big sister diaries

As we move through our 20s and into our 30s... I think we've all gone through specific moments when we've outgrowing our old self and we've left old version of ourselves behind. And often, it feels disorientating and awkward and really, really painful. 

But sometimes the hardest part of it is feeling guilty because you used to love your life!!! You used to be so driven to reach for the dreams that you now have... but you're in ...

If you've ever held back from something because you were scared of looking like you were trying too hard...this one's for you.

I made this episode because the fear of being cringe kept me small for a longggg time, and it took me most of my 20s to finally realise that the there will always, always be something to be afraid of. 

And at the end of the day... I can either be afraid of embarrassing myself or of wasting my life. 

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If you were raised to be the good girl - the helpful one, the reliable one, the one who holds everything together - this episode is for you.

Today we're getting into why over-giving isn't the same as being generous, the difference between being nice and being self-abandoning, and the practical tips on setting clean boundaries without blowing up your relationships. 

Links:

• Too Much by Terri Cole
• Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brow...

If you've ever said yes when you meant no, changed yourself to match the room, or realised you don't actually know what you like anymore... this one's for you.

I spent wayyy too long trusting other people's opinions more than my own. For years, I stayed in a relationship where I had to constantly tip-toe around his moods. I ran myself ragged trying to please everyone around me, and I let pieces of myself be chipped away until I didn...

If you identify as a lazy perfectionist too, you're in the right place - because perfectionism always gets talked about like it's a discipline problem: just lock in, push through, stop overthinking, literally just do things! 

But if that advice worked... you'd have done the thing already.

The reality is: you're not lazy or undisciplined, your passions are just triggering your nervous system! And your brain is just doing its best...

Before you press play... this isn't another episode about motivation!!! Self-sabotage isn't laziness, it isn't a character flaw, and you can't think your way out of it.

It's taken me awhile to learn that self sabotage is the result of something called 'conflicting desires': a clashing between who you consciously want to become and what your subconscious currently believes is safe. Today we're getting into why we are so often our own...