February 10, 2024 • 28 mins
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I talk about having a different thought process when it comes to “complaining” about the “same old same old” Black greats. I mention a wonderful Black book. Yes it’s about enslavement but it’s not traumatic in my opinion. Then I close the podcast talking about degrading stuff. I’m Black Bish!
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Sunn m’Cheaux
Hoodoo:
The Water Dancer by Ta-Nehisi Coates
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Speaker (00:05):
M-O-W-M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-W-E , that's my name, mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
Mama Q, say it faster.
Slow don't really matter,though the U-E gets a minute.
Tongue tizzy, yo, hey, kindadizzy bro.
(00:25):
Who is she?
Mama Q.
Mama gave birth little waste,no girth, sixteen years ago.
No, I don't want mo Q is a lineand I tried to align this
double end.
Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy mantras.
Mama Q, I'm the first one inand the first one out.
Memphis Tend to Key is mywhereabouts.
Duncan Plain Mayn saying stickit to one topic.
(00:47):
I reply your mind is verymyopic with Mama Q.
You need better optist pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
Definitely.
No need to whisper gracefully.
I like it better off key.
Now let's see.
Do you remember me?
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
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Mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
Mama Q.
Hey, hi, it's me.
Mama Q.
I welcome you to Moments in QIn Q today.
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Hawaii, black Business, hudu-du.
And are you kinky or not?
Hawaii, I give you the green ofthe day and I'm explaining the
why of this episode.
I'm black, I'm black.
Buh bish, I'm black.
Hey, I'm black, I'm black, bish, I'm black.
(01:53):
Happy Black History Month y'all.
Every other Thursday, you know,I highlight my black people.
Well, as you're listening tothis, it's actually Saturday.
I decided to do my Thursdays toSaturdays Because life has just
been getting busy.
I will highlight Sonam's showand his TikToks as why we should
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continue to celebrate notableblack history.
People Moving to Hudu.
I will talk about the bookWater Dancer by Tana Hisi Coates
.
I might even sprinkleremembering the ancestors' name.
Lastly, I will pick up where Ileft off last year with
degradation.
Remember, if you can pronounceTom, dick, harry, billy and Bob,
you can pronounce Sonam's showand Tana Hisi Coates.
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Black Business I highlightedBlack Business to bring
awareness and my experience withsaid business.
Unless, I say it, it isn't apaid ad.
I'm open to paid ads, but Idefinitely want to highlight
black businesses.
There's enough money for all ofus to get it.
Alright, y'all, I am going togive you a bio now.
It's long, but I see nothingwrong with it.
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I like it because if you got alot of stuff to talk about your
accolades and let people reallyget to know who you are, then
put it out there, okay.
So here is my bio about SonamCho.
All right, he was born themiddle child of a Pentecostal
holiness minister, father andmissionary mother in Charleston,
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south Carolina.
A true Gullah Gechi Ben-Yahnative, he was reared in rural
Mount Holly, south Carolina, ina familiar village established
in the late 1850s.
The rich Gullah language andculture he observed growing up
on those Sandy Low countrybackwoods is ever present in his
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life as an artist, advocate andeducator, though an
accomplished high school student, a war-winning writer and
champion wrestler show PassionWas and Is music, which he
pursued professionally aftergraduation.
To date, he has released fivefull-length studio albums, a
myriad of singles and musicvideos and has recorded a trove
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of yet to be released work.
He has lived and traveledacross country in the US and
ventured abroad as anindependent recording artist and
producer.
It was during him shows travelsthat his worldviews expanded,
leading him to become moreinvolved in public service for
causes and communities, forwhich his heightened profile as
a performer, granting him aplatform to affect progress.
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His activism and advocacy havebeen featured on HBO, vice, bbc,
cbs and Al Jazeera Plus, toname a few.
M-shows considers media presenceto be an integral component in
his effort to draw attention tothe oft-ignored social groups,
particularly in the Gullah Gijicommunity.
M-show has cultivated a strongfollowing online via social
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media, with frequent viralcontent ranging from pop culture
, commentary, allegorical andadults and entertainment to
serious discussions, advocacyand philanthropy.
Via crowdfunding, he uses histhis content to promote
intellect, ethics, enlightenmentand education, the latter of
which led him, in 2017, tobecome the first and only Gullah
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language instructed at HarvardUniversity.
In this role, he teaches acurriculum based on extensive
research and his own personalGullah Giji knowledge and
experience.
All right, there's more in this, but I want to let y'all know.
Y'all can read it on your own.
My.
I want to get to the lastparagraph of it and it says
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proud yet humble, about hisachievements.
M-shows personal mantra and allhis endeavors is we out here, a
celebratory Gullah Gijiaffirmation, meaning we are out
here.
He attributes his personalascension to the collective
excellence of his culture andpeople overall.
In that regard, m-showsembodies mustakia de root fada
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heal the tree.
The Gullah proverb there meansmust take care of the root to
nourish the tree.
Now, look, I know I'm aSoutherner, but for some weird
reason, I always want to try topronounce words as if that's
Spanish, and I try my best topronounce that as correctly as I
could.
I hope I did a good job.
I try, I try, but anyway, Iwant to let y'all know about my
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introduction to him.
All right, I learned about himvia TikTok.
The locks ruled me in y'all.
I doubt I would ever allow mylocks to get as long as son, but
I love seeing locks y'all onblack people.
Oh my gosh.
And those who like really haveit long.
