March 4, 2023 • 14 mins
OUTWEIGH: Amy starts off with a clip from Kat Defatta's 'You Need Therapy' podcast that went up this week where she processes diet culture and anti-diet culture's wildly polarizing content that has left many of us very, very confused. It's so good!!! You can listen to Kat's full episode called "NEDA Week: Diet Culture vs. Anti Diet Culture" linked HERE!
Without judgment, Amy encourages you to take note of all the fears diet culture has given you about food. Journal what it would feel like to have a drama-free relationship. What would you do with all the brain space you would get back if you stopped obsessing about food? Our desire is for all of us to feel more peaceful around food and our bodies.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I won't let my body out outweigh everything that I'm
made do, won't spend my life trying to change. I'm
learning love who I am again. I'm strong, I feel free,
I know who every part of me. It's beautiful and
then will always out way if you feel it with
(00:24):
your hands in the air, She's love to the boom.
I am. Then let's say good day and time did
you and die out? Happy Saturday? Outweigh Amy here and
I'm gonna start this episode off with a clip from
cat defod As Unied Therapy podcasts that went up this week,
where she processes diet culture and anti diet cultures wildly
(00:51):
polarizing content that has left many of us very, very confused.
We don't know what we're doing because, like at one point,
thin as ideal, and then no, no, no, it's fit
is ideal, and then it's no, no, no, Being strong
is ideal. Do what makes your body feel good. But
by the way, too much cardio is bad for you,
(01:12):
and lifting weights is the best thing you can do
for your body. Breakfast is the most important meal of
the day. We've heard that all our lives, But did
you know fasting until lunch is better than eating a
balanced meal before work. You should probably put butter in
your coffee now and don't use artificial creamers. But remember,
you should eat and drink foods that bring you joy.
(01:33):
I want you to wear whatever you want and whatever
you feel comfortable in. But if you don't want to
wear a crop top, it's probably because diet culture made
you hate your body, and you should love your body
no matter what it looks like at all times. However,
if you love your body, you will not want to
eat real ice cream because you can make ice cream
out of bananas, and ice cream is full of toxins
(01:56):
that will cause inflammation. Remember, though, you should listen to
your body and allow it to have what it craves,
except if you crave an actual banana, then you should
actually have some nuts because bananas are full of sugar,
and when you crave sugar, you're not allowing yourself to
listen to the emotional need underneath. So try and go
for a walk, but do it because it brings you joy,
(02:18):
not because it's good and necessary for your health, because
if you pay attention to your physical health, then you're
suppressing what it is you really need underneath and allowing
diet culture to manipulate you into a pawn of their
multibillion dollar industry. So rebel against it no matter what,
and do what makes you happy. Accept if it has
(02:39):
anything to do with what you look like, because you
shouldn't care. And if you do care, you're hurting other people.
And smaller is better, but stronger is better than smaller,
unless stronger it means you become smaller, then you should
be stronger. And actually I want you to remember you
shouldn't care about anything except what makes you happy. I
(03:00):
encourage you to go listen to the full episode. It
released on Monday, February twenty seven, so that's the date
you can look for. And then the title is NIT
a Week Diet Culture versus Anti diet Culture, and NITA
stands for National Eating Disorder Awareness. We are wrapping up
NIT a Week this week, and she has a lot
(03:20):
of amazing episodes up. She's a great resource. She's a
licensed therapist that specializes in eating disorders. So if you're
here looking for support, that's amazing. But there are experts
out there doing really really great things and putting out
a lot of helpful content. I am not here as
(03:41):
an expert. I am here as someone that has oh
Man dealt with an eating disorder for much of my life,
and thankfully now I'm in recovery. But it's a journey,
it's a process. So I just share my experiences and
I bring on others that are in the space but
know what they're talking about. I really love that clip
from Kat that I played for you, because it makes
(04:04):
me feel less crazy that I spent so much of
my life confused about what the heck to put in
my body. It was so exhausting for me to keep
up with all the latest diet trends. And then somewhere
along the way, well probably because I talked about dieting
all the time and food and working out and body stuff,
(04:24):
I became the go to with different friends and family members.
