March 10, 2024 • 35 mins
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Yeah I been drinking. My Boo Thang Wi-Fi is acting up too. Geez. But as promised before the deadline an episode. It,s all about Black business women from Memphis. I talk about praising Gloria Hallelujah for her affirming mantras and while I will keep bumping her stuff tomorrow. I mention a local Black business woman who is inspirational cause I too look up my genealogy, garden and write. Lastly talking about being a rigger and a rope bunny. Re read the former word again, before you look at me crazy. It ain’t no hard r. Happy Women’s History month or Part II of Black History month for the women. Be Blessed! Yeah Glo!
Black Business:
https://www.insearchofourgarden.com/
Hoodoo:
https://www.wmar2news.com/local/baltimore-pastor-nationally-recognized-after-using-glorilla-lyrics-during-sermon
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Midori
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
ML, double M-A-Q, double U-E, double U-E, that's
my name.
Mama Q ML, double M-A-Q, doubleU-E, double U-E, that's my name
.
Mama Q, say it faster.
Slow don't really matter,though the U-E gets them in the
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tongue.
Tizzy yo head, kind of dizzy Bro.
Who was she?
Mama Q?
Mama gave birth little ways, nogirth, several years ago.
No, I don't want moe Q is a lieand I tried to align this double
untoned.
Your petty high is one of mymantras.
Mama Q, I'm the first one inand the first one out.
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Memphis, Tend to Key is my wordabout.
Don't complain, man sayingstick to one topic.
I reply your mind is verymyopic with mama Q, you need
better opts.
Picking and choosing, copy me.
Are you uninspired?
Um, definitely no need towhisper gracefully, I like it
better off key.
Now let's see.
Um, do you remember me?
In more double in.
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Make you double you e, doubleyou e, that's my name.
Mama Q in more double in.
Make you double you e, doubleyou e, that's my name.
Mama Q.
Hey, hi, it's me.
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Mama Q.
I welcome you to moments in Qand Q today.
Hi, why black business?
Who do, who do?
And are you kinky or not?
Hi, why I give you the green ofthe day and I'm explaining the
why of this episode.
Happy women's history month.
I feel like this is part two ofblack history month, but
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strictly for the ladies,strictly for the ladies, and
we'll have a black lady talkingabout black businesses.
I will talk about affirmations,mantras, hip-hop and possibly
attacks and who do.
We'll see how I feel and getkinky with me as I talk about
being roped into things.
Black business I highlight ablack business to bring
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awareness and my experience withsaid business.
Unless I say it isn't a paid ad.
I'm open to pay that's, but Idefinitely want to highlight
black business.
There's enough money for all ofus to get it.
Last month, during blackhistory month, choose 901 sent
out a list of local black peopledoing their thing in Memphis 10
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.
The key I came across, andreaFanece.
Hopefully I said her namecorrectly.
I'll read her about me in aminute.
Let me tell you what about herthat intrigued me first.
I her IG in search of ourgarden.
Based off the name alonereminded me of the Netflix movie
and our mother's garden.
As a gardener, I was like yay,another black gardener, I love
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to see it.
And reminded me I need to startgetting my garden ready for
spring, because you know it'sMarch, the iPhone March is
almost here, the spring equinox,all that stuff.
You got to stay ready so youwon't have to get ready anyway.
Then I read more and saw she wasinto genealogy, which again is
my bag.
I have been combing documentsvia ancestry for years, even
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before ancestry began, a thing.
I always wanted to know who Iwas and where I came from,
outside of the US.
Lastly, like me, andrea is awriter, so I feel like, yay, I'm
not the only one thatencompasses creativity yearning
to find one's roots whilstsimultaneously building roots in
the garden.
Let me get into the about me soI can accurately describe and
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celebrate Andrea.
Alright, so here is her aboutme off the website in search of
our garden, in search of ways tobe more naturally and
culturally redefined.
In search of our garden wascreated to be a digital space to
share how women like ourfounder, andrea finesse,
embraced a simple and harmoniouslifestyle.
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In search of our garden wasbirthed during a very
self-reflective growth journeyto discover the woman I have
always dreamed of becoming.
I knew there was a need toredefine modern living, but also
root myself in the traditionsof the woman before me and their
ways.
Those waves gave life and a newmeaning to what it means to
live creatively and well.
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The women I speak of, like mymother, grandmother and great
grandmothers, inspired me to becreative and resourceful and use
things like flowers and herbsto enhance my health and beauty.
As an involved woman, I havecrafted their ways into a
lifestyle that will inspireother women who look like me to
reconnect and restore to thecontinual search of our own
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garden.
The mission and our way at insearch of our garden.
We are dedicated to preservingand documenting their traditions
, experiences and the ways ofwomen before us, especially
black women.
Our our covial practice aims torecognize and uplift the voices
of black women through andthrough and compassionate
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documentation of theircreativity and wisdom.
Our founder, andrea finesse, iscommitted to building a
collection that accuratelyrepresents the ways in which
black women have influencedsociety and culture over time
redentive, inspiring,informative.
The mission of in search of ourgarden is to offer advice and
resources that readers can useto enrich their daily lives,
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create a legacy of their ownunder a.
Finesse and other storytellerswill lend their unique voices
and perspectives to in search ofour garden.
Y'all can read the rest on yourown and, as always, the
information will be in the shownotes.
Pudu, hudu.
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I get to the root of Hudu.
Conjure up thoughts that popinto my mind about spirituality.
Come on, get this work Alright.
So Tuesday, march 5th, aBaltimore, maryland pastor or
you know what he might not be apastor Reverend Malitch EM
Thomas, delivered a sermon tohis congregation at the Payne
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Memorial AME Church andcontinuously cited Glow's
influence throughout, callingthe Memphis rapper a gospel
artist.
Alright, I know that this is notmy ASMR, but this is Women's
History Month.
Yeah, glow is from Memphis,tennessee.
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Alright, so let me talk aboutthis.
Alright, so I saw it on anothersocial media site where it was
saying some things about.
You know, glorilla is really anartistic person and it makes
sense how anointed she isbecause her first name is Gloria
, hallelujah and stuff, and ofcourse, her last name is Woods.
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So, anyway, it started me beingpetty but also being honest that
when her song yeah, glow cameout, I just felt something in my
spirit about her song, and soit has gotten so cornered, so
bad, that my booth thing, loveof my Mike Fox tri-life, and my
men and me have tried to limitme playing that song.
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But you know what?
That's why I love Tomorrow,because I play Tomorrow after
that.
Now let me tell you y'all mylittle mantra, because it has
been a hell of a week.
So the song we Fall Down but weGet Up was playing in my mind
and I'll probably talk a littlebit more about that so it can
make sense, but just roll withme as I talk about music.
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And that song came to my mindafter the things that happened
to me this week and so I decidedto add it.
