December 5, 2023 • 21 mins
Ever wondered about the unspoken truths of disagreements within relationships? Let's wander together into the hidden depths of conflict, I share our personal experiences as a mixed Thai couple. We'll debunk the misconception that a flourishing relationship is one devoid of conflicts or disagreements. Instead, we'll explore how these conflicts can be the catalyst for growth, opening up channels for more frequent expression of needs within a relationship. We touch on the intriguing concept of our podcast about mixed relationships and discuss the challenges that led to my decision to continue this journey on my own.
Now, allow me to whisk you away on a journey to Pattaya, a city close to my heart. Hear about its transformative journey, my deep-rooted affection for it, and the solace I found there in overcoming my addiction. I've got some nifty travel tips up my sleeve for anyone planning to visit Pattaya. Lastly, we're all ears for your stories, questions, and topic suggestions. We're hatching plans for a riveting Q&A episode, and your input would make it all the more fascinating. Reach out to us on social media or drop us an email. Come, become a part of our podcasting journey.
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mike (00:00):
Hello everyone and welcome to the fifth episode of my Thai
wife podcast.
I'm Mike and this is my lovely,lovely wife, sunari.
Yeah, you heard nothing.
I'm sorry to tell you guys, butSunari will not be doing this
podcast anymore.
She said that it's verydifficult for her because she
(00:21):
needed to be scripted, and shesaid also she cannot improvise.
I disagree on those two points.
First of all, I think she's agreat improviser and second, I
believe that it's better to beauthentic and real rather than
scripted when you are doingcomedy.
But alas, I will try to keepyou guys entertained on my own
(00:44):
and I will let you know if sheever changed her mind.
So I think, due to this, itwould be a great first topic for
today's episode.
Let's title it something likedisagreement in relationships.
Well, there is a wrongconception that in a healthy
(01:04):
relationship there has to be aminimal number of conflicts and
a general sense of unified goalsand shared planning.
But for my experience, that'sbullshit, and here's why.
First of all, conflicts creategrowth.
When there is a conflictbetween a couple, it means there
is a point of disagreementabout something.
(01:26):
It can be anything from wherewe are going to eat tomorrow
evening, which is a minordecision that has no real effect
on our life, unless there is ameteor crush or some other
unlikely event that will kill uson the spot, and if we went to
another place or stayed home, wewould be safe.
More serious decisions, likedisagreeing about where we
(01:50):
invest our money in stocks orproperties, or how do we name
our cat, which would obviouslycontrol if it would be a
friendly and cuddly cat or if itwould get more intelligent
every day by watching Netflixand listening to podcasts, and
would eventually lead him torebel and conduct the second cat
and feline association, and, byhis leadership, the cats will
(02:13):
take over humanity and make usthe slave, like our previous cat
, mussolini, did.
Disagreements like those wouldlead to us expressing our needs
more often and would make uslearn about each other more.
Expressing our needs, ratherthan agreeing to the others once
all the time, is crucial to thedevelopment of trust, love and
(02:35):
respect, especially in a newrelationship, for example.
I really wanted to do thispodcast, not only for the
millions of dollars we wouldearn by making you guys paying
for our overpriced subscriptionsand users merchandise, but also
because I really think there isa limited number of podcasts
that touch the subject of mixedrelationships, especially with
(02:56):
the Thai lady, and the stragglesthat come with it.
More than that, I reallybelieve that there is a need for
guidance on this subjectbecause all of the bureaucracy
that it involves.
Also, I think there are a lotof people that are interested in
Thailand and Morsor in Pattaya.
It's an alluring city thatattracts many people every year,
(03:19):
not only for its nightlife, butalso for its attractions and
relaxing environment, like JomTien and the lively scenes of
Nak Lua and Lady Boy Pinises.
Of course, another point I madethat I really think the
podcasts need to be funny andentertaining as possible for
keeping it light.
But from Sunariz's point ofview, she didn't want to do that
(03:42):
.