Oh my gosh.
Like I'm not exaggerating, Ifeel like his locks are like to
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his knees, like no lie, no lie,no lie.
Okay so, um, of the numeroustiktoks I seen from in show, one
that sticks out is himeducating a white teacher, no
less.
On the continuation ofhighlighting the notable black
people during this month, suchas Harry Tubman and Dr Martin
Luther King, all right, so I'mabout to speak from personal
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experience.
Okay.
So, for me, from kindergartentill senior in high school, my,
my school, my classes, mycurriculum, most of the time
when it was black history month,they said numerous amount of
black people and it was usuallythe same, you know, the doctor,
martin Luther King, rosa Parks,Harriet Tubman, frederick
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Douglass, etc.
There was one time in fifthgrade I remember learning about
Mary McCleod and I didn't heartoo much about her afterwards.
That was who I chose, or waschosen for me, to learn about.
Okay, and so, like, as I startedgetting older, I Unfortunately
I'm just speaking my truth Gottired of it because I'm like
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there's.
So I feel like there was somuch more to us than these
notable people's names, like Iwanted to learn more than just
these.
I don't know these same 10names, but when I listen to son
and he talked about it, itchanged my mind.
I'm a believer, all right, soI'm paraphrasing everything I'm
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saying, but let me tell you, allright.
So he said that you never knowwhat new information you'll
learn.
During his tiktok, I learned alot more about some of the
notable Black people then I knewin all my years growing up,
Okay, so let me tell you allsome things that I learned that
I did not know.
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For example, rosa Parks herpersonal hero was Malcolm X, not
dr Martin Luther King Jr, andshe spoke at the Million Man's
March under need minister LewisFarrakhan.
I Definitely didn't know that,did you?
Also, dr Martin Luther King Jr,him and his father.
Their names were originallyMichael, but it was changed to
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honor the German reformist.
Which side note y'all when Ifirst learned about Dr Martin
Luther King Jr.
Oh, reven doctor Martin LutherKing Jr and put some respect on
it.
But when I learned about him andlearned about the reformist
Martin Luther, I Wondered waslike that intentional?
But I never asked the teachersbecause I don't remember them
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ever telling me that and when Imean me, obviously the classroom
and I just thought that it wasa stupid question to ask.
I know no question is a dumbquestion, but I was just like
you know it could be.
Just you know it's just likethat Martin Luther Okay, his
name is Reven dr Martin LutherKing Jr Like it's just was a
coink-a-dink, nothing more.
So it was just interesting andstuff, and so like, yeah, I've
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changed my mind about likegetting quote-unquote, tired of
hearing the Same names, becausewe also have to remember, a lot
of people Are trying to get ridof African-American history
within the schools.
So it's very, in my opinion,it's very important and vital to
keep their names alive.
Of course, I feel about it,even though this is not the
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hoodoo section.
I will talk about it because Ireally want to talk about the
book during the hoodoo section.
But number one reason, I think,is that it's important for us
to know much as much about ourhistory as we can Right when it
comes to learning about blackhistory.
That's one and number two.
There's nothing wrong withlearning something new about
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someone because you know, likehe said, you might not know
every single thing and I mightnot know something that you knew
, and vice versa.
And we have people obviouslyblack people who are being born
and their peoples might not know.
So I see nothing wrong withthat and from, in my opinion, a
hoodoo perspective Is that wewant to continue to keep their
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names alive.
I'm pretty confident I talkedabout this when it came to
talking about cocoa in the movie.
I'm pretty sure I talked aboutit this past October, but I
still stand by that.
So, in case I didn't talk aboutit, which I feel like I did, I
I Think that talking aboutAncestors whether it's your own
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ancestors or even ancestors thatare part of the
African-American history that Ifeel like that's a form of
veneration and we're keepingtheir legacy, their life, their
name, alive for futuregenerations.
So Don't ever think that, oh,I'm tired of learning and
hearing about that person.
You never know.
You might learn something new.
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And remember we out you.
Hoodoo, hoodoo.
I get to the root of hoodoo.
Conjure up thoughts that popinto my mind about spirituality.
Come on, get this work.
Water dancer by Tana Hisi coats.
All right y'all.
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I don't know who told me aboutthis book, but I listen to it as
I audio and I thoroughlyenjoyed it.
So this Is a synopsis of thebook from the website Goodreads.
Okay, so it's a GoodreadsChoice Award nominee for best
historical fiction 2019 andnominee for best debut novel
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2019.
Young Hiram Walker was borninto bondage when his mother was
sold away, hiram was robbed ofall memory of her but was gifted
with a mysterious power.
Years later, when Hiram almostdrowns in a river, the same
power saves his life.
This brush with death, birthsand urgency in Hiram and a
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daring scheme to escape from theonly home he's ever known.
So begins an unexpected journeythat takes Hiram from the
corrupt grandeur of Virginia'sproud plantations to desperate
guerrilla cells in thewilderness, from the coffin of
the deep sea I mean, I don'tknow why I said deep sea deep
south to dangerously idealisticmovements in the north.
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Even as he's enlisted in theunderground war between slaves
and the enslaved, hiram'sresolve to rescue the family he
left behind endures.
This is the dramatic story of anatrocity inflicted on
generations of women, men andchildren the violent and
capricious separation offamilies and the war they waged
to simply make lives with thepeople they loved.
