November 30, 2023 • 35 mins
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Books I mentioned
- Ona Agbani: The Ancient Path: Understanding And Implementing The Ways Of Our Ancestors by Iyalosa Apetebii Akalatunde
- Bullwhip Days: The Slaves Remember: An Oral History by James Mellon (editor)
- Enough to Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation Workbook by Princess Kali
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
M-O-Double M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-A-W-E that's my
name, mama Q.
M-o-double M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-A-W-E,that's my name.
Mama Q, say it faster or slow,don't really matter, though the
U-E gets a minute.
Tongue-tizzy yo, hey, kindadizzy bro.
(00:25):
Who is she?
Mama Q?
Mama gave birth little ways, nogirth, Sixty years ago.
No, I don't want.
Mo Q is a line and I tried toalign this double end.
Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy modules.
Mama Q, I'm the first one inand the first one out.
Memphis Tend to Key is mywhereabouts.
Don't complain.
(00:46):
Main saying stick it to onetopic.
I reply your mind is verymyopic with Mama Q.
You need better optis pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
Definitely.
No need to whisper gracefully,I like it better off-key.
Now let's see.
Do you remember me?
M-o-double M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-A-W-Ethat's my name.
(01:08):
Mama Q, m-o-doubleM-A-Q-D-W-E-D-A-W-E that's my
name.
Mama Q, hey, hi, it's me.
Mama Q, I welcome you toMoments in Q.
In Q today.
(01:30):
Hawaii, black Business, hudu,hudu.
And are you kinky or not?
Hawaii?
I give you the green of the dayand I'm explaining the why of
this episode.
It's holiday season.
I'm going to talk about booksto align with topics, in case
(01:50):
you want to put the books on theChristmas tree or in the
stocking?
Do people even read books inhand anymore?
Anyway, let's end the year onsome education and reading and
learning.
More Tis the season.
Oh and PS, how many of y'allmade it through no nut November?
Black Business I highlight ablack business to bring
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awareness and my experience withsaid business.
Unless, I say it, it isn't apaid ad.
I am open to paid ads, but Idefinitely want to highlight
black businesses.
There's enough money for all ofus to get it Alright.
Gasta B Oshun she's from TenaKey.
Like Me, y'all call that.
I was ramen.
Anyway, I learned about herfrom Juju Bay's podcast.
(02:41):
I received a reading from hersome years ago about which
Orisha has my head.
Some people believe that youshouldn't inquire about which
Orisha owns your head If youdon't plan to do anything about
it.
I plan to do something about itone day.
I'm confident my higher selfand my ancestors will lead me to
the right ele.
Keeping with books.
(03:01):
She has written two books.
I read one of them and I hope Iam not butchering this too much
.
It's called Ona Agbani theAncient Path Understanding and
Implementing the Ways of OurAncestors.
I read this book.
In 2021, according to herInstagram, she'll have a book
(03:22):
coming out in 2024.
Back to the book Ona Agbani.
This book was very informativeto me, for someone that isn't
familiar with IFA.
Unfortunately, I couldn't findany of my notes that I normally
write down when I listen or reada book.
Sorry, y'all, this is going tobe off the dome.
(03:43):
From the book I learned aboutmy higher self, which was great
because at the time I was havinga lot of difficulty Because in
IFA tradition, from what I heardthe word Ori that deals with
your higher self.
I was trying to understand whatthe higher self and Ori are two
(04:04):
different people Just trying tofigure out what it is.
I really liked that portion ofthe book that made me understand
.
If I'm not mistaken, I was alsoable to learn a little bit more
about Not the do's and don'ts,but I don't want to use the word
hierarchy, but I'll probablyroll with that and the
(04:25):
quote-unquote hierarchy thatexists between your higher self,
the Orishas and the ancestors,but we do know that when they
all combine, that they're stillon your spiritual team.
Okay, and I also learned, ofcourse, more about some Orishas
that I wasn't too familiar with,because I can't remember the
year that I started learningabout Orishas or even Learning
(04:50):
about them in pop culture andstuff.
But I know that that gave me abetter understanding Because, as
we know, even when it comes tobooks, there are some people out
here that will tell a lie whichsome of that stuff from what I
heard Because you know, I'm notan IFA initiative or anything
like that they're not supposedto tell a period and there's
others just tell stuff just bybooks.
(05:12):
So it's kind of difficult andI'm sure I mentioned this before
it's kind of difficult tonavigate something that is
unknown and new to you andtrying to figure out how to
learn about it and to decipherwho is telling the truth or
who's not.
So I believe her to be real,obviously Ghas to be ocean, ghas
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to be real, and so, therefore,I trust the things that I was
learning about her and I, again,thoroughly enjoyed it.
So here's the book overview.
When Africans were brought tothe Caribbean, north America and
South America and Europe ascaptives, they had been
practicing their own spiritualsystems for thousands of years.
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Ona Agbani is an introductionto the spiritual system of the
Yoruba people of Nigeria.
Alright, now she also offersreadings, like I mentioned, to
find Eurecia Villa.
Oh my gosh, mary Dougal,married a clone, I'm sorry, and
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that's not tarot like somepeople try to claim.
There are a lot of people outhere who will say that you can
find the Orisha that is overyour head via tarot cards or
pendulums.
No, a lot of people who are inthe religion and who have the
ability to find what Orisha ownsyour head.
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They say that that is incorrect.
Incorrect meaning tarot cards.
When I get you there, there hasto be a specific way to do it.
If I'm not, I don't even wantto be mistaken.
I don't even want to say,because when I received the
reading from her, it was ear toear and it was not on Zoom.
(07:01):
I didn't think to do a Zoombecause I was like I'm going to
write everything down, I don'tneed a Zoom.
And she was able to answer myquestions and she gave me
insight into, obviously, whoowns my head and she gave me two
names.
She knew things about me.
It kind of reminds me of thatMaxwell song.
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You shouldn't know these thingsabout me.
Y'all know I can't sing, butthat's what it was for me, and
so that's how I determine a lotand thankful shout out to the
ancestors, my higher self whohave helped me navigate in this
lovely journey and I don't thinkI have ran across any
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charlatans.
But again, some of the thingsthat she said in the reading
like you're not supposed to knowthat about me, like WTF, and
she also told me that you haveto make sure that you hear your
name to ensure that the readingis real she was the only one who
gave me a reading like that, soI'm sorry if I'm not saying
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it's accurate, but, point being,there are certain people within
the E for religions that areable to tell you what Orisha
owns your head.
