Ep 165 - Shamelessly Sexy: Reclaiming Pleasure, Power & Creative Freedom With Tash Doherty (4/6 Generator) - The Provoking Prosperity Podcast I Supporting Creatives to Break Free From The Constraints of Conformity & Infuse Their Business With Purpose & Authenticity

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Welcome to the Provoking Prosperity Podcast, where we explore the depth of creativity, authenticity, and self-expression.
Today I'm so thrilled to be speaking with Tash Doherty, a bold and fearless voice in the world of writing and content creation.
As a British Irish American writer and the creator of Miseducated, a blog and podcast dedicated to blending business and pleasure, Tash brings raw honesty and deep emotional clarity.

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Every piece of work she produces.
She's the self-published author of her spicy Coming of Age debut novel, these perfectly careless things, and she has created powerful spaces for conversation and education, such as her sex writing workshops, which aim to empower others through vulnerability and storytelling.
Tasha's journey embodies the energy of her writing.

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Go cross attention where life's purpose is found in navigating challenges provoking meaningful change and mastering one's craft.
Through her writing and entrepreneurial ventures, she constantly challenges societal norms.
Pushes through resistance and seeks depth and truth in everything she does, whether it's addressing underfunded female led innovations, or sharing openly about taboo topics like sex.

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She's here to provoke thought, fight for meaningful change, and inspire others to lead with authenticity.
In this episode, we'll explore what it means to stay true to your voice, how to navigate the tension between creative freedom and financial growth, and how vulnerability can be a powerful tool for leadership and transformation.
So let's dive in.

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I am Miranda Mitchell, the host of the Provoking Prosperity Podcast, where we dive into the journeys of creatives, entrepreneurs, and thought leaders who are redefining success and prosperity in today's world.
In an era saturated with distractions and a growing disconnect from our deepest emotions, we celebrate the importance of creativity as a beacon of authenticity.

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And connection.
Join us as we explore how creatives are breaking through the noise, embracing their unique voices, and inspiring others to do the same. 17 00:02:07,814.87566667 --> 00:02:09,304.87566667 Hello, beautiful souls. 18 00:02:09,324.87566667 --> 00:02:13,24.87566667 This is Miranda Mitchell, the host of the Provoking Prosperity podcast. 19 00:02:13,454.87566667 --> 00:02:16,614.87566667 And today I have Tosh Daugherty. 20 00:02:17,144.87566667 --> 00:02:22,534.87466667 Who is a bold and fearless voice in the world of writing and content creation. 21 00:02:22,544.87566667 --> 00:02:25,334.87516667 Thank you, Tosh, so much for being here. 22 00:02:25,334.87516667 --> 00:02:28,894.87566667 We'd love to hear a little bit about you and a little bit about your story to get started. 23 00:02:28,894.97566667 --> 00:02:30,209.87566667 Tosh Daugherty Thank you, Miranda. 24 00:02:30,259.87566667 --> 00:02:31,589.87566667 I'm so grateful to be here. 25 00:02:31,889.87566667 --> 00:02:32,919.87566667 I'm Tash Doherty. 26 00:02:32,959.87566667 --> 00:02:39,469.87566667 I am the author of These Perfectly Careless Things, which is a coming of age teen romance novel set in London. 27 00:02:39,799.87566667 --> 00:02:53,149.87566667 I started writing my novel when I was 14 years old, and then I went to business school and worked in tech and was just so unhappy with the normal tech and corporate life that I decided to quit my job and become a full time writer living in Mexico City. 28 00:02:53,359.87566667 --> 00:02:55,559.87566667 So I have written my first novel. 29 00:02:55,894.87566667 --> 00:03:13,594.87566667 And I also publish regularly on the blog, Miss Educated, where I write all about my sex life openly and honestly for the world to read because my mission is to help the world be more shamelessly sexy after growing up in, quite institutional schools and being told lots of rules and those kinds of things. 30 00:03:13,634.87566667 --> 00:03:17,684.87566667 I think that really disconnected me from my sexuality and my experience of the world. 31 00:03:17,964.87566667 --> 00:03:20,334.87566667 And I try to help women, especially. 32 00:03:20,679.87566667 --> 00:03:23,489.87566667 Reconnect with that and remember that sex and love is a beautiful thing. 33 00:03:23,749.87566667 --> 00:03:25,59.87566667 Yes, I'm super excited to be here. 34 00:03:25,89.87566667 --> 00:03:26,199.87566667 Thank you so much for having me. 35 00:03:26,719.87566667 --> 00:03:59,234.77666667 I honestly feel like we've been suppressed sexually for a very long time and I'm so grateful that people are starting to come forward and understanding that you know women can actually have pleasure too and it's not just for the man and bold in sexuality and talk about the taboo because a lot of it is I feel like the suppression was there because It was within families, we weren't allowed to talk about it and then because of that, down the generations, people didn't really understand it. 36 00:03:59,704.77666667 --> 00:04:11,419.72766667 So I love that you're bringing that out into the world, and even as a teen, I have a 13 year old daughter, and I'm trying to talk with her about those types of things, but she gets shy about it, so I know it's because I'm mom. 37 00:04:13,464.72766667 --> 00:04:16,4.72766667 So maybe your book would be really great for her. 38 00:04:16,344.72766667 --> 00:04:19,14.72766667 Yeah the book is, the characters in the book are 15 years old. 39 00:04:19,74.72766667 --> 00:04:27,874.72866667 And I made sure to have a period scene in there, a self pleasure scene like a fantasy scene, and the importance of like contraception and stuff is also all in there as well. 40 00:04:28,34.72866667 --> 00:04:29,214.72866667 It's a really beautiful story. 41 00:04:29,244.72866667 --> 00:04:32,384.72866667 And I think fiction is a really important way to explore those kinds of things. 42 00:04:32,414.72866667 --> 00:04:38,244.72866667 And the main character Develops her own sense of herself and explores her sexuality and stands up for herself. 43 00:04:38,484.72866667 --> 00:04:56,404.73016667 In the end I will try not to reveal too much more but yeah, and I also invite people to write and publish stories on my blog as well So when anyone if anyone out there has a story that they want to tell, you know Maybe it's something that they learned or something, you know Something sexually that they think is important for people to know I publish community stories on Miseducated as well. 44 00:04:56,404.73016667 --> 00:05:00,904.73016667 So I'm also helping and encouraging other people to join me on my mission, which is really exciting. 45 00:05:01,954.73016667 --> 00:05:02,784.73016667 That's beautiful. 46 00:05:02,994.73016667 --> 00:05:03,654.72916667 That's awesome. 