November 16, 2023 • 26 mins
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I talk about seasonings aka spiritual baths according to my partner. I then include kitchen witchery. It is so darn funny the connections of growing up Black how almost everything points back to Hoodoo. We ain’t as lost as they say. Just gotta open our minds and third eye. Thanksgiving is next week so let me also talk about your belly buttons. I love when my segments come together like a nice dish!
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Speaker (00:05):
M-O-W-M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-W-E , that's my name, mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
Mama Q, say it faster or slow,don't really matter, though the
U-E gets a minute.
Tongue tizzy yo, hey, kindadizzy bro.
(00:25):
Who is she?
Mama Q?
Mama gave birth little waste,no girth, 60 years ago.
No, I don't want.
Mo Q is a line and I tried toalign this double end.
Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy modules.
Mama Q, I'm the first one inand the first one out.
Memphis Tend to Key is mywhereabouts.
Don't complain.
(00:46):
Man saying stick it to onetopic.
I reply your mind is verymyopic with Mama Q.
You need better optist pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
Definitely.
No need to whisper gracefully.
I like it better off key.
Now let's see.
Do you remember me?
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name, mama Q.
(01:09):
Hey, hi, it's me, mama Q.
I welcome you to Moments in Q.
In Q Today, hawaii BlackBusiness Hudu, hudu.
(01:33):
And are you kinky or not?
Hi, I'm Hudu.
Happy Native American HeritageMonth, which you know.
In 1990, president Bushdesignated November as National
(01:53):
American Indian Heritage Month.
Ironically, next week isThanksgiving.
History website said in 1621,the Plymouth colonies and the
(02:15):
way of punk hopefully Ipronounced that right shared an
autumn harvest feast, but that'slike saying Columbus discovered
America in 1492,.
The Smithsonian magazine talksabout the real Thanksgiving.
It's a day of mourning for theWinnipegs people.
Christians use it as a day tobe thankful for all that God
slash Jesus did for them thusfar this year, and my house is
(02:40):
the day we eat, give thanks andofficially start celebrating
Christmas with putting up theChristmas tree.
Amy is excited.
She's been playing herChristmas music ever since
November 1st.
In this episode I too will talkabout the seasonings that Hudu
can provide for you.
Kitchen witches.
Continuing with the belly, Iwill have part two of the Naval
(03:01):
Bundy Kink and talk about CocoaRosé shaking her body in Black
Business.
Bon appetit, black Business.
I highlight a Black Business tobring awareness and my
experience with said business.
Unless, I say it, it isn't apaid ad.
I'm open to paid ads, but Idefinitely want to highlight
(03:22):
Black Businesses.
There's enough money for all ofus to get it.
As you may or may not know, whenI finish each section, I always
listen to it and I feel prettyflippin' bad about
mispronouncing the word.
So it's pronounced wampanoaksat least that's what it seems
like it was when I googled.
So again, I apologize.
(03:43):
The Native American people name, according to this, was
wampanoaks.
Sorry about that.
Okay.
So now we're going to talkabout Cocoa Rosé.
I met her some years ago at NerdNight in Memphis, tennessee.
Her IG says she has SAS Classand Cleavage, the unicorn of
Burlesque.
International Showgirl GlitterGoddess Productions and Queer.
(04:06):
Glitter Goddess Productionsstrive to bring diversity and
accessibility to Burlesque.
At Nerd Night many years ago,she introduced me and other
attendees to the world ofBurlesque.
During the Nerd Night she spokeabout being a baker.
That perked my eyes and ears Atthe time.
Many of me was into baking so Ithought that was cool to follow
a baker and a burlesque dancer.
(04:28):
At Drew's, which is a local gaybar, I saw Cocoa perform for
the first time.
She did an amazing job.
I love the confidence sheexudes when she's on stage and
asking for the tips via cash,cash out, paypal and Venmo.
Like she worked hard for themoney Where'd them dollars at?
And what really surprised meduring that show was that the
(04:48):
male Burlesque dancers theycovered their nipples too.
I had never seen men burlesquedance, nor was I under the
impression that they would covertheir nipples, so to me, them
covering.
It was true allyship.
Cocoa knows how to put on ashow and produce it, which is
duh, because she's been doingthis for seven years.
So if you're ever in ATL,shawty or other cities where
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she's performing, please checkher out.
She's so pasty and her infowill be in the show notes.
Hulu, hulu I get to the root ofHulu, conjure up thoughts that
pop into my mind aboutspirituality.
Come on, get this work.
I don't fuck with them chickens, unless their last name is
(05:30):
Cuddleit.
Let it soak in like seasoning.
That's from Nicki Minaj.
And speaking of seasoning andThanksgiving, my boo thing, love
of my Mike Foxtrot life talkedabout my spiritual bath
concoction I made for us a whileago was like seasoning for the
body.
So I'm going to talk a bit moreabout spiritual baths Now.
(05:53):
I'm pretty confident that I hadtalked about the spiritual bath
that him and I took on TikTok.
I'm not for sure, which is whyI shouldn't be doing that, but
anyway, I talked about it.
