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Speaker (00:05):
M-O-W-M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-W-E .
That's my name, mama Q.
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e-d-w-e.
That's my name, mama Q.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Say it faster.
Slow don't really matter,though.
The U-E gets a minute tonguetizzy.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Yo hey, kind of dizzy , bro.
Who is she?
Mama Q, mama gave birth littleways, no girth 60 years ago.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
No, I don't want.
Mo Q is a line and I tried toalign this double end.
Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy mantras, mama Q, I'm the
first one in and the first oneout.
Memphis, tennessee, is mywhereabouts, don't complain main
saying stick it to one topic.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
I reply your mind is very myopic with Mama Q.
You need better optist pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
No, definitely.
No need to whisper, gracefully,I like it better off-key.
Now let's see.
Do you remember me?
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e D-O-W-E.
That's my name, mama Q.
(01:09):
M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e D-O-W-E.
That's my name, mama Q.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Hey, hi, it's me Mama Q.
I welcome you to Moments in Qand Q today.
Hi, why Black Business?
Who Do?
Who Do?
And Are you Kinky or Not?
Hi, why, I give you the greenof the day and I'm explaining
why this episode.
What's up my black folks?
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It's still black history.
And guess what?
I'm still black.
I have made this decision thatmy episodes will premiere on
Mondays and Saturdays.
This might change again lateron in the year, depending on my
work schedule, but for themoment, just know two episodes
every other week.
I prefer to be consistent, butI gotta mind the business that
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pays me.
So if you want me to be moreintentional and consistent,
please support me so I won'tneed a job.
Okay, thank you so much.
Alright, I will shout out aconsultant of Pure Romance,
since it's still February, themonth of love.
Who Do will be a hodgepodge ofinfo, but I'm hoping it will
make sense on you using yourspiritual gifts intentionally,
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kinkwise.
Let's talk about being singleand BDSM.
Clearly I ain't, but y'allmight be.
Black Business.
I highlight a black business tobring awareness and my
experience with said business.
As I said, it isn't a paid ad.
I'm open to paid ads, but Idefinitely want to highlight
black business.
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There's enough money for all ofus to get it.
This business woman is local,but her website is open to all.
It is the internet, after all.
She is currently with PureRomance.
Pure Romance, if you didn't know, it's like Mary Kaye, but for
adult fun.
I know about Pure Romance for awhile.
Two ex-friends used to selltheir products.
Their products range fromself-care like lotions and
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lingerie yeah, that's what Icall it lingerie To solo play
with vibrators.
They even got the rose and I'mnot talking about the thing that
hopefully you got onValentine's Day and it can even
get wilder, like a sex swing.
As a BDSM participant, I feellike Pure Romance ain't on my
level, because what's on mylevel is usually the local home
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improvement stores, but it mightbe for you.
So if you don't have a PureRomance consultant near you,
give Kadina Oliver your businessInfo in the show notes.
Who do?
Who do I get to the root of?
Who do Conjure up thoughts thatpop into my mind about
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spirituality?
Come on, get this work.
I might repeat myself fromprevious episodes.
What else is new?
I might give too much detailsagain.
What else is new?
I might stick with it.
The topic is intentionally usingyour spiritual gifts in your
daily life.
Now, normally my spiritualgifts show up unintentionally,
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without effort.
For example, in my trainingclass, a certain co-worker kept
being known to me through ClaireCognizance but I couldn't pin
it down Like what the fuck?
And everything was like buzzingand everything and I was still
like I don't know what's goingon.
Then it was physically revealedto me.
Later I knew this dude's mom,all right.
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Another example at my job areour work badges.
Some work badges look different.
I finally noticed it yesterdayand I swear today I learned the
reason behind it.
It means different access.
So, yeah, it's like myquestions get answered
eventually, but I'm notintentionally looking to spirit
for the answers.
Before I mention how crucial itis to pay attention to your
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spirits, let me remind you forme, when I say spirit, that
includes my higher self, myspirit guides and my ancestors
and, of course, honorable andenlightened ancestors.
I don't call on all of them,all right, I call them all
spirit when I don't feel likedifferentiating them Among
spirit.
I have different teams based ontheir abilities.
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I assign them different ways tocommunicate with me and yay,
they listen.
So during my training, I haveto take tests.
Now, before I complete my tests, spirit tells me if I'm good to
go.
I'm intentionally asking forassistance and accomplishing my
training successfullyaccomplishing my training let's
put some success on it, allright?
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So, thanks to my dailymeditations, I'm now able to use
my gift of mediumship and clearcognizance in tandem to better
understand spirit.
They give me motivation beforeI begin studying and remind me
that white folks, they willalways have the audacity.
And I am being arrogant butconfident in my abilities to
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retain the info, because, for me, I feel like some of my
coworkers are throwing at me,not using any kind of like work,
but like maybe hating on me andwishing that I could, like, I
guess, be on their level becauseI'm doing well and I'm going to
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continue to do well, becauseI'm putting that out there and
stuff like that.
So, of course, I have todefinitely cover my hair because
I feel it in my spirit.
But one thing that I know isthat You've probably seen it,
I'm sure other people have seenit, but I know for me I see it
that white people, they walkaround with this arrogance about
them and that's one thing thatmy ancestors told me that these
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white people will have arrogancein any sniff or look of a Black
person, especially a blackwoman that feels confident and
is successful.
When they feel like what thefuck you're doing here and you
shouldn't be, that, they wouldjust, you know, feel a certain
type of way, and so it's one ofthose things.
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It's cool when they do it, it'sa problem when I do it.
So it's like I shouldn't haveto Dim my light or dim my
intelligence and stuff and beproud of myself and be proud of
the fact that I'm studying, I'mretaining the information, I'm
learning the information and I'mdisplaying my ability to learn
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it.
And if other people don't wantto get on board and they Feel a
certain type of way, hey, that'sthem All right.
So that's what I mean aboutthat.
Now there is another Example Iwant to use is the use of colors
within your dreams.
So, for example, I know someoneif they go to sleep with the
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green light, their dream will beabout the future, and if they
use another color and I say red,that dream will be about love.
And they are keeping a diary ofthe colors and their dreams to
ensure the assumption of thecolor patterns are correct.
This person's gift, if youdidn't notice already is
clairvoyance.
So using their dreams and thecolors can provide insight to
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their life and or others tobetter guide them or to warn
them, if need be.
I too have been keeping a dreamdiary to help record my
abilities, that I display mydreams and the worlds that I
Frequently visit.
So within my dreams I travel tothe same place.
Because it, because it alwaysfeels familiar with me in my
dreams and After I wake I'm like, damn, I've been there before,
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and when I mean like in mydreams, like my, I guess I'm
trying to say my subconsciousit's like yo, you've been here
before.
It feels so familiar to me.
Now, look, I don't quite knowwhat this dream diary has to do
with anything at this point intime, but I think I'm getting
there and trying to figure itout.
So we know that all of us, weall have spiritual gifts and we
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know that us, as humans, my use,you know our Abilities, for the
wrong things and stuff.
Some people might use it forhexes, curses, jinxes, whatever.
Some, like me, use it to helpothers or defend myself against
other people who might bethrowing at me.
In my opinion, there is nothingwrong with also using your gifts
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to help yourself or others, butespecially helping yourself.
I don't think that it'sconsidered selfish.