47 00:05:03,804.73016667 --> 00:05:04,334.73016667 So needed. 48 00:05:06,594.73016667 --> 00:05:11,244.72916667 So I want to dive into a little bit of like authenticity and polarization and things. 49 00:05:11,264.73016667 --> 00:05:14,944.73016667 So being authentic, especially when discussing topics like sex. 50 00:05:15,874.73016667 --> 00:05:17,244.73016667 Often feel polarizing. 51 00:05:17,244.73016667 --> 00:05:26,369.73016667 So how do you navigate the tension between staying true to yourself and wanting to reach a wider audience? Yeah, that's a really great question. 52 00:05:26,429.73016667 --> 00:05:40,514.63166667 I've decided a couple years ago that I was gonna work on this stuff, right? And that meant that I was probably gonna shut a lot of doors because a lot of men or specific kinds of professional people were gonna read my blog and be like, Oh, God, no, don't want to work with her. 53 00:05:40,774.73166667 --> 00:05:53,614.73066667 But I would really encourage people to actually just go for it and be authentic because I have then attracted the types of clients that absolutely align, love my work, and it's a way better relationship. 54 00:05:53,644.73166667 --> 00:05:55,934.73066667 The one partner that I work with right now is called Clue. 55 00:05:55,944.73066667 --> 00:05:58,204.73166667 It's one of the largest period tracking apps in the world. 56 00:05:58,354.73066667 --> 00:06:02,624.73166667 They have over 10 million users and I work on them with their content and strategy. 57 00:06:02,854.73166667 --> 00:06:08,344.73166667 And I get to work with them because they love women's health and they love that I write about like sex and all that kind of stuff. 58 00:06:08,754.73166667 --> 00:06:15,824.73166667 And I don't think I would have gotten to work with them otherwise, so polarization actually pushes all the people that don't want to work with you and that don't align with you away. 59 00:06:16,134.73166667 --> 00:06:20,774.73166667 And then just leaves your, calendar and your client work or whatever it is open. 60 00:06:21,64.73166667 --> 00:06:22,944.73166667 for the people that do really love your work. 61 00:06:23,154.73166667 --> 00:06:33,554.73266667 And then also I think just from a writing perspective writing in the specifics is where the universal is, so when I'm writing a scene, I try and get really detailed as to all the things that I might be seeing. 62 00:06:33,794.73266667 --> 00:07:07,579.73466667 One scene in the story is that my character takes a pregnancy test in the Starbucks bathroom, and I'm describing like the air freshener and the Gross hand tells in the bin and her tights like around her ankles and when you get into the specifics That's actually where most people can relate to your work as much as possible So I encourage people to yes go deep get specific and say some polarizing things because then you'll push away everyone who wasn't supposed to work with you Anyway, so I got goosebumps when you were talking and there's a reason because when you were describing that I can envision it like you can see yourself in that Experience right there. 63 00:07:08,29.73466667 --> 00:07:08,299.73466667 Yeah. 64 00:07:08,339.73466667 --> 00:07:17,789.73466667 And then also, and I know we discussed a little bit that you don't really know a lot about human design, but knowing your chart you and I actually, it's called the cross of tension. 65 00:07:18,9.73466667 --> 00:07:19,969.73466667 We are actually, we both have that. 66 00:07:19,999.73466667 --> 00:07:20,919.73466667 That's both of us. 67 00:07:21,374.73466667 --> 00:07:26,584.73466667 And in there are a couple of activations, there is like the 39, which is about provoking. 68 00:07:26,794.73466667 --> 00:07:35,544.73666667 It's about provoking people into change and saying the things that may seem taboo, that may push people to be triggered or whatever. 69 00:07:35,844.73566667 --> 00:07:51,224.73666667 And it's honestly out of love for the growth of humanity, it's not to provoke people or to poke, right? So as you were speaking that, I just had to explain that to you because There was all these paintings of yes, like that's the depth is what you're here to do in the Gate 48. 70 00:07:51,254.73666667 --> 00:07:52,684.73666667 The provoking is what you're here to do. 71 00:07:52,694.73666667 --> 00:07:54,974.73666667 Fighting for things that you believe in is what you're here to do. 72 00:07:54,994.73666667 --> 00:08:00,844.73666667 It's like all of the activations within your chart is yeah, and I just love it when that happens. 73 00:08:01,554.73566667 --> 00:08:02,764.73566667 Yay, that's so awesome. 74 00:08:02,804.73566667 --> 00:08:03,114.73566667 Yes. 75 00:08:03,154.73566667 --> 00:08:04,874.73566667 I'm excited to hear more about these charts too. 76 00:08:04,884.73566667 --> 00:08:05,274.73566667 Fascinating. 77 00:08:05,834.73566667 --> 00:08:10,224.73566667 Yeah, it's really helped me step into myself because I had a lot of conditioning. 78 00:08:10,644.73666667 --> 00:08:11,474.73666667 from growing up. 79 00:08:12,34.73666667 --> 00:08:17,904.63666667 So I love that you're already there because you are a lot younger than I am. 80 00:08:17,904.73666667 --> 00:08:34,419.73666667 Talking about resistance and working with the right type of people, have you ever encountered resistance that made you question whether to keep provoking those conversations? Yeah I think I experienced this actually when I was younger in my corporate life. 81 00:08:34,489.73666667 --> 00:08:38,879.73566667 I wanted to work on certain teams or I had ideas of what I wanted to do when I was at the company. 82 00:08:39,129.73666667 --> 00:08:44,289.73766667 And I remember working with one of the most senior bosses and letting him tell me. 83 00:08:44,564.73666667 --> 00:08:46,654.73566667 And he was like no, you gotta go work on this team. 84 00:08:47,104.73666667 --> 00:08:50,304.73666667 And within three months of that, I was fired, basically. 85 00:08:50,344.73566667 --> 00:08:54,264.73666667 Because I didn't work well with a guy, and it was just like, a really terrible match. 86 00:08:54,304.73666667 --> 00:08:58,124.73666667 And I knew, when I wasn't listening to my gut, basically, because I was young. 87 00:08:58,414.73666667 --> 00:08:59,314.73666667 and impressionable. 88 00:08:59,534.73666667 --> 00:09:02,364.73666667 And I was like, oh maybe this guy does know better than me. 89 00:09:02,474.73666667 --> 00:09:06,294.73566667 That was the last time I listened to anyone like that in the same way again. 90 00:09:06,584.73666667 --> 00:09:07,414.73566667 But I think that's okay. 91 00:09:07,414.73666667 --> 00:09:18,254.73666667 Especially when you're earlier, way earlier in your career, like I was literally one year out of college you want to still believe and have faith in the adults that are around you, especially when you're maybe not sure as to what you're doing or what your path is. 92 00:09:18,624.73666667 --> 00:09:25,584.73566667 But over time, yeah, a couple of those mistakes and getting fired a couple of times will just teach you that it's really important to listen to yourself. 93 00:09:25,854.73566667 --> 00:09:28,254.73666667 So I don't struggle with that necessarily anymore. 