On TikTok, I don't think Italked about it in my podcast
and, to double check, I did putin the world spiritual and bath
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and I didn't see it in my shownotes, but that means nothing
because sometimes I go offscript.
So anyway, as you know, I'vementioned spiritual baths tons
of times on my episodes andprobably talked about it a bit
with other black businesses, butI have not done it in depth, so
you're going to get a doublewhammy.
I'm going to talk a little bitmore about spiritual bath and
(06:36):
how it ties into kitchenwitchery.
So spiritual baths here's arefresher.
You can make a spiritual bathfor down there, anything you can
make it for protection, moneyand love, to name a few.
Within Christianity, baptism isthe act of washing away one sins
and renewal, and a song, agospel song, that comes to mind
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is Kirk Franklin and family, forall my sins are washed away.
Washed away.
Look y'all, I can't sing, I canbarely rap.
So this is what you're going toget.
But for Psalm in the Bible, 51,7 mentioned, cleanse me with
his up and I will be clean.
So to me it sounds like aspiritual bath.
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You know what I'm saying.
I always talk about Christiansand Christianity.
No surprise.
But as I've always said, I willcontinue to say, we are doing
similar things and there's justsomething refreshing and
anointing and spiritual aboutwhen it comes to having water
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washed on you, whether againback to baptism, or like taking
a shower or a bath from having along day.
Again, there's just somethingjust electrifying and refreshing
about cleansing your body.
So why would it be so quoteunquote demonic to talk about
having a spiritual bath orwanting to take one?
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Because, again, when you getbaptized, if you're a Christian
because that's all I know youget dunked in the water, whether
it's the tub water at thechurch or if you go to a lake or
whatnot.
And then in the Bible, like Ijust said, they were talking
about herbs.
So how is this demonic?
Anyway, for me, when it comesto choosing herbs for a
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spiritual bath, I trust myspirit.
I'll either get a download or athought in my head from either
my higher self or my ancestors.
I always know the differencebetween and you know, because
I'm hard headed and I like todouble check my spiritual
messages.
I also use this book calledConnie Ham's Encyclopedia and
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magical herbs by ScottCunningham to decipher the
messages.
So inside this encyclopedia,the book tells the nickname of
the herbs, their usage, such asif it's used for exorcism,
health, wealth, love, etc.
And from there I take my herbsand put them either in my muslin
bag to steep from hot water, orI use my tea and fuser.
(09:06):
So now I fuck up my tub.
When I learned about this teaand fuser, this one is a extra
large one.
So I really really like thatone.
Because my first time when Itook a spiritual bath, y'all, I
kind of missed up my tub.
I didn't like over, I didn'tflood it or make a clog or
anything like that.
But when I first did it, y'all,I had all little bits and stuff
(09:29):
like that from the differentherbs in my tub and it looked
kind of weird or whatever and itgot on my nerves so that.
So when I learned I was on somewebsite and when I learned
about the purpose of this extralarge tin fuser, I was like ah
Bam, that does it.
And then recently I decided touse a muslin bag Hopefully,
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again, I'm pronouncing that wordcorrectly, it's muslin.
So I've done both ways and forme it's been pretty easy.
Again, I put all of my herbs.
Of course I have to doublecheck and make sure that there's
nothing wrong with it when itcomes to me Utilizing it on my
skin.
So I'll get a pot of hot water,let it steep in there and then,
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when it's done steeping, pourit into a glass container and
then I'll just do the spiritualbath myself or, like I said,
I'll do the muslin bag, which iswhat I did for the last one.
That I did my boo thing and I IReally like the usage of that
is because I can reuse it againif I want to.
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So it's like a tea bag and Pourhot water on it, squeeze all
the herbs out and bam, there yougo.
So you can use either way thatyou want to.
Some people will even take theirspiritual baths outside.
Now I've seen people do that,but I don't know if they did
that because they were showing avideo on YouTube and they just
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wanted to make sure that theydon't get flagged.
I'm not for sure.
There's a lot of people saidthe Spiritual bath needs to be
cold, needs to be hot, all thesedifferent things.
Again, I just go about with theancestors and or my higher self
says and so it's been workingfor me, so it's all good.
Just always remember whateverworks for you works for you.
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So one thing that I do encourageyou to do is, when it comes to
you using a spiritual bath,taking one, especially if you
concoct it yourself, is toalways ensure that you have
protection.
Sometimes I use salt and yes, Iknow the salt isn't a herb, but
again, I mean, there areproperties within salt that is
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used for protection.
So, no matter what it is like,even if you're doing a
protection for Prosperity oryour business, because, like duh
, you want to protect it,because you want to protect your
money, to ensure nobody isstealing from you, and also
protect your thoughts when itcomes to your business and
protect yourself From peoplethrowing at you, whether it's
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spiritual or just human beingsthrowing, using Spells
themselves or using the power ofthe tongue.
Get your mind out the gutter.
But we already know throughgrowing up a set, especially if
you're a southern, especially ifyou're a black southern there's
power in the words.
So you know you always want tohave protection.
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Some people pray over theirherbs and or tell their herbs
with what it's gonna do, which Iknow that that might seem like
double work because, for example, if you use Whatever, we'll
keep with salt.
