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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, hi, it's me Mama Q.
I welcome you to Moments in Q.
Let me interview you bonusepisode In Q today Hawaii and
Tells of ["Hawaii and Tells of"]Hawaii.
(00:22):
I give you the greeting of theday and I'm explaining the why
of this episode.
Do you know what today is?
It's our anniversaryAnniversary.
Happy first pod anniversary.
Thank you so much for walkingwith me this past year.
Here's the bonus episode withmy partner, my sugar daddy, the
(00:44):
love of my Mike Foxtry life.
He exists, he is real and we'regoing to be talking about some
real things from Polly Amoryspirituality who do in our
relationship.
So enjoy this bonus episode.
I will see you February 2024.
And remember, we don't boys.
["hawaii and Tells of"] Tellsof.
(01:12):
These interviews, first andforemost, are for the ancestors
and descendants.
I want to honor the ancestorsand the spiritual practice of
who do by talking about them byname and explaining what it
means to us.
Then I want the descendants tolearn more about their family
members in hopes of learningsomething new about our family
to share with future descendantsa time capsule, if you will.
(01:36):
And also people perk up whenyou talk about them, so that's a
bonus too.
Today's episode is brought toyou by this quote it's our year,
signed every Cowboys fan eachyear.
["hawaii and Tells of"].
Hey, hi, it's me, mama Cute,and I'm here with another
(02:01):
interview.
You have heard about him somany times the man, the myth,
the legend, the boob thing, thelove of my Mike Fox tri life.
It's our anniversary of thepodcast, and so I thought that
it was only right to prove y'allthat he exists.
Say what's up, boob thing.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I do exist.
I do exist.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Yeah, y'all, he exists.
So again, this is theanniversary of my podcast for
one year, so grateful andthankful to have it, for people
to be rocking and my number onefan sitting right in front of me
and stuff.
We're at the 11th hour tryingto get it together because he's
a procrastinator.
I blame you, but yeah, so again, I'll be back February.
(02:49):
In the meantime, in betweentime, you'll have bonus episodes
of me interviewing people.
All right, so how you doingboob thing?
Speaker 2 (02:56):
I'm doing pretty good , can't complain yet.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Yeah, you been not complaining at all.
You with me.
Shoot what you talking about,All right, so we're going to
start up with these questions.
Talks to each other like wealways do.
See where it goes from there,and I'm pretty confident we'll
still be together after this,what you think?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
The baitable 20% positive.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
20%, 20% positive.
All right, here comes the onemore questions.
If you had a time machine,would you fix your past mistakes
or see your future?
Speaker 2 (03:27):
That's a pretty good question.
I would probably fix my pastmistakes.
I think everybody would preferto go back to when it was 2018,
if I knew what I knew now,correct their problems and
change their future.
Me I probably would make suremy credit was inject up in my
(03:48):
early years of 18 to 21.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
OK, I can see that, even though I'm the ones who's
asking these questions.
I don't know.
I would rather see my future,because your answer is a good
one, but I guess maybe fromlooking at too much of back to
the future.
And what was that other onethat we saw recently with?
(04:12):
Was that Invincible when theydid yeah, yeah, when they did
the no, it wasn't Invincible.
What was that movie?
It was the Past and the Future.
You had saw on YouTube orsomething.
Oh, girl had the time machine.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Oh, you said oh, I don't remember the name of it.
Shoot, Damn this bit.
Thought it escaped me.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Yeah, leave me alone, ok, so whenever I mess up and
my number one fan hears it inall ways, I think that's going
to be the title.
That thought escaped me, anyway.
So whatever movie I'm talkingabout, there were women who got
stabbed 16 times on their 16thbirthday, and so when they
(04:54):
decided to go into the Past totry to prevent it, one of the
scientists had said something,and I'll paraphrase knowledge
about you don't mess up thetimeline.
That's a myth, something likethat.
So, whatever, whatever.
So I don't know.
I just kind of want to see thefuture Because, you know, you're
my proof.
I love my life and I don't wantto fix my mistakes, because my
(05:16):
mistakes is what made me be withyou.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Well, what if, in the future, you saw that I cheated
on you with another girl, soyou're going to go back in the
Past and break up with me aboutsomething that I did in the
future?
That ain't easy.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Um, yeah, I mean, well, I did have that dream that
you were cheating on me and youwent to the mall when you were
away from me.
You didn't cheat on me, but youdid go to the mall.
So I accepted you then becauseI was like that's a different
dimensional boo thing.
The boo thing that I'm with nowwon't cheat, yeah, yeah,
(05:54):
because, if not, the ancestorsgot him, anyway.
Second one would you rathersell or van life around the
world?
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I would probably sell .
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Because you can swim and I can't.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Yes, because we would sell together.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
I can't swim.
Why not van life?
I love driving, I can't swim.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Van life would probably be OK too, but if I'd
been, I would try to drive fromthe United States to Russia.
I mean, I know they say youcan't really do it, but I
thought if it's the coldest part, when it's ice, you probably
can drive across again.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Oh, I want to risk it .
Okay, all right.
Last one more question as adessert connoisseur what's the
best thing besides me?
What's the best thing you'veeaten?
Yeah, yeah, you nasty.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
No, I was actually when I was overseas.
It was a restaurant in KualaLumpur.
Now it was in Saudi.
It was called the Tower.
They had this cheesecake.
The cheesecake tastes likeheaven.
It was so good.
It was the best dessert I everhad in my life.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Just a regular cheesecake.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
It was like a raspberry type topping on top of
it.
It was so good, it was fluffy.
It was better than anycheesecake.
It's not a level cheesecakethat matters.
That cheesecake I had, oh okay,all right.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Well, thanks for that .
I'm churning it.
Wait a little bit.
I made you bake the last one.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
That's the second best thing.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I'm like, yes, yeah, they can't see you, but I can
see you.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Aquas.
Yeah, all right, we're movingon to my moments and cue
questions.
All right, what is who do toyou?
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Okay, before we get together.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Before I allowed you in my space.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Before I agreed to let you be part of the winning
team.
Who do?
To me was a cheap version ofvoodoo, like, if you can't
afford voodoo, we get who do?
That's what I'll before Now.
I think that who do isvenerating the ancestors, using
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their spiritual energy to, Iguess, particular in your daily
life as you go.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
Wow, that was the best answer, because, well, I
mean also you kind of cheated,because I mean you see me do
this and so you know what is it?
Damn, that escapes me,motherfucker, oh God.
Oh well, yeah, because you'veseen me.
But it's okay, that's fine, allright.
(08:57):
So the next one.
But oh man, I don't have ittogether and I took my meds.
I think I'm kind of nervousbeing around you.
Anyway, um, yeah, that was andI'm not just saying this that,
yeah, that was the best answer,even though, like I said, you
just cheated a little bitbecause you see me do different
(09:17):
things within the practicing ofwho do.
But I like that, I like that.
You got this, you got it, yougot the right stuff.
Oh yeah, all right.
So name a moment where you canmake this ish up, because that's
what I call it, or I'll say youcan't make this shit up,
whichever one, depending on howI feel.
And I titled that because in myexperience, there's been times
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where, like, things alignthemselves so perfectly that
it's like undeniably like youcannot make this shit up.
So you can.
You can answer that in regardsto spirituality, religion, where
there's no denying that there'sa God, a higher, higher creator
, Jesus, whatever way you wantto describe and, as always,
(10:04):
there's no wrong or right.
Asher.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Honestly, I don't really have a moment like that,
mainly because I am.
I'm not a Christian by anymeans, but I believe in Jesus.
But I don't think that heactively works like, okay, I'm
going to come down here and Iguess what folks say answer
prayers?
I guess I don't believe he doesit.
(10:28):
I believe he does no monitorsand let you go about your life.
So I guess, if you would say,can't make this stuff up, no, I
just think things happen onrandom.
Okay, there's no higher power,they're all milling in there.
It might be a high poweroverseeing, but they don't
necessarily involve themselves.
And I really think like that.
(10:51):
Because when you think aboutthose serious things that
happened in the world, I wouldthink that, although I can't
understand the meaning why theylet a five year old get shot in
the head, I would like to thinkthat somewhere that that high
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power would at least let thekiller be found.
Yeah, and it'd be a lot ofinstances where they killer
doesn't get found.
You day and be with the 15 yearold girl in the woods in the
box.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
And nobody ever find out who did it.
So I would think that somewherewe will be a resolution to that
.
So that's why I don't think Idon't really focus on a I can't
believe this happened or youcan't make this stuff up moment.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Yeah, I mean what you just said was a whole bunch of
negative stuff.
I mean, I know from doing Reikion you when you were away from
me, left me for so long, I haddid long distance Reiki on you
and here it is that I knew whatparts of your body were aching
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or hurt and stuff like that.
So I mean, again, there's nowrong or right answer, but you
made it just so sad and morbid.
But like for me.
I mean I always have a can'tmake this shit up response
anyway but like to me, that wasa moment that I had hoped to
quote unquote prove to you thatthat this stuff, as far as Reiki
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that I do, is real.
You don't you're.
It's not like you're skeptical,well, no, let me fix that.
It's not like you don't believeme or believe in it.
You're just sometimes skeptical.
So for me, when I was able todo long distance Reiki on you
and without knowing where youwere hurting, and I could tell
(12:40):
you that to me was a part, well,the many times of can't make
this issue.
But again.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
it will look.
I was just kind of like amoulder and scully from the
X-File I think more than whatthe one they believed in scully,
but you know she saw all thealiens that she went through all
this stuff with them.
She did like is it really,though?
That's kind of thing how Ithink is?
Speaker 1 (13:09):
our thing, our relationship, there you go.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Put yeah, your, your, your blessing.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Oh yeah, I'm the blessing.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Yeah Well, who's the catch?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Me Duh, yeah, yeah, next question yeah, better be
All right.
So growing up in Memphis, tenaKey, did you learn any hoodoo
type of rituals, sands, oldwives, tales, things like that,
for example, not to eateveryone's spaghetti or sweeping
other feet, and please do notsay Jojo the Bootyman.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Well, jojo the Bootyman is not a ritual.
I mean no, okay, anybody that,if you want to just Google being
Hampton, jojo the Bootyman, uh,scared in a candy man or Bloody
Mirror, but I think, growing upnot knowing that there was
anything to do with spiritual,or I guess we just superstitious
(14:08):
for us.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Maybe that's a better word to, but yeah,
superstitious.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
Step on the Craig, break your mama back yeah, if
you saw a black cat got to walklike seven steps back or
something.
Or as you have bad luck, or youbreak a mirror, yeah, of course
the spaghetti that's I thinkmost Southern people is big on,
or you can't even eat about it,spaghetti.
I'm not going to get it to whatI missed.
(14:34):
Maybe you will, but I did.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
I mean as a loyal listener.
You should have known that Itook care of that, maybe episode
one or two because I recitedthe great and wonderful Project
Pat a nigga, that's down for thecrown man.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Like I was surprised you remembered it.
It would be in your age, wow.
So yeah, I don't know a coupleof those superstitions that I
grew up with and I really didn'tthink it would be part of a
hoodoo African tradition until Igot with you or until I allowed
you to get with me.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I allowed you to get with me, all right.
It was consensual.
Yeah, yeah, don't be giving methose bedroom eyes the way you
acted anyway.
So, like, like some of thatstuff, um, I wouldn't say that
it is who do per se is voodoo.
(15:32):
No, you know, voodoo is areligion.
But some of that stuff within,as I've said many, many times
before when I use the spaghettione, because there are bodily
fluids that we all have thathelps the universe Like that's
your DNA literally and it alsohelps the universe pinpoint who
(15:56):
you are.
It's like there's differentlevels to it and if you can get
somebody's hair or DNA, that'slike the highest and the lowest
can be like their signature orphoto of them in it.
Um, so some of these sayings, Imean you could kind of put that
in who do?
And there wouldn't be anythingwrong with it, but definitely
(16:17):
the um spaghetti and sweeping ofthe feet, um, you could say the
same with stepping on a crack,because I mean you, yeah, that
would be a stretch Armstrong,but I feel like you could,
because there's power withinwords, um, and you know this,
but you still like to say thecrazy things that you say.
Do not say it right now.
Thank you, um, so there ispower in words and power in your
(16:43):
steps and stuff like that.
So again I could see ithappening.
But yeah, that's fine, allright.
So I know I'm asking youquestions, but do you have any
questions about the things I do,such as Reiki, who do playing
cards, all of that stuff?
I feel like you shouldn'tbecause you've never asked me.
(17:03):
But hey, go for it.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Well, I guess for the listeners, what's the craziest
thing?
You well, I guess for you wouldbe considered normal, but for
somebody's not in, who do well,is the crazy thing that you have
done in the hood religion.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Um, I have some stories that I can, I can share,
since they got really past.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Um, not Okay it's not crazy, but I have done um
workings.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Other people call them spills and I can call them
spills too, but usually in whodo they call it workings?
Um, I've done workings forothers and it literally has
worked out.
Um, let's see one person inparticular.
You know that person, but I'llsay their name um, off the mic.
Um, after we're done with this.
(17:59):
Um had asked me to do a spailFor them and I did um for money
and the first time ever, thatcandle like exploded in a way
where my um smoke detector wentoff and they freaked me out
because I've never done it andthinking about it now, I
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probably shouldn't have.
And so that's one of thereasons why, number one, I don't
do workings um for other peopleanymore unless it's family.