I don't know, honestly, now that I think about it,
if they were really asking or if I was just sharing.
But I felt as though at times I would get
asked questions like, oh, what's the latest this or that?
Or do I need to try this cleanse? Or do
I need to do that? Or have you read this
diet book? And of course I was always able to say, yep, yep, yep,
(04:46):
I'm doing this, and of course when I was in it,
it was the best thing ever, and you have to
try it. And it's because I didn't want to be
alone in my misery. I wanted others to join me.
And so what I want to encourage you to do
right now, without judgment, is to try to take note
of all the fears that diet culture gave you about food.
(05:08):
And for each of us it looks really different, but
I honestly felt every single one that Kat mentioned in
her little rant. Definitely felt the banana ice cream and
the butter and the coffee. I felt those ones hard.
And maybe you're not doing this right now because because
you're listening, But in a few minutes when this is over,
if you have time, get out a journal and take
(05:29):
note of those fears. What has society diet culture, What
are the messages that you have been receiving, and what
fears do you have around food? And become curious about
the feelings that come up with those fears around food
and your body and sit with them. For me, personally,
every time I choose to sit with my feelings rather
(05:49):
than suppress them, which I mean, my eating disorder was
a lot of suppressing and numbing my feelings. But when
I sit with my feelings rather than suppressed them, I
loosen their grip on me. And that would be my
hope for you. And journaling has been a powerful tool
for me in processing feelings and fears. So maybe give
(06:11):
it a try today, just for a few minutes. Set
a timer for three minutes in journal what it would
look like to have a drama free relationship with food
after you make note of some of those fears from
diet culture and all the space it's taken up in
your brain right now, and what it would look like
to have a drama free relationship with food. What would
(06:35):
you do with all the brain space that you would
get back if you stopped obsessing about it? It lived
rent free in my brain for years and years and years.
It is all I thought about when I went to sleep,
when I woke up, when I was out to eat
with people, when I was working. Yeah, it was all
the time. And if it wasn't about food, it was
when I'm going to work out. So maybe some of
(06:57):
your thoughts more so or around the workouts or body
image things. My desire is for all of us to
feel more peaceful around food and our bodies. That's the goal.
That's why outweigh is here. A life without disordered eating.
Outweighs everything. And my desire is for us to all
(07:18):
feel that, truly feel that in our lives. Whatever age
you are, you can get there. If you're sixteen or
sixty six. There is room for recovery. There is hope,
and I want people to know that. And there's so
so many amazing resources out there. If you're you know,
thinking about your body. I know we were talking about
(07:40):
food and fears around food and journaling around that and
what it would look like. But is there an area
of your body that you pick apart? Can you start
to have a loving dialogue with it? Can you talk
to it? Can you look in the mirror and appreciate
what it does for you? And maybe right a think
you note to your body and all that it's been
(08:01):
able to do for you. Are you noticing that writing
is a theme. I've been writing a lot. Ali Fallon
is a friend of mine. She's an author and a writer.
But she was one of the leaders in a self
care workshop that I went to last Saturday, and it
was so so good. And when she was on stage,
she was talking about writing and how powerful it is,
and she's always been that. She wrote a book called
(08:23):
The Power of Writing It Down, and she said that
twenty minutes of writing for four days in a row
will give you six months of benefits. And in that moment,
I thought, well, that is doable, and I need six
months of benefits, like I want the benefits of my
journaling and my processing of my thoughts and putting pen
(08:43):
to paper on things. So that was on Saturday, So Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday.
For four days in a row, I journaled for twenty
minutes and it was amazing. I feel as though on
day four my thoughts were flowing out so much more
freely than they were on day one. That twenty minutes
went by so fast, and I was processing in a
(09:06):
way that I hadn't processed before. I was using words
that even surprised me. I was like, oh, well, look
at that word that just popped into my head and
now I wrote it down and a look at that
thought that I just had. And what I'm excited to
also do is to take the time to go back
and read everything that I wrote during those twenty minutes
for four days, because I Honestly, right now, I can't
(09:27):
tell you what I wrote on Sunday. I don't remember.
