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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You were married, married for a decent amount of time.
Six years. Six years, all right, that's.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
A little shorter, but that's okay. How long ago did
you get divorced?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Doing it right now? Oh? Are you really? Yep? Well,
you know what, good for you? I mean sucks, but
good for you. Good for you?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Have you?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Actually you're perfect for this. Have you started dating yet?
Speaker 1 (00:31):
It's a little hard with three kids? Well yeah, I
mean listen, I'm sure that uh factors in.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I didn't think of that. Yeah, yeah, can I can
I ask you this?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
And and I mean yes, I can understand what that
would be a little bit hard. The do you look
forward to dating again?
Speaker 1 (00:57):
James?
Speaker 3 (00:58):
It's like a no, uh, it's kind of a pain
the ass.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Yeah, but you know you got to, right, you know
you got to Yeah? Yeah, yeah, let's let's here. Here's
what it is.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
So I was reading I was reading a couple of
stories about like I always jump to having sex again,
right because like you get to that part and you're like,
oh sweet, like you know that, well you say that's
the reason that got divorced. Well, of course it is.
That's why everybody gets divorced. Hey, James, hold on one second,
Hold on one second. Hey, I hope everything goes smoothly,
(01:34):
but that's easy to jump to. I was reading about
these people who were married for a long time, you
know what sounds like it brings up a good amount
of anxiety going on that first date post divorce.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
Absolutely go like by the time you're having.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Sex, for the most part, you've gone out a little bit, right, Yeah,
or possibly, I mean, yes, there may be some one
night stand or you know, whatever, tender, whatever the but
going that process of going through the first date ooh, especially,
that's what I mean. Like if if you've been married
(02:13):
two years, it hasn't been that long since you dated.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
If it's ten years, eight years, seven years.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
And then you went through getting divorced, and then maybe
you didn't start dating right away, but now you're out there, Diane,
some of these stories and I get so a lot
of the stories, I mean, and some of them turn
out great, right, like, oh it turned out to be
good or whatever. But that that that feeling, and some
people don't like it.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I love that. I love that.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
It's I can feel my hands.
Speaker 5 (02:44):
It would stress people out, yeah, a little bit. Yeah,
anticipation of these stories. Yeah, see I like that. I
was bad at a first date when I was DATD.
I liked first date to be that far removed.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Oh oh yeah, it would be weird now.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Yeah, it would be weird now because I wouldn't even
know who to ask out now that being said, but
I always liked that feeling.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
So what did you find? Were these people like so trying?
Were they trying to date people who were in similar
situations or did it not matter?
Speaker 2 (03:19):
No, they were just well it really covered the entire ground, right,
So there were people that were they went out and
it was somebody who you know, they didn't have to
have been divorced, but had if they were, they'd been
out on a bunch of dates. Like the odds of
you getting divorced and somebody else getting divorced and you're
each other's first date. That's that. That's pretty hard to script.
(03:39):
That's hard to script. I bet that's pretty comm especially
a certain age.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
Yeah. No, yes, if you're talking about older person, of course,
if you're talking about someone who's in their third twenties
or early thirties, But if you're talking about forties and fifties, yeah,
are you're probably married?
Speaker 1 (03:53):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:53):
No, no, I'm saying we're you're like, let's say, let's
say the same boat. Yeah, we're I'm getting divorced, Diane's
getting divorced. We both finalize our divorced and were each
other's first date. No, that I mean that would be imposed.
You can't script that. Oh my god, that would before
fumbling hands.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
I see you jumped right into the.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
No in nervousness. You said your hands were going.
Speaker 4 (04:16):
I feel like I would cry.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
I don't. I look at it and go, yes.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
It's such a rush of emotion.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
And it's good. Would that stress you out?
Speaker 4 (04:28):
Oh my god? Yes?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
What it really just.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
The idea of that, the idea of having a date again,
or just it being your first date, all of it really?
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Yeah, no, make me feel better. Did anyone that you
read about did they cry?
