- Matty & PJ want to know if this thing their partners do, is normal...
- Group Therapy: Do I need to say something to my current partner about my ex being in the same friend group?
- PJ has a chopping board question
- What is your social circle sick of hearing you ALWAYS talking about? (Matty's is running, PJ's is her son)
- Matty doesn't know how to cut his nails
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Hits Drive with Medi and PJ. Thanks to Chimis
were House the Real House of Fragrances on the Hi everyone,
and welcome to the podcast Wealthy Check. How's everyone going.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I'm doing well. I'm doing really well. We got to
send these little like Chelsea buns, which it's not it's
not something I would normally eat, but pink or white.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
I sang blue, Okay blue.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
I think it was to support their prostate cancer a
witness month.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Oh that makes sense, Yeah, because I don't. I don't
think I've seen a blue Chelsea bumb before. It's one
of those things you don't think of getting, but when
you have them, they really hit the spot.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
When I was little, and we're actually very similar in
this regard. Our Nana's looked after us like our grandma's
after us as toddlers.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Shout out Jojo, religion.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Shout out Noline, no Lean, Noelean, sorry and no lean.
Manana used to take me to this bakery like we'd
go and I'd go with go with her to do
the errands like she'd take me. We'd go to the
post office and we'll do this, and we'll do that,
and would always go to the bakery and I'd get
(01:18):
a little treat.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
It was always Chelsea.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
No, it was a raspberry slice, yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
With the raspberry jam in the middle, with the pink
I sing on the top.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Yeah, one of them.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
In years, What.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Would be your go to? What would be you go
to from the bakery?
Speaker 4 (01:35):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (01:35):
My go to in a bakery. Shit, that's a hard one.
Probably a custod square vanilla slice, but it's got to be.
I don't know, it depends on what their bakery's packing.
But if you get like a top tier vanilla custody
fucking slice, you can't beat it.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
My stomach literally just started rumbling.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
We bej had like a guy come out today talking
seeds and stuff like we real kind of rip coming
in and they often bring ship from the bakery. And
he came in with a few bags and yeah, he
came in with some pies. He kept going, oh, Polly,
would you well, you won't like meat pies? And I
(02:18):
was setting going I love me get handed over. But
then like it was, they were on like a client
meeting kind of thing, so I just was sort of sitting.
I was like, no, no, no, I've already ate it. And
I kept walking around the table, just checking a bet
with eat it and there was one left, and I'm
like and I'm like, no, I'm seriously, I have eaten.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Should have taken it.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
You should have taken And then I took the last
bite of Beja's he had on his plate. I came
in like a seagull.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
So you had a butte of a pie. And then
you came into town and you got yourself a little
treat today, didn't you.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Don't you, dear? Don't you? Poles was feeling bodies today,
only every now and then she do what she did today.
She may have hit the drive through before the show.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
She may have she may have got two things from
the drive through.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Oh my god, shut up that I couldn't decide. I
couldn't decide, you know, and sometimes you're like, you know
you want something, you just can't work out what you
feel like. So I got two things, and I was like, oh,
I said, I'll have one of the two things. But
I had two of the things, didn't I.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I told you that I got caught out last night
because I've studied, because when we first started the show,
I was getting into the habit of buying myself like
a little sweet treet from the cafe. You know, I'd
get to like two thirty in the afternoon. I go,
and you spent a lot of money, could do a
little slash.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
I could do a cookie, like five or six dollars
on a slash.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yes, And I was thinking, this is like so much
money for all I wanted was like a little sugar
craving like a little sugar.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
So then I thought, no, I'll just be smart. I've
gone buy myself a packet of biscuits and just keep
them at work here and they could a biscuit. But
I was having sometimes I've been having like three biscuits shift.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
It's pretty hard to just have one, yeah, on any
given day.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
But I had a packet in my bag that I
hadn't that I had been farying to and from work.
And last night when Ryan and I had a cup
of tea, he goes, I could do a biscuit and
I said, actually, I have a packet of biscuits in
my bag. And I had to explain to him why
I had a pecket of biscuits.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Like, excuse me, is there anything else you've been hiding?
Speaker 2 (04:16):
He was like, why have you been hiding? This from me.
I was like, well, I'm not hiding it from you,
but what do you want? Do you want me to
come home and be like I bought a pecket of
biscuits today to take him to work? Like what ship?
That's ship chair?
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Yeah it's not great chat. Yeah, but you've got to
you gotta leave some mystery.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
But now I feel like I've been caught out.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Scro I beat you. He's hiding ship.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
I'm sure he is.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
He'll be will be driving around on his job. Yeah,
he's definitely not telling you everything.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
He's definitely not definitely not.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Anyway, I'm coming up in the podcast. What are we
talking about on the show today? Can you remember I've.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Locked out on my computer? We talked about what what
you guys? What can't you what can't you shut up about?
In your friend circle?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Oh that's right? And we discovered the b J and
Ryan are the same person. Very pleatrician, very pedtrician.
Speaker 5 (05:10):
Had a chopping board question and Maddie had a question
about cutting his nails.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Anyway, all of that and so much more Top tier chat.
Top tier is my thing at the moment. What's the
other thing? I keep saying Rogue, Top Tier, some top
Tier chat coming up Enjoy Everybody Many and the podcast
Many and I have been chit chatting like little girls.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Girls like each other's here and painting each other's nails,
having a little chin wear guess bag.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
We don't really gossip. We just sometimes started talking about
both of our lovely husbands.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
And who we love, who we love.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Love so much. I wouldn't say we were now stilly
speaking about them, but no, no, we were just sharing observations.
And I made the observation that I feel like whenever
BJ the Harvey makes a social plan, he always plays
it down to me and he'll I reckon. He goes
(06:21):
to his friends and he makes plans, and then when
he comes to me, he's like, oh, I don't know,
I'm not sure if it's going to happen, and then
he sort of leaves it open, and then last minute
he'll go through with it, and it's like, I don't know,
is it this gauging period where he's trying to test
me to see how this social like arting will go
(06:42):
down with me. I don't know. I don't know if
there's a method to the madness. But your husband does
the same thing.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
He does do the same thing. And what I've noticed
about Ryan is that he will he will talk to
me very last minute about a social engagement, as if
as if the plans have literally just popped up. Oh,
so and So's just messaged me about a beer this
afternoon in the sun. And I'm saying, no, no, no, no, no.
(07:09):
You have been planning this for a very long time,
and now you're just throwing it out there as if
this has randomly occurred one hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Why but surely it would be in their best interest
to tell us a little bit earlier. Or is that
in their minds more time for us to freak out
and panic and tell them to abort my ship?
Speaker 6 (07:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Is it like lower risk if they go right, Let's
just see how late we can push to this, and
then we'll drop the news and then there's little time
for them to buyl out.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Totally, because because if we're not doing anything on a Sunday,
and he says, oh, Mike's misses me about a beer
in the sart what am I? What am I going
to do? You know, I can't stop them from going,
not that I want to stop him from going.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
I suppose if we told you that a few days earlier.
You could be like, but what if we do this
blah where it's last minute, you've got no plans and
if you're doing nothing, oh my god, what'll break them out?
Is this? Is this a common guy thing? Or is
this just a common certain kind of person thing? Or
is this just Ryan and BJ they anomally? I like
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hundred of hats to join the show.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
I want to hear from people whose partners also do this,
or are you a man who also does this and
can give us some insight into why you do Why.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Is it because you think you've got less chance of
us absolutely losing out. I don't care if they're socialize.
I don't like a little bit of time to know
what's going to happen. I like hundred of hats to
join the show. You can text for fight sever.
Speaker 7 (08:48):
Maddy and PJ Many and PJ the podcast The Hits.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Maddy and I are trying to work out if our
husbands are rarities or if this is a common thing
that they both do. But we've realized both of them
are guilty of not having any plans, not having any plans,
and all of a sudden, last minute boom they end
up going out for a beer with a mate, but
they've known for a long time that this is in
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the works.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
But then they're like, oh, random's crazy, so weird.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Can I be bothered? I don't know if that's the
other thing right, and go. I don't know if I
can be bothered. I'm like, you know, absolutely be bothered.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
And then if they don't go, they'll have this anxious
energy pacing round the house and you know they're just
going to have foam on. It's like, just go, I
know you want to go have the beer, all right.
So we want clarity on the reason why this happens,
or maybe it happens to you, Phil, get a mate,
Welcome to the show.
Speaker 6 (09:49):
Get are you going?
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Do you do you do this tofel? Oh?
Speaker 8 (09:54):
Absolutely?
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Okay? Why why Phil?
Speaker 8 (09:58):
Why now I'm doing it for my way?
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Oh? Well, oh I.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Could.