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Written by one of today's mostexciting thinkers and writers,
the water dancer is a propulsive, transcendent work that
restores the humanity of thosefrom whom everything was stolen,
and it was first publishedSeptember 24, 2019, 416 pages.
I cannot remember how manyhours that translates to on my
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audible, but I, again,thoroughly enjoyed it, and I
can't remember how many hours.
But normally I stay leery whenit comes to quote unquote,
enslaving books, but from mymemory, this one is not as
traumatic to me as one mightassume.
It also, as expected, has bitsof hoodoo.
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So and it of course talks aboutHarriet Tubman, all right.
So of course I'm not going totell the end, but I'm going to
talk about this one scene.
So Hiram meets Harriet Tubmanand she and she speaks about
hoodoo sayings and they or oldwives tales, because there was
talking about a time when you door don't slaughter a hog.
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And we learn in the book thatthe headaches Harriet Tubman
endured in her real life was aspiritual gift she used to
rescue the enslaved Africans.
So of course, this book is not.
This book has bits and piecesof history, of course, and I do
recall because one hour calledlearning about Harriet Tubman
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she did have headaches and shewas told when to leave and when
not to leave and things of thatnature, and so I find that
interesting.
All of us have spiritual gifts.
I personally believe, as ahoodoo practitioner, that
Harriet Tubman she utilize herspirit, her spiritual gifts.
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I felt like I've talked aboutit before, where it appeared
that she either had clairvoyance, which means clear scene, or
clear cognizant, clear knowing,or maybe she had both.
But in the book, which alsoaligns with what I've learned
about Harriet Tubman, history isthat she used her spiritual
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gifts to save people.
Now, yes, she was a Christianand, as I've said countless
times before, you can be aChristian and practice who do
the Christianity that shepracticed back then they
probably want.
Can you believe it?
They probably wouldn't defineher as a Christian now because
she knew which plants to get tohave the babies go to sleep.
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As I saw somebody sick talk, sheliterally did not knock out the
kids, the little babies, tokeep them from crying.
There are different flowers,plants, herbs out there that has
.
Well, I don't know about, I'mnot very versed in it, but I do
know that present day people usemelatonin, but I'm pretty sure
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there's a plant or somethingsimilar like that where they
could find it.
So that helped.
And then, of course, her usingthe sky to help her find the
North Star and things of thatnature.
So, like to me, that was allher using her spiritual gifts.
And that's pretty cool how,again, tana Hisi Coates had
combined this fictional bookwith real history.
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That occurred.
Alright.
So also in the book they hadmentioned about conjuring and
swamps and of course, don'tquote me on everything, I don't
really remember about it, but Icould have sworn that there was
a mention in the scene where itwas like you know, if you want
to get some stuff, some hoodoocarrier, then you would have to
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go to the swamp, because that'swhere the conjure person is.
Again, don't quote me, it'sbeen a minute.
And another thing is, I thinkthat they did a shout out to
Yime Ya in the book as well,because water dancer.
In the book there was thisdance that the enslaved people
would dance to and, if I'm notmistaken, they would hold a jug
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of water on the top of theirhead and use that to dance, and
it wouldn't drop at all, and Ithink that that was also kind of
like what they call Elays.
Again, I'm not very versed withEva, but I do know from my
learnings that they'll sometimeshave Elays in the Holy Ghost,
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as we call it, if you're aChristian and Black people.
But it would actually bedifferent Orishas that would
come down, and so, of course,orisha of Water is Yime Ya, and
so I think in the book duringthat time they would call Yime
Ya and give like a quote-unquoteoffering to her of doing the
dance.
But the water dance was likesomething cool that was passed
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down within that community ofpeople.
So, like again for me, a greatbook.
I thoroughly, thoroughlyenjoyed it.
I'm always down to learn andhear about little snippets of
who do within books, so hopethat you read it, listen to it,
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or if you have read it or listento it, let me know.
But it's a good read,especially during this month of
African American history.
Are you kink or not?
I'm a proud kinkster at theBDSM community.
Let me tell you about thislifestyle to see if you want to
come over to the dark side.
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We got candles, alright.
So last year I did not get achance to talk about degradation
, so here's your chance.
According to the website, kinkly, degradation or degradation
kink refers to the consensualsexual demeaning and humiliation
of one partner by another.
It is a form of sadism andmasochism that can take place
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between a dominant and asubmissive in BDSM relationship.
A degradation kink sits on theopposite end of the spectrum
from a praise kink.
The dominant partner can useverbal, psych, psychological or
physically degraded acts such asinsults and rough sex to
embarrass the submissive.
The submissive should besomeone who is turned on and
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derives pleasure from receivingthese acts from someone else.
Anyone of any gender or sexualorientation can be into
degradation or identifies havinga degradation kink.
There is limited researcharound why people enjoy this
particular kind of play, butsubmissives themselves give
various reasons, including theenjoyment of seat and control,
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the taboo nature of the activityand the contrast between the
rough or unkind treatment andthe tender aftercare that may
follow.
All right, so, yeah, I thinkthat's a great way to describe
this.
Now remember I had said thathumiliation is like one level of
Kink and then degradation islike another one above that.
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So I feel like there's threelevels embarrassment,
humiliation and degradation.
Even though people use bothwords interchangeably, I don't
think that they are the same.
That's just my point of view.
All right, so there aredifferent ways to consensually
degrade someone After younegotiate with their limits.
Please remember that you alwayshave to negotiate and when it
comes to participating in thistype of kink, you definitely got
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to know somebody's limit.