Speaker 6 (04:41):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Actually they did.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Then that's when I waited the date it covered.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Or with the person because I was thinking with the
person both honestly and how did the person react to be.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Okay, I'm getting a phone call you now, I get it.
And like I said, it covered the whole ground. Some
of it was this was right.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
And I'm older, I'm mature, not older, but I'm you know,
I'm forty something. We went back and we had sex.
Then there's people who no, but they did. And then
there are people who, like in the middle of it,
were like, I can't do this. I'm like, I'm gonna
crack my brains out. I'm so freaking my stomach is
a mass. How about a middle ground. Did anyone not
end up having sex or not end up vomiting? Yes, okay, yes, good.
(05:22):
But then and some of them said, you gotta crash
a couple of cars. But that was true even when
you were dating. Not every first date turned out to
be great.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
But the point is you may have forgotten that, yes,
some people might be going out looking for that next spouse.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Dude, if there is some well, no, you don't want
to do that.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
I know I'm saying that's bad, but that may just
be your mindset.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
I want somebody going out on their first date this weekend.
That gets me horny and I'm not even talking about it.
From the sex.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Line eight. Hi Elliott the morning.
Speaker 6 (05:55):
Hey, this is Kelly.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Hi Kelly. How are you.
Speaker 6 (05:59):
I'm well, how are you good?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Good?
Speaker 5 (06:00):
Good?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Were you married for.
Speaker 6 (06:01):
A while, Yeah, I was married for thirteen years.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Oh, you were married for a while. When'd you get
divorced October of like last year?
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Correct?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Oh that's pretty recent. Yeah, have you got on a
date yet?
Speaker 6 (06:18):
No, what's up, Jason, let's get weird.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
I'm sorry, that's the ex.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh wait why why
are we getting weird? What what? Wait?
Speaker 4 (06:31):
Jason? Oh the guy that was just on his James.
Speaker 6 (06:34):
Oh okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Oh okay. So wait, you've not been on a date yet.
You've been single since October and you ain't been on
a date yet only March.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
For some time.
Speaker 6 (06:51):
I mean, I'm in grad school right now, so I'm
pretty busy.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
My god, everybody's got an.
Speaker 6 (06:57):
I'm just yeah. I mean i'd like to meet some
like organically, just kind of and you will work maybe,
And that's my hope.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
So you're not gonna bother with the apps or anything.
Speaker 6 (07:07):
I would prefer not to. I'll be forty this year.
I that's just And I've never dated as an adult.
He was my high school sweetheart, so I don't really
know what it's like.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Awesome, No, but you know what, No, No, but you
know what?
Speaker 2 (07:20):
And it the high school sweetheart thing, because you're right,
that's all you know, since high school. H you didn't
even go through like your early twenties, like getting drunk
and just asking somebody out.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
You didn't do any of that.
Speaker 6 (07:33):
I didn't. And I went to wait to college and
everything and didn't do any of that.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
So, oh, girl, you're in for some fun.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
Oh I can't.
Speaker 6 (07:40):
I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
So what are you waiting for.
Speaker 6 (07:45):
I'm in grad school. I'm just very busy.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Oh my god, or ganic. But then after that, then
it's gonna be. I just got out of grad.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
School and I just started a new job, and oh,
I'm watching I'm watching season two of Paradise, like you,
what's that old thing? Excuses are like elbows or a
holes or whatever it is.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (08:05):
I think it's the latter.
Speaker 6 (08:08):
Understood. Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
I got to make time for you. You got to
make time for you.
Speaker 6 (08:13):
Well, I dropped to Cumberland every day right now, like
my schedule changes every month.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Mind does know you're outside right?
Speaker 4 (08:26):
Think about it though, from a simpler perspective. Okay, and
we don't know why people and up parting ways, right,
but the relationship is fractured and the tiniest little gestures
may no longer be a part of your and probably
aren't because you're you're separated and you're getting divorced. How
(08:48):
overwhelming the feeling of just being paid attention to at
dinner could be for someone who's on that first date.