94 00:09:28,539.73666667 --> 00:09:40,719.73566667 And sometimes it could just take a little bit longer to get rid of a client or get rid of a work or personal relationship than you want to, but overall, if you have a clear sense of what's right for you, then it's very important just to listen to that, I think. 95 00:09:42,104.73566667 --> 00:09:58,444.73566667 It's interesting because you actually, these gait activations I told you about, they're called the deaf gaits and basically what that means is like people will say things, but if you know it's not accurate, you block it and you're like, oh, that's not going to sway the way that I'm going to experience myself. 96 00:09:59,329.73566667 --> 00:09:59,999.73566667 Exactly. 97 00:10:00,99.73566667 --> 00:10:00,399.73566667 Yeah. 98 00:10:00,399.73566667 --> 00:10:06,519.73566667 And I think when I was younger, I was so naive and impressionable and honestly still learning in those beginning stages of working in a job. 99 00:10:06,899.73566667 --> 00:10:08,219.73566667 I wish I hadn't listened to that guy. 100 00:10:08,409.73566667 --> 00:10:13,259.73466667 But then again, I was not very good at that job anyway, and I was probably better off doing what I'm doing now. 101 00:10:13,459.73566667 --> 00:10:15,219.73566667 So it all worked out in the end, I think. 102 00:10:15,399.73566667 --> 00:10:16,219.73566667 It always does. 103 00:10:16,594.73566667 --> 00:10:22,814.73566667 It guides you, and you have decisions to make, and if you choose one decision, eventually you'll get to where you're supposed to be, it'll just take longer. 104 00:10:23,154.73566667 --> 00:10:23,764.73566667 Exactly. 105 00:10:24,194.73566667 --> 00:10:37,564.73516667 So you've spoken about choosing to maintain full creative control, rather than relying on How do you balance the desire for independence with the need for sustainable growth? That's a great question. 106 00:10:37,574.73616667 --> 00:10:40,504.73516667 So working with Clue, that pays my day to day bills. 107 00:10:40,724.73516667 --> 00:10:47,234.73516667 And that means that I can take all the extra, time and effort that I want to in order to build and maintain my blog. 108 00:10:47,484.73516667 --> 00:10:54,644.73516667 So I really tried to design my whole life around putting as much effort and attention into my writing as possible. 109 00:10:54,854.73516667 --> 00:11:01,404.73516667 I also splash out on things like writing classes and everything to help me continue to improve and invest in myself over time. 110 00:11:01,714.73416667 --> 00:11:05,924.73516667 Yeah, I think sustainable growth also just takes a lot longer than you think. 111 00:11:05,934.73416667 --> 00:11:08,424.73516667 It's like my first year I had 30 readers on my blog. 112 00:11:08,664.73516667 --> 00:11:11,844.73516667 Last year I got to 200, now I'm at like 450. 113 00:11:12,14.73516667 --> 00:11:19,904.73516667 So it's pretty slow going, but if I'm doubling every year, then in 10 years, I'll have 15, 000 or maybe more readers on my blog. 114 00:11:20,74.73516667 --> 00:11:27,154.73716667 I think the most important thing is just as a kind of what we were mentioning just a couple seconds ago, is everything takes a lot longer than you think it's gonna take. 115 00:11:27,564.73716667 --> 00:11:37,799.73566667 And I really just balance that out by having the best possible day to day life that I can, like living in Mexico City, living somewhere that I love, I live in a small one bedroom apartment. 116 00:11:37,819.73666667 --> 00:11:43,639.73666667 I'm not scrounging to buy a three bedroom house anywhere, maybe I want a kid at some point, but that's, way down the line at this point. 117 00:11:43,939.73666667 --> 00:11:47,734.73666667 And I think, having very achievable financial goals for myself. 118 00:11:47,734.73666667 --> 00:11:56,874.73666667 Just paying my rent, paying for my food, and keeping my living expenses low, takes a lot of that extra pressure off so that I can just continue to fuel that growth sustainably. 119 00:11:57,174.73666667 --> 00:11:59,74.73566667 But yeah, I think creative control is just fun. 120 00:11:59,94.73666667 --> 00:12:08,204.73666667 It's way more fun to be able to Edit and design all your own covers and everything for the book, say whatever you want, and not have to answer to anyone as far as I'm concerned. 121 00:12:08,844.73666667 --> 00:12:16,204.73766667 And I love that there's been so many people that have these houses or all of these bills that they're working to pay. 122 00:12:16,294.73766667 --> 00:12:18,234.73766667 And I would rather have less. 123 00:12:18,909.73766667 --> 00:12:25,29.73766667 Be able to pay and be able to like travel or save or invest or whatever it is. 124 00:12:25,29.73766667 --> 00:12:29,109.73766667 It's not all about the big houses or the cars or whatever it is. 125 00:12:29,209.73766667 --> 00:12:34,899.73766667 And I've noticed there's been the shift in that with a lot of people 'cause of the struggle of just having to work. 126 00:12:35,99.73766667 --> 00:12:41,109.73666667 So where is your life going? How are you growing? How are you connecting with yourself? How are you connecting with others? Some things are nice. 127 00:12:41,109.73766667 --> 00:12:44,19.73766667 If you'd like to go to the farmer's market and buy raspberries or something that's fine. 128 00:12:44,29.73666667 --> 00:12:46,179.73566667 Like just do things that really bring you joy. 129 00:12:46,419.73666667 --> 00:12:51,849.73666667 But like when I was living in New York, I lived in a beautiful apartment and I had an expensive gym membership I was. 130 00:12:52,124.73666667 --> 00:12:53,714.73666667 Going out to dinners and stuff all the time. 131 00:12:53,714.73666667 --> 00:13:03,524.73666667 But I realized I wasn't happy in my job and I wasn't happy in my life and I was really willing to just say, Hey, I'm ready to give all this up for the potential of finding a life that I much prefer. 132 00:13:03,874.73666667 --> 00:13:08,94.73666667 And materially, I guess I have actually more savings now than I did living in New York. 133 00:13:08,104.73666667 --> 00:13:09,514.73666667 Cause New York's a very expensive place to live. 134 00:13:09,744.73666667 --> 00:13:13,554.73666667 So you can save more money living almost anywhere if you're not living in New York city. 135 00:13:13,974.73666667 --> 00:13:20,134.73666667 But yeah, I think it's important to figure out what it is that you really, truly value and what you want to spend your money and your time making. 136 00:13:20,194.73666667 --> 00:13:25,64.73766667 And if you live somewhere that's cheaper and that you like more you don't have to make as much money to have a great quality of life. 137 00:13:25,214.73666667 --> 00:13:25,804.73666667 It's super nice. 138 00:13:26,444.73666667 --> 00:13:33,264.73666667 Yeah, and then even having a career that you love because talking to a lot of people, really, everyone just wants to connect. 139 00:13:33,594.73566667 --> 00:13:40,844.73466667 Service in some way have an impact on humanity in some way, even though they may have lost that direction. 140 00:13:41,69.73566667 --> 00:13:46,49.73566667 Because of the nine to five or whatever it is, the fulfillment is from the other aspect. 