The Energy Xchange

We do a lot of work on becoming more self-aware, setting better boundaries, healing our patterns, and learning how to show up as healthier versions of ourselves.

But relationships aren’t a solo project.

In this episode, I’m joined by relationship coach Aaron King for a conversation about self-abandonment, the patterns we develop early in life, and what happens when we become so focused on managing ourselves that we forget...

So many of my marketing clients come to me with some version of this:

• I'd love to speak about this, but I haven't been doing it long enough.
• I could teach this, but I've only worked with five clients.
• Or the big one: Who am I to talk about this when other people have been doing it for twenty years?

And I always come back to the same question: What would actually be enough?

Twenty clients? Five years? A certification? A certain ...

Julie Gawle helps people navigate change, which means she's spent a lot of time thinking about what happens when uncertainty, emotion, and leadership collide.

In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to lead when you're a deeply feeling person, especially when you can't fix the situation or make everyone comfortable. Julie shares how her background in theater unexpectedly led to a career in change management, why empathy ca...

A lot of the rooms we find ourselves in were chosen by proximity — our workplace, our town, our industry, our existing networks. Those spaces serve a purpose, but they don't always give us access to the conversations, perspectives, or energy we're actually craving.

In this episode, I'm exploring what happens when we go looking for more aligned rooms on purpose — spaces where we feel safe enough to show up fully, curious ...

When we leave something (a person, a job, a dynamic) there's often this rush of thank God I got out of that. And sometimes that's completely fair. 

But if we stop there, we miss the more useful question: 

What was it about me, my patterns, or the stories I was carrying, that kept me there so long?

In this episode, I'm getting honest about how I spent my 20s and 30s attracting the same dynamics on repeat (and how newly-found ...

Something small happens. One offhand comment, one changed plan, one shift in tone... and what comes up in me is so much bigger than the thing that actually just occurred. 

For years I chalked it up to being sensitive. "That's just me, that's the wiring..." But that explanation stopped sitting right. Yes, the reaction was oversized, but the thing I blew up about usually wasn't the first time it had happened. It was 5th, 10th, 13...

Before I'd recorded a single episode, I was researching podcast studio rentals. I had a very specific picture of what a "real" podcast looked like — 45 minutes, video, the microphones, the whole setup — and I'd quietly turned that picture into the price of admission. So for a long time, I didn't start at all.

In this episode, I'm talking about how often we look at the polished, years-in version of something and accidenta...

The word empath once gave me language for experiences I had never known how to explain. It helped me feel understood, and I’ll always be grateful for that.

But these days, I’m less attached to it as the full explanation for who I am.

Not because I’m rejecting the word (I wrote a whole book called The Empath Detox), but because I’ve come to see empathy as just one expression of a much broader sensitive nervous ...

If you've ever blown up a "perfect" routine two weeks in and decided the problem was you, I created this episode with you in mind.

For years I was convinced I hated structure. That I was bad at routines, not disciplined enough, just too creative for any of it. Turns out none of that was true. I don't hate structure; I just can't thrive inside structures that are too rigid or too disconnected from how I'm actually wired.

This week, I'...

I've lowered my pricing to get the job and then quietly resented the work the whole way through. More than once. It's one of the worst feelings there is — because you want people to get the best of you, and it's very hard to give someone your best when you don't feel good about what you agreed to.

This came up with several coaching clients in the last week, so I wanted to talk about it: why pricing gets so strange for deeply c...

I love AI and use it constantly in my work. BUT....! I think many people are using it in a way that's quietly erasing the only thing that makes their content worth reading.

The question isn't whether you should use AI. The question is: who's doing the thinking?

Because there's a real difference between handing AI your ideas and asking it to help you shape them and asking AI to generate the ideas in the first place. 

One is collab...

Years into a career I'd worked incredibly hard for, I found out what a brand-new employee was making — and it was almost as much as me. My first reaction was: they should have to pay their dues. But when I sat with it, what I actually meant was, they should have to pay the same price I did. And those are not the same thing.

In this episode, I'm pulling apart a phrase almost all of us nod along to — "pay your dues" &mdash...

I spent five years in a job I dreaded... in the kind of workplace where everyone quietly packs up at 4:50 to sprint out the door at 5pm. I told myself staying was the responsible thing to do. Looking back, I'd learned everything that job had to teach me within the first year.

In this episode, I'm unpacking something I found myself thinking about while traveling through Italy and Greece last month: how to tell the difference between ...

Have you ever gone through a season where you felt so consumed by your own problems that you started wondering, “Wait... am I a narcissist?”

In this episode of The Energy Xchange, we’re unpacking the difference between narcissism, self-focus, and what happens when a deeply caring person loses the capacity to care in the way they normally do.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why deeply introspective people often fear ...

I was standing in a gorgeous, fully renovated hotel room in Rome, the exact room I'd booked, the one with the terrace and the view, and I still couldn't let it go.

The problem was solved. I was happy. And yet there I was, rehearsing customer service speeches in the shower, revisiting the hotel's website, feeling my heart rate climb every time I thought about it. Why?

In this episode, a small "on principle" moment in Rome cracked open...

What if the anxious, behind, not-enough feeling you carry has less to do with your life and more to do with what's playing in the background of it?

In this episode of The Energy Xchange, we're diving into becoming intentional with our inputs, the accounts, podcasts, newsletters, background noise, and even the people, so the loudest voice in your life can finally be your own.

This Episode Dives Into:

• The Thanksgiving story that sta...

This week, we're getting honest about why promoting your work can feel so uncomfortable when you're someone who genuinely loves to teach, create, write, podcast, or share what you know.

Because for a lot of deep feelers, contribution feels safe.

Selling feels exposed.

And if you're not careful, you can end up giving endlessly, building trust, and helping people for free without ever making it clear how they can work with you more deep...

This week, we're getting honest about the shadow side of healing culture, and what happens when your healing journey starts to look a lot like another achievement project.

Whether you're...

• Someone who can name every wound, pattern, and attachment style but still finds yourself reacting the same way
• A perfectionist who's turned self-awareness into self-surveillance, or 
• A deep feeler who's starting to wonder if getting...

Who are you when the old version of you no longer fits, but the new version hasn’t formed yet?

That strange liminal space (one foot in the old thing, one foot in the new) is one of the most disorienting places a person can land. And most people just try to sprint through it.

In this episode, we're diving into:

• Why your nervous system reads transition as danger, even when the change is right
• Identity limbo, and why deeply feel...