November 27, 2023 • 50 mins
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Trigger warning in this episode cause I will talk about Cassie. Capitialism in my opinion plays a part in determining people’s morel, ethical, and financial codes. If any exist. I shout the ancestors for the waves of energy they been moving starting with a recap of my Thanksgiving. Can’t make this ish up. Enjoy. And have you thrown away your food yet?
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Speaker (00:05):
M-O-W-M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-W-E .
That's my name, mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
Mama Q, say it faster or slow,don't really matter, though the
U-E gets a minute.
Tongue tizzy yo, hey, kindadizzy bro.
(00:25):
Who is she?
Mama Q?
Mama gave birth little waste,no girth, 60 years ago.
No, I don't want.
Mo Q is a lion and I tried toalign this double end.
Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy modules, Mama Q, I'm the
first one in and the first oneout.
Memphis Tend to Key is mywhereabouts, duncan Plain Mayn,
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saying stick it to one topic.
I reply your mind is verymyopic with Mama Q.
You need better optist pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
Definitely.
No need to whisper gracefully.
I like it better off key.
Now let's see.
Do you remember me?
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e D-W-E.
(01:07):
That's my name, Mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e D-W-E.
That's my name, mama Q.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Hey, hi, it's me, Mama Q.
I welcome you to Moments in QASMR episode.
In this episode, I wouldtitillate your ears with my
voice and random sounds In Qtoday, 60 seconds of having
what's going on.
It's giving.
Let's get it popping and croakon the joke.
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P-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e, d-w-e,d-w-e-c-d-w-e, z-a-p-o-r-s-e-g
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that's my name, mama Q.
What's going on in this segment?
I tell you what's been going onin my life since last episode.
Y'all.
I just realized that I did notgive you 60 seconds in heaven
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when I had my Monday episode twoweeks ago.
I have no idea how I missed it.
So that's why, if you werecounting, you receive one minute
and 11 seconds in heaven.
My bad, and I'm still trying tofind a musical break from
Mondays that I enjoy.
So be patient with me, becausethis Virgo likes perfection,
(03:38):
okay, alright.
So today is Monday, so youprobably should have thrown away
your Thanksgiving food.
Now, I'm not judging you if youhaven't, because I do
understand how that food can begood and food is expensive.
Okay, but just be sure thatthat you don't eat it too much
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longer, because I don't want youto get food poisoning.
Again, I ain't judging you.
I get it.
I get it, but just be cognizantand careful.
Okay, so my Thanksgiving,seriously, I was thankful for my
granny invited my partner toher house for Thanksgiving and
let me tell y'all my grannydon't want anybody over her
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house unless it's family.
Like anybody, I think she'snever met any of my exes well,
except my high school ex, andthat was only because we went to
the same church, like the restof, I can recall, if she's ever
met them, because she don't likeeverybody at her house.
She just met my sister, ashley.
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She just met her husbandbecause, again, she don't want
nobody over her house if it'snot family.
So I was grateful, thankful andsurprised by that.
So I had to run some errandsbefore we went over to granny
house to see the cowboys went.
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Whoa, whoa.
So many of me does have herfucking driver's license.
So I had to drive her to otherfamily members houses.
First I had to drive her to myaunt that I don't care too much
for.
So, yeah, boo thing and I werein the car.
We did not go inside because,like I don't like her, I don't
like her husband, who is myuncle by marriage.
We don't get along.
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It makes no sense for me to bethere, makes no sense for my
partner to even meet them.
So, yeah, but it worked outbecause the woman that gave
birth to me, she came throughand I got to see my two nieces,
whoop, whoop, and I was able totake pictures with them and
check on them all while in thetruck no, we weren't even in the
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driveway, oh, in the car, onthe street.
Then from there we drove to mygranny house.
Now, my granny is slick y'all.
What we got there she was likeyour auntie cooked and I was
like, oh, are you serious?
Because that particular auntiecannot cook at all.
I don't know how you can fuckup ground beef, but that's how
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much of a bad cook she is.
So, granny, she saved it bysaying but I helped tell her how
to cook, dictate and stuff.
I was like, okay, so all in all, the food was good.
My boo thing and me and me saidthe macaroni cheese wasn't it,
but everything else was good.
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So that particular auntie, I'mproud of her.
She did an amazing job.
Okay, she did so much better.
And let's see again we saw thecowboys at one.
We them boys, yep, yep, yep.
So I don't know if you knowthis, but my partner, he's been
a Cowboys fan ever since the 90sand I've been a fan since 2022.
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And I found out when I wentover to my dad's house which was
the next and last house of myThanksgiving drive is that my
dad him, and a lot of hissiblings majority of them are
Cowboys fan, except the fewstealers, stragglers.
So that's pretty cool, and somy boo thing was teasing me.
It was like that's why yourfather is a good man, and my
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granny claimed that the womanthat gave birth to me is a
Cowboys fan, and so my boo thingknow that I'm not a fan of the
woman that gave birth to me, sohe was like I knew your mom was
awesome.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
And.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I was like what the fuck ever?
So, anyway, I also was drinking, because my boo thing doesn't
drink.
He was my designated driver.
Hey, and speaking of designateddrivers, even though this is
not the episode of it's given, Ido want to encourage y'all to
ensure that you please, please,please, get a designated driver,
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okay, especially during theholidays.
I mean, I want you to alwayshave one, but definitely during
the holidays.
Please, please, please get one.
And when I mean designateddriver, your TT, I don't mean
the person who's the soberestout of all the people, that's
drunk, like somebody who reallyhas been drinking water and or
juice the entire time.
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Y'all been at the bar, okay,and stuff.
Because I would like for you tobe able to get to enjoy your
holidays, your friends giving,your gals giving and stuff like
that, or New Year's Christmas,hanukkah, everything in between,
and allow other people to beable to get to see their family
members, friends, or even justchill at the house by themselves
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.
I would like for all of us toget safely All right.
Now let's see what else.
Oh, so let me go back to thecooking and my granny house.
My granny, oh my gosh, she madesome sweet potato pond.
Now I know I think everybodyelse call it sweet potato
casserole because, like, I'venever heard anybody say sweet
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potato pond.
But that's what granny said andthat's what I grew up learning
what it was, and that shit wasbanging.
She had the sweet potato piebecause we don't do that fucking
pumpkin pie Whoa, it's not inthe dress and was hitting y'all.
I cannot cook dressing like mygranny at all, trust me, I've
tried and it's difficult, andbut she did the damn thing and
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so did the green.
So again, shout out to mygrandma for still being in her
Right mind to be able to tell myauntie they can't cook for shit
how to cook Thanksgiving andhave it taste just like granny's
home cooking.
Greatly appreciate that, and soso let's see what else.
Oh yeah, so, speaking of food, Idid cook.
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I cooked on that Friday.
But before I talk about that,let me tell you about how bad in
my boot thing is.
Number one my grandma sayssomething that I be cooking like
white folks and I don't likethat.
Oh, whatever, it did my boothing.
Agree with me?
That got out of my nerves.
Everybody always has beenteasing me forever about being
quote-unquote white.
But like I grew up eating allthis soul food.
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I like it, but I don't want tocook that shit all the time and
I know my strength and weakness,so why would I want to cook it?
Okay, so, um, to make up for themacaroni and cheese that wasn't
hidden, I made pulled pork, macand cheese and normally I get
pork butt, but this time I gotthe shoulder and it was actually
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good.
I Tried to shred it so that Icould help with the bull pork
and have it evenly within themac and cheese, but didn't work
out that way.
So, but my mac and cheese, forthe first time in forever, was
hidden, y'all.
Like it was creamy, like it wassupposed to be.
It was that wop wop, thatmacaroni cheese, you know that
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was talked about in the song.
So I was so happy and I madebaked Alaska.
Now, my bull thing loveshimself some desserts.
I don't care too much for himand my mini meat is a baker, but
she put it in my hands to bakeand I did very well with the
baked Alaska.
So, if you don't know, bakedAlaska is basically an ice cream
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cake with the outside shell ofmeringue and y'all.
When we tried to make the bakedAlaska Some years ago, it was
not hitting at all.
It wasn't.
And so I said, okay, christmas,I think this was 2018.
I was like, okay, what I'mgonna try to do is make it
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better.
So we redid it for Christmas2018, after the disaster of
Thanksgiving, and it was better.
But aside from that, I haven'thad meringue, I haven't made
homemade meringue, and I wassuper nervous.
So I bought egg whites and Ibought an extra carton of Eggs,
just as back up plans.
I listened when they said makesure the eggs are room
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temperature, so they helped outa lot.
So, as I'm whipping it,whipping it, whipping it, real
good, it was starting to turnwhite, as it should, and I was
putting the sugar in slowly butsurely.
But again, I was nervous asfuck because you know, if you
all whip your meringue, it won'tgo into a soft peaks.
So I was nervous, but it workedout.
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The issue was my bull thing.
Love my Mike Foxtrot life.
He got the wrong ice cream.
It was super, super soft.
So even if I just use my torchto torch the meringue ever so
slightly, it I'm melted.
But hey, he enjoyed it and itwas good.