Speaker 8 (10:09):
I mean it might be a case of I really
just don't feel like going. Yeah, because the time of coming,
I'm like, you know, I'm going to cancel it, and
she will have made all sorts of plans and sorted
everything and then she'll have to change it. So for me,
I'm just like I'll leave it to the last minute
to bring it on and then deal with the afternoon.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
So you're just being a hero, Phil, You're just being
an absolute hero.
Speaker 8 (10:36):
If it doesn't need to be right.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Okay, well, thank you for giving some clarity. Phil, Hayden,
this is concerning both Fell and Hayden. Were my husband's
like groomsmen. Hayden. This isn't Hayden, the Hayden.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
Is it definitely not?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (10:54):
All right?
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Can you can you lean some clarity to us on
why you might do this?
Speaker 3 (10:59):
I just look like it has already been said. There's
three answers to the same questions.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Three answers answers.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Okay, it depends on the situation. So the first one is,
don't flitter yourself. We're not that good at organizing.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
This is true, This is rue, true.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
I go next.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
The second one is sometimes we do it so we've
got an out because then we can blame you. No, no, no,
the partner.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
Oh yeah, okay, okay, that's a good one.
Speaker 3 (11:34):
And then number three in the third one, sometimes if
we leave it as a surprise, you've got no choice
but to say yes, yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Well that's what I fel You are you a regular
goer of doing this technique.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
Yes, just because my wife hates social situation.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Has your wife picked up on what you're doing.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
Is sometimes she just gives me the wife look.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Yeah, the wife look.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Even Maddie does the wife the look.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
I definitely do the Maddy and PJ.
Speaker 7 (12:08):
The podcast.
Speaker 9 (12:11):
That's the Pepole's poll, the People's poll.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Everybody comes together. It's the People's poll at this time
of the People's Pole. We'll get it away in every
day on the text machine by texting three to four
four eight seven, or you can weigh in on our
Instagram page the Hats Drive with Matti and PJ and
we'll put up the pole on our story.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Today's is wedding related and it comes off the back
of a news report out of Sweden, of all places.
So the Swedish church is a Lutheran church. That's the
like denomination. And in the Lutheran Church, it's tradition that
the brian and groom walk down the aisle together at
(12:50):
the start of the wedding ceremony. Okay, but more and
more brides are requesting that their father actually walk them
down and give them away at the you know, as
is tradition in a lot of Western weddings. Yeah, and
so the church is actually requesting a ban on that,
(13:11):
but on that tradition they don't.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
Want on the dead walking the doorter down the.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Aisle, yeah, because they say it's not in keeping with
the church and it's not in keeping with Swedish tradition,
even though lots of other countries do it, So we
want to ban it from happening. Interesting, and so it
got us thinking today about whether actually normal in Maine society,
is there still a tradition that we should be following.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
It's interesting, isn't it when you really think about the
concept of sort of being given away.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Yes, because father, because back in the day it was
very traditional and it was you know, the man taking
ownership of the woman and taking her on and away
from her father and her family. But times have changed, obviously,
but it's still that we stick with.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Yeah, And I like to think I'm like quite regressive
for a lot of my thinking, and sometimes you kind
of do just want to go back to the traditional
ways that you know, my dad passed in twenty nine days.
My brother walked me down the aisle and he was like, mum, mum,
you should do it. You should do it. She's like, no, no, Sam,
you have to. It's got to be a man la
la la. So I don't know. I think for me
(14:23):
personally still, I'm still down with the dad walking the
doorter down the iisle. I think it's absolutely a.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Personally totally my take is if that's what you really
want to do, do it. But in my mind, I
think it is one of those weird traditions that I
feel like we can let goal of. I don't think
anyone needs to walk anyone down the aisle. Walk yourself.
You play walk ever her house like all the other time.
You need someone to take in your hand, all right.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
So text thrown up four for a seven.
Speaker 7 (14:57):
The podcast.
Speaker 9 (15:00):
That's the deep Pool's poll, the people's poll.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Everybody comes together, it's the people's.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
Pole, all right. An interesting one inspired by a story
coming out of Sweden today.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Yeah. So the Swedish church is Lutheran, and their tradition
in the churches that the bride and groom both walk
down the aisle together at the start of the ceremony.
But lots of brides over there are requesting that their
dads walk them down the aisle, as is tradition in
a lot of countries, and the Lutheran Church is trying
to ban them from being able to do that because
they say it's not in keeping with church tradition.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
So we wanted to know in twenty twenty four because
you know, weddings are certainly changing quite a lot now
and people are doing it their way, so we wanted
to know on the text machine four four eighty seven,
do you still still think the father should walk the
daughter down the aisle?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
I think a lot of the general consensus is yes.
I still think it's a nice thing to do. Someone said, yeah,
I see it as the last chance to accompany my
girl on what is her special day. I don't view
it as giving her away. I see it as knowing
her knowing I trust the man she chooses.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I got this one, and when I get married, I'll
have my kids walk with me. Definitely wouldn't have my dad.
You know that it's such a personalized decision and that's
a beautiful thing. You can choose whoever walks you down.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Absolutely. The general consensus, though, if we take the text
machine and our Instagram poll is sixty nine percent of
people say yes, the brider she'd still be walked down
the aisle by her dad.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Well, there you go. We will be back tomorrow with
another people's pole. If you've got any suggestions on what
topics we should touch, text through four full eight seven.
Speaker 7 (16:39):
Mary and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast The Heads,
Many and Pj's group therapy.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
And it's time for some therapy. Welcome to the Noge
Non Judgmental Zone, where you can air your dilemmas and
your life big or small. You can either text through
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had start quot to NZ where you can register your
group therapy and we could be tackling it each week.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
You can always stay anonymous. You know, we never dive
alo your personal details or anything like that, but it's
just nice to have people way in on your dilemma.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
And often we don't have the answers. So this is
where we hand it over to you New Zealand on
oh eight hundred the hat. So listen out for today's dilemma.
If you've got any advice, please call through.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Yeah, and people are great, people are very way smarter.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Than we ever would be, people superior to us.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
So I'm going to read you this week's group therapy situation.
Hey Maddie and PJ, slightly awkward situation for you. A
few years ago, I had a bit of a situationship
with a guy that lasted about six months. It was
fun and then we had a good time, but ultimately
we were just on different paths and ended that. The
thing is, we were never really out and official with
a relationship, so we weren't ever introduced to each other's circles.
(17:57):
Cut to now, and I've just started seeing a new guide.
He's great and it's going really well, so well that
I've just been introduced to his group of friends. You
can see where this is going. I'm sure, Oh yeah, yep.
The guy that I dated a few years ago is
one of his mates. We've spent tonight together in a
group setting, but neither of us acknowledged that we knew
(18:18):
each other. I really don't want my new boyfriend to
worry about anything or to feel uncomfortable with me hanging
out with his friend. So what do I do. I
don't think my boyfriend's friend is going to say anything
about us dating back in the day, So should I
follow suit and not say anything and just carry on
as normal, or do I owe it to my new
boyfriend to say something.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Be honest, come forward and air the dirty laundry. It
will make things less complicated in the future. That's Auntie
Pj's words of Western this afternoon.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
I know, easier said than done, though sometimes I know,
and sometimes you just do just go well, if he's
not gonna say anything, and I know, but.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
What it gets to him through someone else, You've got
to ask that question. And then, you know, I just
think it's always good to get off the get on
the back, on the front.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Foot, front foot. Yeah, get on the front foot, because
I guess the thing is, you can't be responsible for
the friend's behavior because if the guy that you were
seeing back in the day just happens to, you know,
have a few drinks and say to another mate in
the friend circle, you'll never believe it. I went out
with with his new girlfriend for a lite while back
(19:30):
in the day, and then that got passed on to
the new boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
It doesn't look good. I think you just got to
be on a straight up but be like, look, it
obviously didn't work out, and it didn't work out for
a reason, and you know, you're really special to me,
and I don't want this to ruin what we have,
and I don't want to ruin your friendship either, although
actually it does create an interesting dynamic. It's worth ruining
the friendship.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
I guess you just have to. You just have to
put it all out there right and be like, I'm fine,
he fine, We're fine. It ended a long time ago.
It didn't last very long. It ended amicably, you know, like,
we ended fine, and I think we can all just
like carry on as if nothing has ever happened. But
you just need to know the facts. Right.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Ticks are coming through, be honest and tell. If you don't,
it'll seem like you were hiding something and make a
bigger deal out of it if it comes out later.
A couple of techs are coming through like that. So
if you'd like to weigh in right now, oh wait,
hundred the hats. We would love to hear your advice.
Maybe you've been in a similar situation and you have
some words of warning, all words of wisdom. I'll wait
one hundred the Hats to weigh in for this week's
(20:37):
group therapy.
