah, have this littlesmile, that sort of creeps up.
Sure, because some people wehave, we have resting faces, and
I think as we get older, ourmouths tend to, you know, they
droop down, don't they?
Not only as you get older, Ithink in any age.
(06:57):
Yeah, but I think when you'reyounger you tend to have more
puffy cheeks.
Oh right, your face doesn'tseem to.
I remember mum's face when shegot older, especially after she
had a few strokes.
She used to look so miserable.
She did look really miserable,yeah, but whenever I used to see
her, it used to put me likeinto a mood of sadness or I
would feel upset, whereas ifshe'd had a little smile,
(07:19):
obviously she'd had a stroke,though I mean to be fair, yeah,
but even before the stroke, shedid tend to do that.
Yeah, she did, because she didtend to have that face that she
wasn't making an effort to.
She didn't really know about it.
No, she didn't know about it,and she wasn't making an effort
to try and be smiley no, shewasn't.
(07:41):
I mean, I think it's reallyimportant to make that effort
with people that you know, notonly about meetings and things
when you obviously need it foryour benefit, but also in the
family environment.
I really do think it's crucial.
You don't know how important itactually is.
Even like the moment you entera room, like when you you come
home from work, you've got otherpeople looking at you, other
people that you're, you know,you've chosen to live with and
(08:03):
you know your face immediatelysends off vibes, doesn't it?
You know, yeah, and sometimes Ithink we do tend to make more
of an effort with people wedon't know, whereas with the
people we do know and the peoplewe love the most, we tend to
make the least effort.
And it's okay to have.
It's okay, yeah, because youknow you don't always have to be
(08:23):
, you know, but it's.
It's also nice to make theeffort to be just in the present
moment and just say hello andjust acknowledge, and then you
can say, oh, I'm really tired,darling, or whatever.
Yes, but it starts off with a,with a nice, warm welcome.
Yes, it does without like justthrowing all your your stress
(08:46):
and anxiety onto the otherperson and shouting at them
maybe, or being really which isvery common say, oh, it was hell
, I had a horrible day at workand there was traffic and
everything's gone wrong.
And you know, you think,goodness me, the other person
can become overwhelmed, yeah,and then you know, and then what
(09:09):
happens is, instead of theother person being able to
comfort you, they have some kindof resentment because they get,
like this anxiety off you andthis stress and this like that
they, they don't know how todeal with it, so that it makes
them stressed out.
Yeah, it's so fundamental tolearn how to communicate.
But you can communicate thesethings, you know, as you meet
(09:32):
the person.
But you can still have thatkind of not super grumpy look on
your face.
You know it can be.
Oh, yes, it was an awful day.
But you can.
You know you can.
You can have a try and look atthe light side of life as well.
You can have a little chuckleabout it and say, yeah, it was
awful, but this happened.
(09:53):
Try and look for the funny sidein life and I think that'll
help you as well.
Yes, definitely that will helpyou, won't it?
Well, yeah, if you start seeingother human beings as humorous,
as humorous and, as you know,kind of, each one of us has our
funny little quirks in the end,and you know, no matter who they
(10:13):
are.
The other day I was in a bankmeeting and I suddenly saw the
bank director.
He looked hilarious because hestarted scratching his head
meeting.
And I suddenly saw the bankdirector.
He looked hilarious becausehe's like squashing his head.
You know, I was noticing allthese unconscious cues he was
giving off, like really tryingto find a solution, but it was.
It almost looked like a, I mean, comic, comical.
Yes, he's, he's.
You know, yes, that's it, he'sjust, thank you, it almost
(10:39):
looked.
Yeah, it was comical, and I,and I was, you know, in the end
I had this little smile on myface and he looked delighted to
see that, the jolliness.
I wasn't laughing at him at allbecause he was a lovely person,
but I was just noticing certainhumorous aspects of his behavior
and we've all got them.
We've all got them, you know,like we, sometimes we looked our
(11:01):
fun, we have funny expressionson our faces and they're aren't,
they're really like you know,they can be really quite bizarre
and and you can enjoy them aswell I do, you and we enjoy them
.
But but, yes, it's important, Ithink, to to learn to see the
(11:22):
humorous side, that's it and tolearn to look into people's eyes
as well and learn tocommunicate effectively, like by
really giving people yourattention.
