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Welcome to the Dead Life.
Here's world renowned mediumAlison Dubois.
Today on the Dead Life, I haveSophia in studio to talk about happy
ghost stories.
Ghosts get a bad rap so I'dlike to shed some light on the way
they help us by letting usknow that they're there.
There are many upliftingstories coming your way, so stay
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tuned.
To book a reading with me,email us@bookinglisondubois.com you
can follow me on InstagramMedium Allison or you can Watch me
on YouTube to see new and pastepisodes of the Dead Life.
Please like and subscribe ifyou have a life question for me and
Sophia for my Love Me Love Menot segment.
Leave Your question at 802-332-3811.
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Well, Sophia, welcome back.
Thank you.
Thank you also for the mixer.
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For more information if you're interested.
Oh, do you have to put vodkabefore the dot com?
Isn't it just divination22 dot com?
Actually yeah, it is just divination22.
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Sometimes mothers know best.
That's the same.
It's all I made the thing.
I know you did.
And we're so excited.
So we felt like the datingapps are just an absolute no go these
days because you've taken afew turns on it and you know what
it's all about.
And there's people of all agesthat seem to have trouble meeting
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quality people.
And I've done a lot ofreadings with amazing, amazing men
and women and they always sayto me, I wish you could match me
with someone that works withmy sign or my energy.
So there's going to be alittle bit of astrology inflection
in this where people's sunsign will be on their name tag along
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with their name and we'regoing to see how the elements all
interact together.
There's going to be FredAstaire Dance Studio for dance lessons
with some of the people thatare coupling up and so people can
get to know each other.
It'll be at Handlebar Jay inScottsdale, which is legendary Arizona
family owned place that we'vebeen going Forever.
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And it's just really great.
So we're going to have a good time.
Appetizers.
You get a divination love potion.
Divination 22 love potioncocktail as well.
Maybe a matchmaker.
We have some pretty greatpeople signing in.
Tarot card reader.
We've got like already a 30something plastic surgeon, we've
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got a restaurateur, We've gota lot of beautiful girls that have
signed up and a lot of quality gentlemen.
So I'm looking forward to this.
But it's also a good reason today drink in Arizona, which is part
of our pastime.
So I love it.
So we thought today it wouldbe nice to share some of the happy
ghost stories sinceeverybody's always trying to show
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the dark side of the afterlife.
And I, I really like the deadand I find them to be, you know,
they're the best versions of themselves.
They're very focused and clearon what matters and priorities.
And to me they just makeeverything so much simpler for us.
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And I wanted to show howhealing they can be for those of
us who are left behind.
So let's go ahead and startwith our first call in.
Hi Allison, my name is Kim andI've called you before and you've
actually read my experience onone of your podcasts not too long
ago regarding a pregnancy lossmy husband and I had about eight
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years ago where we had namedher Noel because she was due around
Christmas time.
And our Noel ornament out ofthe blue one night started swaying
back and forth and then whenmy husband waved at it, it started
moving faster.
And I have another experienceto share with you that I thought
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was amazing.
My mom and daughter and I goto the Nutcracker Ballet every December.
It's been a tradition since Iwas about 10 years old.
And we were at the Nutcrackerthis past Sunday and I just kind
of had a little thought runacross my mind that if Noel was with
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us, she would be here dressedup like all the other little girls
in the audience and it wouldhave been another tradition with
her that we would have had.
And I briefly mentioned it tomy mom afterwards when her and I
went out to dinner and on ourway home we were driving and the
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car in front of me, thelicense plate said Noel and the number
five.
And I've had license platescome to me before that are very telling
or spiritual regarding certainindividuals that I lost that I've
been thinking about.
And a license plate will be infront of me and it's that person's
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Name, or It will say Angel 33,which is my.
My number.
I love threes.
I see them all the time.
And Tom McMullen has actuallydone one of my readings and said
that my.
My number is 3.
My birth chart number.
So, anyways, I just wanted toshare that with you because it made
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me feel extremely emotional,but in a happy way that she's still
here with us.
I hope you have a greatholiday, and I look forward to listening
to your next podcast.
Thank you.
So, I love Kim.
Kim's got great energy.
Yeah, she does.
I mean, she'll be a great mom.
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I don't know if she has otherkids, but she should have many.
We need all those great momsout there.
She has a lot of love to givethe pregnancy loss.
This is a hard one for womento live through because it's something
that continues to hit you in waves.
I'm sure as you see daughters,as yours would get older and you
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see other people's daughtersof that same age, that would be gut
wrenching to recognize that that's.
And when we take the three ofyou out, when you were little girls,
I'd catch women sometimeslooking at you.
You know, they'd complimentyou on your dress, and we took you
to the nutcrackers.
So I know what it feels liketo take my little girls there.
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And so I.
I really do understand thelevel of pain she must feel.
I will say that pregnancylosses tend to recycle back into
the family.
If she was, you know, were toget pregnant again and have a child,
you know, that soul's reallyjust waiting for a body strong enough
or under the rightcircumstances to make entry into
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the world.
I'm sure that that littlegirl's soul would find its way into
her arms.
And so I do hope that for herand her husband and with the little
girl leaving so many signs forthem, and I think it's probably a
little girl in conjunctionwith a grandmother or Kim's grandmother
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that are making some of thesethings happen.
Almost as if to say, don'tgive up.
You know, she's still part of you.
She's still part of your life.
Don't give up.
She's not going away.
And I'm sure the people thatlove Kim who have passed are trying
to find a way to get thatlittle girl's soul into the family.
Yeah, I think that.
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I think you're right, becauseI know you said that they recycle
back in sometimes as like, anephew, niece, cousins, what, you
know, whatever it may be.
But it sounds like with all ofthe signs, that she is just waiting
to be her little baby.
Yes.
Yeah.
Saying I'm not gone.
I'm still there, Mommy, and Ihear you.
I see you.
And especially with the Noelornaments starting to sway when the
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dad was.
Was talking to the little girlspirit or that it started reacting
to his voice, to me, that's avery active energy that's passed.
And I'll say this.
I'll make a distinction.
A lot of children who crosswhen I bring through, say, the grownups
on the other side, thechildren that don't make it into
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the world where they grow apersonality and become part of memories
with the parents, thegrandparents, a very limited existence
in their life.
In pregnancy with the mother,they don't tend to show up in readings.
The fact that this child is soactively letting them know she's
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there tells me that she'strying to make her way back into
the family and into the world,that there's something for her to
do and for them to not give up.
And so that's the distinctionI want to show.
There's sometimes when astillborn or a miscarriage just happens,
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you'll see more activitybecause that soul's undecided on
whether or not it's going tomake entry into the world still.
And I think there are somethat may decide the timing's not
right or, you know, they hold back.
But this little girl Noelseems to know where she belongs and
that she belongs with them, so.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
And I just wanted to add, I dolove the part about the license plate,
because my dad let me know hewas around you.
I've always told you.
And they do communicatethrough license plates.
So I think her saying thatwill resonate with a lot of people
because it'll be at just theright time when you're thinking of
the person where there's no coincidences.
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It's very obvious.
And you graduated college inMay of 2020.
So it was in Covid, and wecouldn't have your party, you know,
because everybod went into lockdown.
So dad and I toddled off oneday and just bought you a car to
surprise you because we feltreally bad about that and we were
really proud of you beingmagna or summa cum laude.
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Yeah.
And.
And graduating in three years.
And we're like, oh, my God,she works so hard.
You know, this can't be theway it ends.
So we wanted to get you thisreally cool car.
And the car, the license platecomes and we look at it and My dad
always said, que sera, sera.
He's like, whatever will be,will be.
He also loved Doris Daybecause he was a ballroom dancer
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and he had those albums in hisdance studio.
So when I saw your licenseplate, and it was like the letter
K, the number five that lookedlike an.
S, and, hey, stop tellingeveryone my license plate.
Anyway, just kidding.
It basically spells out que sera.
Yeah, yeah.
And.
And sorry about that, honey.
I'm like, hey, and.
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And I was so touched becauseI've always told you you're the most
like him.
You remind you're a dancer.
Like he was a dancer.
You're funny.
You got the dimples.
You know, I.
I've just always thought youwere a lot like my.
My dad's positive energy.
And so it was as if my dad wassaying, I'm there.
I see these things happening.
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You know, I see her.
And it was just really comforting.
So I hope there's a lot ofpeople out there that get some beautiful
message through a licenseplate as well.
I know there are people.
As long as cars and licenseplates have existed, we know when
it's a message for us, and Ithink that's really special.
So let's go to the next one.
