April 28, 2025 • 61 mins
Sarah and Christine dive into a mix of humorous anecdotes and heartfelt discussions on mental health, the chaos of parenting, and the science of change. From soccer parenting rants to navigating family doctor visits, the hosts keep it light-hearted while exploring deeper subject matter. They also introduce their latest book, 'Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself' by Dr. Joe Dispenza, discussing quantum physics, neuroplasticity, and the power of thoughts and emotions. Join us for laughter, real talk, and a journey toward self-improvement!
How to find mental health help when you're struggling. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
https://washingtoncountyhumanservices.com/agencies/behavioral-health-developmental-services
https://www.alleghenycounty.us/Services/Human-Services-DHS/Publications/Resource-Guides
Apps - Just search mental health where you get your apps.
EAP programs are a great place to look for help!!
Additional Resources (Sports Related):
https://globalsportmatters.com/health/2020/12/04/mental-health-resources-2/
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Welcome to The Mental FunnyBone, a podcast where mental
health meets humor, heart, and ahealthy dose of laughter.
We're here to talk about thetough stuff, laugh at the
awkward stuff, and remind youand ourselves that it's okay to
not be okay.
So settle in, take a breath, andlet's normalize the mess.
One ridiculous story and realconversation at a time.
I'm Sarah, I'm Christine, andneither of us are mental health
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professionals, although we dorecommend that you see a mental
health professional becauseeveryone can benefit from that.
Amen.
Regardless of, uh, regardless ofdiagnoses, it's just nice to
talk to somebody who isn'tburied in your problems with
you.
It's nice like when the CoastGuard comes along and pulls you
out of the ocean while you'rethere clinging to each other and
trying to drown each other, it'snice.
If the Coast Guard comes alongand picks one of you up, I would
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definitely be stepping on yourhead to get on the Coast Guard.
Right?
You sure would.
Boat sure would.
First are you kidding?
While you just'cause it's who weare would probably be pushing my
foot up.
Like to help me get in the boat.
I would be drawing you.
Thank God she's stepping on mychest.
'cause it'll be easier to get myarms under that.
Yes, yes.
There you have it.
Yeah.
And check out some links that wehave in our show notes.
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I think they're still there.
Still there.
Still there?
Okay.
I, um, we've worked really hardon those for three days.
I didn't upload of some sort oneof our recent episodes.
Apparently I didn't do do it tothe YouTubes though.
I don't, I don't know what I'mdoing, so I'm gonna, I'm gonna
open the YouTubes and make surethat I have that open so I can
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fix it in three days when I shutmy computer down.
Okay, perfect.
You do that too, Sarah.
Do you leave like a hundred tabsopen on your computer?
I do.
And then I find them and I go,Ooh, shit, most of them, I, it
was just something I wanted toread.
So when I find it, I end upgoing, well, that was four weeks
ago and I'm no longer fuckinginterested in that.
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So I will just close it.
Pretty much, Amanda.
That was key.
That's super important.
Early April pretty, because Ihave, I have a few up here right
now.
Uh, there's some coaching thingsand some mindful exercises.
Those tabs have been open forweeks.
Weeks.
This one I just opened thismorning'cause I wanted to talk
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about it.
It was, it's, uh, soccerparenting.com parent behavior at
youth sports events.
A call for change, dear Lord inHeaven.
What?
Yep.
I mean, we've talked about ithere a bunch of times.
I have lived it.
Yeah.
You have lived it.
Yeah.
Yeah, parents stop being fuckingassholes.
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They're kids.
Let them play.
The majority of them are notgoing to make a profession of
whatever fucking sport.
You're watching them.
So just let them play.
Can you do that?
Can you do that without being anasshole or your own kid and all
the other fucking kids on the,on the court, on the field,
whatever.
Whatever the hell they are,leave everybody alone.
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Watch them, cheer them on.
If you can't do that, drop themoff at the field and come back
and get them when the game isover.
It's super simple.
And those referees, thosereferees are, again, this isn't
a professional game.
They're they, they've fall.
I know they get paid, but theyget paid.
I highly doubt they, at thislevel, they're not getting paid
very much.
This professionals, their fulltime, this is not their
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full-time career.
And believe me, when they up inthe evening or a Saturday, a
call, they didn't wake up thatmorning and go, you know what,
I'm gonna fuck over Timmy,these, this soccer game tonight.
You bet.
We are.
We'll make sure, we'll make sureTimmy doesn't get into Rutgers.
Yeah.
You know how much that refereegives a fuck about Timmy?
He doesn't.
He doesn't.
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Doesn't at all.
I still, Becca, we'll have toput this picture of on Substack,
speaking of referees andinteractions with athletes,
there's a really good picture ofmy daughter playing a college,
uh, sporting event and lookingat the referee like he just
stole her lunch money.
Like it's the best.
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Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
If there is one picture thatsums up Olivia's entire, uh,
soccer career, it might be bethat picture of her looking at
the referee, like, I don't evenknow what you're talking about.
Yeah.
Oh my God, she punched herselfin the face.
Just gonna say, I thought it wastotally fine for me to punch her
in the face.
What do you mean that's notokay?
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Yeah, back to the, back to theparent story.
So I will say having a littlebit of perspective on this, you
know,'cause Olivia's done withall of it and I was thinking
back how that like Olivia'sathlete time, it consumed every
waking moment of my life forabout eight years and now
there's none of that and it isall gone.
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And I really wish I would'vebeen less fucking uptight about
everything.
So that is my advice to soccerparents.
Becca, keep it in mind.
Tuck it in your back pocket.
It only lasts for a littlewhile.
I felt like I might be on theopposite end of that.
Like now Owen started to talkabout going to college and I'm
like, fuck.
Like you didn't wanna go tocollege before and now he, all
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of a sudden he wants to go tocollege and like wants to play
soccer.
And I'm like, I don't know whatI'm supposed to do.
And he had to go, I can helpyou.
Like a, he had to go to a thingwhere they talked to him about
what you need to do.
I was like, well, back in theday, they coaches just came to
our games.
I don't what you have to, youneed a, you need a, you need
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highlight video.
What do you, where are wehighlighting?
What are we highlight?
I don't how many what?
Are you good enough?
I don't.
Hmm.
So yeah, so I might have theopposite problem that I haven't
really given that much of ashit.
And now here we are.
I mean, there's a, there's abalance somewhere between these
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two, I think.
Yeah.
'cause I do remember thehighlight video and going, I
didn't, I didn't record everysingle thing.
Like now I have to find the, andthe, the guy's like, I didn't
record anything.
Just so you know, they're,they're recorded somewhere.
You, you get'em from the schoolor whatever.
I mean, they're, they're outthere.
Yeah, that's, that's what Owensaid.
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He'll be able to find shit.
Right.
And I guess all their FC gamesare recorded.
I don't know.
Yeah.
I mean, all the victory oneswere Sorry.
I just only assumed that that isthe case.
Yeah, that was the, that was thetrick.
He was like, uh, yeah.
Get, get one of her doing thisand get one of her doing this
and get one of her doing this.
And I was like, yeah, my dude,there are literally 40 games
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here and each of those games istwo hours long.
Yeah.
I have a job.
Yeah, Owen's gonna have to,Owen's gonna have to do that.
I'm whispering'cause I thinkhe's outside the door.
But he's gonna have to do that.
'cause I, I have this farm gamethat I have to play every night
for at least two hours.
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And I have this book called TheFourth Wing that I, that I need
to read.
I just bought last night, I justbought the latest Hunger Games
book.
It's Hamish's story.
So I don't have a lot of, like,there are important things like
farm games and animals, notanimals, books, farm games and
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books and not books for thispodcast, like books.
Either young adult books orpornographic books or whatever.
One's about dragons.
Mm-hmm.
And then I fell for this onFacebook.
Oh no.
Oh no.
I'm excited about it though.
Is that, yeah.
I mean, I feel, I feel like itjust ties into the, the habit of
it literally ties intoeverything that we're doing.
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And it, it has my name on it andit came in whatever colors I
wanted it to.
That's great.
For those of you that aren'twatching YouTube, it's the
lasting change book.
And it does, it goes along rightwith the book we're gonna start
talking about today, which isbasically if, uh, you wanna do
something differently in yourlife, you have to change your
life and not just like onelittle thing.
Like there's a lot that, there'sa lot of shit you have to
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change.
And when I say change, I don'tmean change who you are, you
could still be you, but you haveto, you have to do things
differently if you want to seethings differently.
So that's what the LastingChange book is about.
I like it because the beginningis all about the shit like we've
been talking about and thescience of habits and changes
and all of that.
And then the end, well themajority of it is like workbook
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shit that you do.
And I love a good fuckingworkbook.
I hate a workbook, and I don'tknow if it comes from the time
that I spent in CCD as a child.
Do you remember these workbook?
I didn't have to do that.
I didn't have to go to C, CD'cause by the time I got outta
grade school, mommy was donewith that shit.
So I was never confirmed.
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So unfair.
Whatever else there was thatevery Saturday I had to go to C,
c, D.
Anyway, it was, they gave you aworkbook, like it'd never would
be a nice Bible story in thereabout, you know, a leper or a
whore.
I don't know that there weremany horror stories, but I'm,
there might been, that's notwhat they said or could have
been a leper and a whore.
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Those are not Bible stories.
Christine.
Maybe in the Catholic, maybe.
Is there Catholic Bible?
I think they read, they all readthe same Bible.
They're at the Bible.
Whores are in the Bible.
People get mad about'em all thetime.
It's true.
It's, they burned out a wholecity.
Sodom and, uh, Gamora.
I don't know which one had thewhores, but I don't know.
But they should be.
One of them did.
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They should be called sexworkers.
No.
So somebody should update that.
Somebody should tell the Bible.
Mm-hmm.
Um, anyway, so you get a, you'dget a workbook and it would be
like, and it, you know, they'dgo over the story and it would
tell you how Jesus was a goodperson, and then you would have
to write down why Jesus was agood person in that story and
what you could do to be a goodperson.
And I have really, I just wantedto be done with the work.
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Mm-hmm.
Because then you could, youcould like do your independent
activities.
So I would think really hard andjust write as fast as I could.
And, and I still think that'sthe way I approach workbook
these days.
Like I'm not gonna, yeah.
Challenging.
Challenging.
I like the workbook.
I like the workbook.
So anyway, that's, those are thethings that I have to do to
occupy my time instead ofhelping my child get into
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college.
I mean, I get it.
80 hours of film is a lot tolook at.
It really is.
I mean, that's not gonna helphim get into college because
I've told him a thousand times,you shouldn't go to college just
'cause you want to play soccer.
So we're trying to work thatout.
But lots to do.
Lots to do in the next couple ofyears for this kid.
He is taking a summer class, sohe will be ready to take some
sort of physics class in thefall.
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So is Liv.
He's taking, maybe they can takesummer class together.
His smart shit.
I don't know what he's taking inthe summer.
I think I should know'cause Isigned him up for it.
But that's the kind of shit likethe uk, like I look at it, I do
it.
I forget it.
I'm the worst mom.
You're fine, you're fine.
You know?
You know why you're fine.
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The paradox of momming is thatif you think you're a bad mom,
you're probably doing it right.
Prob, I'm probably killing it.
Right?
You're doing better than lots ofother moms who are keeping their
children in cages.
So you're good.
Better moms like Ruby, Frankieand that other woman that I
watched, the latest Netflix mom,man, momager.
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Was she a Mormon too kid?
She wasn't.
I feel like maybe that shouldstop kid.
Kid influence, kid influencermom.
Again, if you're feeling badabout your parenting, watch
these documentaries.
'cause you will feel like.
The best freaking parent ever.
It's liter.
I think it's why we watched it.
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I think it's why Noah joined mein watching it.
We just, there were audiblegasps of oh my like what in the
fuck?
So I don't remember the name ofthat one, but it's Piper, I
think Piper was the girl's name.
Piper Never went to school.
Mom didn't think it wasimportant because Piper won the
pageants when she was a baby andthen, and then became a kid
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influencer, and then Piper's mominvited like friends over to
become influencers and then ranthe show on all of them and
then, and then assaulted them inseveral ways.
Yuck.
And then you're the parent thatfinds out about this later.
Like you're the parent of thekid that went over there.
Right.
I think that's why.
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That's why.
So that's why so many people arelike, no, we just have a policy.
We don't do it.
Can you imagine in the eightiesif Nita and Jumbo were like,
yeah, you don't sleep over inanybody's house.
Like, you're just not allowed.
What are talking about?
It's like Jonestown over at, uh,Heather Swank's house.
We just sleep where we fall.
I never slept at anybody'shouse.
'cause I never wanted to.
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I always wanted be at home.
You were different.
You were different.
You were, you would've been okaywith the no sleepover rule.
Fine.
It would've been fun.
They always had to come get me.
'cause I got sick in the middleof the night.
'cause I wanted to come home.
It's nine 15.
I never slept as a child, so Iwas always like the kid, the
creepy kid who was downstairstalking to the parents at 3:00
AM Hey guys, what's up?
I have a great story.
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I have a great sleepover story.
Owen's first sleepover now, hehad, he had tried to sleepover a
couple places and it didn't workout.
And we also would give himmelatonin at home.
God.
So his first sleepover, like Itold the mom this, he's tried
before, he's had to come homelike, it's fine, just call us
whatever.
And uh, he made it the wholenight and went to pick him up.
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And I guess he got up, he triedto come home and they were like,
that's fine, you're gonna befine.
And then he proceeded to tellthe parents that he couldn't
sleep because his mom and dadnormally give him the medicine.
And I was like, oh yeah.
Um, that's just melatonin.
It's fine.
It's fine.
So anyway, yeah.
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Uh, yeah, because of themedicine, he couldn't sleep
because of the medicine that hisparents give him.
That's hilarious.
Yeah.
Anyway, okay.
We just jumped around a lotthere.
I.
Should we talk about your mom?
Yeah.
Yes.
Good old nun nun had a doctor'sappointment this week and we
decided we, being the sister andI, uh, decided to the gastric
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girls.
The gastric girls decided totake the day off and go take nun
to the doctor.
She was going to therheumatologist.
She was a bit anxious about thewhole thing and as a She wanted
the nun will be.
Yeah.
And she, she wanted us to comewith her.
So it worked out really well.