Speaker 7 (20:40):
Mady ANDPJ Many and PJ the podcast The Hits, Many
and Pj's Group Therapy.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Delve again to another person's problem this week, because the
problem shared is a problem halved and we don't have
all the answers, which is why we open it up
to you on the phones.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
I'll quickly recap a few years ago, this person said,
I had a bit of a situationship with the guy
that lasted about six months fun. We had a good time,
ultimately on different parts, and we ended it. Cut to now,
and I've just started seeing a new guy. I've just
been introduced to his group of friends, and the guy
that I dated a few years ago is one of
my new boyfriend's mates. We've spent the night together at
(21:20):
a group setting. Neither of us acknowledged that we knew
each other though. I really don't want my new boyfriend
to worry about anything or to feel uncomfortable with me
hanging out with his friend. So what do I do?
Should I not say anything and just carry on as normal?
Or do I owe it to my boyfriend to say something?
Speaker 1 (21:35):
You don't want to start a relationship on a dishonest night.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
No, but you're not lying, You're not.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
But also, what would you do many if you were
the other person and you found out you like why
didn't you tell me?
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Dred percent?
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Why did you not tell me? Why were you not honest?
Speaker 2 (21:50):
Didn't you? Yes? And the honest, honest And the thing
that I've learned after seven and a half years in
a relationship is always so much cleaner to just say
it immediately.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
One hundred percent. Else a belds into something that it
doesn't need to be. All right, we're going to North Canterbury.
This safternoon and wom is joining us today?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Warm dog?
Speaker 1 (22:09):
Get idea? How's it going to mate? You want to
weigh in on this situation?
Speaker 7 (22:14):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (22:14):
I do, and I think she should say something and
n everything's fine, fine, he's fine. But it makes his
mate look like a bit of a jak because he
has at Sydney think yes, mates, why here's any Sydney
think so go Google, give him the upper hand and
he'll away.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Yeah, yeah, come out on, come out on top almost.
Speaker 10 (22:33):
Exit yeh boy?
Speaker 1 (22:35):
How close are they his friends? Did they say how close?
Or it's just kind of like a friendship group. We
don't know.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
I don't think it's I don't think we're talking best
mates or anything like that, but obviously mates enough that
they hang out in the social circle to give it.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
She raises a good point. It could be bloody or Daniel. Hello,
welcome to the show. Hi, now you want to weigh
in on this week script therapy. What are your thoughts?
Speaker 4 (23:00):
Yeah, well, if he finds out through someone else, he's
just going to think that you're trying to hide something.
So you're best just to be honest.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
Yeah, but how do you do it without I guess,
alarming him? Like should he be worried? You know, should
he be insecure? Like do things need to get weird?
Like how do you prevent that from happening?
Speaker 2 (23:18):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (23:18):
I think you just say, hey, I just want to
let you know that this is what's happened in the past.
But it's all good.
Speaker 8 (23:24):
We're all good.
Speaker 4 (23:25):
I'm not interested. I'm really into you and I want
our relationship to go further.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
That's a really good point, danniel I like that.
Speaker 1 (23:34):
Yeah, thank you, Dannielle. I think you definitely echo most
of what people are saying on the text machine. Everyone's
just saying be honest.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
And the other thing that someone else pointed out in
the text, which is so true, is this is not
even an issue. We live in New Zealand. Yeah, it's
very small. The dating pool is not huge. The chances
of you dating someone that is friends with another person
is high.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
So it's not even someone's cousins and everyone's connected.
Speaker 7 (24:07):
The podcast.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Christian, I want to know your thoughts on this. I
think I witnessed a crime in our kitchen this morning.
So my husband was preparing toast for two year old
Charlie and he had got out the chicken board, you
know the board where you cut the meat on the
whiteboard that is strictly the protein and nothing else. He'd
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got the vocals and put it on the air with
the peanut butter. Now, I know it's clean, but there's
something in me that makes me feel like the bacteria
from the chicken is still there.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
I know what you mean, I know it. I mean
you're fine, like it's it's fine.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Yeah, it was just a little bit okay. I was like,
oh no, and I mean I'm not even a stick
of a hygiene, but I was like, nah, I feel
like this is this is not the car.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Now I feel weird because I don't what do you do? Well,
I'm not really that bothered by I don't really think
about the different topics.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
You just use Do you just use all the boards
any day, anytime I kind of do anything, and I
clean it thoroughly, life clean thorough that you need to
have a hard luck in the mirror when PJ is
bringing up actually now I think about it takes your
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thoughts for.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
Many and May and the podcast that when we accepted
this job page one of the very first things that
our boss has said to us was, hey, we do
have a little bit of a partnership going with the
Red Stag Marathon, and would the two of you be
(25:56):
interested in doing it?
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Pretty quick to put our hands up.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
For a long time, you and I were going, what
are we doing?
Speaker 7 (26:03):
Why?
Speaker 2 (26:04):
We could have just we could have popped along. We
didn't have to run the bloody thing.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Yeah, But soon enough we got hugged and before you
know it were those annoying people that would not shut
up about running.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
I know, except that was the half marathon was a
May and here I am in September, still bloody beinging
on about my running.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
I don't think I've gone for a run. I think
I've had have gone for one or two max. But
otherwise I've just been sticking to a few little lates exercises.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
I can hear myself. It's like I've got verbal diarrhea.
I can hear myself talking about it, and I know,
and I can hear myself saying the words, and I go,
shut up. No one wants to hear about your run,
but I can't stop talking about it. And now I've
become one of these really annoying people that posts their
(26:58):
run on their social media account.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Yeah, I saw that this morning, ten k forty minutes.
I saw the map.
Speaker 2 (27:05):
What it's kind as good time, good time, very much.
But it's become my little annoyance. And one of my
friends the other day said, this is kind of becoming
like your whole personality. I just She was like, I'm
just I'm not judging. I just want you to be aware.
And I was like, yeah, damn, I know, I know
(27:27):
it about myself. I can't stop what was wrong.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
It's honestly, it's the adrenaline that comes with it. And
I've seen this before. I think you just you like
want everyone to be on that same wavelength and being like,
I've been in your position before. I know that feeling.
But now I've sang the light Maddie, You've got to stit.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Out it's like I'm chasing I don't know how bad
it is, still I'm chasing this high and I don't
I don't even know what I'm chasing. I don't even
know what I want people to do or say. But
I just can't stop talking about it.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
To me, it's like people have kids, you know. That's
like all I find myself talking you about Charlie, Charlie, this,
Charlie that, because that is my whole life, or it's
like my husband he would just talk about fishing or
hunting or depending on the season, it's fishing or hunting.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
He's obsishing. Is he trying to get you onto another
fishing trip?
Speaker 1 (28:18):
Yeah? And once again he sold it as like the
dream for me, going Babe, I found like a weekend.
We can get away for the long weekend, next coming
down and jas coming and we can make it like
a family thing and then we'll go out on the
boat and you guys can hang with the It's always
it's just every year, like clockwork. He sells it to
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me like that.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
It's it's it's it's awkward. It's awkward because you know
that people are sick of you talking about it, but
you just can't stop right.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
M Well, I'm sure and alone? Oh waite hundred the hats?
What is your social circle? Sick of hearing you talk about?
You can dub yourself in or maybe you can job
someone else, say someone has been doing your hidden What
is the topic of conversation that just won't go away?
Maybe it's you, maybe it's a loved one call us on.
(29:10):
Wait a hundred, the hats, Madie, I'm sure you're not
the podcasts and we're opening up the phones. Wait one
hundred the hats? What is your social circle? Sick of
hearing you talk about? What can't you shut up about?
Many has been going on about running since Matt. Do
(29:31):
you think it was like just before the half marathon
that we ran in or was it before that?
Speaker 2 (29:37):
It was just before I wasn't really posting that much
in the lead art. But then ever since then, I've
just gotten I've joined a run club.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
Thanks, So now we get a guarantee post of your
juice box run club Sunday morning. It's like I know
what to expect today. There was a sweety picture of
you outside the front door, and I set a map
of the run.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
I can hear myself talking about it.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
And I, oh, man, so I finding up the lines
on because I'm sure you're not a loaned many Virginia
is joining. Hello, Virginy. Hey, how's it going good?
Speaker 2 (30:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (30:09):
Not too bad? Are you have you got someone like.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
To let it go? I'm boring, mate, I'm telling you so,
my husband's never run.
Speaker 4 (30:19):
All of a sudden, he's doing this ink.
Speaker 10 (30:20):
Run and I'm like, okay, maybe he's doing it with
the name.
Speaker 1 (30:23):
And then the neighbors hurry.
Speaker 10 (30:24):
Out, We'll got to get down there. So then from
the ato, I'm running the marathon because I'm running from
Pilot Baker down the mountain. Kind of fun. Feed the
support crew you want anyway.
Speaker 1 (30:33):
It doesn't shut up about it.
Speaker 6 (30:34):
Every day it's about the next one.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Hello, Yeah you know what I did? Do that?
Speaker 4 (30:40):
We all been about to celebrate.
Speaker 10 (30:42):
So I got you know how they give you that
middle Yeah, yeah, you look. I will try to do
this like an athlete, and I put that on, and
then I'm going up to people at.