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Hi, Allison.
My name is Patty.
I just got done listening toyour most recent podcast.
I believe it was from theDecember 10th about the Christmas
stories.
I've called in with a coupledifferent stories to share because
I way too much and overshare.
But anyways, I thought I wouldtry one more time.
I wanted to share this with you.
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I lost my dad in January of2022, and I have an Etsy business.
So one night I was in the kitchen.
It was late.
I was up by myself making myorders, and there were some helium
balloons that we'd had in thehouse for, like, three weeks already.
They'd been on the ground.
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They hadn't moved.
You know, like, they don't.
When the helium comes, youknow, out of them, they just kind
of sit in the ground, butstill inflated.
So I'm at the.
At the.
My stove, and I'm making mystuff, and all of a sudden a balloon
comes over and hits me up inmy upper thigh.
So I turned around quickly, myfoot hit it and kind of kicked it
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over by the dining table.
And I looked at it, and my airconditioning wasn't on.
You know, there was no reason.
There was no draft.
There was.
You know, your mind goes.
You try to figure out all this.
Could that have happened?
So I needed a witness, and oneof my sons happened to be awake.
So I called him out.
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I'm like, watch this.
I was just trying and helpingbecause I get messages and see things
all the time, and I'm alwaysby myself.
So my son comes out, and Isaid, just watch this.
And so I said, hey, dad, ifthat was you, can you bring that
balloon over to my feet?
And the balloon slowly butsurely crept across the floor and
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came right to my feet.
My son just looked at me andhe goes, mom, I don't know what to
do with that.
But anyways, I thought thatwas fun, that my dad was like, hey,
you know, I'm in the kitchenwith you, too.
I see what you're doing.
Anyways, thanks so much.
I love your podcast.
You guys are both awesome, andyou guys have a great Christmas.
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Thanks so much.
So, Patti, so much fun there.
And I love how her nature isto plug into her intuitiveness and
own it, but also to get asecond opinion.
She's been alone so many times.
I get it.
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Well, and often we will bealone because they're trying to get
our attention, and when wehave other people around, our attention's
absorbed by that person.
Yeah.
So I love that, you know, withher dad dying January 2022.
So sorry about that, Patti.
I know how painful that iswhen you're working on your Etsy
business, which is probablysomething that you really love and
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enjoy and maybe even think ofyour dad while you're doing it, maybe
as a source of inspiration,because Etsy's got a lot of cool
little inspirational baubleson it.
I like going on it myself.
I love that she's both aware, not.
Not easily saying, oh, that'sdefinitely him.
She's weighing it just to make sure.
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And I think that's very commonhuman nature.
So making sure the AC is noton things of that nature.
And then she called her sonin, who then says, I don't really
know what to do with this.
After she asks her, makes arequest to her dad.
And the difference betweenthis and some other people is she
made a request from her dadfrom an emotional place.
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When you make that requestfrom an emotional place, they will
accommodate you when youchallenge them.
And it comes from a place ofchallenge that's in your head that
you're still going to end up dismissing.
They'll pull their energy backin signs.
So I just want people to understand.
Patty is an example of a veryhealthy view on life after death.
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And then the interaction ofwith her father still being around
her and what the message is.
He's trying to get across toher the way Patty addresses this,
very healthy.
He'll continue to give hersigns and messages.
But again, if somebody comesin with a challenge to the other
side, they sort of roll theireyes and pull their energy back because
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they know that you're socaught up in your head that you're
making too many of themistakes that they regretted making
themselves and not plugging inemotionally and trusting that intuitive
voice in the center of yourheart and your soul.
And so I just wanted to showthat distinction for people, because
some people will say, well, Iasked my dad to come through.
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It's like, no, you told him,if he's actually there, knock that
off the table.
And in those instances, they just.
They're not gonna engage youbecause you're not getting it.
It's not coming from the right place.
Or they're doing it to prove a point.
Right?
Yeah.
Right.
But, yeah, she was just like,hey, dad, like, I think it was you.
Yeah, say hi to your grandson.
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You know, and there's a lot oflayers of energy in people, in how
we approach life after death.
And the other side.
Some people are really easy tocommunicate with for the other side
because we do project ourenergy, and we're aware of their
presence around us and theirparticipation in our life.
And then there are people thatare stuck in their head and they
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exercise very littleemotionally or in the center of their
chest, in their heart.
And it's very difficult forpeople who've crossed to connect
with people who are stuck intheir head.
And if you don't adjust yourenergy, you're not going to get the
signs in the way that you wantto, where it actually serves you
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and elevates you.
You'll get signs all day longand dismiss them.
And after a while, they'll start.
They'll stop coming around.
But for Patty, her dad's goingto keep popping in and being like,
hey, honey, you know, I justwanted to make sure that, you know,
you're not too sad because youstill have a dad.
You're not an orphan.
They say that all the time.
You're not an orphan.
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Stop acting like one.
You know?
Yeah.
So let's go on to the next caller.
I'm really liking my Collins,and sorry that our Collins got backed
up.
Some of these are obviouslyfrom December.
Yeah.
Hi, Allison and Joe.
This is Lisa from Arizona.
Thank you for having me.
On previous podcasts.
I have another story I thoughtyou might like, so here you go.
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My husband is adopted, and myin laws were adamant that he never
find his birth parents.
When our younger daughterbecame very ill, we decided to find
them for medical reasons.
My in laws made it clear thatthey still did not want us to find
them.
We were able to find both hisbiological parents, but his father
did not want to have arelationship with us.
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His birth mom was thrilledthat we found her and we've had a
relationship with her for thelast 14 years.
We never did let his adoptiveparents know.
My father in law passed awayin 2021 and my mother in law in 2022.
Last November, my olderdaughter got married the day after
Thanksgiving.
We absolutely did what yousaid and made sure they were included
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in the wedding with jewelryand pictures.
Because both of his parentshad passed, we were able to have
his birth mom come to thewedding where we introduced her as
my husband's mom.
One evening a few days afterthe wedding, I was sitting with my
younger daughter and she wastelling me that she felt weird about
introducing the birth mom asmy husband's mom.
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She felt it was a betrayal to grandma.
I agreed.
It felt uncomfortable for me too.
Just then our dog started witha low growl at nothing we could see.
I told her, grandma's here andshe's listening.
I also told her how I'velearned from your podcast that once
people pass, they see theirlife through others eyes and that
I think now she has adifferent perspective and she's okay
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with us knowing the birth mom.
She knows that that findingher did not change our love for her.
The next morning I got anotification from Facebook that my
mother in law liked a post Iput on there the day before.
It was a picture of a snowmanthat said, dance like Frosty, shine
like Rudolph, give like Santaand love like Jesus.
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I took a screenshot and raninto my daughter's room, woke her
up and showed her that grandmaliked my post.
I told her, see, she's okay.
She knows and this is howshe's telling us.
She's okay.
I then went and told my husband.
He looked up and said that wasnice of her and filed.
Of course he checked herFacebook account and it was fine.
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No hacks.
It didn't surprise me that shewas able to communicate through Facebook.
She was a fierce woman in life.
Why not in the afterlife?
I hope you, your family andeveryone listening to your podcast
has a great holiday season.
Thanks for all you do.
How cool was that?
Okay.
I wish I knew the grandma.
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She sounds awesome.
That's great.
Okay, so have you heard thatbefore of somebody liking something
on social media after they pass?
So I Have to say that one isnew for me.
I have heard many times thatchildren who've passed, if you keep
their phones, even if thephone's dead and in a drawer, you'll
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get text messages.
I've seen text messages fromchildren that have been gone for
years appear on their phonewith the date that it was sent five
years in the future from their passing.
That would give me chills.
I know it did.
So I've seen that.
I've also caught voices of thedeceased that I brought through in
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readings.
I've caught it on audio whilerecording readings as well.
Facebook.
That one's new.
That's kind of interesting.
But I do know that spirits canmanipulate electronics.
I've always said they'reelectric energy.
So that's why they can.
It's why they make babies.
Toys go off in the middle ofthe night that are electronic and
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they can play with things suchas that.
So.
And I understand that theadopted mom would have probably felt
a little territorial over herson in not wanting him to meet his
biological parents at thetime, because that's physical world
worry that we're gonna lose somebody.
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Or maybe she even lostchildren that she was pregnant with
in the past and had theseissues with abandonment and she was
afraid that he'd like thebiological mom more.
I mean, we can all see thepoint of view of, of the adopted
mom.
I think they played theircards really well, though, in getting
in touch with the biologicalfamily, but keeping the adopted family
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feeling comfortable in their bubble.
