Happily Even After: It's a Choice!

You know that feeling when you give the best advise but don't take your own?

Well, I've been struggling with my recent cancer diagnosis and how I'm supposed to be handling it. I'm just going to take my own advise and tell people how I feel and do what's going to make me happy!

This podcast makes me happy and I want to dedicate as much time as I possibly can to it.  I want it to be a positive reminder that life after loss can be beautiful and you should always, always widow your way!

Because you my friend, deserve to be "happily even after" ❤️ 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I've been in a little denial with this diagnosis,
like I can't believe this ishappening to me and this is not
just a statement.
I actually can't believe thisis happening to me.
I mean, most days feel like I'mstill in shock, waiting for
that moment when I'm going tobreak down and cry on the shower

(00:22):
like in a film.
It hasn't happened.
And I also feel like I'm waytoo calm when I'm telling people
about my cancer and the firstthing most people say is wow,
you're so calm, you're handlingthis so well.
Now I've been wondering how amI supposed to be handling it?

(00:42):
So I think, what do you tellyour widows?
What do you tell everyone aboutgrieving?
Of course there's no right orwrong way to grieve.
There's no right or wrong wayto handle a terminal cancer
diagnosis.

(01:03):
Tell people how you feel, dowhat's going to make you happy.
But the thing is I don't reallyknow how I feel.
I feel like I did when Tom diedI just lost, lost with all of
these emotions and not knowinghow to process them.

(01:24):
But the one thing that I willdo differently this time is
reach out to someone for help.
I just don't think I can wingthis cancer thing like I did
being a widow.
So, even though I don't quiteknow how I feel yet, nothing has
made me feel more like a cancerpatient than my first treatment

(01:46):
.
With that.
It's really started to sink in.
I do, however, know what'sgoing to make me happy and how I
want to spend the remainder ofmy life.
Of course, I want to spend allthe time I possibly can with
family and friends, just makingsure that they all know how much

(02:07):
I love them, even though it'shard for me to always express
Because soft and mushy justreally sent my thank.
I want to dedicate as much timeas possible to this podcast.
I know I'm not the best withwords and I know that I'm not

(02:28):
the most eloquent on socialmedia, but I feel like I've
always been more of a I can showyou better than I can tell you
type of person.
The thing is, you don't needsomeone to remind you over and
over again how being a widow isso tough, so sad, so depressing,

(02:49):
so lonely and so out of theother widow things.
You already know that.
I'm not going to be anotherreminder for you.
I want to be a differentreminder for you.
I want to remind you of who youare what you are capable of.

(03:09):
I want you to know that you aremore than just a widow.
I want you to know that lifeafter loss can be absolutely
beautiful, and I want you toknow that you can still have the
life that you imagined or helljust create you a new one.
And I want you to know that Itruly believe with all my heart

(03:34):
that every widow deserves ahappily even after.
Even now, with a terminalcancer diagnosis, I'm not giving
up on my happy ending Because,after all, love is not dead.
Love is not dead, just myhusband.