141 00:13:46,59.73566667 --> 00:13:54,159.73466667 So how can you let go of some of the material things so that you can do that so that you're fulfilled? And then you actually receive the material as well. 142 00:13:54,159.73566667 --> 00:13:55,259.73466667 So it's almost like a yes. 143 00:13:55,299.73466667 --> 00:13:58,449.73416667 And when you step into what really fulfills you. 144 00:13:58,869.73516667 --> 00:13:59,869.73616667 Yeah, exactly. 145 00:14:00,589.73516667 --> 00:14:11,589.73516667 So what lessons have you learned about building something from the ground up without traditional support? And how has that shaped your approach to your creativity and business? Oh my god, that's such a great question. 146 00:14:11,659.73516667 --> 00:14:15,129.73516667 I think right now I'm still really in this phase. 147 00:14:15,139.73516667 --> 00:14:17,369.73516667 I'm still in a very early beginning stage at the moment. 148 00:14:17,549.73516667 --> 00:14:22,539.73516667 So one thing that I'm currently learning is about running multiple experiments simultaneously. 149 00:14:22,729.73516667 --> 00:14:26,749.73366667 For example my book cover hasn't been performing as well as I wanted it to. 150 00:14:26,959.73366667 --> 00:14:33,149.73466667 So I came up with a bunch of different ones to test on Facebook ads, whether or not these covers were going to perform. 151 00:14:33,449.73466667 --> 00:14:37,419.73366667 But then I got stuck because I live in Mexico, but my credit card is based in the U. 152 00:14:37,419.73366667 --> 00:14:37,729.73366667 S. 153 00:14:38,9.73366667 --> 00:14:44,369.73266667 So I haven't been able to run this test and I've been waiting for two months to run this bloody book cover test that I really want to run. 154 00:14:44,609.73366667 --> 00:14:54,199.73366667 So the most important thing is as James Clear, I've just been listening to a bunch of his podcasts and he says there's not usually a thousand ways to do something but there is more than one way to do something. 155 00:14:54,609.73366667 --> 00:15:00,579.73366667 And so I think just being open to the fact that might look very differently to what you know, you were expecting is very important. 156 00:15:01,189.73366667 --> 00:15:03,639.73366667 And I would say partnerships are really important. 157 00:15:03,639.73366667 --> 00:15:14,939.83266667 So I love to reach out and speak on amazing podcasts like this one working with other people, especially when you're just on your own, in a small, let's say you're starting a small business or it's just you as a writer or a photographer or something like that. 158 00:15:15,329.83266667 --> 00:15:18,9.83266667 And I also created a little community called Creativa. 159 00:15:18,9.83266667 --> 00:15:25,299.83266667 So I have a small women's group that we meet every other week and we discuss monetization specifically around all creative work. 160 00:15:25,299.83266667 --> 00:15:28,729.83266667 So one's a photographer, one's a dating coach, and then I'm the writer. 161 00:15:29,9.83166667 --> 00:15:37,689.83266667 Really been important and impactful for us to discuss how to sell, how to, package our products properly encourage each other, make sure we're meeting deadlines, those kinds of things. 162 00:15:37,949.83266667 --> 00:15:39,989.83266667 Get creative, get your community going. 163 00:15:39,989.83266667 --> 00:15:41,189.83266667 I think that's super important. 164 00:15:41,799.83266667 --> 00:15:52,284.83266667 And, yeah, you just need to also focus on what you want to do, because I have other women that I know, especially in the content creation world, I call them professional hot people. 165 00:15:52,594.83266667 --> 00:15:55,664.83266667 Another girl that I know, she's also a writer, but she's also a professional hot person. 166 00:15:55,684.83266667 --> 00:15:59,14.83266667 And she has a lot of followers because people love to see, how hot she is. 167 00:15:59,444.83266667 --> 00:16:02,394.83166667 And I just personally do not want to be a professional hot person. 168 00:16:02,684.83266667 --> 00:16:04,834.83466667 I want to write, I want to write my books. 169 00:16:05,179.83466667 --> 00:16:06,339.83466667 I want to write my articles. 170 00:16:06,619.83466667 --> 00:16:10,189.83466667 And maybe I'll post like a cute picture on Instagram now and then, but that's really not my vibe. 171 00:16:10,419.83466667 --> 00:16:18,419.83566667 So I think just try to, separate the idealized role of what we think we should be doing out there, especially when it comes to content creation. 172 00:16:18,739.83566667 --> 00:16:21,669.83566667 And just focus on what's unique to you and your story. 173 00:16:21,769.83566667 --> 00:16:23,269.83566667 And everyone has amazing stories. 174 00:16:23,269.83566667 --> 00:16:30,439.83466667 That is one thing, like really focused on the uniqueness and the value of what you bring to the world, because no one sees the world exactly like you do. 175 00:16:30,829.83566667 --> 00:16:32,479.83666667 And that's what I would just encourage people to do. 176 00:16:32,579.83666667 --> 00:16:34,829.83666667 And we have enough professional hot people out there already. 177 00:16:34,999.83666667 --> 00:16:35,939.83666667 So be yourself. 178 00:16:36,589.83666667 --> 00:16:54,569.7376667 Honestly, people can be very successful doing it, but I just have spent years trying to be that, and actually I would be much better off writing a great article about an experience that I had or something that could actually help somebody that I'm going to be able to help people in different ways, and I don't really go skiing and I don't really eat acai bowls. 179 00:16:54,579.7376667 --> 00:16:56,359.7376667 So it wasn't going to work out for me. 180 00:16:56,859.7376667 --> 00:17:05,939.7381667 You do have that, the depth aspect in your human design chart, where it is about going deeper into things I didn't understand for a long time why people didn't want to go so deep all the time, because I'm like that. 181 00:17:05,969.7381667 --> 00:17:07,989.7381667 I want to go deep and I want to go into the shadows. 182 00:17:07,989.7381667 --> 00:17:08,829.7381667 I want to do all the stuff. 183 00:17:09,129.7381667 --> 00:17:10,879.7381667 But a lot of people aren't designed to do that. 184 00:17:10,879.7381667 --> 00:17:12,899.7376667 They're more to be on that surface level. 185 00:17:12,899.7376667 --> 00:17:14,649.7381667 And I always judge them for that. 186 00:17:15,129.7381667 --> 00:17:21,9.7381667 But then when I was able to understand their energies, it was like, Oh they're here for something totally different than what I'm here for. 187 00:17:21,9.7381667 --> 00:17:21,609.7381667 Totally. 188 00:17:21,679.7381667 --> 00:17:22,119.7381667 Yeah. 189 00:17:22,119.8381667 --> 00:17:24,139.7381667 So you're here to go deep into the. 190 00:17:24,324.7381667 --> 00:17:27,324.7381667 And if people want to read the spicy details of my love life, they're all there. 191 00:17:27,564.7381667 --> 00:17:28,344.7381667 You can read them. 192 00:17:28,424.7381667 --> 00:17:28,824.7381667 Exactly. 193 00:17:29,144.7381667 --> 00:17:36,554.7381667 Your work naturally provokes thought and stirs conversation, especially around issues that don't get enough attention, like women's health. 