April 7, 2025 • 48 mins
In tonight’s episode of Crystal’s Nightcap, you will not believe what they tried to get to me to do at church, I get in a HUGE fight with my best friend, the most epic pranks I pulled on my coworkers, I take a pregnancy test for the first time, and MORE!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hello, who's in here? It's so dark? Ew? What's dripping?
I can step on something? You're now inside crystals case.
Can you believe it? Yep, we are back another episode
of Crystal's Nightcap. I take my first pregnancy test. I'm
pulling these epic pranks. We get a huge fight with
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one of my best friends, and you will not believe
what they try to get me to do at church. Hello,
who's in here? It's so dark? Ew? What's dripping? I
can step on something? You're now inside Crystal's case. I'm
in my tea era where I started exploring a different
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hot teas. Lavender came mill white. What's like the white?
I forget green teas? But yeah, I've been going online
and look for different teas to indulge. I just kind
of want to taste the world through my palate because
I love coffee. I'm a coffee girl. Iced coffee is
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my life. But I begin like anxiety sometimes when I
drink three cups of coffee a day. So I leave
my iced coffee for work, and when I wake up
in the morning, I go and I turn on my
little water kennel and I pick out which tea would
I like? Today, some pomegranate, some jasmine. So I've been
in my tea era. And the other day when I
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was going to get my hair done, I woke up,
did my face, whipped up a little cup of day
and I got into a taxi to go downtown to
my hair appointment. So I'm driving at the taxi and
from the first five minutes I start feeling weezy, girl,
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Like my stomach starts feeling like ooh, I don't know
what's going on here, like what is the issue? He
turns downtown and my my mouth starts quaking. I don't
know if you feel that feeling, like when your mouth
starts getting water in your jaw starts trembling, like you
are gonna yack. I don't know what to do. I
tapped the taxi driver. I'm like, sir, I'm about to
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throw up. Can you please pull over right now? So
we pulled over it just in the middle of the street.
I you did the door open and just projectiled. Sorry. Sorry, sorry, sorry,
sorry if you're a queasy person. But yes, I project tiled,
and I felt like really good. Right afterwards. He had
some paper towels in the car and he just gave
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me some paper towels and I cleaned right up. But
I felt fine. Got my hair appointment, no big thing,
went to work, YadA, YadA, YadA. My hair looks amazing.
La la, la la la. The next morning, I am again,
same thing. Boil my tea, up beat my face, do
my hair. I'm walking to the train station, and as
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I'm walking one block, I'll start getting that feeling again
that my stomach is just going through it. So I
am a block in, I see a garbage can. I
sprint to the garbage can because my mouth is quivering
and watering and and ye projectile vomit again. I'm like, dang,
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what in the floozy is going on here? So in
the next morning, I'm walking on my way to the
train station and I'm on the phone with son that
I'm my mom. I'm just like, Mom, it's been really weird.
I've been vomiting the past two mornings. I don't know
what's going on. She goes, you better not be pregnant. No, no, no,
And that didn't even cross my mind, girl, that did
not even crossed my mind, because I'm on the copper thing,
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the copper good. I'm good for ten years as of
twenty twenty. So, dang, I'm five years in. Since I'm
five years into my tenuere, time is flying by. So
I'm five years into my ten uyere. My mom says,
you better not be pregnant. I will literally end you.
And I'm like, no, of course, where're'm all pregnant? No way.
As I'm walking into CVS, I'm literally trotting into CVS,
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I put my mom on mute. I'm like, Hi, where's
a pregnancy test? They have to get them out with
the key. I grab a pregnancy test. I'm scared now
and I'm praying to Lord baby sweet Jesus up above now.
And I'm walking up to my job and I grab
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the test. I go into the stall at work and
I attempt to, you know, go number one on the
little sticky stick. This is my first time ever taking
a pregnancy test. Mind you have never taken a pregancy
testest before. And I whipped the little stick out. Girl.
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I perioded on the stick. I perioded on the There
is blood on the stick. I'm like, there is a God,
there is a Jesus, you love me. We dodged a
good one. I am just praying so much I'm like,
I love you, Jesus, I love you like I will
be a good girl going forward. I promise, like, no, no, no, na.
I start telling the story to my one of my
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bosses here, Kara. I'm just like haraah, oh my gosh,
you wouldn't believe I tell everything. And she's like, girl,
it's because are you drinking tea on an empty stomach.
I'm like yeah, She's like, girl, I cannot take tea
on an empty stomach. I get nauseous too, I said, oh,
it could be the tea. It could be the tea.
So long story shore we dodge a bullet. This is
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not the right time for me to be getting pregnated
in these streets by Zaddy. I love him and we
cannot wait. We are just praying for the day that
we get to be parents together, shared embryo together. It
is going to be such a blessing. We already have
my bonus son, my stepson. We already have a thirteen
year old and he is everything and more so blessed
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for him. Me and Zaddy, though, we can't wait to
share one together. You know, like you and the person
that you love most in the entire world, sharing a
little being together. It is going to be a blessing,
but it's just not the right time. Girl. Like I
live in New York City, zad he lives across the country.
We haven't even gotten married yet. That would just be
so embarrassing. He cannot live here yet. You know, there's
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just so many things that need to happen before that.
So we are, we're going to be doing all the
right things, all the good things. Please keep us in
your prayers. We are trying to stay away from each other.
It's rough. It's rough in these streets. I'm not gonna
lie to you, but uh yeah, let's all deep breath in,
deep breath out, because I'm thirty one. Sis ain't no
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time to abort omission. Like, if God grants me that blessing,
that is a blessing that I am going to keep. Fortunately,
So just pray that it is in our time when well,
obviously everything is in God's time, but we have some
things to do still, we have plans to make and
there is not a child involved within the next two
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and a half years. So let's just pray all good
things on that. How about that? Amen? We are not pregnant,
so we are love in life. I also need to
give you an update on what's going on in Misav's days.
I'm still going to church every single Sunday here in
New York City, and when I'm back home with our family,
Zaddy and I go to his church, and it's been great.
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You know, our spiritual journeys, they have been better than ever.
There are a lot of forces from a whole bunch
of different well actually one same centered area around our
lives that's trying to bring us down. But because we've
been so centered in God, it's been so helpful to
not engage in anything that's negative or in people that
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only want to bring negativity to us, so isn't really helpful.
There is some things though, that have been triggering about
my hospitality group, and I love them so much since
I started going to church. I mean, the reason, and
I share this all the time. The reason, one of
the big reasons that I started going to church here
in New York City is because I was feeling very lonely,
so I kind of needed a group. And every Sunday
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after MISA, we have a hospitality group where when I
first started coming here, we were just sharing tea, coffee
and pastries while we faith share, but it has since
evolved into a full on hometown buffet situation where people
are bringing spaghetti, meatballs and s la das. It's obviously
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like a blessing, but also because I help set it
up and lead things, it's also kind of become in
one way, somewhat of a burden. And I'll explain why.
I'm obviously so grateful and thankful for the people in
a hospitality group that want to bring full on meals. However,
they come and they just drop it off, and they
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want sometimes they want other people to do the work
that entails with the meals. Because when I was leading hospitality,
I'd bring muffins, I'd bring fruitita, just croissants, easy finger foods.
But a lot more goes into it when you're bringing
a whole Thanksgiving buffet. For example, there are people that
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like to bring full on rot tostory chickens and they
just bring them to me. They are bringing me full
on rotwostory chickens. They're bringing me packaged rice. So instead
of me leading the faith sharing, I am tucked away
in the kitchen heating rice and using dole knives to
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literally like cut and debone and carve full oily chickens.
Mind you, I don't even do this stuff at my
own house, like you know me, even though I have
been dabbling in cooking a little bit for me and Zaddie,
But yeah, girl, I really don't even do this in
my own house. So I've been getting humbled on Sunday's
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misa and again. For a while, I was doing it.