The simplest thing aboutcommunicating effectively is
just giving people the time ofday, yes, just listening to them
and just being there with themin the moment and, can you know,
(11:42):
considering their feelings andjust and people.
The amazing thing is thatpeople will actually respond
very, very positively to that.
Very well, because they willfeel that there's real, genuine
interest and connection thereand they won't, they won't,
they'll be like, they'll almostbe like, yeah, disarmed.
(12:02):
They'll think, oh, what'shappened?
You know something I can.
I mean the other day I we're alovely person.
Today I was taking my son for avisit, a medical visit, and in
the end my son popped out aminute and and the doctor
obviously I'd given him all youknow lovely vibes and
unconscious hello and everythingand he started telling me about
(12:24):
his situation, his medicalsituation, and saying, oh, I
don't know why I'm telling youall of this.
But you know, I also have asimilar problem blah, blah, blah
, and he went on and on and Iwas giving him eye contact.
He could see he was connectingand I was thinking, isn't this
lovely?
You were actually connecting ona human level.
(12:45):
It's not just a medical,sterile environment.
He's actually sharing somethingthat could be of help also to
my son, because it was kind ofrelated and that.
But it was really really sweetand I thought this is because of
the way I said hello at thebeginning, the way I
acknowledged him as a humanbeing, not just as a doctor, get
(13:06):
on with it, sort of thing.
Yeah, check me out and off, I'mon my way.
I just want to get thatclinical record.
No, it was more than that.
There was a human being thereand he was being a knowledge.
I think sometimes we might be sostressed in our own lives that
we tend to forget that.
But if you do look around andlook at the people that are
(13:27):
helping you, whatever that youthe servers, the restaurant or
people in the back, you know andyou kind of look at them,
really it's different.
You'll get a different.
You will notice a massivedifference in your life.
You will and it'll be.
It'll be a.
It'll be life changing.
It will be life changing.
It'll generally change yourlife if you start doing it.
(13:49):
Yes, it does.
It did us.
It just opens up a new world.
It's almost like if you haven'tseen life before.
It's like it's suddenly amulti-color.
You notice so many things downin your own mind.
Yeah, you can't actually seeoutside and and express yourself
with other people and and sharethe love.
Share the love.
It is like having a superpoweronce you learn how to attune to
(14:13):
it.
Because if I think about thatdoctor's face, I can still
remember the shape of hiseyebrows, the whole shape of the
face.
I mean, there are, there areparticular details I can still
remember now.
So I was really focusing intothat person and I know that
obviously I'm a hypnotherapist.
You know we're hypnotherapists,but it's easy for you to learn
(14:36):
how to do it as well, like, givethat more mindful of them.
Yeah, that's it.
Just be mindful, then you'llnotice the person that you know
gets your ticket at the trainstation, if you, if you still
have somebody that actuallyvalidates tickets.
It's so cute.
It's unusual.
Now, it is unusual.
Yeah, there are machines, butsometimes that's why it's almost
more important.
(14:56):
Yes, the human connection we doget is fundamental.
It's really healing for us aswell when you actually look into
somebody else's eyes and getthat connection.
It's important, but it's reallyimportant to do it as well with
our loved ones.
It is.
So let us know what you think.
Are you going to try this, ordo you do this already?
Many of you probably alreadyknow about this and do it on a
(15:19):
regular basis, but maybe some ofyou are struggling and you're
struggling to make friends orform good connections at work.
If you try this, you'll noticehow things will turn around for
you.
Let us know.
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(15:39):
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Absolutely Lots of love andsmiles from the English Sisters.
Bye.
What your resting face tells people around you
about you, about how you'refeeling.
Even when you might not evenrealise it, you know that you're
actually sending off all theseunconscious messages.
Yes, and they can either bereally like, oh, she's really
happy, or he's really happy,they're really happy, or oh no,
(00:23):
what a mood they're in.
Yeah, it can actually be socontagious as well, super
contagious.
Absolutely.
That's what we're going to betalking about in this week's
episode of get real with theEnglish sisters.
So, watch out, your face istelling a lot about you.
(00:44):
Ah, yes, absolutely.
When we realized this, it wasan epic moment that changed our
lives forever.
I like the way you say that itdid.
Actually, it't.
It Changed everything.
Absolutely.
We didn't really realise thatour faces had so much to say
(01:09):
about ourselves.