And then do you see something?
Okay, that's one why I don't doworkings for other people.
This is not family.
And number two, um, again, ifit's not for family, I won't put
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it on my ancestral altar.
I'll um, I have my ownmakeshift altar that I'll do
workings for other people.
The second thing dealing withthat person was that they wanted
a candle done for them to getmoney that someone owed them,
and I had just kept getting onthis person like yo.
I wrote I put in so much energy, time and effort into this
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candle and to getting the herbscorrect into the petition paper.
Every single thing, do do it.
Well, they were beinghardheaded.
So I sent them a text messagebecause, again, there's powers
and words, and I had um.
I'm not going to say the exactwords, but I had basically told
them that um it, that um.
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I'm calling on my ancestors toum get them if they don't get
the um candle taken care of.
So of course, I was ignored.
That was Friday.
That Sunday, no, that Mondaycame and I said hey, how was
your weekend?
Was it good, as I expected?
And they had said to me that Iam working on the candle right
(19:52):
now.
I'm going to light it today.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
And I'm like why?
Speaker 1 (19:55):
And they had twisted their ankle and they used to do
what is those four wheels?
Or something like that.
They um, draw four wheels andnormally a four wheel wheel or
wheel gets stuck.
But this one got super, superstuck in the mud and stuff.
So I was like, huh, I bet you,next time I tell you to do
something, you'll do it.
So yeah, so that's normal to me, but maybe not so um normal to
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someone else.
So did that answer yourquestion?
Speaker 2 (20:23):
It was pretty nice, it was pretty nice.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Okay, good, all right , we're going to move on to
spirituality questions and stuff, even though what we just did
talking about who do, but thoseare just my main cue questions
that I asked everybody.
All right, do you believe inkarma?
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Uh, yes, I do believe that.
But whatever you do to somebody, uh, it will be returned to you
.
Uh, then why kind of base?
Try to be nice and giving thisby possibly, can, so hopefully,
with a big good karma or badkarma?
Did I deserve karma away?
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Yeah, I, oh, another story time.
Now, this was before Iofficially started practicing
hoodoo, so this is a twofer.
But this also deals with karma.
So my high school sweethearthad cheated on me.
Seen here in high school, wewent to do different high
schools and we broke up afterthat month because my heart was
(21:24):
broken, blah, blah, blah, and sowe were supposed to go back
with being each other and I feltlike he stood me up for the
date.
So I was at the movie theatershe didn't live too far from it.
So once he I can't even rememberif I looked at the movies like
go in, or if I just went to themoves and then went to his house
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or what have you.
I don't know the exact cause.
That was a long go, but anyway,point is, eventually, obviously
, I left the movie theater, wentdown the street around the
corner to his house, saw his car, keyed his car and we went to
the same church together.
So Sunday before I tookcommunion cause, the type of
Christian denomination I belongto, they would do communion
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every Sunday, so not just thefirst Sunday of the month.
So me I'm not wanting anythingto happen to me I was like, ooh,
I gotta tell you I keyed yourcar and then I did my whole part
in the name of all of a sudden,holy Ghost took the bread, took
the juice and then cause it'slike I feel better.
So anyway, like, maybe lessthan a week later, my car had a
(22:34):
freak.
There was a freak accident withmy car where I opened up the
driver's side and I I guess apebble or a rock bust out the
window.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Amen and.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
I was like shit, I'll never do anything to him again
and I did not.
But the cool thing is thatafter I keyed his car cause I
never knew he and of the car wasa real thing to fuck up
somebody's paint After I didthat, nothing went well with his
vehicle.
After that, one of the womenthat he cheated on me with told
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the entire school what happenedto him.
The paint was peeling off.
It was just all that.
I was like okay, yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
I guess one of mine would be.
Back in my younger days I usedto mess with people.
They had significant others andwhen back when, so when I got
in a relationship, the person Iwould end up cheating on me.
So I felt that pain of what youwould miss when somebody was
(23:37):
with a significant other.
So, yeah, karma is real.
So what you do, it'll comearound and he'll get you back.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
Yeah, and like I said from that moment, for the most
part I ain't gonna always be100%, but for the most part I
too try my best to treat peopleright and I don't try to be like
some practitioners who you didthis to me, so I'm gonna get I'm
a quote, unquote sick myancestors on you.
I'm not that type of person.
I give people, I believe, morechances than I should, and when
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it reaches a fever pitch I guessthat's what I'm trying to say
that's when I'm like okay,ancestors, can you help take
care of my lightweight?
And I view it as a defensemechanism.
But yeah, I try my best totreat people right in hopes that
I won't have to do that.
So what about reincarnation?
You believe in it?
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Part of me does believe that when you die you'll
come back as somebody else orsomething else, but I think they
would suck Like I don't know ifI really wanna come Like if I,
once I'm gone, I don't wannacome back again.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
But it wouldn't be.
It wouldn't be like boop thing,love in my life.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
It could be like I'm not gonna remember anything,
yeah, so if I wanna come back,even if I'm a plant, I don't
care.
I wanna remember my previouslife.
What's the point of coming backto life as if I came back as a
girl and I can't rememberanything from this life.
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So I mean, I'm just goingthrough life.
I'm just gonna make the samemistakes as I did in my previous
life and never learned anything.
So part of me hoping thatreincarnation is not real.
But if you look at how theworld or nature works, rain
comes from the sky, hits theground, does what it does,
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evaporates, goes back into thesky and just goes over.
So everything in life is kindof a circle.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
Circle of life.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
So maybe it is true, maybe it is how it works, who
knows?
Nobody else can remember.
Well, anybody that passed neverhave came back to say what it
did or didn't do, and maybe thatis how some people you look in
history books.
You've got a celebrity thatlooks like this king.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
So maybe that is true , but, like I said, I'm hoping
that is not true.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Yeah, I believe.
Even though this is aninterview, I'm gonna answer some
of these questions too.
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
As you should.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
I mean, I want everybody to understand the
dynamic.
I interview you, you're theinterviewee.
Sometimes, Anyway, I do 100%believe in reincarnation and I
feel the same way you do.
Like, damn, it would be nice ifI could remember, but sometimes
I am quadruple, able toremember parts of my past.
(26:44):
So that's kind of cool and alsonot kind of cool.
So, but what I also think isthat I guess that it could help
to not remember, because youknow that I would think that you
could remember how you died andI think that that could
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potentially be traumatic,depending on how you go.
The other thing about it is,yeah, I would want to remember,
so in the hopes that I wouldn'tmake the same mistakes, but a
hope of mine would be that just,there's this thing and I'm
gonna go off the tangent, butI'm not gonna go too far with it
but there's this thing calledAkashic Records Hopefully I'm
(27:25):
pronouncing it correctly whenit's like this huge database.
I almost feel like you and I sawthat when we looked at what was
that?
It was the show that we lookedat where they had the robots
Dang it, the first show that westarted to look at.
Come on with the robots and theoh, do, do, do, oh wait, who
(27:47):
are you not even letting mefinish?
Okay, it was the robots andthey were Westerns, and then
they would do Our Westworld ohshit, Westworld yeah, and so
like I Good job, teamwork yeah.
Okay.
So like when they uploaded oh,spoiler, blah, blah, blah, when
they uploaded that stuff likethe database kind of reminded me
(28:08):
of the Akashic Records.
So anyway, long story, lesslong cause I'm not very versed
in Akashic Records and I hopeI'm pronouncing it correctly.
It's like the records ofeverything that has happened on
the earth, from moment of worth,the world beginning to, you
know, I guess, to the end.
And some people have the ability, through meditation and calling
on the spirit of Akashic tohelp them reveal the records and
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stuff like that.
And so like, before I got myreading from my mentor, pamela,
some of these thoughts of mypast, kind of like I had an
inkling of it or whatever, andsometimes she was able to reveal
them to me.
So I think I say all they saythat I think I see both sides of
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it and it sucks, cause you knowwhat if you didn't get to do
everything?
Or what if you're repeatinglife again, like I would like to
go to Japan or something likethat?
And it's like what if in aprevious world I already went to
Japan?
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Well, I'm like I would want to do the recarnation
, but I would want to be like,kind of like what on Black
Panther?
Where, when you died and youwent to that ancestral realm,
yeah.
So I would like, I would prefer, when I pass and you go there
and you see your mother, yourgrandmother, your uncle and you
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can kind of connect.
I mean, you see, fivegenerations in the past you're
like, oh, you're my uncle, yeah,I'm your uncle.
Well, when I was alive I did Ibuilt a building.
Yeah, oh, that's.
I mean it wouldn't have youdead, damn, you were still.
You know, the family would beslowly, as I say, getting back
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together.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Oh, I like that one.
Okay, you kind of answered thisone, so if you don't want to
answer it again, you don't haveto.
But the question I wrote is areyou religious or spiritual
person?
Now, I know that you just saidthat you are a Christian, but
not an Uber Christian.
So like, where is your?
What is the word I'm lookingfor, I guess what is your
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relationship with Christianity?
Yeah, there we go.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
I believe again.
I believe that in Jesus Christdo I go to church?
No, I mean, I've been tochurches More than I've been to
church.
Okay yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:33):
Church is the chief.
Yeah, I'm so tired of you, yes.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
So I mean I mean growing up at my cousin you say
we went to church more than God.
Yeah, Because we used to atBible study church, Sunday
schools, um, Deakin, uh, Usherboy, you quiet Saturday church.
So we went to church a lot.
So maybe they burned me out.
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But man, like I still believeJesus is the savior, that they
came to save me and can now letbut I'm not a oh me quote the
Bible At all.
You gonna go to hell because Idon't believe in all that.
But I'm hoping that it's morelike a free wheel type thing,
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because what I read it in thoseBible it seemed like Somebody
who I would think like likemarlith king could end up going
to here because something to behe, because he told a lie back
in the day.
Oh yeah and that'd be kind ofcrazy.
I'm, I'm watching that gang.
Marlith king, you're gonna.
Yeah, yeah, I lied when I was30, so, so, there was a gun,
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there's something someone else.
Yeah, that'd be kind of crazy.
Watch them go to here becausehe was in the christians whole.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
Like, but he was.
He was a really good person onearth.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
So you know, thinking black people's, aren't you this
and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
Hey, well, you know anybody good.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
And so, like I said, I'm not, they're a Christian,
but I do believe okay, and sohow does that, how, um, how does
that work within ourrelationship, and do you think
that there, there, there is amoment where too much of my
hoodu could be too much for you,because You've been a Christian
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and me being a hoodupractitioner even though, as
I've always said, you can doboth, but I don't.
I'm just.
I have denounced Christianityand Some people that could mess
up people's relationships,because usually people want to
get together and it's sure, tothe person that they're with,
have the same religious andspiritual.
However, we're doing well withour relationship, so it it
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doesn't seem to be a hindrance,but for you, um, yeah, how does
that work?
And Can you think over time, if, who do my hoodu would be just
too much?
Speaker 2 (33:02):
well, again I'm gonna .
I'm a more of a logical thinker.
So at the end of the day, let'sbe honest, does Christianity or
not christian religion reallymatter?
No Reason why I say that?
Because nobody knows who'sright.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
Yeah, I think we're all.
To be honest, I've said thiswith my sister, ash, where I
think we're all right.
I think no matter if we'recalling God, buddha, jesus, I
don't know, whatever, whatever,I think that we are all calling
the same person.
Well, yeah, I hear what you'resaying.
Speaker 2 (33:40):
I think I'm working, since nobody really knows.
I think everybody has theirbase.
Yeah, like you said, whetheryou call it God or whatever, he
may be that or she or they.
Yes, uh, we had a supreme being,but the underneath, like I
would say Jesus and and all theother, buddha would, it would be
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those secondary things.
So, but nobody knows who'sright and like I could Say, oh
no, I don't want to be with youbecause, uh, uh, uh, the hoodu
thing, and it turns out thatyour hoodu thing was the
actually the right one and I waswrong as a fool.
I was wrong as a fool, so Idon't really judge it.
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It's not my place to judge.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Good answer.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
And so I don't, I don't even think about what you.
That's just what you believe iswhat you believe.
Uh, is it time where it'd betoo much?
Oh?
Speaker 1 (34:36):
I don't think that I'm about to answer you.
I don't think it will bebecause, um, when we got
together, I told you aboutpissing in jars, you still
decided to consent to being withme, so I don't think I'll ever
be.
Speaker 2 (34:47):
Well, I ain't seen you piss.
Well, you did you pick it.
You were there one time.
I think you pissed in the jar.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
No, I don't think you've heard me talk about it,
but you've never seen me do thepiss in the jar.
I ain't having physically.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
But I thought you uh, it was instant where you was
finna, do it to somebody.
Speaker 1 (35:01):
Yeah, finna but dinner.
Speaker 2 (35:03):
Okay, well, finna don't make dinner, I guess.
So, uh, no, I don't, I don'tthink it'd be.
Uh, oh, that's too much.
I'd be like, hmm, that's wild,crazy.
But I don't think till I be uh,turned off by no okay, cool.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
Now we're getting on to relationship questions.
All right, do you think peoplefall in love because the right
person shows up or because thetime in their life is right?
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Uh, for me the timing of the life is right.
Uh, if you would have met mewhen I was 18, then I we
probably want to be togetherbecause one I wasn't looking for
Again and I was already taken.