But then after months and months of doing this and
being the one to be there afterwards, cleaning forks and
washing dishes and all the things, I was just like,
you know what, this is not my job and this
is not serving me. I come on Sundays to relax
and drink some goffesesiital and just hang out with my
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people here hospitality. I'm starting to get stressed because of
what people are deciding to bring and kind of throwing
it on me. So I'm going to step back from
that from a little bit. So I started just leaving.
If anyone brought food, I just left it there, and
if people wanted to warm it up, I was just like,
you can warm it up yourselves. I just would just
leave it there and I would bring the coffee. I
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would boil the stuff for the coffee, I'd boil the tea.
I'd be there handing out the coffees and the tea.
But when it came to the qumia, I was just
leaving it there and that was cool for a while,
and whoever wanted to heat that stuff up, then they
were hitting it up and they were missing out all
the face sharing. And that's what was annoying to me,
is that people are missing They're tucked away in the
kitchen lullygagging at the microwave over and over and over
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for the whole time, instead of sharing your blessings and prayers,
which was the point of this. But if people want
to do that, that's very cool. I've been setting boundaries.
The other morning, I come in, I see a homie
there who brings bags bags of food to warm up
for everyone, a hospitality after church. And again it's really nice.
I think it's so sweet. That's his love language is
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sharing and giving. So I see that he's kind of
wrestling around the things, and I go up to him, like, hey,
go to see you, brother, What can I help you with?
What do you need? And he's looking around and he
grabs a rotissery chicken. He grabs a rotesstory chicken and
he goes towards me. He goes, can you help cut
the chicken? And in my head, I'm just like, bro,
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there's no way he's asking me to cut this chicken
up right now, Like there is no way he wants
me to carve and debone this chicken. And I'm battling
in my head because on one end of things, I
did ask you need help. On the other end of things,
I've been dodging this dang rotissery chicken for months now,
and this is not what I want to do on
a Sunday, Monk, I have my long press ons. I
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just pressed on. The chicken gets stuck all up under there.
I'm the one that has to wash all the juice afterwards.
I just I take a deep breath and I giggle
and I say, O, homie, I will do anything except that.
I just I don't. He's like, oh oh, I'm like yeah,
I just get stuck under my nails. I get grossed
out by it. I personally don't really get grossed out
by it, but I just don't want to do it,
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like if I'm doing it for my family and at home,
like that is one thing, and I really don't even
do that often for them, but on a Sunday when
I need to relax again, it's just it's it's not
my calling, like that is that is not my calling.
I look at him and I go, you know what,
let me do the coffee though. I will. I will
start the coffee first, and I start the coffee and
I'm just so proud of myself for setting that boundary,
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and and then you know, it's all goes fine. We
go to Mesa, we have our hospitality, it's cool whatever.
I immediately go home and I FaceTime Zaddie. I'm like,
baby you and not believe what happened. And he goes, no,
not the chicken again, not the chicken. I was like, yup,
they asked me to do the chicken and I said no.
He says what you said? No? Oh my goodness, cause
it's a big deal for me to say, Like I
am such a people pleaser and I always like to help.
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I always want to be a team player. But yeah,
I just had to stick to my guns and I
said no. And Zaddie was very very proud of me.
He knows how hard it must have been for me
to say no. He said he too would have said no,
and we did that. And this is just a reminder
for you that you do not have to do things
you don't want to do. We were granted free will
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at birth, and I want to remind you that you
could stick to your guns. And if there are some
boundaries that you yourself have been crossing for you and
you're just like, you know what, I don't think I
need to do that anymore. That does not serve me anymore.
I'm gonna not then not just giggle and say, you
know what, I'm gonna have to do something else, so,
you know what, this doesn't serve me anymore. You know what,
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I think I'll be better at doing this. You know
you will leave that for somebody else, because at thirty
one years old, I finally said no for something, and
I never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever ever say no.
So round of applause for boundaries, Wishing you that same
boldness and bravery next time you're asked to do something
you just don't want to do, just say, you know,
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we'll leave to someone else. I actually I could do this.
I didn't tell you this huge argument I got in
with one of my really good friends Michelle. I talk
about her all the time. She's probably my parents' age.
She's divorced. She's such a great mom. She lives here
in New York City. She'd be going out with me,
I and buy her to stuff. She invites me to things.
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We love to have fun, go out together. She's a really,
really good friend and has been there for me for
so many things. She's the older sister that I have
here pretty much in New York City. I haven't seen
it in a while, but we got into it, which
was crazy. Now. Michelle and I a few summers ago,
we traveled somewhere that one of her friends, someone she knew,
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put like a house together for us, and so we
all see it at that house. And I really enjoyed
that house. And I had been in contact with that
guy to go hang out that house since a few
times now. One night, me and Michelle were going out
and I got a text from that guy and he
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told me that it was his birthday coming up, and
he invited me to go to a house to go
celebrate his birthday, and YadA, YadA, YadA. And I had
noticed that this guy was sending me invites to things
quite often, and I brought it up to Michelle and
I was like, we'll call him Mark. I was like, Michelle,
your friend Mark just hit me up that it's their
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birthday weekend and they invited me to go to their
birthday and she's like, oh, okay, okay. I was like,
she's like, are you going to go? And I was like, no,
I'm not going to go. I don't know anyone that
would go over there, and I probably have to work
that weekend, and she was like cool. So then the
next day, I wake up and he invites me to
something else, and I was going through my text between
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him and I, and I noticed that he really only
invited me to things that you have to pay for,
Like he's kind of a promoter. I would say, he'd
be like, oh, rooftop jazz blah blah blah, hiring a pianoist,
get your ticket here of Van Bray and it's like
ten bucks. And so I feel like he sends these
mass texts out and I noticed that it's only he
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only invites me related things that we're gonna have to
pay for, including that house thing that he wanted to
do for his birthday. He kind of sent me a
link and it was Oh, you know, we're all sharing
and here's this, this, this, and blah blah blah blah.
And so the next day I texted Michelle. I was like, Michelle,
I noticed that you have to pay. He is only
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inviting me things where you have to pay. And she
responds and she goes, well, I'm busy, I can't go.
I'm going with friends blah blah blah blah blah. But
I don't want to go have a second invite have fun.
That's not what a real friend would do. And then
I'm like, uh, what are you talking about, Michelle, and
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she goes, oh, yeah, I know you got his info
behind my back. If you wanted it, I would have
given it to you. But that's not what a good
friend does. You shouldn't be getting people' stuff behind my back.
Someone needs to teach you a manners and friendships. But
I know how it is now and that's just how
you are. And I texted her back, I'm like, Michelle,
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what are you talking about. I didn't get anyone's info
behind your back. When we went to the first time
to the house, I asked you if you could link
us up so that I can go with my friends
to that house and you gave me his info. I
never did anything behind your back, and she goes, yes,
you did. That, never happened. I never gave them your
info or gave you his info. But it's okay. I
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just see how you are now, hope you have a
great month. And I'm bugging because in my head I'm thinking, girl,
I know for a fact I asked you for this
guy's info. So I go on my computer and I
go through all my text messages and I look up
this guy's name and I find it clear as day,
and I screenshot the texts and I send them to her,
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and the text to literally say, hey, thank you for
giving me his info. We're gonna go this weekend and
I can't wait to go, and I just want to
say thank you again, like you're rowan Michelle for linking
us up. And so I send those screenshots to her
and I say, Sis, I don't know where this is
coming from. I don't know what you're talking about, but
here's the screenshots to prove that yes, you did in
fact give me their info. I would never go behind
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your back. It's not even worth it for me to
go behind your back for anything. You're one of my
really good friends. I don't know where the energy is
coming from. I love you so much and it just
hurts me that you think i'm that person that I'm not.
So that was that she didn't hit me back at all,
and I was just like, this is very very weird.
So I'm talking to my other friend Alex about this.
I'm like, Alex, like, Michelle got really weird in a text.