That was day one and my writing was all over
the place. It wasn't just twenty minutes of a specific topic,
although you could do that. You could use a writing
prompt like the prompts that I gave earlier, which Ali
is big on that, so I know I mentioned earlier,
also setting a timer for three minutes, but hey, you
could take Ali's suggestion and try to do twenty minutes.
(09:52):
The first day, I was a little intimidated by it,
but like I said, it got easier and easier, and
maybe you check in with different parts of your body
and you start writing about your feelings around that, right
around your feelings about food. Choose an area of your
body that is holding tension. At the self care workup workshop,
excuse me, we also went through mindfulness movement and paying
(10:14):
attention to your body and where things are showing up.
So can you breathe right now and just feel anywhere
that your body is holding tension and you can also
start to have a loving dialogue with that part of
the body. Sometimes my throat holds it, and my therapist
always has me to put my hand on my throat
and breathe through it and have loving dialogue with my voice,
(10:38):
because what we have determined is that at times I
may struggle with using my voice or feeling I can
really express what I'm thinking, and also listening to myself
and knowing that I can trust myself. That's huge. Something
I've been working through is paying attention to my body
(11:00):
and knowing, oh, I don't have to over explain this
to anyone because I know this to be my truth
and that is okay. Kind of just went off on
a little thing there, but it's paying attention to your body.
So whatever comes through for you, just pay attention to it,
do some breathwork around it, take a moment to look inward.
(11:24):
That's all I'm asking. Do some reflection, work through this stuff.
Write stuff down. If writing is intimidating for you, which
I get it. It was for me to one hundred
percent when I started a few years ago. But I
can't tell you how many experts of talk to me
about the power of writing it down. You know, earlier
(11:44):
I mentioned Kat's kneed a week episode from Monday, and
I also wanted to share that she put up a
couch Talks episode, which is her bonus episode that comes
out on Wednesdays, and it's a Kneed a Week Q
and A, and she addresses the following things. How can
I handle the ups and downs between good recovery days
and days I feel obsessed with food? How do I
(12:05):
express my concern to someone who I think might have
an eating disorder? And what is the difference between an
eating disorder and disorder eating? So again, just search Unique
Therapy Podcasts for those episodes and more awesome content from Kat.
And Kat's actually going to be at my live podcasts
that are in Nashville at the end of the month
(12:26):
March twenty fifth, in Franklin. She is full of wisdom.
She's going to be joining the stage with me and
Leon Ellington and Ali Fallon which I mentioned earlier about
the writing they are rock stars and the things that
they're going to share with us. I feel like we're
all going to leave Franklin Theater with a new energy,
with new tools. We're going to feel empowered and encouraged
(12:48):
and seen and supported. Now, the seven pm show is
sold out and the three pm is close to selling out,
So if you want to join us, get tickets because
it's going to be amazing. Franklin Theater dot com as
the website, but theater is spelled the fancy way like
t E A t r E. I'll also put the
link in the show notes, and then I have a
(13:09):
link tree on my Instagram that will take you lots
of places at Radio Amy and you'll see links in
there to the pop up shop for Haiti, which is
a free thing you can come to. There's gonna be
so many cute things that we're gonna be selling for
the orphanage in Haiti, where my kids came from. But
if you RSVP to that, we're just trying to get
a head count because it is a happy hour thing
(13:30):
and drinks are on me. There's gonna be a bar,
card a bartender, cocktails and cookies I think so far
as the thing and shopping and it's going to be
such a fun little happy hour hanging from four to
seven the day before the live So that's in March
twenty fourth. It's free to come if you're in Nashville.
Would love to have you, and yeah, we're just trying
to get a head count, so that would be amazing,
(13:50):
And I wish you well on this journey. I know
it's a lot of work, one day at a time,
and you'll get there. There's hope, and I hope you
have the day that you need to have right bite
I won't let my body out outweigh everything that I'm
made do, won't spend my life trying to change. I'm
learning love who I am again. I'm strong, I feel free,
I know who every part of me. It's beautiful and
then will always out way if you feel it with
(00:24):
your hands in the air, She's love to the boom.