Because at first I waslistening to some hype music or
not, and my booth thing got onme how I went from rap music to
talk about Project Pat and hewas talking about here Glorilla
on a pimp and stuff like that.
And here comes some gospelmusic and you know, I know how
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like quote, unquote, weird thatmight be or whatever with the
transition.
But I was like what, if it getsme happy, gets me hype.
So we're starting off as a jokeis now my mantra for real.
So at first it was just like,yeah, glow, we fall down, we get
up and never would have made itand stuff.
And then, like I said, I justrecently added Tomorrow too.
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So my wordplay and I can.
I don't even need to read thecomments.
I know some people definitelydisagree with this pastor.
Number one talking aboutsecular music in the pulpit.
One and number two, callingGlorilla artists, because you
know how sometimes black folksdon't like rap music, and
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rightfully so, I guess.
But it's the issue in thepulpit.
So again, all of this stuff isoff the dome.
So of course I'm a rabble goingto tangent, but it's going to
make sense.
I'm going to make sense, I'mgoing to put a nice bow on it.
So let's backtrack into someyears ago when Montell Jordan
came out and the song was thisIs how we Do it.
I remember some church that thewoman that gave birth to me and
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I had attended and he wasreally breaking down the lyrics
of this Is how we Do it and itpissed me off because I
personally didn't like how hewas trying to attribute to the
way of music of hip.
Well, montell Jordan, I couldsend him RB of trying to put
that crossover and talk abouthow the fact that someone
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shouldn't be like this.
So I'm serious, y'all.
He really broke it down and I'mgoing to do.
It's been a while my memorysucks, but certain things I can
remember.
So here I am going to repeatsome of Montell Jordan's lyrics.
I'm not going to play it,obviously, so you can kind of
feel where this passage at thetime was coming from.
So he has ASR, reach for my 40and I turn it up.
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Designated driver, take thekeys to my truck, I'm going to
shawl because I'm faded.
Honey in the streets sayMontell, yo, we made it.
So the guy had an issue talkingabout faded and I forgot
because again, it's been a longtime, but I think he had an
issue with that.
So my thing is Reading theselyrics now yeah, he has some
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alcohol, but he had todesignated driver.
So what's the issue with that?
All right.
And so he's talking about ourkind of buzz it's all because
this is how we do it, blah, blah, blah.
So then, let's see, he goesback to you.
See, the hood's been good to meever since I was a lowercase
she, but now I'm a big G, thegirl.
See, I got the money, hundreddollar bills, y'all and stuff.
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So again, I'm briefly readingthis.
But I don't see anything wrongwith this song because if
anything is talking about howfar that he has came, and here
he is being a singer again.
It's been a minute, but the pastwas trying to say, like, how
devilish and evil that is to bedrinking and to be talking about
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that.
And a lot of the other peoplethere were around my age at the
time who was listening to thissermon or whatever had an issue
with it and stuff.
And I just feel like that isalways the go-to when it comes
to pastors to always talk aboutR&B and hip-hop.
So that's one thing.
And I remember also when DMXcame out RIP to DMX, what's that
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?
Oh yeah, that's on party up.
So this was obviously when Iwas a little bit older and the I
don't know if he was a pastoreither, but anyway the pastor
was talking about ain't nobodygonna make you lose your mind
and lose your cool, andeverybody was all up into it and
stuff like that.
And he like again, as I reflect,it's kind of aggravating
because I feel like and again, Iknow I talk about Christian a
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lot, but I feel like that's somecult, cultish type of way.
So like, excuse me, talk aboutsomebody and yes, I've been
drinking, but my mind is stillin the game.
I feel like it's a cultish typeof way to make somebody feel
bad and a horrible because theyWant to listen to some other
music minus Gospel music, oreven get to the point where if
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it's not quote-unquote thetraditional way of gospel music,
it's a problem.
I remember hearing people talkshit about Kirk Franken when he
came out and stuff like that,because it's like, oh, how dare
he plays this type of music andit's like if this is what's
getting the people to God, jesusor whatever, it shouldn't be an
issue and stuff.
And I just Overall you know howI feel about Christianity, but
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I overall don't like this wholecore relation to anything that
black people do.
This secular is wrong and it'slike you mean to tell me
Christians can have a lifeoutside of church.
They have to always be aboutJesus and God and and let's not
forget which a lot of peoplelike to remind folks, you know,
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some of the disciples weren'tthe greatest, bestest people and
everybody likes to say it.
But Jesus, god or whatever willuse you and, like, I guess,
make you a better person.
But I think the other thing is,if you're judging people
talking about people, aren't youstill doing sinful stuff?
But I guess it doesn't matter,and especially if you dislike
people who are not heterosexual.
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So where all of this is comingfrom and and where I feel, like
I said, the big issue is thefact that at the end of the day,
I feel like it's black peoplejust trying to be one step above
the other black people as theytalk about them and stuff and so
Back, bringing it black, backto gorilla.
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It's like her shit to me isvery motivational and stuff like
.
I'm gonna talk about some of herlyrics and stuff.
But one part I like is that shesaid you know, before I let a
whole try me, I'll go eat somejail food.
I see nothing wrong with thatbecause she's saying that like I
Really go to jail, then dealwith that stuff.
And I also love what I considerthe Affirmations within the
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song.
You know, when she say stopoverthinking.
These hoes can't fuck with you,period.
And I like that becausesometimes I have to remind
myself to not overthink.
It's hard and stuff.
And let's see what else shesaid.
On top of the world now theytried to underestimate me.
She even talked about the factlike when she was humbled people
didn't appreciate it and whatelse.
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Y'all can read the rest of thelyrics if you want to, but I see
nothing wrong with that and wecan go to the song tomorrow.
And that's where that pastorthat I was talking about earlier
from be more was talking about.
How you know, and I love theway he put it together I'm
paraphrasing, but he was talkingabout, yes, calling her gospel
artist.
That's why I love tomorrow,because you know, joeth comes
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into the morning and again Forme he added something that was
relevant.
He praised glorilla with hersongs and if that's, if I like
the correlation and the dualitybetween it.
But on top of that, if his Planwas to bring, I guess, younger
people into the church, I thinkhe was successful in that.
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Of course, other people aren'tgoing to see it that way because
, if I'm not mistaken, inAtlanta, bringing in 2024 some I
forgot the pastor name he wasplaying yeah, I got that swag
song and a lot of people hadposted it or what it not and had
an issue with that secular songbeing played in church.
But to me that song wasn't badat all.
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I remember this lady I went tocollege with.
I might have talked about her,it's okay.
She was a preacher's kid, stillis one, she's an adult now,
obviously and she didn't likehow some people in her choir
wanted to change the lyrics tolove by music soul child or
Alicia Keys song no one, andmake it a gospel song, and it's
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like At the time I was againstit and I agreed with her.