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She like went off on me for no reason. And
I don't know if it's because she's older than us
and maybe things get confused in text messages and you know,
maybe she thought that I was showing off that and saying, oh,
you have to pay and I don't have to pay
for events, but no, I was trying to tell Michelle
that any events he invites us to, we have to pay,
like not you have to pay, but we have to pay.
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Very very weird. And Alex was like, yeah, I remember
she went off on me one time too in a
group text because you texted back somethings. She thought that
I texted back, and I was like, yeah, I think
she just gets confused and text messages, which was whatever
the case, I didn't say anything, and within like a
month and a half. Yes, it was a long time,
but this was in the fall time, so I think
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this was around the time I got engaged, so so
much was going on. We didn't even really link up,
and she had a lot of stuff going, especially on
with like Israel and all those things of her family,
so she had to go back and all this stuff.
So I didn't talk to her for a while. But
about a month and a half after that whole text fiasco,
she texted me out the blue and was like, hey, sweetie,
I'm in town. Let me know if you're in New York.
I'd love to see you. And I just thought it
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was weird that she didn't acknowledge anything about our weird
text fight, and so much is going on by this time,
I think it was already November and me and Zaddy
were traveling. Oh yeah, we were in Mexico for the wedding,
and then like jingle Ball was coming up and I
texted her back in the holidays. I was like, haysis,
happy holidays. I've been back and forth too, I'll see
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you in twenty twenty five. He got a Lata regatta.
So then we come back for the New year and
it's probably over a month in twenty twenty five, and
she texts me, She's like, hasis It's been so long.
We both looked back and forth, you know, let me
know if you're down to get coffee or come over
whatever it is, and mind you, like Zaddy knows everything
that happened between me and her, Zaddy thinks is very
weird and bizarre. He kind of got a little sy
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I about it. But I had told him how she
was one of my best friends here in New York.
She's been with me through a lot, and I really
value her as a human and a friendship and I
miss her and I would love to link up. So
her and I link up at a coffee shop, and
I'm really excited to see her. But I'm still a
little but her about that fight because in my head,
I'm thinking the argument I would say, the little dispute,
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because I was thinking if I never had those screenshots,
she would have really thought that She seriously, in her head,
thought that I went behind her back to talk to
some dude to get invited to parties. And I just
thought it was so silly to have an argument over that,
and she would have really thought that I was that
type of person that I was that kind of friend,
and I'm not that kind of person. I'm not that
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kind of friend. I don't even know why this was
even an issue. So I was kind of hurt that
she was so sold on that and was painting me
as this person that I knew that I wasn't, And
if I literally didn't have those screenshots, she wouldn't have known.
So we link up in the Upper east Side at
this coffee shop and I see her. We give each
other a big hug. It's like no time has passed.
We start chatting it up a little bit and she
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quickly mentions and says, oh, by the way, Crystal, I'm
sorry about that text situation we had. There was a
lot going on at that time, you know, everything with
my family in Israel, and I was just really stressed
and I think I was just taking it out on you.
I'm sorry about that. And I was like, okay, yeah,
all good, and she kind of just glazed over it
a little bit, and then we just kept talking and
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talking and chatting and chatting, and the evening is going on.
I mean, we have months to catch up on. We
are yipping in nap and yipping and nap and drinking
like helicoffee now and having a good old girl time,
kind of like nothing happened. So then it's getting a
little later and I bringing I bring it up again. Well,
she actually brings up another friend. So we're talking about
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the same guy, Mark, right, And she brings up Mark
and I say, oh, Mark, wait, the mark that you
that you went on on a date with And she
goes yeah. And I was like, oh, okay, because I
thought you were thinking about the mark from the house
the house because there's two marks, because one mark I
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hung out with her on kind of a date and
that's a date mark. But then the other mark, we're
talking about the house mark, the guy that a house
that rents out and then he bites us to things
that we have to pay for. He's pretty much like
a promoter. And so I go, you're talking about the
date mark and she goes yes, And I say, oh,
this was the same mix up about the texts. And
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she goes, what do you mean and I say, yeah,
because they have the same name. They have the same
name Mark. It's not Mark, but we let's just pretend
it's Mark. And she goes the text I said, yes,
the texts that you thought I went behind your back
to talk about to text Mark. We were I was
texting the Mark about the house mark, but you're talking
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about the guy who went on a date work with Mark.
And she goes, wait no, I oh my gosh, I
go wait what And she's like that whole thing, Oh, Crystal,
I thought you were talking uh oh, And I say, wait,
was this whole thing a huge miscommunication? So we discover
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that the reason that she got so mad about the
Lake house Mark was because she thought that after I
went out with the date with the date mark, it
was her date right her date, and I was kind
of the third wing lift a little bit. She thought
that I went behind her back and got his number
because he was having a birthday party at a house
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that weekend. She thought that he texted me behind her
back to invite me to his party when she went
a date with and he didn't text her, and that
I was kind of throwing in her face that the
guy she won a date with I hung out with too,
is over here texting me. So literally, she had those
two men confused, and that's why she got so upset
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at me. And so her truth technically was true, like
if she was thinking of that date Mark, she never
gave him my number, and me, she never gave me
his number. I never asked for it. So it did
look like we were talking behind her back, but I
was talking about a completely different mark. So we were
laughing for like twenty minutes about this stupid, stupid mix up,
about these two guys that don't even matter or mean
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anything to any of us, and over a simple miscommunication.
Literally like me and Alex said like, yeah, she's just
like gets people confused and gets tones mixed up in
text messages. And I was just like, Michelle, this is
so this is so dumb, Like this is literally so dumb.
I was so hurt at you, and she's saying I
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was so hurt at you. I was already thinking, man,
what if her man ZADDI finds out that she's texting
this guy behind you know, his back, getting invited to parties.
He's probably trying to hit on her. I'm like, Michelle,
I never ever got that guy's number. Yes, that would
have been very, very weird. It was a completely different mark,
and this is just so silly. So yeah, I pretty
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much got in a huge fight with Michelle over nothing,
and silly communications really can ruin friendships like that. By
the end of the day, sometimes you got to put
your pride aside. And I'm so thankful that we hash
it down. We literally laugh about it now. We were
so busy at those times. But dang, just a simple miscommunication.
Have you ever gone into a fight like that with
the friend? I can't even say that something like this
has ever happened to me before. It's just the generational
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differences are so funny. The technological differences are silly too.
And I'm happy that we were able to mend it
because she really is one of my really good friends
here in New York City. It would be such a
el to not have her in my life. She has
been doing such good with her business, and I'm really
proud of her and I love her so much. And yeah,
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f those marks, that was just for no reason. Now,
would you consider yourself a prankster? Like a good prankster,
because I have been pulling the best pranks on my
coworkers recently, and I just I have a whole notes
app now that I need to share with you. This
is iconic. So first of all, let me share the prank,
the most epic prank I pulled on Shelley Rome. She
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does Lene's here on Z one hundred. She's one of
my best coworker friends here. I would trust this woman
with my life. She brings me so much joint happiness.
And she's so emotionally stable, self aware, giving, loving, sweet,
and I just I love Shelley Rom. I love all
my coworkers here now, but I really really love Shelley Rom.
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So she comes in. She has an interview with an
artist that I have not had the best interactions with
this artist when they present me to interview them, I
respectfully pass this artist. A lot of people have bad
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stories and relationships with and they got canceled rightfully. So
and now they're booking a radio promo tours. Again. I'm
not going to use any names. Some people can infer
you can guess who. But yeah, that is happening, and
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our girl, Shelley ended up doing the interview. Now, after
the interview happened, like Shelley and I I had over
a shift that crossed over, so I was going to
see her and we were with our friends here at work,
all in the studio, and I of course ask her
I'm like, oh my gosh, what happened with your interview
with blah blah blah. I need to freaking know all
the tea. So, by the way, we're on TikTok Live.
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And I think I've mentioned this too, but we're on
TikTok Live every single afternoon your afternoons with Crystal Odal Sauce.
While I'm on air, I'm also on TikTok Live at
lack Crystal Real Sauce. And I told Shelley, I'm like,
before you start talking, make sure you turn off the live.