We all had our, what's itcalled?
Assignments.
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I was the driver.
I was driving us to get there.
Um, my assignment was to set theschedule that my sister would
break, so I was the driver, butthen Christine was there because
she's good with the big words.
So first of off.
I will say you are also goodwith the big words, but it, it's
part of the, like, it's justpart of the story.
It's good.
It's good because none said thatto me.
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Literally when we were told onlyone of us could go back.
So you stay, stay here.
We'll get there.
We'll get there first.
First we need to apologize tonone because we didn't listen to
her.
I didn't listen to her.
Sorry, nun.
I was I going with what the GPSwas telling me in the car and my
eyeballs.
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And the eyeballs, it was on thefifth floor and we pulled up to
where Nunny said it was, whichwasn't where.
The GPSS was telling me we pullup to there anyway.
'cause that's where she said togo.
And there were definitely not,there were, there were two
floors of this building, right?
Maybe two.
This is not a five storybuilding at all.
No, no at all.
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And the one in the distance towhich the GPS was leading us, it
was definitely five stories.
Definitely five stories.
So, great.
So we head there, I drop nun andsissy off.
I go park the car.
Come down.
They're just sitting outsidenow.
Um, I think it's important forthe listeners to understand
just.
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The amount of stress I added toall of this nun's appointment is
for 1130.
Nun is instructed to be there at1115.
So we were gonna leave, uh, youdid a very smart thing and said,
Hey, you have to be over here at10 o'clock.
Um, I was gonna meet them atnun's house at, at 10 o'clock
and that would, that would'vebeen great.
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'cause it takes about 45 minutesto get there.
Yeah.
I wanted to leave by 10 15.
And that gives us a cushion forin case we get lost.
'cause we dunno the exact, youknow, the exact things that
happened.
Right.
So we'll get there.
Traffic.
We might, we might be a littleearly, but that's fine.
'cause we'll be there.
The, uh, the anxiety will beless.
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Uh, what time did you get tomommy?
What time did you get to Mommyand Daddy's?
10 30.
10 40.
10 40.
I mean, I said 10 30.
I said I'll be there in sevenminutes.
And I was there in.
10.
You said I'll be there more like10 30.
And then you called at 10 32 andsaid, I'm leaving now.
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I'm, I'm on my way.
I'll be there in five minutes,seven minutes.
And I said, okay, seven minutestogether.
Wait, we'll wait for you.
And uh, I told Nani, um, sheliterally just got in her car.
You guys were sitting in the carat that point, weren't you?
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
But we were just walking out tothe car at that point.
I figured, I said, I'll just getthe car turned around and we'll
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go, we'll be ready to go whenshe gets here.
Yeah, it, so anyway, if notpredictable.
So that added, added pressure.
Now at this point it is 1115, soNani should be checking in and
now you can see like the panicYeah.
On her face.
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So I have caused this.
So it turns out we were at thewrong building.
When I get down there and meetthem at the door, Christina's on
the phone trying to find outwhere we go.
I go walking around thebuilding, like something's gonna
pop out at whatever.
Anyway, we get back in the car,I drop them off, they go up, I
blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Get upstairs.
It's time for nun to go backinto the doctor's office and all
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we, all three of us get up'causewe're all gonna go back there.
'cause none said she wanted bothof us back there.
She told me that three, threeshowed up.
She like, she actually said, Idon't care what they say.
You're both coming back with me.
And I was like, all right,whatever.
All right.
And the nurse was like, oh, wecan only have one person back
there with her because the roomsare real small.
Immediately none was like, nonefolded, like a paper bag to my
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face, right hand in my face.
And she said, you stay out here.
She's good with the big words tosissy.
So I said, okay, I'll be outhere.
On my phone looking up where theUK is trying to, trying to
figure out what is Germany inthe eu?
Yeah.
I don't know.
Right.
So yeah.
So there's none.
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So that that's, that's how that,that worked out.
But none is so cute.
She's literally a bird.
Yeah, she's, she's a little birdwith little, little bones with
the osteoporosis, with hollowbones.
Is that what osteoporosis is?
Little, yeah, it's a thinning ofyour bones.
Oh, okay.
Yeah.
So she's literally, she's like alittle bird, a little baby bird.
So she's gone from a baby mouseto a baby bird, baby bird, which
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seems right.
She eats like a baby bird.
Right.
Eventually we'll have to chew upher food for her.
I nominate you for that.
Nope, that's all you.
You're good.
No way.
Nope.
We'll get somebody in a nursinghome to do.
That sounds great.
Hell no.
Enjoyable day.
Really?
I really liked, I didn't likethe doctor'cause that was sort
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of a pain in the butt and I feltreally stressed out about it.
Let's.
Let's talk about the smells inthe car.
No.
No.
So we, after afterwards we go tolunch and, um, our friend friend
Erin comes out and meets us atlunch at the Barn and Barrel in
Elizabeth.
Big shout out to those guys.
Woo, wonderful.
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Absolutely wonderful.
And they have Miller Light, sothat was pretty cool.
Get some wings to go.
They're smoked wings.
We get the wings to go, we getin the car.
They're pretty potent smelling,which that's good.
I love a good smoked wing smell.
From there we go into downtownElizabeth to the, uh, what's the
name of it?
Simply You.
Simply You.
Uh, such a great place.
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So, and candle shop, which, uh,shout out to them.
Uh, you should stop down therein the town of Elizabeth, uh,
whenever you get a chance.
'cause they have super awesomestuff and I love everything.
Um, we go down there and we buya bunch of candles and
everything and soaps and flearepellent for the dog.
Nun said the bomb nun said, wedon't have the babies to spoil
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anymore, so I gotta getsomething for the dog.
So we had everything, a littlebit of everything, some foot
scrub, some candle lotion, whichwas something new for me, right.
Anyway, all the good smellingshit.
So we get in the car and now thevery strong smell of candles and
soap is mixing in with thesesmoked wings, chicken wings,
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which is enough to be like, it'skind of terrible.
The last stop is the Sto Stogiebird.
Stogie Bird on Stogie Bird on51.
Yes.
Which is owned by a friend ofours, or a childhood friend of
ours who's just like family tous.
So it is owned by Sammy Lasha.
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So check out the Stogie Bird onone Wonderful little stokey
smoking.
I know.
You walk in there.
It's total cigars.
Yeah, smells delicious.
Like I love the smell of acigar.
So it smells great when youspend some time in there and
then you carry that smell outwith you and you put it in the
car with the wings and thecandles and the soap.
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It not as it caused a very badreaction.
My mouth.
Mouth.
I dunno why it was just in yourmouth.
I was like, was so thirsty.
Like, I don't know if that'swhat caused it, but in my mind,
this is what, this is what made,I was so thirsty and for some
reason in my mind it was thesmell of everything that was
making me so thirsty.
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We went into Mommy and Daddy'sand I literally chugged like two
huge glasses of water.
It was, it was like, um, it waslike you had gone to Long John
Silver's.
Mm mm-hmm.
Maybe it was, maybe it was thesaltiness of the, of the food at
the, uh, that might've been it,it might've been the brisket
sandwich that I had.
That was probably it.
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Delicious.
And the cheesy, the big cheesewheel that I had was very salty.
Which is also delicious.
Delicious.
Yeah.
That is, that is actually nowwe've, that's why it wasn't the
combination.
It was just the, it was, uh,salty.
It was just salt.
It wasn't the combination of thesmells, but yeah, the smells
were, uh, yeah, it was, it waskicking.
It was kicking.
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Mm-hmm.
I highly recommend you stop atall of those places at separate
times.
Right.
Do not all at once.
Don't do, don't.
You could stop at all of them,but maybe a different order,
like maybe you do candles lastmaybe, I don't know.
You do like cigars, uh, friedfood, candles.
I think we'll have to do itagain and mix up the, uh, the
timing and we'll have to do itto we figure out which one is
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right.
Yeah.
Tough.
We'll have to, we have to takemommy with us, so she buys the
food.
Yeah.
That is, uh, it key.
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
Key for all of this.
Yeah.
Good to say.
It was a fun day.
I can't wait to, I can't wait touse all my soaps.
I take, I've taken them out ofthe package, so we've taken the
first step into using them.
I haven't put the entire packageof foot things underneath the
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sink yet.
I've used my face lotion and Idon't know if you remember when
I checked out, she was like,it's like, don't use a lot.
'cause a little goes like reallyfar away.
And it literally, I didn't even,like, I literally just had to
rub my finger right on top of itand that covered my whole face.
This is gonna last forever.
Lasting face lotion you have tobuy.
Yeah.
Thank you.
Simply it was, yeah, it waswonderful.
(23:31):
And I've been using my goat'smilk lotion also, if any of
these places want to, uh, pay usYeah.
For, yeah.
For these, uh, for theseendorsements.
I mean, we are absolutely ahundred percent willing to take
your money in addition tonanny's money.
Yeah.
We have like five people thatlisten on the rig.
Right.
So if maybe, maybe you guyscould go to, uh, you know, the
(23:54):
lady that owns the soap storeand be like, Hey.
If you can go see Steph at the,at the story early on the pod.
Yeah.
Perfect.
Alright.
That's all I got for gastricshit today.
I don't really have a Gasterstory.
I think we just covered ourstories today with my annoyance
with soccer parents and ourlittle, uh, adventure with
Nanny.
So thanks none.
Thanks for letting us hang outwith you on Monday.
(24:16):
It was fun.
Thanks.
I'm the Red Lion, wasn't openand Red Lion.
I bet you're sad you weren'topen.
'cause I am not endorsing youuntil you're open on a Monday
and I can go eat.
Right.
We're not gonna talk about howmuch we would've enjoyed that.
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
As a throwback to our childhood.
Yeah.
Definitely not gonna sayanything about it.
We would've had.
Great, I have great Red Lionstories for Gaster gastric
stories, but, okay.
(24:37):
Yep.
Yep.
All right.
Next week shall we talk aboutthe most bizarre science book
I've ever read?
Breaking the Habit of BeingYourself by Joe Dispenza.
Mm-hmm.
Is it Dispenza?
Mm-hmm.
I don't know.
Our boy, Dr.
Joe.
Joe, there's lots of words, lotsof sciencey words.
(24:59):
I really like this book Morethan more so than the last book.
'cause there's a little bit,there's lots, lots more science.
Mm-hmm.
It's, uh, it's, I, but, but Idon't like it for other reasons.
I don't have a, um, I don't, I'mjust gonna say this and then I'm
gonna shut up and let you talkabout it because you're gonna do
a way better job talking aboutit.
(25:20):
I don't really have a thoughteither way just yet.
There were some thingsdefinitely throughout it that I
was like, bullshit.
But then some things that I waslike, that kind of makes, like,
I, I get it.
I feel like I could do that.
So I just, I'm not giving up onit yet.
Like, I wanna see this bookthrough and I wanna get to the
end where he's giving us actualthings to do and I wanna read
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all this stuff leading up tothat, so.
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
It can all click.
And I kind of feel like he saysthroughout the beginning, like,
just stick with me.
Right.
Yeah.
I feel, I feel like I am gonna,it's, it's a book with science
in it, but also a book where I'mgonna be like, nah, dog.
Yeah.
I'm not buying it.
It's like, Randy from, um, earlyDays of American Idol.
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I'm gonna be like, nah, dog.
It's not for me.
So it, here's, here's, here'sthe way, uh, Joe, uh, Dr.
Joe, uh, explains it.
Um.
You have to break the habit ofbeing you if you want to be
something else.
So like for me, I've had 50years of thinking the same way,
coming to the same conclusions,doing the same thing.
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And if you think about youradult life, you have essentially
been stuck in sort of the samepatterns.
Your beliefs haven't changedvery much.
You are essentially the, prettymuch the same person that, that
you were because you are havingthe same thoughts and doing the
same activities over and overand over again on repeat and
(26:44):
looking out at a different,different reality out there
somewhere.
Uh, but taking no effectivedefinitive steps to get from A
to B.
He says that there's no reasonthat you can't because your
personality isn't fixed.
And I think we've, we've touchedon this a couple of times, that,
yeah, your personality isn'tfixed because your beliefs
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aren't fixed.
Um, what you think about, uh,you know, what you think about
topics today isn't necessarilythe same way that, that maybe
you've thought about thembefore.
Um, and to just that, you needto, uh, take the changes that
are occurring in your beliefsystem and line them up with
your actions.
And for Dr.
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Joe, that means a lot ofchanging, uh, your thoughts.
And it has to do with, uh.
Newtonian and quantumworldviews, which yeah, I think
is where Sarah went.
Woo.
Cool.
Cool.
There's a lot like, I, I, what Iwish I did,'cause I highlight
shit, like you could see myhighlighting throughout.
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I wish what I would've done isjust highlighted shit I couldn't
pronounce.
So we could review that.
'cause there were definitely,there was, there was a lot of
things in here that I could notpronounce that I know should be
easier for my brain and theyjust weren't happening.
But, but go ahead.
Like in Game of Thrones, when Iput a little sticky note on the
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places where everybody died.
Yeah.
One of my favorite activitiesever.
I'm fine.
I was fine then.
Nothing.
Yeah.
Nothing troublesome there atall.
So the core message from chapterone is that, again,
personalities aren't fixed.
You can change your reality,your health.
I'm gonna put, I'm gonna put abig, uh, BS tag on the health
one.
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I don't think we're gonna curecancer by changing the way we
think.
Yeah.
I feel like.
I feel like if we eat McDonald'sfor every meal, but you just
think that you're healthy.
I don't, I'm not sure that'sgonna, I mean, it's gonna be
about lining up those thoughtsand the actions.
Okay.
Maybe, maybe that's, but still,but still with a, yeah, no,
that's where I am right now.
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Okay.
Let's line up the thoughts withthe actions.
Let's see the reality that wewant.
Let's focus on it.
Right?
Let's manifest that into realityand at the same time, maybe
change a habit or two, likefigure out what we're doing
wrong and don't do that.
Um, like the McDonald's everyday, maybe don't do that.
Right.
And you will have, you will behealth healthier.
Like that's, that's really what.
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Like, uh, flipping back toatomic habits and being like,
you know what?
I don't want to eat healthier.
I want to be a healthy personand in order to be a healthy
person, I don't eat McDonald's.
I'm a better person thaneverybody else'cause I don't eat
McDonald's.