And, again, if that's the routeyou choose to go, do not
believe or listen to those thatsaid that you can find it do
terror through terror orpendulums, because, again, it
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doesn't work that way.
Okay.
Other reading says slashservices are a delay.
Sorry if I'm mispronouncingthat holistic health
consultations and holisticfamily consultations.
I've been following her on IGfor a while and yo, she is Asian
.
Gracefully, she looks verybeautiful for her age and the
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reason being, I feel like, isthat she eats clean, if that
makes sense, and obviously notto say that other people who eat
processed foods are dirty oranything, but what I'm trying to
say is she eats as much as shecan.
That's from the earth and Idon't know.
I don't think she's avegetarian, but either way, it's
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just she eats a certain way.
That's the best way to explain.
She eats a certain way andhealthy and it shows in the way
that she looks like.
Damn, she looks good.
Okay, she offers a lot ofclasses.
I haven't had an opportunity tolisten in on her classes, but I
am on her list serve so I getto know all the things that
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classes she's having.
But some of the class sheoffers is black witchcraft,
manifestation, ifa and orishaclasses and more.
Again, my opinion she is veryinformative.
So I encourage you if you'reinterested in learning about ifa
and she does talk about who do,from time to time, read her
books and support the divinefeminine.
(09:52):
Who do, who do I get to theroot of, who do conjure up
thoughts that pop into my mindabout spirituality.
Come on, get this work, keepingwith books and of course I'm
gonna say that again.
This book I'm about to talkabout is called bull whip days a
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slave remember and oral historyby James Mellon.
Here's the description of thebook.
In the 1930s, the worksprogress administration
commissioned.
An oral history of theremaining former slaves.
Bull whip days is a remarkablecompendium I've never heard of
that word Compendium C, o, m, p,n, d, I, u M of selections from
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this extraordinary interviews,providing an unflinching
portrait of the world ofgovernment sanctioned slavery of
Africans in America.
Here are 29 full narrations aswell as nine sections of
excerpts related to particular Xaspects of slave life, from
religion to plantation life tothe reconstruction area Error.
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Skillfully edited, thesechronicles bear eloquent witness
to the trials of slaves inAmerica, reveal the wide range
of conditions of human bondageand provide sobering insight
into the roots of racism intoday's society.
Now, unfortunately, I have notfinished the book and I decided
(11:22):
to go ahead and talk about itanyway.
I have about five hours leftand life is life and kicking my
butt and since I'm talking aboutbooks, I'm like let's go ahead
and talk about it and I thinkthat there are enough subjects
that I'm about to take up talkabout that could fill in the
(11:45):
blanks and I can't wait tolisten to the rest of the five
hours.
Now, again, I have audible, soI listened to it, so that was
very, that was very helpful forme because, of course, the
readers were able to use thataccents of Southern people.
Now I'm pretty confident thatif you read the book it will be
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written down just like how someSouthern people talked and a lot
of people not me, though,because I'm a Southern a lot of
people complain about that styleof writing.
There was a Zora Neil Hurstonbook that was written similar
like that and, again, somepeople find it difficult to read
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along to it.
Me, I don't have an issue withit.
So if this is something thatyou are interested in learning
about and you have difficultiespossibly reading Southern
dialect, I would encourage youto listen to the book.
But if it doesn't bother you,you know, either way is fine,
all right.
So here's a list of things thatI learned and of course I'm
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expound on each one with myexperiences.
I'm trying to decide if I'mgonna do this all at once or
individual.
I don't know.
I'll probably say all of it,we'll see.
Blah, blah, blah, alright.
So the book I enjoyed.
I was pissed off, I was upset,I was shocked and surprised with
the book.
Lots of emotions, obviously,okay.
So there was a lot of aspectsof who do any.
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So you know, I really love thatpart.
So there was a ins well, formerenslaved African talked about
jumping the broom and of course,some of y'all may know it or
may not, but what the fuck everI'm gonna tell you.
So back in the days, blackpeople could not get married.
Therefore, what would happen isthat they would jump the broom
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and that was their way of beingmarried.
Sometimes they according to thebook, the people who endured
this sometimes they were able topick the person that they want
to marry.
Other times it was at the slaveowner's discretion.
Unfortunately, color purplesort of kind of come into mind
with the way that I imagined howit would go with the book,
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because you know they would wanta woman to be with a certain
type of man in hopes that theirbabies would be a certain type
of a way.
First of all, let me go withtrigger warning for this entire
section.
I'm gonna try my absolute bestnot to talk too bad, but if you
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have to take a break, I totallyunderstand it.
I'm probably gonna be talkingabout SA and DV because
unfortunately I was part of thelife for some people.
So, again, that was the way ofsome people, and there is this
herb that I had learned aboutcalled they pronounce that as
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fatida, which is ASFOTEDIA, andsome people use that as a way to
help them when they would getsick, and I thought that was
hella interesting because I do,or did I?
I know at one point I did havethe grind-up version of that and
I'm sorry y'all that stuff doesnot smell the greatest, so it
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was just very interesting.
I know it's like duh, but Idon't know.
Like me, having the herb now in2023, hearing about them
talking about it and realizingthat it's it has been existed
for a long time kind of was likesurreal to me and I finally
understood how to pronounce thatword, so I like that.
They talked about teas to getwell.
(15:24):
Some people should know about ahot toddy, so of course they
talked about that, but they werejust talking about using
different type of herbs, whichsome people do still, to this
day, use different teas.
I know I've heard a tea reading.
That wasn't what they weretalking about in particular.
It was just again, differentways to heal your body by
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drinking different teas, and youknow how there's that, saying
that us black folks will laughat everything.
Well, in the book there was anexcerpt about this person who
had said, yeah, that duringslavery they will laugh at
traumatic things because thatwas just their way of like
dealing with it and going onwith what's going on.
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And I find that funny becauseagain the ancestors find a way
out.
But I don't know about you, butfor me that was just like wow,
so many years removed and we'restill to a certain degree acting
like our ancestors, laughing atanything and everything when
we're supposed to like be solemn.
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You know they talked aboutwearing hemp clothes and you
know, as someone me that used tobe a hemp gardener we'll see if
I feel like doing that the nextyear.
That was pretty cool.
So some of that part, justhearing about the hemp clothes,
obviously not the rest.
So some of the enslavedAfricans, they wore hemp
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clothing and it was veryscratchy for them.
They also talk about muslinmuslin and I had just bought
myself some because I felt it inmy spirit to buy it and I've
used that sometimes to dodifferent types of workings and
to make different teas for myspiritual bath.
