The Healing Paradox

Have you ever noticed that the harder you try to fix something, the more strained it becomes?

You send the message. You show up. You try harder.


But nothing changes, and sometimes it even gets worse.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore why the energy behind your actions matters just as much as the actions themselves. 

You’ll learn how to shift from urgency and fear into calm, grounded presence, and why that one shif...

Conflict and disconnection are often seen as signs that something’s broken. But what if they’re invitations?

In this episode, we explore how your perspective on challenging moments can influence how you navigate them and why shifting your perspective is one of the most powerful tools for healing.

• Learn how to move from frustration to curiosity

• Discover the 3 key perspective shifts that change everything
• 
Try a simple, daily j...

You’ve noticed the old patterns.


You’ve questioned the beliefs you never chose.


Now comes the most powerful step of all...


CHOOSING what you WANT to believe instead.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we talk about how to begin writing a new emotional story.


Not a perfect story all in one go.


Just starting, with curiosity and intention.

You’ll learn:

• Why it’s hard to let go of the things that feel familiar, even when...

Have you ever stopped to ask, Where did I even learn to think this way about myself?

The stories we carry, about worth, love, safety, success, they didn’t come out of nowhere.


They were passed down. Shaped. Absorbed.


From family. From culture. From moments you didn’t even realise were shaping you.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore how those stories got written 
and why simply recognising where they came from can...

When something feels broken, painful, or stuck, most of us react. We try to fix it, manage it, or escape it. But what if the most powerful shift begins with one honest question: What do I actually want?

In this episode, we explore why clarity is essential to healing, not so you can control everything, but so you can move with intention.

You’ll learn:

• Why most of us struggle to name what we truly want
• The difference between rea...

What if forgiveness wasn’t about saying it was okay, or letting someone off the hook?

What if it was about setting yourself free?

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore what forgiveness really means - not as a performance, or a shortcut to healing - but as a quiet release of what you’ve been carrying.

You’ll hear:

• Why forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting or excusing
• How to know when holding on is costing you more th...

Ever find yourself thinking, “Here we go again…” as the same argument, rejection or emotional tension plays out in your relationships?

You’re not alone. And you’re not doing anything wrong.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore the emotional patterns that quietly shape how we show up with others. The loops we fall into. The roles we play. And how those old scripts keep playing out, until we learn to see them.

We’ll tal...

You’re doing the work. Trying to heal.

And yet… somehow, you keep getting in your own way.

This episode is about that.

The ways we sabotage our own healing - quietly, subtly, without even realising. 

Not because we don’t care, but because some part of us still feels safer holding back.

We talk about:

• what self-sabotage actually is (and what it isn’t)
• why we do it, even when we really want to heal
• how to start noticing the ...

How often do we find ourselves waiting?

• Waiting for someone to say sorry.
• Waiting for things to change.
• Waiting for a sign that it’s safe to move forward.

But what if healing doesn’t start with them at all?

What if it starts with you?

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we talk about what happens when you stop waiting for someone else to shift, and start turning that energy inward.

You’ll hear how this simple change ...

Have you ever had a reaction that felt bigger than the moment? Like something small happened - but it hit something deep?

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore the truth about emotional triggers - what they really are, where they come from, and how they can actually guide us toward healing. You'll learn to spot the patterns, breathe through the moments, and hear what your trigger is really trying to teach you.

Because ...

Do you find yourself overthinking how people respond to you, or spiralling into self-doubt when they don’t? That quiet need for validation can run deeper than we realise.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore how seeking approval keeps us disconnected from our truth and how letting go of that need creates space for real emotional freedom. You'll hear practical tools, powerful insights, and a gentle self-validation pr...

When we care deeply about someone, it’s natural to want to fix what’s broken. But sometimes, the harder we try, the more stuck we feel - and the more distant the other person becomes.

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore why the impulse to fix often backfires, and how letting go - gently, intentionally - can actually open space for a deeper kind of healing. You’ll hear the story of a mum who stopped trying to control ...

We all carry stories about who we are - stories we didn’t even choose.

“I always mess things up.” “I’m too much.” “They’ll never forgive me.”

In this episode of The Healing Paradox, we explore how these old beliefs quietly shape our emotions, our behaviour, and our healing journey. You’ll learn how to spot the stories that keep you stuck, discover where they came from, and take the first gentle steps toward rewriting them.

If you’v...

Have you ever found yourself replaying past mistakes - something you said in the heat of the moment, a decision you regret, or just not being the parent or partner you hoped you’d be?

Guilt and shame are incredibly common - but they’re also two of the most powerful blocks to healing.

In this episode, we explore the difference between guilt and shame (and why it matters), why we hold onto these emotions, even when they hurt, and a s...

You’re doing the work. You’re showing up. But somehow… nothing’s shifting. Sound familiar?

In this episode, we’re uncovering the hidden blocks that keep you stuck in emotional loops - despite your best efforts. Jez explores three of the most common patterns that quietly sabotage healing: the need for a certain outcome, unconscious beliefs, and trying to do it all alone.

If you’ve been feeling like something’s missing on your healin...