But the way love McDonald'sthough.
Me too.
Me too.
So Dr.
Joe focuses on, uh, you makethese changes not by working
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harder in the physical world.
So not necessarily by changinghabits, but more like changing
your inner world of thoughts andemotions.
So I think this is gonna end upbeing one of those chicken and
egg discussions as we go throughthe books.
Like which one drives the other?
Uh, like, yeah.
And I, I am not, I'm not goingdiscount the fact that they're
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very powerful things that Dr.
Joe has pointed out in thesechapters that make sense
scientifically, at least the waythat he is writing them down.
I haven't thought much about,uh, quantum worldviews, really,
uh, not too much about, uh, thedifference between classical
physics, the Newtonian model andthe quantum model.
(30:15):
I haven't spent a whole lot oftime in that space.
Sounds fun.
Yeah.
So the difference between thosetwo is that Newtonian physics,
like if you remember Newton, hegot hit in the head with Apple.
Um, because it, the world is allkinds of physical, right?
There's forces that that act onthings, and that's generally the
physics that we all learn inhigh school.
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Uh, forces, gravity, uh, youknow, those kinds of things.
Uh, change happens only throughphysical effort and time is kind
of the way we relate it to, uh,making changes in, in who we are
and how we interact with theworld.
Right?
So we go to exercise classesmore.
If we wanna be skinny.
We consciously think about goingto church every week if we wanna
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be more religious.
Physical changes lead to the waythat we change our environment,
health, our relationships, oursuccess, and our happiness, our
results of our interactions withthat physical world.
The quantum model kind of takesus from Newtonian physics to
quantum physics, which is moreabout energy than matter.
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So we start thinking aboutEinstein and e equals mc
squared, and.
Reality is made up of energy,uh, and not matter at its most
fundamental level.
So we start talking about thespace between the stuff that
makes up the atoms and real coolstuff.
I honestly can't listen to itenough.
I see you falling asleep anddon't do it.
Don't do it.
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It's cool.
Think about that.
Like there is enough space inbetween the stuff that makes up
the atoms that I should be ableto walk through this wall.
Yeah.
I can't.
I mean, I can't.
Yeah.
Which is where I get sort ofhung up on it like, yeah, that's
so cool.
Watch me put my hand through.
No, we can't do it.
No, because there's for realwall there.
So the idea behind this stuff isthat the energy is what connects
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us.
The energy is what keeps theatom together.
The energy is what makes thewall solid and everything is
interconnected in a field.
Okay?
This is, this is where it getssuper cool of.
Infinite potential called aquantum field.
So if you think about it, uh,and let's, let's do the most
basic activity that you can do.
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Like I'm sitting at my desk andmy next move right now, let's
see, we're done talking.
Uh, my next move is either I'mgonna stand up or I'm gonna move
my leg, or I'm gonna throw thiscat off my lap.
There's these infinitepossibilities of things that are
gonna happen at 7 0 8.
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It's still infinite now, right?
But the closer and closer we getto 7 0 8, I start eliminating
those possibilities.
Like the closer we get to 7 0 8,um, uh, the cat moves.
All right, so now at 7 0 8, I'mnot doing shit with the cat
'cause he's not here at 7 0 6, Iget up so I can't get up at 7 0
8'cause I've already done it.
You shrink the amount ofpossibilities by focusing on
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them.
It, and the way that somebodyexplained this back in the day,
it might've been Eric Thomas whodid TaeKwonDo with us because we
were talking about beingfighting somebody and watching
them go from deciding to do likea, a punch to a kick.
And you can see the moment ithappens.
So I, if you think about allthose infinite possibilities of
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the next move, like floating andswirling around and if you can
get to what they're gonna do onesecond before they do.
So if you watch thosepossibilities of like, I imagine
it like a tangled, um, mess ofstring right around, around you
and then.
The number of strings decreasesand decreases and gets more
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solid until there's only one.
And if you can fight that onestring, then, then you win the
TaeKwonDo battle every time inquantum, in a quantum model.
So that kind of describes aquantum field.
Are you bored?
You think No, you make it muchmore enticing.
Enticing not the word that makesmore sense.
Right?
And I remember exactly where Ilearned that.
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It wasn't Eric Thomas.
It was in a book about elvesthat were fighting.
Fuck.
Alright, nevermind.
You lost, man.
Super cool.
Now he just super cool.
Yeah, you made like 10 stepsforward and 42 back, Sam.
It applies.
Still applies, still applies.
Bunch of string, right?
Fighting out bunch an Elvinstring.
It's fine.
The ears were pointed.
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It's cool.
So in this way, consciousnessaffects reality.
You know, observer influencesthe outcome.
So think about it.
When somebody's looking at you,you're gonna act slightly
differently and.
They, you, they don't have totouch you for you to know that
they're observing you like that,the little hairs that stand up
on the back of your neck whenyou know somebody's in the room,
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but you can't, you haven't seenthem yet.
Mm-hmm.
Like, think about that on atinier and tinier and tinier
scale.
So the idea here is that you'renot separate from that energy
around you.
Like those tiny hairs stand upon the back of your neck for a
reason.
And that reason is because theenergy around you has changed
somehow.
You're an energetic beingimmersed in a sea of
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possibility.
I like that one.
I like that.
So that kind of explains the,the, the sort of head space
we're, we're gonna be in for,for this.
So he goes on a little bit, uh,a little bit long for me, and he
is collapsing possibilities intoreality by focusing on them
every possible version of you.
Healthy, wealthy wise, uh,apparently we're all gonna be
(35:40):
Benjamin Franklin when we're alldone here.
Uh, fulfilled, loved, empowered,et cetera.
Like whatever you can imagine,um, that perfect version of
yourself exists out theresomewhere because they all exist
out there somewhere.
And what you're doing, uh,through focus is bringing that,
bringing that one string thatyou want to see into focus and
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watching the other ones sort ofdisappear.
Um, so there you go.
And it's not like an overnightthing, right?
This is where I'm like, well, soif I go to bed at night and I
think I wanna be a princess inthe morning, right?
That's not exactly how it works.
There, there are a couple thingsI wanna talk about.
One, I thought this was reallycool, um, I think it was a study
(36:26):
done here at the Heart MathResearch Center in California
about how your emotions affectyour thoughts.
Let me read it.
When we have negative emotionssuch as anger and fear, our
heart rhythms become erratic anddisorganized.
So you're kind of all over theplace.
You're all anxious and shit,right?
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In contrast, positive emotions,love, joy, for instance, produce
highly ordered and coherentpatterns.
So that makes like a ton ofsense and I just, I highlighted
it because I love that.
Because even though it soundssuper simple when you read it.
Again, like I just did.
Obviously it's something thatdoesn't really, it's like, oh
yeah, that makes sense.
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When I'm angry, when I'm crazy,my shit's all over the place.
I shouldn't say crazy, but whenI'm angry and when I'm having
those negative emotions,everything's all over the place.
There's no good pattern.
But then when I'm calmer and ina more loving state, uh, those
more positive states, you havemore of a consistency, which I
thought was cool.
(37:29):
Here is, here's where I get tosay my line.
Go ahead.
Your thoughts are electricboogie, woogie.
Woogie.
There you go.
If anyone is familiar with theelectric slide, it's electric.
I hate the electric.
Your emotions are magnetic.
So if you think about your mindas a signal sending device,
which is what we're gonna bedoing for the, the rest of this
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book.
Mm-hmm.
So if you think about your mindas the, as the way you're going
to target that specific stringin the field of possibility,
then your heart and yourfeelings are the receiving and
the attracting mechanism.
So if you see your little stringout, off in the distance, what
you put into your heart and yourfeelings is what you're gonna be
able to pull back.
Like your ability to bring thatparticular string closer to you
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depends on, um, how you're ableto center your feelings and
emotions, your heart and yourfeelings.
So aligning what you think, whatyou feel lets you broadcast a
clear signal to the, the thingthat you want.
Again, it makes like, it makessense, it makes sense, but a lot
of things that.
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So do dragons.
Like if I, if I say it, if youthink about it enough, if you
think about it enough, like adragon who has multiple
boyfriends and girlfriends, itdefinitely makes sense.
Can also like, because it's inthe book, lemme ask you, let me
ask you this.
Okay.
How do you feel about the studythat was done on how your
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current thoughts can affect thepast?
I mean, we talk about it hereall the time, like your current
thoughts do affect a past,right.
What, I'm just, I want you tofinish that thought.
Like, yeah.
I mean that's, I mean, I thinkalso if we're, and automatically
I go to kind of the meditationspace, right?
Like we're, we're talking abouthow that meditation space
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doesn't necessarily exist inyour head.
It's not a, in your head.
Space.
Right?
So the memories are there, butyou fuck with them all the time.
So, and then maybe, okay,because, so no, let's go back.
So explain to me,'cause you saidthat our thoughts now affect the
past and we talk about that.
(39:35):
You said, so explain to me how,what you mean?
Like, did we have a hamster?
Yeah.
Right.
Was his name Lawrence?
No.
Like this is, this is what I'mtalking about.
Did we have a bird?
Like I, oh, well then maybe Idon't understand the study that
he's talking about because that,what are you getting out?
What are you getting out of it?
That's not how I understood it.
What are you getting out of it?
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Uh, I don't know, maybe I'm tooliteral for it.
Tell me why you're thinking,'cause you're probably not.
I mean, sometimes, you know, I,I don't, I don't wanna surprise
anyone on here, but it's abouthow they, like in this study,
sometimes I read things into,uh, stuff that maybe just
doesn't belong there.
How they had, they had groups ofindividuals that were praying
and putting good thoughts intosomething for people who were
(40:18):
sick, right?
So, um, it was involving, uh, dada da prayer experiments of the
mind affecting matter at adistance.
So they were looking at patientswho suffered from sepsis.
Oh, thank God.
I thought I missed reading thestory.
Okay.
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Because I thought there was avery specific story in here that
was more about like peopleinteracting and thinking about
their memories and how theychange.
And that's, that's not, it'sjust this story about the
prayers, right?
No, it's about how these people,but this, so this, this study
was done might skip to the endon this one.
Yeah.
The study was done in 2000.
It was involving, uh, about3,400 people who were
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hospitalized with sepsis.
And what they did was they putthem into groups and they told
people to pray and think and dospecific things for each group.
And it turns out that the groupthat had the prayer and the
thoughts and the very specific,I don't know how to explain it
without like reading it exactly.
(41:24):
It turns out that group, thosepeople got better quicker or
something to that effect, but.
The study was done, the peoplewere ha doing the thoughts, the
prayers in the year 2000, butthe patients that they were
praying for or whatever, thosewere patients who were actually
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getting better during thenineties.
Right.
So I feel like we have to justread the whole thing.
Yeah.
Uh, so for me, for me, thatstory is, uh, is, uh, is the
reason I don't like it.
Um, that story, that story forme is one that, that I looked at
and went, you can't Yeah.
Pray away.
That's an illness.
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That's why I wanted to talkabout it, because it was kind of
baffling to me.
I feel like I see, like that'ssomething like I wanted to get,
I guess I wanted to get yourperspective on it from a study
point of view.
Like, is that something you'veseen before or I.
I will tell you that, uh, someof, some of that really kicked
off some, uh, oddly enough,believe it or not.
(42:28):
Um, memories from when I wasworking in the hospital, uh,
with, um, with Dr.
Mayer.
Do you remember Dr.
Mayer?
Mm-hmm.
We, we would get together withsome of the other, uh,
physicians, um, and talk about,um, junk science that we had
read.
And this was like a hot topicbecause somebody was like, look,
(42:51):
this works.
And the, the rest of us werelike, it doesn't, I mean, look
at the way the study'sconstructed.
This seems like a cool idea.
And this like tickled, uh,tickled those memories.
And I'm pretty sure what I didwas just look at it and be like,
Hmm, uh, I agree to disagree.
I agree to disagree, my dude.
So I think that that, that isgonna happen to me a lot.
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And it might be that I'll comeback and take a look at it and
be like, oh, I can see how andwhy that would, that would work.
But if I can't, if I can'tconceive of the mechanism by
which that works, like yeah.
If we are, if we're looking backin the past and affecting, like,
I understand, you know, time'snot real.
It's a construct.
But even that is like, that is abit beyond what I can conceive
(43:36):
of as possible.
Then we're getting into therealm of dragons.
So I, I think this is where it,I'm just reading it over right
now.
So it's, I mean, it was prettybasic.
It was a prayed for group and anot prayed for group.
Right, right.
The prayed for, and he comparedthe results in three categories,
how long the fever lasted, thelength of the hospital stay, and
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how many died as a result of theinfection.
So the pray for the prayed forgroup benefited from an earlier
de decrease in fever and ashorter hospital.
Hos that word, I should havehighlighted it.
Hospitalization.
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
But, so I don't know, I thetiniest Right.
That maybe, right.
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I think this is, this seemed,again, it, again, it's, it's
tickling, it's tickling junkscience in my head because that
is exactly what we would'vetalked about was the statistical
significance of it.
So it, yeah, it just seemed, it,it seemed this was a part that I
was like, bullshit.
I mean, yeah, you'd have to,you'd have to like really peel
(44:40):
it apart, right.
Because what the, what thestatisticians are gonna look for
is what else was going on?
Like what, what caused thesepsis, how bad was the sepsis?
Like, right.
What are the other likeconfounding variables that are,
uh, sorry again, it's just nerdnerds.
Do nerds.
No, no, it's, thank goodnessthough.
'cause I was really confused.
I was like, did I miss an entirestory?
I was really confused.
(45:00):
I was like, did I totally getthat wrong?
It seems like a pretty basicstudy.
And I was, I was trying to likeBS my way through it.
I'm like, oh yeah, no.
We've talked often on thispodcast about, yeah, I was like,
really?
Fuck.
Like.
Do, don't remember talking aboutthat.
Yeah.
Um, yeah, I mean, it, it, I, I,I think we're gonna find this
fringy stuff along the way.
(45:22):
So if you think about thephysics of it and the quantum
pieces of it, uh, yeah.
I mean, the fact that there isenergy everywhere and that
thoughts are electric.
Okay.
Yeah.
I, I'll, I'll, I'll put my, I'llput my apples in the basket for
a little bit.
Um, I'll play around.