Oh sure, but that but that's a good thing. Oh
that could feel euphoric. N somebody is caring enough to,
uh listen to you.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Yes, that that's great, that's great.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
But you don't think of that when you're in the cycle.
You don't think of that when you've been out of
the game. But you then are thrown into the fire
realizing all of these joy compliments.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Yeah, no, that's that's a that's a weird one. That's
a weird one. Hey, why do you want to meet
somebody at work? Why do you want to eat the company?
Speaker 6 (09:30):
I guess I just don't really see how meet anybody otherwise.
I just feel like work, you kind of you know,
especially like in a hospital setting, because that's where I'll
be like, it's just easy to meet people from different departments.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
And patience, I don't know, Oh not not like patience
versus impatience.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
You mean, yeah, no, there could be somebody in maybe
he's getting doing some peed to you or something, be like,
you're hot, let's let's date.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
I just got divorced. Well, don't go with that, now,
don't go with that.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
They were crying, you're bad at the first date small talk.
Speaker 6 (10:06):
And I still love my ex plusban very much. So
it's still very difficult.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
You know.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
You got to move on from that. Move on from that.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
All right.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
I'm want to thank you.
Speaker 4 (10:18):
I mean, if you love him so much, stay with him.
Oh god, get a better job. You had great advice. Lads.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
All right, very good, very good, very good, all right,
very good, thank you, Thank you.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Kelly. You know how nice that Felm. I could see
it in your face to be listened to.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Yes, that's great.
Speaker 4 (10:41):
She's got a call back. Could you imagine at the
end of the meal, during dessert, somebody references an earlier
story you told I don't listen to anything, Lindsay says.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
They'd be like, oh my god, you are getting the
you are going to get the banana split.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
You talk about how good they are here, it's all them, so.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
You are taking them to one of all my dad.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Yes, although you know what I'm not going to say
where I'm going to get back up to ninety nine
percent of all restaurants. I'm going to a new restaurant
on Friday. Oh yeah, that's anywhere where am I going?
Speaker 4 (11:14):
Oh it's a secret. You're going to have to tell
skip the line.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Hi, Yelli D the morning.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
Hi, this is Allison.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Hi Allison, how are you?
Speaker 3 (11:24):
I'm good. I was married for twenty years and I
got divorced three years ago.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
You've been on a date in three years?
Speaker 3 (11:34):
No, I have not what. I started dating my ex
husband in nineteen ninety seven, okay, and the it's just
different now, like that was before cell phones. And like
the other day, I was talking to my daughter about
ghosting because that seems to be something that happens like
(11:57):
on the regular now and I feeling.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
I guess it will. But that happened, That happened in
nineteen ninety seven. You would you would be talking to
some chick and on the phone on the on the landline,
and all of a sudden, Mom wasn't calling for you
to pick up the phone anymore. Ghost thing's been going
on forever. It's just easier now because I don't have
to text you back. That's all dating has not changed.
Speaker 3 (12:21):
I guess one.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Well, I'm sorry you know what else hasn't changed, getting
to finish your sentence, the method the methodology has changed,
but dating hasn't changed.
Speaker 6 (12:35):
I say that maybe I say that all the time.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
About radio practice.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
I know, but wait, waiting, waiting longer, he isn't going
to make.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
You, you know what?
Speaker 4 (12:44):
They still meet somebody organically. It looks it sounds like
she's waiting to get advice from her child.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
No, it sounds like she doesn't want to date. I
mean that part of it, Like, no, you do want
to you want companion.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
I'm not saying you got to get married again, but
don't you want that fun feeling of a first date.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
That's one of the best feelings in the world.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
It is, and I do. But like, probably a year ago,
I was curious and I signed up for an online
dating app and no, but I like instantly got dozens
of messages. Yeah, exactly, it was. I didn't even have
(13:32):
a profile picture up. I could have had a third
I had the know of my forehead and okay, but you.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Don't you don't know.