Speaker 1 (30:50):
The bar gime.
Speaker 10 (30:51):
You know, apparently I don't know. The word around town
is if we've done the twenty one case today, get
a free drink.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
All this free drinks? Okay, so you found the benefits
of runner, you found the loophole Virginny.
Speaker 10 (31:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:06):
So basically she's showing Maddy shut up. Okay, Matt is
joining us. All right, hundred hats What can you not
shut up about?
Speaker 2 (31:13):
Matt?
Speaker 6 (31:14):
Sorry? First cool name, Maddie, Yes, isn't it all the
best people are called exactly. I've got I've got three
friends bull dogs and my friends I know that's up
their own Instagram.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Oh so you channel your love through the Instagram page.
That's why people do it, do you reckon? Because they
don't want to actually do it in real life. It's
just a pain, so they can choose to follow that
account or not.
Speaker 6 (31:42):
Yeah, such an awesome We dogs. The oldest one, Tom
who's completely dead, is Tom Hardy, and then I've got
a week black girl, she's Kelly Berry. And then my
youngest patent I've just got is Cory Jane because he
was my favorite all black.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
Wet this kind of day day.
Speaker 1 (32:07):
What can you not shut up about?
Speaker 10 (32:09):
I can't shut up about the movie Idiocracy. If you
haven't seen it, you absolutely have to watch it. It's
garily hilarious because it's set in the future and here
we got to hear the whole story, we go what
have we done? Many It's just like going into what
is happening with a lot of people being relying on
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technology and being really lazy. It's really satirical. It's got
heaps of celebrities in it, and Terry Crews is the
president and instead of having water, everybody drinks Skator eighte,
so water basically doesn't exist anymore. It's crazy. And I've
got people who, you know, something will happen at work
and I'll say, it's just look what's happening. You know,
(32:53):
look at the news. Idiocracy happening.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
Now I'm going to go, wait, you've you've You've won,
you sold me. I'm going to go and watch this
movie there. I reckon if we go back to You'll
still be talking about it.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
Liz is wrapping up with what can't you stop talking about? Hey?
Speaker 8 (33:13):
I cannot still stop talking about goats, the idea of
catching a goat, and I.
Speaker 10 (33:19):
Cannot stop talking about it?
Speaker 2 (33:21):
Why Why?
Speaker 1 (33:24):
My partner and I went camping a couple of months
ago and we just gotted a few goats, and I
just thought, how cool would it be to have a
pet goat for my son?
Speaker 10 (33:32):
And we live on a farm, and I've seen like
a patch of them on.
Speaker 4 (33:36):
The way out to our farm, and every time, the
whole way, it's like an hour drive from town.
Speaker 6 (33:40):
The whole way.
Speaker 4 (33:41):
I've got my head out in the window. I'm looking
for a go a few times. And yeah, it's getting
it's getting obsessives. It's obsessive and dangerous.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
You're actually not that bad.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
You're still hanging on the phone line, still be talking
about idiocracy.
Speaker 9 (34:02):
They're still talking about it still, Mary and Mary and
PJ the podcast head.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Do you get your nails done? Do you professionally get
your nails done?
Speaker 1 (34:20):
There's been a while, vib It has been a while.
Are used to I am back in the day when
I had a little bit of disposable income, I would
go and get like Schillac or jel or whatever, and
it was a vicious, vicious cycle. I'd always end up
peeling it off and my nails would be horrendous, and
then I'd sweat and never do it again. And then
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months would pass and be like, oh, I check my
nails down, they look cute, and they never ended up
being cute, and within weeks they'd be peeled. They'll all
be peeled off.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
So I'm nearly thirty eight and I still have not
mastered the art of cutting my nails. Yeah, neither when
you I'm not a bitter No no, no, no, no,
no no. I've never bitten my nails, but I whenever
I like, I was just looking at my nails and
(35:09):
I thought I need to cut them. But I know
what's going to happen. I'm going to get the little
nail clippers out and I'll start cutting away, and I
will try my hardest to do it really nicely and
delicately and evenly. They will end up looking absolutely butchered,
and hag it, they'll be jarred. They'll be different, like,
(35:30):
they won't be like curved anymore.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Why don't you just go and get them professionally done?
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Because I can't be bothered paying for my nails. And
I would like to think at the age of thirty eight,
I would have figured out how it's so. It seems
like such a simple thing. But am I a file?
Speaker 1 (35:47):
Why don't you just file? Why don't you just file
and then that avoids the shocking cutting? Could you just
file it fully down?
Speaker 2 (35:54):
Is that what you do with a file?
Speaker 1 (35:57):
I think so well, I mean usually there's for buffing
and stuff. I reckon if you had a bit of
time out, you say, you can probably just file it down.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
So maybe so a nail file you actually use on
the whole nail. That's not to just like shape the
nail once you've cut them. No, I'm produce. Seria wants
to come in, then say, prou I'm.
Speaker 5 (36:16):
Addicted to getting my nails done every month, so I
do want the Now ladies do my nails and they
chop them first with the nail clippers, then they shile
it and shape it, and then a different nail file
is used to actually like smooth and the actual Yeah,
you could file your nails, but if they're quite long,
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you'd have to chop them first with the nail clipper.
Speaker 1 (36:38):
Do you see them grow and like go for the
next one?
Speaker 2 (36:42):
Records? Gross?
Speaker 1 (36:44):
Have you seen how long people's nails get? They get
like proper veins and discussed.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
I couldn't do it, but could you?
Speaker 6 (36:52):
Actually?
Speaker 2 (36:53):
Would? You? Would it be weird for me to just
sit here filing my nails.
Speaker 1 (36:57):
We're always fiddling with something in your hands. Why don't
you all with a file? Get something?
Speaker 2 (37:03):
Might be my new personality.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
From running to filing his nails.
Speaker 7 (37:10):
Many and PJ Mady and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 2 (37:15):
So last week when you and I were in Marlborough,
we had to do a little ocean dip. Yes, we
had agreed that if we raised one hundred k for
Deafit all day that we would do a donation dip.
That was our little pledge that we've made. And we
got there. We got to one hundred k.
Speaker 1 (37:35):
We did, and I think we highly underestimated how cold
the waters of the Sounds would be.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
It was freezing.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
He he lost his speeders. Have you even seen the video?
It is very entertaining. You can chick it out on
the hats drive, Instagram or Facebook.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
They were too big and the draw drawstring had like
you know, when one half of it gets wrapped up
like inside and yes, yeah, that's what had happened. So
it was my user era. But anyway, so we posted
that video and of course I am topless and in
speedos And did.
Speaker 1 (38:16):
You get a bit of Did you get a bit
of attention from that?
Speaker 6 (38:19):
No?
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Not really until this morning I looked at my DMS
and someone with a blue tick, you know, like a
verified account, had messaged me and said it had responded
to that video and they just said looking amazing, Maddie,
and I thought, oh, that's really nice comment, and I said, haha,
(38:41):
thank you so much. And then they said this could
be a perfect outfit for when I photograph you, and
I said, sorry, what what? And then I looked at
this guy's Instagram page and it is with very I
will say, very tasteful, very tasteful model photos of men,
(39:09):
usually topless, sometimes not topless. Sometimes they're fully cloth, but
often topless, and they are really really nice photos. But
these are what looks like guys models to me. Yeah.
And I went on this like rabbit hole conversation with
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this guy, and the long and short of it is
he said, I think you'd be a great subject to photographs.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
Sorry, I'm not laughing, and it's.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
Just I laughing. You laughing.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
You're a good looking man. No, no, no, no, no, no,
it's quite fought from em. He's just beating around the bush,
that's for sure.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
I will say he's a very talented photographer. Like his
photos are really lovely.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
Really, are you going to take them up on the offer?
Speaker 4 (40:02):
Like?
Speaker 2 (40:03):
Very nice? But I don't male model, I am not.
Speaker 1 (40:08):
You don't know you may not be years, but this
could be. I mean, you've always got to have a
backup option. We know the media industry can be facult.
I think it's always good to have a backup. Why
don't you go and do it, and then please give
us the photo so we can post them all. You
can get a fake ten like body oil. Oh what
(40:31):
have you done? Have you promised anything?
Speaker 7 (40:33):
Now?
Speaker 2 (40:33):
I haven't promised anything. I keep putting them, I keep
betting them away, Like, no, I know you should do it.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
Like we're coming to the end of twenty twenty four,
Can you say honestly that you've done anything wild this year?
Speaker 7 (40:44):
No, so.
Speaker 1 (40:47):
Say yes, medic, say yes to the unknown, and then
give us a lot of entertainment and enjoy the
Speaker 7 (40:57):
Podcast s.