I'll play around.
It does like, I think it doesmake a difference.
Like there was, there wasdefinitely that one particular
study, sorry, I had to bring itup just'cause it was, that was
(45:44):
the big bullshit moment for me.
However, there's so much otherstuff in here that I do.
Believe will make a differenceand can make a difference.
Yeah, and I, I think, I thinkit's more about aligning because
if you think about it, um, ifyou think about having the
greatest effect on, uh, onbringing that solid string that
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you want to happen to happen,it's gonna be about aligning.
And, and let's say that is like,oh, I would really like this
person that I love to get out ofthe hospital, uh, faster.
And if, if you, uh, can conceiveof the fact that, that I can
make that happen, then you giveyourself something to focus on
(46:26):
and you create an atmospherewhere maybe, maybe that's likely
to happen.
Like you will talk to a nurse,you will, you know, interact in,
in some way that maybe affectsthe outcome of, of that.
I mean, you're not gonnaovercome, you're not gonna
overcome the.
A gunshot wound to the head.
You're not gonna overcome, youknow, stage four cancer.
(46:47):
But it, you know, there, thereare possible ways that aligning
your positive thoughts and yourpositive approach and your
actions and what you believe canhappen, uh, that, that you can
affect some change in yourworld.
I can, I can see that a hundredpercent.
Does that make sense?
1%?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
So, you know, I think the, thetrick is being able to get out
(47:12):
of the habit loop of beingyourself.
So this is like the whole cruxof chapter one.
Yeah.
Which goes into chapter two,which is overcoming your
environment, which is a lot ofwhat we, what we live in and,
and what is based on our pastand all of that.
So, yep, yep.
That's, that's what we, we needto get past ourselves into the
(47:33):
change that we need.
Like, imagine, imagine that yourideal person, what your, what
your solid string looks like issomebody who is content with
their life, um, who reallyenjoys what's happening around
them for the most part.
Somebody who is living in themoment, embracing the things
that are happening, takingresponsibility for, for things
(47:54):
that come up, somebody who's,uh, calm, cool, collected, in
control, in charge, that is sortof a, a, a, a thing that most
people would like to havehappen.
That would be a nice solidstring to, to bring to myself.
Yeah.
If I, uh, if I keep doing thesame things, like the reason
that most people don't change isbecause we, uh.
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My, my everyday world doesn'tline up with that.
Right.
My everyday world is getting upin the morning being like, fuck,
fuck, fuck, fuck.
Right?
Which doesn't align with someonewho is like calm and rational
and Right.
Like, yeah.
Me, me looking at the clockgoing, you gotta get going, you
gotta get going.
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Is not like the, the way tomanifest these things that I
want to happen to be that cool,calm, collected persona.
Yeah.
And if you have it, if you haveyour thoughts and align with all
of that, and you're convinced ofthat, which isn't totally
simple, like right.
When I see what I want to be,there's also, it goes back to
(48:57):
talking about the self-doubt andthe self-criticism, right?
It's like, do I truly think thatI can succeed as that?
I.
No.
So therefore I don't changeanything.
So I need to change that.
And me, I need to be confidentin myself that that's what I can
be.
And if I am confident in thatsolid string, that will help me
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in taking strides, in makingchanges to become that
individual, right?
Like we, we have to, we have tostop.
Um, we have to stop envisioningthe thing we wanna be, and then
acting in a way that doesn'tbring that to us.
I mean, that's fundamentallythe, the crux of every book that
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we've read is that you know whatyou wanna do, you know what you
have to do, get your shittogether and do it.
I mean, that is essentially whatthis book is saying, like, why
most people don't change.
They have the same thoughts,they create the same feelings.
Like, I have the same thoughtof, you gotta get up and get
after it.
And then I wake up and I'm like,fuck, fuck.
That is why I feel the same waytoday that I did 15 years ago
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looking at my Facebook posts,apparently keep thinking like if
I could just get up a little bitearlier, I could get a lot of
shit done.
Right.
And then guess what I do ofsleep it?
I don't, and you know what?
I don't hit snooze anymore.
I just set my alarm later so Idon't feel bad about hitting
snooze.
Fuck me.
'cause we, your brain is so,like that is, that is the
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interesting thing.
And I think that is what we aregoing to, we're gonna bump up
against that one constantly.
Right?
Like your brain is just so wiredto get around all the things
that you should do that aregonna be good and healthy.
Yeah.
Like your brain is so.
We read about hitting snooze.
And like I learned, and for,for, for a week or so, I, I
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didn't hit the, well, I haven'thit the snooze, but for a week I
was actually getting up earlierand I was real proud of the fact
that I wasn't hitting thesnooze.
I was getting up, I was doingwhat I wanted to do, and then
like, you know, the followingweek I was like, Ugh.
But I'm really tired, but Idon't wanna hit the snooze.
Okay.
So I'll just set my alarm for ahalf hour later, a dick, because
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there is this, there's thisnatural tendency of everything
that exists on this planet tojust devolve, devolve towards
the chaos.
Chaos.
And the, the most important linethat I read in chapter one, and
then we'll talk a little bitabout meditation, then I think
we're done, is to break thehabit loop of being yourself.
You have to think greater thanhow you feel and act greater
(51:31):
than your current reality.
So it is the.
I love that wildestoversimplification of how to get
a better life that I have everread in my entire life.
Yeah, no.
Yeah.
Do your, yeah.
Get it.
Get it.
Strings and energy thinkinggreater than how I feel, acting
greater than my current reality.
Of course.
Mm-hmm.
Of course.
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Right.
Or I just wake up every morningand go, fuck.
Like, I wish, I wish.
And then think about all theshit that could be different
Right now if you just Right.
Didn't do that shit for the lasttwo weeks.
Like, if you just stayed on thecourse, what would things be
like now?
Right.
Right.
All the time.
All the time.
Like, imagine the goddamnmuscles I would have if I didn't
quit on CrossFit.
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'cause it's hard.
Right, right.
Oh, I'd be so annoying.
Yeah.
I, we wouldn't be friendsanymore.
So again, how do we, how do weget from, how do we get from A
to B?
And a lot of that is again,having that, having that pause
to go, is this the best decisionI'm gonna make right now?
No.
Me getting up and going, shit,shit, shit, shit.
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14 things to do that I couldhave done last night, but I
didn't.
Fuck, fuck.
Or is it, Hey, um, you let it golast night, so why don't you
keep letting it go?
Uh, get yourself in a littlemeditation chair.
Have a little meditation, rest.
Put some things in perspective.
Give yourself the ability to,you know, collect your thoughts,
calm down a little bit, and thengo tackle the day, friend.
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Yeah, these are bothpossibilities that could happen.
Um, I don't choose that secondone hardly ever, even though
that is the path to the.
Calm, cool, collected person whois into a, a wild maniac all the
time.
Clear, clear path, easy path.
Yeah.
One decision, one change.
So it, a, a lot of what we'regonna focus on is going to be
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creating that, creating theability in your brain to make
that one, that one decision.
And again, we're gonna get backto how focusing the energy on
the, the thing that you want andfocusing the energy.
Does change your brain?
They that I can, I'll, I'llswallow that pill whole every
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time.
Yeah.
The neuroplasticity exists inthere to change 100% the
behavior.
And if you can stick with it,you can change it and your world
can be different.
I a hundred percent believe thatwe are not forced into, uh, the,
the craziness by genetics orenvironment or, or any of these
things.
You do possess that.
And whether it's quantum physicsor it's neuroplasticity makes a
(54:01):
very, very little difference ingetting from A to B.
So that's what I, that's what Igot.
You're not stuck with yourbiology as think is how we, how
we wrap up.
Chapter one.
So a lot of it seems bullshit.
Like a lot of it is like, yeah,you can pray somebody better,
but you can't.
Maybe, I don't know, likeGalileo, everyone was like, ah,
Galileo, what a dick.
Yeah, sure.
(54:21):
The sun's in the middle.
Idiot.
Idiot.
Yeah.
Thank you for all your, uh,science evidence.
Suck a dick Galileo later, dude.
Come over here.
We have some stones to throw atyou.
It was a great, great IndigoGirl song though.
I guess we've got tickets to seethem at Red Rocks with Melissa
Etheridge this summer.
Oh, that's fantastic.
Who are you going with?
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I don't know.
It's just me.
Just me.
If someone wants to go toColorado, sorry.
Somebody wants to go toColorado.
My treat, I mean, that'sawesome.
I'll hang, I'll hang out bymyself at the Indigo Girls
concert.
Did you really get tickets?
Yeah, I really bought tickets.
I looked at them last night andthey weren't wildly expensive
and they were still available,so I bought them.
Fun.
It'll be a good show.
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Melissa Etheridge come to mywindow.
Melissa Etheridge come to mywindow.
Love.
Not Melissa Etheridge too.
They gonna have to listen tothat stuff.
The angst of angry femaleartists in the n So good chefs
kiss.
So fucking good kiss chefskissed at the same time.
I love it.
Sonny came home.
Oh yeah, darn right, SeanColvin.
(55:25):
Sonny did come home.
I like it.
I like it.
So great.
All right, so that's, that'swhat I have for chapter two.
I'm excited about the book.
I'm starting to understand that,you know, the mechanism doesn't
matter.
It's being able to relax.
Like being able to unc clinchthe innards and, and have a
heartbeat be innards.
You know what I'm talking about?
Yeah.
(55:45):
I like it.
I dig it.
I dig it.
All right.
I think that is how we proceedforward with this book.
I'm excited.
I mean, I'm, I'm much moreexcited about this book than I
am about any of the, any of ourrecent books.
I'll say that or that one withthe green cover.
Becca, what would you like tosay?
Don't wanna be, I don't wanna bea dick.
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Is Becca raising her hand or shefrozen that?
Yeah, she was raising her hand.
Yeah, she's raising her hand.
Do we have fan mail to go over?
No, we don't.
We don't have anything new.
Um, yeah, the last quote unquotefan mail was, oh, I got a new, I
got a new tattoo.
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That's new.
I mean, that's not fan mail oranything, but I thought that
was, I thought we saw that lasttime.
Did we?
I, I got a new tattoo.
It's pretty two weeks ago.
Thanks.
I like it.
I dig it.
I like, I like looking at it.
Yeah.
Um, check out, buy me a coffee.
Send us a dollar.
Buy us a coffee.
That would be awesome.
That was our last bit of fanmail was Lori's buy me a coffee,
(56:48):
which I mentioned in our last,last episode.
So, uh, yeah.
Uh, gastric girls@gmail.com.
Check us out on Facebook.
Michael Ovation gave us a littlebit of love on Facebook.
Yay.
They shared my, our, our picsfrom the party and told people
to check us out.
And speaking of Michael'sovation, I believe it's August
9th is going to be there.
(57:10):
Do you have some golfing golfouting this year?
So, details to come, but Ibelieve we're marking our
calendars for August 9th.
Yeah, I think that's right.
I'll hang out with us.
I don't have the Facebook upright now.
So it's either the ninth or the19th.
It was some odd day in August.
It was a Saturday.
Not odd.
Like bizarre but odd as in Yeah.
(57:31):
Not divisible by two.
I'm gonna say it's the ninth'cause that is a Saturday.
I know Noah asked me to checkthe day.
So.
Alright, that's it.
So thanks to Michael Ovation forthe shout out and we're looking
forward to the, to the golfouting.
Even if we don't golf, we willbe there to eat dinner with you,
Christine, I think that Ishould, I think me and you and
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Becca and somebody else shouldget a foursome together for
golfing.
I don't know, like that seemslike people are gonna wanna golf
fast in um, yeah, that's what I,I think that that's why I'm
never invited to do the golfing.
'cause I do it because I do veryslow.
Did you see me last year at TopGolf?
Like I almost killed a guy atTop Golf.
Yeah.
Like imagine what I would belike in the wild.
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I can't golf like I have, likeI've actually gone out on golf
courses and shit.
Um, but my thing is 18 holes isa lot like, that is, that's a
long day.
Do you know how many beers I candrink in 18 holes?
And how drunk?
Like, I, I, the first time I did18 holes of golf, I realized why
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Daddy came home drunk all thetime.
I mean, genetically we're builtfor it.
Yeah.
Like, I mean, I could do it, butanyway.
Then you feel that I can, youcan you just get a golf cart and
just drive around the course?
Can you do that?
I feel like that's what I wannado.
Um, like I don't wanna play agolf Michael's ovation.
We will.
We'll pay money just to rent agolf cart.
Yeah.
(58:55):
And drive around.
Here's the thing, I would loveto wear like a cute little
golfing outfit too.
How we could get golf outfits,shoes, like they're shoes for
this sport, right?
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
And gloves.
We could get just one hand.
Just one, like one hand.
Like a Jackson Gloves.
Well, I'm gonna keep, I'm gonnakeep mine in my pocket, in my
back.
In your pocket.
Back pocket.
In your back pocket.
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Mm-hmm.
I'm gonna have avisor a visor.
I feel like I'm gonna wear avisor.
Gonna do.
I'm not gonna do that.
No.
I'm in on the visor for sure.
Okay.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Okay.
Yeah, Becca.
That's get you a visor too.
So, yeah.
So that's what we wanna do.
Uh, we want foursome, we'll haveto get another one.
Mm-hmm.
Yep.
We want How many people do youput in a golf cart?
Four.
Two.
Two.
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I think.
I feel like golf carts, theyhave big ones for four people,
but I'm not sure those are theones that you actually drive
around.
I mean, I mean, if we're course,if we're not, if we're not at,
if you don't have the clubs,which I think are probably
weighing us down in the golfcart.
Oh yeah.
Two people.
Can I be, we could do facing theback.
We could definitely do it.
Yeah, I bet we could do fourpeople in a golf cart.
Perfectly fine.
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My God, I want invented a newsport.
I want to ride in the back.
Like in the back you put yourclubs and there's like a little
strap that goes around yourclubs to hold'em in there.
That's where I actually want toride.
A hundred percent.
What I'm envisioning now is youback there like some sort of
pageant queen.
Yes.
Waving and tricking my beer andsinging.
(01:00:17):
Singing.
We're gonna have to have music.
Of course.
So.
Okay.
They portable speakers.
Yeah.
Okay.
Michael Ovation point.
Uh, if you could make thathappen, in fact, I think you
should probably just sell thoseas part of your golf outing.