So she grabs my burner phone. She turns off the live,
and Shelley starts talking about how everything went with them
and stuff with the record label and a whole bunch
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of tea, like steamy firing tea, and me and our
coworkers that are here were just like jaw dropped. We're like,
oh my gosh, like that's insane. I start telling my
stories blah blah blah. Everyone gets gives their perspective no, no, no, no nah,
And then we're kind of wrapping up the conversation, which
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was a pretty long conversation. I would say like maybe
like thirty minutes I grabbed my burner phone and I go, Shelly,
you didn't turn off the live. And the look on
her face when she turned pale white like a ghost,
thinking that everything she just said was on a TikTok
live stream. Oh my gosh. She was just like, no, wait,
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but I did, But I did. I said, no, no, look, look,
look just kidding. You did turn off the live. And
everyone in the room was like, Cristal, you're crazy for that.
Oh no, And oh my gosh, it was so good.
It was so good. It was so so, so good,
and we were just rolling. And even the next day
she comes in, we do crossover again. She goes, Crystal,
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I have to tell you I woke up today and
I was still panicked that for some reason, the live
was on, and I say, says, don't worry, it was off.
I did double check when you said it off, because
I knew that we were about to get into some
crazy tea. But yeah, no, that was an amazing prank
on Shelley Rome number one. The second one I need
to share is with our girl Keana. She does overnights
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here on Z one hundred. She thought me in oh
my gosh it, I'm so blessed with them, like she
is just the sweetest angel. She's been at Z one
hundred for I want to say, maybe over a year now,
so she's relatively new compared to me and Josh. But
she is such a powerhouse. She's so talented on air.
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I'm so proud of her and thankful that she's part
of our squad. She's the sweetest sweetheart ever. She would
never even harm even a fly. She comes from far away.
She comes. She comes from all the way deep in
Long Island, so she'd be driving in most days. And
this is one of our weekend shifts that she was
coming in and I was doing the morning weekend shift,
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so I was wrapping up around two pm. And sometimes
there's like random stuff, random accidents, random things here and there,
especially on the weekends, the trains run super super late.
I've been a victim of this, of like running in
right at the top of the hour were whatever the
case may be. So about thirty minutes before I'm supposed
to take off of the shift and she's supposed to
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start her shift, I get a text from her. She's like, Crystal,
there's a crazy accident. Like I might be like a
minute or two late. Can you just like seg the
top of hour for me. I'm so so sorry. I'm like, hey,
don't worry, says like I got you. It's all good,
no problem. It's really not a problem at all, Like
it doesn't impede on me at all. And I'm not
gonna leave the station until she gets there. So and
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like I said, I've ran like a minute or well
actually probably more, but yeah, I've been late before for work.
It happens to the best of us. We try not
to make it happen. But the good thing about zero
hundred is that there's always someone there that can help
you out usually, so you know, we always give grace
to situations and things like that. So she tells you that,
and I'm on FaceTime with Zaddy at the time. I'm
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here in the station in the studio on FaceTime with Zaddi.
I'm like, Babe, when I tell you, oh, she just
got here, can you respond and say thanks for letting
me know. I'll talk to you later on speaker And
he said, okay, all right, but he didn't really know
what was going on. So I'm gonna pull an epic
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prank now on Kiana. So the top of the Hour starts.
I like run the songs as if nothing. I mean,
it's really not a big deal. And I see her.
She is sprinting in with bags, coming in, huffing and puffing.
She opens the door and again I'm on FaceTime with Zaddy,
but she doesn't know that, and I go, oh, Mark,
don't worry, she just ran in. And then Zaddi responds,
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he goes, okay, sounds good. Thanks for letting me know,
have a good afternoon. And Keana is like tiptoeing in
and she goes oh, and I go, sorry, that's our boss.
Like I just I had to let She goes, oh yeah, yeah, okay, okay,
and I go bye. And then I just kind of
like he just like is there. And then I go
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just kidding and Zaddie and She's like dang. She goes dang.
I was thinking, Oh, I thought Crystal was cooler than that.
Me and Zaddy start busting out laughing. I'm like, babe,
I just praank Keana, like making her think that you
were our boss Mark, our boss is awesome Mark, our
boss Mark, and like tattling on her that she was late,
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and we start heaving in Keana's face. I'm telling you
Keana's face when she really thought that I was talking
to our boss, so so good, so funny. Mind you
our boss Mark, he's hella cool. I mean, he doesn't
want us coming in late, No boss does. But if
he heard the situation, he'd be totally cool about it,
and he'd just be like, you know, just be careful,
maybe give yourself a little extra buffer, Like let's try
not to be late. It's good that Crystal is there.
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You know, maybe next time she might not be there
and that's normal, Like that's that's totally fine. But like Keana,
you know, she still knew and as new as a
newer person on the team, Like you don't want, you know,
your boss knowing that, like maybe you just came in
a few seconds late, like you know, for us in radio,
like at one point in our career is like being
late was the end of the world for us, and
you know it still is, like we don't again, we
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don't like to be late. We try not to be late,
but it does happen to the best of us, especially
if you're driving in from Long Island on a weekend
and there's like, hella traffic. I'm telling you it's like
it'd be going down like that sometimes. But uh yeah,
but when I see that little Kiana, she was freaking
the heck out. She really thought that I tattled on
her and was the ops And I would never, ever, ever,
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ever do that, And even like in this case, like again,
I'm of course sharing this with you here on the pod,
and you know, maybe someone's like, it doesn't matter. At
the end of the day, it was a prank. It's
not that big of a deal that she was four
seconds late to work. But to her and to us
in radio, like it could have been, it could have
felt like a big deal, especially if it looks like
your coworker who you thought was your homide is out
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here snitching. But poor Keana, love you, sis, I'm glad
I got you good and I cannot wait to continue
my strings of pranks and just tear my coworkers and
people around me because I love pranking people. It brings
me so so so much joy, So please be prepared
for more pranks in the future. So that's what's been
going on with me and my life. Just a few
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stories to share that I hope but kept you entertained
for this past half hour. Thank you for hanging out
for another episode of Crystal's Nightcap. We like to wrap
up this show with a little daily motivation. It's called
the Daily Motivator. Great Day dot Com. This one on Monday,
April seventh. It's called Marvels of this Day. Your very breast,
each and everyone is a miracle. Take some time to
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focus on your breathing and only on your breathing and
the life energy continually brings. The light you are able
to see is amazing in all its hues, intensities, directions,
and motions. Pay attention to the light, the shadows, how
they change, the feelings and thoughts they bring. Consider all
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the physical reality you touch and walk upon and hold
in your hands. Imagine the possibilities and all the substance,
and challenge yourself to fulfill some of the best ones.
Listen as the when seeings of a journey it's been
making for hundreds or thousands of miles. Feel in its
restless stance the connection you have to all that is
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with simple acts of awareness, awaken to the beauty and
power of existence. That's nice. That's a good one. With
simple acts of awareness, awaken the body the beauty and
power of existence. Awaken to the beauty and power of existence.
Remind yourself again and again of the potential for meaning
and fulfillment. Fill your thoughts with gratitude, fill your heart
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with peace, and fill your awareness with the best possibilities.
With positive and purposeful energy, live the marvels of today.
To needs to hear that with positive and purposeful energy,
live the marvels of today. The ah stay present is
so hard, and I say that all the time. We
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always talk about staying present, but it really helps. So
I hope that helped you. Now we're moving on to
our prayer of the day. This is from the book
Jesus Calling by Sarah Young. I always encourage you to
get it on Amazon if you haven't. Now, if you're
not on a spiritual journey, that's okay. You don't have
to do this prayer with us. Thank you so much
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for hanging out. I will see you next week. If
you've never done a prayer before, you just want to
see what it's like this daily calendar prayer book, you
can hang out with me and we can go through
it together. This one today is called I Am the
Potter April seventh. I Am the Potter. You are maclay.
