Why Mindset Matters
Eslana Lower is an author, speaker, resilience mindset coach, nurse, midwife and mother of 4 who is also navigating life following the tragic loss of her teenage daughter Rylee to suicide because of bullying. Why Mindset Matters is the podcast that explores how resilience, gratitude, and intentional thinking can transform even the most challenging seasons of life. Each episode offers raw conversations, empowering tools, and real-life stories to help you shift your perspective and reclaim your power. This podcast is for you if you’ve ever asked yourself… How do I survive the heartbreak of a breakup or betrayal? How do I keep going after the death of someone I love? Is it possible to live and grieve at the same time? Will I ever feel happiness again after so much loss? How can I begin to heal when everything feels broken? What can I do to strengthen my mental and emotional wellbeing? How do I build resilience for the inevitable challenges life brings? What does happiness really mean—and how do I find it for myself? How do I create a life that feels meaningful and aligned? Can I truly manifest the life, love, and peace I long for? How do I call in the kind of relationship I truly deserve? What steps can I take to live the life I know I’m meant for? Trigger Warning: This podcast contains discussions about suicide and may include occasional strong language. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics distressing.
Episodes
Season 2 Episode 5 - When Mindset Meets Physiology: The Real Work of Healing
In this episode, I talk about the truth that while mindset really does matter — it isn’t everything. There are times in life, especially through grief and trauma, when we can be doing all the “right” things and still feel stuck, heavy, or disconnected. And that’s okay.
I share my own experiences of navigating deep loss and healing, and how I ca...
Season 2 Episode 4: Breaking the Silence - Why Talking About Our Pain Saves Lives
In this episode of the Why Mindset Matters podcast, I dive into the darkness so many people find themselves in before taking their own life — that silent, heavy space where it feels like no one else could possibly understand. I know that place, and I know how isolating it can feel. But I also know the power of breaking the silence. ...
Season 2 Episode 3 : Perfectly Imperfect: Finding the Beauty in the Mess
In this episode, I dive into the messy, beautiful truth about imperfection and why waiting for everything to be “just right” can actually hold us back. I share honestly about my own journey with podcasting, the pressure I’ve felt to make things perfect, and the lessons I’ve learned about showing up authentically instead. Perfection isn’t where the...
Episode 2 - Resilience After Great Loss
In this episode, I share an exciting milestone — my book 'Resilience After Great Loss - Learning To Live & Grieve Simultaneously' is finally ready to purchase. I open up about my own journey through unimaginable loss and trauma, and how those experiences reshaped everything I thought I knew about survival, joy, and what it really means to live. I also talk about my ...
Episode 1 - Manifesting: Why the Setbacks Are Still Part of the Setup
In this first episode of Season Two, I dive into one of the biggest shifts that’s transformed my life: learning to say yes, not just to the things that feel easy, but also to the uncertainty, the change, and even the challenges. I’ve come to believe that even when things don’t look like they’re working out, they actually are — just not always in the ...
Episode 23: Speak Life: Rewriting Self-Talk & The Power of Genuine Compliments
In this season finale of Why Mindset Matters, I’m reflecting on the incredible power of words — the ones we speak to ourselves and the ones we share with others. For so long, I lived inside negative self-talk and limiting narratives that kept me small. But through grief, healing, and growth, I’ve learned that when we rewrite those storie...
Episode 22: Manifestation in Action - Even When Things Aren't Working Out... They Are ALWAYS Working Out!
In this episode of the Why Mindset Matters podcast, I share my own journey with manifestation and how tools like the 369 journal have helped me create real change in my life.
I talk about some of the personal mottos I live by (Start saying YES to life! & Even when things aren't working out... th...
Episode 21: Choose Your Circle Wisely
In this episode of Why Mindset Matters, I’m diving into something that’s been absolutely crucial in my own healing and growth journey — the power of choosing your circle wisely. The people we surround ourselves with become our mirrors, our anchors, and sometimes our lifelines — especially when life hands us the unimaginable.
I talk about how the right circle won’t need to be asked t...
