PARQS™ Podcast Changing Course Gracefully
Have you ever had that quiet, heavy feeling that you’re just a passenger in your own life? On paper, everything looks complete—you have the career, the stability, and the responsibilities of a capable adult. But inside, there is a nagging disconnection, a low hum of moving through your days on autopilot. I call this "Remote Control Living." Welcome to Changing Course Gracefully. Hosted by author Elaina Kelly Smith, this show is an open invitation to step off autopilot, put down the invisible rules holding you back, and begin a profound, healing conversation with yourself. Through raw personal stories from all seven continents and the practical, gentle tools of the PARQS framework—Preferences, Awareness, Right Action, Questions, and Self-Acceptance—you’ll learn how to lay down your "fixer" dictionary, listen to your own body's feedback loop, and step-by-step build a durable foundation of deep self-trust. You don’t have to become someone new. You just have to return to who you have been all along. Welcome home to yourself.
Episodes
We’ve all had those moments where we move through our days on absolute autopilot—reacting to old rules, external expectations, or an ingrained need to keep everyone else happy. But what happens when you decide to drop the act and listen to what your body is actually telling you?
In this opening episode, author Elaina Kelly Smith shares a raw, personal story from a tiny shop in Alaska where a dangerously spicy "Little Nit...
We’ve all been there: Someone asks for your time, and before you’ve even had a chance to breathe, process, or think it through, the word “yes” has already flown out of your mouth.
In this episode, Elaina Kelly Smith introduces a foundational piece of the PARQS framework designed to interrupt that automated, "remote control" reaction. You’ll learn how a single, powerful word—actually—can buy ...
We’ve all heard the traditional advice: "Just fake it till you make it." It sounds empowering on the surface, but there is a hidden cost. When we force ourselves to wear a mask to score a professional or personal win, our internal self doesn't feel victorious—it feels like a fraud. Faking it is simply another symptom of living life on autopilot.
In this episode, Elaina Kelly Smith breaks down the dangers of "Remote Contr...
PARQS is an acronym that stands for Preferences, Awareness, Right Action, Questions, and Self-Acceptance. It is a framework built over 15 years, born out of a single moment where a "wrong number" fundamentally shifted the course of Elaina Kelly Smith's life.
In this episode, Elaina shares the foundational story behind the framework and takes you on a journey to a four-rows-deep passport control line in Chile. Through this solo...
For decades, I carried a heavy, invisible "dictionary"—defining exactly who the people I loved needed to be in order I feel safe. In this reflection, I share the messy, anxious, but ultimate breakthrough moment of putting that book down.
A Question to Carry Into Your Day: If you are carrying a dictionary for someone you love, what would happen if you put it down, just for today?
🎁 Free Toolkit: Ready to step off au...
What happens when your brain knows everything is fine, but your body is still trapped in a panic spiral?
In this deeply personal reflection, I share a moment where a simple missed wave in a parking lot triggered a profound wave of preemptive grief. Instead of numbing out or trying to analyze the anxiety away, I walk you step-by-step through how I used the PARQS framework—specifically a somatic "Butterfly Hug" and a weighted bl...
How often do you say "yes" to an invitation, only to feel a wave of dread the moment it’s time to go?
While traveling solo in Malaysia, a generous invitation to a historic market forced me to face a hard truth: my automatic "yes" was actually a betrayal of my own body's exhaustion. In this episode, we explore what it means to practice the "Preference" and find the courage to change your mind—even when it feels awkward.
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