So I thought that was cool andI learned the origins of catch a
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girl, get a girl.
They had something like thatback in the enslavement days and
it's like what I just wouldhave never thought of that.
Now here comes possible triggerwarnings.
Is that, of course, sadly, someof the women, the enslaved
African women, would have babiesby Massa and the Massa's wife
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wouldn't like it, and so theytalked about that experience,
which wasn't great.
They talked about how sometimesthe white women would get upset
, jealous and mad over the womanthat Massa was sleeping with
and sometimes would beat her.
There was a lot of abuse.
Obviously, some enslaved peopletalked about slavery not being
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bad for them and I don't likethat and it's not to take away
from their experience.
But I was listening to Donnellwrites maybe a little while ago
on one of his TikTok videos andI'm paraphrasing everything.
But he had mentioned howsomebody had reached out to him,
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asked him how he feels aboutdeconstruction and to explain it
.
So he explained it and itseemed like the only part state
that they cared about was likehim.
Oh, I hate that I'mparaphrasing because now I'm
going off the cuff over theydidn't add the parts that really
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mattered to him and so he feltlike they whoever it was they
wanted to just know about thegood parts of it, not what
Christianity has done to him,how triggering might be and
everything.
So that's immediately came tomind that some people and we
know people think like thatanyway.
But some people might be like,oh see, this enslaved person
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didn't have it bad, so allslavery wasn't bad.
But even if the enslavedAfricans didn't get beat, they
were there against their will.
So what is the good in that?
And so a lot of people weretalking about who do, which was
pretty cool.
Some of the enslaved didn'tbelieve in it.
They were all about JesusChrist.
Some of them, if they had agood Massa, they was like, yeah,
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I can't wait to go to heaven,I'll see Massa.
Then some of them was likeMassa, but not being heaven.
You know all these differentthoughts about it.
One guy in particular waspretty cool.
He had helped save some of theenslaved Africans.
He had taken a boat and tookthem to freedom.
So I thought that was flippingamazing because obviously all
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I've ever heard of was HarrietTubman and stuff.
So for me again, overall anamazing book.
I thoroughly enjoyed learningabout it, learning about against
some of us black people.
We have not I mean, doug, we'renot a monolith but some of us
black people we haven't changedgenerations later and some of
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the origins of our blackness cango back to enslavement, which
is sad but also quote unquoteunderstandable, because some
people are able to research thatsome of the ways that Americans
act and some of the quoteunquote rules that goes back to
European times.
So again, no matter how farremoved we are, the ancestors
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find a way and history repeatsitself.
Are you kinky or not?
I'm a proud kinkster to theBDSM community.
Let me tell you about thislifestyle to see if you want to
come over to the dark side.
We got candles, all right,y'all.
If it seems like I've beenzooming through this episode,
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it's partially because,unfortunately, I forgot to
charge my iPad and it's down to5% and my cell phone is down to
14%.
So yeah, if I'm going fast,that's what's going on.
I'm trying to get all this outhere in time so I can charge one
of them, save it and get it out.
All right, so this could beunderpop culture for my next
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time that I do a Monday episode,but I'd rather talk about it
now.
Tiktok told me about a new trendcalled Food Digger.
First of all, they need torename it.
I don't like it, not catchyenough.
So, boom, you meet someone on adating app.
Y'all hook up.
I mean, yeah, yeah, y'all hookup and the person not hook up,
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like with y'all match that kindof hook.
And the person suggests aspecific restaurant to be petty.
Let's say Cheesecake Factory.
You arrive at CheesecakeFactory, they end up standing
you up.
Nothing new, right?
But Plot Twist, the person thatstood you up was a restaurant
buy and or an employee slashowner of the restaurant.
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The goal is hoping that youwould spend money over being
stood up.
It's a genius and also dirtymarketing move.
Now, what does this have to dowith BDSM?
Well, there's a kink for that,called Humiliation, and it's my
kink.
Now, before I go intoHumiliation being my kink, in
case you couldn't pick up what Iwas trying to put down
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humiliating somebody and leadingthem on I thought about how
fucked up that is from arestaurant point of view,
because one of the times that Ilistened to this on TikTok, they
had said that our owner at aspecific restaurant had started
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this.
Now, is that true or not?
I'm not for sure.
So allegedly, but the point islike I don't know.
I just feel like a person willbe humiliated to be stood up,
you know, and even worse, yougot catfished by a restaurant,
but like that gotta suck and beembarrassing and stuff like that
.
So that's why I think abouthumiliation and, like I said,
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humiliation is my kink.
So let me describe, before Idescribe my experience with this
kink, I wanna talk about Duh, abook.
I read this book with my formerlocal BDSM community.
We had a book club.
Every single month we wouldread a mature, obviously, but a
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kinky related type of book.
So the name of this book isEnough to Make you Blush.
Exploring Erotic HumiliationWorkbook by Princess Collie.
So here's the description ofthe book.
Erotic humiliation goes for,beyond the quote unquote lick my
boots stereotype.
Princess Collie, a famousfarmer dominatrix and world
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round humiliatrix, throws uponthe dungeon doors to explore the
complex desires that fuel thiskind of psychological play for
both dominance and submissives.
Using both personal andextensive interviews, she shares
advice and detailed ideas for abroad range of embarrassing,
humiliating and degrading waysto enjoy consensual, consensual
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kinky fun.
Also covered are importantconcepts such as communication,
negotiation, consent triggersafter care and so much more.
All right, I actually finishedthis book some years ago and I
made notes.
Of course, I won't read all mynotes to you because they're
very thorough in comparison tothe bullwhip notes.
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But I'm just gonna let you knowand I normally don't like to
critique a book with fuck it.
I'm in the mood to do something.
Let me try something newCh-ch-ch-ch, something new,
ch-ch-ch-ch.
Okay, fine, all right.
I did not like the quotes thatwas in the book.
I really enjoyed knowing thatthere are levels to humiliation.
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The levels are at the firstlevel, embarrassment.
Second level, humiliation andthird level, degradation.
For me, embarrassment isteasing me about having a fat
ass and I can't dance.
It makes me for lack of betterwords blush.
Humiliation is a level abovewith wanting me to twerk in
front of other people withoutgiving me proper time to prepare
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, in hopes of minimizingmistakes and looking crazy.
Twerking Degradation isconsensually talking shit about
me while I'm freestyling,twerking in front of everybody
and y'all.
That actually really happenedto me.
So let's see.
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, so don'tworry, I will.
