Dating After Divorce | Christian Dating, Codependency, Dating with Kids, Narcissist, Trauma Healing, Divorce Recovery, Dating Again, God-Led Relationship
I’m Patty Martin-Guerra, and this podcast proves that your greatest love story is coming, I found love at nearly 50 – not by luck, but by surrendering myself to the Lord.. For years, I believed ”love wasn’t in the cards for women like me” and I attracted toxic relationships because my wounded inner voice believed I deserved less than God’s best. Everything changed when I embraced Matthew 6:33 says, ”But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” When I stopped chasing love and started pursuing wholeness, letting God heal my past traumas, everything shifted. If I found an incredible, healthy, God sent love at nearly 50, having two kids and a complicated past, so can you. Age isn’t your enemy. Your children aren’t obstacles. Your divorce isn’t a scarlet letter. Every Tuesday, we meet in this space where divorced women become whole, and broken hearts become wise hearts. Sister, your love story isn’t over – it’s just getting to the good part. Subscribe and leave a review so this message reaches more women who need to hear it. Blessings! Schedule Your FREE Discovery Call - HERE Pre-register for the upcoming women's retreat in Orange County, CA - Women’s Retreat 2026-Waitlist Join our Facebook group - Dating After Divorce
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In this episode we explore how past betrayal trauma affects your current relationships, even with good men who are doing everything right.
We discuss the self-sabotaging behaviors many of us develop as protection mechanisms—checking phones, creating loyalty tests, keeping escape plans—and why these patterns keep us trapped in a cycle of distrust.
I share Monica's story, a woman who ended a healthy relationship because she could...
What is the Inner Child?
Abandonment Wound Humiliation Wound Betrayal Wound Rejection Wound Injustice Wound
Learn:
What Creates Rejection Wounds? and How to begin to heal from it.
This episode is for you if you:
You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems
You feel incapable of choosing the right man
You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return
You don't know how to trust your judgment after it...
Spotting Narcissists Before You Fall Again
Why your fear of dating again isn't about you being "not enough" 5 red flags that identify narcissistic behavior early The difference between godly love and manipulation How the Holy Spirit guides you toward healthy relationships Biblical truths to anchor your worth and decision-making
Ready to Go Deeper? Join the You Are Enough Workshop and learn how to free yourself from narcissistic ...
Your Person Exists: Why the Wait Is Preparing You for the Love You Deserve If you've been waiting for the right person and starting to wonder if they even exist, this episode is for you.
As a life coach for Christian women navigating life and love after divorce, I see so many beautiful women losing hope in their waiting season. But what if I told you the wait has a sacred purpose?
Ready to Stop Waiting and Start Preparing?
Join m...
Normal (short-term symptoms not long after your divorce): Divorce memory loss, can't remember after divorce, divorce fog, post-divorce trauma, healing after divorce, divorce brain fog.
Can't remember details from your first year after divorce?
The fog is real. Learn why memory gaps are normal, how your brain protects you during trauma, and how to heal.
The Fog is real when going through such trauma as Divorce!
I am sharing how I ...
You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems
You feel incapable of choosing the right man
You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return
You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before
You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing
You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past
You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know
If...
You're successful. You've built an incredible career, achieved financial stability, and created a life most people dream of. But when you come home after a long day, there's an emptiness. The one thing missing? A loving, caring husband to share your life with. In this episode, I'm opening up about my own journey—how I had everything at 49 except the right person. I'll share how shifting to a God-led approach to relationships transf...
Dating after divorce is complicated. Dating as a Christian single mom requires additional wisdom, clear boundaries, and a lot of faith. In this episode, we explore five essential steps that every single mom should know before opening her heart again.
Scriptures Mentioned:
2 Corinthians 5:17 Proverbs 4:23 Isaiah 40:31 Psalm 139
If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself years of disappointments doubting y...
Key Topics Covered:
Why comparison steals your God-given identity How comparison blocks your blessings and future opportunities Why comparison dishonors God's timing and sovereignty 5 transformative questions for breaking free from the comparison trap
Key Bible Verses Referenced:
Galatians 2:20 Psalm 139:14 Hebrews 12:2 Ephesians 3:20 Ecclesiastes 3:1 Romans 8:28
Resources :
One-on-one breakthrough coaching sessions: HERE Next Ste...
Why being too available kills attraction (and it's not about playing games) The unconscious message you send when you're always accessible How to build a life that naturally creates healthy boundaries 5 practical strategies to shift from "too available" to "appropriately interested" The mindset shift that changes everything in your dating life Why the right men will step up when you step back Mentioned in This Episode: The importan...
Today we're going to talk about that invisible companion that controls your life without anyone else noticing: anxiety
If you wake up with a weight on your chest and don't know why, this is for you
Key Points:
Anxiety isn't "just stress" It's not cured by positive thinking or "getting over it" It's a prison you build yourself, brick by brick Phrase to repeat: "Anxiety convinces you that if you worry enough, you can prevent bad thin...
If you've ever stayed awake waiting for an apology that never comes, this episode is going to free you
Stop being a prisoner of external validation
Learn self-forgiveness as a radical act
Learn the freedom that comes with self-acceptance
Learn how to start building your new life without their blessing
If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself years of disappointments doubting yourself and settling for l...
Divorce doesn't define you, disqualify you, or diminish your worth in God's eyes. If you've been carrying shame about your past marriage, this episode will help you break free and step into the love and life God has planned for you.
Why God sees your heart, not your marital status How divorce doesn't disqualify you from God's best Breaking free from shame vs. conviction - knowing your true identity in Christ Practical steps to re...
The Mirror Effect: Why You Keep Attracting the Same Type of Man" Are you tired of the same relationship patterns repeating in your life?
In this powerful episode, we explore the Mirror Effect - how our past relationships reflect our internal beliefs about love, worth, and God's design for us.
Discover the three types of mirrors revealing your heart and learn how to break the cycle once and for all. What You'll Learn:
The biblica...
Discover God's blueprint for setting healthy boundaries that honor Him and promote your healing. 🙏 What You'll Learn ✅ Why guarding your heart is a biblical command, not selfishness ✅ Practical boundaries to set with your ex-spouse, family, and yourself ✅ How to protect your heart without hardening it ✅ Signs of a guarded vs. unguarded heart during divorce ✅ How healthy boundaries affect your children and future relationships
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5 Questions Every Christian Woman Must Ask
Ready to date after divorce? Not so fast, beautiful.
Before you swipe right or say yes to that coffee date, there are 5 crucial questions you need to honestly answer. In this episode, I share the exact questions I use with my coaching clients to determine if they're truly ready for healthy love or if they need more healing time first.
In This Episode, You'll Learn:
The hidden signs you're...
Dating after divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when you're carrying the weight of grief that others don't understand.
In this episode, we explore the many faces of grief after heartbreak—from mourning your future dreams to navigating family separation—and why honoring your grief is actually the pathway back to love. What You'll Learn:
The 5 types of grief you experience after heartbreak (and why each one matters) How family...
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