No, I don't think I realisedthat either.
I kind of just would go aroundmy you know everyday life.
At the time when we firstlearnt it, we had small young
children and I didn't reallyrealise how much.
Also, you know, the kids wereactually looking at me as well,
(01:30):
because I kind of just thought,yeah, they don't really, but no,
they look at every single thing.
You're all the microexpressions you have on your
face.
Children look at it, and butit's not only children, it
everybody.
But I do remember when I firststarted thinking about
especially about the childrenand I remember I was actually I
made the conscious choice ofactually having like a little
(01:54):
smile on my resting face while Iwas making these pancakes in
the morning for them to go toschool.
And I remember I turned aroundwith this little smile on my
face instead of just being in mynormal resting face, which was
quite probably tired andstressed, thinking god, rush,
rush, get them to school.
And I turned around and I sawmy little five-year-old
(02:16):
instantly beam with a massivesmile, and the other little
six-year-old as well.
I mean, they were both so small.
They were instantly happy and Ithought, goodness me, this is
amazing.
It wasn't like I was beaming,you know, laughing, I just had
just a little smile, like alittle smile like this.
If you're watching us onYouTube you can see it just like
(02:38):
, just like that, you know, justjust like made a conscious.
It wasn't a fake smile, was itlike a real smile kind of, but
really inside it wasmanufactured, it was conscious,
but it wasn't fake.
No, obviously, I mean maybe itwas a little bit fake because I
just started learning, but itwas still valid.
(02:59):
It was now.
But I think it was like a bitcheeky because you were thinking
what effect is this going tohave on them?
Well, probably, yeah, becauseapparently you can tell if it's
a fake smile.
People will not react to it.
Well, no, that's like the airhostess smile.
I was also an air hostess formany, many years and I know what
the air hostess said Hello,welcome on board.
(03:20):
Hello welcome on board.
I mean, if you say it,sometimes you say it with a real
, genuine, but other times, whenyou're really exhausted, you
know, I mean, I can remember.
I always trying to make a bitof an effort because I was
always kind of like consciousabout these things.
Obviously that's a profession Iended up in.
I wouldn't have ended up inthis profession otherwise, yes,
(03:41):
it was a service, it was uh, yes, but the of service, well, no,
to end up in the psychology kindof yeah, no, when I was an air
hostess, it wasn't.
You know, that was just andjust turned out to be an air
hostess forever.
Yeah, but it was still tellingyou a lot about people working
with people.
You learn so much, so much.
Goodness, yeah, it was amassive learning experience.
(04:04):
And to keep calm as well whenyou had irate passengers oh yes,
you know, weren't very happywith the service or what well,
you can certainly tell fromtheir resting faces whether they
were happy or not, that's forsure.
But apparently, people that, uh, the people that are liked the
most.
I was listening to a podcast andit was saying that the people
that are like this expert wassaying, the people that are like
(04:27):
the most are the ones that likepeople the most.
So if you like people, you'regoing to be liked.
Well, yeah, that kind of makessense, doesn't it?
I mean, obviously, if you youdon't like obvious, but you
might not when you're goingabout your daily lives, you
might not actually realize howmuch your body language is
affecting the people around you,whereas if you show an interest
(04:50):
in people and you really likethem, they're gonna like you
back.
Well, you mean, if you like, ifyou're not like closed off,
like you enter a room where,whatever it is, and you're not
like closed off in your ownthoughts, but you're, you kind
of look around and have a littlesmile here and there obviously
acknowledge people around you.
(05:10):
Yeah, it's that famousunconscious hello, isn't it that
we learned?
Yeah, that we learned thatyears ago from Barbara Stepp and
her wonderful husband?
Yes, yes, and that is so true.
That's also like an unconscious, unconsciously you're sending
off that vibe, that you'resaying hello, I'm open to
(05:30):
listening to you.
Yeah, you're like giving off.
You know you could say friendlyvibe nowadays.
You know, just say you'regiving off a friendly, friendly.
That's a bit of a tonguetwister friendly vibe, friendly
vibe.
I can't say that now.
Yeah, you're giving that offand I think that's what.
(05:52):
But what if you don't feel likegiving that off?
You know well, you don't feellike it.
You won't get friendly vibesback exactly.
So sometimes I think it may beit may be more worth your effort
to make an effort to to befriendly than than not be
friendly, because that if you'regoing to go into a meeting and
you're completely closed off,you might as well not have gone.