I mean, free ideas all day longhere.
Can you imagine just random golfcarts driving around playing
(01:00:37):
music and drinking?
Yes.
We'll take candy too.
We'll throw candy out like we'regonna parade like a parade.
Oh my God, this is so much morefun than golfing.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Absolutely.
All right.
All right.
Here's the golf cart Grand Prix.
We set it up in the parking lot.
I'm guessing this thing is atlike Butler's golf course.
I have to look, but it's it.
(01:00:58):
It's somewhere in WestmorelandCounty.
Shit.
It begins with an N idea.
No one knows where it's, he saidit's a nice golf course.
Perfect.
I bet they have a huge parkinglot.
Mm-hmm.
Grand Prix Golf Cart, grand Prixin the parking lot.
I feel like, oh my God, noactual cars will get injured at
all.
Or people, you have to sign awaiver.
(01:01:18):
You have to sign a waiver andeverything will be recorded.
Not for lawsuits or anything,just because it's that shit will
be funny.
Just for fun.
F Alright, fantastic.
Let's wrap this shit up FAlright.
I think it's time to call it.
Call it.
Call it a.
Call it.
Uh.
Okay.
Bye.
Love you.
Bye.
Come bye.
Love you, bye.
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'cause it'll be easier to get myarms under that.
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Still there.
Still there?
Okay.
I, um, we've worked really hardon those for three days.
I didn't upload of some sort oneof our recent episodes.
Apparently I didn't do do it tothe YouTubes though.
I don't, I don't know what I'mdoing, so I'm gonna, I'm gonna
open the YouTubes and make surethat I have that open so I can
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fix it in three days when I shutmy computer down.
Okay, perfect.
You do that too, Sarah.
Do you leave like a hundred tabsopen on your computer?
I do.
And then I find them and I go,Ooh, shit, most of them, I, it
was just something I wanted toread.
So when I find it, I end upgoing, well, that was four weeks
ago and I'm no longer fuckinginterested in that.
(01:51):
So I will just close it.
Pretty much, Amanda.
That was key.
That's super important.
Early April pretty, because Ihave, I have a few up here right
now.
Uh, there's some coaching thingsand some mindful exercises.
Those tabs have been open forweeks.
Weeks.
This one I just opened thismorning'cause I wanted to talk
(02:11):
about it.
It was, it's, uh, soccerparenting.com parent behavior at
youth sports events.
A call for change, dear Lord inHeaven.
What?
Yep.
I mean, we've talked about ithere a bunch of times.
I have lived it.
Yeah.
You have lived it.
Yeah.
Yeah, parents stop being fuckingassholes.
(02:33):
They're kids.
Let them play.
The majority of them are notgoing to make a profession of
whatever fucking sport.
You're watching them.
So just let them play.
Can you do that?
Can you do that without being anasshole or your own kid and all
the other fucking kids on the,on the court, on the field,
whatever.
Whatever the hell they are,leave everybody alone.
(02:53):
Watch them, cheer them on.
If you can't do that, drop themoff at the field and come back
and get them when the game isover.
It's super simple.
And those referees, thosereferees are, again, this isn't
a professional game.
They're they, they've fall.
I know they get paid, but theyget paid.
I highly doubt they, at thislevel, they're not getting paid
very much.
This professionals, their fulltime, this is not their
(03:16):
full-time career.
And believe me, when they up inthe evening or a Saturday, a
call, they didn't wake up thatmorning and go, you know what,
I'm gonna fuck over Timmy,these, this soccer game tonight.
You bet.
We are.
We'll make sure, we'll make sureTimmy doesn't get into Rutgers.
Yeah.
You know how much that refereegives a fuck about Timmy?
He doesn't.
He doesn't.
(03:37):
Doesn't at all.
I still, Becca, we'll have toput this picture of on Substack,
speaking of referees andinteractions with athletes,
there's a really good picture ofmy daughter playing a college,
uh, sporting event and lookingat the referee like he just
stole her lunch money.
Like it's the best.
(03:58):
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
If there is one picture thatsums up Olivia's entire, uh,
soccer career, it might be bethat picture of her looking at
the referee, like, I don't evenknow what you're talking about.
Yeah.
Oh my God, she punched herselfin the face.
Just gonna say, I thought it wastotally fine for me to punch her
in the face.
What do you mean that's notokay?
(04:19):
Yeah, back to the, back to theparent story.
So I will say having a littlebit of perspective on this, you
know,'cause Olivia's done withall of it and I was thinking
back how that like Olivia'sathlete time, it consumed every
waking moment of my life forabout eight years and now
there's none of that and it isall gone.
(04:39):
And I really wish I would'vebeen less fucking uptight about
everything.
So that is my advice to soccerparents.
Becca, keep it in mind.
Tuck it in your back pocket.
It only lasts for a littlewhile.
I felt like I might be on theopposite end of that.
Like now Owen started to talkabout going to college and I'm
like, fuck.
Like you didn't wanna go tocollege before and now he, all
(05:02):
of a sudden he wants to go tocollege and like wants to play
soccer.
And I'm like, I don't know whatI'm supposed to do.
And he had to go, I can helpyou.
Like a, he had to go to a thingwhere they talked to him about
what you need to do.
I was like, well, back in theday, they coaches just came to
our games.
I don't what you have to, youneed a, you need a, you need
(05:22):
highlight video.
What do you, where are wehighlighting?
What are we highlight?
I don't how many what?
Are you good enough?
I don't.
Hmm.
So yeah, so I might have theopposite problem that I haven't
really given that much of ashit.
And now here we are.
I mean, there's a, there's abalance somewhere between these
(05:43):
two, I think.
Yeah.
'cause I do remember thehighlight video and going, I
didn't, I didn't record everysingle thing.
Like now I have to find the, andthe, the guy's like, I didn't
record anything.
Just so you know, they're,they're recorded somewhere.
You, you get'em from the schoolor whatever.
I mean, they're, they're outthere.
Yeah, that's, that's what Owensaid.
(06:03):
He'll be able to find shit.
Right.
And I guess all their FC gamesare recorded.
I don't know.
Yeah.
I mean, all the victory oneswere Sorry.
I just only assumed that that isthe case.
Yeah, that was the, that was thetrick.
He was like, uh, yeah.
Get, get one of her doing thisand get one of her doing this
and get one of her doing this.
And I was like, yeah, my dude,there are literally 40 games
(06:26):
here and each of those games istwo hours long.
Yeah.
I have a job.
Yeah, Owen's gonna have to,Owen's gonna have to do that.
I'm whispering'cause I thinkhe's outside the door.
But he's gonna have to do that.
'cause I, I have this farm gamethat I have to play every night
for at least two hours.
(06:47):
And I have this book called TheFourth Wing that I, that I need
to read.
I just bought last night, I justbought the latest Hunger Games
book.
It's Hamish's story.
So I don't have a lot of, like,there are important things like
farm games and animals, notanimals, books, farm games and
(07:08):
books and not books for thispodcast, like books.
Either young adult books orpornographic books or whatever.
One's about dragons.
Mm-hmm.
And then I fell for this onFacebook.
Oh no.
Oh no.
I'm excited about it though.
Is that, yeah.
I mean, I feel, I feel like itjust ties into the, the habit of
it literally ties intoeverything that we're doing.
(07:30):
And it, it has my name on it andit came in whatever colors I
wanted it to.
That's great.
For those of you that aren'twatching YouTube, it's the
lasting change book.
And it does, it goes along rightwith the book we're gonna start
talking about today, which isbasically if, uh, you wanna do
something differently in yourlife, you have to change your
life and not just like onelittle thing.
Like there's a lot that, there'sa lot of shit you have to
(07:51):
change.
And when I say change, I don'tmean change who you are, you
could still be you, but you haveto, you have to do things
differently if you want to seethings differently.
So that's what the LastingChange book is about.
I like it because the beginningis all about the shit like we've
been talking about and thescience of habits and changes
and all of that.
And then the end, well themajority of it is like workbook
(08:14):
shit that you do.
And I love a good fuckingworkbook.
I hate a workbook, and I don'tknow if it comes from the time
that I spent in CCD as a child.
Do you remember these workbook?
I didn't have to do that.
I didn't have to go to C, CD'cause by the time I got outta
grade school, mommy was donewith that shit.
So I was never confirmed.
(08:37):
So unfair.
Whatever else there was thatevery Saturday I had to go to C,
c, D.
Anyway, it was, they gave you aworkbook, like it'd never would
be a nice Bible story in thereabout, you know, a leper or a
whore.
I don't know that there weremany horror stories, but I'm,
there might been, that's notwhat they said or could have
been a leper and a whore.
(08:57):
Those are not Bible stories.
Christine.
Maybe in the Catholic, maybe.
Is there Catholic Bible?
I think they read, they all readthe same Bible.
They're at the Bible.
Whores are in the Bible.
People get mad about'em all thetime.
It's true.
It's, they burned out a wholecity.
Sodom and, uh, Gamora.
I don't know which one had thewhores, but I don't know.
But they should be.
One of them did.
(09:18):
They should be called sexworkers.
No.
So somebody should update that.
Somebody should tell the Bible.
Mm-hmm.
Um, anyway, so you get a, you'dget a workbook and it would be
like, and it, you know, they'dgo over the story and it would
tell you how Jesus was a goodperson, and then you would have
to write down why Jesus was agood person in that story and
what you could do to be a goodperson.
And I have really, I just wantedto be done with the work.
(09:43):
Mm-hmm.
Because then you could, youcould like do your independent
activities.
So I would think really hard andjust write as fast as I could.
And, and I still think that'sthe way I approach workbook
these days.
Like I'm not gonna, yeah.
Challenging.
Challenging.
I like the workbook.
I like the workbook.
So anyway, that's, those are thethings that I have to do to
occupy my time instead ofhelping my child get into
(10:04):
college.
I mean, I get it.
80 hours of film is a lot tolook at.
It really is.
I mean, that's not gonna helphim get into college because
I've told him a thousand times,you shouldn't go to college just
'cause you want to play soccer.
So we're trying to work thatout.
But lots to do.
Lots to do in the next couple ofyears for this kid.
He is taking a summer class, sohe will be ready to take some
sort of physics class in thefall.
(10:27):
So is Liv.
He's taking, maybe they can takesummer class together.
His smart shit.
I don't know what he's taking inthe summer.
I think I should know'cause Isigned him up for it.
But that's the kind of shit likethe uk, like I look at it, I do
it.
I forget it.
I'm the worst mom.
You're fine, you're fine.
You know?
You know why you're fine.
(10:48):
The paradox of momming is thatif you think you're a bad mom,
you're probably doing it right.
Prob, I'm probably killing it.
Right?
You're doing better than lots ofother moms who are keeping their
children in cages.
So you're good.
Better moms like Ruby, Frankieand that other woman that I
watched, the latest Netflix mom,man, momager.
(11:11):
Was she a Mormon too kid?
She wasn't.
I feel like maybe that shouldstop kid.
Kid influence, kid influencermom.
Again, if you're feeling badabout your parenting, watch
these documentaries.
'cause you will feel like.
The best freaking parent ever.
It's liter.
I think it's why we watched it.
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I think it's why Noah joined mein watching it.
We just, there were audiblegasps of oh my like what in the
fuck?
So I don't remember the name ofthat one, but it's Piper, I
think Piper was the girl's name.
Piper Never went to school.
Mom didn't think it wasimportant because Piper won the
pageants when she was a baby andthen, and then became a kid
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influencer, and then Piper's mominvited like friends over to
become influencers and then ranthe show on all of them and
then, and then assaulted them inseveral ways.
Yuck.
And then you're the parent thatfinds out about this later.
Like you're the parent of thekid that went over there.
Right.
I think that's why.
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That's why.
So that's why so many people arelike, no, we just have a policy.
We don't do it.
Can you imagine in the eightiesif Nita and Jumbo were like,
yeah, you don't sleep over inanybody's house.
Like, you're just not allowed.
What are talking about?
It's like Jonestown over at, uh,Heather Swank's house.
We just sleep where we fall.
I never slept at anybody'shouse.
'cause I never wanted to.
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I always wanted be at home.
You were different.
You were different.
You were, you would've been okaywith the no sleepover rule.
Fine.
It would've been fun.
They always had to come get me.
'cause I got sick in the middleof the night.
'cause I wanted to come home.
It's nine 15.
I never slept as a child, so Iwas always like the kid, the
creepy kid who was downstairstalking to the parents at 3:00
AM Hey guys, what's up?
I have a great story.
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I have a great sleepover story.
Owen's first sleepover now, hehad, he had tried to sleepover a
couple places and it didn't workout.
And we also would give himmelatonin at home.
God.
So his first sleepover, like Itold the mom this, he's tried
before, he's had to come homelike, it's fine, just call us
whatever.
And uh, he made it the wholenight and went to pick him up.
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And I guess he got up, he triedto come home and they were like,
that's fine, you're gonna befine.
And then he proceeded to tellthe parents that he couldn't
sleep because his mom and dadnormally give him the medicine.
And I was like, oh yeah.
Um, that's just melatonin.
It's fine.
It's fine.
So anyway, yeah.
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Uh, yeah, because of themedicine, he couldn't sleep
because of the medicine that hisparents give him.
That's hilarious.
Yeah.
Anyway, okay.
We just jumped around a lotthere.
I.
Should we talk about your mom?
Yeah.
Yes.
Good old nun nun had a doctor'sappointment this week and we
decided we, being the sister andI, uh, decided to the gastric
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girls.
The gastric girls decided totake the day off and go take nun
to the doctor.
She was going to therheumatologist.
She was a bit anxious about thewhole thing and as a She wanted
the nun will be.
Yeah.
And she, she wanted us to comewith her.
So it worked out really well.
We all had our, what's itcalled?
Assignments.
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I was the driver.
I was driving us to get there.
Um, my assignment was to set theschedule that my sister would
break, so I was the driver, butthen Christine was there because
she's good with the big words.
So first of off.
I will say you are also goodwith the big words, but it, it's
part of the, like, it's justpart of the story.
It's good.
It's good because none said thatto me.
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Literally when we were told onlyone of us could go back.
So you stay, stay here.
We'll get there.
We'll get there first.
First we need to apologize tonone because we didn't listen to
her.