So you know salt already haveprotective properties.
That's what other people use itfor.
That is its purpose.
But me, I have no problem withrepeating.
You know because, as you'regonna learn, if you haven't
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already, that you can also cookwith some of these herbs.
So, you know, I for one don'tmind repeating for it to know
what I wanted to do, because Ifeel like that is me Manifesting
and claiming and putting it outin the universe, or what have
you, what I wanted to do.
So, yeah, and another thing ifyou didn't grow it from your own
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garden, you also don't knowwhat other hands and things have
been on it.
So, again, I see nothing wrongwith praying, smudging over it,
breathing on it, pouring waterbriefly on it, just any way to
kind of cleanse it and to remindit what you needed, for I know
of people who use differentBible verses where there is in
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some, or proverbs or whatnot.
Again, I rarely use the Bible,if ever, on any work, is that I
do for myself.
So you know, if it works foryou, works for you, as I always
say.
Another thing I do is I bathe mybody first, which is a
no-brainer.
So I have you take your shower,your bath or whatnot.
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I normally do this with ashower.
When I take my spiritual bath Iknow it's like you just say a
spiritual bath I just roll withme, okay.
So I shower up my body,obviously, clean myself, and you
should know how to batheyourself, okay, and then from
there, what I do is I either Putthe spiritual bath upwards or
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downwards, depending on what Ineed it for.
I go.
The neck is the highest that Iwill go.
There are some people who dotake the spiritual bath and put
it on their face and put it intheir hair, depending on what
kind of properties is with it.
Again, as always, when it comesto using any of these kind of
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herbs, double check to make sureyou're not allergic to it and
also make sure that it's okay tobe used in your skin and your
hair.
And, of course, you want toavoid using it.
And if you have a vulva or apenis, or we all have anus, but
if you have a vulva, especiallyif you have that you want to be
careful make sure not to put anyof the herbs in there.
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I definitely don't.
When I wash myself, I usestraight up water anyway to
clean her.
So, yeah, I don't have a penis,so I don't know how that works,
but I would encourage you to becareful and not put it in there
.
I'm definitely not putting youranus at all, please don't.
So I know it's getting a littlegraphic, but hey, gotta put
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that stuff in there for people.
Anyway, after you've alreadytaken your shower, like I said,
you've already done yourspiritual bath, whether you put
it on you in upwards motion ordownward motions the next thing
you do is you get out the tuband you air dry.
That's what I do.
Other people might pat theirself with the towel or they
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might put on white clothingagain, whatever works for them,
whatever spirit tells you to do,or other people who you trust
to tell you what to do.
That's cool.
Some also pray, again me, likeI said, I air dry and I wait for
results.
There are other people who makethis a more in-depth ritual
than a quickie, like what I justdid, where they're like candles
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associated with the spiritualbath.
So, again, if it's somethingabout prosperity, someone might
light a green candle for it andhave crystals around them.
But you have to be carefulbecause some crystals cannot
take water and if you are clumsy, you definitely do not want
your crystals to be in the water.
So I advise you not to havethem anywhere near water if
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they're not supposed to be.
Again, as I continue to say, andI always say, whatever works
for you, I really don't do thatmuch of that extra stuff and I
don't mean extra in adisrespectful way, I'm just
saying like I don't do.
The extra stuff is like havingcandles and stuff like that to
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set the mood or the intentions,but there's nothing wrong with
it if that's what you decide todo.
So what does all this seasoning, as my boothy like to say, has
to do with the kitchen?
Well, if you haven't guessed itand I said it earlier but some
of the herbs I use are also usedto season the food that we cook
.
Okay, so remember, I know again, I'm black, I always been black
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and a Southerner.
So I'm pretty sure if you'reAfrican and part of the diaspora
, especially if you haveChristianity within your family,
all of this is gonna make sense, what I'm about to talk about,
and it's gonna make you be liketa-da, anyway, okay.
So remember, when you would prayfor your food, especially
during Thanksgiving, you wouldalways pray for the cook too,
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right?
Well, you know they'll saysomething like bless the meal
and the preparer so that it canbe nourished into our bodies,
something like that.
To me that sounds likemanifestation, slash, spell,
because you know, when you cookwith love, it oozes into the
meal, that's, your energy andyour intent into the meal, for
all that we'll consume it, andwhen the herbs and the food hit
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right, your body gets thatodyssey.
You feel fulfilled versus beingslumped over the toilet from
food poisoning.
Stay with me.
Stay with me.
So you know us black folks.
When we season our food, wekeep going to what the ancestors
say stops, why you think thatEverything we eat and add to the
meal has a meaning to ourspiritual and earthly bodies.
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For example, basil can be usedfor different spell workings on
baths, spiritual bath, like Isaid.
You can use it on candles andyou can use it in jars.
It also pairs well with tomatodishes such as pizza or red
pasta sauce dishes.
This is where kitchen witcherycomes in.
You can make the food for yourfamily, your friends and
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yourself to pray for happiness,peace and protection Cause, if
you haven't realized it yet,that's some of the things that
basil is used for.
So bam, two birds with onestone.
This makes my mind goes in somany places, right.