Cause that's gotta be a diceygame to play, trying to keep that
separation and keeping it fromcoming out.
And especially with thedaughter becoming ill, they had to
know what the family historywas for her wellbeing.
So that was essential.
I'm glad that she found herbirth mom.
I know that the adopted momwho's passed would be very happy
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to know that her child and herdaughter in law were getting the
most love possible and wasable to be there for the granddaughter
as well when she couldn't be.
So when they pass, they seethat other person almost as if it's
a teammate on a relay team andthey're handing the baton to the
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next runner and they're.
And they're saying, you know,go as fast as you can, do the best
you can.
And so after we pass, we do,the ego goes away and we see other
people in our children andgrandchildren's life as not only
benefits and assets, but moreof a gift, you know, in.
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In their lives.
And we appreciate it more.
I mean, I kind of don't blamethem for not wanting him to meet
his adopt or his biologicalparents because I would be a bit
territorial, too.
Like, I raised you.
I love you.
I'm your mom.
You don't need to know.
Right?
But that's good to know thatyour afterlife, the ego goes away,
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and you're like, you know what?
I'm happy they have somebodythat can be there for them.
The one exception that I'veseen, I like to share my little stories,
my.
The things that I get to seeand know.
Let me take a drink of water,because this one's hot.
Oh, God.
Okay, okay.
So the exception, I would say,is sometimes when I bring through
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a husband or a wife where itwas a love of their life that they
left in the physical world,you know, where they were.
So I call them salt and pepper shakers.
Where they almost seem likethey're made for each other.
You can't say one's namewithout the other.
Yeah, you just.
They're a unit.
You expect them together.
When one of those soulmates die.
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I have had them come throughbefore and say, don't date my friends,
and had the woman that I'mreading be currently dating one of
their friends kind of freak out.
But I'm like, you know, here'sthe thing.
You're my client.
You do what you want.
This is your call.
I just want you to know thisis what he's saying.
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And he sees your life do whatmakes you happy.
But sometimes it does seem totake that person time to adjust to
seeing that other person withtheir mate.
I feel like if you and dad,like, one of you guys died, right?
No, if you died, dad.
Oh, no, dad is here.
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He remarries or something.
He would haunt both of them.
So terrible.
You would haunt them both.
But no, it reminds me of thatsong, that country song I like.
I think it's what he'll never have.
I think that's what it's called.
And he's like, he can haveeverything in the house.
He can have the dog.
He can have my fishing hole.
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But, like, he'll never havethe love for you.
And I played it for you, andyou're like, couldn't be me.
They can't have any of my stuff.
Absolutely not my animal, notmy husband, not my.
No.
And it's funny because now I'mat an.
You know, dad and I aren'tnewly married, obviously.
We've been together for over30 years.
So it's been a long time.
But now when your girlfriendsstart Complimenting your husband
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because I've seen the gamut of passings.
I'm like, yeah, you're right.
He is a good guy and I don'tneed you to be there for him if I
don't.
Right.
Don't worry, I'll be here.
Thank you.
And I have had a number ofhusbands and wives just say not one
of my friends, which makes sense.
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Nobody I know like a strangerthey can deal with.
Like let me bring a strangerinto your life that'll remind you
of me in the right ways andthe good, good ways, but someone
that'll make you happy.
Not a friend, but not a friend.
So that's not all spouses whopass but a lot of the ones that I've
brought through that seems tobe a little bit of a.
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They're sticklers for stay outof the neighborhood.
I don't blame them.
So I just wanted to share thatwith the listeners because I'm never
surprised by it anymorebecause I've heard it too many times
with them.
So with, with the mother inlaw and father in law being passed,
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I'm so glad that Lisa'shusband did get to have a dad in
his life.
And the adopted fathersconsidering that his own biological
dad didn't want anything to dowith him.
Yeah.
And that's very sad.
So he, he got to have a fatherexperience in his life.
And you're have your friendsare having kids now in very, you
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know, dramatic Knots Landingsort of nighttime soap opera situations
that I'm observing and I seethe future in how that will unfold.
And this is an example wherethe dad just doesn't want that relationship.
But the mom is thrilled.
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And you know, maybe the momwas really young.
I mean often they are and theycouldn't take care of a child.
We understand that.
And I'm sure that she changedthe adopted parents lives or they
wouldn't have had that littleboy to raise.
So I think everybody wins here.
I love Lisa's openness.
So Lisa, keep calling in.
I love your stories.
They're, they're very, veryheartfelt and yeah, yeah.
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And I, and I hope her motherin law likes more posts on Facebook.
I think so too.
Now we know to check.
I guess don't shut down accounts.
Like I don't know how you getaround that.
Maybe people out there know.
But I haven't heard of anyonecoming through on Instagram and liking
anything yet.
Facebook.
We'll see.
Isn't that funny?
It's the evolution ofmediumship as well because I used
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to Hear when young guys wouldcome through Guitar Hero, it was
a time, early 2000s, like,they'd play Guitar Hero, they'd pass.
They'd talk about with theirbrother and wanting him to have their
Guitar Hero to play andconnect with them through the music.
As time moves on, I don't hearthat anymore.
Right.
Because things change.
Facebook, little.
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Little dull now.
You know, young people kind ofleft Facebook a lot.
Instagram now.
Right.
So you're going to see acertain generation that crosses that
will mention Facebook.
As I then go into theevolution of a younger generation
that when they pass, willmention Instagram.
Yeah.
So it's.
It's very interesting being a medium.
We see the ebb and flow of.
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Of pop culture.
It's going to be weird whenthey mentioned Tick Tock or something,
you know.
I may not be able to get thatone because I don't use it.
I don't know.
Like, it's got to be.
It's gotta be in my vernacular.
Yeah, true, true, true.
That's so funny.
But it's hard for me to getused to them mentioning.
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Usually they don't mentiontechnology unless it has to do with
communication on a phone.
There was an emotionalcommunication or the last phone call
they ever placed to them, orthat they see them listening to the
voicemail of their voice andthey're with them at that time.
Or they saw them post amemorial is what they'll call it.
It's not specific to Facebook,Instagram or anything.
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It's just you posted a memorial.
So that could be a website, itcould be Facebook.
They memorialized them.
That's what they'll say.
So it's interesting.
Let's go on to the next.
Okay, we're at 30 minutes.
Is that okay?
Huh?
Okay.
Hi, Allison, this is Mary Janefrom Washington State, and I have
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a Christmas memory story I'dlike to share.
I met my husband when I was 16.
I'm sorry, get a little choked up.
And he passed away when I was 49.
During the pandemic, I decidedto purge all of the clutter in my
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house and my basement, in my garage.
And I had come down to thelast three boxes, and it was Christmas
time.
It was a couple days before Christmas.
And the first box containedlove letters that we had written
to each other from high schoolalmost all the way up to right before
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his death.
And the second box containedsome Christmas gifts that he had
given me, but because he hadbeen hospitalized, I never opened
them.
And he had been.
He passed away in 2008.
So it had been quite a fewyears because this was 2020.
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I opened the Christmaspresents and they contained nightgowns
and they had a littleChristmas theme to them.
And underneath it was aChristmas card that he had written
me that I had never seen before.
And so that particularChristmas of 2020, I had received
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gifts from him and it waspretty amazing.
But I can't share anymorebecause I'm going to start crying.
But thank you.
And thank you to Joe and thewhole dubois crew for everything
that you do for those of uswho look forward to Tuesdays in your
podcast.
Thank you.
Bye.
I'm sorry.
You can never stop doing this podcast.
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Okay, everybody listening tothis, their hearts with Mary Jane.
I mean, what a beautiful soul.
And that was her soulmate thatyou were just talking about before.
Glad that she got the love story.
And I'm so sorry that he diedwhen she is 49.
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No matter how long your matelives, you never feel like it's long
enough when they're the rightone, you know, so that's just soul
crushing, really.
So the three boxes, the loveletters, the Christmas gifts, he
passed in 2008, and she didn'topen them until 2020.
So think about that Christmasof 2020.
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She would have been so lonelybecause we had lockdowns, we had
the pandemic, and you'd think,well, 12 years had passed.
It doesn't matter.
Not when it's that person, notwhen it's the one.
Not enough time could everpass to make the hurt go away, but
then to find the Christmas card.
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And I say this about spiritsand how evolved they are.
When he died in 08, there wasa sense of knowing that there would
be this time in the future,that she would need it more than
the rest of the time after he passed.
And that was going to be in 2020.
