Do you know about the cheat code for cheaters?

There seems to be a hack or cheatcode for everything these days, but did you know there were cheat codes to cheating? Patty and the crew discuss the datng cheat codes you need to watch out for.

Episode Transcript

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Whether it's life, relationships, politics, or current events, nothing is off
limits. This is the Patty andthe Millennials podcast, powered by ACME Markets,
helping to bridge the gap between babyBoomers, gen X and millennials.
I'm Patty Jackson. Welcome to thepodcast conversation Patty and the Millennials. I'm

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the baby boomer, I'm a radiovet, and we come together to have
conversation because conversation in life is important. Even if you don't agree. I've
got millennials, gen X, Igot men, i got women, and
even though the majority of the groupmay be married or coupled up, you
still need to know what's going outin these streets. Ashley Madison, the

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world's largest dating site, has comeup with a discrete dictionary. This is
you'll know the terms in these streets. What are you, Maradan, You're
gonna know them? You be likeHM blogger Whitney Roberts is joining us.

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There are new terms for those whoare looking to satisfy their desires without apology,
aka cheaters. I'm gonna see them, I'm gonna see I'm gonna see
if you know any of this,see what you're gonna do. Whitney you're
gonna know, you're gonna hear theseterms. You be like, I know

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that. Okay, have you everheard of auto erect? No? Okay,
this is where chat that's where they'rebringing in chat GPT and they're sexting
like over over, Yes, sothey're telling the chat GPT you know,

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I want to see your booty orjust something that you know, yeah,
something nasty. Oh my goodness,we don't even we don't even write our
own nasty text anymore. We're usingAI for nasty. Yes, this is
something a fireside flag. Now thisis about the end because it's getting warm.
But it's when people connect with othersthrough the darkest, coldest days of

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winter. But once that hint ofspring and warm spring comes, they out,
they out they like peace. Whatis didn't do we have another name
for this? Uh? It's likethe one where like the guy will like
he tries to like live with youwhile you're whilst winter. What was that

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called? It was something sexual?What it was it was that hopo sexual?
Yes, yes, that's what itsounds like. Yes, but you
know what, see this the thingwould need They give them new they give
them new names, but they're thesame things. It's the same thing.
Yes, go coaster coaster. Ohno, you know it is just a

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new name for ghosting. It's aperson who disappears and then they reappear,
and then they disappear, then theyreappear. That's the kind of haunting you
just don't want. That's just nothings done. Ashley Madison is the world's
largest dating site. And I alwayssay, even if you're coupled up,

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you need No one's going out inthese streets. And the fifth annual Discreete
Dictionary was just released and Lexi it'sall about people who cheat. Oh my
yes, So here are the newterms. You could be aware so you
can help others. That's how Ilook at this. We're gonna we're gonna

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be out here helping others. Haveyou ever heard of call of booty?
This is when people are out hereplaying juvenile dating games. If you've ever
talked to one of your friends andthey may be out in the dating world

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and they're complaining because people are notserious. Are they out here playing It's
called the call of booty? Thatis quite interesting. Have you ever heard
of Ron Day two? No,No, this is a couple they have

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an ongoing arrangement with another couple.Now, this is not new, but
I'm telling you, Lexi, they'regiving these things new names. Oh my
gosh, all of this is new. All of it is new. I've
never heard of it. It's funnyhow it mirrors those so much of what
we have heard. Yeah, freewheeling, free wheeling, okay, in

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non monogamous sexual or romantic experiences withoutguilt or shame. You know. I
was because of the whole free part. I was thinking that that might be
what it was called. Like,that's like the open relationship then essentially,
right, yes, Like, okay, it is. It's just it's just
an open relationship where all the singleladies at well, I got two of

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them here, we got LaToya,we got Desi. And dating should be
fun for everyone, right, Butthere are a lot of people out here
pliying, And that's where I'm comingto teach you what to look forward to,
you know, it's starting to getwarm, yes, and what you
should look out for. Thank you, friend. Yes, I'm here to