I thoroughly enjoyed making itand again, I'm so proud of
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myself for having like a greatThanksgiving, on saying like the
food turned out well, and ofcourse I gave some food to my
ancestors and let me tell y'all,oh, the energy has shifted with
my ancestors.
Shout out to them, and this isme trying again.
I know this is not the segment,but if y'all practice
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Spirituality where you have totake care your ancestors, please
do that and stuff.
I say that because, like myancestors, when I gave them
their Thanksgiving meal I'll beit on a Friday they came through
with the game through.
Let me tell y'all we went to,so light switch is um, at our
local zoo, they light up theArea within the zoo and if it's
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a nocturnal animal, you can seeit and they'll give you hot
chocolate and all this otherstuff.
So, check this out.
I'm walking with my bull thing.
He brought his nephew and Ibrought my mini me and of course
they don't like hanging outwith old folks, whatever.
So, anyway, they came with us,they separated and I'm just
walking and I see $20.
I scooped it up.
I was like, shout out to theancestors and later, I hope you
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wanted some hot cocoa, but atthe zoo we couldn't get the hot
cocoa, so we went to this store.
We went to.
Well, yeah, we went to this onestore and it said on Google
that it makes cupcake.
I mean not cupcakes, I don'tknow why.
I said cupcakes, Hot cocoa,they said they did.
And so we went on Google Mapsservices other restaurant they
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said they did.
So we walked like 275 feet.
We get there.
They're like we can make ithappen, we like what.
So we sat down, the dude madeus a hot cocoa and not only that
, he gave it to us for the free,like what, what, and like my
dreams have been coming throughand everything.
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So, again, the energy shift,with my ancestors so grateful
and so thankful and, as I toldthem and I'm telling y'all, it's
not just monetary, with theancestors that they can help you
with its other things, but tome, $20 on the ground, not $1,
but $20 on the ground and hotcocoa to me.
I felt like that was a signfrom them, like either one,
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again the energy has shifted ina good way, or two.
That was some pagan-ass foodeither way.
Either way, I was just sograteful and thankful about it.
I know this is a long one, butyou'll be okay, I'm almost done.
So I Wanted to like be a littlebit vulnerable with y'all, cuz
my child will be turning 17 inJanuary and y'all is causing
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anxiety with me and sadnessbeing because she's my only
child and you know I have to lether fly from the house nest
Inside joke and also becausewhen you get seven, well, you
get a little bit older, youdon't want to go need your
parents anymore, and so she toldme she didn't want anything for
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Christmas because she can getherself.
And like I Couldn't handle it.
I was being so emotionalbecause I do know that being
overly independent is a dramaticReaction.
Into my knowledge, I haven'tgiven her any trauma within our
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Mother-daughter relationship andstuff, but y'all, I'm getting
emotional.
I do have a life in a worldoutside of my child but like she
takes a majority of my time, soher not needing me makes me
feel so unloved and I'm thankfulthat my partner console me.
It was like this is a normalstep, this is progression, and
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he said he was like that way hismom God bless her.
So, so like I'm happy to knowthat this is, quote-unquote,
normal, but I also am like damnfeeling sad about it.
But luckily for me I havetherapy this week so I get to
talk to my therapist about it.
So If you are a parent outthere and your child is getting
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older, if you want to, you canlike let me know how they make
you feel and how you're copingwith it.
Again, I'm thankful I have mybook thing, so I'm not coping
and dealing by myself.
But yeah, whether you're in arelationship or not, like, how
are you coping with your childgetting older?
Or how did you cope with Withyour child being a adult and not
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needing you as much?
I'm curious to know.
It's given.
I'm giving you theencouragement to make it through
the week.
Let's tackle eating thatelephant together, one bite at a
time, y'all.
I don't know why I'm stilldoing it, it's given, but here
we are Okay.
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So During this holiday season,everyone talks about protecting
your energy and force in yourboundaries, and I encourage you
to do that all year round, butdefinitely during the holiday
season.
For me, I suffer from seasonalaffective disorder, better known
, as said, during this time.
Now, granted, the years havegotten better since I've been
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diagnosed therapy Mids, myancestors all working together
but still I get super nervousevery year.
So I encourage you to pleaseexercise, get vitamin D and stay
away from those that can makeyou sparrow, if you know the oh,
they are like your triggers andif you can, because I do know
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Not everyone has the luxury ofbeing able to be away from
people that are trigger-intoxicand not good for their health of
any kind.
So what else?
Oh yeah, also, I want to telloh wait, I lost my place.
Oh yeah, oh yeah, I'll bet thisholiday season will be a
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successful holiday season foryou.
Also want to tell you about anemotional will.
Okay, I went through my notes.
Hopefully I ain't repeatingmyself Now.
I know I talked about emotionalwill on my personal social
media, but I don't think I didit on my tiktok or on this
podcast.
Look y'all, I turn 40.
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I don't know if it's an ADHDthing or what, but short-term
memory loss, unfortunately, issomething that I have and I tell
so many people things I eitheradd or take away some stuff.
So, look, I repeat myself, Irepeat myself.
But I'm so certain that, evenif I do repeat myself, it's a
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small segment of information andthe gist the most the meat, um
and the potatoes of it is moreso new information Versus, like
the season, it being informationrepeated.
Yeah, you like that analogy,don't you Okay?
Anyway, there's this emotionalwheel.
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They give you the words todescribe your feelings when you
can't think of it on your own.
And so my therapist, she hasthe wheel as a pillow in her
office and y'all.
It has helped me out so muchbecause, like, I'll tell her
stuff and then she'll ask me myfeelings on it and I'm like I
can't find the words.
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And so one day I noticed theemotional will pillow next to me
.
Now, clearly it wasn't for mespecifically, but I think it was
a good thing for her to have,and so I use it from time to
time, like I said, when I'mtrying to explain to her the
words and I just can't get itright, cuz okay, um, for example
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, you can say the word said, butyou might not really be sad.
So there's other words I thinkit's like three levels
Underneath the said or tosomething like that, and it'll
explain to you cuz it's like atriangle.
So it'll explain I mean notexplain, I'm sorry, but show
different words underneath saysyou can get to like the root of
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what you're feeling.
And because of that, again,that has helped me explain to my
therapist how I feel and Isometimes.
I also used it when we hadcouples therapy and I don't use
it as often when I'm talking topeople as I probably should
because, like that means I haveto keep my phone out and be like
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stand by and we're in such amicrowave environment that, like
it seems, you're not.
People are not Open, willing tolisten to you, give a lot of
details about anything, nor arethey willing to hear you make a
pause as you try to explainyourself or find the right words
to say.
Even on this podcast, Isometimes hate if I have to
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pause because I feel like I'msupposed to always have like air
, but I'm not at that point yetwhere I can just say things off
the dome and I don't likerambling.
I don't think I ramble, but Iprobably do.
But I don't think it is as badas a good be, because that's why
I have a script anyway.
I Encourage you to look at thatemotional will if you haven't
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already.
It's an easily searchable.
You just put in emotional willand it'll come up and stuff.
So, yeah, I know I'm not atherapist and some of us may or
may not be able to have thefunds or the insurance to have A
therapist, but I'm hoping thatby encouraging you with the tips
and tricks that my therapistdoes for me, I can help you back
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.
I can help by paying it forwardto your mental health as well.
Now, again, I am not atherapist, so I can't tell you
what to do, but I can definitelytell you what Well, not
everything, but some of thethings that I go through.
I don't know, she might findthat it's similar to what you go
through and maybe this can helpyou.
So that's my way.
But anyway, at the end of theday, I am encouraging you.
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You got this shit.
One day at a time.
Let's get it popping.
I blow out the bubblessurrounding pop culture and talk
about it.
All right, y'all.
So I Did not write this down.
So I'm a freestyle.
The fuck out of this.
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And yeah, I will be okay, allright.
So One thing there are going tobe a couple.
No, one thing will be a triggerwarning, and that's when I talk
about Cassie.
But I'll save that for the lastpart about the pop culture.
So I was on Twitter.
No, fuck no, I was on tiktok,with the hell on a white Twitter
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came to mind.
I was on Tiktok and it wastalking about Mario Lopez and he
was Cold-switching, so I guesshe has to show where he eats
food, and so when he eats thefood he has his accent.
And he said he's Mexican.
So it's not like me trying tosay that on some fucked up shit.
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Like he's from Mexico, he's hispeople's, his heritage is from
Mexico.
Okay, so he has the accent.
And then a lot of people did notknow that he was a Spanish
speaker and or come from myHispanic background, which is
kind of weird.
His last name is Lopez, butokay, whatever, and I guess
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because of the fact that when heis on air he's not, you're not
able to hear it, and so I'mparaphrasing what he said on
tiktok.
But he basically said it'ssomething along the lines of you
know, y'all talking about myaccent and stuff like that, I
can't do that on my show.
You know I can't have thataccent.
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So that kind of bothered me,even though I know when it comes
to non white people, that issomething that we have to do.
Again, all I know about is beingblack, but I do know that
within the black community,obviously we code switch as well
.
Well, we'll talk slang andstuff like that when we get on
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an interview or a phoneinterview, we'll try to elevate
our voice and try to speakproper English In hopes that
nobody can tell that we're black.