194 00:17:37,114.7381667 --> 00:17:44,119.7381667 How do you view provocation as a tool for creating meaningful change? Clearly it's something that I really like to do. 195 00:17:44,489.7381667 --> 00:17:48,619.7381667 I think it's really important because I think my most classic example of this is female pleasure. 196 00:17:48,649.7381667 --> 00:17:50,729.7381667 I think it's literally so neglected. 197 00:17:51,149.7381667 --> 00:17:57,949.7391667 And my favorite thing is to get little emails and messages from my friends or my friends mums. 198 00:17:58,9.7391667 --> 00:18:06,839.7381667 People have read my work and been like, Oh my gosh, me and my second husband are, having the best sex of my whole life, and I'm, like, 60, and I'm, like, so grateful, that I read your article. 199 00:18:07,179.7381667 --> 00:18:11,899.7381667 So yeah, I think, it's really amazing the types of impact that you can have on people's lives. 200 00:18:12,309.7381667 --> 00:18:18,289.7371667 And especially older women and mums who've literally spent their entire let's say they, stay at home mum for 20 years or something. 201 00:18:18,609.7361667 --> 00:18:22,599.7381667 And they're really discovering themselves and who they are or who they want to be in the next third of their life. 202 00:18:23,139.7381667 --> 00:18:26,909.7381667 It's a really impactful inflection point and an important time. 203 00:18:27,279.7381667 --> 00:18:33,279.7381667 So I think, yeah, providing people with those tools, it's like really empowering and an important thing to be able to do. 204 00:18:33,699.7381667 --> 00:18:37,949.7381667 So yeah, that's basically how I see my work impacting people in the world, hopefully. 205 00:18:38,369.7391667 --> 00:18:54,163.0411667 Voice for somebody in your life, like whether it's me and like my younger cousin or younger family friends, like I will literally accost and it's also difficult balance, right? Because let's say your daughter's 13 or my younger cousins are like 16 or 18 you can accost them at a family event and be like, by the way, if you need plan B. 206 00:18:54,183.1411667 --> 00:18:55,803.0411667 Just hit me up. 207 00:18:55,823.0411667 --> 00:18:59,983.0411667 Like I have 60 US dollars, right? But maybe they don't have it and it's not available to them. 208 00:19:00,13.0411667 --> 00:19:03,33.0411667 And that's a very important thing that they need to be able to access. 209 00:19:03,213.0401667 --> 00:19:12,973.0386667 Yeah, I think just maybe trying to also get people to think about how they can be a change agent in their own life for somebody who's in their lineage, and resetting some of that. 210 00:19:13,378.0386667 --> 00:19:23,178.0386667 Secrecy and closeness that we've had for a long time within women in our generation, not from their own fault, but just because that's how society is, set up. 211 00:19:23,678.0386667 --> 00:19:27,722.9386667 Which is changing now, thank goodness for the younger women. 212 00:19:27,923.0386667 --> 00:19:41,83.0386667 I feel like it's going to really support them and their authenticity and using their voice and not being so secretive and things being able to own who they truly are, or even sexually, it's so important. 213 00:19:41,103.0386667 --> 00:19:42,53.0396667 I feel like for all of them. 214 00:19:42,53.0396667 --> 00:19:44,173.0396667 So I think the change is happening, which is. 215 00:19:44,658.0396667 --> 00:19:45,298.0396667 amazing. 216 00:19:45,298.0396667 --> 00:19:50,368.0396667 And I think it's us that is here to put that out there, to be able to support them. 217 00:19:50,368.0396667 --> 00:19:53,918.0386667 So I love that you're doing this and I'm definitely going to be getting my book for my daughter. 218 00:19:55,388.0396667 --> 00:19:58,108.0386667 Cause we've had some conversations that are pretty in depth. 219 00:19:58,548.0386667 --> 00:20:08,8.0386667 Like about same sex, and about like abortion, I mean we've talked about the things, and so I think this is going to be great for her, so I'm very grateful. 220 00:20:08,218.0386667 --> 00:20:11,978.0386667 I'm so excited, I always feel like, I'm always able to interview people. 221 00:20:12,313.0386667 --> 00:20:16,273.0386667 In the right timing, in the right moment, and I always need to give away something. 222 00:20:16,323.0386667 --> 00:20:17,223.0386667 I'm super glad. 223 00:20:17,443.0386667 --> 00:20:17,803.0386667 Yay. 224 00:20:17,803.0386667 --> 00:20:18,353.0386667 That's so great. 225 00:20:18,413.0386667 --> 00:20:19,113.0386667 I'm so grateful. 226 00:20:19,113.0386667 --> 00:20:21,473.0396667 I'm also trying to sell 1, 000 copies of my book this year. 227 00:20:21,623.0396667 --> 00:20:22,703.0391667 That's my own personal goal. 228 00:20:22,703.0391667 --> 00:20:26,3.0386667 So thank you so much for, one more copy is exactly what I need. 229 00:20:26,3.0386667 --> 00:20:26,693.0386667 So thank you. 230 00:20:27,193.0386667 --> 00:20:32,723.0386667 Much of your work draws on your personal experiences, which requires a lot of vulnerability. 231 00:20:33,193.0386667 --> 00:20:37,88.0386667 So how do you decide what to share? And what to keep quiet. 232 00:20:37,458.0386667 --> 00:20:40,48.0386667 Oh, my gosh, such a good question. 233 00:20:40,258.0386667 --> 00:20:40,678.0386667 Wow. 234 00:20:41,128.0386667 --> 00:20:42,358.0376667 My mom would say learning the hard way. 235 00:20:42,818.0376667 --> 00:20:46,818.0376667 I've shared some things and I usually, anonymize all of the people in my pieces. 236 00:20:46,918.0376667 --> 00:20:56,348.0376667 But obviously some of them are very smart and intuitive and sometimes you can, there's only so many things like, I don't know, I wrote a piece called I Pegged My Boyfriend, right? So it's all about me fulfilling that fantasy for my boyfriend. 237 00:20:57,348.0376667 --> 00:21:02,608.0376667 I've only had so many boyfriends and there's only so many people that I've pegged, so it was pretty easy for him to see who it was. 238 00:21:02,938.0376667 --> 00:21:08,218.0376667 But I think that story was super important, right? It's anonymized, so nobody knows it was him. 239 00:21:08,608.0386667 --> 00:21:10,828.0376667 But he read the article and was very sad about that. 240 00:21:11,158.0386667 --> 00:21:16,803.0376667 But honestly it's still been one of my top five or ten most popular articles of all time. 241 00:21:17,293.0376667 --> 00:21:22,333.0376667 So the broader social impact that it's making is unfortunately bigger than our relationship at this point in time. 242 00:21:22,643.0376667 --> 00:21:25,433.0376667 So I'm not going to be taking it down and I do feel bad about that. 243 00:21:25,463.0376667 --> 00:21:26,903.0386667 And I am really sorry to him for doing that. 244 00:21:27,453.0386667 --> 00:21:40,633.1371667 But more recently I put it on my dating profile, like that I write about my love life because I need to be honest with people, I just tell them hey you will be anonymized, but this is what's gonna happen and the last couple of guys that I've been with that I really liked, we're totally fine with that. 245 00:21:41,263.1371667 --> 00:21:51,613.1376667 It, again, it's one of those polarizing things, where I'm not gonna date everyone and also, Anne Lamott has this incredible quote, which is that if people didn't want you to write about them, they should have behaved better. 