Some people might feel like, ohmy gosh, I need to help
everybody.
Blah, blah, blah.
We put on our mask when itcomes to the air airplanes.
For a reason we have to takecare of ourselves first before
we can take care of others.
That's been told to me many,many times by spirit.
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Has been told to me to mytherapist, my mentor.
I tell myself that andsometimes I forget to include
myself in things, but I amtrying to be better with that.
So, again, there's nothingwrong with helping yourself,
assuming the spirit agrees withyou, that whatever it is that
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you're doing to help yourself isfor you, it's the path and I
guess your intentionsquote-unquote are good.
I remember Hearing about a manthat won the lottery and how did
he find out the lottery numbers?
Based off his dreams.
The honeypot owner.
She created the company basedoff her dreams.
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I remember hearing her talk.
I forgot the lady name,unfortunately.
I remember her talking on jujuBay's podcast and she said that
and I am paraphrasing.
But the honeypot owner?
She had said that she washaving Lots of yeast infections
and stuff like that and somepeople who don't know about that
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might be like she, nasty, butno, that happens if you are a
person who well, no, it doesn'tmatter what sex organs you have,
you can get yeast infections.
But it's definitely Morepossible for those that have a
vulva to get yeast infections.
So she was getting these yeastinfections in some way somehow
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again, a paraphrasing, becauseit's been a moment since I
listened to that particularpodcast episode from juju Bay,
but she was saying how anancestor came to her dream, told
her what herbs to use to helpwith her yeast infection and
then, tada, honeypot was born.
So Hopefully that is makingsense, but those are examples of
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people who again use theirSpiritual gifts and use the help
of spirit to help themselves orwith honeypot to help others.
Now, bringing it back to me, Iwas told some years ago what to
put on.
My ancestor also threw a genewith one of my ancestors.
I had another dream that toldme how to create a very
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important working and myancestors they have helped me
get my job and my man my man.
Thank you, ancestors from myman.
All right, I told the ancestorswhat kind of man I wanted and,
poof, a month later we gottogether.
I told the ancestors how much adollar is worth and in 2023, I
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mean, I'm pretty sure due toinflation, is changed.
But they got a general idea howmuch a dollar is worth because
again and when I mean a dollarmean USD, you know United States
dollars, okay, whatever.
Because again I've looked atthe senses and stuff like that
and I've seen Senses from myancestors and you know about how
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much money on certain senses,how much they paid or how much
they're way something aroundmoney and you know it was like
five hundred dollars, and sofive hundred dollars back in
those days versus five hundreddollars back in these days are
two totally different things.
So if you tell Again this is myexperience if I tell my
ancestors, yo, I need to havesome more money and I need this
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amount of money, they might belike, damn, the fuck is wrong
with you.
You know like why can't youjust be Contemplate with you?
Have again, I'm just making upsomething or whatever like that.
But you know they might thinkthat that money is sufficient.
Then once you start tellingthem, hey, this is how much USD
is worth.
This is how much Um rent ormortgages worth.
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This is how much my utilitiesis.
This is how much all of myexpenses are.
Once you start telling them that, I feel like that can help them
make a better Choice idea onhow to help you.
Again, my personal experience,that's what I did.
I literally went to my alter,explained to them how much
dollars worth what in in like1865 Up until now.
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I explained to them all thetype of bills that I have, why I
need certain bills and how much.
That is just again so they cantotally understand, like I don't
want to say the severity of it,but just also so they can
understand that what I don'tknow, like maybe what $500 could
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probably get them a whole lotback in their days.
That might be one bill for somepeople.
You know what I'm saying.
So I was able to do that and Iwholeheartedly believe that once
I was able to explain that tothem and to continue to explain
to them what's going on in theworld, that helped them
understand what's going on inthe world, which we know nothing
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is new under the sun.
But in addition to that, thatalso helped them understand
inflation, understand socialmedia, understand the inner
workings of everything, so thatagain they can better assist me.
So I'm saying all these things.
This is not me bragging, this isa testimony and I don't know
when.
But I might decide to give atestimony to really break down
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how grateful and thankful I amabout the ancestors and stuff.
But this is just like a highlevel explanation of it.
But it might sound so easy,like a snap of the fingers, like
on Thanos and the blessings,the assistance came to me.
That is far from what happened.
Okay, you know it wasn't easybecause, number one, energy can
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change.
So what might have been goodfor me two months ago might not
be good for me at another momentand stuff.
So you have to hold that into.
I was going to say account yeah,that's the word I'm looking for
.
You have to hold that intoaccount and not be so quote,
unquote hard on the ancestorsspirit, whomever is helping you,
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you know, and that's not theonly thing that could happen,
you know.
You know that of course youshould know that a lot of times
people say you know, don't tellpeople.
J Cole said this don't tellpeople your dreams so they won't
shoot them down.
We know that sometimes peoplecan throw at you and if they
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throw at you and they'resuccessful, that could like,
mess up whatever plans that youhave and stuff like that, and so
that's why one of the manythings is that you don't tell
people what you're doing whenit's in the workings of it, and
even when you have it, you stillmight need to put some extra
defense on it as far as defenseworkings, just things to keep
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whatever it is coming to you.
Or another thing oh my gosh,I'm getting so much downloads as
I'm saying this.
But another thing is when itcomes to like, for example, a
lot of people like to ask forassistance money, wise,
financial.
There's nothing wrong with alsoasking hey, when I get this
amount, please give me theknowledge, the ability to know
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how to use, utilize it, how tokeep money flowing in, just
things like that.
And, of course, your ancestors.
They can only work with withintheir abilities, and what I mean
by that is again that say, forexample, you have had ancestors
who own successful businesses,who own properties.
They can understand I mean, youmight have to explain it to
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them how it was back in theirdays, if it's been a difference
with present day, but theyprobably have the ability
because they have the first handexperience on how to do it.
Again, not everybody.
Especially again, when I talkabout who to, of course I'm
talking about Africandescendants and part of the
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diaspora.
But you know, especially withus black folks, we might not
have had those abilities to bequote unquote good with money
due to the lack of money, goodwith money due to systemic
oppression and all these otherthings that has not allowed us
to be successful.
But again, if you have hadancestors who had experience
with that, they could be able tohelp you like hey, you know, I
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used to own a home back in theday, so let me tell you how to
make this work and stuff likethat.
And then, if they don't havethese abilities, again that's
where it goes back to meexplaining them how to how
things work, so that they canagain do the, so they can have
enough information to best dotheir job.
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So, for example, at this pointin time, I don't have any
honorable and enlightenedancestors that knows how to work
properties.
So therefore, could I ask themabout helping me get a house, or
asking them to help you run aproperty management business?
Sure, but if that's not theirarea expertise, they might not
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be as helpful as one who has theexperience would be, but then I
could probably help get themthere by explaining the rules
and how much income it can comeand things of that nature.
I know that that's a lot ofinformation with that, but you
have to, like all thesedifferent variables have to be
taken into account and I'm notinto astrology at all, can't
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even talk to you about that.
But some people even will usethe different energies of the
plants oh well, plants to eventhough that's not what I was
trying to say Planets, differentauspicious times, all this
stuff.
So again, there's so manydifferent variables that you
have to put in in order for itto come to you.
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So I'm not gonna say it's goingto be easy, but you know you
might have to keep a writtendiary of how to make it work.
