Unmasking Kink
Ever feel like you want to know more about kink but don’t know where to start... or who to ask? Unmasking Kink is where we figure it out together. I’m Nova Monroe, your host and resident research nerd, here to explore the world of kink, BDSM, identity, the lifestyle and everything in between. I’m not claiming to be an expert, I’m just asking the questions you probably Googled at 2am. This podcast is here for the cautious, the bold, the unsure and the unapologetic. Whoever you are, you’re welcome here! Join me, and together we’ll unmask what kink is all about
Episodes
In this episode, I’m digging into a side of D/s that doesn’t get talked about nearly enough. We spend so much time focusing on submissive safety — physical, emotional, mental — and that’s incredibly important. But somewhere along the way, people started acting like Doms don’t need support, reassurance, or space to be human.
This week’s conversation was inspired by a fantastic piece of writing from one of my favorite creators on Fet...
In this episode, I’m taking a closer look at something people don’t always talk about honestly: what belongs in public, what belongs in private, and why consent doesn’t stop at the bedroom door. Kink isn’t shameful and it isn’t something to hide, but it is something that requires maturity, intention, and informed consent from everyone involved.
I talk about how shared spaces work, why people who didn’t opt in shouldn’t be exposed t...
In this episode, I’m exploring the other side of the slash and unmasking what it really means to be a submissive.
Submission is often misunderstood as weakness or obedience, but that’s not what it is at all. It’s trust, it’s choice, and it’s connection. I talk about what submission looks like for me, why communication and safewords are signs of strength, and how giving power can be just as intentional as holding it.
From brats and ...
In this episode, I’m going back to the basics and unmasking one of the most misunderstood roles in BDSM, the Dominant.
What does it really mean to be a Dom? Is it about power, control, leadership, or something deeper? I talk about what makes a good Dom, the difference between playing Dom and actually being one, and why real dominance is built on trust, awareness, and care, not ego.
From Gentle Doms to Primal, Service, and Pleas...
This week on Unmasking Kink, I’m talking about Shibari. Rope bondage, Japanese rope art, whatever you call it, it’s one of the most beautiful and meaningful parts of my kink journey. I’ve been self-tying for three years, but this week I got to rig for the first time, and it completely changed how I see connection and creativity.
In this episode, I talk about how rope brings me calm, the difference between tying yourself and tying...
When is the right time to bring up kink while dating, and how do you do it without it getting weird? In this episode, I explain why there really is no wrong way to ask, as long as it comes from honesty and respect. I share how to start the conversation naturally, how to set boundaries with confidence, and why clear communication and defined expectations are the foundation for real relationships, not just play.
In this episode, I break down what Daddy Dom/little girl really means from my perspective as a little. I share:
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What being a little looks like in my everyday life
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The difference between littles and middles
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Real-life caregiving moments with Scorpio
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Bratting as part of personality, not just behavior
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What Daddies get out of the dynamic
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Busting common myths about DD/lg
DD/lg isn’t about children or abuse. It’s ab...
This week on Unmasking Kink, I dive deep into safe words, what they are, how they work, and why they matter. From Homer Simpson to Fifty Shades of Grey, safe words in pop culture don’t always get it right. But in real life, they’re the backbone of trust in kink.
I'll share my first experience with safe words, explore verbal and non-verbal options, and explain why safe words aren’t just for bottoms, tops need them too. Plus, a look ...
One-true-way attitudes are everywhere in online kink spaces: “real subs never have limits,” “a Dom should never apologize,” “if you’re not 24/7, it’s not real.”
In this episode, Nova Monroe breaks down why those statements are harmful, shares how she handles gatekeeping attitudes, and offers a better way: building your own rulebook.
💜 Listen in, roll your eyes with me at the gatekeepers, and remember — the only true way is the one...
I know I’m way late to the party, but I finally sat down and watched Fifty Shades of Grey for the first time—and I’ve got some thoughts. Big ones.
The BDSM community loves to drag this movie, calling it abusive, unrealistic, or just plain harmful. But my take? It’s not the floggers or the contract that bothered me. The real issues are communication gaps, experience imbalances, and the one subplot that truly is dangerous: Christian’...
This week on Unmasking Kink, Nova Monroe explores one of the simplest yet most powerful tools in the kink world: the Yes/No/Maybe List. Whether you’re brand new to BDSM or just looking for a better way to communicate with partners, this little checklist can make all the difference.
Nova breaks down what it is, why it matters, and how to use it—without overthinking or overcomplicating. Plus, a special milestone: the podcast has offi...
In this episode of Unmasking Kink, I share my first experience attending a munch! What it's like, how to prepare and what you can expect when you walk into your first one.
We'll cover everything from event descriptions and table markers to conversation starters, group dynamics and what organizers really want you to know. Plus, I are tips on preparing ahead, how I accidentally stumbled into mine, and the lessons I walked away with...
Not every episode needs to be loud to hit hard.
This week, I’m exploring the very first kink I ever recognized in myself, masochism. What draws someone to enjoy pain? Is it something to worry about, or something worth understanding on a deeper level? I’m breaking down common misconceptions, unpacking the psychology, and tackling the big question: is masochism a mental disorder, or just another way humans seek sensation, control, an...
In this episode of Unmasking Kink, we delve into the tension between authenticity and acceptability in the kink community. Inspired by insightful posts from FetLife users Tittan and Vampyre, we explore the implications of sanitizing BDSM for mainstream comfort.
We'll discuss personal boundaries, the importance of consent, and the value of embracing the raw, unfiltered aspects of kink.
Whether you're a seasoned player or new to the ...
You’ve probably asked yourself:
“Am I kinky? Or just curious?” “Does liking [insert thing here] make me into kink?” “Do I have to pick a side?”
The answers? Could be both, possibly, and absolutely not.
In this episode, I give my take on what it means to be kinky or vanilla, or somewhere in between. We’ll talk about how those labels aren’t fixed, what actually “counts” as kink, and how to start exploring.
Topics include:
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The d...
Description:
In this debut episode of Unmasking Kink, Nova Monroe breaks down what kink actually is—and what it isn’t. We talk about the difference between kink and BDSM, explore how kink doesn’t always have to be sexual, and tackle the question: Is this normal? (Spoiler: yes.) Whether you’re curious, questioning, or just here to learn, this episode gives you a shame-free, honest look at how broad and human kink really is.
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Welcome to Unmasking Kink! Let me start by introducing myself, and give you the low down on what to expect from Unmasking Kink and the community we're going to build together!
Unmasking Kink is a podcast for the curious, the kinky, and everyone in between.
Hosted by Nova Monroe, each episode explores real questions about kink, BDSM, and the lifestyle. Nova isn't an expert, but she's a proud research nerd, digging into topics so we can learn and grow together.
From vanilla to veteran, this space is for anyone who's ever felt left out, unsure or just plain curios.
Join Nova, and together, we'll unmask w...
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