Episode 20: The Body Keeps The Score
In this episode of Why Mindset Matters, I talk about something I’ve come to understand deeply through my own experience with grief and trauma — the toll that chronic stress and survival mode can take on our bodies. Recently having my grief exacerbated by the unexpected loss of our family dog, I found myself stuck in fight-or-flight without even realising it. And over time, that emot...
Epidsode 19: Honouring The Truth of Loss
In this episode, I share a deeply personal chapter of my grief journey — navigating the very recent loss of our beloved family dog (who was also Rylee's dog). I open up about something that’s often misunderstood: the instinct to shield others from the pain of loss. While well-intentioned, trying to protect someone from grief can actually deny them the opportunity to fully p...
Episode 18: I Wrote a Book!
In this episode, I open up about how my journey of resilience after losing my daughter, Rylee, not only shaped every part of who I am today but also led me to write a book that I believe would benefit anyone brave enough to read it.
For the longest time after losing Rylee, anytime I’d share pieces of my story people would respond by saying “How the fck are you still standing? I couldn’t. I w...
Episode 17: The Stories That Keep Us Stuck
In this episode of Why Mindset Matters, I get real about the stories we cling to — the ones that feel safe but quietly keep us stuck in self-imposed prisons we more commonly refer to as comfort zones. These narratives might feel like protection, but they’re really holding us back from the growth and change we deeply crave.
I talk about what it takes to face the fear behind tho...
Episode 16 : Freedom From Attachment
In this episode of Why Mindset Matters, I’m diving into something that’s been both one of my hardest lessons and deepest teachers — attachment. I speak a lot about grief, healing, and mindset here, but underneath all of it is this quiet, often unseen force: the illusion of control.
I share how our attachments (to people, outcomes, and the life we thought we'd have) only serve to...
Episode 15: Why “It’s Okay to Not Be Okay” Isn’t the Whole Truth
In this episode, I dive into the complexities of grief and the widely accepted phrase, “It’s okay to not be okay.” And while I understand the intention behind it, I’m challenging that narrative — because I don’t actually believe we’ve mastered what it truly means. When someone says they’re not okay, the instinct — whether from others or ourselves — is oft...
Episode 14
Rewired : Letting Go of Limits & Living On Purpose
In this episode of Why Mindset Matters, I dive deep into the beliefs, patterns, and inner narratives that quietly shape how we show up in life.
I talk about the limits we inherit, absorb, or create — and how resilience and mindset can set us free.
This is an honest conversation about resilience, radical responsibility, and what it really takes...
Episode 13: Redefining Happiness
In this episode of Why Mindset Matters, I explore how my definition of happiness has radically shifted since losing my daughter, Rylee. For a long time, I thought happiness was supposed to be loud, obvious, and permanent — but grief cracked that illusion wide open.
Now, I see happiness as something softer, more sacred — moments of peace, presence, and gratitude woven into the messiness ...
Episode 12: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
In this episode, I’m speaking straight to the part of you that’s doubting your worth. The part that causes you to procrastinate or self-sabotage and in doing so get in the way of your own success. I’ve been there — wondering if I’m enough, questioning whether I belong in the room, especially after life knocked the wind out of me. Imposter syndrome will creep in during some of ou...
Episode 11: Why Comparison Is the Thief of Joy
In this episode of Why Mindset Matters, we’re digging into something that silently creeps in and chips away at our peace and our capacity for joy: comparison. It’s the quiet voice that says you should be further along, you shouldn’t still be feeling this way, or someone else has it worse, so what’s your excuse? I know that voice intimately and I know how damaging it can be...
Episode 10: No One Is Coming
In this unapologetic and soul-stirring episode, I’m calling it like it is — NO ONE is coming to save you. Not the partner, the parent, the job, or the fairytale ending. I share the raw truth I've had to face in my own journey through trauma, loss, and rebuilding: We become our own hero the moment we stop outsourcing our worth and start reclaiming our power.
This episode explores themes ...
Episode 9: Main Character Energy
In this episode, I do a dive deep into what it really means to reclaim your Main Character Energy — not the filtered, performative version we see online, but the soul-deep decision to stop living on autopilot and start living with fierce, conscious intention. This kind of energy isn't about ego or attention; it's about remembering who you are underneath the expectations, the h...
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