But as I've gotten older again,what's the issue, you know?
I also remember her beingyelled at by her parents,
especially her mom, because shewould read Zane books and I'm
like what's wrong with Zane?
At least she's reading, orwhatever.
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So to me again, I didn't grow upbeing a Christian, as I've said
before, but that seems like apretty, in my opinion, boring
life where you have toconstantly try your absolute
best to be on this right pathand anytime you venture off you
think that you're going to hell.
One or number two you can'treally fully enjoy your life
because to you, at the end ofthe day, well, at the end of
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your life, that's when you'regoing to really enjoy life,
because you get to go to heaven,or you have to wait until Jesus
comes back for you to get toheaven, I don't know.
But the point is you'resupposed to be quote unquote
boring and not enjoy life andyou'll get the joy tomorrow,
basically whenever that tomorrowcomes when you get to go to
heaven.
It's no wrong or right answerto me, but I, as always, don't
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like when other people try totalk about somebody else and try
to be so rigid when it comes toChristianity when in their
regular lives they're not asrigid.
Like what the fuck?
So clearly you have yourmoments of being human, having a
human experience.
So that's those parts.
But back to talking about music.
I've mentioned before about howmusic can have again this
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duality where you might thinkthat they're talking about
something.
They're talking about twothings where you have to wonder
are they really talking aboutwhat you think they're talking
about, or what and how?
Sometimes music can be adifferent way to change your
vibe.
Again, some people had talkedabout the fact of Andre 3000.
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When he came out with his music, I think he was on the flute
and people was like, oh, that'sthe month I'm like you mean to
tell me somebody playing musicon their flute?
And the other people had saidthat his music, that particular
album, was on a certainfrequency and that's what made
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it demonic.
But that frequency wassupposedly a frequency to put
you at peace while you'relistening to this music.
And when I had my mentor give mymini me a reading, was it no?
Towards the end of last yearshe too was telling her to be
careful about certain music andI never saw it as that way about
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how some people would say,depending on how the energy is
of the person who sung the song,that energy can come over to
you.
But I could understand it.
But I guess with me I'm thattype of person who like, yeah,
people might be talking aboutshooting and killing and
everything, but that's not me.
I, just, as crazy as it sounds,sort of like it just for the
beat or just for the lyrics,because I view it as them not
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being intentional.
I just view it as a form of artand stuff.
So I, overall, really and trulylike it because us, as Black
people, we have all differentthoughts in process.
We are not the same Us humans,even if we act similar, we are
not the same.
We're not a monolith, we're notrobots and at the end of the
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day it shouldn't really matter.
And from what I remember, that'sall Glorilla has really been
rapping about.
Let's even go back to her firstsong that made her popular.
She was talking about how shewas fucking nigga free, like if
that's not inspirational, sayingthat she ain't got a word about
nobody.
She know her, she's single,she's going to hang out with her
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friends, like what's wrong withthat?
Let people be young, wild andfree, as long as they're not
harming other people and stuff.
And I just kind of wish themore people could break down
music and see how sometimesmusic, just like Christianity,
can coexist together One andnumber two, how it can be
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translated from sound andsecular.
But if you really break it downthere could be some kind of
gospel and anointing to it.
So at first I really didn'twant to talk about it but yeah,
I'm okay with it.
So earlier this week was kind ofcrappy.
My men and me and I had aspiritual attack.
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I sort of kind of glossed overand talked about it on my
TikToks.
So my mentor gave me my readand I always liked to receive a
reading from her at thebeginning of the year.
I was busy and it was just agreat reading.
I was pretty accurate with thethoughts that were coming in my
head that she was confirming andstuff, and so I don't know what
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made me talk about it.
But I told her how I felt likethere was a spiritual attack on
my mini-me and I and, showenough, there was one and stuff,
and it had me real feeling,really flipping down about it,
because my mini-me had got sickshe is now better and then that
means I had to miss work.
So that means that I lost a bitof money and I had to take this
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test the next day.
And all throughout my head, as Iwas taking a test, the thought
came that I was going to fail.
And I'm like, no, I'm not goingto fail, I'm going to like,
make sure I do everythingcorrectly.
And I missed one.
And so, excuse me, I missed oneand that made me get a 75 and
you need an 80.
And of course I was feelingdown and sad and everything, but
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I tried to pep myself up, toremind myself that it could have
been worse, even though itwasn't that.
You know, I was only one offand of course it was the next
day.
I retook a made a 95.
So, um, it was confirmed thatthat's what happened.
Is that the simple fact that Idid have a spiritual attack, and
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so did my men and me, and thatreally hurt my heart and my
feelings.
But, like I said, everybodysince, okay and I'm doing what
needs to be done on a spiritualtip and stuff, but I Never
really thought about spiritualattacks.
I know that those things arepossible, there's power in the
tongue, but I just never thoughtof having one that wasn't from
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a human and it wasn't words orwork, it was like a spirit or
what not, and stuff.
And so many other things camefrom the reading and the big
thing for me that made me IGuess the better word is happy
about it is the fact that I amgetting better with my
relationship with my Herself dueto meditating every single day
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and talking and building uptheir energy so that I could get
better Conversations.
And, of course, pamela gave mesome tips on my journey to help
me, which is why I alwaysencourage somebody to have a
mentor as they go on thisjourney.
And then my men and me went totherapy and Luckily her
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therapist she doesn't practice,who do, but she understands it
and doesn't view it as a demonicthing.
So we're able to have againthis duality where she can help
my men and me on a mental tip,but also on spirituality, which
sometimes, whether peoplebelieve it or not, you need both
.
I remember also talking ontiktok and saying how, yes, you
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need to take care of yourphysical and your mental and
your emotional, but if you're aspiritual type of person, you
also have to take care of thatas well, which is why I try my
absolute best to do my monthlymantras and my monthly
protections and things of thatnature, so I can make sure that
Everybody's being taken care of,as far as my spiritual court,
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I'm being taken care of, andother people as well who I also
have permission to do spiritualprayers on, etc.
And so, like I'm trying tocorrelate all this together and
that's okay, I'm almost done.
But when I was feeling down andI cannot make this shit up,
that's some popped in my head wefall down and I played it and
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it just made me feel so muchbetter, you know.
And so, like I said, when Iretook that test, I was able to
pass, and the I think, two moretests that I took After it was
part pretty cool because I hadtold my higher self before I did
my prayer that I wanted to makea hundred and they responded
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and told me what I needed to doand I was able to do it.
Now, the next test I didn'tmake a hundred.
I made the 85, which is crazybecause it's I was like I want a
hundred.
It's like now you'll get a 90,got a 85, that's fine.
Of course, the big thing is Idid not change my answers, but
anyway I'm trying to say in avery long conclusion is we
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shouldn't count out otherpeople's music just because it's
not for us, because it's okayif we're not their target
audience, and we shouldn't cutout people who are not gospel
singers, gospel rappers oranything that is different.