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help. I'm here to help.Have you ever heard gonna start with you,
Desi? Have you ever heard ofauto erect? Don't know? He
get a hearty No, you knowpeople do the sex thing. They're doing

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it using chat GPT to be sexy. I'm sorry, because that might not
be your pipe. Use a lotthat might not be your pipe. Okay.
Have we heard of the game oftones? No? Okay, So

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if you're dating several people, theyeach have their own ring tone, So
you know, I like it.I feel like that's coming back up because
at one point it kind of usedto be like that, So now it's
coming back. But you got tokeep them off. They trail everybody at

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the same time. Yeah, butthey're they have different tones for each romantic
parts there. Partner, Now,this one is when we know Ghoster Coaster
okay, spell okay, well GhosterCoaster is nothing but but ghosting. They've
given it a new name. Thisis when you have an experience with a

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romantic partner. They disappear, thenthey come back. They disappear, then
they come back. They thinking theycast for the friendly good. Nah.
You can't just keep coming in andout. Uh huh nah. Just this
ain't no little kid. And yououtside and you're gonna come in for a
drink when you feel like it andhead back outside. You got maybe twice
to make up your mind when youcome back in this house, you better

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come back correct or stay outside,kay, because you have the gat fand
says you can't keep running and outof my line. He ur for your
love. Mapping mapping mapping, it'sthe deliberate act where they craft the date

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with your fair partner, like we'regonna meet down in Parks in Rittenhouse Square,
and they want to keep you incenter City because they could be living
in Mount Airy, so they can'ttake you in the neighborhood. Yeah,
so you map bound and say,oh yeah, they go to the northeast
for that, and they go tothe northeast. Lone of cheating. A
lot of people take it to thenortheast. A lot of people want to

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go to South Jersey. I needy'all to stop doing that because I'm the
one who shows up in South Jerseyand be catching people. And y'all know
it because I come back and telly'all, I'll be like, guess who
I saw them, and they hadthey had a complete meltdown. I walked
in to the land where they accusedme of following them, and I said,

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I ain't even think about you.You won't hear me I'm messing you
ain't napping properly. You're not nappingproperly. You got the map properly.
I think I'd save for that.Ladies or man, don't let nobody map
you. Maybe the first couple ofdays. Yes, it's a romantic you
go ahead and plan it, showthe initiation is. But after a while
you're about to set the plan orit's a problem a bort mission. Every

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so often, I like to hipour crew, millennials, ten X men
and women about what's going on inthese streets and the new thing because it
was just released and I am hereto tell you all about it. Discrete
dictionary. This is a thing sexdoctor Heather is here. Have you ever

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heard of this discrete dictionary? Bythe way, it's made for people who
beat out of his cheating. No, I never heard of it, Patty,
I'll be learning. I'm telling you, I love it. Okay.
Have you ever heard of auto erect? No? Okay. These are people
who are sexting, but they're doingit through chat gee pet wow. Wow.

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You know a lot of people dosexting through dating apps too. Mmmm
yep. Now they're looking for arelationship or they're just looking for fun.
Yes, that's what they're looking for. They don't even say it. They
lying on their profile, you know. And it's a way to catch these

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people. But they're sexting you throughthe dating apps and not meeting with you,
not wanting to show you who theyreally are, and they probably aren't
who the pictures are. Yeah,sexting through the dating app. The game
of tones, what's that? Thisis when you give your different partners very
unique ring tones so that when theycall you, you know who it is.