And even if we make it that far, some Up to a face-to-face
interview, sometimes we stillget even more nervous and make
sure that we have our hairIntact and everything.
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We're looking none, threateningand sounding more quote-unquote
white and I personally don'tlike that shit.
And I realized a couple ofweeks ago I was Trying to get
ready for an interview and eventhough within my state of
Tennessee we have the crown eggwhich means that you cannot
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discriminate or fire somebody isFurther their texture of their
hair.
Now it looks.
It still made me nervous becauseI've never Interviewed for a
job with my locks before.
As I think about it, damn, I'llwait.
There's a lot.
I have the reason I was sonervous because with this
particular interview, my lockswasn't done and I was like maybe
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two months behind and that's alittle bit more Distance that I
allowed my hair to be and Ididn't like it.
And so I was super nervous,like how do I wear this?
I don't want to wear it down, Idon't want to wear it up, and I
even was googling and then,luckily, I got over and I was
like I'm gonna wear my hair upand there's nothing wrong with
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my hair, my hair is gonna bewhat it's gonna be.
And so I do understand from timeto time that some of us can't
find Ourselves trying toassimilate to this white culture
.
And there's nothing wrong withit because obviously we have.
We're in a capitalist society,so we have to have a job to take
care of ourselves.
But I can't help it if itpisses me off.
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You know, if you have aquote-unquote kettle name, you
know somebody can find out.
They can not find out.
They can assume your race andthen, like, depending on what
part of that of different areasyou live, they can also assume
that.
So there's all these ways thatpeople can prejudge you without
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knowing shit about you and ithurts and it's horrible,
especially when it comes to ajob, because it's like I'm
trying to be a productive personwithin the community and now I
have to make sure that I look acertain way, dress a certain way
, act a certain way.
And if you decide to havechildren, you have to make sure
that they quote-unquote have aWhite name.
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A common name is.
Other people would say, butlet's call it what it is a white
name.
Or, if not, hope that theirmiddle name is something that
they can go by To get a job.
And it's like all these factorsand I fucking hate it because I
know number one it's illegal,but a Lot of things have been
illegal and people are able tolike skirt around his skirt.
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But it's like, why can't I bewho I am, why can't I talk the
way that I talk?
And as long as I'm not cursinganybody out or violating them,
like, why do I have the soundlook and become Such a shrink
myself to become non-threateningfor a job?
It's like, are you serious?
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And then it'll be motherfuckerslike that that even if they
didn't judge you and everything,they truly wanted, you of
course Don't be people.
You only got this jobDisposition because of
affirmative action and all thisstuff.
And it's like, damn it, likeyou mean to tell me we can't be
smart.
I also saw on tiktok wheresomebody, a white person, went
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to an HBCU for a nursing program.
I forgot who the creator wasand I also forgot what the
college was, and so the personwas on the Assumption that
because it was a HBCU, majorityblack and that it would not be
difficult, and it's like thatAssumption that anything that is
black made is ghetto or thatit's not professional, and I
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hate that because, for me, italways aggravates me how one
black person is a spokespersonfor every single black person,
but we cannot do the same whenit comes to white people.
And, again, always having toact a certain way and it's like
there's good, bad and everythingin between and all races,
genders and nationalities,religions, etc.
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And it just seems like wheneverit's attached to black, it's
supposed to be a lesser quality.
And I even go as much as, whenit comes to looking at TV shows
and stuff, that Sometimes we seehow, if it's a dark skinned
person, they're probably not thelove interest, and it's usually
a light skinned or raciallyambiguous love interest, or it's
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usually a skinny person, youknow, and it's just like, again,
we're all different shades andsizes.
So it's like it seems likeyou're being Indoctrinated into
thinking a certain way bylooking at the media, reading,
writing, talking, viewing.
However, and you have to like,stick to this protocol and these
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rules and you can't likequote-unquote disrupt it.
I remember back in the dayswhen I was in elementary how we
had to go to the restroomourselves and I didn't like that
stuff.
So when my daughter startedgoing to school, I told her.
I said, hey, first thing youask to go to the bathroom, they
don't let you.
You go anyway, because if youdon't get it out, obviously
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that's gonna mess up yourbladder and everything like that
.
And it's like I'm an older.
I realized that to a certaindegree, school was trying to
teach you on how to go into thework environment.
How hey, you gotta be on time,you gotta do this, isn't it?
And of course people don't likethe way that things are involved
, evolve and the evolution ofthings change and not being the
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protocol norm anymore, and orpeople are working, waking up
and demanding and wanting morethan what their predecessors,
previous generation, even theirparents and other generational
people had.
And I can go on and on aboutthis.
But it's just for me, againaggravated, that we all have to
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be the same.
Without words, actions, ournames and everything.
We can't be different.
And I think when you'redifferent, when you're creative,
that that allows you to seethings Different way.
I know I keep using the worddifferent, but I'm being serious
, like being creative and not Upand going against the cream and
not being the norm should beencouraged, because that's how a
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lot of things are birthed andchange, change happens and stuff
.
So, again, nothing wrong withMario Lopez doing it, but it
kind of like hurt my feelings alittle bit so I didn't like that
.
All right, the next thing on thelist.
Oh my gosh, this is hilarious.
So I'm gonna try to look it upso I can say it Well, so I can
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find it on Social media and so Ican talk about it.
So I'm looking it up, I'm gonnado two things at once.
So, all right, so Rose Collegeis a private college that is in
Memphis, tennessee, all right,and so it is so fucking funny to
me, but whatever.
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So I don't know.
I know it's a private schooland that's about it, okay.
So there was a big to-do Aboutit and I thought it was funny
and stuff, because you justgotta listen.
Okay, so a College in Memphis,tennessee, rose College.
There are up in arms about afaculty member that tried
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hosting a BDSM safety class oncampus and it has everybody
divided.
Reverend Beatrix W E L, aschool chaplain at Rhodes
College, was prepared to host asafety seminar titled BDSM 101
on campus as a message onInstagram announced, it was
intended to provide a safe spacefor students to learn about the
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topic, as she hosted a quoteLocal dominatrix to share wisdom
on how to safely sailing,consensually learning about
bondage, discipline, domination,sadism, submission and Mass oh,
massacism.
I hope I pronounce that reallyyeah, massacism.
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Okay, that's because they wouldalso be provided with the
opportunities to ask questionsUnonimally.
So all the words that I wassaying came from a red silt and
which that should let you knowhow it just didn't Just become
local, like just Memphis, likeit made it to the Red Silt and
the website and stuff, and so,of course, as we know, memphis,
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tennessee, is In the Bible bill,so a lot of people were up in
arms for religious reasons aboutthis, especially with the
person being a chaplain and Iknow nobody gives a shit about
what I gotta say.
But I think that there's nothingwrong with this, because when
you go to college, you most of Ido know that there are some
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prodigies out there that are incollege, that they are minors,
but most people in college are18 plus, so you are legally an
adult, so you can make adecision to go to this class or
not.
It's not forcing anybody to go.
You can or cannot attend.
That's one and number two, ifit's teaching you, educating you
about PDSM, which is somethingthat should only be Done with
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consenting adults, there'snothing wrong with that.
And you're also teach, beingtaught about safe practices and
consent.
So, plus the fucking problem cuzme, as someone who practices
PDSM, I learned a lot aboutconsent being within the PDSM
community more than I learnedbeing without it, and
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negotiations and talking aboutthings, because obviously, as
I've said before, when youparticipate in BDSM, it can be
dangerous in what you do, so youwant to make sure that you're
being as safe as you can whenyou participate in BDSM.
So what's the f**king problemwith that?
And consent can be.
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All this stuff that is beingtold can be taken into the real
world.
It's just not BDSM like.
We need consent everywhere.
People need to provide consentabout shaking hands, hugging
people, tapping people, whatever, because not everybody wants to
be touched, you know.
So there's nothing wrong withconsent and negotiations.
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Again, you can take that toyour relationship, where you can
negotiate with your partnerabout your expectations within
the relationship and that wayyou can see if that person or
persons is there for you andit's, if you like, bond well, so
I see nothing wrong with this.
But unfortunately, again, beingin the bible belt, I can see
how, quote unquote,participating in this is ungodly
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like because of a chaplain andChristian like.
But my thing is, wearing thebible doesn't say you can't do
that stuff, that like.
It's on my last nerves and, yes, y'all know how I feel about
Christianity but I'm being deadass.
Serious, though, likeeverything that is different and
weird.
Supposedly it's not of God.
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But if we want to get down tothe notes and votes and become
semantic, then God create someof this stuff and then God
created humans and our mind, soour mind was able to involve
soul.
Yeah, and give me the bibleverse that specifically says
that bds and was wrong.
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I remember growing up in churchthey talked about how, yeah, you
know, you're supposed to onlyprocreate for purpose of having
a child and you're supposed tobe married and even if you're
married, you're not supposed togive or receive oral sex.
Where the fuck is that in thebible?
Where?
So like?
Again, it's so fuckingaggravating to me that adults
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again nobody is saying to allowyour 17 year old and younger to
learn bdsm.
You know, I see nothing wrongwith them learning about
negotiations and consent in avery child friendly environment,
but it's like you're up in arms.
