Transforming Challenges: The Power of Positive Perspective and Simple Joys

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Ever wondered how a simple change in perspective can transform everyday challenges into opportunities for growth? Tune in as we unravel the magic of reframing your thoughts and language, turning tasks like attending a party or delivering a speech from anxiety-inducing events into exciting adventures. We share personal stories of how these mindset shifts have redefined our routines, including the transformative power of viewing a trip to the supermarket as a privilege rather than a chore. Discover how music can be your secret weapon for a quick mood boost, and learn how gratitude, especially in a post-pandemic world, can reshape your daily experiences.

As the holiday season approaches, we celebrate the beauty found in everyday moments and connections. Hear how engaging with family, particularly the elderly, can offer profound insights and strengthen our bonds, reminding us of life's fleeting nature. We explore the importance of cherishing these interactions and highlight the simple joys that enhance our well-being, like savoring a cozy evening with hot chocolate. Join us in embracing the power of positive self-talk and gratitude to enrich our lives and create memories that last beyond the festive season.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What if you don't want to do something and you
really can't be bothered andit's really annoying you.
What can you do about it?
But you know you have to do it.
Well, I suppose you know what Ido in these circumstances is
that I kind of try and changethe way I'm looking at it and
also change the words that I'musing to describe it.

(00:23):
So say, like it's a party, it'sa, it's a party I don't want to
go to and in my head I'm sayingit's going to be really boring.
I know that I'm not going toenjoy myself.
I'm going to try and changethose words that I say to myself
yeah, and you can do it, and ina few different ways, and we're

(00:44):
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(01:05):
Do you know what I do as well?
Sometimes, if I'm not in themood, I put a good, good song on
.
A song can definitely helpchange your mood.
Yeah, super fast.
Yeah, put some music on reallywell, yeah, if you want to, if
you want to.
If I'd say, if I don't reallyfeel like going to a party,
because it's got like roundwhere it's normally, I don't go
out coochie coochie time, yeah,and I'm normally like wanting to

(01:27):
cuddle up in front of the fireyeah, well, I put some music on
and then I'll start putting mymakeup on and then I'll reframe
it and think I'm gonna probablygonna reframing it.
It's thinking about it in adifferent, different way, with a
different perspective.
It's like you've got an oldpicture or an old painting and
you're going to change yourframe around it.

(01:48):
It's going to change the waythe painting looks, doesn't it?
Well, yeah, won't it?
It will?
Yeah, definitely.
Yeah, I did that recently.
I had some photos that I like,but I didn't like the frame, so
I put some beautiful colouredframes on them.
Yeah, and it does make it looklike now I want to, because
before I had them stuck in thecupboard.
Now you want to look at them.
So there you go.

(02:09):
Yeah, it's true.
Yeah, you can, I, I did that aswell.
I had an old one of the thechildren, my children's photo,
and it was.
I mean, obviously it's as sweetas anything.
But then I put this lovely newvelvet like light blue frame
that matches the living room andI thought, thought, oh, it
looks really nice now.
So, yeah, I guess we can sortof understand it that way.

(02:31):
Reframing is a very usefultechnique, isn't it?
And anything in life it is.
It is useful, it's yeah, it'schanged our lives, changed our
lives.
It really did, because we werejust, especially when we first
learned about reframing, wewould just reframe everything.
I don't want to go to thesupermarket.

(02:51):
Oh, I do want to go to thesupermarket and think how lucky
I am.
I have all the money that Ineed to buy what I need to buy
at the supermarket, exactly,yeah, well, think how lucky I am
that the supermarket, uh,shelves are stocked.
And then that puts everythingin a different perspective.
Instead of thinking I can't bebothered to go to the
supermarket now, what a drag,you think you.

(03:13):
You look at it in a differentway.
How lucky am I that I can go tothe supermarket?
Or, especially after thepandemic, how lucky are we that
we can go now and the shelvesare stocked?
The shelves are stocked and wedon't have to wait.
I still think that sometimesafter that I know it's been a
long time, but we still haveyeah, I still got this like yeah
, I still think, oh, thankgoodness it's so packed to the

(03:34):
supermarket and I can I can haveaccess to all these different
things and foods and we're notgoing to talk about toilet paper
.
That was like one main drama,especially around this time of
year, that it comes up to thistime of year when a couple of
years ago, a few years back,quite a few now but we couldn't

