TForThetablePod
T for the Table is a cozy podcast serving bold conversations, big laughs, and soft landings through a Black queer lens. From relationships and mental health to pop culture and everything in between—pull up, pour up, and let’s talk!
Episodes
What does love cost these days?
Tony and Terrell are joined by singer/songwriter Dominic Patrick for The Anatomy of Love, a conversation inspired by his latest project, Love Inflation.
From sacrifice and compromise to peace, passion, consistency, and choosing yourself—we’re asking what healthy love should cost and what it should never cost you.
<...In Episode 4, “But Are You Actually Attracted to Him?”, Tony and Terrell unpack desire, physical attraction, chemistry, preferences, and the people we choose. From body types, masculinity, and gay beauty standards to unavailable partners, unresolved wounds, and the thrill of the chase, the conversation asks whether our attractions are truly ours—or shaped by culture, validation, and other ...
Loneliness isn’t always about being alone. Sometimes it’s feeling misunderstood, carrying the weight of being the strong friend, or being surrounded by people who don’t truly know you.
In this episode, Tony and Terrell explore romantic, friendship, family, career, spiritual, and Black queer loneliness. They also discuss the difference between being needed and being...
We’re always encouraged to heal—but who actually gets to experience the version of us that emerges afterward?
In Season 2, Episode 2 of T for the Table, we’re unpacking the complicated question: Who gets the healed version of us?
Do the people who loved us through our unhealed seasons deserve access to who we’ve become? Should someone...
We’re baaaaack—and the table is officially open for Season 2! 🥂
In our season premiere, we’re catching up on life during the break, sharing what we’re leaving behind, what we’re bringing into this new season, and what has us excited—and a little nervous—about what’s ahead.
We’re also giving you a taste o...
This season we explored body image, sex, self-help, healing, and culture through a Black queer lens. Some episodes made us laugh, others made us think, and many reminded us that our stories matter.
In this season finale, we reflect on the moments that stood out, the lessons we’re taking with us, and what’s next for the podcast.
Thank you for being part of the journey this season.
In this episode of Crystal Clear Convo, we have an honest conversation about drug use in the Black queer community, specifically crystal meth. No judgment. No sensationalism. Just truth. We unpack why it’s so prevalent, how it impacts mental health and relationships, and the hard conversations we need to start having. This is about awareness, accountability, and healing.
In this episode, we talk about beauty as currency, colorism, masculinity bias, dating app hierarchies, and the mental health impact of desirability politics. Who benefits? Who gets excluded? And is it wrong to use the advantages beauty brings?
Honest. Layered. Necessary.
Your favorite hosts sit down with Philly Native and social influencer Bryheim. On this episode it’s all about black queer love. The seat is hot and so are the questions. Bryheim discusses his new dating show and his thoughts on love.
Hosts: Tony Purnell @Tonypurnelllightworker Terrell James @TerrellJames Guest: Bryheim Mccoy, @Bry.heiim
Druski’s church skit is funny—but uncomfortably accurate. This episode explores performative faith, church as branding, and why emotional hype isn’t the same as spiritual healing. We also examine where Black queer folks fit in churches that claim inclusion without affirmation. Maybe the future of church isn’t louder—maybe it’s deeper.
What if every choice you didn’t make became a different life? In this episode of T for the Table, we use The Midnight Library as a jumping-off point to talk regret, “what if” fantasies, and the alternate lives we love to romanticize. From the life where you stayed, to the one where you played it safe, to the one where you took the big risk, we unpack why some doors are better left closed. Funny, refl...
In this episode, Tony and Terrell unpack the phrase “if he wanted to, he would” and what it really means in dating and relationships. They discuss effort versus excuses, emotional availability, and why understanding someone’s limitations does not mean sacrificing your peace.
A real, funny, and reflective conversation about choosing clarity, consistency, and yourself.
When relationships go public, the internet feels entitled to weigh in. In this episode of T for the Table, Tony and Terrell discuss what happens when love becomes content and breakups turn into community conversations.
They unpack subliminal posts, soft launches versus hard deletes, and why accountability often gets replaced with performance, projection, and conditional allyship. Tony also shares a Tony’s Tidbit on why hurt m...
Healing doesn’t mean you wake up brand new on January 1st. Sometimes it means you recognize the pattern sooner. You leave faster. You explain less. You choose yourself with less guilt.
In this episode, we talk about what growth actually looks like when you’re self-aware but still human, especially as gay men navigating dating, attachment, and emotional labor.
If you’ve eve...
Your favorite hosts wish you all a Happy Holidays. We are taking a break on Christmas and want to send you a special message. Please take this time to catch up on previous episodes. Comment below and let us know your favorite episode thus far. You can dm us on all of our socials at @TForTheTablePod. You can also email us at tforthetablepod@gmail.com. Enjoy your time with your loved ones and we will see you in the new year.
The holidays don’t just leave us full — they leave us feeling things. In this episode of T for the Table, we unpack the emotional hangovers that come from family, pressure, grief, and old patterns that resurface this time of year. From holiday trauma vs. holiday magic to navigating evolved boundaries, chosen family, and protecting your peace, we’re keeping it honest, funny, and healing. Because not every hangover ...
In this episode of T For The Table, Tony and Terrell break down why so many gay men fall into people-pleasing — from growing up in survival mode to seeking validation in queer spaces. We talk about the difference between kindness and self-abandonment, introduce the Gay People-Pleaser Archetypes, and share real boundary scripts you can start using today. Plus, our rapid-fire game “Is It Nice… or Is It People-Pleas...
We share personal stories, laughs, and all the things your mama should NOT hear.
If you’ve ever sent a risky text, been ghosted, matched with the same person twice, or wondered how to keep it cute AND safe… welcome home.
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In this episode of T for the Table, Tony and Terrell explore the messy, hilarious, and transformative journey of identity. From the people they thought they’d become to the versions they had to outgrow, this conversation dives into changing dreams, unexpected adulthood, and honoring personal evolution.
They break down: • Identity shifts and glow-up seasons • The pressure of expectations vs reality • Dreams that evolved (and o...
In this episode of T For The Table, Tony and Terrell dive deep into the truth about modern friendship — the good, the shady, and the downright expensive. If you’ve ever questioned who really belongs in your circle, this conversation is for you.
We break down the real cost of keeping real friends, from emotional labor to loyalty, trust, boundaries, and self-respect. With honest stories, relata...
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