(06:12):
Well, yeah, yeah, you'll bewasting everyone's time and your
own in the end.
Yeah, I know you have to,sometimes you have to.
But why not go with theattitude, with a good attitude,
and say look, I know I can't bebothered with this meeting or
whatever, but I'm going to makethe most out of it and you might
actually learn something, and,well, something might actually
be beneficial to you, or youmight form a new connection with
(06:34):
someone that's going to behelpful to you in the future.
And so, what is this restingface, then, that we have to sort
of put a little smile on?
Well, yeah, have this littlesmile, that sort of creeps up.
Sure, because some people wehave, we have resting faces, and
I think as we get older, ourmouths tend to, you know, they
droop down, don't they?
Not only as you get older, Ithink in any age.
(06:57):
Yeah, but I think when you'reyounger you tend to have more
puffy cheeks.
Oh right, your face doesn'tseem to.
I remember mum's face when shegot older, especially after she
had a few strokes.
She used to look so miserable.
She did look really miserable,yeah, but whenever I used to see
her, it used to put me likeinto a mood of sadness or I
would feel upset, whereas ifshe'd had a little smile,
(07:19):
obviously she'd had a stroke,though I mean to be fair, yeah,
but even before the stroke, shedid tend to do that.
Yeah, she did, because she didtend to have that face that she
wasn't making an effort to.
She didn't really know about it.
No, she didn't know about it,and she wasn't making an effort
to try and be smiley no, shewasn't.
(07:41):
I mean, I think it's reallyimportant to make that effort
with people that you know, notonly about meetings and things
when you obviously need it foryour benefit, but also in the
family environment.
I really do think it's crucial.
You don't know how important itactually is.
Even like the moment you entera room, like when you you come
home from work, you've got otherpeople looking at you, other
people that you're, you know,you've chosen to live with and
(08:03):
you know your face immediatelysends off vibes, doesn't it?
You know, yeah, and sometimes Ithink we do tend to make more
of an effort with people wedon't know, whereas with the
people we do know and the peoplewe love the most, we tend to
make the least effort.
And it's okay to have.
It's okay, yeah, because youknow you don't always have to be
(08:23):
, you know, but it's.
It's also nice to make theeffort to be just in the present
moment and just say hello andjust acknowledge, and then you
can say, oh, I'm really tired,darling, or whatever.
Yes, but it starts off with a,with a nice, warm welcome.
Yes, it does without like justthrowing all your your stress
(08:46):
and anxiety onto the otherperson and shouting at them
maybe, or being really which isvery common say, oh, it was hell
, I had a horrible day at workand there was traffic and
everything's gone wrong.
And you know, you think,goodness me, the other person
can become overwhelmed, yeah,and then you know, and then what
(09:09):
happens is, instead of theother person being able to
comfort you, they have some kindof resentment because they get,
like this anxiety off you andthis stress and this like that
they, they don't know how todeal with it, so that it makes
them stressed out.
Yeah, it's so fundamental tolearn how to communicate.
But you can communicate thesethings, you know, as you meet
(09:32):
the person.
But you can still have thatkind of not super grumpy look on
your face.
You know it can be.
Oh, yes, it was an awful day.
But you can.
You know you can.
You can have a try and look atthe light side of life as well.
You can have a little chuckleabout it and say, yeah, it was
awful, but this happened.
(09:53):
Try and look for the funny sidein life and I think that'll
help you as well.
Yes, definitely that will helpyou, won't it?
Well, yeah, if you start seeingother human beings as humorous,
as humorous and, as you know,kind of, each one of us has our
funny little quirks in the end,and you know, no matter who they
(10:13):
are.
The other day I was in a bankmeeting and I suddenly saw the
bank director.
He looked hilarious because hestarted scratching his head
meeting.
And I suddenly saw the bankdirector.
He looked hilarious becausehe's like squashing his head.
You know, I was noticing allthese unconscious cues he was
giving off, like really tryingto find a solution, but it was.
It almost looked like a, I mean, comic, comical.
Yes, he's, he's.
You know, yes, that's it, he'sjust, thank you, it almost
(10:39):
looked.
Yeah, it was comical, and I,and I was, you know, in the end
I had this little smile on myface and he looked delighted to
see that, the jolliness.