Not everybody is a Christianand if those people are
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Christians, not everybody hastheir Christianity.
The way that you do like thefuck.
So that's the shit I don't like.
So, yeah, I could have talkedabout this for the bdsm segment
on this upcoming Thursday, butit's pop culture and I thought
it was kind of hilarious.
So, as your convenience, readabout it and you know, make your
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own decisions.
Alright, the last thing I wantto talk about is with Cassie and
, of course, trigger warning fordomestic violence, sexual
assault, etc.
So if you don't want to listthe rest of it, that's fine.
So I'm gonna briefly talk aboutcuz I really don't want to go
into details about it cuz, again, trigger warning, duh.
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So allegedly Cassie was intosome pretty heavy shit when she
was with buff daddy diddy,whatever he wants to go by.
So allegedly he abused her andallegedly evolved in sex
trafficking, allegedly, and soyou know she said what she said.
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There was a 35 page documentout there.
You can read it your leisureand like, within the next day he
settled and a lot of peoplewere busy about it because, you
know, per usual, nobody believeswomen and nobody believes black
women and nobody believes anyvictim.
Again, I had to talk about this,but Brock Turner.
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Brock Turner was in the actionof, unfortunately, sexually
assaulting this woman.
Good Samaritans saw him in theegg, bend him down, called the
police and the judge got him off.
Oh yeah, allegedly, allegedly.
The judge got him off and saidsomething in a pair of raising
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that you know you don't want toruin his reputation cuz he's a
swimmer and I never found outwhat the woman was, thank
goodness, but, like you, worriedabout this swimmer's life who,
without consent see how this isdone together took advantage of
a woman who could not consentbecause she was the under the
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influence.
Blah, blah, blah.
And I hate that because, again,that shows whether you tell
somebody when it happens, afterit happens.
What have you you're notbelieve?
Row, as I talked about before,was hit with a brick.
The person who did allegedly didit came out and said yeah, I
did it.
Nobody believed her.
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So many think pieces about yeah, she didn't do it.
She's a scammer.
All this time she had to go tothe doctor to prove to the
naysayers, who don't even knowher about what really happened
and I don't know if anybody evenapologized to her.
It's like fucking crazy.
And I'm and of course I knowpart of that has to deal with
patriarchy and it's like as avictim, you're playing.
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What were you wearing?
Why did you drink so much?
Like are you fucking kidding me?
Why did you rape me?
That's the bigger thing.
Like, why did you sexuallyassault me?
Whatever, whatever.
And so, on top of that, peoplealso had their point of view
about oh, she was just there forthe money, because now she's
telling and she waited so longand she made him settles.
But it's like my boo thing andI talked about it.
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If someone like, for example,cassie, because of what happened
, she's now labeled,unfortunately, as a snitch, as a
whistleblower or however youwant to say it.
So therefore nobody wants towork with her.
Nobody would probably want towork with her on the singing,
the modeling, something.
So now she has, she possiblyhas to go and go and die, but if
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I'm not mistaken, she's married, so that's, she's good.
But like, let's think about it.
We talk about what happened toall.
The name escapes me.
Fuck, what's her name?
Oh, damn it.
Well, I can't think of it.
It's right there in her tip ofmy tongue and that's a pun
(40:57):
because I'm talking aboutLewinsky.
There we go allegedly whathappened with Monica Lewinsky
and allegedly former presidentBill Clinton and people joked
and made fun of her andeverything.
So, like I can't try to find aplace to work it, to take care
of your livelihood and stuff.
It's crazy.
So yeah, but again, I'm not alawyer and there's other think
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pieces from lawyers and otherpeople who can tell you their
opinion as to why Cassie didwhat she did and why she did
self-acquard and everything.
But it's like I just wish morepeople could just think about
the victims a whole lot morethan the alleged suspects
perpetrators who did stuff.
Because, like, nobody forced ortold any of these suspect
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perpetrators to do what they did.
I mean society.
I think again, as I said earlyand doctor native brand, watch
them to believe that they havethe power and they should be
given pussy at any given timebecause they're rich and they do
this, this and that, blah, blah, blah.
But like again, we need toencourage and force people to
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stop violating consent,violating people's boundaries
and everything like that.
Again, so many people don'twant to evolve and this is what
happens when you don't want toevolve like X for consent.
So, anyway, blah, blah, blah.
So all that stuff.
I read like maybe two or threepages of what happened to Cassie
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and it was very heartbreakingto me to to learn about that
stuff and I did.
That is what she's goingthrough and I hope that she gets
the help and therapy if shehasn't received therapy, and she
has more people on her sideabout what she went through.
Because, again, as someone whohas survived being in domestic
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violence relationship twice andwho has been sexually assaulted
once and has had my constantviolated many times, I feel for
her.
So anytime I hear aboutsomebody being abusive and stuff
, it really triggers me, ofcourse, and it really makes me
want to go hard for the victimsinvolved, because I know what
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it's like and the paradigm thatcomes with men and, yes, I know
that men and non-binary peoplecan be assaulted and in domestic
violence situations, etc.
Etc.
But it's usually mostly women,cis women and mostly trans women
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that go through this.
So, again, the underlying layer,of course, is misogyny misogyny
, war if the person is black,and patriarchy and religion, as
well as a lot of stuff if we getdown to the notes and bolts,
but at the end of the day, thatshit is fucked up and a person
can probably it'll take a lotfor them ever to be their usual
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self.
And again, because we're in acapitalist society, how can they
take care of themselves?
And it's crazy because my boothing was like yeah, so say, for
example, somebody smokes crackor something like that, or does
ecstasy, and they're allegedlyaround Cassie.
There's a, but there'spotential for Cassidy to snitch.
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That's how they could getcaught up.
And you know, if you make a lotof money, then that can mess up
your reputation and mess upyour livelihood.
So you know, nobody wouldprobably want her around.
And even deeper than that whichsucks so badly and that pump
was not intended.
My boo thing even mentioned thatpeople might have saw someone
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do something wrong.
Sometimes they can even snitchor tell the authorities because
that's their livelihood.
And I also remember Joe Buttontalking about this as well,
where and I'm paraphrasing, butthis deal with R Kelly, like one
song, can feed a lot of people.
So unfortunately, it can bedifficult for someone to want to
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tell because that's affectingtheir livelihood as well, and
all of that is gross anddisgusting and I hate that and
I'm not saying it's okay, but Ihate that.
People are not in a placebecause of financial reasons.
They're not in a place morallyor ethically and, of course,
financially, to want to snitchor even tell somebody doing
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wrong because they could beblack ball, they could lose
their job and all the stuff.
And, of course, if you're abalfour rich person trying to
prove that you did what you didlike for me and then I'll wrap
it up with my last relationship.
There was no proof of domesticviolence, because I didn't want
to call the cops, because Ididn't want to get arrested,
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because, yeah, I hit thatmotherfucker back.
Oh, allegedly I hit him back.
And so when I tried to get myorder of protection, I didn't
even hire a lawyer because Iknew that there was no proof.
It was my word against my exand, show enough, my ex
allegedly committed perjury bysaying that he never put his
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hands on me, but him and I bothknow he did.
And because there was nobodyaround who saw it, I never
called the police.
And when the police did show upto the house, when my men and
me called, I never told thepolice what happened, like he
was able to get away with it,even though on his record and
the case was dismissed and Ilearned this after we were
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already deep in a relationshipthat he had got arrested before
For it wasn't domestic violencebefore assault or something like
that.
So that's again why I encouragey'all to look up people.
But anyway, we talked about itwhen we were in the relationship
and he had said allegedly thatthe woman was lying and she
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never went to court.
So because she never went tocourt, it was thrown out and so
yeah, and it just sucks.
So there's so many reasons,unfortunately, why victims don't
say anything.
And even when they do and theyhave all the proof in the world
Sometimes they're still hackledand talked about.
And if you're powerful and richenough, you can still sometimes
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get off a game, but notintended for the things that you
did.
So my advice to you, if you can, per usual, if you are in any
kind of relationship where thisperson is low, bumming you,
abusing, you see if you can seekhelp, treatment and get out.
And if you're able to see thered flags, please, please,
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please, take those red flags asthe truth.
Talk to your ancestors, talk toyour eyes, talk to yourself,
look at, look and research thatperson and the first time that
they violate your consent oryour boundaries, if you can get
away from them.
And again, I do understand howsometimes it's difficult when it
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comes to those type ofrelationships that you don't
know that it's abusive untilit's too late, or you're so
wrapped up in the relationshipbut you can't get out or you're
fearful that once you do get outthe relationship that they
still might harm you.
Do everything you can ifpossible to avoid that and do
everything you can to get anorder of protection.
If it's legal, record yourconversations with that person,
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keep the text messages.
If you can do everything, youcan that if you're in this
situation and try to get out ofit, because unfortunately not
all of us make it out alive andI'd rather y'all try y'all best
to avoid these red flags thefirst time you see them, so that
you can survive and avoid it.
So yeah, croak on the joke.
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That's where I give you mybestest jokes and we laugh
together.
Or nah, today's joke I told ahelium joke in chemistry class.
There was no reaction.
Well, guess that's my cue toleave.