And so for all of those, thelove letters, the Christmas gifts,
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the Christmas card to thensurface for her was him spending
Christmas with her to makesure she wasn't alone and to let
her know that, you know, thatwas probably one of his happiest
times a year, was probably Christmas.
There's usually an underlyingmessage to the timing of it, but
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just gut wrenching to hear thestory and her voice and the love,
the comfort that I get though,knowing that when she does die, she's
going to see him and he'sgoing to be a young man and he'll
probably be standing therewith flowers, which is why flowers
are so important for thatfirst date and waiting for her and
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saying what took you so long.
And that's the real love storyright there.
We've got all the messy stuffhere in the physical world.
And I think people becomejaded and desensitized and they just
mentally shut down andemotionally shut down.
And I want to thank Mary Janefor sharing her husband with all
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of us and their love, becauseI think this inspired everyone out
there to, if you're married tothat person, give him a hug, tell
him what he means to you, ortell her, give her a kiss.
Also raising the bar for youngmen and women to not settle for anything
less than that.
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All those love letters, right.
I would reread them every day.
I wear those nightgowns every day.
Oh, my God.
I wouldn't care even if theywere really ugly.
I'd be like, he chose them.
And to know that his handstouched them and wrapped the paper.
The last to ever touch them,sealed the envelope.
The last envelope he'd seal inhis whole life.
Like, all of it.
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It's just so beautiful.
So, yeah, that I wanted to endwith that story because I think that's
the it factor right there in people.
Some people don't believe insoulmates, and I do.
And there are people out therethat believe there's 500 different
people that could be a goodmatch for you.
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I don't.
I just don't see energy like that.
I also feel like this is agood time to.
For this episode.
I know it's all Christmasstuff, but Valentine's Day, right,
Is in two weeks.
Yeah.
Guys, if you haven't made areservation, you're so sol.
Because all the reservationsare booked.
So make a picnic.
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Put a picnic together.
Do something.
Buy those flowers on the snap.
Yeah, gosh.
I know.
Because girls are so romantic, though.
Like, we're so romantic, andwe know what we want.
But guys are guys.
Like, I don't know.
It's so hard for them tounderstand why we love that.
Yeah.
Like, why we love it, but once.
But the guys that figure itout know how to speak every woman's
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language.
Yeah.
Because they figure it out.
Definitely don't settle.
I like that theme.
Like that don't settle message.
If they don't make you feelwhole when they're around your dad.
From the time we were dating,when he.
I would stare at the doorwherever we were at, and I'd have,
like, 10 people with me, 10 friends.
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We were young, having fun, butI wasn't.
There was something missinguntil I saw him walk through the
door, you know, and that'sreally what she's talking about.
I'm glad she had the love ofher life, though, because I do counsel
a lot of men and women whonever find that person.
And I think often people panicwhen they're ready to get married
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and have kids and they don'thold out for the right one.
Or they have walls that go upand they're sort of guarded, jaded,
and certain that that person'snot out there.
But then that personapproaches them and they deflect
them or repel them as an actof self preservation because they're
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not going to change their ways.
And so they did.
They do it to themselves whenthey don't try to give and bend for
that other person.
I changed a lot to be withdad, and dad changed a lot to be
with me.
Yeah, we're very the same in alot of ways, but we're very different,
too.
Well, I feel like a lot ofpeople look at someone that checks
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the boxes, but I think afeeling is everything.
Yeah.
So they're not going to checkall your boxes.
Right.
And they can work on it.
Right.
Like it's that feeling likeyou're talking about looking at the
door for him to walk in orit's not fun for you.
Mary Jane made me grow.
I know.
I was starting to well up, too.
I was like, oh, my God, I hope.
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I hope I find that.
Oh, my God, yes.
But no, you're so right.
And so I think a lot of peopledon't know what it looks like or
feels like because theyhaven't observed it or felt it.
So for all the people thatdon't know what it looks like or
feels like, you just heardMary Jane share her story with you.
Now you've heard what that is,and that person is worth waiting
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for.
And I think the older you get,the bigger your checklist gets on
what you want in a person, because.
Yeah.
And so I'm glad I met your dadat 20.
I was still wearing a baseballcap backwards with, like, the Tasmanian
Devil on it, like, hittingbars, wearing my Reeboks, you know,
it was just like a different time.
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I'm glad I met him at 20because I hadn't grown up yet.
So I was able to grow with himand he was able to grow with me.
And so that can be anadvantage in being younger, but there's
also advantages in every stageof life.
And when you're on the samepage, you're on the same page and
you know it.
And if you're dating someonethat you're Forcing it to make it
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work.
Eventually it's not going to work.
Yeah.
And.
And Mary Jane didn't have todo that.
And sometimes we worry aboutwhat about when we're 80 and how
we look.
Well, how do you know you'regonna make 80, you know?
Yeah.
Sometimes you die at 49.
Like her husband.
You gotta live in the now.
You know, dad just asked me.
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He's like, wanna go to theRenaissance Festival?
He's like, yeah, I wanna go tothe Renaissance Festival.
Like, you know, I mean, everyyear there's like certain things
that you want to do.
You want to live.
And I've always tried to bethat way, which is why we did so
much with you girls.
We wanted you to experienceeverything every year.
Right.
And.
And so I hope people out theredo that for the guys out there.
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Buy the damn flowers if you'regonna take her time.
And, and you want to leave avery positive impression, even if
it doesn't end up working out.
You look like a gentleman.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Your.
Your emotional value, your.
Your value as, as a man justelevates when you're considerate.
Yeah.
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And you're thoughtful.
Right.
And so it doesn't getembarrassing or something because
there are some girls outthere, but I'd say it's more rare
than the majority.
They know when they talk to agirl if she's going to be someone
that's put off by flowers.
I don't understand those girls.
I'm all about it.
So even a handwritten littlenote, I would just melt over.
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Right.
Well.
And you shouldn't have to itto the person you're dating.
And then if they don't pick upon your cues, then, you know, that
can be a problem.
But, you know, sometimes guysdon't know and they need to be told.
Absolutely.
One of the things I tellwomen, and I find it so interesting,
especially with older womenwho are super accomplished and they've
learned to do everything themselves.
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I'm like, from time to time,let them open a jar for you.
I know you can open the jar,but it makes them feel good.
And if you love someone andsomething so simple makes them feel
good, it really doesn't makeyou laugh.
Lesser a woman because you didsomething to show love.
You know what I'm saying?
So I hope for Valentine's Daypeople go all out, make those reservations
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a good quick out.
Definitely a picnic andplanning that bottle of wine.
Even the stupid foil heart balloons.
We love that stuff.
So even just like a movienight where I'm cooking Dinner for
them in.
Yeah.
Like it doesn't.
Yeah.
Have to be crazy.
No, I.
And I love cards.
Even though people are allabout electron now because when I
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bring people through and evenher story, that card meant everything
to her to get that day.
And I saved dad's cards in myhope chest.
And you know, one way or theother, he says we're going to die
on the same day.
But one of us will go first.
Those will be there to helpthe other one get through days, you
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know, And I think even that'sreally special.
So get that card.
I hope that you guys go on thesame day.
Oh my gosh.
Oh my gosh.
I'll give you the short listof people that you can keep away
from your dad.
No, he definitely would not.
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No, I'm kidding.
No, some men, I mean, some mendon't know how to be alone.
And I like, that's okay.
He probably just send himselfto space or something.
Check out the moon.
I don't know.
Try and get near me up there.
That's so funny.
So go all out on Valentine'sDay or ladies, make something, something
special.
You can get heart shapedcutters for pasta.
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Make heart shaped ravioli.
That's really cool.
Some restaurants do that.
Yeah.
Yeah, that's always cool.
And, and the movie Valentine'sDay, there's like a list of just
romance, music, movies thatyou can watch and, and a bottle of
champagne.
Like it's just not that hard,you know, it's just.
It makes us feel special.
And if your girl or your guyis a Leo, give it to them publicly.
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It makes them feel happy andspecial and they need it to be a
public overture.
Totally, totally.
So thank you for being here.
I always love your advice andI love how you are so sensitive and
such an empath that you getall teary eyed when it comes to.
When it comes to my colors.
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Yeah, this actually wasperfect, wasn't it?
I love this, this.
So where can my listeners find you?
I mean I have a website,sophiaduboisphoto.com or my Instagram
Sophia Dubois photo.
So if you want to check out myphotography, I'll be there.
Awesome.
Multi talented.
(45:13):
Yeah.
So thank you to my listenersfor tuning in.
Tune in next week for a freshepisode of the Dead Life.
My.