I designed you before the foundation of the world. I
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arrange the events of each day to form you into
the preconceived pattern. My everlasting love is at work in
every event of your life. On some days, your will
and mind will flow smoothly together. You tend to feel
in control of your life when all wills are in harmony.
On other days, you feel as if you're swimming stream
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against the current of My purpose. When this happens, stop
and seek my face. The opposition you feel may be
from me, or it may be from the evil one.
Talk with me about what you are experiencing. Let my
spirit guide you through treacherous waters. As you move through
the turbulent stream with me, Let circumstances mold you into
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the one I desire you to be. Say yes to
your potter as you go through this day Isaiah sixty
four to eight, Psalm twenty seven to eight. Talk with
me about what you're experiencing. Let my spirit guide you
through treacherous waters. That Oh my gosh, I need that girl,
I need that I use this other day. I use
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that exact thing the other day. And that's why it's
so important for me to continue to read my daily
prayer every day because it helps me when I'm going
through little treacherous waters. Oh my gosh, I have to
share with you what happened. So the other day I
made a pretty personal post, and I think it was
bold of me. For a long time I've been and
even here with the pod, honestly, I've been hiding parts
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of my life because there are just some energies and
peoples that are sending bad vibes and the evil one,
I could say, is among us and among me, and
I feel like when I share certain parts of my
life there are familiar spirits I would say that I
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need to bide and banish that try to pose any
happiness that I am living through or share. And so
it's been really tough. And I know I'm being a
little vague here, but just walk with me. So the
other day I decided to post a very personal part
of my life, and one of those familiar spirits comes
along in the comments and leaves a very scathing, snappy, rude, detailed,
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a necessary comment. And what's interesting is that that I
was just in, like, you know, just go to sleep
per usual, but like for some reason, like I got
the urch, like check my phone, and just check my
comments one more time, and yeah, sure enough, someone's posted
like a very nasty, evil comment publicly, and so I
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immediately screenshotted it and I deleted it, and I blocked
that person. I've been blocking like people around that one
like person. Like there's people around like one person that
I've just been vigorously blocking in every area of my
life because there they come at me in different ways
to just like disrupt my joy and happiness. So it
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was sitting with me for a second, and of course,
like when you see hurple things, first you go want
to like retaliate, and you just you know, sometimes are
instinct is just to go into defense mode. But I
just decided to just stop and not tell anyone and
deal with this alone and just kind of literally, I'm like,
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when they go low, we go hi. Michelle Obama. Michelle
Obama always comes into my head when they go low,
we go high. So yeah, instead of responding or talking
to them directly or talking to my loved ones that
are going to be really hurt and upset about it, immediately,
I just deleted, blocked, and I just decided to do
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what lavitansith that would do what Jesus would do, and
I just didn't engage. And I feel so proud of myself.
I feel so proud of myself because there are people
that don't know you at all, don't know your situation
at all, are just going to like hear things from
people that have bad intentions and feelings on the inside
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and are really hurt. And I've said it before, hurt people,
hurt people, so I know it comes from a place
of hurt, and I just prayed for them. I pray
for them. I prayed for that whole of people that
like really have been wishing eel ill and hatred and
evil to me. And I know that is not god like.
I know that is opposite of God. And I know
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that God has a purpose for me. God has a
beautiful plan for me. And God sometimes there are going
to be those evil spirits, familiar evil spirits. There's going
to be negativity that wants to bring you down any
chance they can. But I do decide that I am
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not gonna all of those people bring me down. I
am not going to be silenced. I am not going
to stop sharing beautiful moments of my life and the
life that I'm building. I am not gonna be quiet anymore.
I'm going to continue to live my life as I've
always lived it, and I'm not going to be scared
of nobody. I'm not going to let anyone's threats or
negativity in any weird ways that they try to contact
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me bother me. I am going to go high when
they go low, and I know that nothing good will
come if I react or interact in those situations. I
Am just gonna rise above it. And I'm telling you now,
you know, less than a week later, I feel so
much better. I feel so much better. I feel very
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thankful and very proud of myself because toxic Crystal would
have been blast in that, and I would have been,
you know, Crystal, like without the foundation of God. Crystal
without the foundation of God would have been so petty
and I would have like dragged this person to smithereens
and I would have like had them scared and freaking
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having to put all their profiles on private because I know,
I know, like what could have really been done if
I decided to be petty and hit evil with evil
and hurt with her. But I am deciding to just
lead with love instead. And I'm even getting hot right
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now thinking about what petty toxic without God, Crystal would
have done. Yeah, I've grown up a lot. I've had
a grown up a lot. I mean, you guys, remember
when like years ago, I got in I got into
like a public dispute with one of my my pittymas
and it was negative and looking back, like it was
a moment for sure, like I feel like it definitely
added to the plot, but you know it was it
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was like nasty. It was nasty on both ends. And
I wouldn't say that I completely regret how I handle things,
but I am happy that I am a someone different
that handles things differently now and moves in different ways now.
And I know for a fact that that wouldn't be
happening if I personally don't lean on God in those
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tough times when those shaky waters comes, like what are
we gonna do? Are we gonna sink? Or are we
gonna swim? And rise above? So I'm deciding to rise above.
And I'm very, very proud of myself. I talked to
Zaddi all about it, and he just so proud of me.
And he too, like you know, when someone someone hurt
someone that you love, you just want to bring out
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all the knives. But him and I are in a
very equally yoked space where we go to church and
we pray and we've been asking for God. And he
really reads a lot. He reads the Bible everysingle day,
so he's even closer to the Word than even I
could be. And I'm so thankful for him for that.
And yeah, like that is just where we are in
our journey, and I pray for that for you. You know,
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it takes a lot to be hateful. It takes a
lot to publicly hate on someone. It takes a lot
to say.
Speaker 2 (45:37):
Say that you hate, Like I even have tried to
completely abolish the word hate from my vocabulary because that's
just not right to have in your heart, Like to
have hate in your heart means that you even have
hate within yourself.
Speaker 1 (45:49):
And I've tried really hard. And I mean, I'm not
a perfect person. I've never claimed to be. No one
is perfect. I know everyone has their faults. I'm just
trying to be better day by day. And you know,
well even the situation, like I haven't told my friends.
Oh actually I did tell my buddy, my gobby what happened,
But I can't tell my mom My mom would go
off like I know I know somebody that she would
be so furious about that. But it's okay, Like I
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am gonna continue to be the best person I could be.
I'm gonna continue to ask got to walk right next
to me when the waters get shaky, and I am
praying for that for you, like I am praying that
next time you get a hot headed situation, just take
a deep breath, just walk away. There are some people
and some situations that just do not deserve your energy
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and time, and I have been finding those own boundaries
with me. Either if it's the rotisory chicken at church
that you don't want to carve up and get under
your press on nails, or if it's people around your
life that try to make your life very hard to
live and just bring negativity and hate no matter what
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you do or what you share, no matter what your
motivation or intent are, there are just some people with
hurt and their heart that need healing, and they're gonna
take out those negative feelings out on you. And I'm
very very thankful that I have been able to lean
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on God for those times. So let's stay strong, Let's
try to be as positive as we can you know
even me, I was like talking about how there's like
an artist recently that or one of those artists that
just you know, I haven't had good situations with, but
you know, I've even talked about them too and said,
you know, they've suffered some heartaches in the world, and
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so that's why they are the way that they are
and more healing to them no matter what they say
on the outside, that they you know, are doing the
work and whatever, like, hopefully they are. And that's all
we could really do risis, right. So I hope that
you enjoyed that prayer. I hope that I sat with you.
I hope that you enjoyed my little antidote that went
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with it. Thank you so much again for hanging out
another episodes of Crystal's Nightcap. We are going to be
back next week until that on Everything at Lack, Crystal
Role Sas and on TikTok Live Monday through Friday one
at like twelve thirty Eastern to six eastern. So hang
out with me if you want to, just choose me
up and have a good old Grendel time. Okay. I
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love love, love love love you, and I will see
you on the next one.