For example, somebody might beokay with you spanking them with
your hand and calling themstupid, ugly, slut or something
like that, but if you take ahairbrush and smack them on
their ass stupid bitch, hoe orsomething like that then that
might trigger something for themand they're like hell.
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No.
So again, you have to negotiateevery single thing that you
always want to do, butespecially this and, as it was
said earlier, keep with theaftercare, because you're really
, really, really going to needaftercare, and I do understand
that some people have differenttypes of aftercare, which is
fine.
But going through something likethis with depending on how
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quote unquote mean the dominantis, that could change your
perception and if you've been insome type of abusive
relationship before, that couldtrigger something as well.
So, again, this is notsomething that you do for pick a
plate at all.
This is like you have to havean established relationship
repertoire with the person onthe given and receiving end.
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All right.
So different ways that you candegrade someone consensually
after you negotiate their limitsyou can spit on them, urinate
on them, spank them verbally,degrade them and let's see oh
and yeah.
And there's other ways you cando, like orgasm withdrawal and
stuff like that.
It just depends because, again,there's different levels of
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embarrassment, humiliation anddegradation to people.
So let me give you the levelswith more details.
All right, again, I'm prettysure I said this stuff, but you
know it's been some months, allright.
So if my sir would make medance in front of people,
knowing that I can dance, I'membarrassed.
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I might even be humiliated, butI'm definitely embarrassed
because it's like you know Goddamn well, I cannot dance for
shit.
Yeah, I can torque and make amove, but like that is not my
thing to do that in front ofsomebody.
So now, because I would beslightly concerned about how
others would view me or ifthey're laughing me.
Now, to take it up a level,degradation could be him
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recording me dancing and sendingit to people.
Now again, the recording medancing is consensual on both
parties.
Sending it to people so thatthey could possibly laugh, or
something like that Could be amind fuck one or number two, it
could happen.
But again you would have toensure that the people are
consenting from beginning to end.
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Everybody has to consent.
So again, if someone is like,oh you know, I'm going to
embarrass you and stuff likethat and make you like get
laughed at by your friends andstuff by sending you a picture
of you twerking, oh my gosh, andstuff, and of course, as long
as the consenting adults areokay with it, there's nothing
wrong with it and stuff.
And again, what might behumiliating, degrading,
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embarrassing to me might not bethe same for someone else.
Okay, so I've never I've hadbits and pieces of degradation.
That doesn't happen that oftenwith my sir because like he
doesn't like to do that too much.
He's okay with likeembarrassing me or whatever like
that and playing the mind games, but going too deep into my
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mind is something that hedoesn't like to do.
So let's see if I give youstory time.
So there was this time that Iwas around him and he called me
a slut in front of his friend.
I was livid, oh my gosh.
Like I gave him this look, Ididn't I allowed him to call me
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that, but I was like man, assoon as I'm like done playing,
I'm going to get on his ass orwhatever like that.
And that's when I realized thatthat was part of the play and
so we decided to to like let itbe known that whenever I'm
around him it's in submissivemode or whatever like that.
But, of course, which showswhich should be the way that
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someone respond to let you knowthat they value how you feel is
that he apologizing.
He understood how I was comingfrom with feeling that way, but
he was like letting me know,like you know you belong to me
or my son or whatever like that,and I think you can be able to
handle this or whatever.
So it's not like he was likeshut the fuck up and deal with
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it or whatever.
It seems like he was open andunderstanding how they made me
feel uncomfortable and stuff.
And at that time now, from timeto time when he wants to piss
me off, I do not like beingcalled a girl.
Oh, my fucking goodness, I donot like it.
So if I like annoy him orsomething like that, he'll call
me girl.
Now, anybody else, I'm ready tocurse them out.
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I like, especially if you knowthat I don't like to be called
that.
You know you get one chance tofuck up or whatever.
So, anyway, to fuck with me orwhatever he'll call me there
from time to time, and of courseI know that he's doing it to be
petty and to be an asshole orwhatever.
But again, this is notsomething that's intentional or
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mean spirited or anything likethat.
Hopefully that makes sense andstuff like that.
So, again, if that is somethingthat you're interested in I
can't stress it enough Make surethat everybody is consenting on
both ends.
You have an understanding orrepertoire conversation with
these people and, at the veryleast, start out slow, whatever
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slow may mean, and then, I don'tknow, maybe like what, five to
15 minutes and then in the scene, if you're trying to degrade
them in the scene or just veeroff to us Another type of impact
play or another type of play ifyou choose to, but definitely,
if you're starting out, justmake it real simple, as simple
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as you can, and then do youraftercare with them and then,
when it's over with, check onthem to see how they're doing
and everything like that,because, again, the things that
we do can be potentiallydangerous and there are some
kind of like.
It's is beyond my scope oflearning, but there is, like you
know, type of like chemicalsthat go, dopamine's all, all
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that stuff that goes into ourmind and stuff when we're
experiencing keek, that's oneand number two, you never know
what kind of trauma can betriggering.
That's where the word mindfield comes from, and stuff.
So you always want to err onthe side of caution and this
part of play, if it's somethingthat you're into, is not a
sprint.
Just you know, mosey your wayto it.
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Well, I talked long enough.
Q out.
M-O-W-M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-W-E , that's my name, mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
Mama Q, say it faster.
Slow don't really matter,though the U-E gets a minute.