M-O-W-M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-W-E .
That's my name, mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
Mama Q, say it faster or slow,don't really matter, though the
U-E gets a minute.
Tongue tizzy yo, hey, kindadizzy bro.
(00:25):
Who is she?
Mama Q?
Mama gave birth little waste,no girth, 60 years ago.
No, I don't want.
Mo Q is a lion and I tried toalign this double end.
Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy modules, Mama Q, I'm the
first one in and the first oneout.
Memphis Tend to Key is mywhereabouts, duncan Plain Mayn,
(00:46):
saying stick it to one topic.
I reply your mind is verymyopic with Mama Q.
You need better optist pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
Definitely.
No need to whisper gracefully.
I like it better off key.
Now let's see.
Do you remember me?
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e D-W-E.
(01:07):
That's my name, Mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e D-W-E.
That's my name, mama Q.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Hey, hi, it's me, Mama Q.
I welcome you to Moments in QASMR episode.
In this episode, I wouldtitillate your ears with my
voice and random sounds In Qtoday, 60 seconds of having
what's going on.
It's giving.
Let's get it popping and croakon the joke.
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P-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e, d-w-e,d-w-e-c-d-w-e, z-a-p-o-r-s-e-g
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that's my name, mama Q.
What's going on in this segment?
I tell you what's been going onin my life since last episode.
Y'all.
I just realized that I did notgive you 60 seconds in heaven
(03:17):
when I had my Monday episode twoweeks ago.
I have no idea how I missed it.
So that's why, if you werecounting, you receive one minute
and 11 seconds in heaven.
My bad, and I'm still trying tofind a musical break from
Mondays that I enjoy.
So be patient with me, becausethis Virgo likes perfection,
(03:38):
okay, alright.
So today is Monday, so youprobably should have thrown away
your Thanksgiving food.
Now, I'm not judging you if youhaven't, because I do
understand how that food can begood and food is expensive.
Okay, but just be sure thatthat you don't eat it too much
(04:01):
longer, because I don't want youto get food poisoning.
Again, I ain't judging you.
I get it.
I get it, but just be cognizantand careful.
Okay, so my Thanksgiving,seriously, I was thankful for my
granny invited my partner toher house for Thanksgiving and
let me tell y'all my grannydon't want anybody over her
(04:22):
house unless it's family.
Like anybody, I think she'snever met any of my exes well,
except my high school ex, andthat was only because we went to
the same church, like the restof, I can recall, if she's ever
met them, because she don't likeeverybody at her house.
She just met my sister, ashley.
(04:43):
She just met her husbandbecause, again, she don't want
nobody over her house if it'snot family.
So I was grateful, thankful andsurprised by that.
So I had to run some errandsbefore we went over to granny
house to see the cowboys went.
(05:03):
Whoa, whoa.
So many of me does have herfucking driver's license.
So I had to drive her to otherfamily members houses.
First I had to drive her to myaunt that I don't care too much
for.
So, yeah, boo thing and I werein the car.
We did not go inside because,like I don't like her, I don't
like her husband, who is myuncle by marriage.
We don't get along.
(05:24):
It makes no sense for me to bethere, makes no sense for my
partner to even meet them.
So, yeah, but it worked outbecause the woman that gave
birth to me, she came throughand I got to see my two nieces,
whoop, whoop, and I was able totake pictures with them and
check on them all while in thetruck no, we weren't even in the
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driveway, oh, in the car, onthe street.
Then from there we drove to mygranny house.
Now, my granny is slick y'all.
What we got there she was likeyour auntie cooked and I was
like, oh, are you serious?
Because that particular auntiecannot cook at all.
I don't know how you can fuckup ground beef, but that's how
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much of a bad cook she is.
So, granny, she saved it bysaying but I helped tell her how
to cook, dictate and stuff.
I was like, okay, so all in all, the food was good.
My boo thing and me and me saidthe macaroni cheese wasn't it,
but everything else was good.
(06:28):
So that particular auntie, I'mproud of her.
She did an amazing job.
Okay, she did so much better.
And let's see again we saw thecowboys at one.
We them boys, yep, yep, yep.
So I don't know if you knowthis, but my partner, he's been
a Cowboys fan ever since the 90sand I've been a fan since 2022.
(06:49):
And I found out when I wentover to my dad's house which was
the next and last house of myThanksgiving drive is that my
dad him, and a lot of hissiblings majority of them are
Cowboys fan, except the fewstealers, stragglers.
So that's pretty cool, and somy boo thing was teasing me.
It was like that's why yourfather is a good man, and my
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granny claimed that the womanthat gave birth to me is a
Cowboys fan, and so my boo thingknow that I'm not a fan of the
woman that gave birth to me, sohe was like I knew your mom was
awesome.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
And.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I was like what the fuck ever?
So, anyway, I also was drinking, because my boo thing doesn't
drink.
He was my designated driver.
Hey, and speaking of designateddrivers, even though this is
not the episode of it's given, Ido want to encourage y'all to
ensure that you please, please,please, get a designated driver,
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okay, especially during theholidays.
I mean, I want you to alwayshave one, but definitely during
the holidays.
Please, please, please get one.
And when I mean designateddriver, your TT, I don't mean
the person who's the soberestout of all the people, that's
drunk, like somebody who reallyhas been drinking water and or
juice the entire time.
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Y'all been at the bar, okay,and stuff.
Because I would like for you tobe able to get to enjoy your
holidays, your friends giving,your gals giving and stuff like
that, or New Year's Christmas,hanukkah, everything in between,
and allow other people to beable to get to see their family
members, friends, or even justchill at the house by themselves
(08:26):
.
I would like for all of us toget safely All right.
Now let's see what else.
Oh, so let me go back to thecooking and my granny house.
My granny, oh my gosh, she madesome sweet potato pond.
Now I know I think everybodyelse call it sweet potato
casserole because, like, I'venever heard anybody say sweet
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potato pond.
But that's what granny said andthat's what I grew up learning
what it was, and that shit wasbanging.
She had the sweet potato piebecause we don't do that fucking
pumpkin pie Whoa, it's not inthe dress and was hitting y'all.
I cannot cook dressing like mygranny at all, trust me, I've
tried and it's difficult, andbut she did the damn thing and
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so did the green.
So again, shout out to mygrandma for still being in her
Right mind to be able to tell myauntie they can't cook for shit
how to cook Thanksgiving andhave it taste just like granny's
home cooking.
Greatly appreciate that, and soso let's see what else.
Oh yeah, so, speaking of food, Idid cook.
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I cooked on that Friday.
But before I talk about that,let me tell you about how bad in
my boot thing is.
Number one my grandma sayssomething that I be cooking like
white folks and I don't likethat.
Oh, whatever, it did my boothing.
Agree with me?
That got out of my nerves.
Everybody always has beenteasing me forever about being
quote-unquote white.
But like I grew up eating allthis soul food.
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I like it, but I don't want tocook that shit all the time and
I know my strength and weakness,so why would I want to cook it?
Okay, so, um, to make up for themacaroni and cheese that wasn't
hidden, I made pulled pork, macand cheese and normally I get
pork butt, but this time I gotthe shoulder and it was actually
(10:17):
good.
I Tried to shred it so that Icould help with the bull pork
and have it evenly within themac and cheese, but didn't work
out that way.
So, but my mac and cheese, forthe first time in forever, was
hidden, y'all.
Like it was creamy, like it wassupposed to be.
It was that wop wop, thatmacaroni cheese, you know that
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was talked about in the song.
So I was so happy and I madebaked Alaska.
Now, my bull thing loveshimself some desserts.
I don't care too much for himand my mini meat is a baker, but
she put it in my hands to bakeand I did very well with the
baked Alaska.
So, if you don't know, bakedAlaska is basically an ice cream
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cake with the outside shell ofmeringue and y'all.
When we tried to make the bakedAlaska Some years ago, it was
not hitting at all.
It wasn't.
And so I said, okay, christmas,I think this was 2018.
I was like, okay, what I'mgonna try to do is make it
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better.
So we redid it for Christmas2018, after the disaster of
Thanksgiving, and it was better.
But aside from that, I haven'thad meringue, I haven't made
homemade meringue, and I wassuper nervous.
So I bought egg whites and Ibought an extra carton of Eggs,
just as back up plans.
I listened when they said makesure the eggs are room
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temperature, so they helped outa lot.
So, as I'm whipping it,whipping it, whipping it, real
good, it was starting to turnwhite, as it should, and I was
putting the sugar in slowly butsurely.
But again, I was nervous asfuck because you know, if you
all whip your meringue, it won'tgo into a soft peaks.
So I was nervous, but it workedout.
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The issue was my bull thing.
Love my Mike Foxtrot life.
He got the wrong ice cream.
It was super, super soft.
So even if I just use my torchto torch the meringue ever so
slightly, it I'm melted.
But hey, he enjoyed it and itwas good.
I thoroughly enjoyed making itand again, I'm so proud of
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myself for having like a greatThanksgiving, on saying like the
food turned out well, and ofcourse I gave some food to my
ancestors and let me tell y'all,oh, the energy has shifted with
my ancestors.
Shout out to them, and this isme trying again.