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Oh, I think I do that? Oh so uh Rondez two this
is this is so old. Theyjust given a new name. It's where
cheaters. No, no, no, it's a couple having an ongoing relationship

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with another couple. Oh a lotof people do this. Yeah, they
they've given it a name though,the Rendez two. I love. I
like that though. Yeah. Couplesgo out hunting, that's what I hear
they do. They do, andthen they come to me because things go

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left right pa, because they haven'tcommunicated yep, and then bam ronde two.
Uh huh, Daish is here.This is the podcast conversation Patty and
the Millennials, and she represents theyounger, and so she's in the streets
with these datings and Dasia. Thereis a new book about cheating. It's

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called Discreet Dictionary. And I amhere to tell you, give you the
scoop. Have you ever heard ofthe Have you ever heard of the call
of booty? The call of booty? Uh, there's no only booty call,

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not the call of booty. Well, this is when you've got people
out here playing juvenile dating games,juvenile dating games, and we all know
people and there's no age time onthat. There's no Have you heard of
the Game of Tones? What relatedgames? Yes, these are the games

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that people are playing in these streetsin regards to cheating day. Game of
Tones. If you got a bunchof people that you're messing with, right,
they all have unique ring tones,they all have their own unique ringtones.

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Yes, yes, this is athing. Ghost or coaster, not
new new name. It's when youhave an experience with someone and they disappear,
then they reappear, then they disappear. Oh god. Retrograde and mapping.

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This is when someone who cheats,if they live uptown or if they
live outside of the city, theywill pick places like Center City, maybe
Wilmington. They picked places. Isthey kind of like map it out so

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they know their boundaries. Oh,we can't really date uptown, so I
have to take you to Center Cityor maybe take you to Jersey. But
Dasia, I've been known to catchpeople cheating in South Jersey, and I
was like, y'all need to goa little bit more into Jersey because Daysia.
The running joke with me is Ialways catch somebody cheating in South Jersey.

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Can't go on Route seventy, stayoff of forty two. It's not
too small. It's the world isa small place, so you have to
really be careful you don't. Butit is crazy, Desia. It is
a real thing. And this iswhat's going on in these dating streets.
There's a new book out that alot of single people should look into a

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discrete Dictionary. Well, what isthat? So you know what's going on
in these street reads? Author KimRead is joining us. A wait.
I love when I have to likeschool everybody else because there's a lot of
things out out here. I rememberwhen people didn't know what ghosting was,

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when people would just disappear and you'rethinking everything is great when people are breadcrumbing
you. They give you a littlepiece that I gonna give you the whole
cake. You're not even gonna geta pizza cake, but they're gonna leave
you little crumbs to string you alongand keep you interested. Kim read Optimus
always when she's an author. CorporateAmerica Guru. Are you ready to know

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what's in Discrete Dictionary? Yeah?Because I want to know the book because
I'm singlicious. Honey, I needto know all the teake. Okay,
call of booty, Call of booty. Call of booty is when grown men,
particularly those over forty, still playingjuvenile dating games. Oh lordy know

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a whole lot of them. Yeah, game of tones when you're seeing a
bunch of different people. Don't wantto put it all on the men.
You're seeing a bunch of different people, and they all have unique ring tones.
So when they call you, you'llbe knowing who it is. Oh.
I do that because I have differentemojis for different people in different you

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know, different descriptors. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, that's just not
the men. That's just not themen. Okay, let's talk about mapping.
What's that? Okay, So sayyou live uptown, all your dates
are going to be in Center Cityor I'm hearing Northeast Philly. I mean

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a lot of people they go ifthey don't live in Northeast Philly, they
will go to something like Northeast Philliesto take the sides. Some people hop
on over to Jersey. But youcan't do South Jersey because that's when you're
gonna run into me. Always catchingpeople kim cheating in South Jersey. I
don't know what the hell it is. And they'd be like, what are
you doing here? You don't evenlive over here. It's happened to me.