I remember growing up and I wastold not to disturb my grandma
while she was in the kitchen orwaiting with excitement to be
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old enough to learn how to cook.
I pretty bummed out that thewoman that gave birth to me
never allowed my granny to teachme how to cook, and so I'm
thankful that granny is aliveand I can reach out to her to
learn how to make dressing, butit just never hits right as good
as her corn bridges, in which Ihope granny is in the mood to
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cook for Thanksgiving, cause Iwanna go over there and eat some
of her food, cause I can't cooklike her, and so so, like it's
just again, most of the peoplewho are in the kitchen are
usually women.
Girls would not, but I doencourage everybody, regardless
of your gender.
If you identify as a binary,per well, yeah, if you identify
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as non-binary or not, Iencourage you to learn how to
cook, cause that's somethingthat all people need to do.
But again, I'm just thinkingand talking about growing up and
then going further down arabbit hole in my mind.
I'm thinking about me andFarron having hot grits being
thrown at them for their lastovations lascivious I'm sorry,
lascivious desires, and it'salways being careful of eating
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the woman's spaghetti.
So I don't know it's prettycool that, again, without
thinking that some of us blackfolks we do who do with or
without Christianity, and youdon't even know it or
acknowledge it out loud.
I'm all grown up.
Are you kinky or not?
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I'm a proud kingster of theBDSM community.
Let me tell you about thislifestyle to see if you want to
come over to the dark side.
We got candles, alright.
So this is part two of talkingabout belly buns, which this is
going together because this isthe one before Thanksgiving,
because when I taught y'allagain, thanksgiving would have
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already passed and you shouldhave already thrown away your
food.
Some loving how this stuff isjust meshin' well together,
alright, so let's talk aboutbelly buns.
As you know, some cultures adoreshowing off their belly buns
from belly dancing, havingtattoos around their belly buns
and piercings where there'stogether a separate.
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Lots of people find the bellybun sexy when it's adorned and
or surrounded by abs and curves,but everyone has com gutters or
washboard abs.
For you folks this older, likeme, your belly bun is still sexy
, though Most of us have anybelly buns versus outies.
Other people adore their bellyand belly bun.
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Schools and certainestablishments ban the showing
of the mid-drift, which is weirdbecause back in the 1970s, I
think, people went to schoolshowing off their stomach with
low rising genes, madonna saidin 1985, interview according to
Vice Media.
I quote my favorite bun is mybelly bun.
I have the most perfect bellybutton.
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When I stick my finger in mybelly button I feel a nerve in
the center of my body shoot upmy spine.
Madonna was into belly bun andthat was like almost 40 years
ago, so clearly this kink hasbeen around.
In this episode I said myinterest was peaked about belly
buns and so let's poke around tolearn more about this kink.
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Alvinophilia Alvinophilia isanother name for this fetish and
, as you expected, there is aBDSM kink play for that.
Most of my research about thistype of play was done on the
internet.
I don't have anyone in mycircle, to my knowledge anyway,
that is into naval play.
(22:40):
All right, we always got tostart off with safety.
So here we go.
Safety wise, like any otherplay, receiving consent with
other consenting adults isalways necessary, vital,
important the first thing youneed to do before you play.
After that you negotiate withwhat you can or can do with the
belly button and have your safewords.
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You also need to see if theperson or persons because, who
knows, a lot of people like toget down like that if they're
allergic to anything.
People can put candle wax on orin their belly button.
I implore you to test the hotwax on yourself before pouring
into others.
Literally, the higher the waxis away from the skin the better
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, and you need to ensure thatthe candle wax is safe for your
body.
You don't want to go to yourlocal store that says sells
candles and just use that onebecause that could have a higher
temperature burn rate.
I think that's what I'm tryingto say.
And next thing, you know, navelPlace sent me to the ER.
We don't want that.
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All right.
Now, when it comes to playing,you can also use feathers, ice,
electric wands, e-stemilars Ithink that's what those are
called.
Those are like it was not thesame as electric wands, but it's
.
Some people actually use thise-stem for, like when they are
exercising or if they need, like, a massage or whatnot.
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I don't know, I don't use it.
I don't like that type of play,but those that know what I'm
talking about you know what I'mtalking about.
You can also use the one-burgwheel, massage oil, et cetera,
to play.
Please, y'all, don't insertanything into the belly button,
such as a penis, a dildo or avibrator, because that could
cause pain to your bottom and Idon't mean your bottom like your
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butt, but like the person whohas the belly button that you're
playing with and I don't wantyou to cause pain to them.
I mean, I would hope, as I'vealways said before, that you
don't want to cause pain.
Always ensure that you cleanyour belly button before and
after play.
And what I learned is that ViceMedia has a great article about
it and I didn't want to quote,unquote, commit plagiarism and
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go verbatim about everythingthat they had.
But Google belly button in ViceMedia and you can learn more
about belly button if you desire.
And I want to let you know thatif this is a kink that you are
interested in, you are not alone.
Okay, do a hashtag belly buttonkink and I'm sure you'll find
your brethren, sister in andeverything in between.
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And if you want to, let me knowhow it feels to you and your
partners.