Speaker 4 (13:39):
But it was like overwhelming, like all of the all
of the attention, right, that's great, Yet.
Speaker 3 (13:45):
I didn't know what to do with any of it.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
It was like go out with it.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
No, but they just want to have sex, like they
don't want to do anything else.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
And you know what, put that in your profile.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
I want oh sex, and then you don't have to
worry Trust me, you don't have to worry about getting ghosted.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
But how is that?
Speaker 2 (14:07):
How is that any different in nineteen ninety seven when
you went out with your friends and you went to
Mcgillicuddies and you're hanging out and you're listening to music
and some guy comes up to you and he's chatting
you up a little bit. You a you know, like,
oh this is fun and we're flirting and stuff.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
In the back of his mind he wants to have sex.
You know this game.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
But it's like wine on wine. Back in ninety you.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Would have went Mcgillicuddies. You would have You would have
died to have thirteen people approach you at the bar?
Speaker 4 (14:37):
Was that an Iris pub?
Speaker 3 (14:39):
It was? Actually I'm not saying I'm thinking rationally. I'm
saying this is how I'm thinking. That's all. It's a lot,
and I don't know what anybody wants from me.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Well, you already answered that they want your bagon No,
but maybe honestly, maybe it's just somebody who wants too,
wants to just go.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Out on a date. Maybe it's somebody who's in your boat.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
That very well could be the case.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
I don't know exactly.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
One of these days I'll figure it out, but.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
All right, very good, sooner than later. Yes, of course
you just told her it was gonna be years.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
You don't know, no, But is nobody with me? That
excitement of a first date?
Speaker 4 (15:29):
Was that the common thread between all the stories. They
may have ended differently, some of them maybe went on
to get married to the person who knows, But did
they all have that anxiety? But also that that that
nervous energy that was exciting.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
But people some people don't look. Yes, but it's what
do you do with that nervous energy? Some people some people,
some people can't. Some people would go, it's way too
anxiety filed to go out on a first date. We
did somebody show up and then not even sit down
or look for the day, and you got nervous breath
and the like, oh man, you do like a dog's
ass on the way over. Like yeah, So I mean
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for some it's like that, But some people were like
they'd canceled before the date even started.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Because you're building, you're putting too much on it. Just
go out and have fun.
Speaker 4 (16:15):
You're looking for your next spouse.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
No, you're not. You're looking to go out and have drinks.
Speaker 4 (16:20):
I bet that's very difficult to sit there and not
think about someone being marriage material.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Oh my god, all I think about is not being married.
Speaker 4 (16:32):
Did anyone end up getting married that you read about? Yeah,
yeah they did. They didn't Yeah, I mean not that nie.
Did they date other people or did they exclusively date
that first date person?
Speaker 1 (16:41):
You don't.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
We didn't say, didn't say. I hope they dated other people. Well, okay,
but look at that woman. High school sweethearts. They could
have been McGillicutty sweethearts. Love at first sight happens all
the time. I just got so excited by that, that
that feeling of like, oh my god, this is exciting.
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You get out of the shower, You're like getting dressed.
You're like, yeah, I'm ramping up.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Date I do? I do?
Speaker 4 (17:12):
Did you dance around a lot as you prepped for
your dates?
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Did I dance with?
Speaker 3 (17:16):
You?
Speaker 4 (17:17):
Were just dancing there towel in front of your closet,
going through shirts, at the height of your your dating life.
What was your go to store for men'swear struct prize closet.
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I don't even know, I know's closet.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
It would have been Abro, Abercrombie, Abercrombie, Yeah, Abercrombie, and
Yeah in the Gap if I if I had a
stained I'd stop at the Gap and get a.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
New shirt, brand new, thank you, thank you still had
the tag on it sometimes
You were married, married for a decent amount of time.
Six years. Six years, all right, that's.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
A little shorter, but that's okay. How long ago did
you get divorced?
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Doing it right now? Oh? Are you really? Yep? Well,
you know what, good for you? I mean sucks, but
good for you. Good for you?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Have you?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Actually you're perfect for this. Have you started dating yet?