There could be other things thatcould potentially prevent you
from obtaining, like you couldhave done every single thing
that you were quote unquotesupposed to do and you still
might not be able to obtain it,and that could be a roadblock,
and that roadblock could be likedifferent things.
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So, for example, on theroadblock to be yourself, you
could not believe in yourselfand think that you are not
worthy to receive whatever it isthat you're asking for it or
you.
There's power in the tongue,and not in a nasty way, but
there's power in the tongue.
So, again, your words might notsound comforting, your words
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might sound negative, where theuniverse, ancestor, spirit,
whoever, might not understandwhat you're trying to say.
So, for example again lots ofexamples, so it can make sense
is that if you say, hey, I wantto have a job that does not have
blah, blah, blah, oh, my gosh,if you put the word does not,
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that could make spirit, whomeveris assisting you, be like okay,
I got you, or whatever, andthat not just fucks it up.
So you could be like I want apositive working environment,
you know.
So, instead of putting thosenegative words in there, put the
correct words in there so thatyou can be understood as best as
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you can, have confidence inyourself, believe in yourself
and you know.
If that fails, try to see ifyou can get somebody to do the
working for you.
Another thing that could bepreventing the roadblock is
could be spirit themselves.
Spirit might not think that youare ready by not think that.
That's my think that this isthe wrong path.
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For you.
That's not in alignment, andfor me, where that comes from
and I'm pretty sure it's likethis for everybody.
But again, I can only speakabout my experience.
But I'm pretty certain thatyour higher self is the one who
gives permission for blessingsto come towards you.
If other spirits that's on yourspirit teams give you things,
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and you know, for example, yourancestors might think yeah, yeah
, yeah, get I don't know $100million, and then your higher
self might be like nah, nah, nah, you can't get $100 million
because you might not be readyor there's certain things coming
down a pipe that might preventyou from doing it.
Or, again, it's not the paththat's going to align with you,
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because we also have tounderstand the different
dynamics of spirit and what thecapabilities that spirit can do
and can't do.
Again, that's a lot, but youknow you talk to them and stuff
and they can help you, okay, soanother thing that could be
preventing you is other forces,and again, you know that whole
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quote, I don't want to even saylike evil or whatever like that,
but there could be other thingsAgain, whether it's physical,
like people literally throwingat you, people literally putting
in work to prevent you frombeing successful, or there could
be, like you know, you shinethe light because you're using
your spiritual gifts.
And there could be otherspirits that are like hell no,
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we don't want you to besuccessful in this or whatever
and stuff.
So that could, like, mess it upand that barrier could be so
quote unquote powerful that yourspirits can't break it.
And why could they not break?
It Could be different things.
It could be because they aren'tbeing fed, they don't have
enough energy Also known as Ashefor them to be able to break
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through.
It might take a moment andstuff, or, again, it might not
be time, it might not be yourpath.
Again, so many many things.
And if they aren't fed, ifthey're aren't taken care of,
and if everything is not aligned, it might take a while for them
to answer you, assist you, orit might happen Instantaneously.
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It all depends.
So, like you, spirit needs tobe fed and, as I've said before,
there's different ways to speakto feed spirit.
You have to talk to them to seewhat works for them.
Some people have altars for thedifferent spiritual team, for
the different parts of spirit.
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There's in their spiritualcourt.
Again, whatever it is that theyneed from you to help them, you
know if you do it and youlisten to them and have this
great working relationship.
I believe that that could helpand stuff.
And so for me the proof is inthe pudding, all right.
Another thing about using yourspiritual gifts.
Pretty sure I mentioned this,but I just want to do it again.
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My mini me told me two timesthat it was going to snow.
That's when we had that big asssnowstorm in January.
And then what?
Maybe a couple of weeks ago Ican't remember, but a couple of
weeks ago we had snow flurries.
And it was so funny becauseafter we had that big ass thing
of snow, she was like Mama Q,it's going to snow again.
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I'm like what the fuck?
Around Memphis, tennessee, weonly get that big thing of snow
once.
We don't get it back to backwith the book.
And so I knew I should havelistened to her and believed her
like, because the first timeshe said it happened and show
enough, like I said, snowflurries came down.
So that's again her using herabilities to be able to predict
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things and stuff.
And with me, as I've said before, I know the power of the tongue
and I know them that there areso much powers in my words.
I feel like my words have theability to inspire and ability
to cut like a knife, because I'mpretty much so.
What I'm trying to do is bevery intentional with my words
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and use it to create powerfulmantras and manifestations to
help me and spirit out.
So I'm hoping that all of thisis making sense and stuff.
I know I'm all over the placeand everything, but these are
just the thoughts that I wrotedown and the downloads that I'm
receiving.
So I guess, in conclusion, whatI'm suggesting to you is to
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meditate, if that's your thingor whatever it is that is
required and or needed for youto build a relationship with
your spirit, but build arelationship within yourself,
because, of course, you needconfidence and whatever it's
going to take to, I guess, clearall the noise, because for me,
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I'm always going and thinkingabout stuff before it happens
and just like trying to keepfocused that sometimes, as I've
said in previous episodes, I canmiss important things or not so
important things that spirittells me and stuff, and so I
think that if you're so focused,you can miss something, and by
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being one with yourself and justslowing down, even if it's for
I don't know seven minutes, Imeditate every day for about
seven minutes is not a whole lot, but I feel like so far it's
enough to have me do what I needto do.
I'm able to get encouragementfrom my ancestors and stuff,
which is great oh man, thathelps encourage me and stuff and
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I'm able to get herbs and otherthings that need to be done.
If I'm talking to differentfamily members that I'm cool
with, if there's things that Ineed to say to them, I'm able to
get that out there.
It's just I feel like with meintentionally setting just a
small amount of time for me tomeditate and here, even though
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Claire audience is not my gift,but just go with me, me to be
able to hear what Spirit issaying, it's totally worth it to
me.
So, with all that being said, Ihope that what I said again
makes sense and I hope that yourblessings, your juju, your
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positive manifestations, all ofthese things, if it's your path
and it's meant to be, I hope itbrings you positive change
within yourself, within yourancestors and within your
community.
I'll show you Are you kinky ornot.
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I'm a proud kink-ster at theBDSM community.
Let me tell you about thislifestyle to see if you want to
come over to the dark side, wegot candles.
Being single in BDSM is not bad, but it can make you
insensitive, secure andsusceptible to predators.
So keep your wits aboutyourself.
As you know, when I joined theBDSM community, I already had my
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sir, but he wasn't physicallywith me, so it was like I was
alone, even though I waspartnered.
But yeah, he wasn't physicallyhere.
I think I asked to submit tohim around Good Friday.
Damn, that was like nine yearsago, wow.
And some months later, october,I found my now ex-local
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community Serendipitous, if youask me.
Anyway, when I first enteredthe community, I saw couples and
a few throuples.
I felt alone navigating thisnew world BDSM and being on the
Kiki website.
I stumbled a few times butluckily nothing life-threatening
, dangerous happen.
Woo, I learned there is nothingwrong with being single in the
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lifestyle.
Depending on people's dynamic,they might consent to playing
with you and or being in a playpartnership relationship.
More often than not, people'sromantic partners are also their
play partners, although I doknow of married couples who
consent to their spouse playingand explore the BDSM without
them because it's not theirthing and most likely their
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vanilla.