Tongue tizzy, yo, hey, kindadizzy bro.
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Who is she?
Mama Q.
Mama gave birth little waste,no girth, sixteen years ago.
No, I don't want mo Q is a lineand I tried to align this
double end.
Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy mantras.
Mama Q, I'm the first one inand the first one out.
Memphis Tend to Key is mywhereabouts.
Duncan Plain Mayn saying stickit to one topic.
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I reply your mind is verymyopic with Mama Q.
You need better optist pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
Definitely.
No need to whisper gracefully.
I like it better off key.
Now let's see.
Do you remember me?
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
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Mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e, that'smy name.
Mama Q.
Hey, hi, it's me.
Mama Q.
I welcome you to Moments in QIn Q today.
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Hawaii, black Business, hudu-du.
And are you kinky or not?
Hawaii, I give you the green ofthe day and I'm explaining the
why of this episode.
I'm black, I'm black.
Buh bish, I'm black.
Hey, I'm black, I'm black, bish, I'm black.
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Happy Black History Month y'all.
Every other Thursday, you know,I highlight my black people.
Well, as you're listening tothis, it's actually Saturday.
I decided to do my Thursdays toSaturdays Because life has just
been getting busy.
I will highlight Sonam's showand his TikToks as why we should
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continue to celebrate notableblack history.
People Moving to Hudu.
I will talk about the bookWater Dancer by Tana Hisi Coates
.
I might even sprinkleremembering the ancestors' name.
Lastly, I will pick up where Ileft off last year with
degradation.
Remember, if you can pronounceTom, dick, harry, billy and Bob,
you can pronounce Sonam's showand Tana Hisi Coates.
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Black Business I highlightedBlack Business to bring
awareness and my experience withsaid business.
Unless, I say it, it isn't apaid ad.
I'm open to paid ads, but Idefinitely want to highlight
black businesses.
There's enough money for all ofus to get it.
Alright, y'all, I am going togive you a bio now.
It's long, but I see nothingwrong with it.
(03:00):
I like it because if you got alot of stuff to talk about your
accolades and let people reallyget to know who you are, then
put it out there, okay.
So here is my bio about SonamCho.
All right, he was born themiddle child of a Pentecostal
holiness minister, father andmissionary mother in Charleston,
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south Carolina.
A true Gullah Gechi Ben-Yahnative, he was reared in rural
Mount Holly, south Carolina, ina familiar village established
in the late 1850s.
The rich Gullah language andculture he observed growing up
on those Sandy Low countrybackwoods is ever present in his
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life as an artist, advocate andeducator, though an
accomplished high school student, a war-winning writer and
champion wrestler show PassionWas and Is music, which he
pursued professionally aftergraduation.
To date, he has released fivefull-length studio albums, a
myriad of singles and musicvideos and has recorded a trove
(04:02):
of yet to be released work.
He has lived and traveledacross country in the US and
ventured abroad as anindependent recording artist and
producer.
It was during him shows travelsthat his worldviews expanded,
leading him to become moreinvolved in public service for
causes and communities, forwhich his heightened profile as
a performer, granting him aplatform to affect progress.
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His activism and advocacy havebeen featured on HBO, vice, bbc,
cbs and Al Jazeera Plus, toname a few.
M-shows considers media presenceto be an integral component in
his effort to draw attention tothe oft-ignored social groups,
particularly in the Gullah Gijicommunity.
M-show has cultivated a strongfollowing online via social
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media, with frequent viralcontent ranging from pop culture
, commentary, allegorical andadults and entertainment to
serious discussions, advocacyand philanthropy.
Via crowdfunding, he uses histhis content to promote
intellect, ethics, enlightenmentand education, the latter of
which led him, in 2017, tobecome the first and only Gullah
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language instructed at HarvardUniversity.
In this role, he teaches acurriculum based on extensive
research and his own personalGullah Giji knowledge and
experience.
All right, there's more in this, but I want to let y'all know.
Y'all can read it on your own.
My.
I want to get to the lastparagraph of it and it says
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proud yet humble, about hisachievements.
M-shows personal mantra and allhis endeavors is we out here, a
celebratory Gullah Gijiaffirmation, meaning we are out
here.
He attributes his personalascension to the collective
excellence of his culture andpeople overall.
In that regard, m-showsembodies mustakia de root fada
(05:55):
heal the tree.
The Gullah proverb there meansmust take care of the root to
nourish the tree.
Now, look, I know I'm aSoutherner, but for some weird
reason, I always want to try topronounce words as if that's
Spanish, and I try my best topronounce that as correctly as I
could.
I hope I did a good job.
I try, I try, but anyway, Iwant to let y'all know about my
(06:17):
introduction to him.
All right, I learned about himvia TikTok.
The locks ruled me in y'all.
I doubt I would ever allow mylocks to get as long as son, but
I love seeing locks y'all onblack people.
Oh my gosh.
And those who like really haveit long.
Oh my gosh.
Like I'm not exaggerating, Ifeel like his locks are like to
(06:40):
his knees, like no lie, no lie,no lie.
Okay so, um, of the numeroustiktoks I seen from in show, one
that sticks out is himeducating a white teacher, no
less.
On the continuation ofhighlighting the notable black
people during this month, suchas Harry Tubman and Dr Martin
Luther King, all right, so I'mabout to speak from personal
(07:01):
experience.
Okay.