She told me the day that thismagnificent idea popped into my
head that she really don't havethe power to do it and that it
would be a total rest of ourtime.
She stated that the audiencefor this kind of podcast is very
limited already and if we triedto do it funny and light, our
listeners would not getsomething out of it, as she said
(04:06):
.
Also, she insisted that if Istill want to do this podcast,
the only way she could do iteffortlessly is if it was
scripted so she wouldn't have touse her brain in her words.
Now that point of time, I hadfew choices.
(04:27):
My first option was to scrubthe idea and put it in the
drawer with my other brilliantideas like trying to make smart
storage a thing or my rap career.
The second option was I couldlisten to her and go with this
on her terms, which meantwriting scripts for 30 minutes
(04:47):
episode, and hope that heracting lesson, which she never
went to in high school, wouldkick in and that the scripts
that I wrote were actually funnyand informative enough for
keeping you guys listening toeach episode more than two
minutes before you would getabsolutely bored and angry with
yourself for even searching thistopic and immediately answers,
(05:08):
unsubscribe and report ourpodcast as promoting suicide and
thoughts due to extreme boredom.
And the third option wasobviously I could try to force
her to do it my way, which wouldlead to a very successful
podcast that generate millionsof dollars every episode at the
price of a lot of anger andstress in our relationship.
(05:30):
At that point of time, I choseto go with the last option, and
it was very stressful for herand made us fight a lot,
although I thought that it wouldget better in a matter of time
and would become easier for herto do.
It didn't.
After I realized that if Iwould continue to push for, my
(05:51):
idea would bring ourrelationship to a major crisis,
I decided to ask her what shethink will be the best solution
to the problem we are facingright now.
Her answer was stop doing it.
If you want to do it, do italone.
She always stated that shewould love to help me with this
podcast, but from behind thecurtains, as she said.
(06:11):
So here I am doing 30 minutesepisode without her hoping to
keep the money flowing and, moreimportantly, to keep you guys
entertained.
Not the best solution, but theright one.
Another point is the unifiedgoals and shared planning.
It's great to help yoursignificant other to fulfill the
(06:34):
dreams in life, but for somereason, people think that when
they are in a relationship, thedreams and goals in life have to
be unified with their partners,which make no sense.
Why the fuck would she want tobe a successful rapper?
Or why would I want to run aguesthouse in rural Buriram?
It's great to support eachother dreams, but why do we have
(06:56):
to share them?
She can own a guesthouse inBuriram while I can do my third
rap tour in the Caribbean withEminem, lil Dicky and Nicki
Minaj.
The idea of forcing her toparticipate in my dreams and
goals is like telling her well,now you have to learn how to rap
in Yiddish, because next weekI'll kick Lil Dicky out of their
tour and I have a spot to fill.
(07:17):
It makes no sense.
Everyone have their own skillset and dreams.
There is no reason for her toincorporate me in her planning
as well.
Yes, she can ask for help and Iwill be.
I will do absolutely everythingI can to help her in any shape,
way or form, but her plansdoesn't have to rely on my
(07:38):
presence.
The reasoning behind this isthat there is never 100% chance
that we will always staytogether.
I can die in any moment, and sois she, and also there is
nothing that locking us togetheras a couple.
In any argument or fight, thereis a slight chance of us
(07:58):
breaking up.
Nothing in life is permanent,even if we wish there was.
So any plans you are having foryourself, it need to rely only
on one person, and one personalone yourself.
It's much easier to plansomething that the only moving
force behind it is your force.
(08:18):
If we will rely on other peopleto accomplish our dreams, they
will stay.
They will never form intoreality and will stay well
dreams.
And the fact that we chose tostay together doesn't mean that
we have to become like ourpartner.
We chose to stay togetherbecause we enjoy each other
(08:40):
company and we share similarvalues.
If I wanted to stay withsomeone that is more like me, I
would just keep jerking off infront of the mirror while
pinching my own nipple andcalling myself a sexy piglet.
My mistake was that I thought Icannot do a podcast without her.