Yeah, uh, but also I wasn'ttrying to have a relationship
when I was 18.
I only was attracted to womenwho were here, somebody else, oh
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.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
So I wouldn't have been looking for a relationship
with wait, I did have somebodywhen I was 18, so you would have
been attracted to me.
What Got your ass?
Speaker 2 (36:11):
Yeah.
So yeah, I wasn't looking fornothing serious.
Yeah so it was, it would, itwould have been no option for a
relationship to blossom.
All right, and I think maturitylevel, a younger me doesn't
have the same knowledge andacceptance as a, uh, the older
(36:34):
man.
All right, because you know, Iain't nothing but no 40.
Whoa, whoa, oh, what you get,what would you get?
Uh?
So yeah, I was an incidencewhen it was a carcassian woman,
she, she tried to holler at meback when I was I think I was 17
(36:54):
at the time, but because mymother and my sisters, uh, these
early 90s, y'all early 90s, souh, that thing was like bringing
home a white woman, I wouldkill you, boy, he bring her
white woman.
So I gave her Opportunity toeven go down that road, because
(37:16):
I'm not gonna bring a whitewoman home to my mama, because
I'm gonna ask a fool.
Yeah but if you were when, nowand when you weren't together.
And I don't care if she's white, you know black age, you know
whatever me Uh, if I think she'sattractive and she has a good
head on the shoulders, I'mwilling to give it an
(37:37):
opportunity.
So yeah, time changes.
Speaker 1 (37:40):
Yeah.
What did your pastrelationships teach you?
Speaker 2 (37:45):
patience, understand, uh, it was.
Uh, people change.
I think people do change, butit takes a long time.
Nobody's gonna change overnight, definitely.
So patience and, like I said,understanding his voice blend in
(38:08):
two lives together.
Oh yeah, so you have to kind ofI don't know, I don't want to
say give up a piece of you,because you shouldn't kind of
lose nothing.
But you got to, I guess,compromise.
Speaker 1 (38:21):
I consider it a Venn diagram where you know what a
Venn diagram means.
Sure, don't, don't worry, it'sgoing to make sense in a minute.
So, venn diagram, you.
This is how I think ourrelationship, all relationships,
are romantic, non-reminiscent,whatever, whatever.
So you have Venn diagram whereyou have a circle of you.
So right here, even though y'allcan't see it, I'm literally
(38:44):
making my hands into circles sohe can get the visual.
But anyway, you have Venndiagram.
So circle is boutang,everything that makes boutang
tick.
Then you have me, sugar mama,everything that makes sugar mama
tick.
Well, actually, mama can don'tmatter whatever.
And then you Sugar mama, it was, it is.
And then you, there's thecircles, they interlock, and
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then in the middle is where theyoverlap, right, and I think
that that, and I think thatthat's where the relationship is
, because, just like you said,you're taking everybody's,
taking, their trauma, theirbaggage, their relationship
beliefs, their religious.
They're taking everything withthem and they're trying to blend
(39:26):
it together.
And that part where it overlapsinto Venn diagram is where you
get the sweet spot.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
So, yeah, yeah, now I don't want, I don't want to
take too much of my pastrelationship into my new
relationship.
Oh, yeah Well, I'm not saying,I'm just saying, like you know,
for example oh, this is one ofyour courtiest habits, I will
Well the reason why I say thatis because I think if you take
too much of your pastrelationship into your new
(39:54):
relationship, then one you'renot being yourself.
Then you're going toovercompensate, like, okay, my
last relationship ended becauseI didn't cook, yeah, so now in
my new relationship I'm going totry to do all the cooking.
All the cooking, oh, okay.
And then that person will belike, well, you never let me
cook.
Then it's on that, instead ofthe problem being you broke up
because you never wanted to cook.
Yeah, that's because you neverlet that person help or do
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anything.
So I think you justoverconcerned.
Speaker 1 (40:20):
Yeah, okay, I feel you now.
I guess what I was thinkingthat you were talking about was
like for example, you're allabout house robes and slippers
and throwing away stuff on timeor before the best date date and
making sure.
Speaker 2 (40:38):
As you should.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
And making sure that everything in the fridge or the
pantry, the labels are facing,and stuff into me.
That's a, that's a part andthat's what makes you you.
But but it's just like quote,unquote, weird to me because I
don't, I have never done it, butit's like, uh, that's what
makes you you.
So I'm not going to be like meand fuck this shit.
You know, because, like yousaid earlier, I think it's a
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compromise as far as me taking,and I mean, yeah, it's a
compromise that doesn't take oradd away anything with the
relationship.
It makes you who you are.
So I don't mind doing thosethings, even if I Well, wait a
minute, listen.
Speaker 2 (41:15):
Uh.
Email her With the response.
It is.
But don't you think it makessense to make sure the labels is
facing so you can see what yougot?
A juice, get a juice in therefrigerator.
They either they either they'redifferent flavors with the look
of the juices are the same onthem.
Maybe it's cherry andstrawberry.
(41:36):
I know that although cherry,sometimes it's red, but let's go
with me.
The cherry juice in thestrawberry juice, same kind of
flavor.
Of course, all you can tell isby the label.
So wouldn't it be good to beable to reach in there and grab
the flavor that you wantedwithout grabbing the wrong
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flavor, so that it just makessense to have the labels facing
so you can see them?
Speaker 1 (42:00):
Do you believe in soulmates?
Why, why not?
Speaker 2 (42:04):
Do I believe in soulmates?
No, okay, there is no suchthing as soulmates.
I think there are points inyour life where this person fits
the who you are Now.
Yes, as I was a chance that youguys will eventually grow apart
(42:29):
, but I think that it just okay.
This is, this is the person Iam right now.
This is the person that you useright now, and it blends
together and it makes abeautiful symphony.
Speaker 1 (42:43):
Huh, you know what?
You are just dropping thesenuggies.
Oh my gosh, we need to go toMcDonald's with it.
What is the sweetest thinganyone has ever done for you?
And it's just not me.
Don't, don't mention it.
I'm joking.
I'm joking.
No, for real, for real, because, yeah, what's the sweetest
thing anyone has done for you?
Speaker 2 (43:06):
Oh, the sweetest thing ever.
Growing up, I was always aperson who kept to their self.
Let me keep to their self.
I mean, I had cousins andfriends and all that when I was
kept to myself.
If I had a problem, I tried tosolve it myself.
I never asked for help, neverwanted help.
(43:30):
When I was in kindergarten, Ican go back to the teacher who
would get mad at me Because if Ididn't know the answer to
something, I just either.
I'm not going to get the answer.
I figured out myself.
Teacher, I don't need youtelling me nothing.
So growing up, that's how I was.
So the nicest thing I've everdone for me that I could say
(43:53):
helped change me was, I wouldsay, my friend.
I went through a depressionmode a couple of years ago and,
of course, me being in me, Ikept to myself, didn't want
nobody to help me with it.
But depression is a book ofbirth Once it get old it's hard
(44:16):
to get out.
So she slowly helped me.
She forced because I didn'twant to go out the house and she
like, hey, come on, we got togo here, Come on.
So he helped me get out of thedepression mode.
So I would say that's probablythe nice thing anybody done for
me.
Even though I didn't want tohelp, she helped me anyway.
Speaker 1 (44:38):
Shout out to your mini you, because that's who it
was.
Yes, I figured that, all right.
Oh, I'm in some stuff about meand this relationship.
When you first saw me, whatwere your initial thoughts?
Speaker 2 (44:53):
Damn.
Look at that, oh no.
I know it, I know it.
But after that, after that, Iwas like man, this lady, no, she
can talk, because I don't knowif y'all know, but if y'all are
listeners, like I am, Mama Qwill go on and on and on and on.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
Not for Erica, but I do.
Speaker 2 (45:16):
I like to give you details.
You're going to give all thedetails.
You're going to get it juststep by step.
So then, but then after that,and when we was together for the
extended period of time aboutwhat?
The month or so yeah, I noticedthat I liked your personality.
(45:37):
Yeah, you have a very fixedpersonality.
You're easy to talk to.
Speaker 1 (45:45):
Yeah.
Sometimes, All the time.
Okay, good, good, good.
All right, you are monogamousand I'm polyamory.
How do you handle?
Speaker 2 (45:55):
that, oh, you haven't really been poly.
I mean, think about it.
So I can't say how I can have ahandle something that you
haven't done.
You now, yes, you still believein that and you accurate that.
But you, for the past year andfour months, you have been
(46:23):
monogamous.
And even your, I guess, withthe serve yeah Partner, he
realized that you are reallymonogamous.
That's why he doesn't want to.
I mean, I don't know if youknow that.
I noticed it.
That why he?
He like, no, I'm an open, open,open, a full bed.
Speaker 1 (46:44):
Life's been busy for him.
Speaker 2 (46:49):
No, this night.
It may be that part of what youthink it is, but I know and I
don't know him like thataudience, I just know of him.
But I know a good person is andso a good man.
Even if he's missing or he hasa thing with you on side, he's a
(47:11):
good person.
He see that you have a happyhip, the relationship.
He's not going to want to doanything to disturb it.
Speaker 1 (47:19):
So again, you've been monogamous for the last year
and four months, so I don'tthat's you counting, but okay,
so, okay, okay, but when we gottogether you knew that about me,
but I guess the answer to thatis you've already answered that
where you're not a judgmentalperson.
(47:41):
So yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (47:44):
I'm not.
I'm not just.
No, I don't want to know aboutit.
I guess I don't want to comehome.
Speaker 1 (47:51):
I don't want to know.
Speaker 2 (47:52):
Yeah, I want to come home and some dude, when you
were on the couch there, I'mgoing to do that.
That wouldn't be what you wantto see.
You know that's so.
I don't know.
I guess there's something.
Speaker 1 (48:08):
Time will tell.
Speaker 2 (48:08):
Yeah, time will have to tell yeah.
Speaker 1 (48:10):
Because, um, yeah, because I mean I had an
opportunity where you were goingto to throw down my polyamorous
card like the big joker.
But yeah, I didn't, I didn'twant to.
Yeah, no, yeah, not with theperson who was offering.
No, I didn't, I didn't want to.
I just, I know, as I've toldyou before, is that you and my
(48:33):
sir, y'all the only ones that Iwant, and I mean that.
And if and when the time comesfor him to fire me, um, 99%,
sure, I'll be monogamous, but,yeah, but until then, yeah, I'm
still poly.
Yeah, all right.
How would you define intimacy?
Speaker 2 (48:55):
Straight fucking.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
How would you define intimacy?
Speaker 2 (49:06):
Oh, okay, oh the PTV and no.
I mean I'm still going to keepit.
Uh, so intimacy, really, Idon't think like because we
don't it ain't like, we just doit all day, every day.
So it's really like those timeswhen we just sitting on the
couch and you uh laying on me,yeah, and we watching TV,
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laughing, and somebody passinggas.
So those those times rightthere, you know this and your
cold feet is in my cold feet.
Speaker 1 (49:37):
Oh, I hate that, but anyway.
Speaker 2 (49:38):
Hey, we like touching feet y'all.
That's how, that's how I cameto.
So those times when you justyou can do nothing, but it's
still entertaining.
Speaker 1 (49:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (49:49):
I think there's this intimacy there.
I think that connects to hardmore than just sex or giving
gifts.
It just like if you're able tobone with a person, you
sometimes you even got to bejust talking, you just laying
next to each other.
That's an intimacy.
Speaker 1 (50:07):
Yeah, that's one of the things that um, because I
know all relationships aredifferent, but that's one of the
things that I like about ourrelationship.
Is that, like I can't speak foryou but I am going to speak for
me.
Is that I don't have an issueif you are looking at TV or if
you are on your phone playingthe game.
(50:27):
Like I don't feel like you haveto always pay attention to me
24 seven for some people that'sa big deal because I've seen on
social media I know you ain'tsupposed to pay attention and
give a fuck about social media,but I've seen on social media
where all you know all mypartner does is like play video
games all day, and I've had pastpartners who that's all they've
(50:48):
done, but we still never had aconnection.
Like I really enjoy beingaround you, whether it's you
know me having to, um, get thespray every time you fart.
Speaker 2 (50:59):
Whoa, whoa.
Speaker 1 (51:01):
Wait, hold what you got.
Let me finish.
Or me just like we're just likelooking at my when I'm like um,
trying to look up on Wikipedia,what's happening next, like no
matter what it is that we do, Ienjoy your company, I enjoy
being around you, whether we dosomething or nothing or anything
in between.
Speaker 2 (51:21):
Because I think those times were like, let's say, god
, I feel higher spirit you cansay God, uh, we, uh, we broke up
and I was somebody else.
I think the way I would missabout you most would be like
laying in the bed and I wake upand I'm on like one third of the
(51:45):
bed and you on laying on my onethird of the bed and then when
you finally do roll over, youtake one third of the cover with
you.
I think I think that would bebecause the I got with the next
person.
That person stayed on the sideof the bed while I sleep and I
was on my side of the bed.
I'm like, oh, my boot, thatwould be laying all on the side
(52:08):
of the bed right now.
Yeah, and it'd be the old stylethat you miss, that you did.
Another person can't just feelBecause the next person come in
and they can like they can giveyou six, yeah, but the next
person can't come in and youlaying on the couch and y'all
(52:30):
just chilling and having a goodvibe.
Speaker 1 (52:32):
Okay, good one, all right, this is the last
relationship question thoughtson gender roles within
relationships.