246 00:21:52,113.1376667 --> 00:21:53,453.1376667 That's also something to keep in mind. 247 00:21:53,503.1376667 --> 00:21:56,393.1376667 I definitely abused my power as a writer in that sense. 248 00:21:56,673.1376667 --> 00:21:57,313.1376667 But yeah. 249 00:21:57,313.1386667 --> 00:22:03,323.1386667 There's other details like, I was really in love with my boss for a while, so I couldn't write about him, even though, he was also reading the newsletter. 250 00:22:03,623.1386667 --> 00:22:11,13.1396667 But I think with time, everything falls away, so with time, more and more things become odd limits and stuff. 251 00:22:11,63.1396667 --> 00:22:20,563.1416667 And then with my mom, I've told my mom like not to read my book, I told her now that she can read it if she wants to, but she's more like prude and doesn't want to, and it's a bit confused as to like why I'm doing all of this anyway. 252 00:22:21,63.1416667 --> 00:22:29,193.1416667 She and my family members can get uncomfortable reading things, but I think beyond my immediate family, my cousins and my aunts and stuff, everyone's very supportive. 253 00:22:29,353.1416667 --> 00:22:30,123.1416667 I feel very grateful for that. 254 00:22:31,648.1416667 --> 00:22:49,833.0416667 The Uncomfortable is honestly where people can grow and you being authentic and honest with what you do and giving them the opportunity to say, hey, you can, or you don't have to, that gives them the opportunity to say, okay, I'm ready, I'm gonna get into The Uncomfortable, or they don't have to, and I just love how candid you are to speak everything, because you're so candid. 255 00:22:50,43.1416667 --> 00:23:01,863.1426667 I'm like this as well, and sometimes it gets me into trouble with some people, but it's like I love the bluntness and the boldness because I feel like if there's something that you don't want to be said, then you shouldn't be doing it. 256 00:23:01,903.1426667 --> 00:23:08,973.2421667 I think also the pegging my boyfriend example is very important because it's such an interesting dynamic that challenges traditional notions of masculinity. 257 00:23:08,973.2421667 --> 00:23:11,823.2411667 And it's all about like your female partner, like dominating you. 258 00:23:12,153.2421667 --> 00:23:23,33.2436667 And it taught me a lot about letting men express sensitivity, crying, like I used to recoil if we were walking down the street and my partner stub their toe and out in pain, I'd be repulsed by men expressing any kind of vulnerability. 259 00:23:23,53.2436667 --> 00:23:26,733.2436667 And then you realize how much that's magnified, in the global scale. 260 00:23:27,33.2436667 --> 00:23:31,123.2421667 And actually all of these men are just incredibly sensitive and want to hug or, be pegged. 261 00:23:31,153.2421667 --> 00:23:33,818.2441667 And it's just let's just give men, what they want. 262 00:23:34,398.2441667 --> 00:23:38,438.2441667 And allow them to express themselves in terms of their emotions and sensitivities. 263 00:23:38,468.2441667 --> 00:23:40,78.2441667 I think that's the main point of that piece. 264 00:23:40,368.2441667 --> 00:23:48,568.2426667 Which again is why I think the learning of what we can learn from that experience is so much greater than my ex boyfriend messaging me being like, hey, take the article down. 265 00:23:48,628.2436667 --> 00:23:49,498.2441667 I don't speak to him anymore. 266 00:23:50,8.2451667 --> 00:23:52,208.2461667 So I'm pretty sure he's moved on. 267 00:23:52,288.2461667 --> 00:23:55,798.2461667 It is so funny that you're talking about this because my boyfriend and I have been talking about this. 268 00:23:56,488.2461667 --> 00:23:57,478.2461667 Oh really? Perfect. 269 00:23:57,848.2461667 --> 00:23:58,968.2461667 You might like the article. 270 00:23:59,458.2461667 --> 00:24:00,648.2461667 I can send you a free link to it. 271 00:24:00,658.2461667 --> 00:24:01,908.2461667 You might find it interesting. 272 00:24:01,918.2461667 --> 00:24:04,188.2461667 And maybe he'd also find it interesting as well. 273 00:24:05,38.2461667 --> 00:24:13,173.2461667 Depth is something creatives often strive for but it can also lead to perfectionism Or fear of not being ready. 274 00:24:13,723.2461667 --> 00:24:22,33.2461667 How do you move past the fear of not enough and allow your work to evolve through patience? God, your questions are incredible. 275 00:24:22,93.2451667 --> 00:24:31,403.2466667 So I made a promise to myself like last year, maybe in the summer, almost a year and a half ago that I would publish on my blog every week. 276 00:24:31,833.2466667 --> 00:24:32,633.2466667 On Fridays. 277 00:24:32,743.2466667 --> 00:24:33,443.2466667 No matter what. 278 00:24:33,753.2466667 --> 00:24:38,3.2466667 If I make a promise to myself, That's it. 279 00:24:38,73.2466667 --> 00:24:43,853.2456667 Like it's set in stone, and I get a lot of anxiety actually, like every week when I'm like, I'm going to publish this thing. 280 00:24:43,893.2466667 --> 00:24:44,683.2466667 I need to do this thing. 281 00:24:44,833.2466667 --> 00:24:48,13.2476667 If I don't publish this, that's how I've gotten to keep to the cadence of things. 282 00:24:49,938.2486667 --> 00:25:02,108.2481667 And there's a balance, right? Because in that timeframe, how much can I actually write? Do I want to write something that's more scientific and more research based, or do I want to write something that's more story based? And the story based stuff is really easy for me to write. 283 00:25:02,108.2481667 --> 00:25:04,158.2481667 Those are the kinds of stories that I can just whip out. 284 00:25:04,488.2481667 --> 00:25:11,998.2481667 And then the balance is really then what kind of voice am I trying to develop? So yeah, there's definitely constraints, but what I would say, and this is my new thing. 285 00:25:12,18.2481667 --> 00:25:14,438.2476667 I think it was Serena Williams who said this, but discipline is freedom. 286 00:25:14,828.2476667 --> 00:25:20,598.3476667 And I'm like, damn, I really enjoy not having a schedule and stuff, but I think also at the same time, having discipline. 287 00:25:20,948.3476667 --> 00:25:23,908.3476667 And constraints can really help you to hone your focus. 288 00:25:24,338.3476667 --> 00:25:27,728.3476667 So yeah, that's the constant balance that I'm weighing up. 289 00:25:27,748.3476667 --> 00:25:31,398.3466667 But writing regularly and publishing regularly you just have to do it. 290 00:25:31,398.4466667 --> 00:25:32,548.4466667 And I enjoy it. 291 00:25:32,558.4476667 --> 00:25:33,368.4476667 So it's nice. 292 00:25:34,408.4476667 --> 00:25:40,678.4476667 And it's more so like you do it without the expectation of receiving new subscribers or whatever. 293 00:25:40,678.4476667 --> 00:25:42,258.4476667 You just do it for the consistency. 294 00:25:42,258.4476667 --> 00:25:45,98.4481667 And then because of that, those other things just fall into place. 295 00:25:45,563.4481667 --> 00:25:46,573.4481667 Yeah, exactly. 296 00:25:46,633.4481667 --> 00:25:47,133.4481667 Totally. 