Because, number one, nothing isnew Underneath the Sun.
Music has always been raunchy.
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You might not have known aboutit.
Music has always been subtle.
You might not have heard aboutit.
Yes, I currently don't likesome of the music that's out
Nowadays because I feel likedamn, I guess I'm quote-unquote
old, because they're Sometimesthe things they say is just so
blunt and I'm like I miss thesubtlety with any music.
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But I don't get too mad aboutit because I think I mentioned
this before in the 1930s.
There's a song that I listenedto on Apple music called shave
them dry and oh my gosh, mmm.
She was talking about.
Mmm, she was talking about thatshit and stuff.
So you can always find ways tohave mantras to encourage you
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and to start your day.
So, whether it's gospel musicor not, there's nothing wrong
with it and I want you toremember you can't get a Gloria
without her hallelujah.
So turn to your neighbor andsay navel, yeah, are you kinky
or not?
I'm a proud kinkster.
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The BDSM community.
Let me tell you about thislifestyle to see if you want to
come over to the dark side.
We got candles.
Have you ever been tied up fromthe flow up?
Well, I have, and it's aninteresting kink.
When I first began the lifestyle, as you know, I wanted to
dabble into everything to see ifit was for me.
Rope is beautiful to watch.
The end result is you can takepictures and you can enjoy being
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centralized and, you know,enjoying the touches and the
feels of your significant other,but it's definitely not for me.
Now I did have this guyConsensually take pictures of me
being tied up.
He did an amazing job.
I wish my body at the timequote-unquote look better, but
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that's always a sad but truerepresentation of my body image.
To me, anyway, rope is notlimited to the stereotypical
slim white woman being naked.
Nope, I have seen a plethora ofblack BBWs being suspended by
rope by a black male.
Rigor yeah, you heard thatright, rigor, not the other word
.
I have seen men tied up too.
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So rope like kink is inclusiveto all consenting adults,
regardless of their gender,gender expression, weight, race,
ethnicity, etc.
Here's some definitions beforeI begin the history of rope.
Rope bunny is a person thatenjoys being tied up.
Rigor is the person that'sdoing the time.
This job is extremely importantbecause, as you know, what we
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do is dangerous.
The rigor has to beknowledgeable and tie someone.
Ensure they have safety sharesto cut the rope for emergency
situations, because tying cancause nerve damage.
You can also self-tie yourself.
I know some kinksters in my Exkinky community.
They were known to tiethemselves up.
Shabari is a Japanese ropebondage and you can use
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different type of rope materials, like hemp or jute.
Some people I know have usedcotton, even me when I first
started because I wasn't sure ifthat kink was for me.
And you know you can washcotton and it's more affordable.
And if someone is allergic toother rope materials, cotton is
a go-to.
Non-cotton rope initially isscratchy, so if that's not your
thing, you got to put in theoven and use oil to allow it to
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soften.
You can Google how to do thator you can purchase rope that's
already been treated.
Midori was suggested to me if Iwanted to learn more about rope
, so I'm passing the knowledgeto you on the history of Shabari
.
According to my dirty bucketlist from medium, this is what
the author says is History,shibari and how it is used today
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.
Shibari, also known as JapaneseRole Bondage, is an ancient art
form that has a storied historyin Japan.
Shibari involves the use ofrope to create intricate
patterns and knots around thebody, resulting in a beautiful
and complex bondage arrangement.
The origins of Shibari?
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Shibari began as a form of HojoJutsu, a martial art practiced
by the samurai in feudal Japan.
Hojo Jutsu involved restrainingprisoners and criminals using
ropes, which served as a meansof controlling elps doing the
individual.
This practice eventuallyinvolved in Shibari, which has
become focused on the aestheticsand beauty of rope bondage.
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Shibari has its roots in theEdo period of Japanese history,
which spanned from 1603 to 1867.
During this period, many artforms flourished, including
Kabuki, theater, yuuki, okie,woodblock Prints and, of course,
shibari.
Artists and performers weredrawn to the intricate and
beautiful patterns that could becreated using rope, and Shibari
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quickly became a popular formof entertainment.
You can read the rest on yourown.
Now, as always.
If you're interested inlearning about this kink, please
vet and watch potentialpartners.
If you want to be tied up, ifyou want to self-tie yourself,
please learn from your localkinky community or from someone
that is knowledgeable.
If you plan to use social mediaas a tool to learn, please,
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please, please, have safetyshares on hand because, again,
you just never know how yourbody might react to being tied
up.
You might feel uncomfortable oryou might be allergic to
whatever the fibers that's beingused to tie you up or just any
old thing.
You always want to be as safeas you can.
The safety shares needs to bestrong enough that it can cut
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through whatever fiber thatyou're utilizing to tie, whether
you're tying yourself or beingtied by someone.
If they don't have safetyshares, that's a no-go for me.
All right, I believe you need totake your time and learn the
basics, especially if you wantto suspend someone or you want
to be suspended, okay, alwaysnegotiate and discuss self-care.
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Be hydrated the day you decideto do it.
No alcohol or drugs.
Now, some people had told methat it's best to be hydra well,
obviously you need to behydrated no matter what,
especially when it comes todoing kinky shit, but definitely
when it comes to rope, becauseI think they said that if you
are not hydrated you have to beextra cautious when it comes to
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being tied up.
I have no idea, like I've saidbefore, oh wait, I don't think
I've told the story and stuff,so I'll tell the story real
quick, all right.
So at one point in time I hadsome what are those?
Some silk ties and stuff likethat, and sometimes in the
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beginning of my relationship bysir, he would use that to tie me
up and then my ex fuck him.
He thought he was into it, andso I had bought cotton and went
to cotton rope and went to apresentation with some kinky
people and they tried to explainto him how to do it and it
didn't work out with the fuckever.
Then maybe time had passed andwe went to Farla Khan at the
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time and we were taught how todo things.
Of course he was in hisfeelings pretty usual, because I
guess for him he's supposed toknow everything about kink,
something that he's never beeninto or never was interested in,
never was even interested inlearning about something that he
claimed that he wanted to be in, whatever.
So this guy taught him how togive me, like a bra with some
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rope no, with the rope that hehad.
And he also showed him how totie up my arms.
The problem is, you know, youcan kick somebody from behind
their leg and make them fall orwhatever.
So I always have issues with myknees.
So when he made me fall to myknees, thinking that shit was
funny, I cursed him the fuck out.
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And then the guy who wasteaching it to us had warned him
like yo, you can't do that.
Like, if you're going to kickthem and make the person who
you're tying up fall, you haveto fall with them and stuff like
that.
So what the fuck ever?
But that's just one of thethings, again, that you know
I've experienced and you don'thave to.
