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April 11, 2025 14 mins

Today we dive into a topic that resonates deeply with many of us: the journey over the destination,  and how our approach to it can significantly impact our enjoyment of the game.

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In our quest for improvement, there's a pervasive trend: rapid progression promises. We've all seen them—programs promising to elevate your rating from 3.5 to 4.0 in just 30 days. These promises sound enticing but often set us up for unreasonable expectations and rob us of the joy found in gradual progress.

The Growth and Fulfilment of the Journey

If you were hiking a mountain, would you want to skip the journey and magically appear at the summit? The answer is likely no because the hike itself is where the real beauty lies. It's in the sights, sounds, and experiences along the way. 

Similarly, in pickleball, it's easy to become fixated on reaching a specific rating or winning a medal. But in doing so, we risk missing out on the joy of playing, improving, and connecting with others. 


As you work on your game, remember to celebrate small victories. Perhaps your volleys have improved, or your serve is stronger. These are the flowers and trees along your hike. Even if you never reach the metaphorical "top," the experiences and memories you gather along the way are what truly matter.

In this episode I'll also share with you about a tournament I participated in and observed an undercurrent of stress among players and I'll tell you why I think you shouldn't let the pressure of competition overshadow the fun and camaraderie of the sport.

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(00:05):
Hello, and welcome to Pickleball Therapy,the podcast dedicated
to your pickleball mind.
My name is Tony Roig.
I'm the host of this podcast.
It's a pleasure to be with youfor a podcast, something like 250.
Been at it for a minute now.
And there's alwaysdifferent ways of thinking about
the sport, thinking about ourinteraction with the sport.
And what I've been thinking aboutrecently has to do with our journey.

(00:28):
And there's a couple of thingsthat this to mind for me.
One was a post by another content creatorthat I'll tee up in a minute talking about
how he views the journey, and that'sthe way that I think we should view it.
But then what I've been seeing is a lot ofstuff out there about getting somewhere.
One program that I saw recently is like 3.5 to 4.

(00:50):
0 in 30 days.
That is not really doable from ourexperience, and it just creates
unreasonable expectations.5.
0 in 90 days on YouTube.
You see all these promises, right?
About getting somewhere andgetting somewhere right now.
And it really robs us of a lot of joy thatwe can have, as you'll see

(01:12):
as we work through this.
So we're going to get into that.
And then we're also going to justplayed a tournament in South Florida.
I got to visit with the familyand play in a tournament.
So I'll give you an update on that and acouple of observations that tie into
what we're talking about in this podcast.
As we dive into the podcast,Right now, we have a competitive play
series coming out in ourBetter pickleball Academy.

(01:36):
So if you play competitively, sothat's more than just tournaments.
Tournament's a part of it, butduper matches that you're counting, team
league, ladder league,anything like Round Robbins.
Thesestrategies that you can learn that have to
do with competitive play can really giveyou an edge beyond
hitting a good third shot, beyond yourserve and your return

(01:56):
and things like that.They're very specific to competitive play.
So if you want to check those out,I'll put a link in the show notes.
One way to get into it would be we have astrategy lab at the end of this
month, and it's a live strategy lab.
You get to come in to the lab and learnabout pickleball from a
competitive viewpoint.
So check that out ifit's of interest to you.
All right, so let's talkabout this journey idea.

(02:18):
As I mentioned, I think this idea that weneed to get somewhere is
tricky, and also it's tricky because itsets expectations for us potentially in
a way that can lead to disappointment.
But it also really robs us.
It robs us of enjoying today, and you'llunderstand that more
as we get through here.
What I want to do is let me tee up thecreator first, and then I'm going to play

(02:40):
the audio, and then we're goingto play off of that audio.
The creator is I don't know his namebecause the name he uses on his account is
not his name, but he seems like afine young man.
And he talks about...
He usually is in the forest doing hisvideos, and he has a stick with a
microphone, which is pretty cool.

(03:01):
He's usually talking about personalgrowth and nature and things like that.
It's pretty interesting.
I'm going to play the audio now, and thenonce the audio is played, I'm going to
come back and we're going to play on it.
If you were going on a hike and somebodyoffered you a way to just click your
fingers and immediately be at the top ofthe mountain, you wouldn't do it
because the hike is the fun part.
If you were going to run a marathon andyou could just drive from point
A to point B, you wouldn't do it.What would be the point?

(03:24):
The marathon is the point.
But for some reason, when it comes toyour life, you just lose that logic.
You think if you can just fast track it,if you can just get to here, you can just
get to here, you want to be as quickand efficient and as fast as possible.
But why?
You don't want to get from point A topoint B in your life as quick as possible,
because point B, we all know whatpoint B is, and it's not that good.