Now, obviously, theserelationships have different
boundaries that work foreveryone involved.
There are some married peoplewho are secretly in this
lifestyle due to fear rejectionfrom their spouse.
That's deceptive to me and Idon't like it, but my therapist
has always remind me I can onlycontrol myself, not others.
That's the yeah, and there'sthis other side of it.
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Of course, I talked about it atthe beginning, but I want to
obviously delve into it a littlebit more.
There are also some people whoare predators.
No matter where you go, you'regoing to find them,
unfortunately, and so somepredators.
They like being with people whoare single within the lifestyle
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and definitely who are new,because that combination
together gives them the abilitySometimes it gives them the
ability to do whatever they wantto you, because you might not
know, and they don't have toquote, unquote, respect anybody
because you are unpartner.
Now, I'm pretty sure I talkedabout this before, but I want to
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remind you again that one ofthe things when it comes to
dealing with people like that,if you are unpartnered and you
want to ensure that you don'thave anybody, have yourself a
protector, and this is someonewho can who's not your dominant
dumb A or anything like that.
They are just literally whatthe word says protector, where
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they will be able to speak foryou when it comes to
negotiations.
You can say hey, you can speakto nobody but my protector.
These are people who are lookingfor your best interest when it
comes to the lifestyle communityand or they being around the
lifestyle community for a whileand therefore they have a
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general assumption and anunderstanding of how people
could book and act if they arepredators.
Another thing to do is there'sthis thing called munches and
when it comes to munches, if youwant to meet a person from the
Kinky website or meet up withanybody within the Kinky
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lifestyle and stuff, you don'tknow if you can trust them, yet
meet them at a munch.
Usually, if they say no to amunch which is out in public
around people, then that'sprobably most likely a red flag.
And number two, if these peoplehave been around in the
community for a long time or youknow there are some people come
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in and out of the lifestyle andstuff like that so they could
probably vet these people.
Now, of course, you have to say, you have to take what they say
.
What is it with the grain ofsalt?
But that could help you becauseagain, there's somebody
assuming that the person who'stelling you is someone who knows
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about the lifestyle enough thatthey can say yay or nay to
someone.
And again, you're the one whomakes the final decision.
But you know, sometimes thereare people who can see other
sides of people that you mightnot see because your bright-eyed
, bushy tail.
You want to like you're goingthrough a frenzy.
You want to just go througheverything and experience this
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and have fun and you're hopingto find a partner who you can
share these things with or playwith partner, something like
that.
And again, the energy and stuffyou give off could signal to
predators that you might benaive Whether it's naive again
within the lifestyle or justnaive in general and stuff and
again that could hurt you, notin a good way, that could make
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you not ever want to try thislifestyle again if you come
across someone who's rubbed youthe wrong way and not in a good
way and stuff.
So there's again back to whatI've been saying is there's
different variables to it andstuff like that.
So you just have to definitelydefinitely if it's somebody that
you want to have a play partnerwith or a relationship with,
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you definitely have to watch outand pay attention to them and
their actions and and that themand stuff.
So if you are somebody whowants to have a romantic partner
regardless, well, in hopes thatyou know this romantic partner
is also in the lifestyle, or ifthey are vanilla, you know,
hopefully they consent to youhaving a monogamous ish
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relationship.
But we're just going to focuson romantic partners and stuff.
Most vanilla people think BDSMis all about sex and or heavy
play like they see on TV.
It can be consensually, ofcourse, but there I believe
there's different niches withinBDSM.
That's for everybody.
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You know, if you're good attelling people to exercise shit,
see if you could be a gymdominant, or you can see if you
can incorporate that into yourpartnership where you know maybe
your partner Again consent, butmaybe you know you can slowly
introduce your partner.
If they are originally vanillaand they're open and interested
to the lifestyle, you can showthem there's other types and you
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can work, work on theirstrengths that they have, so
that you know and who knows, itdoesn't really have to be the
name dominant, submissive oranything like that.
You don't have to have titles,but you know you can start off
slow and start off withsomething that's just not so
much out there Now with all theimpact, play, candle waxing,
tying up and all of that otherstuff.
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And speaking of tying up, thereis that part of BDSM that,
again, is not impact.
People just like to be tied up,suspended and all this other
stuff.
Again, you want to vet theseromantic partners, just like you
would vet them if you want toparticipate with them vanilla,
you know, and just have aregular relationship.
But you definitely got to becognizant and pay attention,
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because two newbies comingtogether, that's not a recipe
for disaster at all.
But it's another thing that youwould have to work on, because
I feel like you're alreadyworking on the relationship as
it is getting to know a futurepartner and stuff, and now
you're going to add a dynamic ofBDSM where it's almost like,
dang, you just met that person.
So again, read books, take babysteps and stuff like that and
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just don't try to like hide thatside of you.
If that is something that youreally and truly want to explore
, you have to be upfront withyour potential partners and,
believe me, I know how scary itcan be to meet your proclivities
because, like what if theylaugh?
What if they think you're awidow?
Well, I say, that is what.
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Maybe that person isn't for you.
I told my therapist before I metmy partner that I was like you
know, it's already a smallcircle of me being into BDSM,
even smaller circle of me beingpolyamorous and I like black
being.
I want to be with them.
This circle is just gettingsmaller and smaller.
And again, shout out to theancestors, shout out to my man,
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my man, my man, thank you to myman.
You know he accepts me, as I'vesaid so many times before.
He accepts me as I am and ofcourse, he likes to play around
with me saying how monogamous,not, not monogamous, but how
monogamous I have been in thisrelationship but I still claim
polyamory.
But me admitting the type ofperson I am from who do BDSM,
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polyamory, didn't scare him awayand make him say hell, no, you
know he accepted it and stufflike that and he's trying Well,
bdsm.
I doubt he'll ever come over tothe dark side.
He could change his mind, buthe's accepting in an okay with
it and without him knowing it,even though this is not the hood
section, he started to do somehoodoo things with me and stuff
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like that.
So again, you just never knowwhat might happen and you do
want to give the person anopportunity per usual to consent
and stuff like that, and alsofor them to at least see if it's
something that they'reinterested in and stuff.
So, you know, just take thatand figure it out.
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Now back to the monogamous ishpart.
Um, you know you can try to havea happy meeting with someone
like that.
You know, like I said, somepeople who I know their
heterosexual relationships andit's usually the wife and so of
course, the husband's like, oh,you know, you can't receive
spankings or what that from aman and stuff like that.
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Although there was this onewoman who I know she had herself
a whole, entire dominant andstuff, um, because her husband
wasn't into the lifestyle at all, they both came in together,
tried to experience it.
She kept it, um, and he waslike, oh no, that's not for me,
and stuff.
So I think that that's helpfulbecause, again, that allows in
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my opinion, that allows bothpeople within this marriage to
be happy with each other.
Everybody is consenting and youknow they accept and understand
that there's this side ofsomeone when there's something
that they can't fulfill, butthey trust themselves, they're
secure with themselves and theytrust their partner spouse.
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What have you to be able to dothis, so you know whatever.
So maybe the happy medium isyou being monogamous, ish and um
that will allow others to chokeyou every now and again.
Whatever your kink is, ensurethat you do a safe, sane and
consensual.
M-O-W-M-A-Q-D-W-E-D-W-E .
That's my name, mama Q.