My guest will be TalindaBennington, the wife of Chester Bennington,
the late frontman of Lincol Park.
So she'll be on the showsharing with us her journey and what
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she does to heal through her loss.
I'm Allison Dubois.
This is the Dead Life.
And to all of my believers outthere, don't stop believing.
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Today on the Dead Life, I haveSophia in studio to talk about happy
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Sometimes mothers know best.
That's the same.
It's all I made the thing.
I know you did.
And we're so excited.
So we felt like the datingapps are just an absolute no go these
days because you've taken afew turns on it and you know what
it's all about.
And there's people of all agesthat seem to have trouble meeting
(01:56):
quality people.
And I've done a lot ofreadings with amazing, amazing men
and women and they always sayto me, I wish you could match me
with someone that works withmy sign or my energy.
So there's going to be alittle bit of astrology inflection
in this where people's sunsign will be on their name tag along
(02:18):
with their name and we'regoing to see how the elements all
interact together.
There's going to be FredAstaire Dance Studio for dance lessons
with some of the people thatare coupling up and so people can
get to know each other.
It'll be at Handlebar Jay inScottsdale, which is legendary Arizona
family owned place that we'vebeen going Forever.
(02:41):
And it's just really great.
So we're going to have a good time.
Appetizers.
You get a divination love potion.
Divination 22 love potioncocktail as well.
Maybe a matchmaker.
We have some pretty greatpeople signing in.
Tarot card reader.
We've got like already a 30something plastic surgeon, we've
(03:03):
got a restaurateur, We've gota lot of beautiful girls that have
signed up and a lot of quality gentlemen.
So I'm looking forward to this.
But it's also a good reason today drink in Arizona, which is part
of our pastime.
So I love it.
So we thought today it wouldbe nice to share some of the happy
ghost stories sinceeverybody's always trying to show
(03:25):
the dark side of the afterlife.
And I, I really like the deadand I find them to be, you know,
they're the best versions of themselves.
They're very focused and clearon what matters and priorities.
And to me they just makeeverything so much simpler for us.
(03:46):
And I wanted to show howhealing they can be for those of
us who are left behind.
So let's go ahead and startwith our first call in.
Hi Allison, my name is Kim andI've called you before and you've
actually read my experience onone of your podcasts not too long
ago regarding a pregnancy lossmy husband and I had about eight
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years ago where we had namedher Noel because she was due around
Christmas time.
And our Noel ornament out ofthe blue one night started swaying
back and forth and then whenmy husband waved at it, it started
moving faster.
And I have another experienceto share with you that I thought
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was amazing.
My mom and daughter and I goto the Nutcracker Ballet every December.
It's been a tradition since Iwas about 10 years old.
And we were at the Nutcrackerthis past Sunday and I just kind
of had a little thought runacross my mind that if Noel was with
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us, she would be here dressedup like all the other little girls
in the audience and it wouldhave been another tradition with
her that we would have had.
And I briefly mentioned it tomy mom afterwards when her and I
went out to dinner and on ourway home we were driving and the
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car in front of me, thelicense plate said Noel and the number
five.
And I've had license platescome to me before that are very telling
or spiritual regarding certainindividuals that I lost that I've
been thinking about.
And a license plate will be infront of me and it's that person's
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Name, or It will say Angel 33,which is my.
My number.
I love threes.
I see them all the time.
And Tom McMullen has actuallydone one of my readings and said
that my.
My number is 3.
My birth chart number.
So, anyways, I just wanted toshare that with you because it made
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me feel extremely emotional,but in a happy way that she's still
here with us.
I hope you have a greatholiday, and I look forward to listening
to your next podcast.
Thank you.
So, I love Kim.
Kim's got great energy.
Yeah, she does.
I mean, she'll be a great mom.
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I don't know if she has otherkids, but she should have many.
We need all those great momsout there.
She has a lot of love to givethe pregnancy loss.
This is a hard one for womento live through because it's something
that continues to hit you in waves.
I'm sure as you see daughters,as yours would get older and you
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see other people's daughtersof that same age, that would be gut
wrenching to recognize that that's.
And when we take the three ofyou out, when you were little girls,
I'd catch women sometimeslooking at you.
You know, they'd complimentyou on your dress, and we took you
to the nutcrackers.
So I know what it feels liketo take my little girls there.
(07:12):
And so I.
I really do understand thelevel of pain she must feel.
I will say that pregnancylosses tend to recycle back into
the family.
If she was, you know, were toget pregnant again and have a child,
you know, that soul's reallyjust waiting for a body strong enough
or under the rightcircumstances to make entry into
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the world.
I'm sure that that littlegirl's soul would find its way into
her arms.
And so I do hope that for herand her husband and with the little
girl leaving so many signs forthem, and I think it's probably a
little girl in conjunctionwith a grandmother or Kim's grandmother
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that are making some of thesethings happen.
Almost as if to say, don'tgive up.
You know, she's still part of you.
She's still part of your life.
Don't give up.
She's not going away.
And I'm sure the people thatlove Kim who have passed are trying
to find a way to get thatlittle girl's soul into the family.
Yeah, I think that.
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I think you're right, becauseI know you said that they recycle
back in sometimes as like, anephew, niece, cousins, what, you
know, whatever it may be.
But it sounds like with all ofthe signs, that she is just waiting
to be her little baby.
Yes.
Yeah.
Saying I'm not gone.
I'm still there, Mommy, and Ihear you.
I see you.
And especially with the Noelornaments starting to sway when the
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dad was.
Was talking to the little girlspirit or that it started reacting
to his voice, to me, that's avery active energy that's passed.
And I'll say this.
I'll make a distinction.
A lot of children who crosswhen I bring through, say, the grownups
on the other side, thechildren that don't make it into
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the world where they grow apersonality and become part of memories
with the parents, thegrandparents, a very limited existence
in their life.
In pregnancy with the mother,they don't tend to show up in readings.
The fact that this child is soactively letting them know she's
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there tells me that she'strying to make her way back into
the family and into the world,that there's something for her to
do and for them to not give up.
And so that's the distinctionI want to show.
There's sometimes when astillborn or a miscarriage just happens,
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you'll see more activitybecause that soul's undecided on
whether or not it's going tomake entry into the world still.
And I think there are somethat may decide the timing's not
right or, you know, they hold back.
But this little girl Noelseems to know where she belongs and
that she belongs with them, so.
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Yeah.
Yeah.
And I just wanted to add, I dolove the part about the license plate,
because my dad let me know hewas around you.
I've always told you.
And they do communicatethrough license plates.
So I think her saying thatwill resonate with a lot of people
because it'll be at just theright time when you're thinking of
the person where there's no coincidences.
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It's very obvious.
And you graduated college inMay of 2020.
So it was in Covid, and wecouldn't have your party, you know,
because everybod went into lockdown.
So dad and I toddled off oneday and just bought you a car to
surprise you because we feltreally bad about that and we were
really proud of you beingmagna or summa cum laude.
(10:52):
Yeah.
And.
And graduating in three years.
And we're like, oh, my God,she works so hard.
You know, this can't be theway it ends.
So we wanted to get you thisreally cool car.
And the car, the license platecomes and we look at it and My dad
always said, que sera, sera.
He's like, whatever will be,will be.
He also loved Doris Daybecause he was a ballroom dancer
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and he had those albums in hisdance studio.
So when I saw your licenseplate, and it was like the letter
K, the number five that lookedlike an.
S, and, hey, stop tellingeveryone my license plate.
Anyway, just kidding.
It basically spells out que sera.
Yeah, yeah.
And.
And sorry about that, honey.
I'm like, hey, and.
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And I was so touched becauseI've always told you you're the most
like him.
You remind you're a dancer.
Like he was a dancer.
You're funny.
You got the dimples.
You know, I.
I've just always thought youwere a lot like my.
My dad's positive energy.
And so it was as if my dad wassaying, I'm there.
I see these things happening.
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You know, I see her.
And it was just really comforting.
So I hope there's a lot ofpeople out there that get some beautiful
message through a licenseplate as well.
I know there are people.
As long as cars and licenseplates have existed, we know when
it's a message for us, and Ithink that's really special.
So let's go to the next one.
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Hi, Allison.
My name is Patty.
I just got done listening toyour most recent podcast.
I believe it was from theDecember 10th about the Christmas
stories.
I've called in with a coupledifferent stories to share because
I way too much and overshare.
But anyways, I thought I wouldtry one more time.
I wanted to share this with you.
(12:40):
I lost my dad in January of2022, and I have an Etsy business.
So one night I was in the kitchen.
It was late.