Notice I said Relationships andI did not say our relationship,
cuz who wrote it?
I do.
Speaker 2 (52:48):
Yeah, so I don't think this me purse.
I don't think there should begender roles in relationship now
, although there this should beOkay, like that thing.
We ain't where, the people ofus for dinner.
Oh yeah and the man Didn't payfor the warmest meal.
(53:09):
Even though I pay for yours,she pays my sometimes too.
Yeah, so he maybe.
Speaker 1 (53:15):
I make.
He puts out for it, but anywayyeah, so I'm.
Speaker 2 (53:21):
I think there should be some type of exception.
Like you out Pay for thewarmest meal, but I think for
the most part inside the house,I don't think it should be okay.
You have to clean and I'm gonnago make the money, because this
ain't this ain't 1960 and what.
It doesn't work that way.
I agree, so I don't thiseverything roles Fit in I
(53:42):
society anymore.
Speaker 1 (53:43):
Yeah, I actually agree with you on that one, cuz
I mean, obviously I'm not thetype to want to Believe or have
to deal with gender roles.
Before I met you, when I hadstayed in a different spot, I
cut my own grass and I actuallyfound Joy within doing that.
So, like you know, if we haveour wind, not if when we have
(54:06):
our spot together I'm gonna havean issue with cutting the grass
, because it's something that Ienjoy doing.
You know, and I know it could,I ain't cut no grass.
Speaker 2 (54:15):
I like cutting grass.
Let's try to cut that grassfirst, but carry on.
Speaker 1 (54:19):
Anyway.
So it's like Something like thatis not a big deal for me,
because it's something that Iactually enjoy doing, you know,
um, and where I well, you know,I feel about Christianity and
just religion overall, but I Ilike to subscribe to what you
believe in, which is, likeeverybody, using their strengths
(54:41):
and weaknesses.
So, you know, when it comes to,for example, I'm dealing with
money, you show me what yourworst of actions, that your good
, is saving money and havingthoughts of what to do with it.
So, to me, if, if that'ssomething that you're good at
and I'm not, why not be behindyou or something like that and
(55:04):
stuff.
And and for me, that's aproblem with some relationships,
when they have these genderroles and just think that the if
they're in a heterosexualRelationship where the man is
supposed to run everything islike you don't know everything,
and so if you don't knoweverything and somebody else is
better than you, it's something,or have a better idea.
Let them do that instead ofjust being chest I am now.
I'm just being chest, I am aman type shit.
Speaker 2 (55:26):
So Probably agree with me on something.
Speaker 1 (55:29):
anyway, our last section is all about you.
Speaker 2 (55:33):
It is you to be.
Speaker 1 (55:35):
Why are you so damn petty?
And no one has fired on yourass?
Like, like, don't interrupt me.
Like, how do you balance that?
Is there a button that says youare about to go too far?
Because, oh my gosh, with yourpedin is when I'm like in my
mind like he got one moremotherfucker and then for some
reason you'll just stop, and I'mlike, did he read my mind?
(55:56):
And it's like each and everytime, like you never go, like
the there's a line.
You never cross that line.
You might be like one inch, butyou never cross that line man,
madness of it.
Speaker 2 (56:12):
No, I think I'm just very good at reading people.
Oh yes, I guess.
Speaker 1 (56:19):
But it's a lot.
I know what you're thinking.
It's all right.
Speaker 2 (56:23):
It's okay, yeah, but I'm good at reading people and
what I don't really like to.
I don't want to be a personwith tear jokes to where is
offend the other person, youknow make you feel insecure, so
I never try to go to that point.
You can always joke withsomebody until they get pissed
off.
Yeah so I tried to.
(56:44):
When I see your face, I likeit's done, look like it's a
change.
Okay, well, I'm like let me goon fall back, cuz she's starting
to get upset, or that personstarting to get upset.
Speaker 1 (56:54):
Yeah, okay, another thing about you you are an
overprepared that I love to hate.
How did that happen?
Was it instilled in you orsomething with your past, like
what?
Speaker 2 (57:07):
Well, remember, like I said uh yeah the kid.
I never wanted to ask for help.
Oh, okay, so the correlation soI, in order to prevent myself
having to act for him, alwaysTried to play in the head.
So, even like I said in school,I didn't want to teach you help
.
Yeah so while she was teachinglesson one, I Was learning
(57:31):
lesson one, but on in my sparetime I was going to listen to.
So when she got to listen to,yeah, I already knew yeah what
listen to was about.
So I'm worried about this.
And three, because I don't needyou to help me.
So I just this I just alwaysthought the plan ahead.
I'm a person where I don't careabout the good stuff.
(57:53):
I don't plan for anything goodbecause I was here.
People good, the good stuffnever hurt you.
I'm the bad stuff.
So in my mind I always run abunch of scenarios of what can
go wrong.
Uh-huh, it makes me paranoidsometimes and when, and it also
makes me kind of anxious to goahead of Get the plan rolling.
(58:16):
Yeah case in point, why I'mgoing back to work.
So really, yeah, I get in mymind to where the negative
things going to happen andCertain parts of my plan can't
happen until the negative thingactually does happen.
Speaker 1 (58:29):
Yeah, so I got the.
Speaker 2 (58:30):
I got a rush in like okay, so I can get my plan and
my dumb nose to start falling.
Speaker 1 (58:35):
Okay, cool.
Um, I'm gonna wrap up some ofour, some of the questions that
I had in mind.
I'm gonna cut them out, so wehave yeah, but so we're gonna
have like Three more questions,um, and then, yeah, we'll be
done.
Um, I already answered this,but I want to hear your answer.
(58:56):
What's your quirky is?
Had it I.
Speaker 2 (58:59):
Have none.
I am perfect, perfect, yeah,nothing is quirky about me.
Uh, I guess one said the labelthing I know a lot of people
I've been with and I into myrelationship was yeah, period.
They don't like the wholeExpression, they throw in
(59:20):
everything.
Yeah, this there's to me thatjust makes the most sense.
I have them.
I'm not the one that put thebest by sale by inspired by days
on the day.
Put it on there.
Yeah then, and I kiss now.
It all will say probably thelooking for perfection.
Speaker 1 (59:45):
Yeah, look at that, I'm a perfectionist too.
Uh Uh.
How was couples therapy when wewent, and was that your first
time in therapy?
Speaker 2 (59:59):
Yes, that was my first time in therapy.
Oh, I think that one was.
One of the issues were becauseI don't really believe in
therapies, so there might be oneof time.
I was in about overcompensatingfor a relationship because my
previous ratio she wanted to goto couples therapy and I'm like
(01:00:21):
ain't going to that she's.
They just help acceleratethings.
Yeah, this time I like we didit the last time, let's try this
time.
Oh, but it's a try to be aWasn't not what I had in mind.
It was.
It was pretty good.
I Was able to open up and get aneutral party perspective on it
(01:00:46):
and, from what I gathered fromit, most of what I was saying
was right.
He was mostly wrong.
So it was actually delicious tobe on the winning team, because
everybody's all about winningand losing.
So, yeah, I feel like I won andit was pretty good.
Speaker 1 (01:01:01):
That was great segue to the last questions.
What, speaking of winning team,what made you a Cowboys fan?
Speaker 2 (01:01:09):
Oh, you know the answer to this.
Speaker 1 (01:01:11):
I know, but they don't, so oh.
Speaker 2 (01:01:14):
I'm a Uber now.
I am a Uber cowboy fan.
Speaker 1 (01:01:17):
Oh yes.
Speaker 2 (01:01:18):
I'm type of person where when they lose, I cry, if
they win, I'm happy, I'm sad andthey're nervous throughout the
game.
I definitely believe next yearis gonna be our year.
I even went as far as to.
I've told you I think I toldyou the other day and I told my
sister that when I, when I die,I want a cowboy casket.
(01:01:42):
If I can get it, get the cowboycasket.
I may want to be cremated and Iwant to be sprinkled on the
Dallas cowboy at the devilcowboy stadium on the 50 yard
line.
That's what I want.
Okay and uh.
And to make sure that happens,I even.
There's another reason I have alot of life insurance policies
(01:02:02):
because Y'all would bemillionaires and and with some
of them being done, y'all willbe able to buy tickets to get on
the field.
And when you get on the field,that way you can spray a cup rig
my ass.
You know you can't.
I want her that old.
The ticket $10,000.
So.
But how did I become a cowboyfan?
(01:02:23):
Back in the 90s to the 49ersplayed the Cowboys in a regular
season game and I Think I mayhave been about nine at the time
and now, like, whoever winsthis game is gonna be my team
for life.
Speaker 1 (01:02:39):
That's how much a plan around.
Speaker 2 (01:02:41):
In this one instant I left up the chance and the
Cowboys won a game.
They actually end up winningthe Super Bowl that year in.
Speaker 1 (01:02:49):
Wait, was that the last time we won the Super Bowl?
Speaker 2 (01:02:51):
No, that was the last time, one of like 96.
This was like in 92.
Speaker 1 (01:02:57):
Okay, cool, so that's all that I have.
Are there any questions thatyou have for me or anything?
Then you want to share that youthink the listeners want to
hear.
Speaker 2 (01:03:11):
Anything that I have for you.
I'm at, I'm with you, so I knowMost of the stuff that I need
to know.
Speaker 1 (01:03:18):
I know that's this.
Doing this was kind ofdifficult because it's like,
like you just said, I know you.
So, yeah, I had to get most ofthese answers from Google.
Speaker 2 (01:03:31):
Well, I guess I.
Why do you feel about?
Or, if you could, would you tryto switch your family over to
believe in who do your, yourmother side or your father side?
Speaker 1 (01:03:41):
No, I don't want to switch in, nobody over to it at
all.
Um, I want people to questionif they want to.
I want people to not judge meand call it demonic, that's for
sure.
But I don't want to forceanybody.
You know I'm a consent orientedperson and even though I think
(01:04:02):
who do for Us black people is agreat route to go on, I don't
want to be like the people Idon't like, which are some
Christians.
That, what is the wordprophesies, or whatever
prophesies.
I know it starts with a people.
Anyway, long story that's long.
Yeah, I don't want to forcenobody into it to do it.
(01:04:25):
I want them to be curious aboutand come over willingly.
Speaker 2 (01:04:29):
So Okay, well, this was a question I do have and I
was wondering if this seems likea great time to ask you.
So, technically speaking,technically speaking, you have a
problem with both your mothersActual mother, step mother.
(01:04:50):
So is there anything that theycould do?
Well, that you will, that willmake you forgive them.
Damn.
Speaker 1 (01:05:04):
That's the oh no, um, I Told this to my therapist and
I don't ever want to say never,but I'm 99% certain that the
woman that gave birth to methere is absolutely nothing that
she could do to make me forgiveher.
Now, the caveats of that is I Dowant to be an honorable and in
(01:05:28):
line ancestor, I want to be ableto ascend and I don't want to
not be able to be honorable.
So, unfortunately, if I wouldhave to forgive in order to be
on there, then I would, butotherwise fuck her, and I mean
that in the most disrespectfulway for me.
(01:05:48):
She has done too much stuff andthe final thing that she did
was just the last straw.
For me and I Tell my therapistis and I think I tell you this
too is that when people show youwho you are, you supposed to
believe them, and unfortunately,I give people so many chances
to Show me who they are, chanceafter chance, and so therefore,
(01:06:13):
I would be pissed off at myselfif I forgive her and let things
Be okay and she does somethingagain, and it will be my fault,
because I knew who the fuck shewas.
Dear mother on dad's second wife.
Fuck her as well.
She needs therapy like amotherfucker.
Yeah, she needs therapy.
(01:06:34):
The only way that I think andagain I'm trying not to say
never, say never, but the onlyway that I think I could ever
forgive her For her shit is ifnumber one, she wholeheartedly
Apologizes for everything, andtype of person I am when it
comes to apologizing is I wantyou to like Apologize and say
(01:06:55):
the things that you did not know, like I'm sorry, I know.
Like I'm sorry, no.
Like, hey, you know, mama Q,I'm sorry for being a bitch a
few days ago thinking that youdidn't say hello to me, even
though that hello was foreveryone you know.
And then take action with beingbetter, because if you
apologize to somebody and youare still doing the same
(01:07:17):
behavior, it's no longer anapology, it's a pile of lies.
Hi, hi, sorry, yeah, um.
So, with that being said, fuckthem both.
Um, shout out to the ancestors,hope that they work on me and
understand that maybe eventually, someday, hopefully, I'll
forgive them, because I want tobe an elevated ancestor, but 99%
sure.
Fuck them, kiss my ass and Imay or may not have.
(01:07:40):
Iterate them if they go beforeI do.
That's all, I'm good, excellent, okay.
Well, we've talked a lot.
Oh wait, damn skirt back up.
I'm supposed to thank you.
Well, I do appreciate you somuch for being a loyal listener
and being in love of my life andjust haven't In just um, being
(01:08:02):
upfront and willing toparticipate in this.
Oh my gosh, she's making facefacial expression, yeah.
So anyway, thank you for that.
So you can say bye to thepeople, so I can do my actual by
from Daddy Q.
Well, I've talked long enough.
Q out.
Hey, hi, it's me Mama Q.
I welcome you to Moments in Q.
Let me interview you bonusepisode In Q today Hawaii and
Tells of ["Hawaii and Tells of"]Hawaii.
