Who Wrote the Rules?

Who Wrote the Rules?

We grow up believing there’s a formula for success: work hard, follow the rules, chase the right goals, and happiness will follow. I built a career this way, as a software engineer. But somewhere along the way, life shows itself to be messier, more complex—and a lot more fragile than we were led to believe. Beneath the rhythms of everyday life and the buzz of innovation and career goals, we’re facing profound instability, from personal burnout to destabilizing democracy, destruction of ecosystems and the unfolding of the planet’s sixth mass extinction. This podcast is my journey through that realization. Through wide-ranging conversations with historians, philosophers, ecologists, scientists, and even posture experts, I explain how my worldview shifted once I found the courage to question the stories and rules I grew up with. Each episode invites you to step back, rethink what we value, and consider how a clearer understanding of ourselves and our world might help us navigate the future with more wisdom—and more heart. I’m your host, Vicki Shaw.

Episodes

October 17, 2025 13 mins

What's this narrative podcast all about anyway? In this introduction, you'll get a taste of how big a scope we're taking on through Vicki's (flustering) experience learning to play a video game called Civilization. Through this story, we'll begin to encounter the seminal questions of the series: Why are we obsessed with dominance, and is there another way to thrive? Where did we get our ideas about what is good or valuable? Can we ...

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A horrible bout of back pain creates curiosity about the underlying societal influences on our bodies, and causes me to take a leave of absence from my tech job.

For this story, I interview a posture guru, Esther Gokhale, about how pain may arise from influences beyond our physical bodies, including speculation of a break in the thread of what she calls kinesthetic wisdom.

We glimpse examples from indigenous cultures, antique art, a...

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March 4, 2026 40 mins

Where do our values come from? Can we evolve them to live better? And why does "value" mean something totally different from "values"?

In this episode, we meet an intentional community called Magic that explores those questions through a scientific lens, in a philosophy called valuescience.

David Schrom, the community's founder, tells his story of challenging the narratives we inherit, which culminates in estrangement from his fath...

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April 20, 2026 42 mins

In this episode, an old friend sits down with me to tell me about his three separate leaves of absence from Stanford. With each break, Andrew interrogates narratives ranging from the personal, to the societal, and the institutional, and each time re-discovers himself with more clarity. In his most recent break as a PhD student, he comes up against the institutional rules of epidemiology, and challenges the department to expand thei...

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June 9, 2026 34 mins

It's late 2023, I've finally quit my job and shed many inherited and outdated narratives. In order to find what's next, I spend time exploring the world through literature and stumble onto an article titled, "We need a modern origin story." It's by David Christian, the historian behind Big History, and reading it feels like it was written to me, about my own life. In this turning-point episode, I trace how a British boy raised in ...

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This episode borrows audio from the Big History Project curriculum and its eight thresholds of increasing complexity to tell the expansive, 13.8 billion year story of humanity. We also hear additional reflections from David Christian on the morals of this big origin story, and how it provides me a path toward reconnection with the rest of the world and the community of life.

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