I didn't listen to her.
Sorry, nun.
I was I going with what the GPSwas telling me in the car and my
eyeballs.
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And the eyeballs, it was on thefifth floor and we pulled up to
where Nunny said it was, whichwasn't where.
The GPSS was telling me we pullup to there anyway.
'cause that's where she said togo.
And there were definitely not,there were, there were two
floors of this building, right?
Maybe two.
This is not a five storybuilding at all.
No, no at all.
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And the one in the distance towhich the GPS was leading us, it
was definitely five stories.
Definitely five stories.
So, great.
So we head there, I drop nun andsissy off.
I go park the car.
Come down.
They're just sitting outsidenow.
Um, I think it's important forthe listeners to understand
just.
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The amount of stress I added toall of this nun's appointment is
for 1130.
Nun is instructed to be there at1115.
So we were gonna leave, uh, youdid a very smart thing and said,
Hey, you have to be over here at10 o'clock.
Um, I was gonna meet them atnun's house at, at 10 o'clock
and that would, that would'vebeen great.
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'cause it takes about 45 minutesto get there.
Yeah.
I wanted to leave by 10 15.
And that gives us a cushion forin case we get lost.
'cause we dunno the exact, youknow, the exact things that
happened.
Right.
So we'll get there.
Traffic.
We might, we might be a littleearly, but that's fine.
'cause we'll be there.
The, uh, the anxiety will beless.
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Uh, what time did you get tomommy?
What time did you get to Mommyand Daddy's?
10 30.
10 40.
10 40.
I mean, I said 10 30.
I said I'll be there in sevenminutes.
And I was there in.
10.
You said I'll be there more like10 30.
And then you called at 10 32 andsaid, I'm leaving now.
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I'm, I'm on my way.
I'll be there in five minutes,seven minutes.
And I said, okay, seven minutestogether.
Wait, we'll wait for you.
And uh, I told Nani, um, sheliterally just got in her car.
You guys were sitting in the carat that point, weren't you?
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
But we were just walking out tothe car at that point.
I figured, I said, I'll just getthe car turned around and we'll
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go, we'll be ready to go whenshe gets here.
Yeah, it, so anyway, if notpredictable.
So that added, added pressure.
Now at this point it is 1115, soNani should be checking in and
now you can see like the panicYeah.
On her face.
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So I have caused this.
So it turns out we were at thewrong building.
When I get down there and meetthem at the door, Christina's on
the phone trying to find outwhere we go.
I go walking around thebuilding, like something's gonna
pop out at whatever.
Anyway, we get back in the car,I drop them off, they go up, I
blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Get upstairs.
It's time for nun to go backinto the doctor's office and all
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we, all three of us get up'causewe're all gonna go back there.
'cause none said she wanted bothof us back there.
She told me that three, threeshowed up.
She like, she actually said, Idon't care what they say.
You're both coming back with me.
And I was like, all right,whatever.
All right.
And the nurse was like, oh, wecan only have one person back
there with her because the roomsare real small.
Immediately none was like, nonefolded, like a paper bag to my
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face, right hand in my face.
And she said, you stay out here.
She's good with the big words tosissy.
So I said, okay, I'll be outhere.
On my phone looking up where theUK is trying to, trying to
figure out what is Germany inthe eu?
Yeah.
I don't know.
Right.
So yeah.
So there's none.
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So that that's, that's how that,that worked out.
But none is so cute.
She's literally a bird.
Yeah, she's, she's a little birdwith little, little bones with
the osteoporosis, with hollowbones.
Is that what osteoporosis is?
Little, yeah, it's a thinning ofyour bones.
Oh, okay.
Yeah.
So she's literally, she's like alittle bird, a little baby bird.
So she's gone from a baby mouseto a baby bird, baby bird, which
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seems right.
She eats like a baby bird.
Right.
Eventually we'll have to chew upher food for her.
I nominate you for that.
Nope, that's all you.
You're good.
No way.
Nope.
We'll get somebody in a nursinghome to do.
That sounds great.
Hell no.
Enjoyable day.
Really?
I really liked, I didn't likethe doctor'cause that was sort
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of a pain in the butt and I feltreally stressed out about it.
Let's.
Let's talk about the smells inthe car.
No.
No.
So we, after afterwards we go tolunch and, um, our friend friend
Erin comes out and meets us atlunch at the Barn and Barrel in
Elizabeth.
Big shout out to those guys.
Woo, wonderful.
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Absolutely wonderful.
And they have Miller Light, sothat was pretty cool.
Get some wings to go.
They're smoked wings.
We get the wings to go, we getin the car.
They're pretty potent smelling,which that's good.
I love a good smoked wing smell.
From there we go into downtownElizabeth to the, uh, what's the
name of it?
Simply You.
Simply You.
Uh, such a great place.
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So, and candle shop, which, uh,shout out to them.
Uh, you should stop down therein the town of Elizabeth, uh,
whenever you get a chance.
'cause they have super awesomestuff and I love everything.
Um, we go down there and we buya bunch of candles and
everything and soaps and flearepellent for the dog.
Nun said the bomb nun said, wedon't have the babies to spoil
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anymore, so I gotta getsomething for the dog.
So we had everything, a littlebit of everything, some foot
scrub, some candle lotion, whichwas something new for me, right.
Anyway, all the good smellingshit.
So we get in the car and now thevery strong smell of candles and
soap is mixing in with thesesmoked wings, chicken wings,
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which is enough to be like, it'skind of terrible.
The last stop is the Sto Stogiebird.
Stogie Bird on Stogie Bird on51.
Yes.
Which is owned by a friend ofours, or a childhood friend of
ours who's just like family tous.
So it is owned by Sammy Lasha.
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So check out the Stogie Bird onone Wonderful little stokey
smoking.
I know.
You walk in there.
It's total cigars.
Yeah, smells delicious.
Like I love the smell of acigar.
So it smells great when youspend some time in there and
then you carry that smell outwith you and you put it in the
car with the wings and thecandles and the soap.
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It not as it caused a very badreaction.
My mouth.
Mouth.
I dunno why it was just in yourmouth.
I was like, was so thirsty.
Like, I don't know if that'swhat caused it, but in my mind,
this is what, this is what made,I was so thirsty and for some
reason in my mind it was thesmell of everything that was
making me so thirsty.
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We went into Mommy and Daddy'sand I literally chugged like two
huge glasses of water.
It was, it was like, um, it waslike you had gone to Long John
Silver's.
Mm mm-hmm.
Maybe it was, maybe it was thesaltiness of the, of the food at
the, uh, that might've been it,it might've been the brisket
sandwich that I had.
That was probably it.
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Delicious.
And the cheesy, the big cheesewheel that I had was very salty.
Which is also delicious.
Delicious.
Yeah.
That is, that is actually nowwe've, that's why it wasn't the
combination.
It was just the, it was, uh,salty.
It was just salt.
It wasn't the combination of thesmells, but yeah, the smells
were, uh, yeah, it was, it waskicking.
It was kicking.
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Mm-hmm.
I highly recommend you stop atall of those places at separate
times.
Right.
Do not all at once.
Don't do, don't.
You could stop at all of them,but maybe a different order,
like maybe you do candles lastmaybe, I don't know.
You do like cigars, uh, friedfood, candles.
I think we'll have to do itagain and mix up the, uh, the
timing and we'll have to do itto we figure out which one is
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right.
Yeah.
Tough.
We'll have to, we have to takemommy with us, so she buys the
food.
Yeah.
That is, uh, it key.
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
Key for all of this.
Yeah.
Good to say.
It was a fun day.
I can't wait to, I can't wait touse all my soaps.
I take, I've taken them out ofthe package, so we've taken the
first step into using them.
I haven't put the entire packageof foot things underneath the
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sink yet.
I've used my face lotion and Idon't know if you remember when
I checked out, she was like,it's like, don't use a lot.
'cause a little goes like reallyfar away.
And it literally, I didn't even,like, I literally just had to
rub my finger right on top of itand that covered my whole face.
This is gonna last forever.
Lasting face lotion you have tobuy.
Yeah.
Thank you.
Simply it was, yeah, it waswonderful.
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And I've been using my goat'smilk lotion also, if any of
these places want to, uh, pay usYeah.
For, yeah.
For these, uh, for theseendorsements.
I mean, we are absolutely ahundred percent willing to take
your money in addition tonanny's money.
Yeah.
We have like five people thatlisten on the rig.
Right.
So if maybe, maybe you guyscould go to, uh, you know, the
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lady that owns the soap storeand be like, Hey.
If you can go see Steph at the,at the story early on the pod.
Yeah.
Perfect.
Alright.
That's all I got for gastricshit today.
I don't really have a Gasterstory.
I think we just covered ourstories today with my annoyance
with soccer parents and ourlittle, uh, adventure with
Nanny.
So thanks none.
Thanks for letting us hang outwith you on Monday.
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It was fun.
Thanks.
I'm the Red Lion, wasn't openand Red Lion.
I bet you're sad you weren'topen.
'cause I am not endorsing youuntil you're open on a Monday
and I can go eat.
Right.
We're not gonna talk about howmuch we would've enjoyed that.
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
As a throwback to our childhood.
Yeah.
Definitely not gonna sayanything about it.
We would've had.
Great, I have great Red Lionstories for Gaster gastric
stories, but, okay.
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Yep.
Yep.
All right.
Next week shall we talk aboutthe most bizarre science book
I've ever read?
Breaking the Habit of BeingYourself by Joe Dispenza.
Mm-hmm.
Is it Dispenza?
Mm-hmm.
I don't know.
Our boy, Dr.
Joe.
Joe, there's lots of words, lotsof sciencey words.
(24:59):
I really like this book Morethan more so than the last book.
'cause there's a little bit,there's lots, lots more science.
Mm-hmm.
It's, uh, it's, I, but, but Idon't like it for other reasons.
I don't have a, um, I don't, I'mjust gonna say this and then I'm
gonna shut up and let you talkabout it because you're gonna do
a way better job talking aboutit.
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I don't really have a thoughteither way just yet.
There were some thingsdefinitely throughout it that I
was like, bullshit.
But then some things that I waslike, that kind of makes, like,
I, I get it.
I feel like I could do that.
So I just, I'm not giving up onit yet.
Like, I wanna see this bookthrough and I wanna get to the
end where he's giving us actualthings to do and I wanna read
(25:41):
all this stuff leading up tothat, so.
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
It can all click.
And I kind of feel like he saysthroughout the beginning, like,
just stick with me.
Right.
Yeah.
I feel, I feel like I am gonna,it's, it's a book with science
in it, but also a book where I'mgonna be like, nah, dog.
Yeah.
I'm not buying it.
It's like, Randy from, um, earlyDays of American Idol.
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I'm gonna be like, nah, dog.
It's not for me.
So it, here's, here's, here'sthe way, uh, Joe, uh, Dr.
Joe, uh, explains it.
Um.
You have to break the habit ofbeing you if you want to be
something else.
So like for me, I've had 50years of thinking the same way,
coming to the same conclusions,doing the same thing.
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And if you think about youradult life, you have essentially
been stuck in sort of the samepatterns.
Your beliefs haven't changedvery much.
You are essentially the, prettymuch the same person that, that
you were because you are havingthe same thoughts and doing the
same activities over and overand over again on repeat and
(26:44):
looking out at a different,different reality out there
somewhere.
Uh, but taking no effectivedefinitive steps to get from A
to B.
He says that there's no reasonthat you can't because your
personality isn't fixed.
And I think we've, we've touchedon this a couple of times, that,
yeah, your personality isn'tfixed because your beliefs
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aren't fixed.
Um, what you think about, uh,you know, what you think about
topics today isn't necessarilythe same way that, that maybe
you've thought about thembefore.
Um, and to just that, you needto, uh, take the changes that
are occurring in your beliefsystem and line them up with
your actions.
And for Dr.
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Joe, that means a lot ofchanging, uh, your thoughts.
And it has to do with, uh.
Newtonian and quantumworldviews, which yeah, I think
is where Sarah went.
Woo.
Cool.
Cool.
There's a lot like, I, I, what Iwish I did,'cause I highlight
shit, like you could see myhighlighting throughout.
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I wish what I would've done isjust highlighted shit I couldn't
pronounce.
So we could review that.
'cause there were definitely,there was, there was a lot of
things in here that I could notpronounce that I know should be
easier for my brain and theyjust weren't happening.
But, but go ahead.
Like in Game of Thrones, when Iput a little sticky note on the
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places where everybody died.
Yeah.
One of my favorite activitiesever.
I'm fine.
I was fine then.
Nothing.
Yeah.
Nothing troublesome there atall.
So the core message from chapterone is that, again,
personalities aren't fixed.
You can change your reality,your health.
I'm gonna put, I'm gonna put abig, uh, BS tag on the health
one.
(28:29):
I don't think we're gonna curecancer by changing the way we
think.
Yeah.
I feel like.
I feel like if we eat McDonald'sfor every meal, but you just
think that you're healthy.
I don't, I'm not sure that'sgonna, I mean, it's gonna be
about lining up those thoughtsand the actions.
Okay.
Maybe, maybe that's, but still,but still with a, yeah, no,
that's where I am right now.
(28:50):
Okay.
Let's line up the thoughts withthe actions.
Let's see the reality that wewant.
Let's focus on it.
Right?
Let's manifest that into realityand at the same time, maybe
change a habit or two, likefigure out what we're doing
wrong and don't do that.
Um, like the McDonald's everyday, maybe don't do that.
Right.
And you will have, you will behealth healthier.
Like that's, that's really what.
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Like, uh, flipping back toatomic habits and being like,
you know what?
I don't want to eat healthier.
I want to be a healthy personand in order to be a healthy
person, I don't eat McDonald's.
I'm a better person thaneverybody else'cause I don't eat
McDonald's.
But the way love McDonald'sthough.
Me too.
Me too.
So Dr.
Joe focuses on, uh, you makethese changes not by working
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harder in the physical world.
So not necessarily by changinghabits, but more like changing
your inner world of thoughts andemotions.
So I think this is gonna end upbeing one of those chicken and
egg discussions as we go throughthe books.
Like which one drives the other?
Uh, like, yeah.
And I, I am not, I'm not goingdiscount the fact that they're
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very powerful things that Dr.
