Rebecca Has Spoken | Christian Relationship Advice for Women | Boundaries & Personal Growth
Are you a Christian woman who has trouble saying no without feeling guilty, second-guesses herself, overthinks other people's reactions or takes too much responsibility for how everyone else feels? Maybe you know you need stronger boundaries but aren't always sure where your responsibility ends and somebody else's begins. Maybe you keep people-pleasing, over-explaining, staying too long in unhealthy relationships or ignoring your own judgment because you're so focused on keeping the peace. I've been there! For years, I struggled in relationships, people-pleased, second-guessed myself and learned painful lessons the hard way. Eventually, I learned that I was a codependent in need of healing. My life changed after I matured in my relationship with Christ, did the work in therapy and learned how to understand and trust myself. As I healed, I became better at recognizing unhealthy patterns, setting boundaries, making wiser decisions and understanding what was mine to carry - and what wasn't. Now I want to help other Christian women do the same. Rebecca Has Spoken is for the woman who wants to heal what's keeping her stuck, grow stronger without becoming hard and build healthier relationships and the life she wants. We'll talk about codependency, people-pleasing, boundaries, self-doubt, discernment, emotional maturity, dating and relationships. Think of me as the big sister in your ear who's been down this road before and is here to help you get out of the weeds, get yourself together and build the life you desire. New episodes every Tuesday.
Episodes
Are you so focused on if he likes you that you never ask if you even like him?
In this Becoming a Wife episode, I break down why nice girls finish last in early dating — and it's no...
The most important dating lesson I learned way too late: my real power was being willing and able to walk away. I used to be the Queen of Second Chances. I gave chance after chance and called it patience. In this Becoming a Wife episode, I share how learning the power of walking away changed how I approached boundaries, commitment, self-worth and choosing the right man — and how I met my husband 2 months after I finally did i...
How do you rebuild your self-worth after unhealthy relationships, rejection or years of settling for less than you deserve? In this episode of the Becoming a Wife series, I'm talking about how low self-worth develops, why affirmations alone are not enough and how changing what you believe about yourself can change what you tolerate in dating and relationships.
If you're working on self-worth, self-esteem, boundaries, healing ...
Episode 1 of the Becoming a Wife series explores how to trust yourself again after unhealthy relationships, rebuild self-trust, regain confidence, heal your inner child and prepare to date with stronger boundaries and discernment.
Emotional control doesn't mean becoming numb—it means learning how to feel your emotions without letting them control your decisions, relationships, and life.
In this episode, I share how I learned to manage my emotions, build emotional resilience, stop making decisions from fear, and process difficult feelings without being overwhelmed by them. I also talk about the connectio...
Are you a Christian woman who struggles with people-pleasing, saying no without guilt, or worrying about how other people will react when you make a decision they don’t like?
For years, I didn’t even realize I had a people-pleasing problem. I thought I was being accommodating, selfless, keeping the peace, or simply turning the other cheek. But eventually I realized something deeper was happening: my people-pleasing...
Do you constantly second-guess yourself, question your decisions or let other people talk you out of what you know is right for you? In this episode, I'm sharing three ways to overcome self-doubt, trust your own judgment and stand firm in your decisions without becoming arrogant, unreasonable or unkind. We'll talk about why you keep abandoning your own instincts, how to figure out what's actually right for you and how to stop over-...
In this episode, I look back at moments in past relationships when I thought I was being strong because I was assertive, would stand up for myself and refused to stay quiet. However, my boundaries kept getting crossed and my relationships became a cycle of arguments with no real resolution. I unpack what was really beneath all that talking and what I eventually had to change.
After heartbreak, I thought I was healing — but I was actually losing myself. In this episode, I’m talking about codependency, people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and the ways heartbreak can quietly change how you show up in relationships. If you’ve ever struggled with breakup recovery, boundaries, confidence, or feeling like you have to earn love, this conversation is for you.
Why do you keep repeating the same relationship patterns with different people? Sometimes the problem isn't just who you're choosing — it's the unconscious beliefs shaping how you experience relationships.
In this episode, I share how I discovered the hidden “script” influencing my relationships, reactions, boundaries and self-worth — and what finally helped me begin breaking the cycle.
How did I go from a string of failed relationships to finally married at 41? In this episode I share my personal journey through heartbreak and unhealthy relationship patterns — and what God taught me through that season about codependency, boundaries, and healing. If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns or if it's too late for love, this conversation is for you.
Have you ever looked back at a toxic relationship and wondered, "What was I thinking?" In this episode, I share how codependency made me choose the wrong guy for years — and why being smart doesn't protect us from painful relationship patterns. As a codependent, I was the queen of second chances: ignoring red flags, smelling the smoke, and still walking into the fire because of people pleasing and a lack of boundaries. If you...
Why do you keep choosing the wrong men—even when you know the red flags?
In this episode, I break down the relationship patterns that kept me stuck in unhealthy relationships, including poor boundaries, insecure attachment, fear of abandonment, settling, and ignoring my own discernment. I eventually realized that learning how to spot toxic behavior wasn’t enough. I had to look ...
Welcome to Rebecca Has Spoken, where we have honest conversations about faith, boundaries, relationships and the wisdom to make better decisions. If you’ve ever wondered “How did I get here?” or struggled to balance kindness with having your own back, you’re in the right place.
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