I am. Then let's say good day and time did
you and die out? Happy Saturday? Outweigh Amy here and
I'm gonna start this episode off with a clip from
cat defod As Unied Therapy podcasts that went up this week,
where she processes diet culture and anti diet cultures wildly
(00:51):
polarizing content that has left many of us very, very confused.
We don't know what we're doing because, like at one point,
thin as ideal, and then no, no, no, it's fit
is ideal, and then it's no, no, no, Being strong
is ideal. Do what makes your body feel good. But
by the way, too much cardio is bad for you,
(01:12):
and lifting weights is the best thing you can do
for your body. Breakfast is the most important meal of
the day. We've heard that all our lives, But did
you know fasting until lunch is better than eating a
balanced meal before work. You should probably put butter in
your coffee now and don't use artificial creamers. But remember,
you should eat and drink foods that bring you joy.
(01:33):
I want you to wear whatever you want and whatever
you feel comfortable in. But if you don't want to
wear a crop top, it's probably because diet culture made
you hate your body, and you should love your body
no matter what it looks like at all times. However,
if you love your body, you will not want to
eat real ice cream because you can make ice cream
out of bananas, and ice cream is full of toxins
(01:56):
that will cause inflammation. Remember, though, you should listen to
your body and allow it to have what it craves,
except if you crave an actual banana, then you should
actually have some nuts because bananas are full of sugar,
and when you crave sugar, you're not allowing yourself to
listen to the emotional need underneath. So try and go
for a walk, but do it because it brings you joy,
(02:18):
not because it's good and necessary for your health, because
if you pay attention to your physical health, then you're
suppressing what it is you really need underneath and allowing
diet culture to manipulate you into a pawn of their
multibillion dollar industry. So rebel against it no matter what,
and do what makes you happy. Accept if it has
(02:39):
anything to do with what you look like, because you
shouldn't care. And if you do care, you're hurting other people.
And smaller is better, but stronger is better than smaller,
unless stronger it means you become smaller, then you should
be stronger. And actually I want you to remember you
shouldn't care about anything except what makes you happy. I
(03:00):
encourage you to go listen to the full episode. It
released on Monday, February twenty seven, so that's the date
you can look for. And then the title is NIT
a Week Diet Culture versus Anti diet Culture, and NITA
stands for National Eating Disorder Awareness. We are wrapping up
NIT a Week this week, and she has a lot
(03:20):
of amazing episodes up. She's a great resource. She's a
licensed therapist that specializes in eating disorders. So if you're
here looking for support, that's amazing. But there are experts
out there doing really really great things and putting out
a lot of helpful content. I am not here as
(03:41):
an expert. I am here as someone that has oh
Man dealt with an eating disorder for much of my life,
and thankfully now I'm in recovery. But it's a journey,
it's a process. So I just share my experiences and
I bring on others that are in the space but
know what they're talking about. I really love that clip
from Kat that I played for you, because it makes
(04:04):
me feel less crazy that I spent so much of
my life confused about what the heck to put in
my body. It was so exhausting for me to keep
up with all the latest diet trends. And then somewhere
along the way, well probably because I talked about dieting
all the time and food and working out and body stuff,
(04:24):
I became the go to with different friends and family members.
I don't know, honestly, now that I think about it,
if they were really asking or if I was just sharing.
But I felt as though at times I would get
asked questions like, oh, what's the latest this or that?
Or do I need to try this cleanse? Or do
I need to do that? Or have you read this
diet book? And of course I was always able to say, yep, yep, yep,
(04:46):
I'm doing this, and of course when I was in it,
it was the best thing ever, and you have to
try it. And it's because I didn't want to be
alone in my misery. I wanted others to join me.
And so what I want to encourage you to do
right now, without judgment, is to try to take note
of all the fears that diet culture gave you about food.