Speaker 1 (00:31):
It's a little hard with three kids? Well yeah, I
mean listen, I'm sure that uh factors in.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
I didn't.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I didn't think of that. Yeah, yeah, can I can
I ask you this?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
And and I mean yes, I can understand what that
would be a little bit hard. The do you look
forward to dating again?
Speaker 1 (00:57):
James?
Speaker 3 (00:58):
It's like a no, uh, it's kind of a pain
the ass.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
Yeah, but you know you got to, right, you know
you got to Yeah? Yeah, yeah, let's let's here. Here's
what it is.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
So I was reading I was reading a couple of
stories about like I always jump to having sex again,
right because like you get to that part and you're like,
oh sweet, like you know that, well you say that's
the reason that got divorced. Well, of course it is.
That's why everybody gets divorced. Hey, James, hold on one second,
Hold on one second. Hey, I hope everything goes smoothly,
(01:34):
but that's easy to jump to. I was reading about
these people who were married for a long time, you
know what sounds like it brings up a good amount
of anxiety going on that first date post divorce.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
Absolutely go like by the time you're having.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Sex, for the most part, you've gone out a little bit, right, Yeah,
or possibly, I mean, yes, there may be some one
night stand or you know, whatever, tender, whatever the but
going that process of going through the first date ooh, especially,
that's what I mean. Like if if you've been married
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two years, it hasn't been that long since you dated.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
If it's ten years, eight years, seven years.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
And then you went through getting divorced, and then maybe
you didn't start dating right away, but now you're out there, Diane,
some of these stories and I get so a lot
of the stories, I mean, and some of them turn
out great, right, like, oh it turned out to be
good or whatever. But that that that feeling, and some
people don't like it.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I love that. I love that.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
It's I can feel my hands.
Speaker 5 (02:44):
It would stress people out, yeah, a little bit. Yeah,
anticipation of these stories. Yeah, see I like that. I
was bad at a first date when I was DATD.
I liked first date to be that far removed.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Oh oh yeah, it would be weird now.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Yeah, it would be weird now because I wouldn't even
know who to ask out now that being said, but
I always liked that feeling.
Speaker 4 (03:08):
So what did you find? Were these people like so trying?
Were they trying to date people who were in similar
situations or did it not matter?
Speaker 2 (03:19):
No, they were just well it really covered the entire ground, right,
So there were people that were they went out and
it was somebody who you know, they didn't have to
have been divorced, but had if they were, they'd been
out on a bunch of dates. Like the odds of
you getting divorced and somebody else getting divorced and you're
each other's first date. That's that. That's pretty hard to script.
(03:39):
That's hard to script. I bet that's pretty comm especially
a certain age.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
Yeah. No, yes, if you're talking about older person, of course,
if you're talking about someone who's in their third twenties
or early thirties, But if you're talking about forties and fifties, yeah,
are you're probably married?
Speaker 1 (03:53):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:53):
No, no, I'm saying we're you're like, let's say, let's
say the same boat. Yeah, we're I'm getting divorced, Diane's
getting divorced. We both finalize our divorced and were each
other's first date. No, that I mean that would be imposed.
You can't script that. Oh my god, that would before
fumbling hands.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
I see you jumped right into the.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
No in nervousness. You said your hands were going.
Speaker 4 (04:16):
I feel like I would cry.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
I don't. I look at it and go, yes.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
It's such a rush of emotion.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
And it's good. Would that stress you out?
Speaker 4 (04:28):
Oh my god? Yes?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
What it really just.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
The idea of that, the idea of having a date again,
or just it being your first date, all of it really?
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Yeah, no, make me feel better. Did anyone that you
read about did they cry?
Speaker 6 (04:41):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Actually they did.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
Then that's when I waited the date it covered.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Or with the person because I was thinking with the
person both honestly and how did the person react to be.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Okay, I'm getting a phone call you now, I get it.