Oh yeah, wait, wait telling meI'm horrible at twerking.
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I should do better.
Everyone can see how stiff andoffbeat I am.
Don't worry, I will expound onthe levels in future episodes.
If you want to know thedifference between shame and
humiliation, the book explainsit and I think it's important to
know the difference.
This lifestyle has stereotypesand assumptions of people being
abused, and unfortunately somepeople are, but there are also
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some who consent to being whatother people will view as abuse
okay, and so I think it's niceto be educated on those people
who don't know the difference sothat they can know about it.
And each chapter has questionsat the end and there is no right
or wrong answers, at least inour group chat.
I mean, yeah, same thing, ourbook club group chat, it wasn't,
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but it's a lot of things thatmake you go.
Hmm, a few more points ofimportance in the book are
negotiations questions.
Yeah, humiliation ideas.
Wait, I'm saying it wrongnegotiation questions, not like
negotiations, common questions,all right, negotiation questions
, humiliation ideas anddifferent humiliation kinks,
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such as furniture play, chassityand public humiliations.
So, yeah, if humiliation isyour kink, check out the book.
Of course I'm gonna talk aboutmy humiliation experiences and I
don't know if I'm ever gonnatalk about these three kinks and
details, but I can give youlike a brief synopsis.
So, if you didn't know, thereis a furniture kink out there
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where somebody literally willconvert, contort, contort their
body to be like a piece offurniture in the book, if I'm
not mistaken in public, but itwasn't.
So out there, you know, but oneof Princess Collie's bottoms or
some of his, whichever one hewas.
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He had a lampshade and he wastold to stand still and of
course that looks silly.
So nobody would think that'skinky, unless you're kinky duh.
So that's the type of furniturekink Chassity.
I've heard of people that havepenis to be in chassity.
There does exist one for peoplethat have volvos.
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However, I don't know how thatworks.
So I had a person who I'm coolwith in the community.
We haven't spoken a while, butyou know that person never did
anything to me, but he used towear a lock over his penis and
he gave his key to his keyholder I think that's the proper
word for it and yeah, and hewould like degrade his penis
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verbally to us.
So I mean not my kink at all,but yeah, there's some people
who exist duh like that.
But when it comes to thechassity kink, if the person has
a penis, there's no way thatthey can get hard because the
way that the the cage yeah,there we go the way that the
chastity cage for a person witha penis is, it's um, it's yeah,
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it's not sticking straight out.
It's like limp.
So obviously, if a person getsaroused, they go straight and it
goes hard.
So how's that gonna work?
So, yeah, it can make someonehurt, but um, that's all I know
about that.
I guess, if anybody'sinterested, maybe I'll expound
on that in future episodes.
But that's what I mean withchastity and I just sort of did
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a two for one Would explain andfurniture play and public
emulations Alright.
So now to my kiki emulationExperiences.
Alright, so I've had thisexperience with my sir.
So some years ago, oh my gosh,he made me twerk in front of his
friend, and this was beforeYouTube taught me how to twerk
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and he knows I can dance.
He would always tease me aboutit and so, like I was like
embarrassed because I can handletwerking in front of him, but
in front of his friend too, likeI did not like that at all.
But again, because of therelationship we have, where I
trust him, I know that he wouldnever do anything to hurt me,
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disrespect me, my feelings, oranything like that.
Whenever I am around him I'm inSubmissive mode, so therefore it
didn't bother me.
But, like I said, it like waslike are you serious?
And stuff, and so at that time,like I said, I didn't have
YouTube so of course it wasn'tmoved like it was supposed to.
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I was putting my back into it.
Oh my gosh, I felt like Ilooked way better than Miley
Cyrus.
But again I did not like it andstuff, because I didn't want
him to say that I was still andI have all that ass and I come
make it jiggle.
And, like I said, because Itrust him, I did it.
So I'm okay with beinghumiliated, but only with
someone I trust and respect.
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Otherwise, for me it can be bad,because when the play, that
type of play is over with, yougotta Now, mind you, this is for
any type of play, obviously,but when it comes to the type of
play where you're verbally well, you're not verbally abusing
because the person is consentingand they trust you.
But the point is, when it comesto deep plays, where it misses,
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which you psychologically, youhave to do that with somebody
you trust and you have to ensurethat the person knows how to
Finish the play and remind youthat you're none of those things
, just so your mind can be okay.
Because, as I've probably saidbefore, when you Are into btsm
play, it can give you whatdopamine and all these other fun
(31:29):
loving chemicals.
But what comes up must comedown.
So aftercare is extremelyimportant.
If a person desires aftercare,that you give them to that
Always, but definitely when youdo a type of play like this.
Let's see.
Oh yeah, because when the playis done you got to remind the
sub or the bottom that it wasjust for the scene.
Now, real thoughts, if thatmakes any sense.
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All three levels, which ishumiliation, degradation and
embarrassment those are my kinks.
Yeah, so let's see what elsehas happened.
I keep losing my place becauseI keep wanting to go off the
cuff, but that means all rambleand my meds have left my body.
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Alright, let's see.
Okay, blah, blah, blah.
Okay, now I have cried and cameat the same time with him.
Um, but I will go further intofuture episodes if I decide to
talk about Embarrassment and ordegradation and stuff.
But back to the bots.
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I wonder if the person whocreated this idea has a kink
because I, like I had saidearlier, early early.
I allegedly saw a shelf ontiktok that owns a restaurant
and used to tender to lure awoman to his restaurant with AI
male photos, allegedly after asuccessful date where the person
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was stood up.
He continued to do it allegedlybecause, again, if you wasted
time driving and getting readyfor your day, you don't want to
waste time and go home, so fuckit, you'll probably eat and or
drink by your loss himself.
And Another way that this hadoccurred was they would tell the
person hey, I'm running late,so please order a drink or an
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appetizer, I'll be there soon.
And then they get stood up andnow they're paying for this
stuff.
So, of course, I think that ifyou have a kink like this is
wrong because the other adultdid not consent to this type of
treatment.
But you never know if you aretalking to a real person or not
on the social media app.
So I want you to be careful.
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Try, if you can, to talk to theperson ear to ear, or try to do
a video in hopes To prove toyourself that that person ain't
a bot.
Then, for there, you might wantto double check with the person
that they are on their way tothe restaurant and you don't get
out of your car until you canconfirm that they are there.
Then, if they are late, youleave.
I know this seems common sense,but y'all, I'm an 80s baby.
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I didn't grow up with theinternet and virtual friends in
my life, so fuck it.
I want to provide these tips.
