EQ Unlocked: Allowing Emotional Intelligence to Change Your Life

In this episode Matthew Stevens explores the hard work of ownership: facing the harm we caused, accepting responsibility without shame, and using emotional intelligence to make better choices. He shares personal stories about realizing when his unregulated responses hurt others, the steps he took to confront that truth, and how forgiveness of self opened a path to repair.

The episode offers practical reflections and questions to he...

Matthew F. Stevens shares how a lifetime shaped by trauma became his identity and how a simple instruction—"take care of yourself"—gave him permission to begin healing. He describes the survival behaviors that once protected him, how they later limited his life, and the moment he began to choose himself.

The episode explores awareness of the nervous system, shifting from survival to intentional self-care, and practical questions fo...

There was a time when my reactions kept me alive — but they were also keeping me stuck.

In this episode of EQ Unlocked, I explore how survival responses can quietly turn into identity, shaping how we think, relate, parent, lead, and love. I share personal moments where hypervigilance, emotional reactivity, and control felt necessary — and how emotional intelligence helped me recognize when protection had turned into self-sabotage.

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This episode is a moment of clarity. I know who I am now and this is where we're going. 

For years, I’ve shared my voice publicly—through social media, books, and past podcasts—often speaking honestly, but from a place shaped by hurt, pain, and unresolved trauma. That content was real, and it mattered. But it wasn’t the full picture.

What changed wasn’t time. It was intention.

I came to realize that I was still living in survival m...

This episode is for anyone who has experienced sexual abuse and still carries its impact in their body, relationships, or sense of self. You don’t need to relive anything to listen, and you don’t need to be “healed” to belong here.

I talk honestly about why survivors’ reactions make sense, how trauma shapes the nervous system, and how healing isn’t about forcing strength or forgiveness—it’s about restoring safety and choice at your...

In this episode of EQ Unlocked, Matthew F. Stevens explores why emotional intelligence always begins with awareness—not control, perfection, or performance. He breaks down what self-awareness really is, how trauma can make it feel unsafe to notice our own thoughts and feelings, and why gentle curiosity is more powerful than self-criticism. This episode offers practical, trauma-informed steps to build awareness in everyday life, rel...

Before the core episodes of EQ Unlocked begin, this precursor provides essential clinical and experiential context for the conversations ahead. Matthew F. Stevens explains the trauma-informed lens of the podcast, the role of emotional intelligence and the nervous system, and how lived experience and clinical understanding intersect. This episode sets expectations for safe listening, thoughtful reflection, and growth without pressur...