February 26, 2025 • 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about how to know if YOU are the toxic one!
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Intern John's debut comedy album "The Album" is available right NOW! InternJohnComedy.com proceeds benefitting the Fisher House Foundation
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
In a happy Wednesday. Friend, Welcome to the thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. In a weird place today,
kind of feeling like I actually got sleep last night,
which is weird. That never happens, although I guess like
during the hockey season, it never happens because usually after
(00:21):
practice or after a game, my mind is running on
hockey stuff for hours. Maybe putting this guy with this guy.
Maybe we run this play and said this play, and
so I think that's probably part of it, Like that
part of my brain's kind of turning off a little
bit creative side, maybe turning back on. Hopefully it's kind
(00:43):
of getting like I guess it's almost like severance. You know,
I have different parts of the brain for different things,
and now it's starting to get away from the more
analytical side because she wants to do that, analyze things. Nah,
less you're my accountant, than please analyze away, friend.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
You know, as a way, we are halfway through the week.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I'm getting excited this weekend again the boys and I
go into the oh. Man, I did again. The Me
and Skittles go into the woods this weekend. Man, you know,
it's weird. It happened yesterday too. I was walking the
(01:25):
feed skittles. I said, come on show do you want
to eat? And I was like, ah, still there right
at the surface. Well, anyway, I'm excited. I think it's
gonna be a lot of fun to kind of get
away and just relax. And the best part about this
particular area in the woods is that there's a bunch
of like small town like thrift shops and they had
(01:48):
the coolest stuff. There's like a whole Star Wars section,
which is pretty cool. So usually I'll go and then
I'll take photos and send the hoodie and be like
do you want any of these? And that's usually how
it goes. I think I got sauce once a unicorn
lamp that I don't know she still has. But it'll
be good to get away. It's kind of like a reset,
you know. It's funny in Minnesota nobody has beach houses
(02:11):
because we don't have beaches, I guess, so technically do
like go to the lake. But everybody has cabins, and
so I always love cabins. Like getting away kind of
feels like you're in a different world. Nobody can get
a hold of you, and there is something about just
being outside, like I know. I don't know if it's
West Virginia's considered the East Coast. I feel like it's not.
(02:34):
It just feels like it's away from the East Coast.
You're driving back into a different dimension, if you will,
in a good way, in a good way where it's
like I always go to town, get dairy queen, go
to sheets and good to go. She's just one of
those stories where it's like, we didn't have grown up
Minnesota when I was a youth, we ain't have Chick
fil A. So when I was in Iowa for aleven months,
(02:57):
they had Chick fil A. I don't think I had
it there for me, honest. We didn't have sheets of
Wa Wa and we didn't have seven to eleven seven eleven.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
I would see commercials for all the time.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
It seemed like a great place to go sheets and
Wawa had no idea about period, and then Chick fil A.
Once I had it, I was like, Okay, pretty good,
not bad. Don't know how we got in this, oh,
because that's where I go to eat. Yeah, riveting. Let
me get to this for your Wednesday? Are you the
(03:28):
toxic one? Which I think is good to have reflection,
good to look in and perhaps if some of these
are you, you go, okay, maybe I am the problem.
Starting with if you always have to be right, they
say being right is not just your preference, it's your personality.
At this point, you dig up a ancient text messages
(03:49):
to scrow through years of all the emails turn casual dinner
conversation in a full blown debate, complete with Google searches
and fact checking. I'd rather be on the right side
of things, you know what I mean? Like, if the
decision is lasagna for dinner, instead of me being right
with chicken, I'd rather be right with everybody wanted lasagna.
(04:12):
We have lazagna. It was fantastic, Do you know what
I'm saying? Like you can still like you can go
with not your opinion and still be right if it
works out.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
That's kind of my vibe.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
If you're very critical, they say, your brain has a
special filter that automatically spots flaws and everything and everyone,
whether it's your colleagues's presentation style, your friend's choice of partner,
or a stranger's outfit at the grocery store. You've got thoughts,
and boy do you share them. I think I have
thoughts and a lot of things. I try to share
(04:45):
them all, you know what I mean. But I do
think that's true. Where it's like those folks who they
have opinions and they're like, you want to know what?
I need to share all of them. Every single opinion
I have, I need to share it on everything, on
every topic, on every social media platform, I need to
share it. If you're the drama, they say every story
(05:07):
needs conflict somehow, you're always at the center of it.
Your Instagram stories seady stream, a vague post about betrayal,
your group chatz constantly buzzing the latest crisis in your life,
so on and so forth. To me, I mean, the
Instagram stuff to me will always be what are you doing?
Like the vague posting where it's like, can't believe this
(05:27):
happened to me, don't ask me about it. It's like, Okay,
what do we think we're doing here? Because now we're invested.
Now we want to know what happened, what's going on.
If your jealousy knows no bounds, you can't scroll through
social media without feeling a pang of resentment and other success.
Your friend's promotion becomes about how you deserved one two,
(05:50):
your cousin's engagement as a question you're worth your neighbor's
new car feels like a personal attack. Yeah, that's also
just like it's a tough way to live, you know
what I mean. Like I get very happy for my
friend's success. I think it's one of the most uh
I hesitate to say the word beautiful, but one of
the coolest things ever is seeing your friends do well.