I do believe with all my heartthat if she would be a part of
(09:03):
it, it would be a very funnypodcast.
Maybe she will change her mindin the future.
I really hope so, but untilthen you are stuck with me.
It's a viable possibility thatit will be more challenging for
me to do this podcast alone.
I will try my best to improvewith each episode.
(09:23):
I am a little bit disappointedwith her decision, but I have to
let go of any resentment I havetowards her and her decision.
I was actively trying to forceher to do something that she
isn't interested to do, and thisis completely my fault.
I really need to work on myselfto make sure it will not happen
(09:43):
again and I think I know betterthan her just because she's not
familiar with something andsomehow it's my responsibility
to educate her on that.
I'm really ashamed of myselffor behaving like that and I'm
really glad.
She normally yayak me when I dosomething like this.
(10:04):
So the point I'm trying to makeis that I can do this podcast
alone.
It won't be easy and probablythe revenues would go down by at
least 30%, but I think it'sdoable.
Of course, now I would focusmore on the many things like
Pattaya, ladyboys andrelationship advices, but feel
(10:26):
free to ask me about any subjectthat you want me to share my
thoughts about, or maybe giveyou any information for my
experience about Thailand,pattaya or the bureaucracy that
involves bringing a Thai lady toyour country.
Now that this is out of the way, I can move on to the second
topic of this episode, which iswhy I chose Thailand as my main
(10:51):
travel destination.
Well, I guess, like for most ofyou guys, it was by chance.
So let's get real cozy.
Bring your hot cocoa withschnapps or whatever you sick
sick Germans put inside your hotdrinks.
Come here, sit next to me,don't be shy.
You can sit closer If you want.
(11:13):
You can even put your head onmy shoulder and relax, because
this is about to get reallyintimate.
I was having a lot of trouble inmy early 20s.
I used to drink a lot ofalcohol and do a lot of drugs.
It first started as a way ofrebellion against my family and
(11:35):
against myself as well, and itwas also a great way to meet new
people.
When your only hobby is gettingdrunk or high and you have
nothing else to offer to theworld, it's very easy to think
about yourself as spatial orgifted by trying to show the
world that you aren't eventrying to fit in modern society
(12:00):
rather than just accepting thereality that you are a lazy,
useless and selfish piece ofshit.
And very quickly you findyourself surrounded by people
like you that are having nothinggood to contribute to people
around them.
On the contrary, they are justhurting people by stealing,
(12:22):
lying and doing whatever theycan do to score their next hit.
So not only they are notcontributing to society, they
are making it a little bitcheatier for everyone else.
So I used to live like that fora few years and very quickly I
got depressed and started to dodumb shit like taking a larger
(12:43):
amount of drugs or trying newdrugs that were making me even
more depressed and crazy.
And all of this time I woulddrink approximately 1 liter of
vodka every day.
In 2 years I was alreadyshitting blood and using the
worst drug that was, at the time, very easy to get and it was
(13:03):
cheap and wouldn't really go outof my house to get money.
I used to steal or begging myfamily members or friends from
the past.
After a few more years I foundmyself arrested every once in a
while until the judge had enoughof me and gave me an ultimatum
(13:27):
Either go through a rehab andstay under the supervision of a
parole officer or go to jail.
I thought to myself that was aneasy choice.
I would just get clean for awhile and after I get this judge
off my back I would get back onthe staff.
The rehab was kind of easy, butthe hardest part was the
(13:51):
boredom that came after that.
I tried to do everything likebefore I got clean, but nothing
was interesting for me anymore.
I tried connecting with oldfriends that aren't hooked, but
no one wanted to see me.
So, with the advice of myparole officer, I started
looking for a job.
(14:14):
And a year later, when my paroleofficer told me that I would
not have to meet him again andthat now I am a functioning
member of society, I find myselfas a mid-tier manager in a
small company, making good moneyand even happy to go to work
every day.
So I decided that I would notgo back to my old ways and I
(14:37):
would continue with this path.