I wasn't laughing at him at allbecause he was a lovely person,
but I was just noticing certainhumorous aspects of his behavior
and we've all got them.
We've all got them, you know,like we, sometimes we looked our
(11:01):
fun, we have funny expressionson our faces and they're aren't,
they're really like you know,they can be really quite bizarre
and and you can enjoy them aswell I do, you and we enjoy them
.
But but, yes, it's important, Ithink, to to learn to see the
(11:22):
humorous side, that's it and tolearn to look into people's eyes
as well and learn tocommunicate effectively, like by
really giving people yourattention.
The simplest thing aboutcommunicating effectively is
just giving people the time ofday, yes, just listening to them
and just being there with themin the moment and, can you know,
(11:42):
considering their feelings andjust and people.
The amazing thing is thatpeople will actually respond
very, very positively to that.
Very well, because they willfeel that there's real, genuine
interest and connection thereand they won't, they won't,
they'll be like, they'll almostbe like, yeah, disarmed.
(12:02):
They'll think, oh, what'shappened?
You know something I can.
I mean the other day I we're alovely person.
Today I was taking my son for avisit, a medical visit, and in
the end my son popped out aminute and and the doctor
obviously I'd given him all youknow lovely vibes and
unconscious hello and everythingand he started telling me about
(12:24):
his situation, his medicalsituation, and saying, oh, I
don't know why I'm telling youall of this.
But you know, I also have asimilar problem blah, blah, blah
, and he went on and on and Iwas giving him eye contact.
He could see he was connectingand I was thinking, isn't this
lovely?
You were actually connecting ona human level.
(12:45):
It's not just a medical,sterile environment.
He's actually sharing somethingthat could be of help also to
my son, because it was kind ofrelated and that.
But it was really really sweetand I thought this is because of
the way I said hello at thebeginning, the way I
acknowledged him as a humanbeing, not just as a doctor, get
(13:06):
on with it, sort of thing.
Yeah, check me out and off, I'mon my way.
I just want to get thatclinical record.
No, it was more than that.
There was a human being thereand he was being a knowledge.
I think sometimes we might be sostressed in our own lives that
we tend to forget that.
But if you do look around andlook at the people that are
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helping you, whatever that youthe servers, the restaurant or
people in the back, you know andyou kind of look at them,
really it's different.
You'll get a different.
You will notice a massivedifference in your life.
You will and it'll be.
It'll be a.
It'll be life changing.
It will be life changing.
It'll generally change yourlife if you start doing it.
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Yes, it does.
It did us.
It just opens up a new world.
It's almost like if you haven'tseen life before.
It's like it's suddenly amulti-color.
You notice so many things downin your own mind.
Yeah, you can't actually seeoutside and and express yourself
with other people and and sharethe love.
Share the love.
It is like having a superpoweronce you learn how to attune to
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it.
Because if I think about thatdoctor's face, I can still
remember the shape of hiseyebrows, the whole shape of the
face.
I mean, there are, there areparticular details I can still
remember now.
So I was really focusing intothat person and I know that
obviously I'm a hypnotherapist.
You know we're hypnotherapists,but it's easy for you to learn
(14:36):
how to do it as well, like, givethat more mindful of them.
Yeah, that's it.
Just be mindful, then you'llnotice the person that you know
gets your ticket at the trainstation, if you, if you still
have somebody that actuallyvalidates tickets.
It's so cute.
It's unusual.
Now, it is unusual.
Yeah, there are machines, butsometimes that's why it's almost
more important.
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Yes, the human connection we doget is fundamental.
It's really healing for us aswell when you actually look into
somebody else's eyes and getthat connection.
It's important, but it's reallyimportant to do it as well with
our loved ones.
It is.
So let us know what you think.
Are you going to try this, ordo you do this already?
Many of you probably alreadyknow about this and do it on a
(15:19):
regular basis, but maybe some ofyou are struggling and you're
struggling to make friends orform good connections at work.
If you try this, you'll noticehow things will turn around for
you.
Let us know.
Please do message us on ourpodcast.
There's a little message thatsays message us, text us, send
us a text.
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And also, please do come andgive us a review on Apple
Podcasts or wherever you getyour podcasts, and you can come
and see our facial expressionson YouTube too, if you like.
Absolutely Lots of love andsmiles from the English Sisters.
Bye.
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