So, again, try your absolutebest to get to know this person
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and just because they might bethe guru or the go to person
when it comes to being a ropeyeah, being a rigor, or someone
who was, who likes to be a ropebunny, or who can do either or
still doesn't mean anythingWatch them, see how they treat
the person, see if they'rewilling to talk to you and for
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real, for real, take your time.
So hopefully I ropes you intocuriosity about the kink.
Well, I've talked long enough,thank you.
ML, double M-A-Q, double U-E, double U-E, that's
my name.
Mama Q ML, double M-A-Q, doubleU-E, double U-E, that's my name
.
Mama Q, say it faster.
Slow don't really matter,though the U-E gets them in the
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tongue.
Tizzy yo head, kind of dizzy Bro.
Who was she?
Mama Q?
Mama gave birth little ways, nogirth, several years ago.
No, I don't want moe Q is a lieand I tried to align this double
untoned.
Your petty high is one of mymantras.
Mama Q, I'm the first one inand the first one out.
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Memphis, Tend to Key is my wordabout.
Don't complain, man sayingstick to one topic.
I reply your mind is verymyopic with mama Q, you need
better opts.
Picking and choosing, copy me.
Are you uninspired?
Um, definitely no need towhisper gracefully, I like it
better off key.
Now let's see.
Um, do you remember me?
In more double in.
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Make you double you e, doubleyou e, that's my name.
Mama Q in more double in.
Make you double you e, doubleyou e, that's my name.
Mama Q.
Hey, hi, it's me.
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Mama Q.
I welcome you to moments in Qand Q today.
Hi, why black business?
Who do, who do?
And are you kinky or not?
Hi, why I give you the green ofthe day and I'm explaining the
why of this episode.
Happy women's history month.
I feel like this is part two ofblack history month, but
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strictly for the ladies,strictly for the ladies, and
we'll have a black lady talkingabout black businesses.
I will talk about affirmations,mantras, hip-hop and possibly
attacks and who do.
We'll see how I feel and getkinky with me as I talk about
being roped into things.
Black business I highlight ablack business to bring
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awareness and my experience withsaid business.
Unless I say it isn't a paid ad.
I'm open to pay that's, but Idefinitely want to highlight
black business.
There's enough money for all ofus to get it.
Last month, during blackhistory month, choose 901 sent
out a list of local black peopledoing their thing in Memphis 10
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.
The key I came across, andreaFanece.
Hopefully I said her namecorrectly.
I'll read her about me in aminute.
Let me tell you what about herthat intrigued me first.
I her IG in search of ourgarden.
Based off the name alonereminded me of the Netflix movie
and our mother's garden.
As a gardener, I was like yay,another black gardener, I love
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to see it.
And reminded me I need to startgetting my garden ready for
spring, because you know it'sMarch, the iPhone March is
almost here, the spring equinox,all that stuff.
You got to stay ready so youwon't have to get ready anyway.
Then I read more and saw she wasinto genealogy, which again is
my bag.
I have been combing documentsvia ancestry for years, even
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before ancestry began, a thing.
I always wanted to know who Iwas and where I came from,
outside of the US.
Lastly, like me, andrea is awriter, so I feel like, yay, I'm
not the only one thatencompasses creativity yearning
to find one's roots whilstsimultaneously building roots in
the garden.
Let me get into the about me soI can accurately describe and
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celebrate Andrea.
Alright, so here is her aboutme off the website in search of
our garden, in search of ways tobe more naturally and
culturally redefined.
In search of our garden wascreated to be a digital space to
share how women like ourfounder, andrea finesse,
embraced a simple and harmoniouslifestyle.
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In search of our garden wasbirthed during a very
self-reflective growth journeyto discover the woman I have
always dreamed of becoming.
I knew there was a need toredefine modern living, but also
root myself in the traditionsof the woman before me and their
ways.
Those waves gave life and a newmeaning to what it means to
live creatively and well.
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The women I speak of, like mymother, grandmother and great
grandmothers, inspired me to becreative and resourceful and use
things like flowers and herbsto enhance my health and beauty.
As an involved woman, I havecrafted their ways into a
lifestyle that will inspireother women who look like me to
reconnect and restore to thecontinual search of our own
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garden.
The mission and our way at insearch of our garden.
We are dedicated to preservingand documenting their traditions
, experiences and the ways ofwomen before us, especially
black women.
Our our covial practice aims torecognize and uplift the voices
of black women through andthrough and compassionate
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documentation of theircreativity and wisdom.
Our founder, andrea finesse, iscommitted to building a
collection that accuratelyrepresents the ways in which
black women have influencedsociety and culture over time
redentive, inspiring,informative.
The mission of in search of ourgarden is to offer advice and
resources that readers can useto enrich their daily lives,
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create a legacy of their ownunder a.
Finesse and other storytellerswill lend their unique voices
and perspectives to in search ofour garden.
Y'all can read the rest on yourown and, as always, the
information will be in the shownotes.
Pudu, hudu.
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I get to the root of Hudu.
Conjure up thoughts that popinto my mind about spirituality.
Come on, get this work Alright.
So Tuesday, march 5th, aBaltimore, maryland pastor or
you know what he might not be apastor Reverend Malitch EM
Thomas, delivered a sermon tohis congregation at the Payne
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Memorial AME Church andcontinuously cited Glow's
influence throughout, callingthe Memphis rapper a gospel
artist.
Alright, I know that this is notmy ASMR, but this is Women's
History Month.
Yeah, glow is from Memphis,tennessee.
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Alright, so let me talk aboutthis.
Alright, so I saw it on anothersocial media site where it was
saying some things about.
You know, glorilla is really anartistic person and it makes
sense how anointed she isbecause her first name is Gloria
, hallelujah and stuff, and ofcourse, her last name is Woods.
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So, anyway, it started me beingpetty but also being honest that
when her song yeah, glow cameout, I just felt something in my
spirit about her song, and soit has gotten so cornered, so
bad, that my booth thing, loveof my Mike Fox tri-life, and my
men and me have tried to limitme playing that song.
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But you know what?
That's why I love Tomorrow,because I play Tomorrow after
that.
Now let me tell you y'all mylittle mantra, because it has
been a hell of a week.
So the song we Fall Down but weGet Up was playing in my mind
and I'll probably talk a littlebit more about that so it can
make sense, but just roll withme as I talk about music.
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And that song came to my mindafter the things that happened
to me this week and so I decidedto add it.
Because at first I waslistening to some hype music or
not, and my booth thing got onme how I went from rap music to
talk about Project Pat and hewas talking about here Glorilla
on a pimp and stuff like that.
And here comes some gospelmusic and you know, I know how
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like quote, unquote, weird thatmight be or whatever with the
transition.
But I was like what, if it getsme happy, gets me hype.
So we're starting off as a jokeis now my mantra for real.