Be safe out there.
As we know, the dating pool,the dating pool, is full of piss
.
I've talked long enough.
Q.
M-O-Double M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-A-W-E that's my
name, mama Q.
M-o-double M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-A-W-E,that's my name.
Mama Q, say it faster or slow,don't really matter, though the
U-E gets a minute.
Tongue-tizzy yo, hey, kindadizzy bro.
(00:25):
Who is she?
Mama Q?
Mama gave birth little ways, nogirth, Sixty years ago.
No, I don't want.
Mo Q is a line and I tried toalign this double end.
Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy modules.
Mama Q, I'm the first one inand the first one out.
Memphis Tend to Key is mywhereabouts.
Don't complain.
(00:46):
Main saying stick it to onetopic.
I reply your mind is verymyopic with Mama Q.
You need better optis pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
Definitely.
No need to whisper gracefully,I like it better off-key.
Now let's see.
Do you remember me?
M-o-double M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-A-W-Ethat's my name.
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Mama Q, m-o-doubleM-A-Q-D-W-E-D-A-W-E that's my
name.
Mama Q, hey, hi, it's me.
Mama Q, I welcome you toMoments in Q.
In Q today.
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Hawaii, black Business, hudu,hudu.
And are you kinky or not?
Hawaii?
I give you the green of the dayand I'm explaining the why of
this episode.
It's holiday season.
I'm going to talk about booksto align with topics, in case
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you want to put the books on theChristmas tree or in the
stocking?
Do people even read books inhand anymore?
Anyway, let's end the year onsome education and reading and
learning.
More Tis the season.
Oh and PS, how many of y'allmade it through no nut November?
Black Business I highlight ablack business to bring
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awareness and my experience withsaid business.
Unless, I say it, it isn't apaid ad.
I am open to paid ads, but Idefinitely want to highlight
black businesses.
There's enough money for all ofus to get it Alright.
Gasta B Oshun she's from TenaKey.
Like Me, y'all call that.
I was ramen.
Anyway, I learned about herfrom Juju Bay's podcast.
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I received a reading from hersome years ago about which
Orisha has my head.
Some people believe that youshouldn't inquire about which
Orisha owns your head If youdon't plan to do anything about
it.
I plan to do something about itone day.
I'm confident my higher selfand my ancestors will lead me to
the right ele.
Keeping with books.
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She has written two books.
I read one of them and I hope Iam not butchering this too much
.
It's called Ona Agbani theAncient Path Understanding and
Implementing the Ways of OurAncestors.
I read this book.
In 2021, according to herInstagram, she'll have a book
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coming out in 2024.
Back to the book Ona Agbani.
This book was very informativeto me, for someone that isn't
familiar with IFA.
Unfortunately, I couldn't findany of my notes that I normally
write down when I listen or reada book.
Sorry, y'all, this is going tobe off the dome.
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From the book I learned aboutmy higher self, which was great
because at the time I was havinga lot of difficulty Because in
IFA tradition, from what I heardthe word Ori that deals with
your higher self.
I was trying to understand whatthe higher self and Ori are two
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different people Just trying tofigure out what it is.
I really liked that portion ofthe book that made me understand
.
If I'm not mistaken, I was alsoable to learn a little bit more
about Not the do's and don'ts,but I don't want to use the word
hierarchy, but I'll probablyroll with that and the
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quote-unquote hierarchy thatexists between your higher self,
the Orishas and the ancestors,but we do know that when they
all combine, that they're stillon your spiritual team.
Okay, and I also learned, ofcourse, more about some Orishas
that I wasn't too familiar with,because I can't remember the
year that I started learningabout Orishas or even Learning
(04:50):
about them in pop culture andstuff.
But I know that that gave me abetter understanding Because, as
we know, even when it comes tobooks, there are some people out
here that will tell a lie whichsome of that stuff from what I
heard Because you know, I'm notan IFA initiative or anything
like that they're not supposedto tell a period and there's
others just tell stuff just bybooks.
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So it's kind of difficult andI'm sure I mentioned this before
it's kind of difficult tonavigate something that is
unknown and new to you andtrying to figure out how to
learn about it and to decipherwho is telling the truth or
who's not.
So I believe her to be real,obviously Ghas to be ocean, ghas
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to be real, and so, therefore,I trust the things that I was
learning about her and I, again,thoroughly enjoyed it.
So here's the book overview.
When Africans were brought tothe Caribbean, north America and
South America and Europe ascaptives, they had been
practicing their own spiritualsystems for thousands of years.
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Ona Agbani is an introductionto the spiritual system of the
Yoruba people of Nigeria.
Alright, now she also offersreadings, like I mentioned, to
find Eurecia Villa.
Oh my gosh, mary Dougal,married a clone, I'm sorry, and
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that's not tarot like somepeople try to claim.
There are a lot of people outhere who will say that you can
find the Orisha that is overyour head via tarot cards or
pendulums.
No, a lot of people who are inthe religion and who have the
ability to find what Orisha ownsyour head.
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They say that that is incorrect.
Incorrect meaning tarot cards.
When I get you there, there hasto be a specific way to do it.
If I'm not, I don't even wantto be mistaken.
I don't even want to say,because when I received the
reading from her, it was ear toear and it was not on Zoom.
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I didn't think to do a Zoombecause I was like I'm going to
write everything down, I don'tneed a Zoom.
And she was able to answer myquestions and she gave me
insight into, obviously, whoowns my head and she gave me two
names.
She knew things about me.
It kind of reminds me of thatMaxwell song.
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You shouldn't know these thingsabout me.
Y'all know I can't sing, butthat's what it was for me, and
so that's how I determine a lotand thankful shout out to the
ancestors, my higher self whohave helped me navigate in this
lovely journey and I don't thinkI have ran across any
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charlatans.
But again, some of the thingsthat she said in the reading
like you're not supposed to knowthat about me, like WTF, and
she also told me that you haveto make sure that you hear your
name to ensure that the readingis real she was the only one who
gave me a reading like that, soI'm sorry if I'm not saying
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it's accurate, but, point being,there are certain people within
the E for religions that areable to tell you what Orisha
owns your head.
And, again, if that's the routeyou choose to go, do not
believe or listen to those thatsaid that you can find it do
terror through terror orpendulums, because, again, it
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doesn't work that way.
Okay.
Other reading says slashservices are a delay.
Sorry if I'm mispronouncingthat holistic health
consultations and holisticfamily consultations.
I've been following her on IGfor a while and yo, she is Asian
.