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It's but I'm telling you, Igo to South Jersey. I said,
watch, I see something's supposed tosay, you know. Or they'll
go into maybe Central Jersey. They'llgo away, they'll go to Wilmington,
they'll go to Delaware. But they'renot gonna go where they're where they normally
are. Are you familiar with mapping? No? I am learning now,

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honey, because you know, becauseI'm in I'm in Jersey Jersey. Honey.
Okay, yeah, see you're inJersey Jersey. You got to go
to where you are in Jersey Jersey, not South Jersey. Not Ruth forty
two. Not rut seventy. Youbound to see me on rout seventy,

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New Jersey, so it's all good. Wow two. Yeah, I'm telling
you. Oh yeah, they reallycreeping if they were you at But if
it's South Jersey, you just dolike this. Okay, okay, I
Ron day two. Oh tell me, this ain't nothing new. This is

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a couple and they have an ongoingarrangement with another couple. They've just given
it a new name. Oh I'mcool. I'm cool on that one.
The fifth Annual Discret Dictionary is oundin the street. You got to grow
the dating vocabular Even when you arein a relationship. Guess what, you

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still need to know what's happening inthese streets. Yeah, veteran broadcaster Uncle
Lowe is joining us. I lovehitting him with news stuff. And even
though he's happily married, there arethings in these streets. Everybody needs to
know the dating scene for cheaters.This is a real thing. Oh.

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Matter of fact, there is abook. It's called this. It's called
a Discreet Dictionary. Mm. NowI don't want to So you can help
your friends, or you can belike, I know what that is.
Oh okay. For instance, I'mgonna give you some I'm gonna give you

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some examples. You know, datingand being out here is fun, but
there are a lot of sinister people. There are a lot of real life
jokesters. Have you ever heard ofauto erect? Man, You've always giving
me something new. I've never heardabout it. No, I've never heard
of it. It's when people,you know, people are into sex thing.

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Nowadays, they use their chat GPTto form the conversation when they're sexting.
Wow. Man, that's diabolical rightthere, because how you use the
chat GPT to sex people. Ohman, I've never heard of that one

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out And you got me with thisone. I don't know if I would.
Maybe I should try that with mywife later. Let me her we
used to chat gpt me. Itmay spice it up a little bit.
Maybe I'm missing something. May maybeI'll sound maybe I sound slow to her
and some of my sexting. Maybemy sex thing can get a little more
exquisite for her. Have you everheard of mapping? Mapping? I've heard,

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I've heard of it in different termsof logistics, but what for a
relations can say? You live inDelaware? Right? You live in Delaware?
You're not gonna be cheating in Delaware. You're gonna go go to Philly.
You's gonna go down on Penn's Landingwhen it's warm, or Center City.

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Maybe you'll go up the way.You'll go up to the Northeast because
you'll be like, nobody gonna knowme up here. There are people who
map out the areas that they cango and cheat. Man, that's too
much work, daddy, How yougonna That's way too much Where If I
gotta map out that you live inIndianapolis for me to cheat, then why

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do I gotta am I doing allthat thing? These people got way too
much time. There's some childish folksout here. You are going out here,
You are figured out that you cancheat in East Bumblehell just so you
can get away from your wife oryour mate and being with someone else's.
That's it's insane. I don't havetime for it. You got me joking

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Kenny here? But oh these arethings that are like really happening. Have
ever heard of Kenning? No?But let me go back to this mapping.
I remember mapping when I used todate because I wouldn't date certain people
in certain areas, so I remembergoing far out in New Jersey and teenage

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years ago just to date. Butwhat's this other way Kenning? Yeah,
Kenny, Okay, this is whenmen realize that monogamy it's not the default
relationship style for the modern woman,Like you're just not going to be using
them, you know, like,well you're the default because I'm gonna still

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be out here in these streets theycall that with men Kenning. Wow,
man, I can't keep up.I think you kenning now because you don't
want to be with you want tobe playing and doing all kinds of nonsense
out here, giving your women HIVand all kind of foolishness. Like no,
I'm not kidding, I'm chilling.That one still exists, right,

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yes, yes it does. Okay. One Game of Tones Mmmm no,
now listen, I notice got somethingto do with the Game of Thrones.
But well, you don't have toexplain this to me. You know all
this stuff, you know, allthe sight doesn't mean that I'm a cheeter.
I do research. I'm a researcher. I love conversation. I love