Hello, who's in here? It's so dark? Ew? What's dripping?
I can step on something? You're now inside crystals case.
Can you believe it? Yep, we are back another episode
of Crystal's Nightcap. I take my first pregnancy test. I'm
pulling these epic pranks. We get a huge fight with
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one of my best friends, and you will not believe
what they try to get me to do at church. Hello,
who's in here? It's so dark? Ew? What's dripping? I
can step on something? You're now inside Crystal's case. I'm
in my tea era where I started exploring a different
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hot teas. Lavender came mill white. What's like the white?
I forget green teas? But yeah, I've been going online
and look for different teas to indulge. I just kind
of want to taste the world through my palate because
I love coffee. I'm a coffee girl. Iced coffee is
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my life. But I begin like anxiety sometimes when I
drink three cups of coffee a day. So I leave
my iced coffee for work, and when I wake up
in the morning, I go and I turn on my
little water kennel and I pick out which tea would
I like? Today, some pomegranate, some jasmine. So I've been
in my tea era. And the other day when I
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was going to get my hair done, I woke up,
did my face, whipped up a little cup of day
and I got into a taxi to go downtown to
my hair appointment. So I'm driving at the taxi and
from the first five minutes I start feeling weezy, girl,
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Like my stomach starts feeling like ooh, I don't know
what's going on here, like what is the issue? He
turns downtown and my my mouth starts quaking. I don't
know if you feel that feeling, like when your mouth
starts getting water in your jaw starts trembling, like you
are gonna yack. I don't know what to do. I
tapped the taxi driver. I'm like, sir, I'm about to
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throw up. Can you please pull over right now? So
we pulled over it just in the middle of the street.
I you did the door open and just projectiled. Sorry. Sorry, sorry, sorry,
sorry if you're a queasy person. But yes, I project tiled,
and I felt like really good. Right afterwards. He had
some paper towels in the car and he just gave
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me some paper towels and I cleaned right up. But
I felt fine. Got my hair appointment, no big thing,
went to work, YadA, YadA, YadA. My hair looks amazing.
La la, la la la. The next morning, I am again,
same thing. Boil my tea, up beat my face, do
my hair. I'm walking to the train station, and as
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I'm walking one block, I'll start getting that feeling again
that my stomach is just going through it. So I
am a block in, I see a garbage can. I
sprint to the garbage can because my mouth is quivering
and watering and and ye projectile vomit again. I'm like, dang,
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what in the floozy is going on here? So in
the next morning, I'm walking on my way to the
train station and I'm on the phone with son that
I'm my mom. I'm just like, Mom, it's been really weird.
I've been vomiting the past two mornings. I don't know
what's going on. She goes, you better not be pregnant. No, no, no,
And that didn't even cross my mind, girl, that did
not even crossed my mind, because I'm on the copper thing,
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the copper good. I'm good for ten years as of
twenty twenty. So, dang, I'm five years in. Since I'm
five years into my tenuere, time is flying by. So
I'm five years into my ten uyere. My mom says,
you better not be pregnant. I will literally end you.
And I'm like, no, of course, where're'm all pregnant? No way.
As I'm walking into CVS, I'm literally trotting into CVS,
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I put my mom on mute. I'm like, Hi, where's
a pregnancy test? They have to get them out with
the key. I grab a pregnancy test. I'm scared now
and I'm praying to Lord baby sweet Jesus up above now.
And I'm walking up to my job and I grab
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the test. I go into the stall at work and
I attempt to, you know, go number one on the
little sticky stick. This is my first time ever taking
a pregnancy test. Mind you have never taken a pregancy
testest before. And I whipped the little stick out. Girl.
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I perioded on the stick. I perioded on the There
is blood on the stick. I'm like, there is a God,
there is a Jesus, you love me. We dodged a
good one. I am just praying so much I'm like,
I love you, Jesus, I love you like I will
be a good girl going forward. I promise, like, no, no, no, na.
I start telling the story to my one of my
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bosses here, Kara. I'm just like haraah, oh my gosh,
you wouldn't believe I tell everything. And she's like, girl,
it's because are you drinking tea on an empty stomach.
I'm like yeah, She's like, girl, I cannot take tea
on an empty stomach. I get nauseous too, I said, oh,
it could be the tea. It could be the tea.
So long story shore we dodge a bullet. This is
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not the right time for me to be getting pregnated
in these streets by Zaddy. I love him and we
cannot wait. We are just praying for the day that
we get to be parents together, shared embryo together. It
is going to be such a blessing. We already have
my bonus son, my stepson. We already have a thirteen
year old and he is everything and more so blessed
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for him. Me and Zaddy, though, we can't wait to
share one together. You know, like you and the person
that you love most in the entire world, sharing a
little being together. It is going to be a blessing,
but it's just not the right time. Girl. Like I
live in New York City, zad he lives across the country.
We haven't even gotten married yet. That would just be
so embarrassing. He cannot live here yet. You know, there's
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just so many things that need to happen before that.
So we are, we're going to be doing all the
right things, all the good things. Please keep us in
your prayers. We are trying to stay away from each other.
It's rough. It's rough in these streets. I'm not gonna
lie to you, but uh yeah, let's all deep breath in,
deep breath out, because I'm thirty one. Sis ain't no
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time to abort omission. Like, if God grants me that blessing,
that is a blessing that I am going to keep. Fortunately,
So just pray that it is in our time when well,
obviously everything is in God's time, but we have some
things to do still, we have plans to make and
there is not a child involved within the next two
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and a half years. So let's just pray all good
things on that. How about that? Amen? We are not pregnant,
so we are love in life. I also need to
give you an update on what's going on in Misav's days.
I'm still going to church every single Sunday here in
New York City, and when I'm back home with our family,
Zaddy and I go to his church, and it's been great.
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You know, our spiritual journeys, they have been better than ever.
There are a lot of forces from a whole bunch
of different well actually one same centered area around our
lives that's trying to bring us down. But because we've
been so centered in God, it's been so helpful to
not engage in anything that's negative or in people that
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only want to bring negativity to us, so isn't really helpful.
There is some things though, that have been triggering about
my hospitality group, and I love them so much since
I started going to church. I mean, the reason, and
I share this all the time. The reason, one of
the big reasons that I started going to church here
in New York City is because I was feeling very lonely,
so I kind of needed a group. And every Sunday
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after MISA, we have a hospitality group where when I
first started coming here, we were just sharing tea, coffee
and pastries while we faith share, but it has since
evolved into a full on hometown buffet situation where people
are bringing spaghetti, meatballs and s la das. It's obviously
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like a blessing, but also because I help set it
up and lead things, it's also kind of become in
one way, somewhat of a burden. And I'll explain why.
I'm obviously so grateful and thankful for the people in
a hospitality group that want to bring full on meals. However,
they come and they just drop it off, and they
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want sometimes they want other people to do the work
that entails with the meals. Because when I was leading hospitality,
I'd bring muffins, I'd bring fruitita, just croissants, easy finger foods.
But a lot more goes into it when you're bringing
a whole Thanksgiving buffet. For example, there are people that
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like to bring full on rot tostory chickens and they
just bring them to me. They are bringing me full
on rotwostory chickens. They're bringing me packaged rice. So instead
of me leading the faith sharing, I am tucked away
in the kitchen heating rice and using dole knives to
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literally like cut and debone and carve full oily chickens.
Mind you, I don't even do this stuff at my
own house, like you know me, even though I have
been dabbling in cooking a little bit for me and Zaddie,
But yeah, girl, I really don't even do this in
my own house. So I've been getting humbled on Sunday's
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misa and again. For a while, I was doing it.
But then after months and months of doing this and
being the one to be there afterwards, cleaning forks and
washing dishes and all the things, I was just like,
you know what, this is not my job and this
is not serving me. I come on Sundays to relax
and drink some goffesesiital and just hang out with my
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people here hospitality. I'm starting to get stressed because of
what people are deciding to bring and kind of throwing
it on me. So I'm going to step back from
that from a little bit. So I started just leaving.