And like I said, it covered the whole ground. Some
of it was this was right.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
And I'm older, I'm mature, not older, but I'm you know,
I'm forty something. We went back and we had sex.
Then there's people who no, but they did. And then
there are people who, like in the middle of it,
were like, I can't do this. I'm like, I'm gonna
crack my brains out. I'm so freaking my stomach is
a mass. How about a middle ground. Did anyone not
end up having sex or not end up vomiting? Yes, okay, yes, good.
(05:22):
But then and some of them said, you gotta crash
a couple of cars. But that was true even when
you were dating. Not every first date turned out to
be great.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
But the point is you may have forgotten that, yes,
some people might be going out looking for that next spouse.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Dude, if there is some well, no, you don't want
to do that.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
I know I'm saying that's bad, but that may just
be your mindset.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
I want somebody going out on their first date this weekend.
That gets me horny and I'm not even talking about it.
From the sex.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Line eight. Hi Elliott the morning.
Speaker 6 (05:55):
Hey, this is Kelly.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Hi Kelly. How are you.
Speaker 6 (05:59):
I'm well, how are you good?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Good?
Speaker 5 (06:00):
Good?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Were you married for.
Speaker 6 (06:01):
A while, Yeah, I was married for thirteen years.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
Oh, you were married for a while. When'd you get
divorced October of like last year?
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Correct?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
Oh that's pretty recent. Yeah, have you got on a
date yet?
Speaker 6 (06:18):
No, what's up, Jason, let's get weird.
Speaker 4 (06:23):
I'm sorry, that's the ex.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh wait why why
are we getting weird? What what? Wait?
Speaker 4 (06:31):
Jason? Oh the guy that was just on his James.
Speaker 6 (06:34):
Oh okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Oh okay. So wait, you've not been on a date yet.
You've been single since October and you ain't been on
a date yet only March.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
For some time.
Speaker 6 (06:51):
I mean, I'm in grad school right now, so I'm
pretty busy.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
My god, everybody's got an.
Speaker 6 (06:57):
I'm just yeah. I mean i'd like to meet some
like organically, just kind of and you will work maybe,
And that's my hope.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
So you're not gonna bother with the apps or anything.
Speaker 6 (07:07):
I would prefer not to. I'll be forty this year.
I that's just And I've never dated as an adult.
He was my high school sweetheart, so I don't really
know what it's like.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Awesome, No, but you know what, No, No, but you
know what?
Speaker 2 (07:20):
And it the high school sweetheart thing, because you're right,
that's all you know, since high school. H you didn't
even go through like your early twenties, like getting drunk
and just asking somebody out.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
You didn't do any of that.
Speaker 6 (07:33):
I didn't. And I went to wait to college and
everything and didn't do any of that.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
So, oh, girl, you're in for some fun.
Speaker 4 (07:39):
Oh I can't.
Speaker 6 (07:40):
I can't wait.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
So what are you waiting for.
Speaker 6 (07:45):
I'm in grad school. I'm just very busy.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Oh my god, or ganic. But then after that, then
it's gonna be. I just got out of grad.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
School and I just started a new job, and oh,
I'm watching I'm watching season two of Paradise, like you,
what's that old thing? Excuses are like elbows or a
holes or whatever it is.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (08:05):
I think it's the latter.
Speaker 6 (08:08):
Understood. Yeah, I know.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
I got to make time for you. You got to
make time for you.
Speaker 6 (08:13):
Well, I dropped to Cumberland every day right now, like
my schedule changes every month.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Mind does know you're outside right?
Speaker 4 (08:26):
Think about it though, from a simpler perspective. Okay, and
we don't know why people and up parting ways, right,
but the relationship is fractured and the tiniest little gestures
may no longer be a part of your and probably
aren't because you're you're separated and you're getting divorced. How
(08:48):
overwhelming the feeling of just being paid attention to at
dinner could be for someone who's on that first date.
