Cappy Hour

Today's guest is Ali Alqaraghuli, a NASA postdoctoral fellow who built 4 Steps to Hyperfocus — a simple, plug-and-play system designed for ADHD brains. Undiagnosed ADHD can increase substance abuse risk by up to 400% - - we expose why relying on willpower is a failed strategy for both disorders. Learn to ditch discipline and build powerful, external systems—your "external brain" to finally conquer time blindness, manage chronic mis...

In this episode, we dig into one of the most debated topics in recovery: the word “alcoholic.” Why does the label feel heavy and shame-based for so many of us, even when we’re openly working on sobriety? And is there a way to reclaim it without reinforcing stigma?

We talk about:

- The difference between addiction vs. alcohol use disorder

- Why some people can moderate—and why others simply can’t

- The neuroscience behind the “voic...

Transforming relapse into momentum, building community, and learning to let go of perfectionism. In this first guest episode, Tom joins me to talk candidly about sobriety, slipping on a golf weekend, owning it publicly, and getting right back on the horse. We compare AA vs. online recovery communities (The Luckiest Club, Reframe), talk about meeting cadence and fit, and unpack the “voice” that tries to drag us back to drinking. I a...

Welcome back to Part 2 of my intro to Cappy Hour. When I filmed these first episodes, I had ~10 months sober; as we launch, I’m now at 19 months and counting. In this chapter I fill in the nine-month gap, talk about how my face (and life) changed as the alcohol-induced rosacea faded, and share what actually worked: community, honest sharing, therapy for the past, coaching for the future, and daily “acceptance speeches” to keep my s...

I’m Brian “Cappy” Capello, and this is Part 1 of my story. I talk about how an Irish-Italian family tree, late-blooming confidence, and using alcohol as a “social tool” turned into three decades of trouble. From college nights at Providence and my first DUI scare, to a short marriage I tried to prop up with drinks, a disastrous funeral eulogy, and getting put in “protective custody” after a One Direction concert—this is the unfilte...