The Hits Drive with Medi and PJ. Thanks to Chimis
were House the Real House of Fragrances on the Hi everyone,
and welcome to the podcast Wealthy Check. How's everyone going.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I'm doing well. I'm doing really well. We got to
send these little like Chelsea buns, which it's not it's
not something I would normally eat, but pink or white.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
I sang blue, Okay blue.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
I think it was to support their prostate cancer a
witness month.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Oh that makes sense, Yeah, because I don't. I don't
think I've seen a blue Chelsea bumb before. It's one
of those things you don't think of getting, but when
you have them, they really hit the spot.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
When I was little, and we're actually very similar in
this regard. Our Nana's looked after us like our grandma's
after us as toddlers.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Shout out Jojo, religion.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Shout out Noline, no Lean, Noelean, sorry and no lean.
Manana used to take me to this bakery like we'd
go and I'd go with go with her to do
the errands like she'd take me. We'd go to the
post office and we'll do this, and we'll do that,
and would always go to the bakery and I'd get
(01:18):
a little treat.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
It was always Chelsea.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
No, it was a raspberry slice, yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
With the raspberry jam in the middle, with the pink
I sing on the top.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Yeah, one of them.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
In years, What.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Would be your go to? What would be you go
to from the bakery?
Speaker 4 (01:35):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (01:35):
My go to in a bakery. Shit, that's a hard one.
Probably a custod square vanilla slice, but it's got to be.
I don't know, it depends on what their bakery's packing.
But if you get like a top tier vanilla custody
fucking slice, you can't beat it.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
My stomach literally just started rumbling.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
We bej had like a guy come out today talking
seeds and stuff like we real kind of rip coming
in and they often bring ship from the bakery. And
he came in with a few bags and yeah, he
came in with some pies. He kept going, oh, Polly,
would you well, you won't like meat pies? And I
(02:18):
was setting going I love me get handed over. But
then like it was, they were on like a client
meeting kind of thing, so I just was sort of sitting.
I was like, no, no, no, I've already ate it. And
I kept walking around the table, just checking a bet
with eat it and there was one left, and I'm
like and I'm like, no, I'm seriously, I have eaten.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Should have taken it.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
You should have taken And then I took the last
bite of Beja's he had on his plate. I came
in like a seagull.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
So you had a butte of a pie. And then
you came into town and you got yourself a little
treat today, didn't you.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
Don't you, dear? Don't you? Poles was feeling bodies today,
only every now and then she do what she did today.
She may have hit the drive through before the show.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
She may have she may have got two things from
the drive through.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Oh my god, shut up that I couldn't decide. I
couldn't decide, you know, and sometimes you're like, you know
you want something, you just can't work out what you
feel like. So I got two things, and I was like, oh,
I said, I'll have one of the two things. But
I had two of the things, didn't I.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I told you that I got caught out last night
because I've studied, because when we first started the show,
I was getting into the habit of buying myself like
a little sweet treet from the cafe. You know, I'd
get to like two thirty in the afternoon. I go,
and you spent a lot of money, could do a
little slash.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
I could do a cookie, like five or six dollars
on a slash.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Yes, And I was thinking, this is like so much
money for all I wanted was like a little sugar
craving like a little sugar.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
So then I thought, no, I'll just be smart. I've
gone buy myself a packet of biscuits and just keep
them at work here and they could a biscuit. But
I was having sometimes I've been having like three biscuits shift.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
It's pretty hard to just have one, yeah, on any
given day.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
But I had a packet in my bag that I
hadn't that I had been farying to and from work.
And last night when Ryan and I had a cup
of tea, he goes, I could do a biscuit and
I said, actually, I have a packet of biscuits in
my bag. And I had to explain to him why
I had a pecket of biscuits.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Like, excuse me, is there anything else you've been hiding?
Speaker 2 (04:16):
He was like, why have you been hiding? This from me.
I was like, well, I'm not hiding it from you,
but what do you want? Do you want me to
come home and be like I bought a pecket of
biscuits today to take him to work? Like what ship?
That's ship chair?
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Yeah it's not great chat. Yeah, but you've got to
you gotta leave some mystery.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
But now I feel like I've been caught out.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Scro I beat you. He's hiding ship.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
I'm sure he is.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
He'll be will be driving around on his job. Yeah,
he's definitely not telling you everything.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
He's definitely not definitely not.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Anyway, I'm coming up in the podcast. What are we
talking about on the show today? Can you remember I've.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Locked out on my computer? We talked about what what
you guys? What can't you what can't you shut up about?
In your friend circle?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Oh that's right? And we discovered the b J and
Ryan are the same person. Very pleatrician, very pedtrician.
Speaker 5 (05:10):
Had a chopping board question and Maddie had a question
about cutting his nails.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Anyway, all of that and so much more Top tier chat.
Top tier is my thing at the moment. What's the
other thing? I keep saying Rogue, Top Tier, some top
Tier chat coming up Enjoy Everybody Many and the podcast
Many and I have been chit chatting like little girls.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Girls like each other's here and painting each other's nails,
having a little chin wear guess bag.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
We don't really gossip. We just sometimes started talking about
both of our lovely husbands.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
And who we love, who we love.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Love so much. I wouldn't say we were now stilly
speaking about them, but no, no, we were just sharing observations.
And I made the observation that I feel like whenever
BJ the Harvey makes a social plan, he always plays
it down to me and he'll I reckon. He goes
(06:21):
to his friends and he makes plans, and then when
he comes to me, he's like, oh, I don't know,
I'm not sure if it's going to happen, and then
he sort of leaves it open, and then last minute
he'll go through with it, and it's like, I don't know,
is it this gauging period where he's trying to test
me to see how this social like arting will go
(06:42):
down with me. I don't know. I don't know if
there's a method to the madness. But your husband does
the same thing.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
He does do the same thing. And what I've noticed
about Ryan is that he will he will talk to
me very last minute about a social engagement, as if
as if the plans have literally just popped up. Oh,
so and So's just messaged me about a beer this
afternoon in the sun. And I'm saying, no, no, no, no, no.
(07:09):
You have been planning this for a very long time,
and now you're just throwing it out there as if
this has randomly occurred one hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Why but surely it would be in their best interest
to tell us a little bit earlier. Or is that
in their minds more time for us to freak out
and panic and tell them to abort my ship?
Speaker 6 (07:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (07:33):
Is it like lower risk if they go right, Let's
just see how late we can push to this, and
then we'll drop the news and then there's little time
for them to buyl out.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Totally, because because if we're not doing anything on a Sunday,
and he says, oh, Mike's misses me about a beer
in the sart what am I? What am I going
to do? You know, I can't stop them from going,
not that I want to stop him from going.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
I suppose if we told you that a few days earlier.
You could be like, but what if we do this
blah where it's last minute, you've got no plans and
if you're doing nothing, oh my god, what'll break them out?
Is this? Is this a common guy thing? Or is
this just a common certain kind of person thing? Or
is this just Ryan and BJ they anomally? I like
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hundred of hats to join the show.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
I want to hear from people whose partners also do this,
or are you a man who also does this and
can give us some insight into why you do Why.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Is it because you think you've got less chance of
us absolutely losing out. I don't care if they're socialize.
I don't like a little bit of time to know
what's going to happen. I like hundred of hats to
join the show. You can text for fight sever.
Speaker 7 (08:48):
Maddy and PJ Many and PJ the podcast The Hits.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Maddy and I are trying to work out if our
husbands are rarities or if this is a common thing
that they both do. But we've realized both of them
are guilty of not having any plans, not having any plans,
and all of a sudden, last minute boom they end
up going out for a beer with a mate, but
they've known for a long time that this is in
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the works.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
But then they're like, oh, random's crazy, so weird.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Can I be bothered? I don't know if that's the
other thing right, and go. I don't know if I
can be bothered. I'm like, you know, absolutely be bothered.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
And then if they don't go, they'll have this anxious
energy pacing round the house and you know they're just
going to have foam on. It's like, just go, I
know you want to go have the beer, all right.
So we want clarity on the reason why this happens,
or maybe it happens to you, Phil, get a mate,
Welcome to the show.
Speaker 6 (09:49):
Get are you going?
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Do you do you do this tofel? Oh?
Speaker 8 (09:54):
Absolutely?
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Okay? Why why Phil?
Speaker 8 (09:58):
Why now I'm doing it for my way?
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Oh? Well, oh I.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Could.
Speaker 8 (10:09):
I mean it might be a case of I really
just don't feel like going. Yeah, because the time of coming,
I'm like, you know, I'm going to cancel it, and
she will have made all sorts of plans and sorted
everything and then she'll have to change it. So for me,
I'm just like I'll leave it to the last minute
to bring it on and then deal with the afternoon.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
So you're just being a hero, Phil, You're just being
an absolute hero.
Speaker 8 (10:36):
If it doesn't need to be right.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Okay, well, thank you for giving some clarity. Phil, Hayden,
this is concerning both Fell and Hayden. Were my husband's
like groomsmen. Hayden. This isn't Hayden, the Hayden.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
Is it definitely not?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (10:54):
All right?