And a few months later my bosstold me that I have to take a
vacation because I have too manyunused vacation days.
And that is the company policythat employees cannot accumulate
more than a certain amount ofvacation days.
So he suggested I should goabroad.
(14:59):
I had no idea where I wanted togo, but I knew only two things
that I have nine days and that Ican go anywhere I choose in the
world.
I called my cousin, who is afrequent traveler, and asked him
for guidance.
He told me right on the spot togo to Pattaya.
(15:20):
So I did.
I booked a ticket to Thailand,booked a hotel room at the Grand
Bella Hotel near the MemorialHospital, very close to Soy 7
and Soy 8 and very close to whatused to be soy made in Thailand
and now called Myth Night orsomething like that.
I read a little bit online aboutPattaya and what should I
(15:42):
expect?
Visiting there?
It really seems like theperfect place for me to visit a
lot of beautiful ladies, amazingfood, bars, breathtaking,
breathtaking beaches Well, notPattaya beach and a hard enough
punishment for using drugs, so Iwould be scared even thinking
about it.
A week later, I find myself inheaven, surrounded by beautiful
(16:08):
ladies, ladyboys, drinking beernot too much, playing pool and
having the most fun I had inyears.
If someone is telling you thatmoney cannot buy happiness, that
means he was never in Pattaya.
In three nights I already foundmyself staying with the same
lady.
She was nice and could speakdecent English.
(16:32):
She taught me all the basicsthat I need to know when staying
in Patria, like how to use theBatBus, what are the best clubs,
and that I always need tohaggle the motorbike taxis for
better prices.
Back then there was no bolt orgrab taxi services that, by the
way, are amazing.
They lowered the inner citytransportation prices by almost
(16:53):
50% and are very reliable.
She took me to the big Buddha,taprassit market, nakula fish
market and many other places.
She was nice and refused totake money from me after the
first day we stayed together.
Maybe that's why I stayed withher I'm Jew, after all and she
(17:17):
even bought me expensive shoesfor about 5000 baht or so from
central festival with her moneyas a good buy gift.
But of course, few days after Iled them back in my country,
her family's buffalo got sick,her grandmother died, and more
stories of great misfortune.
I guess she was really unlucky.
I stopped answering hermessages and calls.
(17:41):
After the second time she askedfor money and we haven't spoken
since.
After I came back home, I washooked again, but this time for
something that actually made mehappy Thailand, and especially
Pattaya.
I knew I would be back in notime, and so I did.
It took me 5 months and I wasback in the land of smiles, this
(18:06):
time for a month.
After 2 weeks there, I had areally tough night and felt that
I just want to find some quietbar where I can listen to music
that I like and play some pool.
So I strolled around Soibokauuntil I found the smallest and
most quiet bar in Soibokau.
(18:27):
And well, kids, that's how Imet your mother.
I'm joking, that's how I metSoonery.
She used to work in a small barin the south side of Soibokau
Three or four ladies flashingpink neon lights, not many
customers except of regulars.
(18:47):
So luckily for me, that day thebar was empty and I went in and
asked if I can play my music onthe crappy laptop that was
connected to even more crappysound system that played even
crappier tight dance music.
She agreed.
I ordered a beer for me and alady drink for her, and asked
(19:11):
her to play pool with me.
After that trip we stayed intouch.
I came a few more times toThailand in order to visit her,
travel and relax and by 2018 Iasked her to come stay with me
in Israel.
The process of bringing herwasn't easy, but I was able to
(19:35):
do that and we are livingtogether since April 2019.
On my trips to Thailand, Idiscovered that I really enjoyed
a sabai-sabai culture that if Iwould try to translate the
meaning of that, not the wordsthemselves, it would be
something like take it easy ortake it slowly.
(19:56):
I also find myself reallyenjoying the general environment
and the people I met, not onlyin Pattaya, but at that time I
already traveled most ofThailand except of the North,
the only thing that I found hardwas the weather.
It's hot and humid all yearlong, but that's something I'm
(20:20):
willing to endure in order tostay in heaven.