(00:22):
I give you the greeting of theday and I'm explaining the why
of this episode.
Do you know what today is?
It's our anniversaryAnniversary.
Happy first pod anniversary.
Thank you so much for walkingwith me this past year.
Here's the bonus episode withmy partner, my sugar daddy, the
(00:44):
love of my Mike Foxtry life.
He exists, he is real and we'regoing to be talking about some
real things from Polly Amoryspirituality who do in our
relationship.
So enjoy this bonus episode.
I will see you February 2024.
And remember, we don't boys.
["hawaii and Tells of"] Tellsof.
(01:12):
These interviews, first andforemost, are for the ancestors
and descendants.
I want to honor the ancestorsand the spiritual practice of
who do by talking about them byname and explaining what it
means to us.
Then I want the descendants tolearn more about their family
members in hopes of learningsomething new about our family
to share with future descendantsa time capsule, if you will.
(01:36):
And also people perk up whenyou talk about them, so that's a
bonus too.
Today's episode is brought toyou by this quote it's our year,
signed every Cowboys fan eachyear.
["hawaii and Tells of"].
Hey, hi, it's me, mama Cute,and I'm here with another
(02:01):
interview.
You have heard about him somany times the man, the myth,
the legend, the boob thing, thelove of my Mike Fox tri life.
It's our anniversary of thepodcast, and so I thought that
it was only right to prove y'allthat he exists.
Say what's up, boob thing.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I do exist.
I do exist.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Yeah, y'all, he exists.
So again, this is theanniversary of my podcast for
one year, so grateful andthankful to have it, for people
to be rocking and my number onefan sitting right in front of me
and stuff.
We're at the 11th hour tryingto get it together because he's
a procrastinator.
I blame you, but yeah, so again, I'll be back February.
(02:49):
In the meantime, in betweentime, you'll have bonus episodes
of me interviewing people.
All right, so how you doingboob thing?
Speaker 2 (02:56):
I'm doing pretty good , can't complain yet.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
Yeah, you been not complaining at all.
You with me.
Shoot what you talking about,All right, so we're going to
start up with these questions.
Talks to each other like wealways do.
See where it goes from there,and I'm pretty confident we'll
still be together after this,what you think?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
The baitable 20% positive.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
20%, 20% positive.
All right, here comes the onemore questions.
If you had a time machine,would you fix your past mistakes
or see your future?
Speaker 2 (03:27):
That's a pretty good question.
I would probably fix my pastmistakes.
I think everybody would preferto go back to when it was 2018,
if I knew what I knew now,correct their problems and
change their future.
Me I probably would make suremy credit was inject up in my
(03:48):
early years of 18 to 21.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
OK, I can see that, even though I'm the ones who's
asking these questions.
I don't know.
I would rather see my future,because your answer is a good
one, but I guess maybe fromlooking at too much of back to
the future.
And what was that other onethat we saw recently with?
(04:12):
Was that Invincible when theydid yeah, yeah, when they did
the no, it wasn't Invincible.
What was that movie?
It was the Past and the Future.
You had saw on YouTube orsomething.
Oh, girl had the time machine.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Oh, you said oh, I don't remember the name of it.
Shoot, Damn this bit.
Thought it escaped me.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Yeah, leave me alone, ok, so whenever I mess up and
my number one fan hears it inall ways, I think that's going
to be the title.
That thought escaped me, anyway.
So whatever movie I'm talkingabout, there were women who got
stabbed 16 times on their 16thbirthday, and so when they
(04:54):
decided to go into the Past totry to prevent it, one of the
scientists had said something,and I'll paraphrase knowledge
about you don't mess up thetimeline.
That's a myth, something likethat.
So, whatever, whatever.
So I don't know.
I just kind of want to see thefuture Because, you know, you're
my proof.
I love my life and I don't wantto fix my mistakes, because my
(05:16):
mistakes is what made me be withyou.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Well, what if, in the future, you saw that I cheated
on you with another girl, soyou're going to go back in the
Past and break up with me aboutsomething that I did in the
future?
That ain't easy.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Um, yeah, I mean, well, I did have that dream that
you were cheating on me and youwent to the mall when you were
away from me.
You didn't cheat on me, but youdid go to the mall.
So I accepted you then becauseI was like that's a different
dimensional boo thing.
The boo thing that I'm with nowwon't cheat, yeah, yeah,
(05:54):
because, if not, the ancestorsgot him, anyway.
Second one would you rathersell or van life around the
world?
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I would probably sell .
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Because you can swim and I can't.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Yes, because we would sell together.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
I can't swim.
Why not van life?
I love driving, I can't swim.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Van life would probably be OK too, but if I'd
been, I would try to drive fromthe United States to Russia.
I mean, I know they say youcan't really do it, but I
thought if it's the coldest part, when it's ice, you probably
can drive across again.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Oh, I want to risk it .
Okay, all right.
Last one more question as adessert connoisseur what's the
best thing besides me?
What's the best thing you'veeaten?
Yeah, yeah, you nasty.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
No, I was actually when I was overseas.
It was a restaurant in KualaLumpur.
Now it was in Saudi.
It was called the Tower.
They had this cheesecake.
The cheesecake tastes likeheaven.
It was so good.
It was the best dessert I everhad in my life.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Just a regular cheesecake.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
It was like a raspberry type topping on top of
it.
It was so good, it was fluffy.
It was better than anycheesecake.
It's not a level cheesecakethat matters.
That cheesecake I had, oh okay,all right.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Well, thanks for that .
I'm churning it.
Wait a little bit.
I made you bake the last one.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
That's the second best thing.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I'm like, yes, yeah, they can't see you, but I can
see you.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Aquas.
Yeah, all right, we're movingon to my moments and cue
questions.
All right, what is who do toyou?
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Okay, before we get together.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Before I allowed you in my space.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Before I agreed to let you be part of the winning
team.
Who do?
To me was a cheap version ofvoodoo, like, if you can't
afford voodoo, we get who do?
That's what I'll before Now.
I think that who do isvenerating the ancestors, using
(08:27):
their spiritual energy to, Iguess, particular in your daily
life as you go.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
Wow, that was the best answer, because, well, I
mean also you kind of cheated,because I mean you see me do
this and so you know what is it?
Damn, that escapes me,motherfucker, oh God.
Oh well, yeah, because you'veseen me.
But it's okay, that's fine, allright.
(08:57):
So the next one.
But oh man, I don't have ittogether and I took my meds.
I think I'm kind of nervousbeing around you.
Anyway, um, yeah, that was andI'm not just saying this that,
yeah, that was the best answer,even though, like I said, you
just cheated a little bitbecause you see me do different
(09:17):
things within the practicing ofwho do.
But I like that, I like that.
You got this, you got it, yougot the right stuff.
Oh yeah, all right.
So name a moment where you canmake this ish up, because that's
what I call it, or I'll say youcan't make this shit up,
whichever one, depending on howI feel.
And I titled that because in myexperience, there's been times
(09:41):
where, like, things alignthemselves so perfectly that
it's like undeniably like youcannot make this shit up.
So you can.
You can answer that in regardsto spirituality, religion, where
there's no denying that there'sa God, a higher, higher creator
, Jesus, whatever way you wantto describe and, as always,
(10:04):
there's no wrong or right.
Asher.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Honestly, I don't really have a moment like that,
mainly because I am.
I'm not a Christian by anymeans, but I believe in Jesus.
But I don't think that heactively works like, okay, I'm
going to come down here and Iguess what folks say answer
prayers?
I guess I don't believe he doesit.
(10:28):
I believe he does no monitorsand let you go about your life.
So I guess, if you would say,can't make this stuff up, no, I
just think things happen onrandom.
Okay, there's no higher power,they're all milling in there.
It might be a high poweroverseeing, but they don't
necessarily involve themselves.
And I really think like that.
(10:51):
Because when you think aboutthose serious things that
happened in the world, I wouldthink that, although I can't
understand the meaning why theylet a five year old get shot in
the head, I would like to thinkthat somewhere that that high
(11:11):
power would at least let thekiller be found.
Yeah, and it'd be a lot ofinstances where they killer
doesn't get found.
You day and be with the 15 yearold girl in the woods in the
box.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
And nobody ever find out who did it.
So I would think that somewherewe will be a resolution to that
.
So that's why I don't think Idon't really focus on a I can't
believe this happened or youcan't make this stuff up moment.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Yeah, I mean what you just said was a whole bunch of
negative stuff.
I mean, I know from doing Reikion you when you were away from
me, left me for so long, I haddid long distance Reiki on you
and here it is that I knew whatparts of your body were aching
(11:55):
or hurt and stuff like that.
So I mean, again, there's nowrong or right answer, but you
made it just so sad and morbid.
But like for me.
I mean I always have a can'tmake this shit up response
anyway but like to me, that wasa moment that I had hoped to
quote unquote prove to you thatthat this stuff, as far as Reiki
(12:17):
that I do, is real.
You don't you're.
It's not like you're skeptical,well, no, let me fix that.
It's not like you don't believeme or believe in it.
You're just sometimes skeptical.
So for me, when I was able todo long distance Reiki on you
and without knowing where youwere hurting, and I could tell
(12:40):
you that to me was a part, well,the many times of can't make
this issue.
But again.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
it will look.
I was just kind of like amoulder and scully from the
X-File I think more than whatthe one they believed in scully,
but you know she saw all thealiens that she went through all
this stuff with them.
She did like is it really,though?
That's kind of thing how Ithink is?
Speaker 1 (13:09):
our thing, our relationship, there you go.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Put yeah, your, your, your blessing.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Oh yeah, I'm the blessing.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
Yeah Well, who's the catch?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Me Duh, yeah, yeah, next question yeah, better be
All right.
So growing up in Memphis, tenaKey, did you learn any hoodoo
type of rituals, sands, oldwives, tales, things like that,
for example, not to eateveryone's spaghetti or sweeping
other feet, and please do notsay Jojo the Bootyman.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Well, jojo the Bootyman is not a ritual.
I mean no, okay, anybody that,if you want to just Google being
Hampton, jojo the Bootyman, uh,scared in a candy man or Bloody
Mirror, but I think, growing upnot knowing that there was
anything to do with spiritual,or I guess we just superstitious
(14:08):
for us.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Maybe that's a better word to, but yeah,
superstitious.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
Step on the Craig, break your mama back yeah, if
you saw a black cat got to walklike seven steps back or
something.
Or as you have bad luck, or youbreak a mirror, yeah, of course
the spaghetti that's I thinkmost Southern people is big on,
or you can't even eat about it,spaghetti.
I'm not going to get it to whatI missed.
(14:34):
Maybe you will, but I did.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
I mean as a loyal listener.
You should have known that Itook care of that, maybe episode
one or two because I recitedthe great and wonderful Project
Pat a nigga, that's down for thecrown man.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
Like I was surprised you remembered it.
It would be in your age, wow.
So yeah, I don't know a coupleof those superstitions that I
grew up with and I really didn'tthink it would be part of a
hoodoo African tradition until Igot with you or until I allowed
you to get with me.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I allowed you to get with me, all right.
It was consensual.
Yeah, yeah, don't be giving methose bedroom eyes the way you
acted anyway.
So, like, like some of thatstuff, um, I wouldn't say that
it is who do per se is voodoo.
(15:32):
No, you know, voodoo is areligion.
But some of that stuff within,as I've said many, many times
before when I use the spaghettione, because there are bodily
fluids that we all have thathelps the universe Like that's
your DNA literally and it alsohelps the universe pinpoint who
(15:56):
you are.
It's like there's differentlevels to it and if you can get
somebody's hair or DNA, that'slike the highest and the lowest
can be like their signature orphoto of them in it.
Um, so some of these sayings, Imean you could kind of put that
in who do?
And there wouldn't be anythingwrong with it, but definitely
(16:17):
the um spaghetti and sweeping ofthe feet, um, you could say the
same with stepping on a crack,because I mean you, yeah, that
would be a stretch Armstrong,but I feel like you could,
because there's power withinwords, um, and you know this,
but you still like to say thecrazy things that you say.
Do not say it right now.
Thank you, um, so there ispower in words and power in your
(16:43):
steps and stuff like that.
So again I could see ithappening.
But yeah, that's fine, allright.
So I know I'm asking youquestions, but do you have any
questions about the things I do,such as Reiki, who do playing
cards, all of that stuff?
I feel like you shouldn'tbecause you've never asked me.
(17:03):
But hey, go for it.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Well, I guess for the listeners, what's the craziest
thing?
You well, I guess for you wouldbe considered normal, but for
somebody's not in, who do well,is the crazy thing that you have
done in the hood religion.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Um, I have some stories that I can, I can share,
since they got really past.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Um, not Okay it's not crazy, but I have done um
workings.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Other people call them spills and I can call them
spills too, but usually in whodo they call it workings?
Um, I've done workings forothers and it literally has
worked out.
Um, let's see one person inparticular.
You know that person, but I'llsay their name um, off the mic.
Um, after we're done with this.
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Um had asked me to do a spailFor them and I did um for money
and the first time ever, thatcandle like exploded in a way
where my um smoke detector wentoff and they freaked me out
because I've never done it andthinking about it now, I
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probably shouldn't have.
And so that's one of thereasons why, number one, I don't
do workings um for other peopleanymore unless it's family.
And then do you see something?
Okay, that's one why I don't doworkings for other people.