Oh sure, but that but that's a good thing. Oh
that could feel euphoric. N somebody is caring enough to,
uh listen to you.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Yes, that that's great, that's great.
Speaker 4 (09:09):
But you don't think of that when you're in the cycle.
You don't think of that when you've been out of
the game. But you then are thrown into the fire
realizing all of these joy compliments.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Yeah, no, that's that's a that's a weird one. That's
a weird one. Hey, why do you want to meet
somebody at work? Why do you want to eat the company?
Speaker 6 (09:30):
I guess I just don't really see how meet anybody otherwise.
I just feel like work, you kind of you know,
especially like in a hospital setting, because that's where I'll
be like, it's just easy to meet people from different departments.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
And patience, I don't know, Oh not not like patience
versus impatience.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
You mean, yeah, no, there could be somebody in maybe
he's getting doing some peed to you or something, be like,
you're hot, let's let's date.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
I just got divorced. Well, don't go with that, now,
don't go with that.
Speaker 4 (10:00):
They were crying, you're bad at the first date small talk.
Speaker 6 (10:06):
And I still love my ex plusban very much. So
it's still very difficult.
Speaker 3 (10:09):
You know.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
You got to move on from that. Move on from that.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
All right.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
I'm want to thank you.
Speaker 4 (10:18):
I mean, if you love him so much, stay with him.
Oh god, get a better job. You had great advice. Lads.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
All right, very good, very good, very good, all right,
very good, thank you, Thank you.
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Kelly. You know how nice that Felm. I could see
it in your face to be listened to.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
Yes, that's great.
Speaker 4 (10:41):
She's got a call back. Could you imagine at the
end of the meal, during dessert, somebody references an earlier
story you told I don't listen to anything, Lindsay says.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
They'd be like, oh my god, you are getting the
you are going to get the banana split.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
You talk about how good they are here, it's all them, so.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
You are taking them to one of all my dad.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Yes, although you know what I'm not going to say
where I'm going to get back up to ninety nine
percent of all restaurants. I'm going to a new restaurant
on Friday. Oh yeah, that's anywhere where am I going?
Speaker 4 (11:14):
Oh it's a secret. You're going to have to tell
skip the line.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Hi, Yelli D the morning.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
Hi, this is Allison.
Speaker 1 (11:22):
Hi Allison, how are you?
Speaker 3 (11:24):
I'm good. I was married for twenty years and I
got divorced three years ago.
Speaker 1 (11:31):
You've been on a date in three years?
Speaker 3 (11:34):
No, I have not what. I started dating my ex
husband in nineteen ninety seven, okay, and the it's just
different now, like that was before cell phones. And like
the other day, I was talking to my daughter about
ghosting because that seems to be something that happens like
(11:57):
on the regular now and I feeling.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
I guess it will. But that happened, That happened in
nineteen ninety seven. You would you would be talking to
some chick and on the phone on the on the landline,
and all of a sudden, Mom wasn't calling for you
to pick up the phone anymore. Ghost thing's been going
on forever. It's just easier now because I don't have
to text you back. That's all dating has not changed.
Speaker 3 (12:21):
I guess one.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Well, I'm sorry you know what else hasn't changed, getting
to finish your sentence, the method the methodology has changed,
but dating hasn't changed.
Speaker 6 (12:35):
I say that maybe I say that all the time.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
About radio practice.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
I know, but wait, waiting, waiting longer, he isn't going
to make.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
You, you know what?
Speaker 4 (12:44):
They still meet somebody organically. It looks it sounds like
she's waiting to get advice from her child.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
No, it sounds like she doesn't want to date. I
mean that part of it, Like, no, you do want
to you want companion.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
I'm not saying you got to get married again, but
don't you want that fun feeling of a first date.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
That's one of the best feelings in the world.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
It is, and I do. But like, probably a year ago,
I was curious and I signed up for an online
dating app and no, but I like instantly got dozens
of messages. Yeah, exactly, it was. I didn't even have
(13:32):
a profile picture up. I could have had a third
I had the know of my forehead and okay, but you.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Don't you don't know.