(03:55):
be together and you couldn't getin the car and you couldn't
drive everything.
Just when you can't havesomething and then you have it
again, it just changes the wholeperspective.
It really does.
Yeah, it makes you feel so muchgratitude.
Absolutely, we couldn't do somany things that we can do now,

(04:30):
or like even a speech at work.
You know, sometimes you've justgot to stand up and you're
feeling really nervous aboutpresenting your work that you've
done.
And you know you can thinkabout it in this way Think, am I
nervous or am I excited?
And that's helped me a lot aswell, because whenever I used to
think, god, I'm so nervousabout this, you know, I'm

(04:52):
literally so nervous, I wouldsay say, no, you're really, what
you really are is excited.
You're very excited about this,and it's a way to sort of like
auto suggest yes to yourselfthat you're excited and then in
the end you are excited.
Well, you're probably lookingforward to getting it over.
Yeah, well, like as with publictalking, I've always been very

(05:16):
public speaking.
I've always been very, verynervous about that and, um, it
helped me with that.
I used to think I'm so excitedto do this.
Make this presentation.
Yes, it does help.
It does help.
Yeah, what are you looking atme like that?
No, because it does help of itdoes it's reframing it and using
a different word, because thewords we use, the language we

(05:39):
use, affects how we feel, whichseems, I mean, we only learned
this like 15 years ago orwhatever.
Yeah, the power of words.
We didn't realize that wordsyou use every day and use to
yourself or you use in youreveryday vocabulary they affect
how you're going feel, so muchso.
So if you say it's gonna be ayou know day, or it's gonna be a

(06:03):
beautiful day, or it's gonna bean f day, or whatever it's
gonna, it's gonna affect howyou're gonna feel that day.
So it will.
It's like you.
You're like hypnotizingyourself from the moment you
begin that day.
You know, instead of looking forsome small moments of joy
throughout that day, what you'redoing is you're just noticing

(06:25):
all the horrible things that youset yourself up for.
That you, I don't know.
You do, I do, I know this is tobe true, that's for sure, it is
to be true.
I know, if you've got to go anddo something you really don't
want to do and if you say, okay,I've got to do this, it might
last for maybe maximum 30minutes, then I can.

(06:47):
It's just one part of my day.
Then I can look at the rest ofthe day and notice, nice, yeah,
and things that give me joy, andthe holidays as well, the
holiday season, when you'rethinking, oh no, I've got to go
to all these things and I don'twant to go and see all my
relatives, and oh, what a drag.
And uncle so-and-so is going tobe moaning, moaning I've had

(07:09):
too much to drink and he's goingto be saying weird things.
You know, you can just think,oh well, you know, never mind,
I'm going to try and find thepositives in this and you will
always find one positive atleast there will always be
something you'll be grateful for, maybe even be grateful that
you, you have people that youcan go to.
Exactly, yeah, because even ifthey're not your favorite people

(07:33):
, they're still people that youcan connect to and that'll be
there for you, maybe when youneed them as well.
Yes, so true, and the moaninguncle.
One day he might not be thereanymore and you'll notice the
absence and you'll think, hey,wasn't that bad.
Exactly because this is whathappens.

(07:53):
This is life.
Life is we come and we go, andyou notice people and then
they're not there anymore andyou think, oh, you know, I wish
I'd had a bit more of a chatwith so-and-so, or.
You know, time goes bysometimes when people can be
really boring as well.
If you actually ask themquestions, maybe try and find
out about their past somethingthat interests in them.
Say, someone that's you know abit more elderly, perhaps, yeah,
they might have.

(08:13):
If you actually ask themquestions, maybe try and find
out about their past, somethingthat interests them.
So, someone that's you know abit more elderly, they might
have some amazing stories totell you and if you, you know,
they can really open up.
Yeah, they can open up yourmind.
So if you go, if you, insteadof just saying whatever, if you
sit down with them and you havea conversation with them, you

(08:34):
can actually enrich you enrichyour life too.
Yes, so much.
So that is really true.
It is.
Today is a beautiful day, that'swhat I can say.
And when it's not a beautifulday, when it's cold and excuse
me, when it's cold and whatever,you can still make the most of

(08:57):
it.
You can have hot chocolateinside and cosy up.
If you're fortunate enough, youcan remember that the words
that you say to yourself arefundamental.
They are.
Well, I'm sure you're very busy, so we're going to leave you,
get on with your festivities andsending you lots of love and

(09:19):
smiles from the English Sisters.