This is not family.
And number two, um, again, ifit's not for family, I won't put
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it on my ancestral altar.
I'll um, I have my ownmakeshift altar that I'll do
workings for other people.
The second thing dealing withthat person was that they wanted
a candle done for them to getmoney that someone owed them,
and I had just kept getting onthis person like yo.
I wrote I put in so much energy, time and effort into this
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candle and to getting the herbscorrect into the petition paper.
Every single thing, do do it.
Well, they were beinghardheaded.
So I sent them a text messagebecause, again, there's powers
and words, and I had um.
I'm not going to say the exactwords, but I had basically told
them that um it, that um.
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I'm calling on my ancestors toum get them if they don't get
the um candle taken care of.
So of course, I was ignored.
That was Friday.
That Sunday, no, that Mondaycame and I said hey, how was
your weekend?
Was it good, as I expected?
And they had said to me that Iam working on the candle right
(19:52):
now.
I'm going to light it today.
Speaker 2 (19:54):
And I'm like why?
Speaker 1 (19:55):
And they had twisted their ankle and they used to do
what is those four wheels?
Or something like that.
They um, draw four wheels andnormally a four wheel wheel or
wheel gets stuck.
But this one got super, superstuck in the mud and stuff.
So I was like, huh, I bet you,next time I tell you to do
something, you'll do it.
So yeah, so that's normal to me, but maybe not so um normal to
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someone else.
So did that answer yourquestion?
Speaker 2 (20:23):
It was pretty nice, it was pretty nice.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Okay, good, all right , we're going to move on to
spirituality questions and stuff, even though what we just did
talking about who do, but thoseare just my main cue questions
that I asked everybody.
All right, do you believe inkarma?
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Uh, yes, I do believe that.
But whatever you do to somebody, uh, it will be returned to you
.
Uh, then why kind of base?
Try to be nice and giving thisby possibly, can, so hopefully,
with a big good karma or badkarma?
Did I deserve karma away?
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Yeah, I, oh, another story time.
Now, this was before Iofficially started practicing
hoodoo, so this is a twofer.
But this also deals with karma.
So my high school sweethearthad cheated on me.
Seen here in high school, wewent to do different high
schools and we broke up afterthat month because my heart was
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broken, blah, blah, blah, and sowe were supposed to go back
with being each other and I feltlike he stood me up for the
date.
So I was at the movie theatershe didn't live too far from it.
So once he I can't even rememberif I looked at the movies like
go in, or if I just went to themoves and then went to his house
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or what have you.
I don't know the exact cause.
That was a long go, but anyway,point is, eventually, obviously
, I left the movie theater, wentdown the street around the
corner to his house, saw his car, keyed his car and we went to
the same church together.
So Sunday before I tookcommunion cause, the type of
Christian denomination I belongto, they would do communion
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every Sunday, so not just thefirst Sunday of the month.
So me I'm not wanting anythingto happen to me I was like, ooh,
I gotta tell you I keyed yourcar and then I did my whole part
in the name of all of a sudden,holy Ghost took the bread, took
the juice and then cause it'slike I feel better.
So anyway, like, maybe lessthan a week later, my car had a
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freak.
There was a freak accident withmy car where I opened up the
driver's side and I I guess apebble or a rock bust out the
window.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
Amen and.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
I was like shit, I'll never do anything to him again
and I did not.
But the cool thing is thatafter I keyed his car cause I
never knew he and of the car wasa real thing to fuck up
somebody's paint After I didthat, nothing went well with his
vehicle.
After that, one of the womenthat he cheated on me with told
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the entire school what happenedto him.
The paint was peeling off.
It was just all that.
I was like okay, yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
I guess one of mine would be.
Back in my younger days I usedto mess with people.
They had significant others andwhen back when, so when I got
in a relationship, the person Iwould end up cheating on me.
So I felt that pain of what youwould miss when somebody was
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with a significant other.
So, yeah, karma is real.
So what you do, it'll comearound and he'll get you back.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
Yeah, and like I said from that moment, for the most
part I ain't gonna always be100%, but for the most part I
too try my best to treat peopleright and I don't try to be like
some practitioners who you didthis to me, so I'm gonna get I'm
a quote, unquote sick myancestors on you.
I'm not that type of person.
I give people, I believe, morechances than I should, and when
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it reaches a fever pitch I guessthat's what I'm trying to say
that's when I'm like okay,ancestors, can you help take
care of my lightweight?
And I view it as a defensemechanism.
But yeah, I try my best totreat people right in hopes that
I won't have to do that.
So what about reincarnation?
You believe in it?
Speaker 2 (24:33):
Part of me does believe that when you die you'll
come back as somebody else orsomething else, but I think they
would suck Like I don't know ifI really wanna come Like if I,
once I'm gone, I don't wannacome back again.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
But it wouldn't be.
It wouldn't be like boop thing,love in my life.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
It could be like I'm not gonna remember anything,
yeah, so if I wanna come back,even if I'm a plant, I don't
care.
I wanna remember my previouslife.
What's the point of coming backto life as if I came back as a
girl and I can't rememberanything from this life.
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So I mean, I'm just goingthrough life.
I'm just gonna make the samemistakes as I did in my previous
life and never learned anything.
So part of me hoping thatreincarnation is not real.
But if you look at how theworld or nature works, rain
comes from the sky, hits theground, does what it does,
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evaporates, goes back into thesky and just goes over.
So everything in life is kindof a circle.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
Circle of life.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
So maybe it is true, maybe it is how it works, who
knows?
Nobody else can remember.
Well, anybody that passed neverhave came back to say what it
did or didn't do, and maybe thatis how some people you look in
history books.
You've got a celebrity thatlooks like this king.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
So maybe that is true , but, like I said, I'm hoping
that is not true.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Yeah, I believe.
Even though this is aninterview, I'm gonna answer some
of these questions too.
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
As you should.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
I mean, I want everybody to understand the
dynamic.
I interview you, you're theinterviewee.
Sometimes, Anyway, I do 100%believe in reincarnation and I
feel the same way you do.
Like, damn, it would be nice ifI could remember, but sometimes
I am quadruple, able toremember parts of my past.
(26:44):
So that's kind of cool and alsonot kind of cool.
So, but what I also think isthat I guess that it could help
to not remember, because youknow that I would think that you
could remember how you died andI think that that could
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potentially be traumatic,depending on how you go.
The other thing about it is,yeah, I would want to remember,
so in the hopes that I wouldn'tmake the same mistakes, but a
hope of mine would be that just,there's this thing and I'm
gonna go off the tangent, butI'm not gonna go too far with it
but there's this thing calledAkashic Records Hopefully I'm
(27:25):
pronouncing it correctly whenit's like this huge database.
I almost feel like you and I sawthat when we looked at what was
that?
It was the show that we lookedat where they had the robots
Dang it, the first show that westarted to look at.
Come on with the robots and theoh, do, do, do, oh wait, who
(27:47):
are you not even letting mefinish?
Okay, it was the robots andthey were Westerns, and then
they would do Our Westworld ohshit, Westworld yeah, and so
like I Good job, teamwork yeah.
Okay.
So like when they uploaded oh,spoiler, blah, blah, blah, when
they uploaded that stuff likethe database kind of reminded me
(28:08):
of the Akashic Records.
So anyway, long story, lesslong cause I'm not very versed
in Akashic Records and I hopeI'm pronouncing it correctly.
It's like the records ofeverything that has happened on
the earth, from moment of worth,the world beginning to, you
know, I guess, to the end.
And some people have the ability, through meditation and calling
on the spirit of Akashic tohelp them reveal the records and
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stuff like that.
And so like, before I got myreading from my mentor, pamela,
some of these thoughts of mypast, kind of like I had an
inkling of it or whatever, andsometimes she was able to reveal
them to me.
So I think I say all they saythat I think I see both sides of
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it and it sucks, cause you knowwhat if you didn't get to do
everything?
Or what if you're repeatinglife again, like I would like to
go to Japan or something likethat?
And it's like what if in aprevious world I already went to
Japan?
Speaker 2 (29:09):
Well, I'm like I would want to do the recarnation
, but I would want to be like,kind of like what on Black
Panther?
Where, when you died and youwent to that ancestral realm,
yeah.
So I would like, I would prefer, when I pass and you go there
and you see your mother, yourgrandmother, your uncle and you
(29:31):
can kind of connect.
I mean, you see, fivegenerations in the past you're
like, oh, you're my uncle, yeah,I'm your uncle.
Well, when I was alive I did Ibuilt a building.
Yeah, oh, that's.
I mean it wouldn't have youdead, damn, you were still.
You know, the family would beslowly, as I say, getting back
(29:53):
together.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Oh, I like that one.
Okay, you kind of answered thisone, so if you don't want to
answer it again, you don't haveto.
But the question I wrote is areyou religious or spiritual
person?
Now, I know that you just saidthat you are a Christian, but
not an Uber Christian.
So like, where is your?
What is the word I'm lookingfor, I guess what is your
(30:20):
relationship with Christianity?
Yeah, there we go.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
I believe again.
I believe that in Jesus Christdo I go to church?
No, I mean, I've been tochurches More than I've been to
church.
Okay yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:33):
Church is the chief.
Yeah, I'm so tired of you, yes.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
So I mean I mean growing up at my cousin you say
we went to church more than God.
Yeah, Because we used to atBible study church, Sunday
schools, um, Deakin, uh, Usherboy, you quiet Saturday church.
So we went to church a lot.
So maybe they burned me out.
(30:58):
But man, like I still believeJesus is the savior, that they
came to save me and can now letbut I'm not a oh me quote the
Bible At all.
You gonna go to hell because Idon't believe in all that.
But I'm hoping that it's morelike a free wheel type thing,
(31:20):
because what I read it in thoseBible it seemed like Somebody
who I would think like likemarlith king could end up going
to here because something to behe, because he told a lie back
in the day.
Oh yeah and that'd be kind ofcrazy.
I'm, I'm watching that gang.
Marlith king, you're gonna.
Yeah, yeah, I lied when I was30, so, so, there was a gun,
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there's something someone else.
Yeah, that'd be kind of crazy.
Watch them go to here becausehe was in the christians whole.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:51):
Like, but he was.
He was a really good person onearth.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
So you know, thinking black people's, aren't you this
and stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
Hey, well, you know anybody good.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
And so, like I said, I'm not, they're a Christian,
but I do believe okay, and sohow does that, how, um, how does
that work within ourrelationship, and do you think
that there, there, there is amoment where too much of my
hoodu could be too much for you,because You've been a Christian
(32:26):
and me being a hoodupractitioner even though, as
I've always said, you can doboth, but I don't.
I'm just.
I have denounced Christianityand Some people that could mess
up people's relationships,because usually people want to
get together and it's sure, tothe person that they're with,
have the same religious andspiritual.
However, we're doing well withour relationship, so it it
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doesn't seem to be a hindrance,but for you, um, yeah, how does
that work?
And Can you think over time, if, who do my hoodu would be just
too much?
Speaker 2 (33:02):
well, again I'm gonna .
I'm a more of a logical thinker.
So at the end of the day, let'sbe honest, does Christianity or
not christian religion reallymatter?
No Reason why I say that?
Because nobody knows who'sright.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
Yeah, I think we're all.
To be honest, I've said thiswith my sister, ash, where I
think we're all right.
I think no matter if we'recalling God, buddha, jesus, I
don't know, whatever, whatever,I think that we are all calling
the same person.
Well, yeah, I hear what you'resaying.
Speaker 2 (33:40):
I think I'm working, since nobody really knows.
I think everybody has theirbase.
Yeah, like you said, whetheryou call it God or whatever, he
may be that or she or they.
Yes, uh, we had a supreme being,but the underneath, like I
would say Jesus and and all theother, buddha would, it would be
(34:01):
those secondary things.
So, but nobody knows who'sright and like I could Say, oh
no, I don't want to be with youbecause, uh, uh, uh, the hoodu
thing, and it turns out thatyour hoodu thing was the
actually the right one and I waswrong as a fool.
I was wrong as a fool, so Idon't really judge it.
(34:22):
It's not my place to judge.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Good answer.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
And so I don't, I don't even think about what you.
That's just what you believe iswhat you believe.
Uh, is it time where it'd betoo much?
Oh?
Speaker 1 (34:36):
I don't think that I'm about to answer you.
I don't think it will bebecause, um, when we got
together, I told you aboutpissing in jars, you still
decided to consent to being withme, so I don't think I'll ever
be.
Speaker 2 (34:47):
Well, I ain't seen you piss.
Well, you did you pick it.
You were there one time.
I think you pissed in the jar.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
No, I don't think you've heard me talk about it,
but you've never seen me do thepiss in the jar.
I ain't having physically.
Speaker 2 (34:57):
But I thought you uh, it was instant where you was
finna, do it to somebody.
Speaker 1 (35:01):
Yeah, finna but dinner.
Speaker 2 (35:03):
Okay, well, finna don't make dinner, I guess.
So, uh, no, I don't, I don'tthink it'd be.
Uh, oh, that's too much.
I'd be like, hmm, that's wild,crazy.
But I don't think till I be uh,turned off by no okay, cool.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
Now we're getting on to relationship questions.
All right, do you think peoplefall in love because the right
person shows up or because thetime in their life is right?
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Uh, for me the timing of the life is right.
Uh, if you would have met mewhen I was 18, then I we
probably want to be togetherbecause one I wasn't looking for
Again and I was already taken.