Don't worry, I would elaboratemore on all those topics that I
mentioned in the next episodes.
For the last part of thisepisode, I want to ask our
listeners for help.
We need you to subscribe, like,donate and leave a comment.
(20:41):
I'm joking, fuck that shit.
What I really want from you isto share your stories and
questions with us.
We already started to get someemails from you guys, and it's
great, but I really want to makea question and answer episode
in the near future and I needjust a few more questions.
Also, if you want us to shareour knowledge on any specific
(21:04):
subject, please let us know.
You can reach us via socialmedia or by emailing us to
mytaiwifepod at gmailcom.
And that's it for today.
I hope you are doing well andplease stay safe.
Bye, bye.
Hello everyone and welcome to the fifth episode of my Thai
wife podcast.
I'm Mike and this is my lovely,lovely wife, sunari.
Yeah, you heard nothing.
I'm sorry to tell you guys, butSunari will not be doing this
podcast anymore.
She said that it's verydifficult for her because she
(00:21):
needed to be scripted, and shesaid also she cannot improvise.
I disagree on those two points.
First of all, I think she's agreat improviser and second, I
believe that it's better to beauthentic and real rather than
scripted when you are doingcomedy.
But alas, I will try to keepyou guys entertained on my own
(00:44):
and I will let you know if sheever changed her mind.
So I think, due to this, itwould be a great first topic for
today's episode.
Let's title it something likedisagreement in relationships.
Well, there is a wrongconception that in a healthy
(01:04):
relationship there has to be aminimal number of conflicts and
a general sense of unified goalsand shared planning.
But for my experience, that'sbullshit, and here's why.
First of all, conflicts creategrowth.
When there is a conflictbetween a couple, it means there
is a point of disagreementabout something.
(01:26):
It can be anything from wherewe are going to eat tomorrow
evening, which is a minordecision that has no real effect
on our life, unless there is ameteor crush or some other
unlikely event that will kill uson the spot, and if we went to
another place or stayed home, wewould be safe.
More serious decisions, likedisagreeing about where we
(01:50):
invest our money in stocks orproperties, or how do we name
our cat, which would obviouslycontrol if it would be a
friendly and cuddly cat or if itwould get more intelligent
every day by watching Netflixand listening to podcasts, and
would eventually lead him torebel and conduct the second cat
and feline association, and, byhis leadership, the cats will
(02:13):
take over humanity and make usthe slave, like our previous cat
, mussolini, did.
Disagreements like those wouldlead to us expressing our needs
more often and would make uslearn about each other more.
Expressing our needs, ratherthan agreeing to the others once
all the time, is crucial to thedevelopment of trust, love and
(02:35):
respect, especially in a newrelationship, for example.
I really wanted to do thispodcast, not only for the
millions of dollars we wouldearn by making you guys paying
for our overpriced subscriptionsand users merchandise, but also
because I really think there isa limited number of podcasts
that touch the subject of mixedrelationships, especially with
(02:56):
the Thai lady, and the stragglesthat come with it.
More than that, I reallybelieve that there is a need for
guidance on this subjectbecause all of the bureaucracy
that it involves.
Also, I think there are a lotof people that are interested in
Thailand and Morsor in Pattaya.
It's an alluring city thatattracts many people every year,
(03:19):
not only for its nightlife, butalso for its attractions and
relaxing environment, like JomTien and the lively scenes of
Nak Lua and Lady Boy Pinises.
Of course, another point I madethat I really think the
podcasts need to be funny andentertaining as possible for
keeping it light.
But from Sunariz's point ofview, she didn't want to do that
(03:42):
.
She told me the day that thismagnificent idea popped into my
head that she really don't havethe power to do it and that it
would be a total rest of ourtime.
She stated that the audiencefor this kind of podcast is very
limited already and if we triedto do it funny and light, our
listeners would not getsomething out of it, as she said
(04:06):
.
Also, she insisted that if Istill want to do this podcast,
the only way she could do iteffortlessly is if it was
scripted so she wouldn't have touse her brain in her words.