I really, really, reallyenjoyed using my robotic voice
that I had to use when I did thelistener email a couple of
weeks ago.
So now y'all got me addicted toalways wanting to play that.
So, yeah, let me know I I'vetalked long enough.
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Cue out.
M-O-W-M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-W-E , that's my name, mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
Mama Q, say it faster or slow,don't really matter, though the
U-E gets a minute.
Tongue tizzy yo, hey, kindadizzy bro.
(00:25):
Who is she?
Mama Q?
Mama gave birth little waste,no girth, 60 years ago.
No, I don't want.
Mo Q is a line and I tried toalign this double end.
Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy modules.
Mama Q, I'm the first one inand the first one out.
Memphis Tend to Key is mywhereabouts.
Don't complain.
(00:46):
Man saying stick it to onetopic.
I reply your mind is verymyopic with Mama Q.
You need better optist pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
Definitely.
No need to whisper gracefully.
I like it better off key.
Now let's see.
Do you remember me?
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name, mama Q.
(01:09):
Hey, hi, it's me, mama Q.
I welcome you to Moments in Q.
In Q Today, hawaii BlackBusiness Hudu, hudu.
(01:33):
And are you kinky or not?
Hi, I'm Hudu.
Happy Native American HeritageMonth, which you know.
In 1990, president Bushdesignated November as National
(01:53):
American Indian Heritage Month.
Ironically, next week isThanksgiving.
History website said in 1621,the Plymouth colonies and the
(02:15):
way of punk hopefully Ipronounced that right shared an
autumn harvest feast, but that'slike saying Columbus discovered
America in 1492,.
The Smithsonian magazine talksabout the real Thanksgiving.
It's a day of mourning for theWinnipegs people.
Christians use it as a day tobe thankful for all that God
slash Jesus did for them thusfar this year, and my house is
(02:40):
the day we eat, give thanks andofficially start celebrating
Christmas with putting up theChristmas tree.
Amy is excited.
She's been playing herChristmas music ever since
November 1st.
In this episode I too will talkabout the seasonings that Hudu
can provide for you.
Kitchen witches.
Continuing with the belly, Iwill have part two of the Naval
(03:01):
Bundy Kink and talk about CocoaRosé shaking her body in Black
Business.
Bon appetit, black Business.
I highlight a Black Business tobring awareness and my
experience with said business.
Unless, I say it, it isn't apaid ad.
I'm open to paid ads, but Idefinitely want to highlight
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Black Businesses.
There's enough money for all ofus to get it.
As you may or may not know, whenI finish each section, I always
listen to it and I feel prettyflippin' bad about
mispronouncing the word.
So it's pronounced wampanoaksat least that's what it seems
like it was when I googled.
So again, I apologize.
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The Native American people name, according to this, was
wampanoaks.
Sorry about that.
Okay.
So now we're going to talkabout Cocoa Rosé.
I met her some years ago at NerdNight in Memphis, tennessee.
Her IG says she has SAS Classand Cleavage, the unicorn of
Burlesque.
International Showgirl GlitterGoddess Productions and Queer.
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Glitter Goddess Productionsstrive to bring diversity and
accessibility to Burlesque.
At Nerd Night many years ago,she introduced me and other
attendees to the world ofBurlesque.
During the Nerd Night she spokeabout being a baker.
That perked my eyes and ears Atthe time.
Many of me was into baking so Ithought that was cool to follow
a baker and a burlesque dancer.
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At Drew's, which is a local gaybar, I saw Cocoa perform for
the first time.
She did an amazing job.
I love the confidence sheexudes when she's on stage and
asking for the tips via cash,cash out, paypal and Venmo.
Like she worked hard for themoney Where'd them dollars at?
And what really surprised meduring that show was that the
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male Burlesque dancers theycovered their nipples too.
I had never seen men burlesquedance, nor was I under the
impression that they would covertheir nipples, so to me, them
covering.
It was true allyship.
Cocoa knows how to put on ashow and produce it, which is
duh, because she's been doingthis for seven years.
So if you're ever in ATL,shawty or other cities where
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she's performing, please checkher out.
She's so pasty and her infowill be in the show notes.
Hulu, hulu I get to the root ofHulu, conjure up thoughts that
pop into my mind aboutspirituality.
Come on, get this work.
I don't fuck with them chickens, unless their last name is
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Cuddleit.
Let it soak in like seasoning.
That's from Nicki Minaj.
And speaking of seasoning andThanksgiving, my boo thing, love
of my Mike Foxtrot life talkedabout my spiritual bath
concoction I made for us a whileago was like seasoning for the
body.
So I'm going to talk a bit moreabout spiritual baths Now.
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I'm pretty confident that I hadtalked about the spiritual bath
that him and I took on TikTok.
I'm not for sure, which is whyI shouldn't be doing that, but
anyway, I talked about it.
On TikTok, I don't think Italked about it in my podcast
and, to double check, I did putin the world spiritual and bath
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and I didn't see it in my shownotes, but that means nothing
because sometimes I go offscript.
So anyway, as you know, I'vementioned spiritual baths tons
of times on my episodes andprobably talked about it a bit
with other black businesses, butI have not done it in depth, so
you're going to get a doublewhammy.