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Can you can you lean some clarity to us on
why you might do this?
Speaker 3 (10:59):
I just look like it has already been said. There's
three answers to the same questions.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Three answers answers.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
Okay, it depends on the situation. So the first one is,
don't flitter yourself. We're not that good at organizing.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
This is true, This is rue, true.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
I go next.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
The second one is sometimes we do it so we've
got an out because then we can blame you. No, no, no,
the partner.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
Oh yeah, okay, okay, that's a good one.
Speaker 3 (11:34):
And then number three in the third one, sometimes if
we leave it as a surprise, you've got no choice
but to say yes, yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
Well that's what I fel You are you a regular
goer of doing this technique.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
Yes, just because my wife hates social situation.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Has your wife picked up on what you're doing.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
Is sometimes she just gives me the wife look.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Yeah, the wife look.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Even Maddie does the wife the look.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
I definitely do the Maddy and PJ.
Speaker 7 (12:08):
The podcast.
Speaker 9 (12:11):
That's the Pepole's poll, the People's poll.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Everybody comes together. It's the People's poll at this time
of the People's Pole. We'll get it away in every
day on the text machine by texting three to four
four eight seven, or you can weigh in on our
Instagram page the Hats Drive with Matti and PJ and
we'll put up the pole on our story.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Today's is wedding related and it comes off the back
of a news report out of Sweden, of all places.
So the Swedish church is a Lutheran church. That's the
like denomination. And in the Lutheran Church, it's tradition that
the brian and groom walk down the aisle together at
(12:50):
the start of the wedding ceremony. Okay, but more and
more brides are requesting that their father actually walk them
down and give them away at the you know, as
is tradition in a lot of Western weddings. Yeah, and
so the church is actually requesting a ban on that,
(13:11):
but on that tradition they don't.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
Want on the dead walking the doorter down the.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Aisle, yeah, because they say it's not in keeping with
the church and it's not in keeping with Swedish tradition,
even though lots of other countries do it, So we
want to ban it from happening. Interesting, and so it
got us thinking today about whether actually normal in Maine society,
is there still a tradition that we should be following.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
It's interesting, isn't it when you really think about the
concept of sort of being given away.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
Yes, because father, because back in the day it was
very traditional and it was you know, the man taking
ownership of the woman and taking her on and away
from her father and her family. But times have changed, obviously,
but it's still that we stick with.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Yeah, And I like to think I'm like quite regressive
for a lot of my thinking, and sometimes you kind
of do just want to go back to the traditional
ways that you know, my dad passed in twenty nine days.
My brother walked me down the aisle and he was like, mum, mum,
you should do it. You should do it. She's like, no, no, Sam,
you have to. It's got to be a man la
la la. So I don't know. I think for me
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personally still, I'm still down with the dad walking the
doorter down the iisle. I think it's absolutely a.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Personally totally my take is if that's what you really
want to do, do it. But in my mind, I
think it is one of those weird traditions that I
feel like we can let goal of. I don't think
anyone needs to walk anyone down the aisle. Walk yourself.
You play walk ever her house like all the other time.
You need someone to take in your hand, all right.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
So text thrown up four for a seven.
Speaker 7 (14:57):
The podcast.
Speaker 9 (15:00):
That's the deep Pool's poll, the people's poll.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Everybody comes together, it's the people's.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
Pole, all right. An interesting one inspired by a story
coming out of Sweden today.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
Yeah. So the Swedish church is Lutheran, and their tradition
in the churches that the bride and groom both walk
down the aisle together at the start of the ceremony.
But lots of brides over there are requesting that their
dads walk them down the aisle, as is tradition in
a lot of countries, and the Lutheran Church is trying
to ban them from being able to do that because
they say it's not in keeping with church tradition.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
So we wanted to know in twenty twenty four because
you know, weddings are certainly changing quite a lot now
and people are doing it their way, so we wanted
to know on the text machine four four eighty seven,
do you still still think the father should walk the
daughter down the aisle?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
I think a lot of the general consensus is yes.
I still think it's a nice thing to do. Someone said, yeah,
I see it as the last chance to accompany my
girl on what is her special day. I don't view
it as giving her away. I see it as knowing
her knowing I trust the man she chooses.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I got this one, and when I get married, I'll
have my kids walk with me. Definitely wouldn't have my dad.
You know that it's such a personalized decision and that's
a beautiful thing. You can choose whoever walks you down.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Absolutely. The general consensus, though, if we take the text
machine and our Instagram poll is sixty nine percent of
people say yes, the brider she'd still be walked down
the aisle by her dad.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Well, there you go. We will be back tomorrow with
another people's pole. If you've got any suggestions on what
topics we should touch, text through four full eight seven.
Speaker 7 (16:39):
Mary and PJ. Mady and PJ the podcast The Heads,
Many and Pj's group therapy.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
And it's time for some therapy. Welcome to the Noge
Non Judgmental Zone, where you can air your dilemmas and
your life big or small. You can either text through
four full eight seven or there is a page that
had start quot to NZ where you can register your
group therapy and we could be tackling it each week.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
You can always stay anonymous. You know, we never dive
alo your personal details or anything like that, but it's
just nice to have people way in on your dilemma.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
And often we don't have the answers. So this is
where we hand it over to you New Zealand on
oh eight hundred the hat. So listen out for today's dilemma.
If you've got any advice, please call through.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
Yeah, and people are great, people are very way smarter.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
Than we ever would be, people superior to us.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
So I'm going to read you this week's group therapy situation.
Hey Maddie and PJ, slightly awkward situation for you. A
few years ago, I had a bit of a situationship
with a guy that lasted about six months. It was
fun and then we had a good time, but ultimately
we were just on different paths and ended that. The
thing is, we were never really out and official with
a relationship, so we weren't ever introduced to each other's circles.
(17:57):
Cut to now, and I've just started seeing a new guide.
He's great and it's going really well, so well that
I've just been introduced to his group of friends. You
can see where this is going. I'm sure, Oh yeah, yep.
The guy that I dated a few years ago is
one of his mates. We've spent tonight together in a
group setting, but neither of us acknowledged that we knew
(18:18):
each other. I really don't want my new boyfriend to
worry about anything or to feel uncomfortable with me hanging
out with his friend. So what do I do. I
don't think my boyfriend's friend is going to say anything
about us dating back in the day, So should I
follow suit and not say anything and just carry on
as normal, or do I owe it to my new
boyfriend to say something.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Be honest, come forward and air the dirty laundry. It
will make things less complicated in the future. That's Auntie
Pj's words of Western this afternoon.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
I know, easier said than done, though sometimes I know,
and sometimes you just do just go well, if he's
not gonna say anything, and I know, but.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
What it gets to him through someone else, You've got
to ask that question. And then, you know, I just
think it's always good to get off the get on
the back, on the front.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Foot, front foot. Yeah, get on the front foot, because
I guess the thing is, you can't be responsible for
the friend's behavior because if the guy that you were
seeing back in the day just happens to, you know,
have a few drinks and say to another mate in
the friend circle, you'll never believe it. I went out
with with his new girlfriend for a lite while back
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in the day, and then that got passed on to
the new boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
It doesn't look good. I think you just got to
be on a straight up but be like, look, it
obviously didn't work out, and it didn't work out for
a reason, and you know, you're really special to me,
and I don't want this to ruin what we have,
and I don't want to ruin your friendship either, although
actually it does create an interesting dynamic. It's worth ruining
the friendship.
Speaker 2 (19:55):
I guess you just have to. You just have to
put it all out there right and be like, I'm fine,
he fine, We're fine. It ended a long time ago.
It didn't last very long. It ended amicably, you know, like,
we ended fine, and I think we can all just
like carry on as if nothing has ever happened. But
you just need to know the facts. Right.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Ticks are coming through, be honest and tell. If you don't,
it'll seem like you were hiding something and make a
bigger deal out of it if it comes out later.
A couple of techs are coming through like that. So
if you'd like to weigh in right now, oh wait,
hundred the hats. We would love to hear your advice.
Maybe you've been in a similar situation and you have
some words of warning, all words of wisdom. I'll wait
one hundred the Hats to weigh in for this week's
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group therapy.
Speaker 7 (20:40):
Mady ANDPJ Many and PJ the podcast The Hits, Many
and Pj's Group Therapy.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Delve again to another person's problem this week, because the
problem shared is a problem halved and we don't have
all the answers, which is why we open it up
to you on the phones.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
I'll quickly recap a few years ago, this person said,
I had a bit of a situationship with the guy
that lasted about six months fun. We had a good time,
ultimately on different parts, and we ended it. Cut to now,
and I've just started seeing a new guy. I've just
been introduced to his group of friends, and the guy
that I dated a few years ago is one of
my new boyfriend's mates. We've spent the night together at
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a group setting. Neither of us acknowledged that we knew
each other though. I really don't want my new boyfriend
to worry about anything or to feel uncomfortable with me
hanging out with his friend. So what do I do?