I was up by myself making myorders, and there were some helium
balloons that we'd had in thehouse for, like, three weeks already.
They'd been on the ground.
(13:01):
They hadn't moved.
You know, like, they don't.
When the helium comes, youknow, out of them, they just kind
of sit in the ground, butstill inflated.
So I'm at the.
At the.
My stove, and I'm making mystuff, and all of a sudden a balloon
comes over and hits me up inmy upper thigh.
So I turned around quickly, myfoot hit it and kind of kicked it
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over by the dining table.
And I looked at it, and my airconditioning wasn't on.
You know, there was no reason.
There was no draft.
There was.
You know, your mind goes.
You try to figure out all this.
Could that have happened?
So I needed a witness, and oneof my sons happened to be awake.
So I called him out.
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I'm like, watch this.
I was just trying and helpingbecause I get messages and see things
all the time, and I'm alwaysby myself.
So my son comes out, and Isaid, just watch this.
And so I said, hey, dad, ifthat was you, can you bring that
balloon over to my feet?
And the balloon slowly butsurely crept across the floor and
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came right to my feet.
My son just looked at me andhe goes, mom, I don't know what to
do with that.
But anyways, I thought thatwas fun, that my dad was like, hey,
you know, I'm in the kitchenwith you, too.
I see what you're doing.
Anyways, thanks so much.
I love your podcast.
You guys are both awesome, andyou guys have a great Christmas.
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Thanks so much.
So, Patti, so much fun there.
And I love how her nature isto plug into her intuitiveness and
own it, but also to get asecond opinion.
She's been alone so many times.
I get it.
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Well, and often we will bealone because they're trying to get
our attention, and when wehave other people around, our attention's
absorbed by that person.
Yeah.
So I love that, you know, withher dad dying January 2022.
So sorry about that, Patti.
I know how painful that iswhen you're working on your Etsy
business, which is probablysomething that you really love and
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enjoy and maybe even think ofyour dad while you're doing it, maybe
as a source of inspiration,because Etsy's got a lot of cool
little inspirational baubleson it.
I like going on it myself.
I love that she's both aware, not.
Not easily saying, oh, that'sdefinitely him.
She's weighing it just to make sure.
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And I think that's very commonhuman nature.
So making sure the AC is noton things of that nature.
And then she called her sonin, who then says, I don't really
know what to do with this.
After she asks her, makes arequest to her dad.
And the difference betweenthis and some other people is she
made a request from her dadfrom an emotional place.
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When you make that requestfrom an emotional place, they will
accommodate you when youchallenge them.
And it comes from a place ofchallenge that's in your head that
you're still going to end up dismissing.
They'll pull their energy backin signs.
So I just want people to understand.
Patty is an example of a veryhealthy view on life after death.
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And then the interaction ofwith her father still being around
her and what the message is.
He's trying to get across toher the way Patty addresses this,
very healthy.
He'll continue to give hersigns and messages.
But again, if somebody comesin with a challenge to the other
side, they sort of roll theireyes and pull their energy back because
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they know that you're socaught up in your head that you're
making too many of themistakes that they regretted making
themselves and not plugging inemotionally and trusting that intuitive
voice in the center of yourheart and your soul.
And so I just wanted to showthat distinction for people, because
some people will say, well, Iasked my dad to come through.
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It's like, no, you told him,if he's actually there, knock that
off the table.
And in those instances, they just.
They're not gonna engage youbecause you're not getting it.
It's not coming from the right place.
Or they're doing it to prove a point.
Right?
Yeah.
Right.
But, yeah, she was just like,hey, dad, like, I think it was you.
Yeah, say hi to your grandson.
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You know, and there's a lot oflayers of energy in people, in how
we approach life after death.
And the other side.
Some people are really easy tocommunicate with for the other side
because we do project ourenergy, and we're aware of their
presence around us and theirparticipation in our life.
And then there are people thatare stuck in their head and they
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exercise very littleemotionally or in the center of their
chest, in their heart.
And it's very difficult forpeople who've crossed to connect
with people who are stuck intheir head.
And if you don't adjust yourenergy, you're not going to get the
signs in the way that you wantto, where it actually serves you
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and elevates you.
You'll get signs all day longand dismiss them.
And after a while, they'll start.
They'll stop coming around.
But for Patty, her dad's goingto keep popping in and being like,
hey, honey, you know, I justwanted to make sure that, you know,
you're not too sad because youstill have a dad.
You're not an orphan.
They say that all the time.
You're not an orphan.
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Stop acting like one.
You know?
Yeah.
So let's go on to the next caller.
I'm really liking my Collins,and sorry that our Collins got backed
up.
Some of these are obviouslyfrom December.
Yeah.
Hi, Allison and Joe.
This is Lisa from Arizona.
Thank you for having me.
On previous podcasts.
I have another story I thoughtyou might like, so here you go.
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My husband is adopted, and myin laws were adamant that he never
find his birth parents.
When our younger daughterbecame very ill, we decided to find
them for medical reasons.
My in laws made it clear thatthey still did not want us to find
them.
We were able to find both hisbiological parents, but his father
did not want to have arelationship with us.
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His birth mom was thrilledthat we found her and we've had a
relationship with her for thelast 14 years.
We never did let his adoptiveparents know.
My father in law passed awayin 2021 and my mother in law in 2022.
Last November, my olderdaughter got married the day after
Thanksgiving.
We absolutely did what yousaid and made sure they were included
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in the wedding with jewelryand pictures.
Because both of his parentshad passed, we were able to have
his birth mom come to thewedding where we introduced her as
my husband's mom.
One evening a few days afterthe wedding, I was sitting with my
younger daughter and she wastelling me that she felt weird about
introducing the birth mom asmy husband's mom.
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She felt it was a betrayal to grandma.
I agreed.
It felt uncomfortable for me too.
Just then our dog started witha low growl at nothing we could see.
I told her, grandma's here andshe's listening.
I also told her how I'velearned from your podcast that once
people pass, they see theirlife through others eyes and that
I think now she has adifferent perspective and she's okay
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with us knowing the birth mom.
She knows that that findingher did not change our love for her.
The next morning I got anotification from Facebook that my
mother in law liked a post Iput on there the day before.
It was a picture of a snowmanthat said, dance like Frosty, shine
like Rudolph, give like Santaand love like Jesus.
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I took a screenshot and raninto my daughter's room, woke her
up and showed her that grandmaliked my post.
I told her, see, she's okay.
She knows and this is howshe's telling us.
She's okay.
I then went and told my husband.
He looked up and said that wasnice of her and filed.
Of course he checked herFacebook account and it was fine.
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No hacks.
It didn't surprise me that shewas able to communicate through Facebook.
She was a fierce woman in life.
Why not in the afterlife?
I hope you, your family andeveryone listening to your podcast
has a great holiday season.
Thanks for all you do.
How cool was that?
Okay.
I wish I knew the grandma.
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She sounds awesome.
That's great.
Okay, so have you heard thatbefore of somebody liking something
on social media after they pass?
So I Have to say that one isnew for me.
I have heard many times thatchildren who've passed, if you keep
their phones, even if thephone's dead and in a drawer, you'll
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get text messages.
I've seen text messages fromchildren that have been gone for
years appear on their phonewith the date that it was sent five
years in the future from their passing.
That would give me chills.
I know it did.
So I've seen that.
I've also caught voices of thedeceased that I brought through in
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readings.
I've caught it on audio whilerecording readings as well.
Facebook.
That one's new.
That's kind of interesting.
But I do know that spirits canmanipulate electronics.
I've always said they'reelectric energy.
So that's why they can.
It's why they make babies.
Toys go off in the middle ofthe night that are electronic and
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they can play with things suchas that.
So.
And I understand that theadopted mom would have probably felt
a little territorial over herson in not wanting him to meet his
biological parents at thetime, because that's physical world
worry that we're gonna lose somebody.
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Or maybe she even lostchildren that she was pregnant with
in the past and had theseissues with abandonment and she was
afraid that he'd like thebiological mom more.
I mean, we can all see thepoint of view of, of the adopted
mom.
I think they played theircards really well, though, in getting
in touch with the biologicalfamily, but keeping the adopted family
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feeling comfortable in their bubble.
Cause that's gotta be a diceygame to play, trying to keep that
separation and keeping it fromcoming out.
And especially with thedaughter becoming ill, they had to
know what the family historywas for her wellbeing.
So that was essential.
I'm glad that she found herbirth mom.
I know that the adopted momwho's passed would be very happy
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to know that her child and herdaughter in law were getting the
most love possible and wasable to be there for the granddaughter
as well when she couldn't be.