Yeah, uh, but also I wasn'ttrying to have a relationship
when I was 18.
I only was attracted to womenwho were here, somebody else, oh
(36:00):
.
Speaker 1 (36:00):
So I wouldn't have been looking for a relationship
with wait, I did have somebodywhen I was 18, so you would have
been attracted to me.
What Got your ass?
Speaker 2 (36:11):
Yeah.
So yeah, I wasn't looking fornothing serious.
Yeah so it was, it would, itwould have been no option for a
relationship to blossom.
All right, and I think maturitylevel, a younger me doesn't
have the same knowledge andacceptance as a, uh, the older
(36:34):
man.
All right, because you know, Iain't nothing but no 40.
Whoa, whoa, oh, what you get,what would you get?
Uh?
So yeah, I was an incidencewhen it was a carcassian woman,
she, she tried to holler at meback when I was I think I was 17
(36:54):
at the time, but because mymother and my sisters, uh, these
early 90s, y'all early 90s, souh, that thing was like bringing
home a white woman, I wouldkill you, boy, he bring her
white woman.
So I gave her Opportunity toeven go down that road, because
(37:16):
I'm not gonna bring a whitewoman home to my mama, because
I'm gonna ask a fool.
Yeah but if you were when, nowand when you weren't together.
And I don't care if she's white, you know black age, you know
whatever me Uh, if I think she'sattractive and she has a good
head on the shoulders, I'mwilling to give it an
(37:37):
opportunity.
So yeah, time changes.
Speaker 1 (37:40):
Yeah.
What did your pastrelationships teach you?
Speaker 2 (37:45):
patience, understand, uh, it was.
Uh, people change.
I think people do change, butit takes a long time.
Nobody's gonna change overnight, definitely.
So patience and, like I said,understanding his voice blend in
(38:08):
two lives together.
Oh yeah, so you have to kind ofI don't know, I don't want to
say give up a piece of you,because you shouldn't kind of
lose nothing.
But you got to, I guess,compromise.
Speaker 1 (38:21):
I consider it a Venn diagram where you know what a
Venn diagram means.
Sure, don't, don't worry, it'sgoing to make sense in a minute.
So, venn diagram, you.
This is how I think ourrelationship, all relationships,
are romantic, non-reminiscent,whatever, whatever.
So you have Venn diagram whereyou have a circle of you.
So right here, even though y'allcan't see it, I'm literally
(38:44):
making my hands into circles sohe can get the visual.
But anyway, you have Venndiagram.
So circle is boutang,everything that makes boutang
tick.
Then you have me, sugar mama,everything that makes sugar mama
tick.
Well, actually, mama can don'tmatter whatever.
And then you Sugar mama, it was, it is.
And then you, there's thecircles, they interlock, and
(39:06):
then in the middle is where theyoverlap, right, and I think
that that, and I think thatthat's where the relationship is
, because, just like you said,you're taking everybody's,
taking, their trauma, theirbaggage, their relationship
beliefs, their religious.
They're taking everything withthem and they're trying to blend
(39:26):
it together.
And that part where it overlapsinto Venn diagram is where you
get the sweet spot.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
So, yeah, yeah, now I don't want, I don't want to
take too much of my pastrelationship into my new
relationship.
Oh, yeah Well, I'm not saying,I'm just saying, like you know,
for example oh, this is one ofyour courtiest habits, I will
Well the reason why I say thatis because I think if you take
too much of your pastrelationship into your new
(39:54):
relationship, then one you'renot being yourself.
Then you're going toovercompensate, like, okay, my
last relationship ended becauseI didn't cook, yeah, so now in
my new relationship I'm going totry to do all the cooking.
All the cooking, oh, okay.
And then that person will belike, well, you never let me
cook.
Then it's on that, instead ofthe problem being you broke up
because you never wanted to cook.
Yeah, that's because you neverlet that person help or do
(40:17):
anything.
So I think you justoverconcerned.
Speaker 1 (40:20):
Yeah, okay, I feel you now.
I guess what I was thinkingthat you were talking about was
like for example, you're allabout house robes and slippers
and throwing away stuff on timeor before the best date date and
making sure.
Speaker 2 (40:38):
As you should.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
And making sure that everything in the fridge or the
pantry, the labels are facing,and stuff into me.
That's a, that's a part andthat's what makes you you.
But but it's just like quote,unquote, weird to me because I
don't, I have never done it, butit's like, uh, that's what
makes you you.
So I'm not going to be like meand fuck this shit.
You know, because, like yousaid earlier, I think it's a
(41:00):
compromise as far as me taking,and I mean, yeah, it's a
compromise that doesn't take oradd away anything with the
relationship.
It makes you who you are.
So I don't mind doing thosethings, even if I Well, wait a
minute, listen.
Speaker 2 (41:15):
Uh.
Email her With the response.
It is.
But don't you think it makessense to make sure the labels is
facing so you can see what yougot?
A juice, get a juice in therefrigerator.
They either they either they'redifferent flavors with the look
of the juices are the same onthem.
Maybe it's cherry andstrawberry.
(41:36):
I know that although cherry,sometimes it's red, but let's go
with me.
The cherry juice in thestrawberry juice, same kind of
flavor.
Of course, all you can tell isby the label.
So wouldn't it be good to beable to reach in there and grab
the flavor that you wantedwithout grabbing the wrong
(41:56):
flavor, so that it just makessense to have the labels facing
so you can see them?
Speaker 1 (42:00):
Do you believe in soulmates?
Why, why not?
Speaker 2 (42:04):
Do I believe in soulmates?
No, okay, there is no suchthing as soulmates.
I think there are points inyour life where this person fits
the who you are Now.
Yes, as I was a chance that youguys will eventually grow apart
(42:29):
, but I think that it just okay.
This is, this is the person Iam right now.
This is the person that you useright now, and it blends
together and it makes abeautiful symphony.
Speaker 1 (42:43):
Huh, you know what?
You are just dropping thesenuggies.
Oh my gosh, we need to go toMcDonald's with it.
What is the sweetest thinganyone has ever done for you?
And it's just not me.
Don't, don't mention it.
I'm joking.
I'm joking.
No, for real, for real, because, yeah, what's the sweetest
thing anyone has done for you?
Speaker 2 (43:06):
Oh, the sweetest thing ever.
Growing up, I was always aperson who kept to their self.
Let me keep to their self.
I mean, I had cousins andfriends and all that when I was
kept to myself.
If I had a problem, I tried tosolve it myself.
I never asked for help, neverwanted help.
(43:30):
When I was in kindergarten, Ican go back to the teacher who
would get mad at me Because if Ididn't know the answer to
something, I just either.
I'm not going to get the answer.
I figured out myself.
Teacher, I don't need youtelling me nothing.
So growing up, that's how I was.
So the nicest thing I've everdone for me that I could say
(43:53):
helped change me was, I wouldsay, my friend.
I went through a depressionmode a couple of years ago and,
of course, me being in me, Ikept to myself, didn't want
nobody to help me with it.
But depression is a book ofbirth Once it get old it's hard
(44:16):
to get out.
So she slowly helped me.
She forced because I didn'twant to go out the house and she
like, hey, come on, we got togo here, Come on.
So he helped me get out of thedepression mode.
So I would say that's probablythe nice thing anybody done for
me.
Even though I didn't want tohelp, she helped me anyway.
Speaker 1 (44:38):
Shout out to your mini you, because that's who it
was.
Yes, I figured that, all right.
Oh, I'm in some stuff about meand this relationship.
When you first saw me, whatwere your initial thoughts?
Speaker 2 (44:53):
Damn.
Look at that, oh no.
I know it, I know it.
But after that, after that, Iwas like man, this lady, no, she
can talk, because I don't knowif y'all know, but if y'all are
listeners, like I am, Mama Qwill go on and on and on and on.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
Not for Erica, but I do.
Speaker 2 (45:16):
I like to give you details.
You're going to give all thedetails.
You're going to get it juststep by step.
So then, but then after that,and when we was together for the
extended period of time aboutwhat?
The month or so yeah, I noticedthat I liked your personality.
(45:37):
Yeah, you have a very fixedpersonality.
You're easy to talk to.
Speaker 1 (45:45):
Yeah.
Sometimes, All the time.
Okay, good, good, good.
All right, you are monogamousand I'm polyamory.
How do you handle?
Speaker 2 (45:55):
that, oh, you haven't really been poly.
I mean, think about it.
So I can't say how I can have ahandle something that you
haven't done.
You now, yes, you still believein that and you accurate that.
But you, for the past year andfour months, you have been
(46:23):
monogamous.
And even your, I guess, withthe serve yeah Partner, he
realized that you are reallymonogamous.
That's why he doesn't want to.
I mean, I don't know if youknow that.
I noticed it.
That why he?
He like, no, I'm an open, open,open, a full bed.
Speaker 1 (46:44):
Life's been busy for him.
Speaker 2 (46:49):
No, this night.
It may be that part of what youthink it is, but I know and I
don't know him like thataudience, I just know of him.
But I know a good person is andso a good man.
Even if he's missing or he hasa thing with you on side, he's a
(47:11):
good person.
He see that you have a happyhip, the relationship.
He's not going to want to doanything to disturb it.
Speaker 1 (47:19):
So again, you've been monogamous for the last year
and four months, so I don'tthat's you counting, but okay,
so, okay, okay, but when we gottogether you knew that about me,
but I guess the answer to thatis you've already answered that
where you're not a judgmentalperson.
(47:41):
So yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (47:44):
I'm not.
I'm not just.
No, I don't want to know aboutit.
I guess I don't want to comehome.
Speaker 1 (47:51):
I don't want to know.
Speaker 2 (47:52):
Yeah, I want to come home and some dude, when you
were on the couch there, I'mgoing to do that.
That wouldn't be what you wantto see.
You know that's so.
I don't know.
I guess there's something.
Speaker 1 (48:08):
Time will tell.
Speaker 2 (48:08):
Yeah, time will have to tell yeah.
Speaker 1 (48:10):
Because, um, yeah, because I mean I had an
opportunity where you were goingto to throw down my polyamorous
card like the big joker.
But yeah, I didn't, I didn'twant to.
Yeah, no, yeah, not with theperson who was offering.
No, I didn't, I didn't want to.
I just, I know, as I've toldyou before, is that you and my
(48:33):
sir, y'all the only ones that Iwant, and I mean that.
And if and when the time comesfor him to fire me, um, 99%,
sure, I'll be monogamous, but,yeah, but until then, yeah, I'm
still poly.
Yeah, all right.
How would you define intimacy?
Speaker 2 (48:55):
Straight fucking.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
How would you define intimacy?
Speaker 2 (49:06):
Oh, okay, oh the PTV and no.
I mean I'm still going to keepit.
Uh, so intimacy, really, Idon't think like because we
don't it ain't like, we just doit all day, every day.
So it's really like those timeswhen we just sitting on the
couch and you uh laying on me,yeah, and we watching TV,
(49:27):
laughing, and somebody passinggas.
So those those times rightthere, you know this and your
cold feet is in my cold feet.
Speaker 1 (49:37):
Oh, I hate that, but anyway.
Speaker 2 (49:38):
Hey, we like touching feet y'all.
That's how, that's how I cameto.
So those times when you justyou can do nothing, but it's
still entertaining.
Speaker 1 (49:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (49:49):
I think there's this intimacy there.
I think that connects to hardmore than just sex or giving
gifts.
It just like if you're able tobone with a person, you
sometimes you even got to bejust talking, you just laying
next to each other.
That's an intimacy.
Speaker 1 (50:07):
Yeah, that's one of the things that um, because I
know all relationships aredifferent, but that's one of the
things that I like about ourrelationship.
Is that, like I can't speak foryou but I am going to speak for
me.
Is that I don't have an issueif you are looking at TV or if
you are on your phone playingthe game.
(50:27):
Like I don't feel like you haveto always pay attention to me
24 seven for some people that'sa big deal because I've seen on
social media I know you ain'tsupposed to pay attention and
give a fuck about social media,but I've seen on social media
where all you know all mypartner does is like play video
games all day, and I've had pastpartners who that's all they've
(50:48):
done, but we still never had aconnection.
Like I really enjoy beingaround you, whether it's you
know me having to, um, get thespray every time you fart.
Speaker 2 (50:59):
Whoa, whoa.
Speaker 1 (51:01):
Wait, hold what you got.
Let me finish.
Or me just like we're just likelooking at my when I'm like um,
trying to look up on Wikipedia,what's happening next, like no
matter what it is that we do, Ienjoy your company, I enjoy
being around you, whether we dosomething or nothing or anything
in between.
Speaker 2 (51:21):
Because I think those times were like, let's say, god
, I feel higher spirit you cansay God, uh, we, uh, we broke up
and I was somebody else.
I think the way I would missabout you most would be like
laying in the bed and I wake upand I'm on like one third of the
(51:45):
bed and you on laying on my onethird of the bed and then when
you finally do roll over, youtake one third of the cover with
you.
I think I think that would bebecause the I got with the next
person.
That person stayed on the sideof the bed while I sleep and I
was on my side of the bed.
I'm like, oh, my boot, thatwould be laying all on the side
(52:08):
of the bed right now.
Yeah, and it'd be the old stylethat you miss, that you did.