Now that point of time, I hadfew choices.
(04:27):
My first option was to scrubthe idea and put it in the
drawer with my other brilliantideas like trying to make smart
storage a thing or my rap career.
The second option was I couldlisten to her and go with this
on her terms, which meantwriting scripts for 30 minutes
(04:47):
episode, and hope that heracting lesson, which she never
went to in high school, wouldkick in and that the scripts
that I wrote were actually funnyand informative enough for
keeping you guys listening toeach episode more than two
minutes before you would getabsolutely bored and angry with
yourself for even searching thistopic and immediately answers,
(05:08):
unsubscribe and report ourpodcast as promoting suicide and
thoughts due to extreme boredom.
And the third option wasobviously I could try to force
her to do it my way, which wouldlead to a very successful
podcast that generate millionsof dollars every episode at the
price of a lot of anger andstress in our relationship.
(05:30):
At that point of time, I choseto go with the last option, and
it was very stressful for herand made us fight a lot,
although I thought that it wouldget better in a matter of time
and would become easier for herto do.
It didn't.
After I realized that if Iwould continue to push for, my
(05:51):
idea would bring ourrelationship to a major crisis,
I decided to ask her what shethink will be the best solution
to the problem we are facingright now.
Her answer was stop doing it.
If you want to do it, do italone.
She always stated that shewould love to help me with this
podcast, but from behind thecurtains, as she said.
(06:11):
So here I am doing 30 minutesepisode without her hoping to
keep the money flowing and, moreimportantly, to keep you guys
entertained.
Not the best solution, but theright one.
Another point is the unifiedgoals and shared planning.
It's great to help yoursignificant other to fulfill the
(06:34):
dreams in life, but for somereason, people think that when
they are in a relationship, thedreams and goals in life have to
be unified with their partners,which make no sense.
Why the fuck would she want tobe a successful rapper?
Or why would I want to run aguesthouse in rural Buriram?
It's great to support eachother dreams, but why do we have
(06:56):
to share them?
She can own a guesthouse inBuriram while I can do my third
rap tour in the Caribbean withEminem, lil Dicky and Nicki
Minaj.
The idea of forcing her toparticipate in my dreams and
goals is like telling her well,now you have to learn how to rap
in Yiddish, because next weekI'll kick Lil Dicky out of their
tour and I have a spot to fill.
(07:17):
It makes no sense.
Everyone have their own skillset and dreams.
There is no reason for her toincorporate me in her planning
as well.
Yes, she can ask for help and Iwill be.
I will do absolutely everythingI can to help her in any shape,
way or form, but her plansdoesn't have to rely on my
(07:38):
presence.
The reasoning behind this isthat there is never 100% chance
that we will always staytogether.
I can die in any moment, and sois she, and also there is
nothing that locking us togetheras a couple.
In any argument or fight, thereis a slight chance of us
(07:58):
breaking up.
Nothing in life is permanent,even if we wish there was.
So any plans you are having foryourself, it need to rely only
on one person, and one personalone yourself.
It's much easier to plansomething that the only moving
force behind it is your force.
(08:18):
If we will rely on other peopleto accomplish our dreams, they
will stay.
They will never form intoreality and will stay well
dreams.
And the fact that we chose tostay together doesn't mean that
we have to become like ourpartner.
We chose to stay togetherbecause we enjoy each other
(08:40):
company and we share similarvalues.
If I wanted to stay withsomeone that is more like me, I
would just keep jerking off infront of the mirror while
pinching my own nipple andcalling myself a sexy piglet.
My mistake was that I thought Icannot do a podcast without her.
I do believe with all my heartthat if she would be a part of
(09:03):
it, it would be a very funnypodcast.
Maybe she will change her mindin the future.
I really hope so, but untilthen you are stuck with me.
It's a viable possibility thatit will be more challenging for
me to do this podcast alone.
I will try my best to improvewith each episode.
(09:23):
I am a little bit disappointedwith her decision, but I have to
let go of any resentment I havetowards her and her decision.