Joe has pointed out in thesechapters that make sense
scientifically, at least the waythat he is writing them down.
I haven't thought much about,uh, quantum worldviews, really,
uh, not too much about, uh, thedifference between classical
physics, the Newtonian model andthe quantum model.
(30:15):
I haven't spent a whole lot oftime in that space.
Sounds fun.
Yeah.
So the difference between thosetwo is that Newtonian physics,
like if you remember Newton, hegot hit in the head with Apple.
Um, because it, the world is allkinds of physical, right?
There's forces that that act onthings, and that's generally the
physics that we all learn inhigh school.
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Uh, forces, gravity, uh, youknow, those kinds of things.
Uh, change happens only throughphysical effort and time is kind
of the way we relate it to, uh,making changes in, in who we are
and how we interact with theworld.
Right?
So we go to exercise classesmore.
If we wanna be skinny.
We consciously think about goingto church every week if we wanna
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be more religious.
Physical changes lead to the waythat we change our environment,
health, our relationships, oursuccess, and our happiness, our
results of our interactions withthat physical world.
The quantum model kind of takesus from Newtonian physics to
quantum physics, which is moreabout energy than matter.
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So we start thinking aboutEinstein and e equals mc
squared, and.
Reality is made up of energy,uh, and not matter at its most
fundamental level.
So we start talking about thespace between the stuff that
makes up the atoms and real coolstuff.
I honestly can't listen to itenough.
I see you falling asleep anddon't do it.
Don't do it.
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It's cool.
Think about that.
Like there is enough space inbetween the stuff that makes up
the atoms that I should be ableto walk through this wall.
Yeah.
I can't.
I mean, I can't.
Yeah.
Which is where I get sort ofhung up on it like, yeah, that's
so cool.
Watch me put my hand through.
No, we can't do it.
No, because there's for realwall there.
So the idea behind this stuff isthat the energy is what connects
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us.
The energy is what keeps theatom together.
The energy is what makes thewall solid and everything is
interconnected in a field.
Okay?
This is, this is where it getssuper cool of.
Infinite potential called aquantum field.
So if you think about it, uh,and let's, let's do the most
basic activity that you can do.
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Like I'm sitting at my desk andmy next move right now, let's
see, we're done talking.
Uh, my next move is either I'mgonna stand up or I'm gonna move
my leg, or I'm gonna throw thiscat off my lap.
There's these infinitepossibilities of things that are
gonna happen at 7 0 8.
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It's still infinite now, right?
But the closer and closer we getto 7 0 8, I start eliminating
those possibilities.
Like the closer we get to 7 0 8,um, uh, the cat moves.
All right, so now at 7 0 8, I'mnot doing shit with the cat
'cause he's not here at 7 0 6, Iget up so I can't get up at 7 0
8'cause I've already done it.
You shrink the amount ofpossibilities by focusing on
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them.
It, and the way that somebodyexplained this back in the day,
it might've been Eric Thomas whodid TaeKwonDo with us because we
were talking about beingfighting somebody and watching
them go from deciding to do likea, a punch to a kick.
And you can see the moment ithappens.
So I, if you think about allthose infinite possibilities of
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the next move, like floating andswirling around and if you can
get to what they're gonna do onesecond before they do.
So if you watch thosepossibilities of like, I imagine
it like a tangled, um, mess ofstring right around, around you
and then.
The number of strings decreasesand decreases and gets more
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solid until there's only one.
And if you can fight that onestring, then, then you win the
TaeKwonDo battle every time inquantum, in a quantum model.
So that kind of describes aquantum field.
Are you bored?
You think No, you make it muchmore enticing.
Enticing not the word that makesmore sense.
Right?
And I remember exactly where Ilearned that.
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It wasn't Eric Thomas.
It was in a book about elvesthat were fighting.
Fuck.
Alright, nevermind.
You lost, man.
Super cool.
Now he just super cool.
Yeah, you made like 10 stepsforward and 42 back, Sam.
It applies.
Still applies, still applies.
Bunch of string, right?
Fighting out bunch an Elvinstring.
It's fine.
The ears were pointed.
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It's cool.
So in this way, consciousnessaffects reality.
You know, observer influencesthe outcome.
So think about it.
When somebody's looking at you,you're gonna act slightly
differently and.
They, you, they don't have totouch you for you to know that
they're observing you like that,the little hairs that stand up
on the back of your neck whenyou know somebody's in the room,
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but you can't, you haven't seenthem yet.
Mm-hmm.
Like, think about that on atinier and tinier and tinier
scale.
So the idea here is that you'renot separate from that energy
around you.
Like those tiny hairs stand upon the back of your neck for a
reason.
And that reason is because theenergy around you has changed
somehow.
You're an energetic beingimmersed in a sea of
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possibility.
I like that one.
I like that.
So that kind of explains the,the, the sort of head space
we're, we're gonna be in for,for this.
So he goes on a little bit, uh,a little bit long for me, and he
is collapsing possibilities intoreality by focusing on them
every possible version of you.
Healthy, wealthy wise, uh,apparently we're all gonna be
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Benjamin Franklin when we're alldone here.
Uh, fulfilled, loved, empowered,et cetera.
Like whatever you can imagine,um, that perfect version of
yourself exists out theresomewhere because they all exist
out there somewhere.
And what you're doing, uh,through focus is bringing that,
bringing that one string thatyou want to see into focus and
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watching the other ones sort ofdisappear.
Um, so there you go.
And it's not like an overnightthing, right?
This is where I'm like, well, soif I go to bed at night and I
think I wanna be a princess inthe morning, right?
That's not exactly how it works.
There, there are a couple thingsI wanna talk about.
One, I thought this was reallycool, um, I think it was a study
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done here at the Heart MathResearch Center in California
about how your emotions affectyour thoughts.
Let me read it.
When we have negative emotionssuch as anger and fear, our
heart rhythms become erratic anddisorganized.
So you're kind of all over theplace.
You're all anxious and shit,right?
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In contrast, positive emotions,love, joy, for instance, produce
highly ordered and coherentpatterns.
So that makes like a ton ofsense and I just, I highlighted
it because I love that.
Because even though it soundssuper simple when you read it.
Again, like I just did.
Obviously it's something thatdoesn't really, it's like, oh
yeah, that makes sense.
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When I'm angry, when I'm crazy,my shit's all over the place.
I shouldn't say crazy, but whenI'm angry and when I'm having
those negative emotions,everything's all over the place.
There's no good pattern.
But then when I'm calmer and ina more loving state, uh, those
more positive states, you havemore of a consistency, which I
thought was cool.
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Here is, here's where I get tosay my line.
Go ahead.
Your thoughts are electricboogie, woogie.
Woogie.
There you go.
If anyone is familiar with theelectric slide, it's electric.
I hate the electric.
Your emotions are magnetic.
So if you think about your mindas a signal sending device,
which is what we're gonna bedoing for the, the rest of this
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book.
Mm-hmm.
So if you think about your mindas the, as the way you're going
to target that specific stringin the field of possibility,
then your heart and yourfeelings are the receiving and
the attracting mechanism.
So if you see your little stringout, off in the distance, what
you put into your heart and yourfeelings is what you're gonna be
able to pull back.
Like your ability to bring thatparticular string closer to you
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depends on, um, how you're ableto center your feelings and
emotions, your heart and yourfeelings.
So aligning what you think, whatyou feel lets you broadcast a
clear signal to the, the thingthat you want.
Again, it makes like, it makessense, it makes sense, but a lot
of things that.
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So do dragons.
Like if I, if I say it, if youthink about it enough, if you
think about it enough, like adragon who has multiple
boyfriends and girlfriends, itdefinitely makes sense.
Can also like, because it's inthe book, lemme ask you, let me
ask you this.
Okay.
How do you feel about the studythat was done on how your
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current thoughts can affect thepast?
I mean, we talk about it hereall the time, like your current
thoughts do affect a past,right.
What, I'm just, I want you tofinish that thought.
Like, yeah.
I mean that's, I mean, I thinkalso if we're, and automatically
I go to kind of the meditationspace, right?
Like we're, we're talking abouthow that meditation space
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doesn't necessarily exist inyour head.
It's not a, in your head.
Space.
Right?
So the memories are there, butyou fuck with them all the time.
So, and then maybe, okay,because, so no, let's go back.
So explain to me,'cause you saidthat our thoughts now affect the
past and we talk about that.
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You said, so explain to me how,what you mean?
Like, did we have a hamster?
Yeah.
Right.
Was his name Lawrence?
No.
Like this is, this is what I'mtalking about.
Did we have a bird?
Like I, oh, well then maybe Idon't understand the study that
he's talking about because that,what are you getting out?
What are you getting out of it?
That's not how I understood it.
What are you getting out of it?
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Uh, I don't know, maybe I'm tooliteral for it.
Tell me why you're thinking,'cause you're probably not.
I mean, sometimes, you know, I,I don't, I don't wanna surprise
anyone on here, but it's abouthow they, like in this study,
sometimes I read things into,uh, stuff that maybe just
doesn't belong there.
How they had, they had groups ofindividuals that were praying
and putting good thoughts intosomething for people who were
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sick, right?
So, um, it was involving, uh, dada da prayer experiments of the
mind affecting matter at adistance.
So they were looking at patientswho suffered from sepsis.
Oh, thank God.
I thought I missed reading thestory.
Okay.
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Because I thought there was avery specific story in here that
was more about like peopleinteracting and thinking about
their memories and how theychange.
And that's, that's not, it'sjust this story about the
prayers, right?
No, it's about how these people,but this, so this, this study
was done might skip to the endon this one.
Yeah.
The study was done in 2000.
It was involving, uh, about3,400 people who were
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hospitalized with sepsis.
And what they did was they putthem into groups and they told
people to pray and think and dospecific things for each group.
And it turns out that the groupthat had the prayer and the
thoughts and the very specific,I don't know how to explain it
without like reading it exactly.
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It turns out that group, thosepeople got better quicker or
something to that effect, but.
The study was done, the peoplewere ha doing the thoughts, the
prayers in the year 2000, butthe patients that they were
praying for or whatever, thosewere patients who were actually
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getting better during thenineties.
Right.
So I feel like we have to justread the whole thing.
Yeah.
Uh, so for me, for me, thatstory is, uh, is, uh, is the
reason I don't like it.
Um, that story, that story forme is one that, that I looked at
and went, you can't Yeah.
Pray away.
That's an illness.
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That's why I wanted to talkabout it, because it was kind of
baffling to me.
I feel like I see, like that'ssomething like I wanted to get,
I guess I wanted to get yourperspective on it from a study
point of view.
Like, is that something you'veseen before or I.
I will tell you that, uh, someof, some of that really kicked
off some, uh, oddly enough,believe it or not.
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Um, memories from when I wasworking in the hospital, uh,
with, um, with Dr.
Mayer.
Do you remember Dr.
Mayer?
Mm-hmm.
We, we would get together withsome of the other, uh,
physicians, um, and talk about,um, junk science that we had
read.
And this was like a hot topicbecause somebody was like, look,
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this works.
And the, the rest of us werelike, it doesn't, I mean, look
at the way the study'sconstructed.
This seems like a cool idea.
And this like tickled, uh,tickled those memories.
And I'm pretty sure what I didwas just look at it and be like,
Hmm, uh, I agree to disagree.
I agree to disagree, my dude.
So I think that that, that isgonna happen to me a lot.
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And it might be that I'll comeback and take a look at it and
be like, oh, I can see how andwhy that would, that would work.
But if I can't, if I can'tconceive of the mechanism by
which that works, like yeah.
If we are, if we're looking backin the past and affecting, like,
I understand, you know, time'snot real.
It's a construct.
But even that is like, that is abit beyond what I can conceive
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of as possible.
Then we're getting into therealm of dragons.
So I, I think this is where it,I'm just reading it over right
now.
So it's, I mean, it was prettybasic.
It was a prayed for group and anot prayed for group.
Right, right.
The prayed for, and he comparedthe results in three categories,
how long the fever lasted, thelength of the hospital stay, and
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how many died as a result of theinfection.
So the pray for the prayed forgroup benefited from an earlier
de decrease in fever and ashorter hospital.
Hos that word, I should havehighlighted it.
Hospitalization.
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
But, so I don't know, I thetiniest Right.
That maybe, right.
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I think this is, this seemed,again, it, again, it's, it's
tickling, it's tickling junkscience in my head because that
is exactly what we would'vetalked about was the statistical
significance of it.
So it, yeah, it just seemed, it,it seemed this was a part that I
was like, bullshit.
I mean, yeah, you'd have to,you'd have to like really peel
(44:40):
it apart, right.
Because what the, what thestatisticians are gonna look for
is what else was going on?
Like what, what caused thesepsis, how bad was the sepsis?
Like, right.
What are the other likeconfounding variables that are,
uh, sorry again, it's just nerdnerds.
Do nerds.
No, no, it's, thank goodnessthough.
'cause I was really confused.
I was like, did I miss an entirestory?
I was really confused.
(45:00):
I was like, did I totally getthat wrong?
It seems like a pretty basicstudy.
And I was, I was trying to likeBS my way through it.
I'm like, oh yeah, no.
We've talked often on thispodcast about, yeah, I was like,
really?
Fuck.
Like.
Do, don't remember talking aboutthat.
Yeah.
Um, yeah, I mean, it, it, I, I,I think we're gonna find this
fringy stuff along the way.
(45:22):
So if you think about thephysics of it and the quantum
pieces of it, uh, yeah.
I mean, the fact that there isenergy everywhere and that
thoughts are electric.
Okay.
Yeah.
I, I'll, I'll, I'll put my, I'llput my apples in the basket for
a little bit.
Um, I'll play around.
I'll play around.
It does like, I think it doesmake a difference.
Like there was, there wasdefinitely that one particular
study, sorry, I had to bring itup just'cause it was, that was
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the big bullshit moment for me.
However, there's so much otherstuff in here that I do.
Believe will make a differenceand can make a difference.
Yeah, and I, I think, I thinkit's more about aligning because
if you think about it, um, ifyou think about having the
greatest effect on, uh, onbringing that solid string that
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you want to happen to happen,it's gonna be about aligning.
And, and let's say that is like,oh, I would really like this
person that I love to get out ofthe hospital, uh, faster.