I know this is not the segment,but if y'all practice
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Spirituality where you have totake care your ancestors, please
do that and stuff.
I say that because, like myancestors, when I gave them
their Thanksgiving meal I'll beit on a Friday they came through
with the game through.
Let me tell y'all we went to,so light switch is um, at our
local zoo, they light up theArea within the zoo and if it's
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a nocturnal animal, you can seeit and they'll give you hot
chocolate and all this otherstuff.
So, check this out.
I'm walking with my bull thing.
He brought his nephew and Ibrought my mini me and of course
they don't like hanging outwith old folks, whatever.
So, anyway, they came with us,they separated and I'm just
walking and I see $20.
I scooped it up.
I was like, shout out to theancestors and later, I hope you
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wanted some hot cocoa, but atthe zoo we couldn't get the hot
cocoa, so we went to this store.
We went to.
Well, yeah, we went to this onestore and it said on Google
that it makes cupcake.
I mean not cupcakes, I don'tknow why.
I said cupcakes, Hot cocoa,they said they did.
And so we went on Google Mapsservices other restaurant they
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said they did.
So we walked like 275 feet.
We get there.
They're like we can make ithappen, we like what.
So we sat down, the dude madeus a hot cocoa and not only that
, he gave it to us for the free,like what, what, and like my
dreams have been coming throughand everything.
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So, again, the energy shift,with my ancestors so grateful
and so thankful and, as I toldthem and I'm telling y'all, it's
not just monetary, with theancestors that they can help you
with its other things, but tome, $20 on the ground, not $1,
but $20 on the ground and hotcocoa to me.
I felt like that was a signfrom them, like either one,
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again the energy has shifted ina good way, or two.
That was some pagan-ass foodeither way.
Either way, I was just sograteful and thankful about it.
I know this is a long one, butyou'll be okay, I'm almost done.
So I Wanted to like be a littlebit vulnerable with y'all, cuz
my child will be turning 17 inJanuary and y'all is causing
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anxiety with me and sadnessbeing because she's my only
child and you know I have to lether fly from the house nest
Inside joke and also becausewhen you get seven, well, you
get a little bit older, youdon't want to go need your
parents anymore, and so she toldme she didn't want anything for
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Christmas because she can getherself.
And like I Couldn't handle it.
I was being so emotionalbecause I do know that being
overly independent is a dramaticReaction.
Into my knowledge, I haven'tgiven her any trauma within our
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Mother-daughter relationship andstuff, but y'all, I'm getting
emotional.
I do have a life in a worldoutside of my child but like she
takes a majority of my time, soher not needing me makes me
feel so unloved and I'm thankfulthat my partner console me.
It was like this is a normalstep, this is progression, and
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he said he was like that way hismom God bless her.
So, so like I'm happy to knowthat this is, quote-unquote,
normal, but I also am like damnfeeling sad about it.
But luckily for me I havetherapy this week so I get to
talk to my therapist about it.
So If you are a parent outthere and your child is getting
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older, if you want to, you canlike let me know how they make
you feel and how you're copingwith it.
Again, I'm thankful I have mybook thing, so I'm not coping
and dealing by myself.
But yeah, whether you're in arelationship or not, like, how
are you coping with your childgetting older?
Or how did you cope with Withyour child being a adult and not
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needing you as much?
I'm curious to know.
It's given.
I'm giving you theencouragement to make it through
the week.
Let's tackle eating thatelephant together, one bite at a
time, y'all.
I don't know why I'm stilldoing it, it's given, but here
we are Okay.
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So During this holiday season,everyone talks about protecting
your energy and force in yourboundaries, and I encourage you
to do that all year round, butdefinitely during the holiday
season.
For me, I suffer from seasonalaffective disorder, better known
, as said, during this time.
Now, granted, the years havegotten better since I've been
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diagnosed therapy Mids, myancestors all working together
but still I get super nervousevery year.
So I encourage you to pleaseexercise, get vitamin D and stay
away from those that can makeyou sparrow, if you know the oh,
they are like your triggers andif you can, because I do know
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Not everyone has the luxury ofbeing able to be away from
people that are trigger-intoxicand not good for their health of
any kind.
So what else?
Oh yeah, also, I want to telloh wait, I lost my place.
Oh yeah, oh yeah, I'll bet thisholiday season will be a
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successful holiday season foryou.
Also want to tell you about anemotional will.
Okay, I went through my notes.
Hopefully I ain't repeatingmyself Now.
I know I talked about emotionalwill on my personal social
media, but I don't think I didit on my tiktok or on this
podcast.
Look y'all, I turn 40.
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I don't know if it's an ADHDthing or what, but short-term
memory loss, unfortunately, issomething that I have and I tell
so many people things I eitheradd or take away some stuff.
So, look, I repeat myself, Irepeat myself.
But I'm so certain that, evenif I do repeat myself, it's a
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small segment of information andthe gist the most the meat, um
and the potatoes of it is moreso new information Versus, like
the season, it being informationrepeated.
Yeah, you like that analogy,don't you Okay?
Anyway, there's this emotionalwheel.
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They give you the words todescribe your feelings when you
can't think of it on your own.
And so my therapist, she hasthe wheel as a pillow in her
office and y'all.
It has helped me out so muchbecause, like, I'll tell her
stuff and then she'll ask me myfeelings on it and I'm like I
can't find the words.
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And so one day I noticed theemotional will pillow next to me
.
Now, clearly it wasn't for mespecifically, but I think it was
a good thing for her to have,and so I use it from time to
time, like I said, when I'mtrying to explain to her the
words and I just can't get itright, cuz okay, um, for example
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, you can say the word said, butyou might not really be sad.
So there's other words I thinkit's like three levels
Underneath the said or tosomething like that, and it'll
explain to you cuz it's like atriangle.
So it'll explain I mean notexplain, I'm sorry, but show
different words underneath saysyou can get to like the root of
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what you're feeling.
And because of that, again,that has helped me explain to my
therapist how I feel and Isometimes.
I also used it when we hadcouples therapy and I don't use
it as often when I'm talking topeople as I probably should
because, like that means I haveto keep my phone out and be like
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stand by and we're in such amicrowave environment that, like
it seems, you're not.
People are not Open, willing tolisten to you, give a lot of
details about anything, nor arethey willing to hear you make a
pause as you try to explainyourself or find the right words
to say.
Even on this podcast, Isometimes hate if I have to
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pause because I feel like I'msupposed to always have like air
, but I'm not at that point yetwhere I can just say things off
the dome and I don't likerambling.
I don't think I ramble, but Iprobably do.
But I don't think it is as badas a good be, because that's why
I have a script anyway.
I Encourage you to look at thatemotional will if you haven't
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already.
It's an easily searchable.
You just put in emotional willand it'll come up and stuff.
So, yeah, I know I'm not atherapist and some of us may or
may not be able to have thefunds or the insurance to have A
therapist, but I'm hoping thatby encouraging you with the tips
and tricks that my therapistdoes for me, I can help you back
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.
I can help by paying it forwardto your mental health as well.
Now, again, I am not atherapist, so I can't tell you
what to do, but I can definitelytell you what Well, not
everything, but some of thethings that I go through.
I don't know, she might findthat it's similar to what you go
through and maybe this can helpyou.
So that's my way.
But anyway, at the end of theday, I am encouraging you.
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You got this shit.
One day at a time.
Let's get it popping.
I blow out the bubblessurrounding pop culture and talk
about it.
All right, y'all.
So I Did not write this down.
So I'm a freestyle.
The fuck out of this.
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And yeah, I will be okay, allright.
So One thing there are going tobe a couple.
No, one thing will be a triggerwarning, and that's when I talk
about Cassie.
But I'll save that for the lastpart about the pop culture.
So I was on Twitter.
No, fuck no, I was on tiktok,with the hell on a white Twitter
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came to mind.
I was on Tiktok and it wastalking about Mario Lopez and he
was Cold-switching, so I guesshe has to show where he eats
food, and so when he eats thefood he has his accent.
And he said he's Mexican.
So it's not like me trying tosay that on some fucked up shit.
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Like he's from Mexico, he's hispeople's, his heritage is from
Mexico.
Okay, so he has the accent.
And then a lot of people did notknow that he was a Spanish
speaker and or come from myHispanic background, which is
kind of weird.
His last name is Lopez, butokay, whatever, and I guess
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because of the fact that when heis on air he's not, you're not
able to hear it, and so I'mparaphrasing what he said on
tiktok.
But he basically said it'ssomething along the lines of you
know, y'all talking about myaccent and stuff like that, I
can't do that on my show.
You know I can't have thataccent.
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So that kind of bothered me,even though I know when it comes
to non white people, that issomething that we have to do.
Again, all I know about is beingblack, but I do know that
within the black community,obviously we code switch as well
.
Well, we'll talk slang andstuff like that when we get on
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an interview or a phoneinterview, we'll try to elevate
our voice and try to speakproper English In hopes that
nobody can tell that we're black.
And even if we make it that far, some Up to a face-to-face
interview, sometimes we stillget even more nervous and make
sure that we have our hairIntact and everything.
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We're looking none, threateningand sounding more quote-unquote
white and I personally don'tlike that shit.
