For Love We Heal Podcast
If you are struggling with constant doubt and anxiety about whether you are in the right relationship, you’re not alone, and you’re in the right place! In this podcast, we delve into the complexities of Relationship OCD (ROCD), a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder characterized by intrusive thoughts, chronic doubt, reassurance-seeking, rumination, and intense anxiety and avoidance that show up in our romantic relationships. I'll help you explore and understand the deeper roots of your Relationship OCD (ROCD), and ultimately, how to heal it. We will discuss topics like fear of making the wrong choice, fear of making mistakes, lack of attraction, numbness, hyper-fixation on flaws, breakup urges, guilt, jealousy, and more! We examine how ROCD overlaps with attachment styles, especially fearful-avoidant attachment, and how our childhood wounds are at the core of this issue. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety, healthy vs unhealthy relationships, and what real healing from Relationship OCD looks like, beyond coping. Through IFS (Internal Family Systems), Attachment-based Healing, and what I call the Conscious Relationship Framework, this podcast offers a compassionate, non-pathologizing roadmap for healing your way to love, peace, and wholeness.
Episodes
If you have Relationship OCD, you may also have a partner with Anxious Attachment. When your partner has Anxious Attachment, your tendency to feel responsible for their well-being increases, which leads to more anxiety, avoidance, and distress. In this episode, Grace and I break down this dynamic and how to navigate it effectively!
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In this episode, I talk with Juan about his journey with Relationship OCD (ROCD), which he has been committed to working on since he found my work and a label for what he has been struggling with for quite some time. After finding my work and discovering IFS, the concept of Self has really clicked for him and has opened up a door to a new level of spiritual awareness and wholeness. We also do a very powerful session together, uncov...
Can you have Relationship OCD (ROCD) if you had a "great" childhood? It's one of the most common questions people ask when they find us. In this episode, we break down the childhood dynamics that often sit underneath ROCD, even in families that looked loving from the outside. We talk about parental loyalty, denial, and guilt, and why so many of us minimize what actually happened. You'll learn how to look at your childhood, trauma, ...
How do you know if the doubt you're feeling is ROCD or a sign of real problems in your relationship? In this episode, we break down the differences between the two, why they're so hard to tell apart, and how to navigate each one!
New YouTube Episode: "ROCD or the Wrong Relationship?"
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If you struggle with Relationship OCD (ROCD), you might also struggle when it comes to sex and intimacy, and take that as a sign you are in the wrong relationship. You might think that if you really did love your partner, intimacy would feel more natural. Or if you were sexually compatible, it would just be easier. In this episode, we talk about the core issues of sex and intimacy to help you understand the why behind it.
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Are you constantly obsessing over whether you are gay or straight or whether you should explore intimacy with the opposite sex? Do these questions lead to anxiety about whether you need to leave your relationship? Perhaps you are plagued with guilt about lying to your partner and potentially hurting them. Sexual Orientation OCD (SO-OCD) is a very confusing experience, but today we're here to help you make sense of it.
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In this episode, we cover topics like ex obsessions, chasing the unavailable partner, looking for the intoxication of desire and longing that we might have felt in other relationships, and worrying that there's no spark! We talk about the childhood dynamics that lead us to chase and pursue people who are emotionally unavailable, parentification, differentiation, and what it takes to heal from these issues and be at peace in our rel...
If you struggle with ROCD + fearing you might be narcissistic or a terrible person, then this episode is for you. Agata returns to the podcast after our session a month ago, where we did some transformational inner work on her ROCD. Today, she brings forward fear and shame that's been coming up for her that she could be a narcissist, which has been arising due to thoughts that she might be better than her partner or more out of his...
If you feel like you've tried everything to break free from Relationship OCD (ROCD), and you are out of options, you're not alone! ROCD is a complex issue that many people do not know how to treat or approach properly. In today's episode, I'm going to give you an understanding of how to approach things differently than you have been. With a high-level understanding of my approach, hopefully, you'll have a lot more clarity around ho...
Ever felt like there's a special person out there, and when you find them, you'll just know that they are right for you and that things will just click into place? Someone with whom you have zero doubts. Someone with whom things just move very smoothly and with whom you feel absolutely sure about. Well, today's episode is all about this and why it's important to grieve this fantasy. It's something that everyone with Relationship OC...
In this session, I help Agata explore her ROCD by using the Internal Family Systems Therapy model. We explored parts of her who demand she leave her relationship, question attraction, and hyperfixate on height differences, block her access to parts, and give her brainfog and eventually heal an inner child who carries the shame that something is wrong with her. It's a session you won't want to miss!
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Are your feelings for your partner constantly disappearing, leaving you confused and terrified that it means you are in the wrong relationship? In this episode, I talk about how this is a common phenomenon, especially for folks with Relationship OCD (ROCD) and a Disorganized Attachment style, and one that can be worked with so that you can finally be at peace in your relationship.
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Do you struggle with intimacy with your partner? Do you find that when it comes to being intimate, you feel repulsed, scared, avoidant, or just uncomfortable? Those of us with Relationship OCD (ROCD) have real issues with intimacy, and beneath the surface, we are ultimately terrified of it! In this episode, Grace and I explain why and how to go about navigating these fears.
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Do you feel the urge to pull away when your partner gets closer because you feel suffocated, trapped, or fear losing yourself? If so, listen to today's episode where we break down the common reasons why we feel this way, where it comes from, and how to be at peace in the relationship without feeling like you need to escape.
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Are you the partner of someone struggling with Relationship OCD (ROCD)? If so, this episode is going to help you make sense of what your partner is going through and how you can be of support to them and yourself. While incredibly hard, working through these challenges together can be an incredible gift. This episode will walk you through how to navigate your way forward together in this relationship consciously and how to survive ...
Do you struggle with attraction issues in your relationship? Do you ever look at your partner and feel disgusted? Do you worry that this is a sign that you are in the wrong relationship? Or if you were with someone more attractive, you'd be happier? In this episode, Grace and I reveal exactly why you are struggling to find your partner attractive, why you obsess about it, and what to actually do about it. We share why attraction is...
I'm away on vacation, so posting the raw version of this episode without my usual intro or edits. The title says it all, and overall, it was a lovely conversation that I hope you enjoy and find helpful. :)
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In this guided exercise, you’ll be introduced to the Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) imagery protocol, developed by Dr. Dan Brown and used within integrative attachment therapy. This practice is designed to help heal insecure attachment patterns by gently and repeatedly engaging your mind, brain & nervous system in experiences of safety, attunement, and unconditional love.
Through guided imagery, you’ll connect with imagin...
In this guided exercise, you’ll be introduced to the Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) imagery protocol, developed by Dr. Dan Brown and used within integrative attachment therapy. This practice is designed to help heal insecure attachment patterns by gently and repeatedly engaging your mind, brain & nervous system in experiences of safety, attunement, and unconditional love.
Through guided imagery, you’ll connect with imagin...
Witness this powerful session I did with Paula, who graciously offered to share her story and be a participant in what I would consider an absolutely beautiful and moving session. Paula shares her journey with Relationship OCD with someone she's been with since she was 15 years old and someone whom she's known almost forever. Paula touches into the core wounds of rejection and badness that live at the root of her fears of making mi...
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