(03:44):
You don't want to get there quicker.
Enjoy the journey.
This is the journey right now.
Whatever it is you're working towards,stop hating yourself until you get there.
Enjoy the process.
Take a breath and go,This is the marathon.
This is the hike.This right here is being alive.
I thought that was a really interestingway of looking at things, at processes.

(04:08):
The idea of the mountain was interesting.
You're going to hike a mountainand you can just press a button.
Would you do it?
I mean, hopefully the answer is no, right?
Because that's not the pointof climbing the mountain.
And it's really the samething with pickleball.
I think with pickleball, sometimes it'seasy to fall into these traps of,
I need to get somewhere.I need a rating of a certain number.

(04:29):
I need to get a medal of some sort.
I need to win a certain thing.
I need to be accepted to somegroup, whatever it is, right?
And so what happens is when we do that iswe lose the advantage lose the joy
of the current moment.
So going back to the mountain idea,when you're hiking a mountain,

(04:53):
hopefully you're noticing the trees,you're noticing the flowers, maybe you see
a lizard, maybe you hear a bird, a cicadaon this time of year, whatever it is.
So you're taking in the sound of the windthrough the trees, a creek
nearby, whatever it is.
So you have all these experiences that arehappening around you

(05:14):
as you're hiking up the mountain.
If you hike up the mountainin a more business-like fashion, where
you're just focused on just getting to thetop of the mountain,
not noticing what's around you, it defeatsthe purpose of the hike, doesn't it?
The purpose of the hike is actually thewhole experience, including the
views of the top of the mountain.I'll give you that.

(05:35):
But let's say you were hiking and you gotthree quarters of the way there and for
whatever reason weren't able to make it tothe top time or your leg start
charting or something like that.
That doesn't mean your hikesucked or was bad, right?
Because you got to hike it.
But if you're so fixated on the top of themountain that you lose sight of the hike,

(05:55):
that's just really robbing you of asignificant portion of your experience.
And And it's the same thingwith pickleball, okay?
I don't know where you're atright now in your game, right?
Whether it's by level, howyou think about it, right?
Wherever you're at right nowis where you're at right now.
Perhaps you have a thingthat you want, okay?
I want this other thing.And that's fine.
There's nothing wrong with wanting that,wanting to climb, to hike the mountain.

(06:18):
That's fine.
But if you are so fixated on the result,on the thing, and there's
a spoiler alert because we're going to getto that in a second,
and there is no thing.
But even if you think there's a thing toget to,
what happens is if you get so fixated onthat thing,
then what you do is you deprive yourselfof the experience that's
happening right now.

(06:40):
Example,you've been working on your volleys, and
so your volleys have improved.
You've been putting the work in andyou start improving your volley.
It becomes not a thing.
It's like the flower you walked by on thehike or the tree you didn't see or the
bird you didn't hear because you'restill not whatever your goal is.

(07:01):
And if you want to use, let's just usesome terminology that will
help with this process.
So like this three, fiveto four, and 30 days thing.
So you're not yet a 4-0.
So You're not a 4-0, so nothing matters.
The good volleys don't matter.
Your friends who congratulated youon the shot, that doesn't matter.

(07:22):
The battle that you won, the battlethat you lost, doesn't matter.
Because all that matters is what?
Getting the 4-0, getting You're going tochange to the top of the
mountain, whatever it is.
So you lose all that time between.
And they're beautiful moments.
And let's assume that for whateverreason, you don't make it to 4: 0.
So you get the 3.95 or 3.

(07:43):
87 or something in theway we're framing it.
Then what?
Then everything sucksbecause you didn't make the 4: 0?
Obviously, it doesn't make any sense.
But even though it doesn't make sense whenwe're talking about it here nice and
calmly, me and my microphone, you'rehearing it wherever you're hearing it.
It can happen to us when we lose sight ofit, we lose the framing, we lose

(08:06):
perspective of the situation.
So remind yourself not to...
Be wary of falling into the trapof looking forward, looking ahead to
wherever you think you need to goand not seeing the flowers, the trees,
and the cicadas maybe alongyour path to that destination.

(08:27):
And there's nothing wrong with thedestination, nothing wrong with growth.
There's nothing wrong the hiking, right?
But enjoy the process of the hike,not just fixating on the mountain.
And here's the kicker.
In the hike, potentiallythere is a summit, right?
There can be a summit that you can get to.
In pickleball, there is no end.