Another person can't just feelBecause the next person come in
and they can like they can giveyou six, yeah, but the next
person can't come in and youlaying on the couch and y'all
(52:30):
just chilling and having a goodvibe.
Speaker 1 (52:32):
Okay, good one, all right, this is the last
relationship question thoughtson gender roles within
relationships.
Notice I said Relationships andI did not say our relationship,
cuz who wrote it?
I do.
Speaker 2 (52:48):
Yeah, so I don't think this me purse.
I don't think there should begender roles in relationship now
, although there this should beOkay, like that thing.
We ain't where, the people ofus for dinner.
Oh yeah and the man Didn't payfor the warmest meal.
(53:09):
Even though I pay for yours,she pays my sometimes too.
Yeah, so he maybe.
Speaker 1 (53:15):
I make.
He puts out for it, but anywayyeah, so I'm.
Speaker 2 (53:21):
I think there should be some type of exception.
Like you out Pay for thewarmest meal, but I think for
the most part inside the house,I don't think it should be okay.
You have to clean and I'm gonnago make the money, because this
ain't this ain't 1960 and what.
It doesn't work that way.
I agree, so I don't thiseverything roles Fit in I
(53:42):
society anymore.
Speaker 1 (53:43):
Yeah, I actually agree with you on that one, cuz
I mean, obviously I'm not thetype to want to Believe or have
to deal with gender roles.
Before I met you, when I hadstayed in a different spot, I
cut my own grass and I actuallyfound Joy within doing that.
So, like you know, if we haveour wind, not if when we have
(54:06):
our spot together I'm gonna havean issue with cutting the grass
, because it's something that Ienjoy doing.
You know, and I know it could,I ain't cut no grass.
Speaker 2 (54:15):
I like cutting grass.
Let's try to cut that grassfirst, but carry on.
Speaker 1 (54:19):
Anyway.
So it's like Something like thatis not a big deal for me,
because it's something that Iactually enjoy doing, you know,
um, and where I well, you know,I feel about Christianity and
just religion overall, but I Ilike to subscribe to what you
believe in, which is, likeeverybody, using their strengths
(54:41):
and weaknesses.
So, you know, when it comes to,for example, I'm dealing with
money, you show me what yourworst of actions, that your good
, is saving money and havingthoughts of what to do with it.
So, to me, if, if that'ssomething that you're good at
and I'm not, why not be behindyou or something like that and
(55:04):
stuff.
And and for me, that's aproblem with some relationships,
when they have these genderroles and just think that the if
they're in a heterosexualRelationship where the man is
supposed to run everything islike you don't know everything,
and so if you don't knoweverything and somebody else is
better than you, it's something,or have a better idea.
Let them do that instead ofjust being chest I am now.
I'm just being chest, I am aman type shit.
Speaker 2 (55:26):
So Probably agree with me on something.
Speaker 1 (55:29):
anyway, our last section is all about you.
Speaker 2 (55:33):
It is you to be.
Speaker 1 (55:35):
Why are you so damn petty?
And no one has fired on yourass?
Like, like, don't interrupt me.
Like, how do you balance that?
Is there a button that says youare about to go too far?
Because, oh my gosh, with yourpedin is when I'm like in my
mind like he got one moremotherfucker and then for some
reason you'll just stop, and I'mlike, did he read my mind?
(55:56):
And it's like each and everytime, like you never go, like
the there's a line.
You never cross that line.
You might be like one inch, butyou never cross that line man,
madness of it.
Speaker 2 (56:12):
No, I think I'm just very good at reading people.
Oh yes, I guess.
Speaker 1 (56:19):
But it's a lot.
I know what you're thinking.
It's all right.
Speaker 2 (56:23):
It's okay, yeah, but I'm good at reading people and
what I don't really like to.
I don't want to be a personwith tear jokes to where is
offend the other person, youknow make you feel insecure, so
I never try to go to that point.
You can always joke withsomebody until they get pissed
off.
Yeah so I tried to.
(56:44):
When I see your face, I likeit's done, look like it's a
change.
Okay, well, I'm like let me goon fall back, cuz she's starting
to get upset, or that personstarting to get upset.
Speaker 1 (56:54):
Yeah, okay, another thing about you you are an
overprepared that I love to hate.
How did that happen?
Was it instilled in you orsomething with your past, like
what?
Speaker 2 (57:07):
Well, remember, like I said uh yeah the kid.
I never wanted to ask for help.
Oh, okay, so the correlation soI, in order to prevent myself
having to act for him, alwaysTried to play in the head.
So, even like I said in school,I didn't want to teach you help
.
Yeah so while she was teachinglesson one, I Was learning
(57:31):
lesson one, but on in my sparetime I was going to listen to.
So when she got to listen to,yeah, I already knew yeah what
listen to was about.
So I'm worried about this.
And three, because I don't needyou to help me.
So I just this I just alwaysthought the plan ahead.
I'm a person where I don't careabout the good stuff.
(57:53):
I don't plan for anything goodbecause I was here.
People good, the good stuffnever hurt you.
I'm the bad stuff.
So in my mind I always run abunch of scenarios of what can
go wrong.
Uh-huh, it makes me paranoidsometimes and when, and it also
makes me kind of anxious to goahead of Get the plan rolling.
(58:16):
Yeah case in point, why I'mgoing back to work.
So really, yeah, I get in mymind to where the negative
things going to happen andCertain parts of my plan can't
happen until the negative thingactually does happen.
Speaker 1 (58:29):
Yeah, so I got the.
Speaker 2 (58:30):
I got a rush in like okay, so I can get my plan and
my dumb nose to start falling.
Speaker 1 (58:35):
Okay, cool.
Um, I'm gonna wrap up some ofour, some of the questions that
I had in mind.
I'm gonna cut them out, so wehave yeah, but so we're gonna
have like Three more questions,um, and then, yeah, we'll be
done.
Um, I already answered this,but I want to hear your answer.
(58:56):
What's your quirky is?
Had it I.
Speaker 2 (58:59):
Have none.
I am perfect, perfect, yeah,nothing is quirky about me.
Uh, I guess one said the labelthing I know a lot of people
I've been with and I into myrelationship was yeah, period.
They don't like the wholeExpression, they throw in
(59:20):
everything.
Yeah, this there's to me thatjust makes the most sense.
I have them.
I'm not the one that put thebest by sale by inspired by days
on the day.
Put it on there.
Yeah then, and I kiss now.
It all will say probably thelooking for perfection.
Speaker 1 (59:45):
Yeah, look at that, I'm a perfectionist too.
Uh Uh.
How was couples therapy when wewent, and was that your first
time in therapy?
Speaker 2 (59:59):
Yes, that was my first time in therapy.
Oh, I think that one was.
One of the issues were becauseI don't really believe in
therapies, so there might be oneof time.
I was in about overcompensatingfor a relationship because my
previous ratio she wanted to goto couples therapy and I'm like
(01:00:21):
ain't going to that she's.
They just help acceleratethings.
Yeah, this time I like we didit the last time, let's try this
time.
Oh, but it's a try to be aWasn't not what I had in mind.
It was.
It was pretty good.
I Was able to open up and get aneutral party perspective on it
(01:00:46):
and, from what I gathered fromit, most of what I was saying
was right.
He was mostly wrong.
So it was actually delicious tobe on the winning team, because
everybody's all about winningand losing.
So, yeah, I feel like I won andit was pretty good.
Speaker 1 (01:01:01):
That was great segue to the last questions.
What, speaking of winning team,what made you a Cowboys fan?
Speaker 2 (01:01:09):
Oh, you know the answer to this.
Speaker 1 (01:01:11):
I know, but they don't, so oh.
Speaker 2 (01:01:14):
I'm a Uber now.
I am a Uber cowboy fan.
Speaker 1 (01:01:17):
Oh yes.
Speaker 2 (01:01:18):
I'm type of person where when they lose, I cry, if
they win, I'm happy, I'm sad andthey're nervous throughout the
game.
I definitely believe next yearis gonna be our year.
I even went as far as to.
I've told you I think I toldyou the other day and I told my
sister that when I, when I die,I want a cowboy casket.
(01:01:42):
If I can get it, get the cowboycasket.
I may want to be cremated and Iwant to be sprinkled on the
Dallas cowboy at the devilcowboy stadium on the 50 yard
line.
That's what I want.
Okay and uh.
And to make sure that happens,I even.
There's another reason I have alot of life insurance policies
(01:02:02):
because Y'all would bemillionaires and and with some
of them being done, y'all willbe able to buy tickets to get on
the field.
And when you get on the field,that way you can spray a cup rig
my ass.
You know you can't.
I want her that old.
The ticket $10,000.
So.
But how did I become a cowboyfan?
(01:02:23):
Back in the 90s to the 49ersplayed the Cowboys in a regular
season game and I Think I mayhave been about nine at the time
and now, like, whoever winsthis game is gonna be my team
for life.
Speaker 1 (01:02:39):
That's how much a plan around.
Speaker 2 (01:02:41):
In this one instant I left up the chance and the
Cowboys won a game.
They actually end up winningthe Super Bowl that year in.
Speaker 1 (01:02:49):
Wait, was that the last time we won the Super Bowl?
Speaker 2 (01:02:51):
No, that was the last time, one of like 96.
This was like in 92.
Speaker 1 (01:02:57):
Okay, cool, so that's all that I have.
Are there any questions thatyou have for me or anything?
Then you want to share that youthink the listeners want to
hear.
Speaker 2 (01:03:11):
Anything that I have for you.
I'm at, I'm with you, so I knowMost of the stuff that I need
to know.
Speaker 1 (01:03:18):
I know that's this.
Doing this was kind ofdifficult because it's like,
like you just said, I know you.
So, yeah, I had to get most ofthese answers from Google.
Speaker 2 (01:03:31):
Well, I guess I.
Why do you feel about?
Or, if you could, would you tryto switch your family over to
believe in who do your, yourmother side or your father side?
Speaker 1 (01:03:41):
No, I don't want to switch in, nobody over to it at
all.
Um, I want people to questionif they want to.
I want people to not judge meand call it demonic, that's for
sure.
But I don't want to forceanybody.
You know I'm a consent orientedperson and even though I think
(01:04:02):
who do for Us black people is agreat route to go on, I don't
want to be like the people Idon't like, which are some
Christians.
That, what is the wordprophesies, or whatever
prophesies.
I know it starts with a people.
Anyway, long story that's long.
Yeah, I don't want to forcenobody into it to do it.
(01:04:25):
I want them to be curious aboutand come over willingly.
Speaker 2 (01:04:29):
So Okay, well, this was a question I do have and I
was wondering if this seems likea great time to ask you.
So, technically speaking,technically speaking, you have a
problem with both your mothersActual mother, step mother.
(01:04:50):
So is there anything that theycould do?
Well, that you will, that willmake you forgive them.
Damn.
Speaker 1 (01:05:04):
That's the oh no, um, I Told this to my therapist and
I don't ever want to say never,but I'm 99% certain that the
woman that gave birth to methere is absolutely nothing that
she could do to make me forgiveher.
Now, the caveats of that is I Dowant to be an honorable and in
(01:05:28):
line ancestor, I want to be ableto ascend and I don't want to
not be able to be honorable.
So, unfortunately, if I wouldhave to forgive in order to be
on there, then I would, butotherwise fuck her, and I mean
that in the most disrespectfulway for me.
(01:05:48):
She has done too much stuff andthe final thing that she did
was just the last straw.
For me and I Tell my therapistis and I think I tell you this
too is that when people show youwho you are, you supposed to
believe them, and unfortunately,I give people so many chances
to Show me who they are, chanceafter chance, and so therefore,
(01:06:13):
I would be pissed off at myselfif I forgive her and let things
Be okay and she does somethingagain, and it will be my fault,
because I knew who the fuck shewas.
Dear mother on dad's second wife.
Fuck her as well.
She needs therapy like amotherfucker.
Yeah, she needs therapy.
(01:06:34):
The only way that I think andagain I'm trying not to say
never, say never, but the onlyway that I think I could ever
forgive her For her shit is ifnumber one, she wholeheartedly
Apologizes for everything, andtype of person I am when it
comes to apologizing is I wantyou to like Apologize and say
(01:06:55):
the things that you did not know, like I'm sorry, I know.
Like I'm sorry, no.
Like, hey, you know, mama Q,I'm sorry for being a bitch a
few days ago thinking that youdidn't say hello to me, even
though that hello was foreveryone you know.
And then take action with beingbetter, because if you
apologize to somebody and youare still doing the same
(01:07:17):
behavior, it's no longer anapology, it's a pile of lies.
Hi, hi, sorry, yeah, um.
So, with that being said, fuckthem both.
Um, shout out to the ancestors,hope that they work on me and
understand that maybe eventually, someday, hopefully, I'll
forgive them, because I want tobe an elevated ancestor, but 99%
sure.
Fuck them, kiss my ass and Imay or may not have.
(01:07:40):
Iterate them if they go beforeI do.
That's all, I'm good, excellent, okay.
Well, we've talked a lot.
Oh wait, damn skirt back up.
I'm supposed to thank you.
Well, I do appreciate you somuch for being a loyal listener
and being in love of my life andjust haven't In just um, being
(01:08:02):
upfront and willing toparticipate in this.
Oh my gosh, she's making facefacial expression, yeah.
So anyway, thank you for that.
So you can say bye to thepeople, so I can do my actual by
from Daddy Q.
Well, I've talked long enough.
Q out.
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