Should I not say anything and just carry on as normal?
Or do I owe it to my boyfriend to say something?
Speaker 1 (21:35):
You don't want to start a relationship on a dishonest night.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
No, but you're not lying, You're not.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
But also, what would you do many if you were
the other person and you found out you like why
didn't you tell me?
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Dred percent?
Speaker 1 (21:47):
Why did you not tell me? Why were you not honest?
Speaker 2 (21:50):
Didn't you? Yes? And the honest, honest And the thing
that I've learned after seven and a half years in
a relationship is always so much cleaner to just say
it immediately.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
One hundred percent. Else a belds into something that it
doesn't need to be. All right, we're going to North Canterbury.
This safternoon and wom is joining us today?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Warm dog?
Speaker 1 (22:09):
Get idea? How's it going to mate? You want to
weigh in on this situation?
Speaker 7 (22:14):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (22:14):
I do, and I think she should say something and
n everything's fine, fine, he's fine. But it makes his
mate look like a bit of a jak because he
has at Sydney think yes, mates, why here's any Sydney
think so go Google, give him the upper hand and
he'll away.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Yeah, yeah, come out on, come out on top almost.
Speaker 10 (22:33):
Exit yeh boy?
Speaker 1 (22:35):
How close are they his friends? Did they say how close?
Or it's just kind of like a friendship group. We
don't know.
Speaker 2 (22:41):
I don't think it's I don't think we're talking best
mates or anything like that, but obviously mates enough that
they hang out in the social circle to give it.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
She raises a good point. It could be bloody or Daniel. Hello,
welcome to the show. Hi, now you want to weigh
in on this week script therapy. What are your thoughts?
Speaker 4 (23:00):
Yeah, well, if he finds out through someone else, he's
just going to think that you're trying to hide something.
So you're best just to be honest.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:06):
Yeah, but how do you do it without I guess,
alarming him? Like should he be worried? You know, should
he be insecure? Like do things need to get weird?
Like how do you prevent that from happening?
Speaker 2 (23:18):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (23:18):
I think you just say, hey, I just want to
let you know that this is what's happened in the past.
But it's all good.
Speaker 8 (23:24):
We're all good.
Speaker 4 (23:25):
I'm not interested. I'm really into you and I want
our relationship to go further.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
That's a really good point, danniel I like that.
Speaker 1 (23:34):
Yeah, thank you, Dannielle. I think you definitely echo most
of what people are saying on the text machine. Everyone's
just saying be honest.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
And the other thing that someone else pointed out in
the text, which is so true, is this is not
even an issue. We live in New Zealand. Yeah, it's
very small. The dating pool is not huge. The chances
of you dating someone that is friends with another person
is high.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
So it's not even someone's cousins and everyone's connected.
Speaker 7 (24:07):
The podcast.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
Christian, I want to know your thoughts on this. I
think I witnessed a crime in our kitchen this morning.
So my husband was preparing toast for two year old
Charlie and he had got out the chicken board, you
know the board where you cut the meat on the
whiteboard that is strictly the protein and nothing else. He'd
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got the vocals and put it on the air with
the peanut butter. Now, I know it's clean, but there's
something in me that makes me feel like the bacteria
from the chicken is still there.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
I know what you mean, I know it. I mean
you're fine, like it's it's fine.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Yeah, it was just a little bit okay. I was like,
oh no, and I mean I'm not even a stick
of a hygiene, but I was like, nah, I feel
like this is this is not the car.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Now I feel weird because I don't what do you do? Well,
I'm not really that bothered by I don't really think
about the different topics.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
You just use Do you just use all the boards
any day, anytime I kind of do anything, and I
clean it thoroughly, life clean thorough that you need to
have a hard luck in the mirror when PJ is
bringing up actually now I think about it takes your
(25:32):
thoughts for.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
Many and May and the podcast that when we accepted
this job page one of the very first things that
our boss has said to us was, hey, we do
have a little bit of a partnership going with the
Red Stag Marathon, and would the two of you be
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interested in doing it?
Speaker 1 (25:58):
Pretty quick to put our hands up.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
For a long time, you and I were going, what
are we doing?
Speaker 7 (26:03):
Why?
Speaker 2 (26:04):
We could have just we could have popped along. We
didn't have to run the bloody thing.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
Yeah, But soon enough we got hugged and before you
know it were those annoying people that would not shut
up about running.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
I know, except that was the half marathon was a
May and here I am in September, still bloody beinging
on about my running.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
I don't think I've gone for a run. I think
I've had have gone for one or two max. But
otherwise I've just been sticking to a few little lates exercises.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
I can hear myself. It's like I've got verbal diarrhea.
I can hear myself talking about it, and I know,
and I can hear myself saying the words, and I go,
shut up. No one wants to hear about your run,
but I can't stop talking about it. And now I've
become one of these really annoying people that posts their
(26:58):
run on their social media account.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
Yeah, I saw that this morning, ten k forty minutes.
I saw the map.
Speaker 2 (27:05):
What it's kind as good time, good time, very much.
But it's become my little annoyance. And one of my
friends the other day said, this is kind of becoming
like your whole personality. I just She was like, I'm
just I'm not judging. I just want you to be aware.
And I was like, yeah, damn, I know, I know
(27:27):
it about myself. I can't stop what was wrong.
Speaker 1 (27:30):
It's honestly, it's the adrenaline that comes with it. And
I've seen this before. I think you just you like
want everyone to be on that same wavelength and being like,
I've been in your position before. I know that feeling.
But now I've sang the light Maddie, You've got to stit.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Out it's like I'm chasing I don't know how bad
it is, still I'm chasing this high and I don't
I don't even know what I'm chasing. I don't even
know what I want people to do or say. But
I just can't stop talking about it.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
To me, it's like people have kids, you know. That's
like all I find myself talking you about Charlie, Charlie, this,
Charlie that, because that is my whole life, or it's
like my husband he would just talk about fishing or
hunting or depending on the season, it's fishing or hunting.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
He's obsishing. Is he trying to get you onto another
fishing trip?
Speaker 1 (28:18):
Yeah? And once again he sold it as like the
dream for me, going Babe, I found like a weekend.
We can get away for the long weekend, next coming
down and jas coming and we can make it like
a family thing and then we'll go out on the
boat and you guys can hang with the It's always
it's just every year, like clockwork. He sells it to
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me like that.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
It's it's it's it's awkward. It's awkward because you know
that people are sick of you talking about it, but
you just can't stop right.
Speaker 1 (28:49):
M Well, I'm sure and alone? Oh waite hundred the hats?
What is your social circle? Sick of hearing you talk about?
You can dub yourself in or maybe you can job
someone else, say someone has been doing your hidden What
is the topic of conversation that just won't go away?
Maybe it's you, maybe it's a loved one call us on.
(29:10):
Wait a hundred, the hats, Madie, I'm sure you're not
the podcasts and we're opening up the phones. Wait one
hundred the hats? What is your social circle? Sick of
hearing you talk about? What can't you shut up about?
Many has been going on about running since Matt. Do
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you think it was like just before the half marathon
that we ran in or was it before that?
Speaker 2 (29:37):
It was just before I wasn't really posting that much
in the lead art. But then ever since then, I've
just gotten I've joined a run club.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
Thanks, So now we get a guarantee post of your
juice box run club Sunday morning. It's like I know
what to expect today. There was a sweety picture of
you outside the front door, and I set a map
of the run.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
I can hear myself talking about it.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
And I, oh, man, so I finding up the lines
on because I'm sure you're not a loaned many Virginia
is joining. Hello, Virginy. Hey, how's it going good?
Speaker 2 (30:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (30:09):
Not too bad? Are you have you got someone like.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
To let it go? I'm boring, mate, I'm telling you so,
my husband's never run.
Speaker 4 (30:19):
All of a sudden, he's doing this ink.
Speaker 10 (30:20):
Run and I'm like, okay, maybe he's doing it with
the name.
Speaker 1 (30:23):
And then the neighbors hurry.
Speaker 10 (30:24):
Out, We'll got to get down there. So then from
the ato, I'm running the marathon because I'm running from
Pilot Baker down the mountain. Kind of fun. Feed the
support crew you want anyway.
Speaker 1 (30:33):
It doesn't shut up about it.
Speaker 6 (30:34):
Every day it's about the next one.
Speaker 1 (30:37):
Hello, Yeah you know what I did? Do that?
Speaker 4 (30:40):
We all been about to celebrate.
Speaker 10 (30:42):
So I got you know how they give you that
middle Yeah, yeah, you look. I will try to do
this like an athlete, and I put that on, and
then I'm going up to people at.
Speaker 1 (30:50):
The bar gime.
Speaker 10 (30:51):
You know, apparently I don't know. The word around town
is if we've done the twenty one case today, get
a free drink.