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That's my name, mama Q.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
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Slow don't really matter,though.
The U-E gets a minute tonguetizzy.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
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Speaker 2 (00:31):
No, I don't want.
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Tundra petty, haha, it's one ofmy mantras, mama Q, I'm the
first one in and the first oneout.
Memphis, tennessee, is mywhereabouts, don't complain main
saying stick it to one topic.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
I reply your mind is very myopic with Mama Q.
You need better optist pickingand choosing to copy me.
Are you inspired?
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M-o-w-m-a-q-d-w-e D-O-W-E.
That's my name, mama Q.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Hey, hi, it's me Mama Q.
I welcome you to Moments in Qand Q today.
Hi, why Black Business?
Who Do?
Who Do?
And Are you Kinky or Not?
Hi, why, I give you the greenof the day and I'm explaining
why this episode.
What's up my black folks?
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It's still black history.
And guess what?
I'm still black.
I have made this decision thatmy episodes will premiere on
Mondays and Saturdays.
This might change again lateron in the year, depending on my
work schedule, but for themoment, just know two episodes
every other week.
I prefer to be consistent, butI gotta mind the business that
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pays me.
So if you want me to be moreintentional and consistent,
please support me so I won'tneed a job.
Okay, thank you so much.
Alright, I will shout out aconsultant of Pure Romance,
since it's still February, themonth of love.
Who Do will be a hodgepodge ofinfo, but I'm hoping it will
make sense on you using yourspiritual gifts intentionally,
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kinkwise.
Let's talk about being singleand BDSM.
Clearly I ain't, but y'allmight be.
Black Business.
I highlight a black business tobring awareness and my
experience with said business.
As I said, it isn't a paid ad.
I'm open to paid ads, but Idefinitely want to highlight
black business.
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There's enough money for all ofus to get it.
This business woman is local,but her website is open to all.
It is the internet, after all.
She is currently with PureRomance.
Pure Romance, if you didn't know, it's like Mary Kaye, but for
adult fun.
I know about Pure Romance for awhile.
Two ex-friends used to selltheir products.
Their products range fromself-care like lotions and
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lingerie yeah, that's what Icall it lingerie To solo play
with vibrators.
They even got the rose and I'mnot talking about the thing that
hopefully you got onValentine's Day and it can even
get wilder, like a sex swing.
As a BDSM participant, I feellike Pure Romance ain't on my
level, because what's on mylevel is usually the local home
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improvement stores, but it mightbe for you.
So if you don't have a PureRomance consultant near you,
give Kadina Oliver your businessInfo in the show notes.
Who do?
Who do I get to the root of?
Who do Conjure up thoughts thatpop into my mind about
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spirituality?
Come on, get this work.
I might repeat myself fromprevious episodes.
What else is new?
I might give too much detailsagain.
What else is new?
I might stick with it.
The topic is intentionally usingyour spiritual gifts in your
daily life.
Now, normally my spiritualgifts show up unintentionally,
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without effort.
For example, in my trainingclass, a certain co-worker kept
being known to me through ClaireCognizance but I couldn't pin
it down Like what the fuck?
And everything was like buzzingand everything and I was still
like I don't know what's goingon.
Then it was physically revealedto me.
Later I knew this dude's mom,all right.
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Another example at my job areour work badges.
Some work badges look different.
I finally noticed it yesterdayand I swear today I learned the
reason behind it.
It means different access.
So, yeah, it's like myquestions get answered
eventually, but I'm notintentionally looking to spirit
for the answers.
Before I mention how crucial itis to pay attention to your
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spirits, let me remind you forme, when I say spirit, that
includes my higher self, myspirit guides and my ancestors
and, of course, honorable andenlightened ancestors.
I don't call on all of them,all right, I call them all
spirit when I don't feel likedifferentiating them Among
spirit.
I have different teams based ontheir abilities.
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I assign them different ways tocommunicate with me and yay,
they listen.
So during my training, I haveto take tests.
Now, before I complete my tests, spirit tells me if I'm good to
go.
I'm intentionally asking forassistance and accomplishing my
training successfullyaccomplishing my training let's
put some success on it, allright?
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So, thanks to my dailymeditations, I'm now able to use
my gift of mediumship and clearcognizance in tandem to better
understand spirit.
They give me motivation beforeI begin studying and remind me
that white folks, they willalways have the audacity.
And I am being arrogant butconfident in my abilities to
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retain the info, because, for me, I feel like some of my
coworkers are throwing at me,not using any kind of like work,
but like maybe hating on me andwishing that I could, like, I
guess, be on their level becauseI'm doing well and I'm going to
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continue to do well, becauseI'm putting that out there and
stuff like that.
So, of course, I have todefinitely cover my hair because
I feel it in my spirit.
But one thing that I know isthat You've probably seen it,
I'm sure other people have seenit, but I know for me I see it
that white people, they walkaround with this arrogance about
them and that's one thing thatmy ancestors told me that these
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white people will have arrogancein any sniff or look of a Black
person, especially a blackwoman that feels confident and
is successful.
When they feel like what thefuck you're doing here and you
shouldn't be, that, they wouldjust, you know, feel a certain
type of way, and so it's one ofthose things.
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It's cool when they do it, it'sa problem when I do it.
So it's like I shouldn't haveto Dim my light or dim my
intelligence and stuff and beproud of myself and be proud of
the fact that I'm studying, I'mretaining the information, I'm
learning the information and I'mdisplaying my ability to learn
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it.
And if other people don't wantto get on board and they Feel a
certain type of way, hey, that'sthem All right.
So that's what I mean aboutthat.
Now there is another Example Iwant to use is the use of colors
within your dreams.
So, for example, I know someoneif they go to sleep with the
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green light, their dream will beabout the future, and if they
use another color and I say red,that dream will be about love.
And they are keeping a diary ofthe colors and their dreams to
ensure the assumption of thecolor patterns are correct.
This person's gift, if youdidn't notice already is
clairvoyance.
So using their dreams and thecolors can provide insight to
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their life and or others tobetter guide them or to warn
them, if need be.
I too have been keeping a dreamdiary to help record my
abilities, that I display mydreams and the worlds that I
Frequently visit.
So within my dreams I travel tothe same place.
Because it, because it alwaysfeels familiar with me in my
dreams and After I wake I'm like, damn, I've been there before,
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and when I mean like in mydreams, like my, I guess I'm
trying to say my subconsciousit's like yo, you've been here
before.
It feels so familiar to me.
Now, look, I don't quite knowwhat this dream diary has to do
with anything at this point intime, but I think I'm getting
there and trying to figure itout.
So we know that all of us, weall have spiritual gifts and we
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know that us, as humans, my use,you know our Abilities, for the
wrong things and stuff.
Some people might use it forhexes, curses, jinxes, whatever.
Some, like me, use it to helpothers or defend myself against
other people who might bethrowing at me.
In my opinion, there is nothingwrong with also using your gifts
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to help yourself or others, butespecially helping yourself.
I don't think that it'sconsidered selfish.
Some people might feel like, ohmy gosh, I need to help
everybody.
Blah, blah, blah.
We put on our mask when itcomes to the air airplanes.
For a reason we have to takecare of ourselves first before
we can take care of others.
That's been told to me many,many times by spirit.
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Has been told to me to mytherapist, my mentor.
I tell myself that andsometimes I forget to include
myself in things, but I amtrying to be better with that.