Speaker 4 (13:39):
But it was like overwhelming, like all of the all
of the attention, right, that's great, Yet.
Speaker 3 (13:45):
I didn't know what to do with any of it.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
It was like go out with it.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
No, but they just want to have sex, like they
don't want to do anything else.
Speaker 1 (13:56):
And you know what, put that in your profile.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
I want oh sex, and then you don't have to
worry Trust me, you don't have to worry about getting ghosted.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
But how is that?
Speaker 2 (14:07):
How is that any different in nineteen ninety seven when
you went out with your friends and you went to
Mcgillicuddies and you're hanging out and you're listening to music
and some guy comes up to you and he's chatting
you up a little bit. You a you know, like,
oh this is fun and we're flirting and stuff.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
In the back of his mind he wants to have sex.
You know this game.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
But it's like wine on wine. Back in ninety you.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Would have went Mcgillicuddies. You would have You would have
died to have thirteen people approach you at the bar?
Speaker 4 (14:37):
Was that an Iris pub?
Speaker 3 (14:39):
It was? Actually I'm not saying I'm thinking rationally. I'm
saying this is how I'm thinking. That's all. It's a lot,
and I don't know what anybody wants from me.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Well, you already answered that they want your bagon No,
but maybe honestly, maybe it's just somebody who wants too,
wants to just go.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Out on a date. Maybe it's somebody who's in your boat.
Speaker 3 (15:07):
That very well could be the case.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
I don't know exactly.
Speaker 3 (15:12):
One of these days I'll figure it out, but.
Speaker 4 (15:15):
All right, very good, sooner than later. Yes, of course
you just told her it was gonna be years.
Speaker 2 (15:22):
You don't know, no, But is nobody with me? That
excitement of a first date?
Speaker 4 (15:29):
Was that the common thread between all the stories. They
may have ended differently, some of them maybe went on
to get married to the person who knows, But did
they all have that anxiety? But also that that that
nervous energy that was exciting.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
But people some people don't look. Yes, but it's what
do you do with that nervous energy? Some people some people,
some people can't. Some people would go, it's way too
anxiety filed to go out on a first date. We
did somebody show up and then not even sit down
or look for the day, and you got nervous breath
and the like, oh man, you do like a dog's
ass on the way over. Like yeah, So I mean
(16:05):
for some it's like that, But some people were like
they'd canceled before the date even started.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Because you're building, you're putting too much on it. Just
go out and have fun.
Speaker 4 (16:15):
You're looking for your next spouse.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
No, you're not. You're looking to go out and have drinks.
Speaker 4 (16:20):
I bet that's very difficult to sit there and not
think about someone being marriage material.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Oh my god, all I think about is not being married.
Speaker 4 (16:32):
Did anyone end up getting married that you read about? Yeah,
yeah they did. They didn't Yeah, I mean not that nie.
Did they date other people or did they exclusively date
that first date person?
Speaker 1 (16:41):
You don't.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
We didn't say, didn't say. I hope they dated other people. Well, okay,
but look at that woman. High school sweethearts. They could
have been McGillicutty sweethearts. Love at first sight happens all
the time. I just got so excited by that, that
that feeling of like, oh my god, this is exciting.
(17:04):
You get out of the shower, You're like getting dressed.
You're like, yeah, I'm ramping up.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Date I do? I do?
Speaker 4 (17:12):
Did you dance around a lot as you prepped for
your dates?
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Did I dance with?
Speaker 3 (17:16):
You?
Speaker 4 (17:17):
Were just dancing there towel in front of your closet,
going through shirts, at the height of your your dating life.
What was your go to store for men'swear struct prize closet.
(17:37):
I don't even know, I know's closet.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
It would have been Abro, Abercrombie, Abercrombie, Yeah, Abercrombie, and
Yeah in the Gap if I if I had a
stained I'd stop at the Gap and get a.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
New shirt, brand new, thank you, thank you still had
the tag on it sometimes
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