So, for me, from kindergartentill senior in high school, my,
my school, my classes, mycurriculum, most of the time
when it was black history month,they said numerous amount of
black people and it was usuallythe same, you know, the doctor,
martin Luther King, rosa Parks,Harriet Tubman, frederick
(07:22):
Douglass, etc.
There was one time in fifthgrade I remember learning about
Mary McCleod and I didn't heartoo much about her afterwards.
That was who I chose, or waschosen for me, to learn about.
Okay, and so, like, as I startedgetting older, I Unfortunately
I'm just speaking my truth Gottired of it because I'm like
(07:45):
there's.
So I feel like there was somuch more to us than these
notable people's names, like Iwanted to learn more than just
these.
I don't know these same 10names, but when I listen to son
and he talked about it, itchanged my mind.
I'm a believer, all right, soI'm paraphrasing everything I'm
(08:05):
saying, but let me tell you, allright.
So he said that you never knowwhat new information you'll
learn.
During his tiktok, I learned alot more about some of the
notable Black people then I knewin all my years growing up,
Okay, so let me tell you allsome things that I learned that
I did not know.
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For example, rosa Parks herpersonal hero was Malcolm X, not
dr Martin Luther King Jr, andshe spoke at the Million Man's
March under need minister LewisFarrakhan.
I Definitely didn't know that,did you?
Also, dr Martin Luther King Jr,him and his father.
Their names were originallyMichael, but it was changed to
(08:47):
honor the German reformist.
Which side note y'all when Ifirst learned about Dr Martin
Luther King Jr.
Oh, reven doctor Martin LutherKing Jr and put some respect on
it.
But when I learned about him andlearned about the reformist
Martin Luther, I Wondered waslike that intentional?
But I never asked the teachersbecause I don't remember them
(09:10):
ever telling me that and when Imean me, obviously the classroom
and I just thought that it wasa stupid question to ask.
I know no question is a dumbquestion, but I was just like
you know it could be.
Just you know it's just likethat Martin Luther Okay, his
name is Reven dr Martin LutherKing Jr Like it's just was a
coink-a-dink, nothing more.
So it was just interesting andstuff, and so like, yeah, I've
(09:35):
changed my mind about likegetting quote-unquote, tired of
hearing the Same names, becausewe also have to remember, a lot
of people Are trying to get ridof African-American history
within the schools.
So it's very, in my opinion,it's very important and vital to
keep their names alive.
Of course, I feel about it,even though this is not the
(09:56):
hoodoo section.
I will talk about it because Ireally want to talk about the
book during the hoodoo section.
But number one reason, I think,is that it's important for us
to know much as much about ourhistory as we can Right when it
comes to learning about blackhistory.
That's one and number two.
There's nothing wrong withlearning something new about
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someone because you know, likehe said, you might not know
every single thing and I mightnot know something that you knew
, and vice versa.
And we have people obviouslyblack people who are being born
and their peoples might not know.
So I see nothing wrong withthat and from, in my opinion, a
hoodoo perspective Is that wewant to continue to keep their
(10:39):
names alive.
I'm pretty confident I talkedabout this when it came to
talking about cocoa in the movie.
I'm pretty sure I talked aboutit this past October, but I
still stand by that.
So, in case I didn't talk aboutit, which I feel like I did, I
I Think that talking aboutAncestors whether it's your own
(10:59):
ancestors or even ancestors thatare part of the
African-American history that Ifeel like that's a form of
veneration and we're keepingtheir legacy, their life, their
name, alive for futuregenerations.
So Don't ever think that, oh,I'm tired of learning and
hearing about that person.
You never know.
You might learn something new.
(11:20):
And remember we out you.
Hoodoo, hoodoo.
I get to the root of hoodoo.
Conjure up thoughts that popinto my mind about spirituality.
Come on, get this work.
Water dancer by Tana Hisi coats.
All right y'all.
(11:40):
I don't know who told me aboutthis book, but I listen to it as
I audio and I thoroughlyenjoyed it.
So this Is a synopsis of thebook from the website Goodreads.
Okay, so it's a GoodreadsChoice Award nominee for best
historical fiction 2019 andnominee for best debut novel
(12:01):
2019.
Young Hiram Walker was borninto bondage when his mother was
sold away, hiram was robbed ofall memory of her but was gifted
with a mysterious power.
Years later, when Hiram almostdrowns in a river, the same
power saves his life.
This brush with death, birthsand urgency in Hiram and a
(12:23):
daring scheme to escape from theonly home he's ever known.
So begins an unexpected journeythat takes Hiram from the
corrupt grandeur of Virginia'sproud plantations to desperate
guerrilla cells in thewilderness, from the coffin of
the deep sea I mean, I don'tknow why I said deep sea deep
south to dangerously idealisticmovements in the north.
(12:45):
Even as he's enlisted in theunderground war between slaves
and the enslaved, hiram'sresolve to rescue the family he
left behind endures.
This is the dramatic story of anatrocity inflicted on
generations of women, men andchildren the violent and
capricious separation offamilies and the war they waged
to simply make lives with thepeople they loved.
(13:07):
Written by one of today's mostexciting thinkers and writers,
the water dancer is a propulsive, transcendent work that
restores the humanity of thosefrom whom everything was stolen,
and it was first publishedSeptember 24, 2019, 416 pages.
I cannot remember how manyhours that translates to on my
(13:30):
audible, but I, again,thoroughly enjoyed it, and I
can't remember how many hours.