So, again, there's nothingwrong with helping yourself,
assuming the spirit agrees withyou, that whatever it is that
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you're doing to help yourself isfor you, it's the path and I
guess your intentionsquote-unquote are good.
I remember Hearing about a manthat won the lottery and how did
he find out the lottery numbers?
Based off his dreams.
The honeypot owner.
She created the company basedoff her dreams.
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I remember hearing her talk.
I forgot the lady name,unfortunately.
I remember her talking on jujuBay's podcast and she said that
and I am paraphrasing.
But the honeypot owner?
She had said that she washaving Lots of yeast infections
and stuff like that and somepeople who don't know about that
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might be like she, nasty, butno, that happens if you are a
person who well, no, it doesn'tmatter what sex organs you have,
you can get yeast infections.
But it's definitely Morepossible for those that have a
vulva to get yeast infections.
So she was getting these yeastinfections in some way somehow
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again, a paraphrasing, becauseit's been a moment since I
listened to that particularpodcast episode from juju Bay,
but she was saying how anancestor came to her dream, told
her what herbs to use to helpwith her yeast infection and
then, tada, honeypot was born.
So Hopefully that is makingsense, but those are examples of
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people who again use theirSpiritual gifts and use the help
of spirit to help themselves orwith honeypot to help others.
Now, bringing it back to me, Iwas told some years ago what to
put on.
My ancestor also threw a genewith one of my ancestors.
I had another dream that toldme how to create a very
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important working and myancestors they have helped me
get my job and my man my man.
Thank you, ancestors from myman.
All right, I told the ancestorswhat kind of man I wanted and,
poof, a month later we gottogether.
I told the ancestors how much adollar is worth and in 2023, I
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mean, I'm pretty sure due toinflation, is changed.
But they got a general idea howmuch a dollar is worth because
again and when I mean a dollarmean USD, you know United States
dollars, okay, whatever.
Because again I've looked atthe senses and stuff like that
and I've seen Senses from myancestors and you know about how
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much money on certain senses,how much they paid or how much
they're way something aroundmoney and you know it was like
five hundred dollars, and sofive hundred dollars back in
those days versus five hundreddollars back in these days are
two totally different things.
So if you tell Again this is myexperience if I tell my
ancestors, yo, I need to havesome more money and I need this
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amount of money, they might belike, damn, the fuck is wrong
with you.
You know like why can't youjust be Contemplate with you?
Have again, I'm just making upsomething or whatever like that.
But you know they might thinkthat that money is sufficient.
Then once you start tellingthem, hey, this is how much USD
is worth.
This is how much Um rent ormortgages worth.
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This is how much my utilitiesis.
This is how much all of myexpenses are.
Once you start telling them that, I feel like that can help them
make a better Choice idea onhow to help you.
Again, my personal experience,that's what I did.
I literally went to my alter,explained to them how much
dollars worth what in in like1865 Up until now.
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I explained to them all thetype of bills that I have, why I
need certain bills and how much.
That is just again so they cantotally understand, like I don't
want to say the severity of it,but just also so they can
understand that what I don'tknow, like maybe what $500 could
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probably get them a whole lotback in their days.
That might be one bill for somepeople.
You know what I'm saying.
So I was able to do that and Iwholeheartedly believe that once
I was able to explain that tothem and to continue to explain
to them what's going on in theworld, that helped them
understand what's going on inthe world, which we know nothing
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is new under the sun.
But in addition to that, thatalso helped them understand
inflation, understand socialmedia, understand the inner
workings of everything, so thatagain they can better assist me.
So I'm saying all these things.
This is not me bragging, this isa testimony and I don't know
when.
But I might decide to give atestimony to really break down
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how grateful and thankful I amabout the ancestors and stuff.
But this is just like a highlevel explanation of it.
But it might sound so easy,like a snap of the fingers, like
on Thanos and the blessings,the assistance came to me.
That is far from what happened.
Okay, you know it wasn't easybecause, number one, energy can
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change.
So what might have been goodfor me two months ago might not
be good for me at another momentand stuff.
So you have to hold that into.
I was going to say account yeah,that's the word I'm looking for
.
You have to hold that intoaccount and not be so quote,
unquote hard on the ancestorsspirit, whomever is helping you,
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you know, and that's not theonly thing that could happen,
you know.
You know that of course youshould know that a lot of times
people say you know, don't tellpeople.
J Cole said this don't tellpeople your dreams so they won't
shoot them down.
We know that sometimes peoplecan throw at you and if they
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throw at you and they'resuccessful, that could like,
mess up whatever plans that youhave and stuff like that, and so
that's why one of the manythings is that you don't tell
people what you're doing whenit's in the workings of it, and
even when you have it, you stillmight need to put some extra
defense on it as far as defenseworkings, just things to keep
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whatever it is coming to you.
Or another thing oh my gosh,I'm getting so much downloads as
I'm saying this.
But another thing is when itcomes to like, for example, a
lot of people like to ask forassistance money, wise,
financial.
There's nothing wrong with alsoasking hey, when I get this
amount, please give me theknowledge, the ability to know
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how to use, utilize it, how tokeep money flowing in, just
things like that.
And, of course, your ancestors.
They can only work with withintheir abilities, and what I mean
by that is again that say, forexample, you have had ancestors
who own successful businesses,who own properties.
They can understand I mean, youmight have to explain it to
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them how it was back in theirdays, if it's been a difference
with present day, but theyprobably have the ability
because they have the first handexperience on how to do it.
Again, not everybody.
Especially again, when I talkabout who to, of course I'm
talking about Africandescendants and part of the
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diaspora.
But you know, especially withus black folks, we might not
have had those abilities to bequote unquote good with money
due to the lack of money, goodwith money due to systemic
oppression and all these otherthings that has not allowed us
to be successful.
But again, if you have hadancestors who had experience
with that, they could be able tohelp you like hey, you know, I
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used to own a home back in theday, so let me tell you how to
make this work and stuff likethat.
And then, if they don't havethese abilities, again that's
where it goes back to meexplaining them how to how
things work, so that they canagain do the, so they can have
enough information to best dotheir job.
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So, for example, at this pointin time, I don't have any
honorable and enlightenedancestors that knows how to work
properties.
So therefore, could I ask themabout helping me get a house, or
asking them to help you run aproperty management business?
Sure, but if that's not theirarea expertise, they might not
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be as helpful as one who has theexperience would be, but then I
could probably help get themthere by explaining the rules
and how much income it can comeand things of that nature.
I know that that's a lot ofinformation with that, but you
have to, like all thesedifferent variables have to be
taken into account and I'm notinto astrology at all, can't
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even talk to you about that.
But some people even will usethe different energies of the
plants oh well, plants to eventhough that's not what I was
trying to say Planets, differentauspicious times, all this
stuff.
So again, there's so manydifferent variables that you
have to put in in order for itto come to you.
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So I'm not gonna say it's goingto be easy, but you know you
might have to keep a writtendiary of how to make it work.
There could be other things thatcould potentially prevent you
from obtaining, like you couldhave done every single thing
that you were quote unquotesupposed to do and you still
might not be able to obtain it,and that could be a roadblock,
and that roadblock could be likedifferent things.
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So, for example, on theroadblock to be yourself, you
could not believe in yourselfand think that you are not
worthy to receive whatever it isthat you're asking for it or
you.