If anyone brought food, I just left it there, and
if people wanted to warm it up, I was just like,
you can warm it up yourselves. I just would just
leave it there and I would bring the coffee. I
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would boil the stuff for the coffee, I'd boil the tea.
I'd be there handing out the coffees and the tea.
But when it came to the qumia, I was just
leaving it there and that was cool for a while,
and whoever wanted to heat that stuff up, then they
were hitting it up and they were missing out all
the face sharing. And that's what was annoying to me,
is that people are missing They're tucked away in the
kitchen lullygagging at the microwave over and over and over
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for the whole time, instead of sharing your blessings and prayers,
which was the point of this. But if people want
to do that, that's very cool. I've been setting boundaries.
The other morning, I come in, I see a homie
there who brings bags bags of food to warm up
for everyone, a hospitality after church. And again it's really nice.
I think it's so sweet. That's his love language is
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sharing and giving. So I see that he's kind of
wrestling around the things, and I go up to him, like, hey,
go to see you, brother, What can I help you with?
What do you need? And he's looking around and he
grabs a rotissery chicken. He grabs a rotesstory chicken and
he goes towards me. He goes, can you help cut
the chicken? And in my head, I'm just like, bro,
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there's no way he's asking me to cut this chicken
up right now, Like there is no way he wants
me to carve and debone this chicken. And I'm battling
in my head because on one end of things, I
did ask you need help. On the other end of things,
I've been dodging this dang rotissery chicken for months now,
and this is not what I want to do on
a Sunday, Monk, I have my long press ons. I
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just pressed on. The chicken gets stuck all up under there.
I'm the one that has to wash all the juice afterwards.
I just I take a deep breath and I giggle
and I say, O, homie, I will do anything except that.
I just I don't. He's like, oh oh, I'm like yeah,
I just get stuck under my nails. I get grossed
out by it. I personally don't really get grossed out
by it, but I just don't want to do it,
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like if I'm doing it for my family and at home,
like that is one thing, and I really don't even
do that often for them, but on a Sunday when
I need to relax again, it's just it's it's not
my calling, like that is that is not my calling.
I look at him and I go, you know what,
let me do the coffee though. I will. I will
start the coffee first, and I start the coffee and
I'm just so proud of myself for setting that boundary,
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and and then you know, it's all goes fine. We
go to Mesa, we have our hospitality, it's cool whatever.
I immediately go home and I FaceTime Zaddie. I'm like,
baby you and not believe what happened. And he goes, no,
not the chicken again, not the chicken. I was like, yup,
they asked me to do the chicken and I said no.
He says what you said? No? Oh my goodness, cause
it's a big deal for me to say, Like I
am such a people pleaser and I always like to help.
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I always want to be a team player. But yeah,
I just had to stick to my guns and I
said no. And Zaddie was very very proud of me.
He knows how hard it must have been for me
to say no. He said he too would have said no,
and we did that. And this is just a reminder
for you that you do not have to do things
you don't want to do. We were granted free will
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at birth, and I want to remind you that you
could stick to your guns. And if there are some
boundaries that you yourself have been crossing for you and
you're just like, you know what, I don't think I
need to do that anymore. That does not serve me anymore.
I'm gonna not then not just giggle and say, you
know what, I'm gonna have to do something else, so,
you know what, this doesn't serve me anymore. You know what,
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I think I'll be better at doing this. You know
you will leave that for somebody else, because at thirty
one years old, I finally said no for something, and
I never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever ever say no.
So round of applause for boundaries, Wishing you that same
boldness and bravery next time you're asked to do something
you just don't want to do, just say, you know,
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we'll leave to someone else. I actually I could do this.
I didn't tell you this huge argument I got in
with one of my really good friends Michelle. I talk
about her all the time. She's probably my parents' age.
She's divorced. She's such a great mom. She lives here
in New York City. She'd be going out with me,
I and buy her to stuff. She invites me to things.
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We love to have fun, go out together. She's a really,
really good friend and has been there for me for
so many things. She's the older sister that I have
here pretty much in New York City. I haven't seen
it in a while, but we got into it, which
was crazy. Now. Michelle and I a few summers ago,
we traveled somewhere that one of her friends, someone she knew,
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put like a house together for us, and so we
all see it at that house. And I really enjoyed
that house. And I had been in contact with that
guy to go hang out that house since a few
times now. One night, me and Michelle were going out
and I got a text from that guy and he
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told me that it was his birthday coming up, and
he invited me to go to a house to go
celebrate his birthday, and YadA, YadA, YadA. And I had
noticed that this guy was sending me invites to things
quite often, and I brought it up to Michelle and
I was like, we'll call him Mark. I was like, Michelle,
your friend Mark just hit me up that it's their
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birthday weekend and they invited me to go to their
birthday and she's like, oh, okay, okay. I was like,
she's like, are you going to go? And I was like, no,
I'm not going to go. I don't know anyone that
would go over there, and I probably have to work
that weekend, and she was like cool. So then the
next day, I wake up and he invites me to
something else, and I was going through my text between
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him and I, and I noticed that he really only
invited me to things that you have to pay for,
Like he's kind of a promoter. I would say, he'd
be like, oh, rooftop jazz blah blah blah, hiring a pianoist,
get your ticket here of Van Bray and it's like
ten bucks. And so I feel like he sends these
mass texts out and I noticed that it's only he
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only invites me related things that we're gonna have to
pay for, including that house thing that he wanted to
do for his birthday. He kind of sent me a
link and it was Oh, you know, we're all sharing
and here's this, this, this, and blah blah blah blah.
And so the next day I texted Michelle. I was like, Michelle,
I noticed that you have to pay. He is only
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inviting me things where you have to pay. And she
responds and she goes, well, I'm busy, I can't go.
I'm going with friends blah blah blah blah blah. But
I don't want to go have a second invite have fun.
That's not what a real friend would do. And then
I'm like, uh, what are you talking about, Michelle, and
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she goes, oh, yeah, I know you got his info
behind my back. If you wanted it, I would have
given it to you. But that's not what a good
friend does. You shouldn't be getting people' stuff behind my back.
Someone needs to teach you a manners and friendships. But
I know how it is now and that's just how
you are. And I texted her back, I'm like, Michelle,
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what are you talking about. I didn't get anyone's info
behind your back. When we went to the first time
to the house, I asked you if you could link
us up so that I can go with my friends
to that house and you gave me his info. I
never did anything behind your back, and she goes, yes,
you did. That, never happened. I never gave them your
info or gave you his info. But it's okay. I
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just see how you are now, hope you have a
great month. And I'm bugging because in my head I'm thinking, girl,
I know for a fact I asked you for this
guy's info. So I go on my computer and I
go through all my text messages and I look up
this guy's name and I find it clear as day,
and I screenshot the texts and I send them to her,
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and the text to literally say, hey, thank you for
giving me his info. We're gonna go this weekend and
I can't wait to go, and I just want to
say thank you again, like you're rowan Michelle for linking
us up. And so I send those screenshots to her
and I say, Sis, I don't know where this is
coming from. I don't know what you're talking about, but
here's the screenshots to prove that yes, you did in
fact give me their info. I would never go behind
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your back. It's not even worth it for me to
go behind your back for anything. You're one of my
really good friends. I don't know where the energy is
coming from. I love you so much and it just
hurts me that you think i'm that person that I'm not.
So that was that she didn't hit me back at all,
and I was just like, this is very very weird.
So I'm talking to my other friend Alex about this.
I'm like, Alex, like, Michelle got really weird in a text.
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She like went off on me for no reason. And
I don't know if it's because she's older than us
and maybe things get confused in text messages and you know,
maybe she thought that I was showing off that and saying, oh,
you have to pay and I don't have to pay
for events, but no, I was trying to tell Michelle
that any events he invites us to, we have to pay,
like not you have to pay, but we have to pay.