But normally I stay leery whenit comes to quote unquote,
enslaving books, but from mymemory, this one is not as
traumatic to me as one mightassume.
It also, as expected, has bitsof hoodoo.
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So and it of course talks aboutHarriet Tubman, all right.
So of course I'm not going totell the end, but I'm going to
talk about this one scene.
So Hiram meets Harriet Tubmanand she and she speaks about
hoodoo sayings and they or oldwives tales, because there was
talking about a time when you door don't slaughter a hog.
(14:11):
And we learn in the book thatthe headaches Harriet Tubman
endured in her real life was aspiritual gift she used to
rescue the enslaved Africans.
So of course, this book is not.
This book has bits and piecesof history, of course, and I do
recall because one hour calledlearning about Harriet Tubman
(14:35):
she did have headaches and shewas told when to leave and when
not to leave and things of thatnature, and so I find that
interesting.
All of us have spiritual gifts.
I personally believe, as ahoodoo practitioner, that
Harriet Tubman she utilize herspirit, her spiritual gifts.
(14:57):
I felt like I've talked aboutit before, where it appeared
that she either had clairvoyance, which means clear scene, or
clear cognizant, clear knowing,or maybe she had both.
But in the book, which alsoaligns with what I've learned
about Harriet Tubman, history isthat she used her spiritual
(15:19):
gifts to save people.
Now, yes, she was a Christianand, as I've said countless
times before, you can be aChristian and practice who do
the Christianity that shepracticed back then they
probably want.
Can you believe it?
They probably wouldn't defineher as a Christian now because
she knew which plants to get tohave the babies go to sleep.
(15:43):
As I saw somebody sick talk, sheliterally did not knock out the
kids, the little babies, tokeep them from crying.
There are different flowers,plants, herbs out there that has
.
Well, I don't know about, I'mnot very versed in it, but I do
know that present day people usemelatonin, but I'm pretty sure
(16:06):
there's a plant or somethingsimilar like that where they
could find it.
So that helped.
And then, of course, her usingthe sky to help her find the
North Star and things of thatnature.
So, like to me, that was allher using her spiritual gifts.
And that's pretty cool how,again, tana Hisi Coates had
combined this fictional bookwith real history.
(16:32):
That occurred.
Alright.
So also in the book they hadmentioned about conjuring and
swamps and of course, don'tquote me on everything, I don't
really remember about it, but Icould have sworn that there was
a mention in the scene where itwas like you know, if you want
to get some stuff, some hoodoocarrier, then you would have to
(16:58):
go to the swamp, because that'swhere the conjure person is.
Again, don't quote me, it'sbeen a minute.
And another thing is, I thinkthat they did a shout out to
Yime Ya in the book as well,because water dancer.
In the book there was thisdance that the enslaved people
would dance to and, if I'm notmistaken, they would hold a jug
(17:22):
of water on the top of theirhead and use that to dance, and
it wouldn't drop at all, and Ithink that that was also kind of
like what they call Elays.
Again, I'm not very versed withEva, but I do know from my
learnings that they'll sometimeshave Elays in the Holy Ghost,
(17:42):
as we call it, if you're aChristian and Black people.
But it would actually bedifferent Orishas that would
come down, and so, of course,orisha of Water is Yime Ya, and
so I think in the book duringthat time they would call Yime
Ya and give like a quote-unquoteoffering to her of doing the
dance.
But the water dance was likesomething cool that was passed
(18:05):
down within that community ofpeople.
So, like again for me, a greatbook.
I thoroughly, thoroughlyenjoyed it.
I'm always down to learn andhear about little snippets of
who do within books, so hopethat you read it, listen to it,
(18:26):
or if you have read it or listento it, let me know.
But it's a good read,especially during this month of
African American history.
Are you kink or not?
I'm a proud kinkster at theBDSM community.
Let me tell you about thislifestyle to see if you want to
come over to the dark side.
(18:47):
We got candles, alright.
So last year I did not get achance to talk about degradation
, so here's your chance.
According to the website, kinkly, degradation or degradation
kink refers to the consensualsexual demeaning and humiliation
of one partner by another.
It is a form of sadism andmasochism that can take place
(19:08):
between a dominant and asubmissive in BDSM relationship.
A degradation kink sits on theopposite end of the spectrum
from a praise kink.
The dominant partner can useverbal, psych, psychological or
physically degraded acts such asinsults and rough sex to
embarrass the submissive.
The submissive should besomeone who is turned on and
(19:30):
derives pleasure from receivingthese acts from someone else.
Anyone of any gender or sexualorientation can be into
degradation or identifies havinga degradation kink.
There is limited researcharound why people enjoy this
particular kind of play, butsubmissives themselves give
various reasons, including theenjoyment of seat and control,
(19:50):
the taboo nature of the activityand the contrast between the
rough or unkind treatment andthe tender aftercare that may
follow.
All right, so, yeah, I thinkthat's a great way to describe
this.
Now remember I had said thathumiliation is like one level of
Kink and then degradation islike another one above that.
(20:15):
So I feel like there's threelevels embarrassment,
humiliation and degradation.
Even though people use bothwords interchangeably, I don't
think that they are the same.
That's just my point of view.
All right, so there aredifferent ways to consensually
degrade someone After younegotiate with their limits.
Please remember that you alwayshave to negotiate and when it
comes to participating in thistype of kink, you definitely got
(20:37):
to know somebody's limit.