I'm going to talk a little bitmore about spiritual bath and
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how it ties into kitchenwitchery.
So spiritual baths here's arefresher.
You can make a spiritual bathfor down there, anything you can
make it for protection, moneyand love, to name a few.
Within Christianity, baptism isthe act of washing away one sins
and renewal, and a song, agospel song, that comes to mind
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is Kirk Franklin and family, forall my sins are washed away.
Washed away.
Look y'all, I can't sing, I canbarely rap.
So this is what you're going toget.
But for Psalm in the Bible, 51,7 mentioned, cleanse me with
his up and I will be clean.
So to me it sounds like aspiritual bath.
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You know what I'm saying.
I always talk about Christiansand Christianity.
No surprise.
But as I've always said, I willcontinue to say, we are doing
similar things and there's justsomething refreshing and
anointing and spiritual aboutwhen it comes to having water
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washed on you, whether againback to baptism, or like taking
a shower or a bath from having along day.
Again, there's just somethingjust electrifying and refreshing
about cleansing your body.
So why would it be so quoteunquote demonic to talk about
having a spiritual bath orwanting to take one?
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Because, again, when you getbaptized, if you're a Christian
because that's all I know youget dunked in the water, whether
it's the tub water at thechurch or if you go to a lake or
whatnot.
And then in the Bible, like Ijust said, they were talking
about herbs.
So how is this demonic?
Anyway, for me, when it comesto choosing herbs for a
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spiritual bath, I trust myspirit.
I'll either get a download or athought in my head from either
my higher self or my ancestors.
I always know the differencebetween and you know, because
I'm hard headed and I like todouble check my spiritual
messages.
I also use this book calledConnie Ham's Encyclopedia and
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magical herbs by ScottCunningham to decipher the
messages.
So inside this encyclopedia,the book tells the nickname of
the herbs, their usage, such asif it's used for exorcism,
health, wealth, love, etc.
And from there I take my herbsand put them either in my muslin
bag to steep from hot water, orI use my tea and fuser.
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So now I fuck up my tub.
When I learned about this teaand fuser, this one is a extra
large one.
So I really really like thatone.
Because my first time when Itook a spiritual bath, y'all, I
kind of missed up my tub.
I didn't like over, I didn'tflood it or make a clog or
anything like that.
But when I first did it, y'all,I had all little bits and stuff
(09:29):
like that from the differentherbs in my tub and it looked
kind of weird or whatever and itgot on my nerves so that.
So when I learned I was on somewebsite and when I learned
about the purpose of this extralarge tin fuser, I was like ah
Bam, that does it.
And then recently I decided touse a muslin bag Hopefully,
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again, I'm pronouncing that wordcorrectly, it's muslin.
So I've done both ways and forme it's been pretty easy.
Again, I put all of my herbs.
Of course I have to doublecheck and make sure that there's
nothing wrong with it when itcomes to me Utilizing it on my
skin.
So I'll get a pot of hot water,let it steep in there and then,
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when it's done steeping, pourit into a glass container and
then I'll just do the spiritualbath myself or, like I said,
I'll do the muslin bag, which iswhat I did for the last one.
That I did my boo thing and I IReally like the usage of that
is because I can reuse it againif I want to.
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So it's like a tea bag and Pourhot water on it, squeeze all
the herbs out and bam, there yougo.
So you can use either way thatyou want to.
Some people will even take theirspiritual baths outside.
Now I've seen people do that,but I don't know if they did
that because they were showing avideo on YouTube and they just
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wanted to make sure that theydon't get flagged.
I'm not for sure.
There's a lot of people saidthe Spiritual bath needs to be
cold, needs to be hot, all thesedifferent things.
Again, I just go about with theancestors and or my higher self
says and so it's been workingfor me, so it's all good.
Just always remember whateverworks for you works for you.
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So one thing that I do encourageyou to do is, when it comes to
you using a spiritual bath,taking one, especially if you
concoct it yourself, is toalways ensure that you have
protection.
Sometimes I use salt and yes, Iknow the salt isn't a herb, but
again, I mean, there areproperties within salt that is
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used for protection.
So, no matter what it is like,even if you're doing a
protection for Prosperity oryour business, because, like duh
, you want to protect it,because you want to protect your
money, to ensure nobody isstealing from you, and also
protect your thoughts when itcomes to your business and
protect yourself From peoplethrowing at you, whether it's
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spiritual or just human beingsthrowing, using Spells
themselves or using the power ofthe tongue.
Get your mind out the gutter.
But we already know throughgrowing up a set, especially if
you're a southern, especially ifyou're a black southern there's
power in the words.
So you know you always want tohave protection.
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Some people pray over theirherbs and or tell their herbs
with what it's gonna do, which Iknow that that might seem like
double work because, for example, if you use Whatever, we'll
keep with salt.
So you know salt already haveprotective properties.
That's what other people use itfor.
That is its purpose.
But me, I have no problem withrepeating.
You know because, as you'regonna learn, if you haven't
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already, that you can also cookwith some of these herbs.