And if, if you, uh, can conceiveof the fact that, that I can
make that happen, then you giveyourself something to focus on
(46:26):
and you create an atmospherewhere maybe, maybe that's likely
to happen.
Like you will talk to a nurse,you will, you know, interact in,
in some way that maybe affectsthe outcome of, of that.
I mean, you're not gonnaovercome, you're not gonna
overcome the.
A gunshot wound to the head.
You're not gonna overcome, youknow, stage four cancer.
(46:47):
But it, you know, there, thereare possible ways that aligning
your positive thoughts and yourpositive approach and your
actions and what you believe canhappen, uh, that, that you can
affect some change in yourworld.
I can, I can see that a hundredpercent.
Does that make sense?
1%?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Absolutely.
Absolutely.
So, you know, I think the, thetrick is being able to get out
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of the habit loop of beingyourself.
So this is like the whole cruxof chapter one.
Yeah.
Which goes into chapter two,which is overcoming your
environment, which is a lot ofwhat we, what we live in and,
and what is based on our pastand all of that.
So, yep, yep.
That's, that's what we, we needto get past ourselves into the
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change that we need.
Like, imagine, imagine that yourideal person, what your, what
your solid string looks like issomebody who is content with
their life, um, who reallyenjoys what's happening around
them for the most part.
Somebody who is living in themoment, embracing the things
that are happening, takingresponsibility for, for things
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that come up, somebody who's,uh, calm, cool, collected, in
control, in charge, that is sortof a, a, a, a thing that most
people would like to havehappen.
That would be a nice solidstring to, to bring to myself.
Yeah.
If I, uh, if I keep doing thesame things, like the reason
that most people don't change isbecause we, uh.
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My, my everyday world doesn'tline up with that.
Right.
My everyday world is getting upin the morning being like, fuck,
fuck, fuck, fuck.
Right?
Which doesn't align with someonewho is like calm and rational
and Right.
Like, yeah.
Me, me looking at the clockgoing, you gotta get going, you
gotta get going.
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Is not like the, the way tomanifest these things that I
want to happen to be that cool,calm, collected persona.
Yeah.
And if you have it, if you haveyour thoughts and align with all
of that, and you're convinced ofthat, which isn't totally
simple, like right.
When I see what I want to be,there's also, it goes back to
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talking about the self-doubt andthe self-criticism, right?
It's like, do I truly think thatI can succeed as that?
I.
No.
So therefore I don't changeanything.
So I need to change that.
And me, I need to be confidentin myself that that's what I can
be.
And if I am confident in thatsolid string, that will help me
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in taking strides, in makingchanges to become that
individual, right?
Like we, we have to, we have tostop.
Um, we have to stop envisioningthe thing we wanna be, and then
acting in a way that doesn'tbring that to us.
I mean, that's fundamentallythe, the crux of every book that
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we've read is that you know whatyou wanna do, you know what you
have to do, get your shittogether and do it.
I mean, that is essentially whatthis book is saying, like, why
most people don't change.
They have the same thoughts,they create the same feelings.
Like, I have the same thoughtof, you gotta get up and get
after it.
And then I wake up and I'm like,fuck, fuck.
That is why I feel the same waytoday that I did 15 years ago
(50:02):
looking at my Facebook posts,apparently keep thinking like if
I could just get up a little bitearlier, I could get a lot of
shit done.
Right.
And then guess what I do ofsleep it?
I don't, and you know what?
I don't hit snooze anymore.
I just set my alarm later so Idon't feel bad about hitting
snooze.
Fuck me.
'cause we, your brain is so,like that is, that is the
(50:24):
interesting thing.
And I think that is what we aregoing to, we're gonna bump up
against that one constantly.
Right?
Like your brain is just so wiredto get around all the things
that you should do that aregonna be good and healthy.
Yeah.
Like your brain is so.
We read about hitting snooze.
And like I learned, and for,for, for a week or so, I, I
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didn't hit the, well, I haven'thit the snooze, but for a week I
was actually getting up earlierand I was real proud of the fact
that I wasn't hitting thesnooze.
I was getting up, I was doingwhat I wanted to do, and then
like, you know, the followingweek I was like, Ugh.
But I'm really tired, but Idon't wanna hit the snooze.
Okay.
So I'll just set my alarm for ahalf hour later, a dick, because
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there is this, there's thisnatural tendency of everything
that exists on this planet tojust devolve, devolve towards
the chaos.
Chaos.
And the, the most important linethat I read in chapter one, and
then we'll talk a little bitabout meditation, then I think
we're done, is to break thehabit loop of being yourself.
You have to think greater thanhow you feel and act greater
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than your current reality.
So it is the.
I love that wildestoversimplification of how to get
a better life that I have everread in my entire life.
Yeah, no.
Yeah.
Do your, yeah.
Get it.
Get it.
Strings and energy thinkinggreater than how I feel, acting
greater than my current reality.
Of course.
Mm-hmm.
Of course.
(51:52):
Right.
Or I just wake up every morningand go, fuck.
Like, I wish, I wish.
And then think about all theshit that could be different
Right now if you just Right.
Didn't do that shit for the lasttwo weeks.
Like, if you just stayed on thecourse, what would things be
like now?
Right.
Right.
All the time.
All the time.
Like, imagine the goddamnmuscles I would have if I didn't
quit on CrossFit.
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'cause it's hard.
Right, right.
Oh, I'd be so annoying.
Yeah.
I, we wouldn't be friendsanymore.
So again, how do we, how do weget from, how do we get from A
to B?
And a lot of that is again,having that, having that pause
to go, is this the best decisionI'm gonna make right now?
No.
Me getting up and going, shit,shit, shit, shit.
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14 things to do that I couldhave done last night, but I
didn't.
Fuck, fuck.
Or is it, Hey, um, you let it golast night, so why don't you
keep letting it go?
Uh, get yourself in a littlemeditation chair.
Have a little meditation, rest.
Put some things in perspective.
Give yourself the ability to,you know, collect your thoughts,
calm down a little bit, and thengo tackle the day, friend.
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Yeah, these are bothpossibilities that could happen.
Um, I don't choose that secondone hardly ever, even though
that is the path to the.
Calm, cool, collected person whois into a, a wild maniac all the
time.
Clear, clear path, easy path.
Yeah.
One decision, one change.
So it, a, a lot of what we'regonna focus on is going to be
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creating that, creating theability in your brain to make
that one, that one decision.
And again, we're gonna get backto how focusing the energy on
the, the thing that you want andfocusing the energy.
Does change your brain?
They that I can, I'll, I'llswallow that pill whole every
(53:38):
time.
Yeah.
The neuroplasticity exists inthere to change 100% the
behavior.
And if you can stick with it,you can change it and your world
can be different.
I a hundred percent believe thatwe are not forced into, uh, the,
the craziness by genetics orenvironment or, or any of these
things.
You do possess that.
And whether it's quantum physicsor it's neuroplasticity makes a
(54:01):
very, very little difference ingetting from A to B.
So that's what I, that's what Igot.
You're not stuck with yourbiology as think is how we, how
we wrap up.
Chapter one.
So a lot of it seems bullshit.
Like a lot of it is like, yeah,you can pray somebody better,
but you can't.
Maybe, I don't know, likeGalileo, everyone was like, ah,
Galileo, what a dick.
Yeah, sure.
(54:21):
The sun's in the middle.
Idiot.
Idiot.
Yeah.
Thank you for all your, uh,science evidence.
Suck a dick Galileo later, dude.
Come over here.
We have some stones to throw atyou.
It was a great, great IndigoGirl song though.
I guess we've got tickets to seethem at Red Rocks with Melissa
Etheridge this summer.
Oh, that's fantastic.
Who are you going with?
(54:43):
I don't know.
It's just me.
Just me.
If someone wants to go toColorado, sorry.
Somebody wants to go toColorado.
My treat, I mean, that'sawesome.
I'll hang, I'll hang out bymyself at the Indigo Girls
concert.
Did you really get tickets?
Yeah, I really bought tickets.
I looked at them last night andthey weren't wildly expensive
and they were still available,so I bought them.
Fun.
It'll be a good show.
(55:04):
Melissa Etheridge come to mywindow.
Melissa Etheridge come to mywindow.
Love.
Not Melissa Etheridge too.
They gonna have to listen tothat stuff.
The angst of angry femaleartists in the n So good chefs
kiss.
So fucking good kiss chefskissed at the same time.
I love it.
Sonny came home.
Oh yeah, darn right, SeanColvin.
(55:25):
Sonny did come home.
I like it.
I like it.
So great.
All right, so that's, that'swhat I have for chapter two.
I'm excited about the book.
I'm starting to understand that,you know, the mechanism doesn't
matter.
It's being able to relax.
Like being able to unc clinchthe innards and, and have a
heartbeat be innards.
You know what I'm talking about?
Yeah.
(55:45):
I like it.
I dig it.
I dig it.
All right.
I think that is how we proceedforward with this book.
I'm excited.
I mean, I'm, I'm much moreexcited about this book than I
am about any of the, any of ourrecent books.
I'll say that or that one withthe green cover.
Becca, what would you like tosay?
Don't wanna be, I don't wanna bea dick.
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Is Becca raising her hand or shefrozen that?
Yeah, she was raising her hand.
Yeah, she's raising her hand.
Do we have fan mail to go over?
No, we don't.
We don't have anything new.
Um, yeah, the last quote unquotefan mail was, oh, I got a new, I
got a new tattoo.
(56:27):
That's new.
I mean, that's not fan mail oranything, but I thought that
was, I thought we saw that lasttime.
Did we?
I, I got a new tattoo.
It's pretty two weeks ago.
Thanks.
I like it.
I dig it.
I like, I like looking at it.
Yeah.
Um, check out, buy me a coffee.
Send us a dollar.
Buy us a coffee.
That would be awesome.
That was our last bit of fanmail was Lori's buy me a coffee,
(56:48):
which I mentioned in our last,last episode.
So, uh, yeah.
Uh, gastric girls@gmail.com.
Check us out on Facebook.
Michael Ovation gave us a littlebit of love on Facebook.
Yay.
They shared my, our, our picsfrom the party and told people
to check us out.
And speaking of Michael'sovation, I believe it's August
9th is going to be there.
(57:10):
Do you have some golfing golfouting this year?
So, details to come, but Ibelieve we're marking our
calendars for August 9th.
Yeah, I think that's right.
I'll hang out with us.
I don't have the Facebook upright now.
So it's either the ninth or the19th.
It was some odd day in August.
It was a Saturday.
Not odd.
Like bizarre but odd as in Yeah.
(57:31):
Not divisible by two.
I'm gonna say it's the ninth'cause that is a Saturday.
I know Noah asked me to checkthe day.
So.
Alright, that's it.
So thanks to Michael Ovation forthe shout out and we're looking
forward to the, to the golfouting.
Even if we don't golf, we willbe there to eat dinner with you,
Christine, I think that Ishould, I think me and you and
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Becca and somebody else shouldget a foursome together for
golfing.
I don't know, like that seemslike people are gonna wanna golf
fast in um, yeah, that's what I,I think that that's why I'm
never invited to do the golfing.
'cause I do it because I do veryslow.
Did you see me last year at TopGolf?
Like I almost killed a guy atTop Golf.
Yeah.
Like imagine what I would belike in the wild.
(58:14):
I can't golf like I have, likeI've actually gone out on golf
courses and shit.
Um, but my thing is 18 holes isa lot like, that is, that's a
long day.
Do you know how many beers I candrink in 18 holes?
And how drunk?
Like, I, I, the first time I did18 holes of golf, I realized why
(58:35):
Daddy came home drunk all thetime.
I mean, genetically we're builtfor it.
Yeah.
Like, I mean, I could do it, butanyway.
Then you feel that I can, youcan you just get a golf cart and
just drive around the course?
Can you do that?
I feel like that's what I wannado.
Um, like I don't wanna play agolf Michael's ovation.
We will.
We'll pay money just to rent agolf cart.
Yeah.
(58:55):
And drive around.
Here's the thing, I would loveto wear like a cute little
golfing outfit too.
How we could get golf outfits,shoes, like they're shoes for
this sport, right?
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
Yeah, yeah.
And gloves.
We could get just one hand.
Just one, like one hand.
Like a Jackson Gloves.
Well, I'm gonna keep, I'm gonnakeep mine in my pocket, in my
back.
In your pocket.
Back pocket.
In your back pocket.
(59:16):
Mm-hmm.
I'm gonna have avisor a visor.
I feel like I'm gonna wear avisor.
Gonna do.
I'm not gonna do that.
No.
I'm in on the visor for sure.
Okay.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Okay.
Yeah, Becca.
That's get you a visor too.
So, yeah.
So that's what we wanna do.
Uh, we want foursome, we'll haveto get another one.
Mm-hmm.
Yep.
We want How many people do youput in a golf cart?
Four.
Two.
Two.
(59:36):
I think.
I feel like golf carts, theyhave big ones for four people,
but I'm not sure those are theones that you actually drive
around.
I mean, I mean, if we're course,if we're not, if we're not at,
if you don't have the clubs,which I think are probably
weighing us down in the golfcart.
Oh yeah.
Two people.
Can I be, we could do facing theback.
We could definitely do it.
Yeah, I bet we could do fourpeople in a golf cart.
Perfectly fine.
(59:57):
My God, I want invented a newsport.
I want to ride in the back.
Like in the back you put yourclubs and there's like a little
strap that goes around yourclubs to hold'em in there.
That's where I actually want toride.
A hundred percent.
What I'm envisioning now is youback there like some sort of
pageant queen.
Yes.
Waving and tricking my beer andsinging.
(01:00:17):
Singing.
We're gonna have to have music.
Of course.
So.
Okay.
They portable speakers.
Yeah.
Okay.
Michael Ovation point.
Uh, if you could make thathappen, in fact, I think you
should probably just sell thoseas part of your golf outing.
I mean, free ideas all day longhere.
Can you imagine just random golfcarts driving around playing
(01:00:37):
music and drinking?
Yes.
We'll take candy too.
We'll throw candy out like we'regonna parade like a parade.
Oh my God, this is so much morefun than golfing.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Absolutely.
All right.
All right.
Here's the golf cart Grand Prix.
We set it up in the parking lot.
I'm guessing this thing is atlike Butler's golf course.
I have to look, but it's it.
(01:00:58):
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