(05:08):
And for each of us it looks really different, but
I honestly felt every single one that Kat mentioned in
her little rant. Definitely felt the banana ice cream and
the butter and the coffee. I felt those ones hard.
And maybe you're not doing this right now because because
you're listening, But in a few minutes when this is over,
if you have time, get out a journal and take
(05:29):
note of those fears. What has society diet culture, What
are the messages that you have been receiving, and what
fears do you have around food? And become curious about
the feelings that come up with those fears around food
and your body and sit with them. For me, personally,
every time I choose to sit with my feelings rather
(05:49):
than suppress them, which I mean, my eating disorder was
a lot of suppressing and numbing my feelings. But when
I sit with my feelings rather than suppressed them, I
loosen their grip on me. And that would be my
hope for you. And journaling has been a powerful tool
for me in processing feelings and fears. So maybe give
(06:11):
it a try today, just for a few minutes. Set
a timer for three minutes in journal what it would
look like to have a drama free relationship with food
after you make note of some of those fears from
diet culture and all the space it's taken up in
your brain right now, and what it would look like
to have a drama free relationship with food. What would
(06:35):
you do with all the brain space that you would
get back if you stopped obsessing about it? It lived
rent free in my brain for years and years and years.
It is all I thought about when I went to sleep,
when I woke up, when I was out to eat
with people, when I was working. Yeah, it was all
the time. And if it wasn't about food, it was
when I'm going to work out. So maybe some of
(06:57):
your thoughts more so or around the workouts or body
image things. My desire is for all of us to
feel more peaceful around food and our bodies. That's the goal.
That's why outweigh is here. A life without disordered eating.
Outweighs everything. And my desire is for us to all
(07:18):
feel that, truly feel that in our lives. Whatever age
you are, you can get there. If you're sixteen or
sixty six. There is room for recovery. There is hope,
and I want people to know that. And there's so
so many amazing resources out there. If you're you know,
thinking about your body. I know we were talking about
(07:40):
food and fears around food and journaling around that and
what it would look like. But is there an area
of your body that you pick apart? Can you start
to have a loving dialogue with it? Can you talk
to it? Can you look in the mirror and appreciate
what it does for you? And maybe right a think
you note to your body and all that it's been
(08:01):
able to do for you. Are you noticing that writing
is a theme. I've been writing a lot. Ali Fallon
is a friend of mine. She's an author and a writer.
But she was one of the leaders in a self
care workshop that I went to last Saturday, and it
was so so good. And when she was on stage,
she was talking about writing and how powerful it is,
and she's always been that. She wrote a book called
(08:23):
The Power of Writing It Down, and she said that
twenty minutes of writing for four days in a row
will give you six months of benefits. And in that moment,
I thought, well, that is doable, and I need six
months of benefits, like I want the benefits of my
journaling and my processing of my thoughts and putting pen
(08:43):
to paper on things. So that was on Saturday, So Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday.
For four days in a row, I journaled for twenty
minutes and it was amazing. I feel as though on
day four my thoughts were flowing out so much more
freely than they were on day one. That twenty minutes
went by so fast, and I was processing in a
(09:06):
way that I hadn't processed before. I was using words
that even surprised me. I was like, oh, well, look
at that word that just popped into my head and
now I wrote it down and a look at that
thought that I just had. And what I'm excited to
also do is to take the time to go back
and read everything that I wrote during those twenty minutes
for four days, because I Honestly, right now, I can't
(09:27):
tell you what I wrote on Sunday. I don't remember.
That was day one and my writing was all over
the place. It wasn't just twenty minutes of a specific topic,
although you could do that. You could use a writing
prompt like the prompts that I gave earlier, which Ali
is big on that, so I know I mentioned earlier,
also setting a timer for three minutes, but hey, you
could take Ali's suggestion and try to do twenty minutes.
(09:52):
The first day, I was a little intimidated by it,
but like I said, it got easier and easier, and
maybe you check in with different parts of your body
and you start writing about your feelings around that, right
around your feelings about food. Choose an area of your
body that is holding tension. At the self care workup workshop,
excuse me, we also went through mindfulness movement and paying
(10:14):
attention to your body and where things are showing up.