And I realized a couple ofweeks ago I was Trying to get
ready for an interview and eventhough within my state of
Tennessee we have the crown eggwhich means that you cannot
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discriminate or fire somebody isFurther their texture of their
hair.
Now it looks.
It still made me nervous becauseI've never Interviewed for a
job with my locks before.
As I think about it, damn, I'llwait.
There's a lot.
I have the reason I was sonervous because with this
particular interview, my lockswasn't done and I was like maybe
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two months behind and that's alittle bit more Distance that I
allowed my hair to be and Ididn't like it.
And so I was super nervous,like how do I wear this?
I don't want to wear it down, Idon't want to wear it up, and I
even was googling and then,luckily, I got over and I was
like I'm gonna wear my hair upand there's nothing wrong with
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my hair, my hair is gonna bewhat it's gonna be.
And so I do understand from timeto time that some of us can't
find Ourselves trying toassimilate to this white culture
.
And there's nothing wrong withit because obviously we have.
We're in a capitalist society,so we have to have a job to take
care of ourselves.
But I can't help it if itpisses me off.
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You know, if you have aquote-unquote kettle name, you
know somebody can find out.
They can not find out.
They can assume your race andthen, like, depending on what
part of that of different areasyou live, they can also assume
that.
So there's all these ways thatpeople can prejudge you without
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knowing shit about you and ithurts and it's horrible,
especially when it comes to ajob, because it's like I'm
trying to be a productive personwithin the community and now I
have to make sure that I look acertain way, dress a certain way
, act a certain way.
And if you decide to havechildren, you have to make sure
that they quote-unquote have aWhite name.
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A common name is.
Other people would say, butlet's call it what it is a white
name.
Or, if not, hope that theirmiddle name is something that
they can go by To get a job.
And it's like all these factorsand I fucking hate it because I
know number one it's illegal,but a Lot of things have been
illegal and people are able tolike skirt around his skirt.
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But it's like, why can't I bewho I am, why can't I talk the
way that I talk?
And as long as I'm not cursinganybody out or violating them,
like, why do I have the soundlook and become Such a shrink
myself to become non-threateningfor a job?
It's like, are you serious?
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And then it'll be motherfuckerslike that that even if they
didn't judge you and everything,they truly wanted, you of
course Don't be people.
You only got this jobDisposition because of
affirmative action and all thisstuff.
And it's like, damn it, likeyou mean to tell me we can't be
smart.
I also saw on tiktok wheresomebody, a white person, went
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to an HBCU for a nursing program.
I forgot who the creator wasand I also forgot what the
college was, and so the personwas on the Assumption that
because it was a HBCU, majorityblack and that it would not be
difficult, and it's like thatAssumption that anything that is
black made is ghetto or thatit's not professional, and I
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hate that because, for me, italways aggravates me how one
black person is a spokespersonfor every single black person,
but we cannot do the same whenit comes to white people.
And, again, always having toact a certain way and it's like
there's good, bad and everythingin between and all races,
genders and nationalities,religions, etc.
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And it just seems like wheneverit's attached to black, it's
supposed to be a lesser quality.
And I even go as much as, whenit comes to looking at TV shows
and stuff, that Sometimes we seehow, if it's a dark skinned
person, they're probably not thelove interest, and it's usually
a light skinned or raciallyambiguous love interest, or it's
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usually a skinny person, youknow, and it's just like, again,
we're all different shades andsizes.
So it's like it seems likeyou're being Indoctrinated into
thinking a certain way bylooking at the media, reading,
writing, talking, viewing.
However, and you have to like,stick to this protocol and these
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rules and you can't likequote-unquote disrupt it.
I remember back in the dayswhen I was in elementary how we
had to go to the restroomourselves and I didn't like that
stuff.
So when my daughter startedgoing to school, I told her.
I said, hey, first thing youask to go to the bathroom, they
don't let you.
You go anyway, because if youdon't get it out, obviously
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that's gonna mess up yourbladder and everything like that
.
And it's like I'm an older.
I realized that to a certaindegree, school was trying to
teach you on how to go into thework environment.
How hey, you gotta be on time,you gotta do this, isn't it?
And of course people don't likethe way that things are involved
, evolve and the evolution ofthings change and not being the
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protocol norm anymore, and orpeople are working, waking up
and demanding and wanting morethan what their predecessors,
previous generation, even theirparents and other generational
people had.
And I can go on and on aboutthis.
But it's just for me, againaggravated, that we all have to
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be the same.
Without words, actions, ournames and everything.
We can't be different.
And I think when you'redifferent, when you're creative,
that that allows you to seethings Different way.
I know I keep using the worddifferent, but I'm being serious
, like being creative and not Upand going against the cream and
not being the norm should beencouraged, because that's how a
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lot of things are birthed andchange, change happens and stuff
.
So, again, nothing wrong withMario Lopez doing it, but it
kind of like hurt my feelings alittle bit so I didn't like that
.
All right, the next thing on thelist.
Oh my gosh, this is hilarious.
So I'm gonna try to look it upso I can say it Well, so I can
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find it on Social media and so Ican talk about it.
So I'm looking it up, I'm gonnado two things at once.
So, all right, so Rose Collegeis a private college that is in
Memphis, tennessee, all right,and so it is so fucking funny to
me, but whatever.
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So I don't know.
I know it's a private schooland that's about it, okay.
So there was a big to-do Aboutit and I thought it was funny
and stuff, because you justgotta listen.
Okay, so a College in Memphis,tennessee, rose College.
There are up in arms about afaculty member that tried
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hosting a BDSM safety class oncampus and it has everybody
divided.
Reverend Beatrix W E L, aschool chaplain at Rhodes
College, was prepared to host asafety seminar titled BDSM 101
on campus as a message onInstagram announced, it was
intended to provide a safe spacefor students to learn about the
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topic, as she hosted a quoteLocal dominatrix to share wisdom
on how to safely sailing,consensually learning about
bondage, discipline, domination,sadism, submission and Mass oh,
massacism.
I hope I pronounce that reallyyeah, massacism.
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Okay, that's because they wouldalso be provided with the
opportunities to ask questionsUnonimally.
So all the words that I wassaying came from a red silt and
which that should let you knowhow it just didn't Just become
local, like just Memphis, likeit made it to the Red Silt and
the website and stuff, and so,of course, as we know, memphis,
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tennessee, is In the Bible bill,so a lot of people were up in
arms for religious reasons aboutthis, especially with the
person being a chaplain and Iknow nobody gives a shit about
what I gotta say.
But I think that there's nothingwrong with this, because when
you go to college, you most of Ido know that there are some
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prodigies out there that are incollege, that they are minors,
but most people in college are18 plus, so you are legally an
adult, so you can make adecision to go to this class or
not.
It's not forcing anybody to go.
You can or cannot attend.
That's one and number two, ifit's teaching you, educating you
about PDSM, which is somethingthat should only be Done with
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consenting adults, there'snothing wrong with that.
And you're also teach, beingtaught about safe practices and
consent.
So, plus the fucking problem cuzme, as someone who practices
PDSM, I learned a lot aboutconsent being within the PDSM
community more than I learnedbeing without it, and
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negotiations and talking aboutthings, because obviously, as
I've said before, when youparticipate in BDSM, it can be
dangerous in what you do, so youwant to make sure that you're
being as safe as you can whenyou participate in BDSM.
So what's the f**king problemwith that?
And consent can be.
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All this stuff that is beingtold can be taken into the real
world.
It's just not BDSM like.
We need consent everywhere.
People need to provide consentabout shaking hands, hugging
people, tapping people, whatever, because not everybody wants to
be touched, you know.
So there's nothing wrong withconsent and negotiations.
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Again, you can take that toyour relationship, where you can
negotiate with your partnerabout your expectations within
the relationship and that wayyou can see if that person or
persons is there for you andit's, if you like, bond well, so
I see nothing wrong with this.
But unfortunately, again, beingin the bible belt, I can see
how, quote unquote,participating in this is ungodly
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like because of a chaplain andChristian like.
But my thing is, wearing thebible doesn't say you can't do
that stuff, that like.
It's on my last nerves and, yes, y'all know how I feel about
Christianity but I'm being deadass.
Serious, though, likeeverything that is different and
weird.
Supposedly it's not of God.
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But if we want to get down tothe notes and votes and become
semantic, then God create someof this stuff and then God
created humans and our mind, soour mind was able to involve
soul.
Yeah, and give me the bibleverse that specifically says
that bds and was wrong.
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I remember growing up in churchthey talked about how, yeah, you
know, you're supposed to onlyprocreate for purpose of having
a child and you're supposed tobe married and even if you're
married, you're not supposed togive or receive oral sex.
Where the fuck is that in thebible?
Where?
So like?
Again, it's so fuckingaggravating to me that adults
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again nobody is saying to allowyour 17 year old and younger to
learn bdsm.
You know, I see nothing wrongwith them learning about
negotiations and consent in avery child friendly environment,
but it's like you're up in arms.
Not everybody is a Christianand if those people are
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Christians, not everybody hastheir Christianity.
The way that you do like thefuck.
So that's the shit I don't like.