There's power in the tongue,and not in a nasty way, but
there's power in the tongue.
So, again, your words might notsound comforting, your words
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might sound negative, where theuniverse, ancestor, spirit,
whoever, might not understandwhat you're trying to say.
So, for example again lots ofexamples, so it can make sense
is that if you say, hey, I wantto have a job that does not have
blah, blah, blah, oh, my gosh,if you put the word does not,
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that could make spirit, whomeveris assisting you, be like okay,
I got you, or whatever, andthat not just fucks it up.
So you could be like I want apositive working environment,
you know.
So, instead of putting thosenegative words in there, put the
correct words in there so thatyou can be understood as best as
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you can, have confidence inyourself, believe in yourself
and you know.
If that fails, try to see ifyou can get somebody to do the
working for you.
Another thing that could bepreventing the roadblock is
could be spirit themselves.
Spirit might not think that youare ready by not think that.
That's my think that this isthe wrong path.
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For you.
That's not in alignment, andfor me, where that comes from
and I'm pretty sure it's likethis for everybody.
But again, I can only speakabout my experience.
But I'm pretty certain thatyour higher self is the one who
gives permission for blessingsto come towards you.
If other spirits that's on yourspirit teams give you things,
(21:27):
and you know, for example, yourancestors might think yeah, yeah
, yeah, get I don't know $100million, and then your higher
self might be like nah, nah, nah, you can't get $100 million
because you might not be readyor there's certain things coming
down a pipe that might preventyou from doing it.
Or, again, it's not the paththat's going to align with you,
(21:47):
because we also have tounderstand the different
dynamics of spirit and what thecapabilities that spirit can do
and can't do.
Again, that's a lot, but youknow you talk to them and stuff
and they can help you, okay, soanother thing that could be
preventing you is other forces,and again, you know that whole
(22:07):
quote, I don't want to even saylike evil or whatever like that,
but there could be other thingsAgain, whether it's physical,
like people literally throwingat you, people literally putting
in work to prevent you frombeing successful, or there could
be, like you know, you shinethe light because you're using
your spiritual gifts.
And there could be otherspirits that are like hell no,
(22:30):
we don't want you to besuccessful in this or whatever
and stuff.
So that could, like, mess it upand that barrier could be so
quote unquote powerful that yourspirits can't break it.
And why could they not break?
It Could be different things.
It could be because they aren'tbeing fed, they don't have
enough energy Also known as Ashefor them to be able to break
(22:55):
through.
It might take a moment andstuff, or, again, it might not
be time, it might not be yourpath.
Again, so many many things.
And if they aren't fed, ifthey're aren't taken care of,
and if everything is not aligned, it might take a while for them
to answer you, assist you, orit might happen Instantaneously.
(23:16):
It all depends.
So, like you, spirit needs tobe fed and, as I've said before,
there's different ways to speakto feed spirit.
You have to talk to them to seewhat works for them.
Some people have altars for thedifferent spiritual team, for
the different parts of spirit.
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There's in their spiritualcourt.
Again, whatever it is that theyneed from you to help them, you
know if you do it and youlisten to them and have this
great working relationship.
I believe that that could helpand stuff.
And so for me the proof is inthe pudding, all right.
Another thing about using yourspiritual gifts.
Pretty sure I mentioned this,but I just want to do it again.
(23:59):
My mini me told me two timesthat it was going to snow.
That's when we had that big asssnowstorm in January.
And then what?
Maybe a couple of weeks ago Ican't remember, but a couple of
weeks ago we had snow flurries.
And it was so funny becauseafter we had that big ass thing
of snow, she was like Mama Q,it's going to snow again.
(24:20):
I'm like what the fuck?
Around Memphis, tennessee, weonly get that big thing of snow
once.
We don't get it back to backwith the book.
And so I knew I should havelistened to her and believed her
like, because the first timeshe said it happened and show
enough, like I said, snowflurries came down.
So that's again her using herabilities to be able to predict
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things and stuff.
And with me, as I've said before, I know the power of the tongue
and I know them that there areso much powers in my words.
I feel like my words have theability to inspire and ability
to cut like a knife, because I'mpretty much so.
What I'm trying to do is bevery intentional with my words
(25:09):
and use it to create powerfulmantras and manifestations to
help me and spirit out.
So I'm hoping that all of thisis making sense and stuff.
I know I'm all over the placeand everything, but these are
just the thoughts that I wrotedown and the downloads that I'm
receiving.
So I guess, in conclusion, whatI'm suggesting to you is to
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meditate, if that's your thingor whatever it is that is
required and or needed for youto build a relationship with
your spirit, but build arelationship within yourself,
because, of course, you needconfidence and whatever it's
going to take to, I guess, clearall the noise, because for me,
(25:51):
I'm always going and thinkingabout stuff before it happens
and just like trying to keepfocused that sometimes, as I've
said in previous episodes, I canmiss important things or not so
important things that spirittells me and stuff, and so I
think that if you're so focused,you can miss something, and by
(26:13):
being one with yourself and justslowing down, even if it's for
I don't know seven minutes, Imeditate every day for about
seven minutes is not a whole lot, but I feel like so far it's
enough to have me do what I needto do.
I'm able to get encouragementfrom my ancestors and stuff,
which is great oh man, thathelps encourage me and stuff and
(26:37):
I'm able to get herbs and otherthings that need to be done.
If I'm talking to differentfamily members that I'm cool
with, if there's things that Ineed to say to them, I'm able to
get that out there.
It's just I feel like with meintentionally setting just a
small amount of time for me tomeditate and here, even though
(27:00):
Claire audience is not my gift,but just go with me, me to be
able to hear what Spirit issaying, it's totally worth it to
me.
So, with all that being said, Ihope that what I said again
makes sense and I hope that yourblessings, your juju, your
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positive manifestations, all ofthese things, if it's your path
and it's meant to be, I hope itbrings you positive change
within yourself, within yourancestors and within your
community.
I'll show you Are you kinky ornot.
(27:44):
I'm a proud kink-ster at theBDSM community.
Let me tell you about thislifestyle to see if you want to
come over to the dark side, wegot candles.
Being single in BDSM is not bad, but it can make you
insensitive, secure andsusceptible to predators.
So keep your wits aboutyourself.
As you know, when I joined theBDSM community, I already had my
(28:05):
sir, but he wasn't physicallywith me, so it was like I was
alone, even though I waspartnered.
But yeah, he wasn't physicallyhere.
I think I asked to submit tohim around Good Friday.
Damn, that was like nine yearsago, wow.
And some months later, october,I found my now ex-local
(28:26):
community Serendipitous, if youask me.
Anyway, when I first enteredthe community, I saw couples and
a few throuples.
I felt alone navigating thisnew world BDSM and being on the
Kiki website.
I stumbled a few times butluckily nothing life-threatening
, dangerous happen.
Woo, I learned there is nothingwrong with being single in the
(28:49):
lifestyle.
Depending on people's dynamic,they might consent to playing
with you and or being in a playpartnership relationship.
More often than not, people'sromantic partners are also their
play partners, although I doknow of married couples who
consent to their spouse playingand explore the BDSM without
them because it's not theirthing and most likely their
(29:10):
vanilla.
Now, obviously, theserelationships have different
boundaries that work foreveryone involved.