So can you breathe right now and just feel anywhere
that your body is holding tension and you can also
start to have a loving dialogue with that part of
the body. Sometimes my throat holds it, and my therapist
always has me to put my hand on my throat
and breathe through it and have loving dialogue with my voice,
(10:38):
because what we have determined is that at times I
may struggle with using my voice or feeling I can
really express what I'm thinking, and also listening to myself
and knowing that I can trust myself. That's huge. Something
I've been working through is paying attention to my body
(11:00):
and knowing, oh, I don't have to over explain this
to anyone because I know this to be my truth
and that is okay. Kind of just went off on
a little thing there, but it's paying attention to your body.
So whatever comes through for you, just pay attention to it,
do some breathwork around it, take a moment to look inward.
(11:24):
That's all I'm asking. Do some reflection, work through this stuff.
Write stuff down. If writing is intimidating for you, which
I get it. It was for me to one hundred
percent when I started a few years ago. But I
can't tell you how many experts of talk to me
about the power of writing it down. You know, earlier
(11:44):
I mentioned Kat's kneed a week episode from Monday, and
I also wanted to share that she put up a
couch Talks episode, which is her bonus episode that comes
out on Wednesdays, and it's a Kneed a Week Q
and A, and she addresses the following things. How can
I handle the ups and downs between good recovery days
and days I feel obsessed with food? How do I
(12:05):
express my concern to someone who I think might have
an eating disorder? And what is the difference between an
eating disorder and disorder eating? So again, just search Unique
Therapy Podcasts for those episodes and more awesome content from Kat.
And Kat's actually going to be at my live podcasts
that are in Nashville at the end of the month
(12:26):
March twenty fifth, in Franklin. She is full of wisdom.
She's going to be joining the stage with me and
Leon Ellington and Ali Fallon which I mentioned earlier about
the writing they are rock stars and the things that
they're going to share with us. I feel like we're
all going to leave Franklin Theater with a new energy,
with new tools. We're going to feel empowered and encouraged
(12:48):
and seen and supported. Now, the seven pm show is
sold out and the three pm is close to selling out,
So if you want to join us, get tickets because
it's going to be amazing. Franklin Theater dot com as
the website, but theater is spelled the fancy way like
t E A t r E. I'll also put the
link in the show notes, and then I have a
(13:09):
link tree on my Instagram that will take you lots
of places at Radio Amy and you'll see links in
there to the pop up shop for Haiti, which is
a free thing you can come to. There's gonna be
so many cute things that we're gonna be selling for
the orphanage in Haiti, where my kids came from. But
if you RSVP to that, we're just trying to get
a head count because it is a happy hour thing
(13:30):
and drinks are on me. There's gonna be a bar,
card a bartender, cocktails and cookies I think so far
as the thing and shopping and it's going to be
such a fun little happy hour hanging from four to
seven the day before the live So that's in March
twenty fourth. It's free to come if you're in Nashville.
Would love to have you, and yeah, we're just trying
to get a head count, so that would be amazing,
(13:50):
And I wish you well on this journey. I know
it's a lot of work, one day at a time,
and you'll get there. There's hope, and I hope you
have the day that you need to have right bite
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Welcome to "Decisions, Decisions," the podcast where boundaries are pushed, and conversations get candid! Join your favorite hosts, Mandii B and WeezyWTF, as they dive deep into the world of non-traditional relationships and explore the often-taboo topics surrounding dating, sex, and love. Every Monday, Mandii and Weezy invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. With a blend of humor, vulnerability, and authenticity, they share their personal journeys navigating their 30s, tackling the complexities of modern relationships, and engaging in thought-provoking discussions that challenge societal expectations. From groundbreaking interviews with diverse guests to relatable stories that resonate with your experiences, "Decisions, Decisions" is your go-to source for open dialogue about what it truly means to love and connect in today's world. Get ready to reshape your understanding of relationships and embrace the freedom of authentic connections—tune in and join the conversation!