So, yeah, I could have talkedabout this for the bdsm segment
on this upcoming Thursday, butit's pop culture and I thought
it was kind of hilarious.
So, as your convenience, readabout it and you know, make your
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own decisions.
Alright, the last thing I wantto talk about is with Cassie and
, of course, trigger warning fordomestic violence, sexual
assault, etc.
So if you don't want to listthe rest of it, that's fine.
So I'm gonna briefly talk aboutcuz I really don't want to go
into details about it cuz, again, trigger warning, duh.
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So allegedly Cassie was intosome pretty heavy shit when she
was with buff daddy diddy,whatever he wants to go by.
So allegedly he abused her andallegedly evolved in sex
trafficking, allegedly, and soyou know she said what she said.
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There was a 35 page documentout there.
You can read it your leisureand like, within the next day he
settled and a lot of peoplewere busy about it because, you
know, per usual, nobody believeswomen and nobody believes black
women and nobody believes anyvictim.
Again, I had to talk about this,but Brock Turner.
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Brock Turner was in the actionof, unfortunately, sexually
assaulting this woman.
Good Samaritans saw him in theegg, bend him down, called the
police and the judge got him off.
Oh yeah, allegedly, allegedly.
The judge got him off and saidsomething in a pair of raising
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that you know you don't want toruin his reputation cuz he's a
swimmer and I never found outwhat the woman was, thank
goodness, but, like you, worriedabout this swimmer's life who,
without consent see how this isdone together took advantage of
a woman who could not consentbecause she was the under the
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influence.
Blah, blah, blah.
And I hate that because, again,that shows whether you tell
somebody when it happens, afterit happens.
What have you you're notbelieve?
Row, as I talked about before,was hit with a brick.
The person who did allegedly didit came out and said yeah, I
did it.
Nobody believed her.
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So many think pieces about yeah, she didn't do it.
She's a scammer.
All this time she had to go tothe doctor to prove to the
naysayers, who don't even knowher about what really happened
and I don't know if anybody evenapologized to her.
It's like fucking crazy.
And I'm and of course I knowpart of that has to deal with
patriarchy and it's like as avictim, you're playing.
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What were you wearing?
Why did you drink so much?
Like are you fucking kidding me?
Why did you rape me?
That's the bigger thing.
Like, why did you sexuallyassault me?
Whatever, whatever.
And so, on top of that, peoplealso had their point of view
about oh, she was just there forthe money, because now she's
telling and she waited so longand she made him settles.
But it's like my boo thing andI talked about it.
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If someone like, for example,cassie, because of what happened
, she's now labeled,unfortunately, as a snitch, as a
whistleblower or however youwant to say it.
So therefore nobody wants towork with her.
Nobody would probably want towork with her on the singing,
the modeling, something.
So now she has, she possiblyhas to go and go and die, but if
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I'm not mistaken, she's married, so that's, she's good.
But like, let's think about it.
We talk about what happened toall.
The name escapes me.
Fuck, what's her name?
Oh, damn it.
Well, I can't think of it.
It's right there in her tip ofmy tongue and that's a pun
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because I'm talking aboutLewinsky.
There we go allegedly whathappened with Monica Lewinsky
and allegedly former presidentBill Clinton and people joked
and made fun of her andeverything.
So, like I can't try to find aplace to work it, to take care
of your livelihood and stuff.
It's crazy.
So yeah, but again, I'm not alawyer and there's other think
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pieces from lawyers and otherpeople who can tell you their
opinion as to why Cassie didwhat she did and why she did
self-acquard and everything.
But it's like I just wish morepeople could just think about
the victims a whole lot morethan the alleged suspects
perpetrators who did stuff.
Because, like, nobody forced ortold any of these suspect
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perpetrators to do what they did.
I mean society.
I think again, as I said earlyand doctor native brand, watch
them to believe that they havethe power and they should be
given pussy at any given timebecause they're rich and they do
this, this and that, blah, blah, blah.
But like again, we need toencourage and force people to
(42:06):
stop violating consent,violating people's boundaries
and everything like that.
Again, so many people don'twant to evolve and this is what
happens when you don't want toevolve like X for consent.
So, anyway, blah, blah, blah.
So all that stuff.
I read like maybe two or threepages of what happened to Cassie
(42:27):
and it was very heartbreakingto me to to learn about that
stuff and I did.
That is what she's goingthrough and I hope that she gets
the help and therapy if shehasn't received therapy, and she
has more people on her sideabout what she went through.
Because, again, as someone whohas survived being in domestic
(42:48):
violence relationship twice andwho has been sexually assaulted
once and has had my constantviolated many times, I feel for
her.
So anytime I hear aboutsomebody being abusive and stuff
, it really triggers me, ofcourse, and it really makes me
want to go hard for the victimsinvolved, because I know what
(43:09):
it's like and the paradigm thatcomes with men and, yes, I know
that men and non-binary peoplecan be assaulted and in domestic
violence situations, etc.
Etc.
But it's usually mostly women,cis women and mostly trans women
(43:30):
that go through this.
So, again, the underlying layer,of course, is misogyny misogyny
, war if the person is black,and patriarchy and religion, as
well as a lot of stuff if we getdown to the notes and bolts,
but at the end of the day, thatshit is fucked up and a person
can probably it'll take a lotfor them ever to be their usual
(43:50):
self.
And again, because we're in acapitalist society, how can they
take care of themselves?
And it's crazy because my boothing was like yeah, so say, for
example, somebody smokes crackor something like that, or does
ecstasy, and they're allegedlyaround Cassie.
There's a, but there'spotential for Cassidy to snitch.
(44:11):
That's how they could getcaught up.
And you know, if you make a lotof money, then that can mess up
your reputation and mess upyour livelihood.
So you know, nobody wouldprobably want her around.
And even deeper than that whichsucks so badly and that pump
was not intended.
My boo thing even mentioned thatpeople might have saw someone
(44:35):
do something wrong.
Sometimes they can even snitchor tell the authorities because
that's their livelihood.
And I also remember Joe Buttontalking about this as well,
where and I'm paraphrasing, butthis deal with R Kelly, like one
song, can feed a lot of people.
So unfortunately, it can bedifficult for someone to want to
(44:56):
tell because that's affectingtheir livelihood as well, and
all of that is gross anddisgusting and I hate that and
I'm not saying it's okay, but Ihate that.
People are not in a placebecause of financial reasons.
They're not in a place morallyor ethically and, of course,
financially, to want to snitchor even tell somebody doing
(45:21):
wrong because they could beblack ball, they could lose
their job and all the stuff.
And, of course, if you're abalfour rich person trying to
prove that you did what you didlike for me and then I'll wrap
it up with my last relationship.
There was no proof of domesticviolence, because I didn't want
to call the cops, because Ididn't want to get arrested,
(45:42):
because, yeah, I hit thatmotherfucker back.
Oh, allegedly I hit him back.
And so when I tried to get myorder of protection, I didn't
even hire a lawyer because Iknew that there was no proof.
It was my word against my exand, show enough, my ex
allegedly committed perjury bysaying that he never put his
(46:02):
hands on me, but him and I bothknow he did.
And because there was nobodyaround who saw it, I never
called the police.
And when the police did show upto the house, when my men and
me called, I never told thepolice what happened, like he
was able to get away with it,even though on his record and
the case was dismissed and Ilearned this after we were
(46:25):
already deep in a relationshipthat he had got arrested before
For it wasn't domestic violencebefore assault or something like
that.
So that's again why I encouragey'all to look up people.
But anyway, we talked about itwhen we were in the relationship
and he had said allegedly thatthe woman was lying and she
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never went to court.
So because she never went tocourt, it was thrown out and so
yeah, and it just sucks.
So there's so many reasons,unfortunately, why victims don't
say anything.
And even when they do and theyhave all the proof in the world
Sometimes they're still hackledand talked about.
And if you're powerful and richenough, you can still sometimes
(47:12):
get off a game, but notintended for the things that you
did.
So my advice to you, if you can, per usual, if you are in any
kind of relationship where thisperson is low, bumming you,
abusing, you see if you can seekhelp, treatment and get out.
And if you're able to see thered flags, please, please,
(47:33):
please, take those red flags asthe truth.
Talk to your ancestors, talk toyour eyes, talk to yourself,
look at, look and research thatperson and the first time that
they violate your consent oryour boundaries, if you can get
away from them.
And again, I do understand howsometimes it's difficult when it
(47:54):
comes to those type ofrelationships that you don't
know that it's abusive untilit's too late, or you're so
wrapped up in the relationshipbut you can't get out or you're
fearful that once you do get outthe relationship that they
still might harm you.
Do everything you can ifpossible to avoid that and do
everything you can to get anorder of protection.
If it's legal, record yourconversations with that person,
(48:18):
keep the text messages.
If you can do everything, youcan that if you're in this
situation and try to get out ofit, because unfortunately not
all of us make it out alive andI'd rather y'all try y'all best
to avoid these red flags thefirst time you see them, so that
you can survive and avoid it.
So yeah, croak on the joke.
(48:44):
That's where I give you mybestest jokes and we laugh
together.
Or nah, today's joke I told ahelium joke in chemistry class.
There was no reaction.
Well, guess that's my cue toleave.
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