Speaker 1 (30:57):
All this free drinks? Okay, so you found the benefits
of runner, you found the loophole Virginny.
Speaker 10 (31:04):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (31:06):
So basically she's showing Maddy shut up. Okay, Matt is
joining us. All right, hundred hats What can you not
shut up about?
Speaker 2 (31:13):
Matt?
Speaker 6 (31:14):
Sorry? First cool name, Maddie, Yes, isn't it all the
best people are called exactly. I've got I've got three
friends bull dogs and my friends I know that's up
their own Instagram.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Oh so you channel your love through the Instagram page.
That's why people do it, do you reckon? Because they
don't want to actually do it in real life. It's
just a pain, so they can choose to follow that
account or not.
Speaker 6 (31:42):
Yeah, such an awesome We dogs. The oldest one, Tom
who's completely dead, is Tom Hardy, and then I've got
a week black girl, she's Kelly Berry. And then my
youngest patent I've just got is Cory Jane because he
was my favorite all black.
Speaker 2 (32:00):
Wet this kind of day day.
Speaker 1 (32:07):
What can you not shut up about?
Speaker 10 (32:09):
I can't shut up about the movie Idiocracy. If you
haven't seen it, you absolutely have to watch it. It's
garily hilarious because it's set in the future and here
we got to hear the whole story, we go what
have we done? Many It's just like going into what
is happening with a lot of people being relying on
(32:32):
technology and being really lazy. It's really satirical. It's got
heaps of celebrities in it, and Terry Crews is the
president and instead of having water, everybody drinks Skator eighte,
so water basically doesn't exist anymore. It's crazy. And I've
got people who, you know, something will happen at work
and I'll say, it's just look what's happening. You know,
(32:53):
look at the news. Idiocracy happening.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
Now I'm going to go, wait, you've you've You've won,
you sold me. I'm going to go and watch this
movie there. I reckon if we go back to You'll
still be talking about it.
Speaker 1 (33:07):
Liz is wrapping up with what can't you stop talking about? Hey?
Speaker 8 (33:13):
I cannot still stop talking about goats, the idea of
catching a goat, and I.
Speaker 10 (33:19):
Cannot stop talking about it?
Speaker 2 (33:21):
Why Why?
Speaker 1 (33:24):
My partner and I went camping a couple of months
ago and we just gotted a few goats, and I
just thought, how cool would it be to have a
pet goat for my son?
Speaker 10 (33:32):
And we live on a farm, and I've seen like
a patch of them on.
Speaker 4 (33:36):
The way out to our farm, and every time, the
whole way, it's like an hour drive from town.
Speaker 6 (33:40):
The whole way.
Speaker 4 (33:41):
I've got my head out in the window. I'm looking
for a go a few times. And yeah, it's getting
it's getting obsessives. It's obsessive and dangerous.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
You're actually not that bad.
Speaker 2 (33:58):
You're still hanging on the phone line, still be talking
about idiocracy.
Speaker 9 (34:02):
They're still talking about it still, Mary and Mary and
PJ the podcast head.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
Do you get your nails done? Do you professionally get
your nails done?
Speaker 1 (34:20):
There's been a while, vib It has been a while.
Are used to I am back in the day when
I had a little bit of disposable income, I would
go and get like Schillac or jel or whatever, and
it was a vicious, vicious cycle. I'd always end up
peeling it off and my nails would be horrendous, and
then I'd sweat and never do it again. And then
(34:41):
months would pass and be like, oh, I check my
nails down, they look cute, and they never ended up
being cute, and within weeks they'd be peeled. They'll all
be peeled off.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
So I'm nearly thirty eight and I still have not
mastered the art of cutting my nails. Yeah, neither when
you I'm not a bitter No no, no, no, no,
no no. I've never bitten my nails, but I whenever
I like, I was just looking at my nails and
(35:09):
I thought I need to cut them. But I know
what's going to happen. I'm going to get the little
nail clippers out and I'll start cutting away, and I
will try my hardest to do it really nicely and
delicately and evenly. They will end up looking absolutely butchered,
and hag it, they'll be jarred. They'll be different, like,
(35:30):
they won't be like curved anymore.
Speaker 1 (35:34):
Why don't you just go and get them professionally done?
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Because I can't be bothered paying for my nails. And
I would like to think at the age of thirty eight,
I would have figured out how it's so. It seems
like such a simple thing. But am I a file?
Speaker 1 (35:47):
Why don't you just file? Why don't you just file
and then that avoids the shocking cutting? Could you just
file it fully down?
Speaker 2 (35:54):
Is that what you do with a file?
Speaker 1 (35:57):
I think so well, I mean usually there's for buffing
and stuff. I reckon if you had a bit of
time out, you say, you can probably just file it down.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
So maybe so a nail file you actually use on
the whole nail. That's not to just like shape the
nail once you've cut them. No, I'm produce. Seria wants
to come in, then say, prou I'm.
Speaker 5 (36:16):
Addicted to getting my nails done every month, so I
do want the Now ladies do my nails and they
chop them first with the nail clippers, then they shile
it and shape it, and then a different nail file
is used to actually like smooth and the actual Yeah,
you could file your nails, but if they're quite long,
(36:36):
you'd have to chop them first with the nail clipper.
Speaker 1 (36:38):
Do you see them grow and like go for the
next one?
Speaker 2 (36:42):
Records? Gross?
Speaker 1 (36:44):
Have you seen how long people's nails get? They get
like proper veins and discussed.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
I couldn't do it, but could you?
Speaker 6 (36:52):
Actually?
Speaker 2 (36:53):
Would? You? Would it be weird for me to just
sit here filing my nails.
Speaker 1 (36:57):
We're always fiddling with something in your hands. Why don't
you all with a file? Get something?
Speaker 2 (37:03):
Might be my new personality.
Speaker 1 (37:06):
From running to filing his nails.
Speaker 7 (37:10):
Many and PJ Mady and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 2 (37:15):
So last week when you and I were in Marlborough,
we had to do a little ocean dip. Yes, we
had agreed that if we raised one hundred k for
Deafit all day that we would do a donation dip.
That was our little pledge that we've made. And we
got there. We got to one hundred k.
Speaker 1 (37:35):
We did, and I think we highly underestimated how cold
the waters of the Sounds would be.
Speaker 2 (37:42):
It was freezing.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
He he lost his speeders. Have you even seen the video?
It is very entertaining. You can chick it out on
the hats drive, Instagram or Facebook.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
They were too big and the draw drawstring had like
you know, when one half of it gets wrapped up
like inside and yes, yeah, that's what had happened. So
it was my user era. But anyway, so we posted
that video and of course I am topless and in
speedos And did.
Speaker 1 (38:16):
You get a bit of Did you get a bit
of attention from that?
Speaker 6 (38:19):
No?
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Not really until this morning I looked at my DMS
and someone with a blue tick, you know, like a
verified account, had messaged me and said it had responded
to that video and they just said looking amazing, Maddie,
and I thought, oh, that's really nice comment, and I said, haha,
(38:41):
thank you so much. And then they said this could
be a perfect outfit for when I photograph you, and
I said, sorry, what what? And then I looked at
this guy's Instagram page and it is with very I
will say, very tasteful, very tasteful model photos of men,
(39:09):
usually topless, sometimes not topless. Sometimes they're fully cloth, but
often topless, and they are really really nice photos. But
these are what looks like guys models to me. Yeah.
And I went on this like rabbit hole conversation with
(39:30):
this guy, and the long and short of it is
he said, I think you'd be a great subject to photographs.
Speaker 1 (39:40):
Sorry, I'm not laughing, and it's.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
Just I laughing. You laughing.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
You're a good looking man. No, no, no, no, no, no,
it's quite fought from em. He's just beating around the bush,
that's for sure.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
I will say he's a very talented photographer. Like his
photos are really lovely.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
Really, are you going to take them up on the offer?
Speaker 4 (40:02):
Like?
Speaker 2 (40:03):
Very nice? But I don't male model, I am not.
Speaker 1 (40:08):
You don't know you may not be years, but this
could be. I mean, you've always got to have a
backup option. We know the media industry can be facult.
I think it's always good to have a backup. Why
don't you go and do it, and then please give
us the photo so we can post them all. You
can get a fake ten like body oil. Oh what
(40:31):
have you done? Have you promised anything?
Speaker 7 (40:33):
Now?
Speaker 2 (40:33):
I haven't promised anything. I keep putting them, I keep
betting them away, Like, no, I know you should do it.
Speaker 1 (40:39):
Like we're coming to the end of twenty twenty four,
Can you say honestly that you've done anything wild this year?
Speaker 7 (40:44):
No, so.
Speaker 1 (40:47):
Say yes, medic, say yes to the unknown, and then
give us a lot of entertainment and enjoy the
Speaker 7 (40:57):
Podcast s.
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