So when they pass, they seethat other person almost as if it's
a teammate on a relay team andthey're handing the baton to the
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next runner and they're.
And they're saying, you know,go as fast as you can, do the best
you can.
And so after we pass, we do,the ego goes away and we see other
people in our children andgrandchildren's life as not only
benefits and assets, but moreof a gift, you know, in.
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In their lives.
And we appreciate it more.
I mean, I kind of don't blamethem for not wanting him to meet
his adopt or his biologicalparents because I would be a bit
territorial, too.
Like, I raised you.
I love you.
I'm your mom.
You don't need to know.
Right?
But that's good to know thatyour afterlife, the ego goes away,
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and you're like, you know what?
I'm happy they have somebodythat can be there for them.
The one exception that I'veseen, I like to share my little stories,
my.
The things that I get to seeand know.
Let me take a drink of water,because this one's hot.
Oh, God.
Okay, okay.
So the exception, I would say,is sometimes when I bring through
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a husband or a wife where itwas a love of their life that they
left in the physical world,you know, where they were.
So I call them salt and pepper shakers.
Where they almost seem likethey're made for each other.
You can't say one's namewithout the other.
Yeah, you just.
They're a unit.
You expect them together.
When one of those soulmates die.
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I have had them come throughbefore and say, don't date my friends,
and had the woman that I'mreading be currently dating one of
their friends kind of freak out.
But I'm like, you know, here'sthe thing.
You're my client.
You do what you want.
This is your call.
I just want you to know thisis what he's saying.
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And he sees your life do whatmakes you happy.
But sometimes it does seem totake that person time to adjust to
seeing that other person withtheir mate.
I feel like if you and dad,like, one of you guys died, right?
No, if you died, dad.
Oh, no, dad is here.
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He remarries or something.
He would haunt both of them.
So terrible.
You would haunt them both.
But no, it reminds me of thatsong, that country song I like.
I think it's what he'll never have.
I think that's what it's called.
And he's like, he can haveeverything in the house.
He can have the dog.
He can have my fishing hole.
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But, like, he'll never havethe love for you.
And I played it for you, andyou're like, couldn't be me.
They can't have any of my stuff.
Absolutely not my animal, notmy husband, not my.
No.
And it's funny because now I'mat an.
You know, dad and I aren'tnewly married, obviously.
We've been together for over30 years.
So it's been a long time.
But now when your girlfriendsstart Complimenting your husband
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because I've seen the gamut of passings.
I'm like, yeah, you're right.
He is a good guy and I don'tneed you to be there for him if I
don't.
Right.
Don't worry, I'll be here.
Thank you.
And I have had a number ofhusbands and wives just say not one
of my friends, which makes sense.
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Nobody I know like a strangerthey can deal with.
Like let me bring a strangerinto your life that'll remind you
of me in the right ways andthe good, good ways, but someone
that'll make you happy.
Not a friend, but not a friend.
So that's not all spouses whopass but a lot of the ones that I've
brought through that seems tobe a little bit of a.
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They're sticklers for stay outof the neighborhood.
I don't blame them.
So I just wanted to share thatwith the listeners because I'm never
surprised by it anymorebecause I've heard it too many times
with them.
So with, with the mother inlaw and father in law being passed,
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I'm so glad that Lisa'shusband did get to have a dad in
his life.
And the adopted fathersconsidering that his own biological
dad didn't want anything to dowith him.
Yeah.
And that's very sad.
So he, he got to have a fatherexperience in his life.
And you're have your friendsare having kids now in very, you
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know, dramatic Knots Landingsort of nighttime soap opera situations
that I'm observing and I seethe future in how that will unfold.
And this is an example wherethe dad just doesn't want that relationship.
But the mom is thrilled.
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And you know, maybe the momwas really young.
I mean often they are and theycouldn't take care of a child.
We understand that.
And I'm sure that she changedthe adopted parents lives or they
wouldn't have had that littleboy to raise.
So I think everybody wins here.
I love Lisa's openness.
So Lisa, keep calling in.
I love your stories.
They're, they're very, veryheartfelt and yeah, yeah.
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And I, and I hope her motherin law likes more posts on Facebook.
I think so too.
Now we know to check.
I guess don't shut down accounts.
Like I don't know how you getaround that.
Maybe people out there know.
But I haven't heard of anyonecoming through on Instagram and liking
anything yet.
Facebook.
We'll see.
Isn't that funny?
It's the evolution ofmediumship as well because I used
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to Hear when young guys wouldcome through Guitar Hero, it was
a time, early 2000s, like,they'd play Guitar Hero, they'd pass.
They'd talk about with theirbrother and wanting him to have their
Guitar Hero to play andconnect with them through the music.
As time moves on, I don't hearthat anymore.
Right.
Because things change.
Facebook, little.
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Little dull now.
You know, young people kind ofleft Facebook a lot.
Instagram now.
Right.
So you're going to see acertain generation that crosses that
will mention Facebook.
As I then go into theevolution of a younger generation
that when they pass, willmention Instagram.
Yeah.
So it's.
It's very interesting being a medium.
We see the ebb and flow of.
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Of pop culture.
It's going to be weird whenthey mentioned Tick Tock or something,
you know.
I may not be able to get thatone because I don't use it.
I don't know.
Like, it's got to be.
It's gotta be in my vernacular.
Yeah, true, true, true.
That's so funny.
But it's hard for me to getused to them mentioning.
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Usually they don't mentiontechnology unless it has to do with
communication on a phone.
There was an emotionalcommunication or the last phone call
they ever placed to them, orthat they see them listening to the
voicemail of their voice andthey're with them at that time.
Or they saw them post amemorial is what they'll call it.
It's not specific to Facebook,Instagram or anything.
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It's just you posted a memorial.
So that could be a website, itcould be Facebook.
They memorialized them.
That's what they'll say.
So it's interesting.
Let's go on to the next.
Okay, we're at 30 minutes.
Is that okay?
Huh?
Okay.
Hi, Allison, this is Mary Janefrom Washington State, and I have
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a Christmas memory story I'dlike to share.
I met my husband when I was 16.
I'm sorry, get a little choked up.
And he passed away when I was 49.
During the pandemic, I decidedto purge all of the clutter in my
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house and my basement, in my garage.
And I had come down to thelast three boxes, and it was Christmas
time.
It was a couple days before Christmas.
And the first box containedlove letters that we had written
to each other from high schoolalmost all the way up to right before
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his death.
And the second box containedsome Christmas gifts that he had
given me, but because he hadbeen hospitalized, I never opened
them.
And he had been.
He passed away in 2008.
So it had been quite a fewyears because this was 2020.
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I opened the Christmaspresents and they contained nightgowns
and they had a littleChristmas theme to them.
And underneath it was aChristmas card that he had written
me that I had never seen before.
And so that particularChristmas of 2020, I had received
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gifts from him and it waspretty amazing.
But I can't share anymorebecause I'm going to start crying.
But thank you.
And thank you to Joe and thewhole dubois crew for everything
that you do for those of uswho look forward to Tuesdays in your
podcast.
Thank you.
Bye.
I'm sorry.
You can never stop doing this podcast.
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Okay, everybody listening tothis, their hearts with Mary Jane.
I mean, what a beautiful soul.
And that was her soulmate thatyou were just talking about before.
Glad that she got the love story.
And I'm so sorry that he diedwhen she is 49.
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No matter how long your matelives, you never feel like it's long
enough when they're the rightone, you know, so that's just soul
crushing, really.
So the three boxes, the loveletters, the Christmas gifts, he
passed in 2008, and she didn'topen them until 2020.
So think about that Christmasof 2020.
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She would have been so lonelybecause we had lockdowns, we had
the pandemic, and you'd think,well, 12 years had passed.
It doesn't matter.
Not when it's that person, notwhen it's the one.
Not enough time could everpass to make the hurt go away, but
then to find the Christmas card.
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And I say this about spiritsand how evolved they are.
When he died in 08, there wasa sense of knowing that there would
be this time in the future,that she would need it more than
the rest of the time after he passed.
And that was going to be in 2020.
And so for all of those, thelove letters, the Christmas gifts,
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the Christmas card to thensurface for her was him spending
Christmas with her to makesure she wasn't alone and to let
her know that, you know, thatwas probably one of his happiest
times a year, was probably Christmas.
There's usually an underlyingmessage to the timing of it, but
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just gut wrenching to hear thestory and her voice and the love,
the comfort that I get though,knowing that when she does die, she's
going to see him and he'sgoing to be a young man and he'll
probably be standing therewith flowers, which is why flowers
are so important for thatfirst date and waiting for her and
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saying what took you so long.