So, you know, I for one don'tmind repeating for it to know
what I wanted to do, because Ifeel like that is me Manifesting
and claiming and putting it outin the universe, or what have
you, what I wanted to do.
So, yeah, and another thing ifyou didn't grow it from your own
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garden, you also don't knowwhat other hands and things have
been on it.
So, again, I see nothing wrongwith praying, smudging over it,
breathing on it, pouring waterbriefly on it, just any way to
kind of cleanse it and to remindit what you needed, for I know
of people who use differentBible verses where there is in
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some, or proverbs or whatnot.
Again, I rarely use the Bible,if ever, on any work, is that I
do for myself.
So you know, if it works foryou, works for you, as I always
say.
Another thing I do is I bathe mybody first, which is a
no-brainer.
So I have you take your shower,your bath or whatnot.
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I normally do this with ashower.
When I take my spiritual bath Iknow it's like you just say a
spiritual bath I just roll withme, okay.
So I shower up my body,obviously, clean myself, and you
should know how to batheyourself, okay, and then from
there, what I do is I either Putthe spiritual bath upwards or
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downwards, depending on what Ineed it for.
I go.
The neck is the highest that Iwill go.
There are some people who dotake the spiritual bath and put
it on their face and put it intheir hair, depending on what
kind of properties is with it.
Again, as always, when it comesto using any of these kind of
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herbs, double check to make sureyou're not allergic to it and
also make sure that it's okay tobe used in your skin and your
hair.
And, of course, you want toavoid using it.
And if you have a vulva or apenis, or we all have anus, but
if you have a vulva, especiallyif you have that you want to be
careful make sure not to put anyof the herbs in there.
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I definitely don't.
When I wash myself, I usestraight up water anyway to
clean her.
So, yeah, I don't have a penis,so I don't know how that works,
but I would encourage you to becareful and not put it in there
.
I'm definitely not putting youranus at all, please don't.
So I know it's getting a littlegraphic, but hey, gotta put
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that stuff in there for people.
Anyway, after you've alreadytaken your shower, like I said,
you've already done yourspiritual bath, whether you put
it on you in upwards motion ordownward motions the next thing
you do is you get out the tuband you air dry.
That's what I do.
Other people might pat theirself with the towel or they
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might put on white clothingagain, whatever works for them,
whatever spirit tells you to do,or other people who you trust
to tell you what to do.
That's cool.
Some also pray, again me, likeI said, I air dry and I wait for
results.
There are other people who makethis a more in-depth ritual
than a quickie, like what I justdid, where they're like candles
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associated with the spiritualbath.
So, again, if it's somethingabout prosperity, someone might
light a green candle for it andhave crystals around them.
But you have to be carefulbecause some crystals cannot
take water and if you are clumsy, you definitely do not want
your crystals to be in the water.
So I advise you not to havethem anywhere near water if
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they're not supposed to be.
Again, as I continue to say, andI always say, whatever works
for you, I really don't do thatmuch of that extra stuff and I
don't mean extra in adisrespectful way, I'm just
saying like I don't do.
The extra stuff is like havingcandles and stuff like that to
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set the mood or the intentions,but there's nothing wrong with
it if that's what you decide todo.
So what does all this seasoning, as my boothy like to say, has
to do with the kitchen?
Well, if you haven't guessed itand I said it earlier but some
of the herbs I use are also usedto season the food that we cook
.
Okay, so remember, I know again, I'm black, I always been black
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and a Southerner.
So I'm pretty sure if you'reAfrican and part of the diaspora
, especially if you haveChristianity within your family,
all of this is gonna make sense, what I'm about to talk about,
and it's gonna make you be liketa-da, anyway, okay.
So remember, when you would prayfor your food, especially
during Thanksgiving, you wouldalways pray for the cook too,
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right?
Well, you know they'll saysomething like bless the meal
and the preparer so that it canbe nourished into our bodies,
something like that.
To me that sounds likemanifestation, slash, spell,
because you know, when you cookwith love, it oozes into the
meal, that's, your energy andyour intent into the meal, for
all that we'll consume it, andwhen the herbs and the food hit
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right, your body gets thatodyssey.
You feel fulfilled versus beingslumped over the toilet from
food poisoning.
Stay with me.
Stay with me.
So you know us black folks.
When we season our food, wekeep going to what the ancestors
say stops, why you think thatEverything we eat and add to the
meal has a meaning to ourspiritual and earthly bodies.
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For example, basil can be usedfor different spell workings on
baths, spiritual bath, like Isaid.
You can use it on candles andyou can use it in jars.
It also pairs well with tomatodishes such as pizza or red
pasta sauce dishes.
This is where kitchen witcherycomes in.
You can make the food for yourfamily, your friends and
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yourself to pray for happiness,peace and protection Cause, if
you haven't realized it yet,that's some of the things that
basil is used for.
So bam, two birds with onestone.
This makes my mind goes in somany places, right.
I remember growing up and I wastold not to disturb my grandma
while she was in the kitchen orwaiting with excitement to be
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old enough to learn how to cook.