There are some married peoplewho are secretly in this
lifestyle due to fear rejectionfrom their spouse.
That's deceptive to me and Idon't like it, but my therapist
has always remind me I can onlycontrol myself, not others.
That's the yeah, and there'sthis other side of it.
(29:34):
Of course, I talked about it atthe beginning, but I want to
obviously delve into it a littlebit more.
There are also some people whoare predators.
No matter where you go, you'regoing to find them,
unfortunately, and so somepredators.
They like being with people whoare single within the lifestyle
(29:54):
and definitely who are new,because that combination
together gives them the abilitySometimes it gives them the
ability to do whatever they wantto you, because you might not
know, and they don't have toquote, unquote, respect anybody
because you are unpartner.
Now, I'm pretty sure I talkedabout this before, but I want to
(30:16):
remind you again that one ofthe things when it comes to
dealing with people like that,if you are unpartnered and you
want to ensure that you don'thave anybody, have yourself a
protector, and this is someonewho can who's not your dominant
dumb A or anything like that.
They are just literally whatthe word says protector, where
(30:37):
they will be able to speak foryou when it comes to
negotiations.
You can say hey, you can speakto nobody but my protector.
These are people who are lookingfor your best interest when it
comes to the lifestyle communityand or they being around the
lifestyle community for a whileand therefore they have a
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general assumption and anunderstanding of how people
could book and act if they arepredators.
Another thing to do is there'sthis thing called munches and
when it comes to munches, if youwant to meet a person from the
Kinky website or meet up withanybody within the Kinky
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lifestyle and stuff, you don'tknow if you can trust them, yet
meet them at a munch.
Usually, if they say no to amunch which is out in public
around people, then that'sprobably most likely a red flag.
And number two, if these peoplehave been around in the
community for a long time or youknow there are some people come
(31:37):
in and out of the lifestyle andstuff like that so they could
probably vet these people.
Now, of course, you have to say, you have to take what they say
.
What is it with the grain ofsalt?
But that could help you becauseagain, there's somebody
assuming that the person who'stelling you is someone who knows
(31:57):
about the lifestyle enough thatthey can say yay or nay to
someone.
And again, you're the one whomakes the final decision.
But you know, sometimes thereare people who can see other
sides of people that you mightnot see because your bright-eyed
, bushy tail.
You want to like you're goingthrough a frenzy.
You want to just go througheverything and experience this
(32:18):
and have fun and you're hopingto find a partner who you can
share these things with or playwith partner, something like
that.
And again, the energy and stuffyou give off could signal to
predators that you might benaive Whether it's naive again
within the lifestyle or justnaive in general and stuff and
again that could hurt you, notin a good way, that could make
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you not ever want to try thislifestyle again if you come
across someone who's rubbed youthe wrong way and not in a good
way and stuff.
So there's again back to whatI've been saying is there's
different variables to it andstuff like that.
So you just have to definitelydefinitely if it's somebody that
you want to have a play partnerwith or a relationship with,
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you definitely have to watch outand pay attention to them and
their actions and and that themand stuff.
So if you are somebody whowants to have a romantic partner
regardless, well, in hopes thatyou know this romantic partner
is also in the lifestyle, or ifthey are vanilla, you know,
hopefully they consent to youhaving a monogamous ish
(33:25):
relationship.
But we're just going to focuson romantic partners and stuff.
Most vanilla people think BDSMis all about sex and or heavy
play like they see on TV.
It can be consensually, ofcourse, but there I believe
there's different niches withinBDSM.
That's for everybody.
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You know, if you're good attelling people to exercise shit,
see if you could be a gymdominant, or you can see if you
can incorporate that into yourpartnership where you know maybe
your partner Again consent, butmaybe you know you can slowly
introduce your partner.
If they are originally vanillaand they're open and interested
to the lifestyle, you can showthem there's other types and you
(34:08):
can work, work on theirstrengths that they have, so
that you know and who knows, itdoesn't really have to be the
name dominant, submissive oranything like that.
You don't have to have titles,but you know you can start off
slow and start off withsomething that's just not so
much out there Now with all theimpact, play, candle waxing,
tying up and all of that otherstuff.
(34:29):
And speaking of tying up, thereis that part of BDSM that,
again, is not impact.
People just like to be tied up,suspended and all this other
stuff.
Again, you want to vet theseromantic partners, just like you
would vet them if you want toparticipate with them vanilla,
you know, and just have aregular relationship.
But you definitely got to becognizant and pay attention,
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because two newbies comingtogether, that's not a recipe
for disaster at all.
But it's another thing that youwould have to work on, because
I feel like you're alreadyworking on the relationship as
it is getting to know a futurepartner and stuff, and now
you're going to add a dynamic ofBDSM where it's almost like,
dang, you just met that person.
So again, read books, take babysteps and stuff like that and
(35:18):
just don't try to like hide thatside of you.
If that is something that youreally and truly want to explore
, you have to be upfront withyour potential partners and,
believe me, I know how scary itcan be to meet your proclivities
because, like what if theylaugh?
What if they think you're awidow?
Well, I say, that is what.
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Maybe that person isn't for you.
I told my therapist before I metmy partner that I was like you
know, it's already a smallcircle of me being into BDSM,
even smaller circle of me beingpolyamorous and I like black
being.
I want to be with them.
This circle is just gettingsmaller and smaller.
And again, shout out to theancestors, shout out to my man,
(36:00):
my man, my man, thank you to myman.
You know he accepts me, as I'vesaid so many times before.
He accepts me as I am and ofcourse, he likes to play around
with me saying how monogamous,not, not monogamous, but how
monogamous I have been in thisrelationship but I still claim
polyamory.
But me admitting the type ofperson I am from who do BDSM,
(36:23):
polyamory, didn't scare him awayand make him say hell, no, you
know he accepted it and stufflike that and he's trying Well,
bdsm.
I doubt he'll ever come over tothe dark side.
He could change his mind, buthe's accepting in an okay with
it and without him knowing it,even though this is not the hood
section, he started to do somehoodoo things with me and stuff
(36:46):
like that.
So again, you just never knowwhat might happen and you do
want to give the person anopportunity per usual to consent
and stuff like that, and alsofor them to at least see if it's
something that they'reinterested in and stuff.
So, you know, just take thatand figure it out.
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Now back to the monogamous ishpart.
Um, you know you can try to havea happy meeting with someone
like that.
You know, like I said, somepeople who I know their
heterosexual relationships andit's usually the wife and so of
course, the husband's like, oh,you know, you can't receive
spankings or what that from aman and stuff like that.
(37:30):
Although there was this onewoman who I know she had herself
a whole, entire dominant andstuff, um, because her husband
wasn't into the lifestyle at all, they both came in together,
tried to experience it.
She kept it, um, and he waslike, oh no, that's not for me,
and stuff.
So I think that that's helpfulbecause, again, that allows in
(37:53):
my opinion, that allows bothpeople within this marriage to
be happy with each other.
Everybody is consenting and youknow they accept and understand
that there's this side ofsomeone when there's something
that they can't fulfill, butthey trust themselves, they're
secure with themselves and theytrust their partner spouse.
(38:14):
What have you to be able to dothis, so you know whatever.
So maybe the happy medium isyou being monogamous, ish and um
that will allow others to chokeyou every now and again.
Whatever your kink is, ensurethat you do a safe, sane and
consensual.
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