So at first it was just like,yeah, glow, we fall down, we get
up and never would have made itand stuff.
And then, like I said, I justrecently added Tomorrow too.
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So my wordplay and I can.
I don't even need to read thecomments.
I know some people definitelydisagree with this pastor.
Number one talking aboutsecular music in the pulpit.
One and number two, callingGlorilla artists, because you
know how sometimes black folksdon't like rap music, and
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rightfully so, I guess.
But it's the issue in thepulpit.
So again, all of this stuff isoff the dome.
So of course I'm a rabble goingto tangent, but it's going to
make sense.
I'm going to make sense, I'mgoing to put a nice bow on it.
So let's backtrack into someyears ago when Montell Jordan
came out and the song was thisIs how we Do it.
I remember some church that thewoman that gave birth to me and
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I had attended and he wasreally breaking down the lyrics
of this Is how we Do it and itpissed me off because I
personally didn't like how hewas trying to attribute to the
way of music of hip.
Well, montell Jordan, I couldsend him RB of trying to put
that crossover and talk abouthow the fact that someone
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shouldn't be like this.
So I'm serious, y'all.
He really broke it down and I'mgoing to do.
It's been a while my memorysucks, but certain things I can
remember.
So here I am going to repeatsome of Montell Jordan's lyrics.
I'm not going to play it,obviously, so you can kind of
feel where this passage at thetime was coming from.
So he has ASR, reach for my 40and I turn it up.
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Designated driver, take thekeys to my truck, I'm going to
shawl because I'm faded.
Honey in the streets sayMontell, yo, we made it.
So the guy had an issue talkingabout faded and I forgot
because again, it's been a longtime, but I think he had an
issue with that.
So my thing is Reading theselyrics now yeah, he has some
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alcohol, but he had todesignated driver.
So what's the issue with that?
All right.
And so he's talking about ourkind of buzz it's all because
this is how we do it, blah, blah, blah.
So then, let's see, he goesback to you.
See, the hood's been good to meever since I was a lowercase
she, but now I'm a big G, thegirl.
See, I got the money, hundreddollar bills, y'all and stuff.
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So again, I'm briefly readingthis.
But I don't see anything wrongwith this song because if
anything is talking about howfar that he has came, and here
he is being a singer again.
It's been a minute, but the pastwas trying to say, like, how
devilish and evil that is to bedrinking and to be talking about
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that.
And a lot of the other peoplethere were around my age at the
time who was listening to thissermon or whatever had an issue
with it and stuff.
And I just feel like that isalways the go-to when it comes
to pastors to always talk aboutR&B and hip-hop.
So that's one thing.
And I remember also when DMXcame out RIP to DMX, what's that
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?
Oh yeah, that's on party up.
So this was obviously when Iwas a little bit older and the I
don't know if he was a pastoreither, but anyway the pastor
was talking about ain't nobodygonna make you lose your mind
and lose your cool, andeverybody was all up into it and
stuff like that.
And he like again, as I reflect,it's kind of aggravating
because I feel like and again, Iknow I talk about Christian a
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lot, but I feel like that's somecult, cultish type of way.
So like, excuse me, talk aboutsomebody and yes, I've been
drinking, but my mind is stillin the game.
I feel like it's a cultish typeof way to make somebody feel
bad and a horrible because theyWant to listen to some other
music minus Gospel music, oreven get to the point where if
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it's not quote-unquote thetraditional way of gospel music,
it's a problem.
I remember hearing people talkshit about Kirk Franken when he
came out and stuff like that,because it's like, oh, how dare
he plays this type of music andit's like if this is what's
getting the people to God, jesusor whatever, it shouldn't be an
issue and stuff.
And I just Overall you know howI feel about Christianity, but
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I overall don't like this wholecore relation to anything that
black people do.
This secular is wrong and it'slike you mean to tell me
Christians can have a lifeoutside of church.
They have to always be aboutJesus and God and and let's not
forget which a lot of peoplelike to remind folks, you know,
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some of the disciples weren'tthe greatest, bestest people and
everybody likes to say it.
But Jesus, god or whatever willuse you and, like, I guess,
make you a better person.
But I think the other thing is,if you're judging people
talking about people, aren't youstill doing sinful stuff?
But I guess it doesn't matter,and especially if you dislike
people who are not heterosexual.
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So where all of this is comingfrom and and where I feel, like
I said, the big issue is thefact that at the end of the day,
I feel like it's black peoplejust trying to be one step above
the other black people as theytalk about them and stuff and so
Back, bringing it black, backto gorilla.
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It's like her shit to me isvery motivational and stuff like
.
I'm gonna talk about some of herlyrics and stuff.
But one part I like is that shesaid you know, before I let a
whole try me, I'll go eat somejail food.
I see nothing wrong with thatbecause she's saying that like I
Really go to jail, then dealwith that stuff.
And I also love what I considerthe Affirmations within the
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song.
You know, when she say stopoverthinking.
These hoes can't fuck with you,period.
And I like that becausesometimes I have to remind
myself to not overthink.
It's hard and stuff.
And let's see what else shesaid.
On top of the world now theytried to underestimate me.
She even talked about the factlike when she was humbled people
didn't appreciate it and whatelse.
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Y'all can read the rest of thelyrics if you want to, but I see
nothing wrong with that and wecan go to the song tomorrow.
And that's where that pastorthat I was talking about earlier
from be more was talking about.
How you know, and I love theway he put it together I'm
paraphrasing, but he was talkingabout, yes, calling her gospel
artist.
That's why I love tomorrow,because you know, joeth comes
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into the morning and again Forme he added something that was
relevant.
He praised glorilla with hersongs and if that's, if I like
the correlation and the dualitybetween it.
But on top of that, if his Planwas to bring, I guess, younger
people into the church, I thinkhe was successful in that.
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Of course, other people aren'tgoing to see it that way because
, if I'm not mistaken, inAtlanta, bringing in 2024 some I
forgot the pastor name he wasplaying yeah, I got that swag
song and a lot of people hadposted it or what it not and had
an issue with that secular songbeing played in church.
But to me that song wasn't badat all.
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I remember this lady I went tocollege with.
I might have talked about her,it's okay.
She was a preacher's kid, stillis one, she's an adult now,
obviously and she didn't likehow some people in her choir
wanted to change the lyrics tolove by music soul child or
Alicia Keys song no one, andmake it a gospel song, and it's
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like At the time I was againstit and I agreed with her.
But as I've gotten older again,what's the issue, you know?
I also remember her beingyelled at by her parents,
especially her mom, because shewould read Zane books and I'm
like what's wrong with Zane?
At least she's reading, orwhatever.
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So to me again, I didn't grow upbeing a Christian, as I've said
before, but that seems like apretty, in my opinion, boring
life where you have toconstantly try your absolute
best to be on this right pathand anytime you venture off you
think that you're going to hell.