I was actively trying to forceher to do something that she
isn't interested to do, and thisis completely my fault.
I really need to work on myselfto make sure it will not happen
(09:43):
again and I think I know betterthan her just because she's not
familiar with something andsomehow it's my responsibility
to educate her on that.
I'm really ashamed of myselffor behaving like that and I'm
really glad.
She normally yayak me when I dosomething like this.
(10:04):
So the point I'm trying to makeis that I can do this podcast
alone.
It won't be easy and probablythe revenues would go down by at
least 30%, but I think it'sdoable.
Of course, now I would focusmore on the many things like
Pattaya, ladyboys andrelationship advices, but feel
(10:26):
free to ask me about any subjectthat you want me to share my
thoughts about, or maybe giveyou any information for my
experience about Thailand,pattaya or the bureaucracy that
involves bringing a Thai lady toyour country.
Now that this is out of the way, I can move on to the second
topic of this episode, which iswhy I chose Thailand as my main
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travel destination.
Well, I guess, like for most ofyou guys, it was by chance.
So let's get real cozy.
Bring your hot cocoa withschnapps or whatever you sick
sick Germans put inside your hotdrinks.
Come here, sit next to me,don't be shy.
You can sit closer If you want.
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You can even put your head onmy shoulder and relax, because
this is about to get reallyintimate.
I was having a lot of trouble inmy early 20s.
I used to drink a lot ofalcohol and do a lot of drugs.
It first started as a way ofrebellion against my family and
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against myself as well, and itwas also a great way to meet new
people.
When your only hobby is gettingdrunk or high and you have
nothing else to offer to theworld, it's very easy to think
about yourself as spatial orgifted by trying to show the
world that you aren't eventrying to fit in modern society
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rather than just accepting thereality that you are a lazy,
useless and selfish piece ofshit.
And very quickly you findyourself surrounded by people
like you that are having nothinggood to contribute to people
around them.
On the contrary, they are justhurting people by stealing,
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lying and doing whatever theycan do to score their next hit.
So not only they are notcontributing to society, they
are making it a little bitcheatier for everyone else.
So I used to live like that fora few years and very quickly I
got depressed and started to dodumb shit like taking a larger
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amount of drugs or trying newdrugs that were making me even
more depressed and crazy.
And all of this time I woulddrink approximately 1 liter of
vodka every day.
In 2 years I was alreadyshitting blood and using the
worst drug that was, at the time, very easy to get and it was
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cheap and wouldn't really go outof my house to get money.
I used to steal or begging myfamily members or friends from
the past.
After a few more years I foundmyself arrested every once in a
while until the judge had enoughof me and gave me an ultimatum
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Either go through a rehab andstay under the supervision of a
parole officer or go to jail.
I thought to myself that was aneasy choice.
I would just get clean for awhile and after I get this judge
off my back I would get back onthe staff.
The rehab was kind of easy, butthe hardest part was the
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boredom that came after that.
I tried to do everything likebefore I got clean, but nothing
was interesting for me anymore.
I tried connecting with oldfriends that aren't hooked, but
no one wanted to see me.
So, with the advice of myparole officer, I started
looking for a job.
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And a year later, when my paroleofficer told me that I would
not have to meet him again andthat now I am a functioning
member of society, I find myselfas a mid-tier manager in a
small company, making good moneyand even happy to go to work
every day.
So I decided that I would notgo back to my old ways and I
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would continue with this path.
And a few months later my bosstold me that I have to take a
vacation because I have too manyunused vacation days.
And that is the company policythat employees cannot accumulate
more than a certain amount ofvacation days.
So he suggested I should goabroad.
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I had no idea where I wanted togo, but I knew only two things
that I have nine days and that Ican go anywhere I choose in the
world.
I called my cousin, who is afrequent traveler, and asked him
for guidance.
He told me right on the spot togo to Pattaya.
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So I did.