Gracefully, she looks verybeautiful for her age and the
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reason being, I feel like, isthat she eats clean, if that
makes sense, and obviously notto say that other people who eat
processed foods are dirty oranything, but what I'm trying to
say is she eats as much as shecan.
That's from the earth and Idon't know.
I don't think she's avegetarian, but either way, it's
(09:10):
just she eats a certain way.
That's the best way to explain.
She eats a certain way andhealthy and it shows in the way
that she looks like.
Damn, she looks good.
Okay, she offers a lot ofclasses.
I haven't had an opportunity tolisten in on her classes, but I
am on her list serve so I getto know all the things that
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classes she's having.
But some of the class sheoffers is black witchcraft,
manifestation, ifa and orishaclasses and more.
Again, my opinion she is veryinformative.
So I encourage you if you'reinterested in learning about ifa
and she does talk about who do,from time to time, read her
books and support the divinefeminine.
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Who do, who do I get to theroot of, who do conjure up
thoughts that pop into my mindabout spirituality.
Come on, get this work, keepingwith books and of course I'm
gonna say that again.
This book I'm about to talkabout is called bull whip days a
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slave remember and oral historyby James Mellon.
Here's the description of thebook.
In the 1930s, the worksprogress administration
commissioned.
An oral history of theremaining former slaves.
Bull whip days is a remarkablecompendium I've never heard of
that word Compendium C, o, m, p,n, d, I, u M of selections from
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this extraordinary interviews,providing an unflinching
portrait of the world ofgovernment sanctioned slavery of
Africans in America.
Here are 29 full narrations aswell as nine sections of
excerpts related to particular Xaspects of slave life, from
religion to plantation life tothe reconstruction area Error.
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Skillfully edited, thesechronicles bear eloquent witness
to the trials of slaves inAmerica, reveal the wide range
of conditions of human bondageand provide sobering insight
into the roots of racism intoday's society.
Now, unfortunately, I have notfinished the book and I decided
(11:22):
to go ahead and talk about itanyway.
I have about five hours leftand life is life and kicking my
butt and since I'm talking aboutbooks, I'm like let's go ahead
and talk about it and I thinkthat there are enough subjects
that I'm about to take up talkabout that could fill in the
(11:45):
blanks and I can't wait tolisten to the rest of the five
hours.
Now, again, I have audible, soI listened to it, so that was
very, that was very helpful forme because, of course, the
readers were able to use thataccents of Southern people.
Now I'm pretty confident thatif you read the book it will be
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written down just like how someSouthern people talked and a lot
of people not me, though,because I'm a Southern a lot of
people complain about that styleof writing.
There was a Zora Neil Hurstonbook that was written similar
like that and, again, somepeople find it difficult to read
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along to it.
Me, I don't have an issue withit.
So if this is something thatyou are interested in learning
about and you have difficultiespossibly reading Southern
dialect, I would encourage youto listen to the book.
But if it doesn't bother you,you know, either way is fine,
all right.
So here's a list of things thatI learned and of course I'm
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expound on each one with myexperiences.
I'm trying to decide if I'mgonna do this all at once or
individual.
I don't know.
I'll probably say all of it,we'll see.
Blah, blah, blah, alright.
So the book I enjoyed.
I was pissed off, I was upset,I was shocked and surprised with
the book.
Lots of emotions, obviously,okay.
So there was a lot of aspectsof who do any.
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So you know, I really love thatpart.
So there was a ins well, formerenslaved African talked about
jumping the broom and of course,some of y'all may know it or
may not, but what the fuck everI'm gonna tell you.
So back in the days, blackpeople could not get married.
Therefore, what would happen isthat they would jump the broom
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and that was their way of beingmarried.
Sometimes they according to thebook, the people who endured
this sometimes they were able topick the person that they want
to marry.
Other times it was at the slaveowner's discretion.
Unfortunately, color purplesort of kind of come into mind
with the way that I imagined howit would go with the book,
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because you know they would wanta woman to be with a certain
type of man in hopes that theirbabies would be a certain type
of a way.
First of all, let me go withtrigger warning for this entire
section.
I'm gonna try my absolute bestnot to talk too bad, but if you
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have to take a break, I totallyunderstand it.
I'm probably gonna be talkingabout SA and DV because
unfortunately I was part of thelife for some people.
So, again, that was the way ofsome people, and there is this
herb that I had learned aboutcalled they pronounce that as
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fatida, which is ASFOTEDIA, andsome people use that as a way to
help them when they would getsick, and I thought that was
hella interesting because I do,or did I?
I know at one point I did havethe grind-up version of that and
I'm sorry y'all that stuff doesnot smell the greatest, so it
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was just very interesting.
I know it's like duh, but Idon't know.
Like me, having the herb now in2023, hearing about them
talking about it and realizingthat it's it has been existed
for a long time kind of was likesurreal to me and I finally
understood how to pronounce thatword, so I like that.
They talked about teas to getwell.
(15:24):
Some people should know about ahot toddy, so of course they
talked about that, but they werejust talking about using
different type of herbs, whichsome people do still, to this
day, use different teas.
I know I've heard a tea reading.
That wasn't what they weretalking about in particular.
It was just again, differentways to heal your body by
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drinking different teas, and youknow how there's that, saying
that us black folks will laughat everything.
Well, in the book there was anexcerpt about this person who
had said, yeah, that duringslavery they will laugh at
traumatic things because thatwas just their way of like
dealing with it and going onwith what's going on.
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And I find that funny becauseagain the ancestors find a way
out.
But I don't know about you, butfor me that was just like wow,
so many years removed and we'restill to a certain degree acting
like our ancestors, laughing atanything and everything when
we're supposed to like be solemn.
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You know they talked aboutwearing hemp clothes and you
know, as someone me that used tobe a hemp gardener we'll see if
I feel like doing that the nextyear.
That was pretty cool.
So some of that part, justhearing about the hemp clothes,
obviously not the rest.
So some of the enslavedAfricans, they wore hemp
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clothing and it was veryscratchy for them.
They also talk about muslinmuslin and I had just bought
myself some because I felt it inmy spirit to buy it and I've
used that sometimes to dodifferent types of workings and
to make different teas for myspiritual bath.
So I thought that was cool andI learned the origins of catch a
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girl, get a girl.
They had something like thatback in the enslavement days and
it's like what I just wouldhave never thought of that.
Now here comes possible triggerwarnings.
Is that, of course, sadly, someof the women, the enslaved
African women, would have babiesby Massa and the Massa's wife
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wouldn't like it, and so theytalked about that experience,
which wasn't great.