(06:13):
If I was getting jealous at my friends for their success,
I would either have to pick worse friends who didn't
have success, you know what I mean, or adjust or
be miserable.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
What kind of life is that? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
It's fun. I think if you look at friendship the
right way. For me, it's like my friend's wins. I
consider my wins like I consider and maybe not like
like I get credit for. But it's like, oh, my
team won, so everything like a sports can. My team
won is very exciting. If you can't let go of grudges,
you may be toxic. Your memory for slights and offensives
(06:53):
would impress an elephant.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
You've got the.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Mental spreadsheet of every person who's wrong to you and
play with date times and exis quotes. I've told this
story before I saw this video, and I wish I
could find it again. I should have saved it. But
this guy talking about what it's like to hold a grudge,
and he does this visual where it's like, okay, somebody
wrongs me, I hold the grudge. And he picks up
a kettlebell and he's like, all right, it's not that heavy.
(07:19):
I'm fine going off life. Somebody else wrongs me, hold
on to that, picks up another kettlebell. He goes, okay,
a little bit heavier, but I'm okay, And he keeps
going out through this whole bit where it's like anytime
somebody quote unquote wrongs him, he picks up a kettlebell
and by the end he's carrying all this weight, all
this weight. He's like, this is what happens when you
hold grudges. You're carrying all this weight. And by the way,
(07:42):
the kettlebell has no idea. That's probably the biggest part
of it. The person that wronged you it is probably
blissfully unaware that you're holding their weight. So at that point,
it's like, what good does it do? You know, if
you micro manage everyone's everything's the last one I'll get to.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
They say.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Control isn't just your preference, it's your oxygen. You've got
opinions on how your partner lows thiswasher, how your friends
should handle relationships, how colleagues you organize our deaths. You
skies your control as high standards are being organized. Ooh yes, yes,
under the guise of high standards, you try and control everything.
(08:21):
I would just also add the if you're doing this,
you're probably miserable. You know, like you probably legitimately are miserable.
And listen, as far as we know, we only get
one shot at this thing. Yeah, as far as we know,
you only get one life. Living miserable is tough, dude.
(08:43):
That is a like, why would you want that for yourself?
You know, don't you want us be able to relax,
have fun, tell jokes, let your hair down, do all
those kinds of things I want that I don't like,
like having to crack the whip, so to speak. That's
not fun unless But anyway, have a fantastic Wednesday, be
(09:08):
a chance to follow at Internjon a radio on everything.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
It's thoughts Shower
In a happy Wednesday. Friend, Welcome to the thought Shower.
Intern John is my name. In a weird place today,
kind of feeling like I actually got sleep last night,
which is weird. That never happens, although I guess like
during the hockey season, it never happens because usually after
(00:21):
practice or after a game, my mind is running on
hockey stuff for hours. Maybe putting this guy with this guy.
Maybe we run this play and said this play, and
so I think that's probably part of it, Like that
part of my brain's kind of turning off a little
bit creative side, maybe turning back on. Hopefully it's kind
(00:43):
of getting like I guess it's almost like severance. You know,
I have different parts of the brain for different things,
and now it's starting to get away from the more
analytical side because she wants to do that, analyze things. Nah,
less you're my accountant, than please analyze away, friend.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
You know, as a way, we are halfway through the week.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I'm getting excited this weekend again the boys and I
go into the oh. Man, I did again. The Me
and Skittles go into the woods this weekend. Man, you know,
it's weird. It happened yesterday too. I was walking the
(01:25):
feed skittles. I said, come on show do you want
to eat? And I was like, ah, still there right
at the surface. Well, anyway, I'm excited. I think it's
gonna be a lot of fun to kind of get
away and just relax. And the best part about this
particular area in the woods is that there's a bunch
of like small town like thrift shops and they had
(01:48):
the coolest stuff. There's like a whole Star Wars section,
which is pretty cool. So usually I'll go and then
I'll take photos and send the hoodie and be like
do you want any of these? And that's usually how
it goes. I think I got sauce once a unicorn
lamp that I don't know she still has. But it'll
be good to get away. It's kind of like a reset,
you know. It's funny in Minnesota nobody has beach houses
(02:11):
because we don't have beaches, I guess, so technically do
like go to the lake. But everybody has cabins, and
so I always love cabins. Like getting away kind of
feels like you're in a different world. Nobody can get
a hold of you, and there is something about just
being outside, like I know. I don't know if it's
West Virginia's considered the East Coast. I feel like it's not.
(02:34):
It just feels like it's away from the East Coast.
You're driving back into a different dimension, if you will,
in a good way, in a good way where it's
like I always go to town, get dairy queen, go
to sheets and good to go. She's just one of
those stories where it's like, we didn't have grown up
Minnesota when I was a youth, we ain't have Chick
fil A. So when I was in Iowa for aleven months,
(02:57):
they had Chick fil A. I don't think I had
it there for me, honest. We didn't have sheets of
Wa Wa and we didn't have seven to eleven seven eleven.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
I would see commercials for all the time.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
It seemed like a great place to go sheets and
Wawa had no idea about period, and then Chick fil A.
