Here Comes Sunshine with Sarah Valentine

A follower recently asked a powerful question:
“How do I get back to the man I used to be?”

In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I’m speaking directly to the men who feel like life, work, family, or relationships have slowly chipped away at their confidence, leaving them wondering where that vibrant, capable, confident guy went.

We’re diving into why you feel this way (spoiler: you’re not broken), how small, consistent steps ca...

“How am I doing?”—you asked, and here’s Part 2 of my answer.

In this episode, I open up about falling off the wagon after visiting my parents in Florida, who were facing health struggles. It shook me, and I’m permitting myself to be real about that. But I’ve also found peace with where I’m at—and joy in the messiness of getting back up.

This is for anyone who’s been carrying heaviness, trying to do their best, and still showing up fo...

You asked, “How are you doing?” And I’m answering… with a little ramble, a lot of honesty, and maybe a few mentions of ravens, train whistles, and the wild joy of wind through the trees.

In this first part of a two-part heart-to-heart, I’m reflecting on what it means to hold onto beauty and presence in an uncertain world.

Between the doomscrolling and the headlines, there are still moments of peace, connection, and unexpected deligh...

When one partner’s sex drive slows down, how do you lovingly reignite the spark without pressure or resentment? In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I’m answering a heartfelt question from a follower about mismatched desire in long-term relationships. As a woman in my 50s—and someone who coaches men and couples through this exact issue—I’m sharing why so many women become less sexually responsive over time, what health and hormo...

I am answering YOUR questions, thanks for asking!

Being stuck in a sexless marriage is frustrating, lonely, and can shake your confidence to the core. Many men turn to porn as an easy outlet, but is that the best long-term solution?

In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I’m answering a follower’s question about mindful and healthy ways to engage with self-pleasure—without relying on porn.

We’ll dive into:✔️ The real reason your mar...

Spring is the season of renewal, growth, and fresh starts—so why not use it as a chance to step into the best version of yourself?

In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we’re talking about planting the seeds of change in your life so you can start seeing real transformation in your confidence, relationships, and mindset. Shout-out to our friend Michael for the question!

You’ll learn:✔️ Why spring is the perfect time to reset and ...

What do you do when you and your partner don’t see eye to eye on politics? In today’s world, political views aren’t just opinions but deeply personal. And when the person you care about has completely different beliefs, it can feel like a constant battle.

In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, I’m breaking down:✔️ Why political disagreements feel so personal✔️ How to talk about your differences without it turning into a fight✔️ Wh...

In this episode, I’m diving into your burning question and giving my real, unfiltered answers—no fluff, just honest feedback.

Whether it’s about intimacy, confidence, relationships, or personal growth, I’m here to give you the insights you need.

Got a question you want me to answer on the podcast? Submit it through my Instagram stories @the_sarah_valentine or email me at sarah@intimateconsciousness.com.

And if you’re ready to do the ...

We started the conversation about porn in relationships, but what if you and your partner have different views on it? In Part 2 of this series, we’re tackling how to have open, honest discussions about porn without shame, judgment, or defensiveness.

We’ll dive into:
✔️ How to talk about porn with your partner without it turning into a fight
✔️ What to do if one of you watches and the other doesn’t
✔️ Creating boundaries that feel good ...

Porn is everywhere, but is it helping or harming your relationship? My views on this have changed a lot over the years, and in this episode, I’m breaking down the real impact of porn on intimacy, communication, and connection.

We’ll cover:
✔️ The role of porn in relationships—is it a tool or a distraction?
✔️ How it can shape expectations and impact attraction
✔️ Signs it might be creating distance instead of connection

Action Step: Ref...

Rejection isn’t a reflection of your worth—it’s just redirection. But let’s be honest: It still stings.

Whether it’s in dating, relationships, or life in general, rejection can shake your confidence if you let it. But what if you could turn it into fuel for growth instead?

In today’s episode, we’re diving into how to handle rejection like a pro so you can bounce back stronger, more confident, and more resilient.

You’ll learn:

• Why r...

What makes a man irresistibly attractive? Spoiler alert: It’s not about looks, money, or flashy moves. Real confidence is what draws women in—without you even having to try.In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the difference between cockiness and genuine confidence and how you can show up in dating (or your relationship) as the self-assured, magnetic man you’re meant to be.

You’ll learn: The confidence traits that women actually ...

Are you holding yourself back because you're afraid to fail? Whether making a move in dating, speaking up in your relationship, or going after what you want, fear of failure keeps too many people stuck.

In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we discuss embracing risk without letting fear control you.

You’ll learn:
Why confidence isn’t about avoiding failure—it’s about handling it.
How small, everyday risks build unshakable self-ass...

Overthinking is the silent killer of confidence. How many times have you hesitated, second-guessed yourself, or talked yourself out of taking action? In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we’re breaking free from the cycle of hesitation and learning how to make faster, bolder decisions.

Why overthinking destroys confidence
The secret to making quicker, more decisive choices
Simple mindset shifts to take action without fear

Action ...

Does small talk make you anxious? Do you struggle to keep a conversation flowing without overthinking every word? In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we’re talking about the art of building meaningful conversations with ease—whether it’s in dating, business, or deepening friendships.

You’ll learn:

✅ Simple conversation starters that feel natural (not forced).

✅ How to keep a conversation going without awkward silences.

✅ The sec...

Ever walk into a room and feel like you don’t belong?

Or maybe you shrink yourself, hoping to go unnoticed? It’s time to change that. In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we’re diving into the secrets of body language, eye contact, and making a strong first impression—whether in social settings, at work, or in dating.

Confidence isn’t about being the loudest in the room; it’s about owning your presence.

Action Step: This week,...

Welcome back to Here Comes Sunshine! In today’s episode, The Power of Daily Habits for Confidence, we’re diving into how small, everyday actions can build rock-solid confidence over time.

If you’re feeling stuck—whether it’s work stress, struggles in relationships, or feeling disconnected from yourself—this episode is for you. I’ll share practical, easy-to-implement habits that can help shift your mindset, boost your energy, and hel...

Welcome back to Here Comes Sunshine! Today, we’re diving into where true confidence really begins—not with your job title, your relationship status, or the number of zeros in your bank account—but in your mind.

Your inner dialogue shapes how you show up in the world. If that voice is filled with doubt and negativity, it holds you back from living boldly and attracting what you deserve. In this episode, I’ll share practical ways to s...

Confidence isn’t just something you’re born with—it’s built, shaped, and strengthened over time. In today’s episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we’re laying the foundation for unshakable confidence. If you’ve been holding back in your relationships, career, or personal life, this is your wake-up call.

Over the next month, we will break down what true confidence looks like, why it matters more than ever, and how you can start stepping up...