I pretty bummed out that thewoman that gave birth to me
never allowed my granny to teachme how to cook, and so I'm
thankful that granny is aliveand I can reach out to her to
learn how to make dressing, butit just never hits right as good
as her corn bridges, in which Ihope granny is in the mood to
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cook for Thanksgiving, cause Iwanna go over there and eat some
of her food, cause I can't cooklike her, and so so, like it's
just again, most of the peoplewho are in the kitchen are
usually women.
Girls would not, but I doencourage everybody, regardless
of your gender.
If you identify as a binary,per well, yeah, if you identify
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as non-binary or not, Iencourage you to learn how to
cook, cause that's somethingthat all people need to do.
But again, I'm just thinkingand talking about growing up and
then going further down arabbit hole in my mind.
I'm thinking about me andFarron having hot grits being
thrown at them for their lastovations lascivious I'm sorry,
lascivious desires, and it'salways being careful of eating
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the woman's spaghetti.
So I don't know it's prettycool that, again, without
thinking that some of us blackfolks we do who do with or
without Christianity, and youdon't even know it or
acknowledge it out loud.
I'm all grown up.
Are you kinky or not?
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I'm a proud kingster of theBDSM community.
Let me tell you about thislifestyle to see if you want to
come over to the dark side.
We got candles, alright.
So this is part two of talkingabout belly buns, which this is
going together because this isthe one before Thanksgiving,
because when I taught y'allagain, thanksgiving would have
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already passed and you shouldhave already thrown away your
food.
Some loving how this stuff isjust meshin' well together,
alright, so let's talk aboutbelly buns.
As you know, some cultures adoreshowing off their belly buns
from belly dancing, havingtattoos around their belly buns
and piercings where there'stogether a separate.
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Lots of people find the bellybun sexy when it's adorned and
or surrounded by abs and curves,but everyone has com gutters or
washboard abs.
For you folks this older, likeme, your belly bun is still sexy
, though Most of us have anybelly buns versus outies.
Other people adore their bellyand belly bun.
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Schools and certainestablishments ban the showing
of the mid-drift, which is weirdbecause back in the 1970s, I
think, people went to schoolshowing off their stomach with
low rising genes, madonna saidin 1985, interview according to
Vice Media.
I quote my favorite bun is mybelly bun.
I have the most perfect bellybutton.
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When I stick my finger in mybelly button I feel a nerve in
the center of my body shoot upmy spine.
Madonna was into belly bun andthat was like almost 40 years
ago, so clearly this kink hasbeen around.
In this episode I said myinterest was peaked about belly
buns and so let's poke around tolearn more about this kink.
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Alvinophilia Alvinophilia isanother name for this fetish and
, as you expected, there is aBDSM kink play for that.
Most of my research about thistype of play was done on the
internet.
I don't have anyone in mycircle, to my knowledge anyway,
that is into naval play.
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All right, we always got tostart off with safety.
So here we go.
Safety wise, like any otherplay, receiving consent with
other consenting adults isalways necessary, vital,
important the first thing youneed to do before you play.
After that you negotiate withwhat you can or can do with the
belly button and have your safewords.
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You also need to see if theperson or persons because, who
knows, a lot of people like toget down like that if they're
allergic to anything.
People can put candle wax on orin their belly button.
I implore you to test the hotwax on yourself before pouring
into others.
Literally, the higher the waxis away from the skin the better
(23:23):
, and you need to ensure thatthe candle wax is safe for your
body.
You don't want to go to yourlocal store that says sells
candles and just use that onebecause that could have a higher
temperature burn rate.
I think that's what I'm tryingto say.
And next thing, you know, navelPlace sent me to the ER.
We don't want that.
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All right.
Now, when it comes to playing,you can also use feathers, ice,
electric wands, e-stemilars Ithink that's what those are
called.
Those are like it was not thesame as electric wands, but it's
.
Some people actually use thise-stem for, like when they are
exercising or if they need, like, a massage or whatnot.
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I don't know, I don't use it.
I don't like that type of play,but those that know what I'm
talking about you know what I'mtalking about.
You can also use the one-burgwheel, massage oil, et cetera,
to play.
Please, y'all, don't insertanything into the belly button,
such as a penis, a dildo or avibrator, because that could
cause pain to your bottom and Idon't mean your bottom like your
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butt, but like the person whohas the belly button that you're
playing with and I don't wantyou to cause pain to them.
I mean, I would hope, as I'vealways said before, that you
don't want to cause pain.
Always ensure that you cleanyour belly button before and
after play.
And what I learned is that ViceMedia has a great article about
it and I didn't want to quote,unquote, commit plagiarism and
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go verbatim about everythingthat they had.
But Google belly button in ViceMedia and you can learn more
about belly button if you desire.
And I want to let you know thatif this is a kink that you are
interested in, you are not alone.
Okay, do a hashtag belly buttonkink and I'm sure you'll find
your brethren, sister in andeverything in between.
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And if you want to, let me knowhow it feels to you and your
partners.
I really, really, reallyenjoyed using my robotic voice
that I had to use when I did thelistener email a couple of
weeks ago.
So now y'all got me addicted toalways wanting to play that.
So, yeah, let me know I I'vetalked long enough.
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Cue out.
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