297 00:25:47,193.4481667 --> 00:25:47,523.4481667 Yep. 298 00:25:47,623.4481667 --> 00:25:51,273.4481667 It's hard to trust I think as well in the long term, but you just have to keep going. 299 00:25:51,333.4471667 --> 00:25:52,963.4481667 So that's exactly where I am right now. 300 00:25:54,288.4481667 --> 00:26:00,368.4481667 You created opportunities like your sex writing workshops, which align with both your creative vision and your values. 301 00:26:00,818.4481667 --> 00:26:13,33.4471667 How do you balance being a creative with being a leader and a business owner? So I actually went to business school, as I mentioned, like a fancy one that taught me a lot of important things on how to run all this stuff. 302 00:26:13,493.4471667 --> 00:26:20,843.4461667 And it's a very different vibe to waking up and writing for three or four hours, so this year, my goal is to actually take my business more seriously. 303 00:26:20,893.4461667 --> 00:26:26,913.4476667 So I'm going to be having my monthly workshops and additional workshops for other people who want to explore other types of sex writing. 304 00:26:27,383.4476667 --> 00:26:35,243.4476667 I think it's important because especially as women we might be doing this thing like interior design or some kind of a hobby and actually, we're quite good at that thing. 305 00:26:35,473.4476667 --> 00:26:38,583.4476667 And we could be monetizing it or making more of a business out of it. 306 00:26:38,803.4466667 --> 00:26:40,233.4466667 At least that's what my mentor was saying. 307 00:26:40,493.4466667 --> 00:26:43,653.4466667 So that's a very important aspect of my experience for me. 308 00:26:43,653.4466667 --> 00:26:47,433.4466667 And I want to be able to make more money through my creative endeavors. 309 00:26:47,608.4466667 --> 00:26:48,218.4466667 overall. 310 00:26:48,448.4466667 --> 00:26:50,98.4466667 So that's like the main thing. 311 00:26:50,118.4466667 --> 00:26:55,578.4466667 And that monetization can take a while, like I need to learn Amazon ads, my books, like it's not just going to come overnight. 312 00:26:55,868.4476667 --> 00:26:58,318.4476667 But I also enjoy, I'm a woman of numbers as well. 313 00:26:58,318.4476667 --> 00:27:02,798.4491667 So I enjoy watching the analytics and getting into the data aspect of things. 314 00:27:03,68.4491667 --> 00:27:07,725.1001667 And that helps me just to feel like, we're on the right path or there's new things that I could be exploring as well. 315 00:27:08,35.1001667 --> 00:27:09,885.1001667 And you've talked about building a community. 316 00:27:10,140.1001667 --> 00:27:19,260.0991667 Like in collaborations, how do you cultivate the relationships that support your mission without compromising your values? So that's like the new thing for me as well this year. 317 00:27:19,510.1001667 --> 00:27:26,60.0991667 And it's really making things very clear, like one person approached me about interviewing them for their book on authenticity. 318 00:27:26,80.0991667 --> 00:27:36,835.0991667 And I just, Didn't feel like it aligned at all, but because I have a mission now, you can just tell immediately whether or not it aligns, and then I'm like, okay, this is what I can talk about. 319 00:27:36,835.0991667 --> 00:27:38,245.0991667 This is what I don't wanna talk about. 320 00:27:38,425.0991667 --> 00:27:39,805.0991667 This is what's gonna work well for me. 321 00:27:39,805.0991667 --> 00:27:40,615.0991667 This is what's not. 322 00:27:40,795.0991667 --> 00:27:44,575.0991667 So yeah, I feel really grateful to my mentor Robin Fisher. 323 00:27:44,575.0991667 --> 00:27:46,595.0991667 I just went on a with her in Santa Fe, New Mexico. 324 00:27:46,595.0991667 --> 00:27:47,315.0991667 It was amazing. 325 00:27:47,655.0991667 --> 00:27:48,885.0991667 And she helped me discover that. 326 00:27:49,385.0991667 --> 00:27:53,655.0991667 Yeah, when you have that clarity, I love that because even with the podcast. 327 00:27:54,440.0991667 --> 00:28:09,320.0991667 I know who is a wonderful guest and who could be an okay guest, but not really perfect, so it gives you that clarity so that your work and the way that you word things and put things out in the world is very consistent and clear. 328 00:28:11,195.0991667 --> 00:28:22,145.0991667 So what advice would you give to other creatives who want to maintain their integrity while building something that supports them financially? You definitely need something to pay the bills, and I really value that. 329 00:28:22,155.0981667 --> 00:28:31,175.0991667 There are plenty of jobs still out there for writers today, and in that sense, I would just get started on whatever you want to work on. 330 00:28:31,225.1001667 --> 00:28:35,665.0991667 Like the stuff that brings you the most excitement because you're going to want to do things that you enjoy. 331 00:28:35,975.0991667 --> 00:28:42,845.0991667 Many times I've tried to sit down to write pieces or books or whatever that I think people would want to read or that I should write. 332 00:28:43,185.0991667 --> 00:28:46,785.0991667 And it's just not gonna help the creative flow at all. 333 00:28:47,25.0991667 --> 00:29:18,269.9996667 I was actually struggling a lot this year because I really wanted to write my second novel, but I just was like, oh, people don't read novels anymore, blah, blah, blah, my self critic was like getting in the way and then as soon as I sat down to write that book Literally, I was writing not only 3 000 words a day But I was having like seven other project ideas like everything was just coming, you know So if you imagine it as a flow And you imagine anything that's like getting in your way or like criticism self criticism or you know What you think you should be doing is like damming the flow of the water in your river of creativity. 334 00:29:18,549.9996667 --> 00:29:27,379.9986667 Then it's gonna be harder and a lot more difficult for you to actually like, not only access your creativity, but create something that you're excited about and interested in and that makes it out into the world. 335 00:29:27,379.9996667 --> 00:29:30,119.9996667 So just keep focusing on what you want to do. 336 00:29:30,499.9986667 --> 00:29:31,979.9986667 That's very important, I would say. 337 00:29:32,669.9986667 --> 00:29:39,939.9986667 Yeah, having that excitement and not doing it Because of, oh, I think this is what the people want me to do. 338 00:29:41,249.9986667 --> 00:29:45,99.9986667 You've highlighted the issue of underfunding for female led innovations. 339 00:29:45,449.9986667 --> 00:29:57,439.9981667 What do you think needs to change in the way we approach creative funding and innovation? There's a lot of statistics around it, like 2 percent of venture funding or whatever goes to female founded companies. 340 00:29:57,719.9981667 --> 00:29:59,139.9981667 But then if you actually look at the. 341 00:29:59,469.9981667 --> 00:30:02,439.9981667 statistics around the companies themselves founded by women. 342 00:30:02,439.9981667 --> 00:30:07,509.9981667 They're more profitable, have less employee turnover, better working environments, so many other benefits. 343 00:30:07,889.9981667 --> 00:30:21,759.9971667 My kind of theory about this is that We are still not close to pay equality, but we're getting there, just imagine right now what that will be like how much more different the world will be when we reached pay equality. 