They talked about how sometimesthe white women would get upset
, jealous and mad over the womanthat Massa was sleeping with
and sometimes would beat her.
There was a lot of abuse.
Obviously, some enslaved peopletalked about slavery not being
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bad for them and I don't likethat and it's not to take away
from their experience.
But I was listening to Donnellwrites maybe a little while ago
on one of his TikTok videos andI'm paraphrasing everything.
But he had mentioned howsomebody had reached out to him,
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asked him how he feels aboutdeconstruction and to explain it
.
So he explained it and itseemed like the only part state
that they cared about was likehim.
Oh, I hate that I'mparaphrasing because now I'm
going off the cuff over theydidn't add the parts that really
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mattered to him and so he feltlike they whoever it was they
wanted to just know about thegood parts of it, not what
Christianity has done to him,how triggering might be and
everything.
So that's immediately came tomind that some people and we
know people think like thatanyway.
But some people might be like,oh see, this enslaved person
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didn't have it bad, so allslavery wasn't bad.
But even if the enslavedAfricans didn't get beat, they
were there against their will.
So what is the good in that?
And so a lot of people weretalking about who do, which was
pretty cool.
Some of the enslaved didn'tbelieve in it.
They were all about JesusChrist.
Some of them, if they had agood Massa, they was like, yeah,
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I can't wait to go to heaven,I'll see Massa.
Then some of them was likeMassa, but not being heaven.
You know all these differentthoughts about it.
One guy in particular waspretty cool.
He had helped save some of theenslaved Africans.
He had taken a boat and tookthem to freedom.
So I thought that was flippingamazing because obviously all
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I've ever heard of was HarrietTubman and stuff.
So for me again, overall anamazing book.
I thoroughly enjoyed learningabout it, learning about against
some of us black people.
We have not I mean, doug, we'renot a monolith but some of us
black people we haven't changedgenerations later and some of
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the origins of our blackness cango back to enslavement, which
is sad but also quote unquoteunderstandable, because some
people are able to research thatsome of the ways that Americans
act and some of the quoteunquote rules that goes back to
European times.
So again, no matter how farremoved we are, the ancestors
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find a way and history repeatsitself.
Are you kinky or not?
I'm a proud kinkster to theBDSM community.
Let me tell you about thislifestyle to see if you want to
come over to the dark side.
We got candles, all right,y'all.
If it seems like I've beenzooming through this episode,
(20:59):
it's partially because,unfortunately, I forgot to
charge my iPad and it's down to5% and my cell phone is down to
14%.
So yeah, if I'm going fast,that's what's going on.
I'm trying to get all this outhere in time so I can charge one
of them, save it and get it out.
All right, so this could beunderpop culture for my next
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time that I do a Monday episode,but I'd rather talk about it
now.
Tiktok told me about a new trendcalled Food Digger.
First of all, they need torename it.
I don't like it, not catchyenough.
So, boom, you meet someone on adating app.
Y'all hook up.
I mean, yeah, yeah, y'all hookup and the person not hook up,
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like with y'all match that kindof hook.
And the person suggests aspecific restaurant to be petty.
Let's say Cheesecake Factory.
You arrive at CheesecakeFactory, they end up standing
you up.
Nothing new, right?
But Plot Twist, the person thatstood you up was a restaurant
buy and or an employee slashowner of the restaurant.
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The goal is hoping that youwould spend money over being
stood up.
It's a genius and also dirtymarketing move.
Now, what does this have to dowith BDSM?
Well, there's a kink for that,called Humiliation, and it's my
kink.
Now, before I go intoHumiliation being my kink, in
case you couldn't pick up what Iwas trying to put down
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humiliating somebody and leadingthem on I thought about how
fucked up that is from arestaurant point of view,
because one of the times that Ilistened to this on TikTok, they
had said that our owner at aspecific restaurant had started
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this.
Now, is that true or not?
I'm not for sure.
So allegedly, but the point islike I don't know.
I just feel like a person willbe humiliated to be stood up,
you know, and even worse, yougot catfished by a restaurant,
but like that gotta suck and beembarrassing and stuff like that
.
So that's why I think abouthumiliation and, like I said,
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humiliation is my kink.
So let me describe, before Idescribe my experience with this
kink, I wanna talk about Duh, abook.
I read this book with my formerlocal BDSM community.
We had a book club.
Every single month we wouldread a mature, obviously, but a
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kinky related type of book.
So the name of this book isEnough to Make you Blush.
Exploring Erotic HumiliationWorkbook by Princess Collie.
So here's the description ofthe book.
Erotic humiliation goes for,beyond the quote unquote lick my
boots stereotype.
Princess Collie, a famousfarmer dominatrix and world
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round humiliatrix, throws uponthe dungeon doors to explore the
complex desires that fuel thiskind of psychological play for
both dominance and submissives.
Using both personal andextensive interviews, she shares
advice and detailed ideas for abroad range of embarrassing,
humiliating and degrading waysto enjoy consensual, consensual
(24:25):
kinky fun.
Also covered are importantconcepts such as communication,
negotiation, consent triggersafter care and so much more.
All right, I actually finishedthis book some years ago and I
made notes.
Of course, I won't read all mynotes to you because they're
very thorough in comparison tothe bullwhip notes.
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But I'm just gonna let you knowand I normally don't like to
critique a book with fuck it.
I'm in the mood to do something.
Let me try something newCh-ch-ch-ch, something new,
ch-ch-ch-ch.
Okay, fine, all right.
I did not like the quotes thatwas in the book.
I really enjoyed knowing thatthere are levels to humiliation.
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The levels are at the firstlevel, embarrassment.
Second level, humiliation andthird level, degradation.
For me, embarrassment isteasing me about having a fat
ass and I can't dance.
It makes me for lack of betterwords blush.
Humiliation is a level abovewith wanting me to twerk in
front of other people withoutgiving me proper time to prepare
(25:31):
, in hopes of minimizingmistakes and looking crazy.
Twerking Degradation isconsensually talking shit about
me while I'm freestyling,twerking in front of everybody
and y'all.
That actually really happenedto me.
So let's see.
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, so don'tworry, I will.
Oh yeah, wait, wait telling meI'm horrible at twerking.
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I should do better.
Everyone can see how stiff andoffbeat I am.
Don't worry, I will expound onthe levels in future episodes.
If you want to know thedifference between shame and
humiliation, the book explainsit and I think it's important to
know the difference.