Once I had it, I was like, Okay, pretty good,
not bad. Don't know how we got in this, oh,
because that's where I go to eat. Yeah, riveting. Let
me get to this for your Wednesday? Are you the
(03:28):
toxic one? Which I think is good to have reflection,
good to look in and perhaps if some of these
are you, you go, okay, maybe I am the problem.
Starting with if you always have to be right, they
say being right is not just your preference, it's your personality.
At this point, you dig up a ancient text messages
(03:49):
to scrow through years of all the emails turn casual dinner
conversation in a full blown debate, complete with Google searches
and fact checking. I'd rather be on the right side
of things, you know what I mean? Like, if the
decision is lasagna for dinner, instead of me being right
with chicken, I'd rather be right with everybody wanted lasagna.
(04:12):
We have lazagna. It was fantastic, Do you know what
I'm saying? Like you can still like you can go
with not your opinion and still be right if it
works out.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
That's kind of my vibe.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
If you're very critical, they say, your brain has a
special filter that automatically spots flaws and everything and everyone,
whether it's your colleagues's presentation style, your friend's choice of partner,
or a stranger's outfit at the grocery store. You've got thoughts,
and boy do you share them. I think I have
thoughts and a lot of things. I try to share
(04:45):
them all, you know what I mean. But I do
think that's true. Where it's like those folks who they
have opinions and they're like, you want to know what?
I need to share all of them. Every single opinion
I have, I need to share it on everything, on
every topic, on every social media platform, I need to
share it. If you're the drama, they say every story
(05:07):
needs conflict somehow, you're always at the center of it.
Your Instagram stories seady stream, a vague post about betrayal,
your group chatz constantly buzzing the latest crisis in your life,
so on and so forth. To me, I mean, the
Instagram stuff to me will always be what are you doing?
Like the vague posting where it's like, can't believe this
(05:27):
happened to me, don't ask me about it. It's like, Okay,
what do we think we're doing here? Because now we're invested.
Now we want to know what happened, what's going on.
If your jealousy knows no bounds, you can't scroll through
social media without feeling a pang of resentment and other success.
Your friend's promotion becomes about how you deserved one two,
(05:50):
your cousin's engagement as a question you're worth your neighbor's
new car feels like a personal attack. Yeah, that's also
just like it's a tough way to live, you know
what I mean. Like I get very happy for my
friend's success. I think it's one of the most uh
I hesitate to say the word beautiful, but one of
the coolest things ever is seeing your friends do well.
(06:13):
If I was getting jealous at my friends for their success,
I would either have to pick worse friends who didn't
have success, you know what I mean, or adjust or
be miserable.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
What kind of life is that? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
It's fun. I think if you look at friendship the
right way. For me, it's like my friend's wins. I
consider my wins like I consider and maybe not like
like I get credit for. But it's like, oh, my
team won, so everything like a sports can. My team
won is very exciting. If you can't let go of grudges,
you may be toxic. Your memory for slights and offensives
(06:53):
would impress an elephant.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
You've got the.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Mental spreadsheet of every person who's wrong to you and
play with date times and exis quotes. I've told this
story before I saw this video, and I wish I
could find it again. I should have saved it. But
this guy talking about what it's like to hold a grudge,
and he does this visual where it's like, okay, somebody
wrongs me, I hold the grudge. And he picks up
a kettlebell and he's like, all right, it's not that heavy.
(07:19):
I'm fine going off life. Somebody else wrongs me, hold
on to that, picks up another kettlebell. He goes, okay,
a little bit heavier, but I'm okay, And he keeps
going out through this whole bit where it's like anytime
somebody quote unquote wrongs him, he picks up a kettlebell
and by the end he's carrying all this weight, all
this weight. He's like, this is what happens when you
hold grudges. You're carrying all this weight. And by the way,
(07:42):
the kettlebell has no idea. That's probably the biggest part
of it. The person that wronged you it is probably
blissfully unaware that you're holding their weight. So at that point,
it's like, what good does it do? You know, if
you micro manage everyone's everything's the last one I'll get to.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
They say.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Control isn't just your preference, it's your oxygen. You've got
opinions on how your partner lows thiswasher, how your friends
should handle relationships, how colleagues you organize our deaths. You
skies your control as high standards are being organized. Ooh yes, yes,
under the guise of high standards, you try and control everything.
(08:21):
I would just also add the if you're doing this,
you're probably miserable. You know, like you probably legitimately are miserable.
And listen, as far as we know, we only get
one shot at this thing. Yeah, as far as we know,
you only get one life. Living miserable is tough, dude.
(08:43):
That is a like, why would you want that for yourself?
You know, don't you want us be able to relax,
have fun, tell jokes, let your hair down, do all
those kinds of things I want that I don't like,
like having to crack the whip, so to speak. That's
not fun unless But anyway, have a fantastic Wednesday, be
(09:08):
a chance to follow at Internjon a radio on everything.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
It's thoughts Shower
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