344 00:30:22,79.9961667 --> 00:30:33,199.9961667 Because we're already seeing so many more women being breadwinners, women graduating from college at higher rates than men, it's actually crazy how successful women are these days that we're more successful than we've ever been in history. 345 00:30:33,529.9961667 --> 00:30:38,679.9971667 So I just get excited about the idea of imagining what the world will be like when we reach gender pay equality. 346 00:30:38,799.9981667 --> 00:30:39,969.8991667 I'm very optimistic about it. 347 00:30:40,539.9991667 --> 00:30:41,639.9991667 We're definitely getting there. 348 00:30:41,649.9991667 --> 00:30:47,249.9991667 It's not a linear thing for sure, but we're definitely making strides. 349 00:30:47,269.9991667 --> 00:30:52,109.9991667 It feels like with everything, it's almost like two steps forward, one step back. 350 00:30:52,159.9991667 --> 00:31:01,319.9991667 I think my joking response to the question about how to get funding is to create a male co founder, as a joke, or also an assistant. 351 00:31:01,349.9991667 --> 00:31:05,289.9991667 There's actually a lot of joke, like people have written articles about this so they created a fake male co founder. 352 00:31:05,519.9991667 --> 00:31:09,449.9996667 And just the different ways that the investors responded to the male co founder versus the female ones. 353 00:31:09,449.9996667 --> 00:31:11,640.0001667 It's so telling and just hang in there. 354 00:31:11,789.9991667 --> 00:31:12,790.0001667 Honestly, it's hard. 355 00:31:12,810.0001667 --> 00:31:13,710.0011667 It's a really tough journey. 356 00:31:13,710.0011667 --> 00:31:19,710.0011667 I have plenty of really successful female friends who have managed to secure funding, but after like months and months of toiling. 357 00:31:20,210.0011667 --> 00:31:23,850.0011667 So yeah, just keep breaking down barriers and bridges everywhere. 358 00:31:25,310.0011667 --> 00:31:44,480.0006667 Talking about barriers, if you could remove all external barriers, funding, societal resistance, gatekeepers, what would you create next? If we had absolutely no gatekeepers at all I would create a massive fund just to fund women's health companies and innovations around that. 359 00:31:44,480.0006667 --> 00:31:53,740.0001667 I was actually working on a list of, all of the different innovations that it would be, but everything from the speculum to the IUD, like, all in the insertion processes There's so much of it that really needs work. 360 00:31:53,760.0001667 --> 00:31:57,810.0001667 But the pace is so slow because you have to get it all approved. 361 00:31:57,900.0001667 --> 00:32:02,820.0001667 I would remove all those barriers there and basically have a pharma company like GSK or whatever. 362 00:32:03,130.0001667 --> 00:32:04,750.0001667 But just have a shit ton of money. 363 00:32:05,570.0001667 --> 00:32:07,899.9981667 And funnel it all into that if possible. 364 00:32:07,989.9991667 --> 00:32:15,449.9981667 Your work is bold, provocative, deeply personal, and yet also driven by a clear purpose to create meaningful change. 365 00:32:16,19.9981667 --> 00:32:23,289.9991667 If you had to sum up your mission in one sentence What would it be? Yes it is to help the world be shamelessly sexy. 366 00:32:24,329.9991667 --> 00:32:24,829.9991667 That's it. 367 00:32:27,369.9991667 --> 00:32:35,529.9991667 And talking about the podcast listeners, where can listeners find your work and how can they support you and what you're doing, whether it's your book, your podcast, or your workshops? Yes. 368 00:32:35,569.9991667 --> 00:32:35,839.9991667 Oh my god. 369 00:32:35,839.9991667 --> 00:32:41,259.9991667 Actually what I desperately need is Amazon reviews for my book, These Perfectly Careless Things. 370 00:32:41,549.9991667 --> 00:32:42,799.9991667 You can find it on an ebook. 371 00:32:42,859.9991667 --> 00:32:44,479.9991667 I have an audiobook as well. 372 00:32:44,479.9991667 --> 00:32:45,639.9991667 So I narrated it myself. 373 00:32:45,649.9991667 --> 00:32:50,830.0001667 If you want to listen to a slightly less sick English woman narrate to you for eight hours you can find me there. 374 00:32:51,455.0001667 --> 00:32:55,675.0001667 And also miseducated is a substack, so it's miseducated. 375 00:32:55,715.0001667 --> 00:32:56,195.0001667 substack. 376 00:32:56,195.0001667 --> 00:32:57,955.0001667 com, that's with two S's. 377 00:32:58,255.0001667 --> 00:33:00,865.0001667 And you can just visit my website as well, tashdoity. 378 00:33:00,865.0001667 --> 00:33:08,964.9991667 com, I have a bunch of random articles on there about peyote ceremonies and everything that I write that doesn't make it onto miseducated is on my blog. 379 00:33:09,5.0001667 --> 00:33:17,315.0001667 I want to thank you for everything that you do and being bold and expressing yourself and being that catalyst of change for what. 380 00:33:17,650.0001667 --> 00:33:23,470.0001667 Women need to hear, young women too, that's really going to help support them, be more authentic and bold within themselves. 381 00:33:23,740.0001667 --> 00:33:36,970.0006667 I'm grateful now that we're able to do that for others, because it is going to create that change that we all wanted ourselves, that we had to fight for and for all of you everything will be in the show notes so that you can go on there and grab all the information for Tosh. 382 00:33:37,260.0006667 --> 00:33:38,530.0011667 I'm so grateful, Miranda. 383 00:33:38,530.0011667 --> 00:33:39,200.0001667 Thank you so much. 384 00:33:39,270.0001667 --> 00:33:50,970.0001667 It's amazing to see and hear about your daughter as well and remember that each of us can be the change agent, in our own lives and just even, I'm sure like marginally improving it, for her experience will make such a big difference in her life. 385 00:33:51,869.9991667 --> 00:33:52,429.9991667 Thank you. 386 00:33:52,859.9991667 --> 00:33:55,119.9991667 And for all of you, till next time. 387 00:33:55,639.9991667 --> 00:33:55,819.9991667 Yay. 388 00:33:56,189.9991667 --> 00:33:56,779.9991667 Thanks everyone. 389 00:33:56,779.9991667 --> 00:33:56,879.9991667 Bye. 390 00:33:57,376.7658333 --> 00:34:02,116.6658333 Thank you for joining us on another insightful episode of the Provoking Prosperity podcast. 391 00:34:02,116.7658333 --> 00:34:09,816.7648333 We hope today's conversations have emphasized the vital role of creativity in a world often numbed by distractions and disconnected from truly feeling. 392 00:34:10,236.7658333 --> 00:34:14,696.7648333 Remember your creativity is a potent catalyst for change and genuine connection. 393 00:34:15,106.7658333 --> 00:34:18,136.7648333 If you've been inspired by what you've heard today, take action. 394 00:34:18,566.7658333 --> 00:34:25,466.7658333 Share your creativity with the world, support fellow creatives, and join us in provoking prosperity in our lives and the world around us. 395 00:34:26,116.7658333 --> 00:34:27,816.7648333 Don't forget to hit the subscribe button. 396 00:34:28,166.7658333 --> 00:34:32,656.7658333 Until next time, stay inspired and continue to create from the heart.

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