And that's the real love storyright there.
We've got all the messy stuffhere in the physical world.
And I think people becomejaded and desensitized and they just
mentally shut down andemotionally shut down.
And I want to thank Mary Janefor sharing her husband with all
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of us and their love, becauseI think this inspired everyone out
there to, if you're married tothat person, give him a hug, tell
him what he means to you, ortell her, give her a kiss.
Also raising the bar for youngmen and women to not settle for anything
less than that.
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All those love letters, right.
I would reread them every day.
I wear those nightgowns every day.
Oh, my God.
I wouldn't care even if theywere really ugly.
I'd be like, he chose them.
And to know that his handstouched them and wrapped the paper.
The last to ever touch them,sealed the envelope.
The last envelope he'd seal inhis whole life.
Like, all of it.
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It's just so beautiful.
So, yeah, that I wanted to endwith that story because I think that's
the it factor right there in people.
Some people don't believe insoulmates, and I do.
And there are people out therethat believe there's 500 different
people that could be a goodmatch for you.
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I don't.
I just don't see energy like that.
I also feel like this is agood time to.
For this episode.
I know it's all Christmasstuff, but Valentine's Day, right,
Is in two weeks.
Yeah.
Guys, if you haven't made areservation, you're so sol.
Because all the reservationsare booked.
So make a picnic.
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Put a picnic together.
Do something.
Buy those flowers on the snap.
Yeah, gosh.
I know.
Because girls are so romantic, though.
Like, we're so romantic, andwe know what we want.
But guys are guys.
Like, I don't know.
It's so hard for them tounderstand why we love that.
Yeah.
Like, why we love it, but once.
But the guys that figure itout know how to speak every woman's
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language.
Yeah.
Because they figure it out.
Definitely don't settle.
I like that theme.
Like that don't settle message.
If they don't make you feelwhole when they're around your dad.
From the time we were dating,when he.
I would stare at the doorwherever we were at, and I'd have,
like, 10 people with me, 10 friends.
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We were young, having fun, butI wasn't.
There was something missinguntil I saw him walk through the
door, you know, and that'sreally what she's talking about.
I'm glad she had the love ofher life, though, because I do counsel
a lot of men and women whonever find that person.
And I think often people panicwhen they're ready to get married
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and have kids and they don'thold out for the right one.
Or they have walls that go upand they're sort of guarded, jaded,
and certain that that person'snot out there.
But then that personapproaches them and they deflect
them or repel them as an actof self preservation because they're
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not going to change their ways.
And so they did.
They do it to themselves whenthey don't try to give and bend for
that other person.
I changed a lot to be withdad, and dad changed a lot to be
with me.
Yeah, we're very the same in alot of ways, but we're very different,
too.
Well, I feel like a lot ofpeople look at someone that checks
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the boxes, but I think afeeling is everything.
Yeah.
So they're not going to checkall your boxes.
Right.
And they can work on it.
Right.
Like it's that feeling likeyou're talking about looking at the
door for him to walk in orit's not fun for you.
Mary Jane made me grow.
I know.
I was starting to well up, too.
I was like, oh, my God, I hope.
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I hope I find that.
Oh, my God, yes.
But no, you're so right.
And so I think a lot of peopledon't know what it looks like or
feels like because theyhaven't observed it or felt it.
So for all the people thatdon't know what it looks like or
feels like, you just heardMary Jane share her story with you.
Now you've heard what that is,and that person is worth waiting
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for.
And I think the older you get,the bigger your checklist gets on
what you want in a person, because.
Yeah.
And so I'm glad I met your dadat 20.
I was still wearing a baseballcap backwards with, like, the Tasmanian
Devil on it, like, hittingbars, wearing my Reeboks, you know,
it was just like a different time.
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I'm glad I met him at 20because I hadn't grown up yet.
So I was able to grow with himand he was able to grow with me.
And so that can be anadvantage in being younger, but there's
also advantages in every stageof life.
And when you're on the samepage, you're on the same page and
you know it.
And if you're dating someonethat you're Forcing it to make it
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work.
Eventually it's not going to work.
Yeah.
And.
And Mary Jane didn't have todo that.
And sometimes we worry aboutwhat about when we're 80 and how
we look.
Well, how do you know you'regonna make 80, you know?
Yeah.
Sometimes you die at 49.
Like her husband.
You gotta live in the now.
You know, dad just asked me.
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He's like, wanna go to theRenaissance Festival?
He's like, yeah, I wanna go tothe Renaissance Festival.
Like, you know, I mean, everyyear there's like certain things
that you want to do.
You want to live.
And I've always tried to bethat way, which is why we did so
much with you girls.
We wanted you to experienceeverything every year.
Right.
And.
And so I hope people out theredo that for the guys out there.
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Buy the damn flowers if you'regonna take her time.
And, and you want to leave avery positive impression, even if
it doesn't end up working out.
You look like a gentleman.
Absolutely.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Your.
Your emotional value, your.
Your value as, as a man justelevates when you're considerate.
Yeah.
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And you're thoughtful.
Right.
And so it doesn't getembarrassing or something because
there are some girls outthere, but I'd say it's more rare
than the majority.
They know when they talk to agirl if she's going to be someone
that's put off by flowers.
I don't understand those girls.
I'm all about it.
So even a handwritten littlenote, I would just melt over.
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Right.
Well.
And you shouldn't have to itto the person you're dating.
And then if they don't pick upon your cues, then, you know, that
can be a problem.
But, you know, sometimes guysdon't know and they need to be told.
Absolutely.
One of the things I tellwomen, and I find it so interesting,
especially with older womenwho are super accomplished and they've
learned to do everything themselves.
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I'm like, from time to time,let them open a jar for you.
I know you can open the jar,but it makes them feel good.
And if you love someone andsomething so simple makes them feel
good, it really doesn't makeyou laugh.
Lesser a woman because you didsomething to show love.
You know what I'm saying?
So I hope for Valentine's Daypeople go all out, make those reservations
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a good quick out.
Definitely a picnic andplanning that bottle of wine.
Even the stupid foil heart balloons.
We love that stuff.
So even just like a movienight where I'm cooking Dinner for
them in.
Yeah.
Like it doesn't.
Yeah.
Have to be crazy.
No, I.
And I love cards.
Even though people are allabout electron now because when I
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bring people through and evenher story, that card meant everything
to her to get that day.
And I saved dad's cards in myhope chest.
And you know, one way or theother, he says we're going to die
on the same day.
But one of us will go first.
Those will be there to helpthe other one get through days, you
(43:25):
know, And I think even that'sreally special.
So get that card.
I hope that you guys go on thesame day.
Oh my gosh.
Oh my gosh.
I'll give you the short listof people that you can keep away
from your dad.
No, he definitely would not.
(43:46):
No, I'm kidding.
No, some men, I mean, some mendon't know how to be alone.
And I like, that's okay.
He probably just send himselfto space or something.
Check out the moon.
I don't know.
Try and get near me up there.
That's so funny.
So go all out on Valentine'sDay or ladies, make something, something
special.
You can get heart shapedcutters for pasta.
(44:06):
Make heart shaped ravioli.
That's really cool.
Some restaurants do that.
Yeah.
Yeah, that's always cool.
And, and the movie Valentine'sDay, there's like a list of just
romance, music, movies thatyou can watch and, and a bottle of
champagne.
Like it's just not that hard,you know, it's just.
It makes us feel special.
And if your girl or your guyis a Leo, give it to them publicly.
(44:31):
It makes them feel happy andspecial and they need it to be a
public overture.
Totally, totally.
So thank you for being here.
I always love your advice andI love how you are so sensitive and
such an empath that you getall teary eyed when it comes to.
When it comes to my colors.
(44:52):
Yeah, this actually wasperfect, wasn't it?
I love this, this.
So where can my listeners find you?
I mean I have a website,sophiaduboisphoto.com or my Instagram
Sophia Dubois photo.
So if you want to check out myphotography, I'll be there.
Awesome.
Multi talented.
(45:13):
Yeah.
So thank you to my listenersfor tuning in.
Tune in next week for a freshepisode of the Dead Life.
My.
My guest will be TalindaBennington, the wife of Chester Bennington,
the late frontman of Lincol Park.
So she'll be on the showsharing with us her journey and what
(45:34):
she does to heal through her loss.
I'm Allison Dubois.
This is the Dead Life.
And to all of my believers outthere, don't stop believing.
Join us next week on the Dead Life.
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