(08:50):
So there is no final destinationthat I get to here.
And the best way to think about itthat I've been able to devise is this.
So So today, sitting here today,you maybe envision something for yourself
three months from now or six monthsfrom now, some time frame later.

(09:11):
So you have a picture of a player thatlooks like you, sounds like you, but
doesn't play like you, plays in adifferent way somewhere in the future.
Okay, that's fine.
But now let's fast forwardto that next player.
So now you're that player.
What do you think you're thinking now?

(09:32):
Probably thinking about the next playerthat you are, the next
version of yourself.
And then what's going to happen?The next version of yourself.
And so you see,if you do that, you deprive yourself
of all the times in between.
And it is even possible that you won'teven appreciate the moment you're
in, even though you think you will.
Like you're somebody in the mountain, andyou're going to get there, and you're
going to summit, and it'sgoing to be beautiful.

(09:52):
But you get to the top of the mountain,and there's clouds or whatever, so you got
to climb higher, you got to keep going.And that's pickleball.
That's your pickleball journey.
So Be careful about falling into the trapof not being content with your current
moment in pickleballbecause of some future expectation
that you have for yourself.
And then one last piece on this wouldbe it can set you up for

(10:16):
disappointment and potential frustrationin your game,
particularly these three, five to four, in30 days concepts, because
it's a lot of pressure thatyou're putting on your sofa no reason.
Growth, fine.
Keep working on your game, fine.
Keep studying the game,learning the game, all great.
But to have an arbitrary metric that Imust meet in a certain time frame,

(10:41):
just not a good way of going about it foryourself and from a mental standpoint.
All right, let me talk to you now aboutthe tournament that I just played, and
I'll give you the goodand the bad that I saw.
I am not playing a lot of tournamentsthese days, and frankly, I think This is
one of the reasons why, as I thoughtabout it after the tournament.

(11:04):
And this is not a criticism of any of theplayers there, of any of the
players that were at the tournament.
It's a very normal humanbehavior, human responses.
They're not outliers.
They're not doing anythingintentionally wrong.
But what I find is that when I go to thetournament, I love seeing my friends,

(11:27):
my acquaintances, making new friends.
I met this player.
I'll tell you his namebecause his name is Chad.
He has the best hair ever.
And I play with it.
I joke with him about it.
We played mixed doublesagainst each other.
And then the rest of the time I saw himthere, he has this beautiful
flowing white hair.
So I kept on asking if itwas a wig and can I touch it?

(11:48):
Just playing around with it.We had a good time with him.
He played along and we weresmiling and having a great time.
So I get to have those experiences withother pick-up players from all over the
country, players who I don't getto see other than at tournaments.
I get to play with them.
We had a couple of practice games becauseas I mentioned, I was visiting family, so
I wasn't there too early, but I got thereearly enough to play some practice games.

(12:10):
I met this lovely player,Tomer, from Texas.
We played some matches, hadsome nice conversations.
His partner, whose nameescapes me right now.
Same thing, nice conversations.
Had to get to interact with my partners.I love all that, right?
But then there's this undercurrent.
And again, it's I'm not picking anybodyout here, but just undercurrent in the

(12:32):
tournament of just stress and pressure.
And I'm laughing about it.
And maybe I shouldn't laugh about itbecause maybe I have the benefit of the
journey that I've been on for the lastfour or so years with this podcast and
studying the books and things like that.
And perhaps they just don't have thebenefit of that, right?
But I would encourage them to, if they'relistening to this,

(12:55):
to go on the journey, becauseto go to a tournament and play in a
tournament and feel the amount of stressthat these players do, frankly, is
unfortunate from my perspective.
It robs them of the event.
Frankly, it's not an environmentthat I choose to be in.

(13:18):
So I have other things that I can do, likerecord this podcast and other projects.
So that's where I'm going to be at.
But for you, the listener, beaware of that.
If you're falling into the trap ofpressure and stress and pickleball, take a
step back and remember,you're playing a game.
You're hitting a plastic ballon a court with your friends,

(13:39):
getting some exercise, getting some sun.
That's what it's all about.It's all about that.
It's not about winning or losing andgetting stress on yourself because of it.
So hopefully that helps you maintaina healthier perspective as you play.
That's this week's podcast.Hope you enjoyed it.
Hope I get to see some of youat our upcoming Strategy Lab.

(13:59):
Or inside the Better Pickleball Academy.
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(14:20):
And as always, share it with your friendsbecause remember, if you enjoy the
podcast, they probably will, too.
Hope you have a great weekand I'll see you next time..
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