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to talk about everything. Yes,okay. Game of Tones is when you
you had a group of people thatyou're messing with and they only have their
own individual ring tones, so youknow who's calling. Man who even has
the ringer on anymore? I don'teven have the ringer on unless there's a
certain way to phone vibrate. Idon't know, I don't I guess this

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is again it's way too much work. If you got this much energy,
you better not be broke. Youbetter because if one, if you can
do this and and and organize thisto the way you're the way you're doing
it, with all these names andall these different ways to cheat, then
you better have some money to beable to fund it, and and you

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better be running a business if youcan do that, uh and cheat and
still get away with it. There'salways something new every day. Oh you
get me all the time. Youget me all the time. I've never
heard of it until I talk toyou. I wait, I gotta talk
to Patty and find out what's newout here. We've got deck Stucky,

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the deck Stucky Experience, the Dexter. He's happily married, and we love
him being happily married. But whatdo I say, I'm married? Friends
need to know what's going on inthese streets. And yeah, yeah,
there's a cheat code out decks.There is a discrete dictionary what I'm telling

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you, I'm telling you. Areyou ready? I don't think so,
but I'm gonna pretend like I am. Okay. Have you ever heard of
auto erect? Auto erect? Uhhuh? This is a family show.
What are you talking about? Well, this is when people use chat GPT

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during sex thing like they're sex thing, but the chat GPT they're they're coming
up with how to say I wantto see your booty. Yes, because
if you think about it, ifyou're saying it in your own words,
sometimes it'd be like, I know, for me, backet back way way
way back in the day, whenI would do things like that, you
know, you say things, It'slike I would never see this in real

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life. So I don't even thissounds weird me making this up. But
if you shat GPT, they'll makeyou sound real spicy. I like that.
A game of tones mm hmmm.It's when you may be seeing a
group of people and they all havevery unique ring tones. Not as smart

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too, that is smart. Ilike it. Ronde two. This is
not new. They just give itnew names. Couples who have an ongoing
arrangement with another couple with another couple. Yeah, like they agreed to swap

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partners and all that, but it'sjust between them. No, no,
no, no, no run tunesfor me. Okay, have you ever
heard of mapping? Is that likeyou don't date people in the same area.
Yes, But what you do isyou do it strategically. Say you're

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living in Jersey, you know,to mess with somebody in Philly Penn's Landing
Center city. Yeah. Maybe incollege we would do the but like,
you can't mess with two girls inthe same dorm room, Like you would
have to go to another dorm becauseyou don't want to get caught in that
dorm room after hours. Well,I just have a word for anybody that

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I know that be cheating and thinkthey can go to South Jersey. I
have busted people on Route seventy onRoots forty two. It has now become
a running joke. Oh God,Patty's coming to Jersey. Who's she going
to see? I'm always right,it's right across the bridge. You think
we don't go to New Jersey?What's wrong with you? You gonna be

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cheating in New Jersey. You gottago to Atlantic City. No, I
call somebody cheating in Atlantic City.They were trying to hide from me.
But also you're different though, becauseif I see you somewhere and I'm doing
something, I don't got no business. I'm jumping out the window. I
literally will catch somebody cheating in SouthJersey. I don't know what that is.

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So you got to go a littlefarther. Maybe you can go down
Wildwood. But no mapping is whenyou're very deliberate about who you're cheating with
him where you're going to take themto cheat. Wo see a lot of
people head on over there, rooteseventy y'all going to the end of the
day, stop it. You knowwhat, I really could have been a

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detective. I really could have couldhave been a people You're like, You're
like, you're like the Oprah ofcheating, like people will admit to you
when they're cheating. Is just likehe's like, worry about it all.
Conversation is important and summer are fun. But this is a real thing and

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these terms are real. Dexter,Thank you. Dex actually puts it all
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Patty Jackson, thanks for joining us.