For example, somebody might beokay with you spanking them with
your hand and calling themstupid, ugly, slut or something
like that, but if you take ahairbrush and smack them on
their ass stupid bitch, hoe orsomething like that then that
might trigger something for themand they're like hell.
(20:59):
No.
So again, you have to negotiateevery single thing that you
always want to do, butespecially this and, as it was
said earlier, keep with theaftercare, because you're really
, really, really going to needaftercare, and I do understand
that some people have differenttypes of aftercare, which is
fine.
But going through something likethis with depending on how
(21:20):
quote unquote mean the dominantis, that could change your
perception and if you've been insome type of abusive
relationship before, that couldtrigger something as well.
So, again, this is notsomething that you do for pick a
plate at all.
This is like you have to havean established relationship
repertoire with the person onthe given and receiving end.
(21:41):
All right.
So different ways that you candegrade someone consensually
after you negotiate their limitsyou can spit on them, urinate
on them, spank them verbally,degrade them and let's see oh
and yeah.
And there's other ways you cando, like orgasm withdrawal and
stuff like that.
It just depends because, again,there's different levels of
(22:03):
embarrassment, humiliation anddegradation to people.
So let me give you the levelswith more details.
All right, again, I'm prettysure I said this stuff, but you
know it's been some months, allright.
So if my sir would make medance in front of people,
knowing that I can dance, I'membarrassed.
(22:24):
I might even be humiliated, butI'm definitely embarrassed
because it's like you know Goddamn well, I cannot dance for
shit.
Yeah, I can torque and make amove, but like that is not my
thing to do that in front ofsomebody.
So now, because I would beslightly concerned about how
others would view me or ifthey're laughing me.
Now, to take it up a level,degradation could be him
(22:47):
recording me dancing and sendingit to people.
Now again, the recording medancing is consensual on both
parties.
Sending it to people so thatthey could possibly laugh, or
something like that Could be amind fuck one or number two, it
could happen.
But again you would have toensure that the people are
consenting from beginning to end.
(23:08):
Everybody has to consent.
So again, if someone is like,oh you know, I'm going to
embarrass you and stuff likethat and make you like get
laughed at by your friends andstuff by sending you a picture
of you twerking, oh my gosh, andstuff, and of course, as long
as the consenting adults areokay with it, there's nothing
wrong with it and stuff.
And again, what might behumiliating, degrading,
(23:30):
embarrassing to me might not bethe same for someone else.
Okay, so I've never I've hadbits and pieces of degradation.
That doesn't happen that oftenwith my sir because like he
doesn't like to do that too much.
He's okay with likeembarrassing me or whatever like
that and playing the mind games, but going too deep into my
(23:52):
mind is something that hedoesn't like to do.
So let's see if I give youstory time.
So there was this time that Iwas around him and he called me
a slut in front of his friend.
I was livid, oh my gosh.
Like I gave him this look, Ididn't I allowed him to call me
(24:12):
that, but I was like man, assoon as I'm like done playing,
I'm going to get on his ass orwhatever like that.
And that's when I realized thatthat was part of the play and
so we decided to to like let itbe known that whenever I'm
around him it's in submissivemode or whatever like that.
But, of course, which showswhich should be the way that
(24:34):
someone respond to let you knowthat they value how you feel is
that he apologizing.
He understood how I was comingfrom with feeling that way, but
he was like letting me know,like you know you belong to me
or my son or whatever like that,and I think you can be able to
handle this or whatever.
So it's not like he was likeshut the fuck up and deal with
(24:55):
it or whatever.
It seems like he was open andunderstanding how they made me
feel uncomfortable and stuff.
And at that time now, from timeto time when he wants to piss
me off, I do not like beingcalled a girl.
Oh, my fucking goodness, I donot like it.
So if I like annoy him orsomething like that, he'll call
me girl.
Now, anybody else, I'm ready tocurse them out.
(25:18):
I like, especially if you knowthat I don't like to be called
that.
You know you get one chance tofuck up or whatever.
So, anyway, to fuck with me orwhatever he'll call me there
from time to time, and of courseI know that he's doing it to be
petty and to be an asshole orwhatever.
But again, this is notsomething that's intentional or
(25:39):
mean spirited or anything likethat.
Hopefully that makes sense andstuff like that.
So, again, if that is somethingthat you're interested in I
can't stress it enough Make surethat everybody is consenting on
both ends.
You have an understanding orrepertoire conversation with
these people and, at the veryleast, start out slow, whatever
(26:03):
slow may mean, and then, I don'tknow, maybe like what, five to
15 minutes and then in the scene, if you're trying to degrade
them in the scene or just veeroff to us Another type of impact
play or another type of play ifyou choose to, but definitely,
if you're starting out, justmake it real simple, as simple
(26:23):
as you can, and then do youraftercare with them and then,
when it's over with, check onthem to see how they're doing
and everything like that,because, again, the things that
we do can be potentiallydangerous and there are some
kind of like.
It's is beyond my scope oflearning, but there is, like you
know, type of like chemicalsthat go, dopamine's all, all
(26:46):
that stuff that goes into ourmind and stuff when we're
experiencing keek, that's oneand number two, you never know
what kind of trauma can betriggering.
That's where the word mindfield comes from, and stuff.
So you always want to err onthe side of caution and this
part of play, if it's somethingthat you're into, is not a
sprint.
Just you know, mosey your wayto it.
(27:08):
Well, I talked long enough.
Q out.
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