One or number two you can'treally fully enjoy your life
because to you, at the end ofthe day, well, at the end of
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your life, that's when you'regoing to really enjoy life,
because you get to go to heaven,or you have to wait until Jesus
comes back for you to get toheaven, I don't know.
But the point is you'resupposed to be quote unquote
boring and not enjoy life andyou'll get the joy tomorrow,
basically whenever that tomorrowcomes when you get to go to
heaven.
It's no wrong or right answerto me, but I, as always, don't
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like when other people try totalk about somebody else and try
to be so rigid when it comes toChristianity when in their
regular lives they're not asrigid.
Like what the fuck?
So clearly you have yourmoments of being human, having a
human experience.
So that's those parts.
But back to talking about music.
I've mentioned before about howmusic can have again this
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duality where you might thinkthat they're talking about
something.
They're talking about twothings where you have to wonder
are they really talking aboutwhat you think they're talking
about, or what and how?
Sometimes music can be adifferent way to change your
vibe.
Again, some people had talkedabout the fact of Andre 3000.
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When he came out with his music, I think he was on the flute
and people was like, oh, that'sthe month I'm like you mean to
tell me somebody playing musicon their flute?
And the other people had saidthat his music, that particular
album, was on a certainfrequency and that's what made
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it demonic.
But that frequency wassupposedly a frequency to put
you at peace while you'relistening to this music.
And when I had my mentor give mymini me a reading, was it no?
Towards the end of last yearshe too was telling her to be
careful about certain music andI never saw it as that way about
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how some people would say,depending on how the energy is
of the person who sung the song,that energy can come over to
you.
But I could understand it.
But I guess with me I'm thattype of person who like, yeah,
people might be talking aboutshooting and killing and
everything, but that's not me.
I, just, as crazy as it sounds,sort of like it just for the
beat or just for the lyrics,because I view it as them not
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being intentional.
I just view it as a form of artand stuff.
So I, overall, really and trulylike it because us, as Black
people, we have all differentthoughts in process.
We are not the same Us humans,even if we act similar, we are
not the same.
We're not a monolith, we're notrobots and at the end of the
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day it shouldn't really matter.
And from what I remember, that'sall Glorilla has really been
rapping about.
Let's even go back to her firstsong that made her popular.
She was talking about how shewas fucking nigga free, like if
that's not inspirational, sayingthat she ain't got a word about
nobody.
She know her, she's single,she's going to hang out with her
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friends, like what's wrong withthat?
Let people be young, wild andfree, as long as they're not
harming other people and stuff.
And I just kind of wish themore people could break down
music and see how sometimesmusic, just like Christianity,
can coexist together One andnumber two, how it can be
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translated from sound andsecular.
But if you really break it downthere could be some kind of
gospel and anointing to it.
So at first I really didn'twant to talk about it but yeah,
I'm okay with it.
So earlier this week was kind ofcrappy.
My men and me and I had aspiritual attack.
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I sort of kind of glossed overand talked about it on my
TikToks.
So my mentor gave me my readand I always liked to receive a
reading from her at thebeginning of the year.
I was busy and it was just agreat reading.
I was pretty accurate with thethoughts that were coming in my
head that she was confirming andstuff, and so I don't know what
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made me talk about it.
But I told her how I felt likethere was a spiritual attack on
my mini-me and I and, showenough, there was one and stuff,
and it had me real feeling,really flipping down about it,
because my mini-me had got sickshe is now better and then that
means I had to miss work.
So that means that I lost a bitof money and I had to take this
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test the next day.
And all throughout my head, as Iwas taking a test, the thought
came that I was going to fail.
And I'm like, no, I'm not goingto fail, I'm going to like,
make sure I do everythingcorrectly.
And I missed one.
And so, excuse me, I missed oneand that made me get a 75 and
you need an 80.
And of course I was feelingdown and sad and everything, but
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I tried to pep myself up, toremind myself that it could have
been worse, even though itwasn't that.
You know, I was only one offand of course it was the next
day.
I retook a made a 95.
So, um, it was confirmed thatthat's what happened.
Is that the simple fact that Idid have a spiritual attack, and
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so did my men and me, and thatreally hurt my heart and my
feelings.
But, like I said, everybodysince, okay and I'm doing what
needs to be done on a spiritualtip and stuff, but I Never
really thought about spiritualattacks.
I know that those things arepossible, there's power in the
tongue, but I just never thoughtof having one that wasn't from
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a human and it wasn't words orwork, it was like a spirit or
what not, and stuff.
And so many other things camefrom the reading and the big
thing for me that made me IGuess the better word is happy
about it is the fact that I amgetting better with my
relationship with my Herself dueto meditating every single day
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and talking and building uptheir energy so that I could get
better Conversations.
And, of course, pamela gave mesome tips on my journey to help
me, which is why I alwaysencourage somebody to have a
mentor as they go on thisjourney.
And then my men and me went totherapy and Luckily her
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therapist she doesn't practice,who do, but she understands it
and doesn't view it as a demonicthing.
So we're able to have againthis duality where she can help
my men and me on a mental tip,but also on spirituality, which
sometimes, whether peoplebelieve it or not, you need both
.
I remember also talking ontiktok and saying how, yes, you
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need to take care of yourphysical and your mental and
your emotional, but if you're aspiritual type of person, you
also have to take care of thatas well, which is why I try my
absolute best to do my monthlymantras and my monthly
protections and things of thatnature, so I can make sure that
Everybody's being taken care of,as far as my spiritual court,
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I'm being taken care of, andother people as well who I also
have permission to do spiritualprayers on, etc.
And so, like I'm trying tocorrelate all this together and
that's okay, I'm almost done.
But when I was feeling down andI cannot make this shit up,
that's some popped in my head wefall down and I played it and
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it just made me feel so muchbetter, you know.
And so, like I said, when Iretook that test, I was able to
pass, and the I think, two moretests that I took After it was
part pretty cool because I hadtold my higher self before I did
my prayer that I wanted to makea hundred and they responded
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and told me what I needed to doand I was able to do it.
Now, the next test I didn'tmake a hundred.
I made the 85, which is crazybecause it's I was like I want a
hundred.
It's like now you'll get a 90,got a 85, that's fine.
Of course, the big thing is Idid not change my answers, but
anyway I'm trying to say in avery long conclusion is we
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shouldn't count out otherpeople's music just because it's
not for us, because it's okayif we're not their target
audience, and we shouldn't cutout people who are not gospel
singers, gospel rappers oranything that is different.
Because, number one, nothing isnew Underneath the Sun.
Music has always been raunchy.
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You might not have known aboutit.
Music has always been subtle.
You might not have heard aboutit.
Yes, I currently don't likesome of the music that's out
Nowadays because I feel likedamn, I guess I'm quote-unquote
old, because they're Sometimesthe things they say is just so
blunt and I'm like I miss thesubtlety with any music.