I booked a ticket to Thailand,booked a hotel room at the Grand
Bella Hotel near the MemorialHospital, very close to Soy 7
and Soy 8 and very close to whatused to be soy made in Thailand
and now called Myth Night orsomething like that.
I read a little bit online aboutPattaya and what should I
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expect?
Visiting there?
It really seems like theperfect place for me to visit a
lot of beautiful ladies, amazingfood, bars, breathtaking,
breathtaking beaches Well, notPattaya beach and a hard enough
punishment for using drugs, so Iwould be scared even thinking
about it.
A week later, I find myself inheaven, surrounded by beautiful
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ladies, ladyboys, drinking beernot too much, playing pool and
having the most fun I had inyears.
If someone is telling you thatmoney cannot buy happiness, that
means he was never in Pattaya.
In three nights I already foundmyself staying with the same
lady.
She was nice and could speakdecent English.
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She taught me all the basicsthat I need to know when staying
in Patria, like how to use theBatBus, what are the best clubs,
and that I always need tohaggle the motorbike taxis for
better prices.
Back then there was no bolt orgrab taxi services that, by the
way, are amazing.
They lowered the inner citytransportation prices by almost
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50% and are very reliable.
She took me to the big Buddha,taprassit market, nakula fish
market and many other places.
She was nice and refused totake money from me after the
first day we stayed together.
Maybe that's why I stayed withher I'm Jew, after all and she
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even bought me expensive shoesfor about 5000 baht or so from
central festival with her moneyas a good buy gift.
But of course, few days after Iled them back in my country,
her family's buffalo got sick,her grandmother died, and more
stories of great misfortune.
I guess she was really unlucky.
I stopped answering hermessages and calls.
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After the second time she askedfor money and we haven't spoken
since.
After I came back home, I washooked again, but this time for
something that actually made mehappy Thailand, and especially
Pattaya.
I knew I would be back in notime, and so I did.
It took me 5 months and I wasback in the land of smiles, this
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time for a month.
After 2 weeks there, I had areally tough night and felt that
I just want to find some quietbar where I can listen to music
that I like and play some pool.
So I strolled around Soibokauuntil I found the smallest and
most quiet bar in Soibokau.
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And well, kids, that's how Imet your mother.
I'm joking, that's how I metSoonery.
She used to work in a small barin the south side of Soibokau
Three or four ladies flashingpink neon lights, not many
customers except of regulars.
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So luckily for me, that day thebar was empty and I went in and
asked if I can play my music onthe crappy laptop that was
connected to even more crappysound system that played even
crappier tight dance music.
She agreed.
I ordered a beer for me and alady drink for her, and asked
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her to play pool with me.
After that trip we stayed intouch.
I came a few more times toThailand in order to visit her,
travel and relax and by 2018 Iasked her to come stay with me
in Israel.
The process of bringing herwasn't easy, but I was able to
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do that and we are livingtogether since April 2019.
On my trips to Thailand, Idiscovered that I really enjoyed
a sabai-sabai culture that if Iwould try to translate the
meaning of that, not the wordsthemselves, it would be
something like take it easy ortake it slowly.
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I also find myself reallyenjoying the general environment
and the people I met, not onlyin Pattaya, but at that time I
already traveled most ofThailand except of the North,
the only thing that I found hardwas the weather.
It's hot and humid all yearlong, but that's something I'm
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willing to endure in order tostay in heaven.
Don't worry, I would elaboratemore on all those topics that I
mentioned in the next episodes.
For the last part of thisepisode, I want to ask our
listeners for help.
We need you to subscribe, like,donate and leave a comment.
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I'm joking, fuck that shit.
What I really want from you isto share your stories and
questions with us.
We already started to get someemails from you guys, and it's
great, but I really want to makea question and answer episode
in the near future and I needjust a few more questions.
Also, if you want us to shareour knowledge on any specific
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subject, please let us know.
You can reach us via socialmedia or by emailing us to
mytaiwifepod at gmailcom.
And that's it for today.
I hope you are doing well andplease stay safe.
Bye, bye.
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