This lifestyle has stereotypesand assumptions of people being
abused, and unfortunately somepeople are, but there are also
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some who consent to being whatother people will view as abuse
okay, and so I think it's niceto be educated on those people
who don't know the difference sothat they can know about it.
And each chapter has questionsat the end and there is no right
or wrong answers, at least inour group chat.
I mean, yeah, same thing, ourbook club group chat, it wasn't,
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but it's a lot of things thatmake you go.
Hmm, a few more points ofimportance in the book are
negotiations questions.
Yeah, humiliation ideas.
Wait, I'm saying it wrongnegotiation questions, not like
negotiations, common questions,all right, negotiation questions
, humiliation ideas anddifferent humiliation kinks,
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such as furniture play, chassityand public humiliations.
So, yeah, if humiliation isyour kink, check out the book.
Of course I'm gonna talk aboutmy humiliation experiences and I
don't know if I'm ever gonnatalk about these three kinks and
details, but I can give youlike a brief synopsis.
So, if you didn't know, thereis a furniture kink out there
(27:20):
where somebody literally willconvert, contort, contort their
body to be like a piece offurniture in the book, if I'm
not mistaken in public, but itwasn't.
So out there, you know, but oneof Princess Collie's bottoms or
some of his, whichever one hewas.
(27:40):
He had a lampshade and he wastold to stand still and of
course that looks silly.
So nobody would think that'skinky, unless you're kinky duh.
So that's the type of furniturekink Chassity.
I've heard of people that havepenis to be in chassity.
There does exist one for peoplethat have volvos.
(28:02):
However, I don't know how thatworks.
So I had a person who I'm coolwith in the community.
We haven't spoken a while, butyou know that person never did
anything to me, but he used towear a lock over his penis and
he gave his key to his keyholder I think that's the proper
word for it and yeah, and hewould like degrade his penis
(28:27):
verbally to us.
So I mean not my kink at all,but yeah, there's some people
who exist duh like that.
But when it comes to thechassity kink, if the person has
a penis, there's no way thatthey can get hard because the
way that the the cage yeah,there we go the way that the
chastity cage for a person witha penis is, it's um, it's yeah,
(28:54):
it's not sticking straight out.
It's like limp.
So obviously, if a person getsaroused, they go straight and it
goes hard.
So how's that gonna work?
So, yeah, it can make someonehurt, but um, that's all I know
about that.
I guess, if anybody'sinterested, maybe I'll expound
on that in future episodes.
But that's what I mean withchastity and I just sort of did
(29:17):
a two for one Would explain andfurniture play and public
emulations Alright.
So now to my kiki emulationExperiences.
Alright, so I've had thisexperience with my sir.
So some years ago, oh my gosh,he made me twerk in front of his
friend, and this was beforeYouTube taught me how to twerk
(29:41):
and he knows I can dance.
He would always tease me aboutit and so, like I was like
embarrassed because I can handletwerking in front of him, but
in front of his friend too, likeI did not like that at all.
But again, because of therelationship we have, where I
trust him, I know that he wouldnever do anything to hurt me,
(30:04):
disrespect me, my feelings, oranything like that.
Whenever I am around him I'm inSubmissive mode, so therefore it
didn't bother me.
But, like I said, it like waslike are you serious?
And stuff, and so at that time,like I said, I didn't have
YouTube so of course it wasn'tmoved like it was supposed to.
(30:24):
I was putting my back into it.
Oh my gosh, I felt like Ilooked way better than Miley
Cyrus.
But again I did not like it andstuff, because I didn't want
him to say that I was still andI have all that ass and I come
make it jiggle.
And, like I said, because Itrust him, I did it.
So I'm okay with beinghumiliated, but only with
someone I trust and respect.
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Otherwise, for me it can be bad,because when the play, that
type of play is over with, yougotta Now, mind you, this is for
any type of play, obviously,but when it comes to the type of
play where you're verbally well, you're not verbally abusing
because the person is consentingand they trust you.
But the point is, when it comesto deep plays, where it misses,
(31:07):
which you psychologically, youhave to do that with somebody
you trust and you have to ensurethat the person knows how to
Finish the play and remind youthat you're none of those things
, just so your mind can be okay.
Because, as I've probably saidbefore, when you Are into btsm
play, it can give you whatdopamine and all these other fun
(31:29):
loving chemicals.
But what comes up must comedown.
So aftercare is extremelyimportant.
If a person desires aftercare,that you give them to that
Always, but definitely when youdo a type of play like this.
Let's see.
Oh yeah, because when the playis done you got to remind the
sub or the bottom that it wasjust for the scene.
Now, real thoughts, if thatmakes any sense.
(31:51):
All three levels, which ishumiliation, degradation and
embarrassment those are my kinks.
Yeah, so let's see what elsehas happened.
I keep losing my place becauseI keep wanting to go off the
cuff, but that means all rambleand my meds have left my body.
(32:11):
Alright, let's see.
Okay, blah, blah, blah.
Okay, now I have cried and cameat the same time with him.
Um, but I will go further intofuture episodes if I decide to
talk about Embarrassment and ordegradation and stuff.
But back to the bots.
(32:32):
I wonder if the person whocreated this idea has a kink
because I, like I had saidearlier, early early.
I allegedly saw a shelf ontiktok that owns a restaurant
and used to tender to lure awoman to his restaurant with AI
male photos, allegedly after asuccessful date where the person
(32:52):
was stood up.
He continued to do it allegedlybecause, again, if you wasted
time driving and getting readyfor your day, you don't want to
waste time and go home, so fuckit, you'll probably eat and or
drink by your loss himself.
And Another way that this hadoccurred was they would tell the
person hey, I'm running late,so please order a drink or an
(33:14):
appetizer, I'll be there soon.
And then they get stood up andnow they're paying for this
stuff.
So, of course, I think that ifyou have a kink like this is
wrong because the other adultdid not consent to this type of
treatment.
But you never know if you aretalking to a real person or not
on the social media app.
So I want you to be careful.
(33:34):
Try, if you can, to talk to theperson ear to ear, or try to do
a video in hopes To prove toyourself that that person ain't
a bot.
Then, for there, you might wantto double check with the person
that they are on their way tothe restaurant and you don't get
out of your car until you canconfirm that they are there.
Then, if they are late, youleave.
I know this seems common sense,but y'all, I'm an 80s baby.
(33:57):
I didn't grow up with theinternet and virtual friends in
my life, so fuck it.
I want to provide these tips.
Be safe out there.
As we know, the dating pool,the dating pool, is full of piss
.
I've talked long enough.
Q.
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