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But I don't get too mad aboutit because I think I mentioned
this before in the 1930s.
There's a song that I listenedto on Apple music called shave
them dry and oh my gosh, mmm.
She was talking about.
Mmm, she was talking about thatshit and stuff.
So you can always find ways tohave mantras to encourage you
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and to start your day.
So, whether it's gospel musicor not, there's nothing wrong
with it and I want you toremember you can't get a Gloria
without her hallelujah.
So turn to your neighbor andsay navel, yeah, are you kinky
or not?
I'm a proud kinkster.
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The BDSM community.
Let me tell you about thislifestyle to see if you want to
come over to the dark side.
We got candles.
Have you ever been tied up fromthe flow up?
Well, I have, and it's aninteresting kink.
When I first began the lifestyle, as you know, I wanted to
dabble into everything to see ifit was for me.
Rope is beautiful to watch.
The end result is you can takepictures and you can enjoy being
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centralized and, you know,enjoying the touches and the
feels of your significant other,but it's definitely not for me.
Now I did have this guyConsensually take pictures of me
being tied up.
He did an amazing job.
I wish my body at the timequote-unquote look better, but
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that's always a sad but truerepresentation of my body image.
To me, anyway, rope is notlimited to the stereotypical
slim white woman being naked.
Nope, I have seen a plethora ofblack BBWs being suspended by
rope by a black male.
Rigor yeah, you heard thatright, rigor, not the other word
.
I have seen men tied up too.
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So rope like kink is inclusiveto all consenting adults,
regardless of their gender,gender expression, weight, race,
ethnicity, etc.
Here's some definitions beforeI begin the history of rope.
Rope bunny is a person thatenjoys being tied up.
Rigor is the person that'sdoing the time.
This job is extremely importantbecause, as you know, what we
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do is dangerous.
The rigor has to beknowledgeable and tie someone.
Ensure they have safety sharesto cut the rope for emergency
situations, because tying cancause nerve damage.
You can also self-tie yourself.
I know some kinksters in my Exkinky community.
They were known to tiethemselves up.
Shabari is a Japanese ropebondage and you can use
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different type of rope materials, like hemp or jute.
Some people I know have usedcotton, even me when I first
started because I wasn't sure ifthat kink was for me.
And you know you can washcotton and it's more affordable.
And if someone is allergic toother rope materials, cotton is
a go-to.
Non-cotton rope initially isscratchy, so if that's not your
thing, you got to put in theoven and use oil to allow it to
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soften.
You can Google how to do thator you can purchase rope that's
already been treated.
Midori was suggested to me if Iwanted to learn more about rope
, so I'm passing the knowledgeto you on the history of Shabari
.
According to my dirty bucketlist from medium, this is what
the author says is History,shibari and how it is used today
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.
Shibari, also known as JapaneseRole Bondage, is an ancient art
form that has a storied historyin Japan.
Shibari involves the use ofrope to create intricate
patterns and knots around thebody, resulting in a beautiful
and complex bondage arrangement.
The origins of Shibari?
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Shibari began as a form of HojoJutsu, a martial art practiced
by the samurai in feudal Japan.
Hojo Jutsu involved restrainingprisoners and criminals using
ropes, which served as a meansof controlling elps doing the
individual.
This practice eventuallyinvolved in Shibari, which has
become focused on the aestheticsand beauty of rope bondage.
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Shibari has its roots in theEdo period of Japanese history,
which spanned from 1603 to 1867.
During this period, many artforms flourished, including
Kabuki, theater, yuuki, okie,woodblock Prints and, of course,
shibari.
Artists and performers weredrawn to the intricate and
beautiful patterns that could becreated using rope, and Shibari
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quickly became a popular formof entertainment.
You can read the rest on yourown.
Now, as always.
If you're interested inlearning about this kink, please
vet and watch potentialpartners.
If you want to be tied up, ifyou want to self-tie yourself,
please learn from your localkinky community or from someone
that is knowledgeable.
If you plan to use social mediaas a tool to learn, please,
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please, please, have safetyshares on hand because, again,
you just never know how yourbody might react to being tied
up.
You might feel uncomfortable oryou might be allergic to
whatever the fibers that's beingused to tie you up or just any
old thing.
You always want to be as safeas you can.
The safety shares needs to bestrong enough that it can cut
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through whatever fiber thatyou're utilizing to tie, whether
you're tying yourself or beingtied by someone.
If they don't have safetyshares, that's a no-go for me.
All right, I believe you need totake your time and learn the
basics, especially if you wantto suspend someone or you want
to be suspended, okay, alwaysnegotiate and discuss self-care.
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Be hydrated the day you decideto do it.
No alcohol or drugs.
Now, some people had told methat it's best to be hydra well,
obviously you need to behydrated no matter what,
especially when it comes todoing kinky shit, but definitely
when it comes to rope, becauseI think they said that if you
are not hydrated you have to beextra cautious when it comes to
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being tied up.
I have no idea, like I've saidbefore, oh wait, I don't think
I've told the story and stuff,so I'll tell the story real
quick, all right.
So at one point in time I hadsome what are those?
Some silk ties and stuff likethat, and sometimes in the
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beginning of my relationship bysir, he would use that to tie me
up and then my ex fuck him.
He thought he was into it, andso I had bought cotton and went
to cotton rope and went to apresentation with some kinky
people and they tried to explainto him how to do it and it
didn't work out with the fuckever.
Then maybe time had passed andwe went to Farla Khan at the
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time and we were taught how todo things.
Of course he was in hisfeelings pretty usual, because I
guess for him he's supposed toknow everything about kink,
something that he's never beeninto or never was interested in,
never was even interested inlearning about something that he
claimed that he wanted to be in, whatever.
So this guy taught him how togive me, like a bra with some
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rope no, with the rope that hehad.
And he also showed him how totie up my arms.
The problem is, you know, youcan kick somebody from behind
their leg and make them fall orwhatever.
So I always have issues with myknees.
So when he made me fall to myknees, thinking that shit was
funny, I cursed him the fuck out.
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And then the guy who wasteaching it to us had warned him
like yo, you can't do that.
Like, if you're going to kickthem and make the person who
you're tying up fall, you haveto fall with them and stuff like
that.
So what the fuck ever?
But that's just one of thethings, again, that you know
I've experienced and you don'thave to.
So, again, try your absolutebest to get to know this person
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and just because they might bethe guru or the go to person
when it comes to being a ropeyeah, being a rigor, or someone
who was, who likes to be a ropebunny, or who can do either or
still doesn't mean anythingWatch them, see how they treat
the person, see if they'rewilling to talk to you and for
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real, for real, take your time.
So hopefully I ropes you intocuriosity about the kink.
Well, I've talked long enough,thank you.
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