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Very very weird. And Alex was like, yeah, I remember
she went off on me one time too in a
group text because you texted back somethings. She thought that
I texted back, and I was like, yeah, I think
she just gets confused and text messages, which was whatever
the case, I didn't say anything, and within like a
month and a half. Yes, it was a long time,
but this was in the fall time, so I think
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this was around the time I got engaged, so so
much was going on. We didn't even really link up,
and she had a lot of stuff going, especially on
with like Israel and all those things of her family,
so she had to go back and all this stuff.
So I didn't talk to her for a while. But
about a month and a half after that whole text fiasco,
she texted me out the blue and was like, hey, sweetie,
I'm in town. Let me know if you're in New York.
I'd love to see you. And I just thought it
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was weird that she didn't acknowledge anything about our weird
text fight, and so much is going on by this time,
I think it was already November and me and Zaddy
were traveling. Oh yeah, we were in Mexico for the wedding,
and then like jingle Ball was coming up and I
texted her back in the holidays. I was like, haysis,
happy holidays. I've been back and forth too, I'll see
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you in twenty twenty five. He got a Lata regatta.
So then we come back for the New year and
it's probably over a month in twenty twenty five, and
she texts me, She's like, hasis It's been so long.
We both looked back and forth, you know, let me
know if you're down to get coffee or come over
whatever it is, and mind you, like Zaddy knows everything
that happened between me and her, Zaddy thinks is very
weird and bizarre. He kind of got a little sy
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I about it. But I had told him how she
was one of my best friends here in New York.
She's been with me through a lot, and I really
value her as a human and a friendship and I
miss her and I would love to link up. So
her and I link up at a coffee shop, and
I'm really excited to see her. But I'm still a
little but her about that fight because in my head,
I'm thinking the argument I would say, the little dispute,
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because I was thinking if I never had those screenshots,
she would have really thought that She seriously, in her head,
thought that I went behind her back to talk to
some dude to get invited to parties. And I just
thought it was so silly to have an argument over that,
and she would have really thought that I was that
type of person that I was that kind of friend,
and I'm not that kind of person. I'm not that
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kind of friend. I don't even know why this was
even an issue. So I was kind of hurt that
she was so sold on that and was painting me
as this person that I knew that I wasn't, And
if I literally didn't have those screenshots, she wouldn't have known.
So we link up in the Upper east Side at
this coffee shop and I see her. We give each
other a big hug. It's like no time has passed.
We start chatting it up a little bit and she
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quickly mentions and says, oh, by the way, Crystal, I'm
sorry about that text situation we had. There was a
lot going on at that time, you know, everything with
my family in Israel, and I was just really stressed
and I think I was just taking it out on you.
I'm sorry about that. And I was like, okay, yeah,
all good, and she kind of just glazed over it
a little bit, and then we just kept talking and
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talking and chatting and chatting, and the evening is going on.
I mean, we have months to catch up on. We
are yipping in nap and yipping and nap and drinking
like helicoffee now and having a good old girl time,
kind of like nothing happened. So then it's getting a
little later and I bringing I bring it up again. Well,
she actually brings up another friend. So we're talking about
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the same guy, Mark, right, And she brings up Mark
and I say, oh, Mark, wait, the mark that you
that you went on on a date with And she
goes yeah. And I was like, oh, okay, because I
thought you were thinking about the mark from the house
the house because there's two marks, because one mark I
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hung out with her on kind of a date and
that's a date mark. But then the other mark, we're
talking about the house mark, the guy that a house
that rents out and then he bites us to things
that we have to pay for. He's pretty much like
a promoter. And so I go, you're talking about the
date mark and she goes yes, And I say, oh,
this was the same mix up about the texts. And
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she goes, what do you mean and I say, yeah,
because they have the same name. They have the same
name Mark. It's not Mark, but we let's just pretend
it's Mark. And she goes the text I said, yes,
the texts that you thought I went behind your back
to talk about to text Mark. We were I was
texting the Mark about the house mark, but you're talking
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about the guy who went on a date work with Mark.
And she goes, wait no, I oh my gosh, I
go wait what And she's like that whole thing, Oh, Crystal,
I thought you were talking uh oh, And I say, wait,
was this whole thing a huge miscommunication? So we discover
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that the reason that she got so mad about the
Lake house Mark was because she thought that after I
went out with the date with the date mark, it
was her date right her date, and I was kind
of the third wing lift a little bit. She thought
that I went behind her back and got his number
because he was having a birthday party at a house
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that weekend. She thought that he texted me behind her
back to invite me to his party when she went
a date with and he didn't text her, and that
I was kind of throwing in her face that the
guy she won a date with I hung out with too,
is over here texting me. So literally, she had those
two men confused, and that's why she got so upset
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at me. And so her truth technically was true, like
if she was thinking of that date Mark, she never
gave him my number, and me, she never gave me
his number. I never asked for it. So it did
look like we were talking behind her back, but I
was talking about a completely different mark. So we were
laughing for like twenty minutes about this stupid, stupid mix up,
about these two guys that don't even matter or mean
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anything to any of us, and over a simple miscommunication.
Literally like me and Alex said like, yeah, she's just
like gets people confused and gets tones mixed up in
text messages. And I was just like, Michelle, this is
so this is so dumb, Like this is literally so dumb.
I was so hurt at you, and she's saying I
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was so hurt at you. I was already thinking, man,
what if her man ZADDI finds out that she's texting
this guy behind you know, his back, getting invited to parties.
He's probably trying to hit on her. I'm like, Michelle,
I never ever got that guy's number. Yes, that would
have been very, very weird. It was a completely different mark,
and this is just so silly. So yeah, I pretty
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much got in a huge fight with Michelle over nothing,
and silly communications really can ruin friendships like that. By
the end of the day, sometimes you got to put
your pride aside. And I'm so thankful that we hash
it down. We literally laugh about it now. We were
so busy at those times. But dang, just a simple miscommunication.
Have you ever gone into a fight like that with
the friend? I can't even say that something like this
has ever happened to me before. It's just the generational
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differences are so funny. The technological differences are silly too.
And I'm happy that we were able to mend it
because she really is one of my really good friends
here in New York City. It would be such a
el to not have her in my life. She has
been doing such good with her business, and I'm really
proud of her and I love her so much. And yeah,
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f those marks, that was just for no reason. Now,
would you consider yourself a prankster? Like a good prankster,
because I have been pulling the best pranks on my
coworkers recently, and I just I have a whole notes
app now that I need to share with you. This
is iconic. So first of all, let me share the prank,
the most epic prank I pulled on Shelley Rome. She
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does Lene's here on Z one hundred. She's one of
my best coworker friends here. I would trust this woman
with my life. She brings me so much joint happiness.
And she's so emotionally stable, self aware, giving, loving, sweet,
and I just I love Shelley Rom. I love all
my coworkers here now, but I really really love Shelley Rom.
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So she comes in. She has an interview with an
artist that I have not had the best interactions with
this artist when they present me to interview them, I
respectfully pass this artist. A lot of people have bad
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stories and relationships with and they got canceled rightfully. So
and now they're booking a radio promo tours. Again. I'm
not going to use any names. Some people can infer
you can guess who. But yeah, that is happening, and
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our girl, Shelley ended up doing the interview. Now, after
the interview happened, like Shelley and I I had over
a shift that crossed over, so I was going to
see her and we were with our friends here at work,
all in the studio, and I of course ask her
I'm like, oh my gosh, what happened with your interview
with blah blah blah. I need to freaking know all
the tea. So, by the way, we're on TikTok Live.
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And I think I've mentioned this too, but we're on
TikTok Live every single afternoon your afternoons with Crystal Odal Sauce.
While I'm on air, I'm also on TikTok Live at
lack Crystal Real Sauce. And I told Shelley, I'm like,
before you start talking, make sure you turn off the live.
So she grabs my burner phone. She turns off the live,
and Shelley starts talking about how everything went with them
and stuff with the record label and a whole bunch
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of tea, like steamy firing tea, and me and our
coworkers that are here were just like jaw dropped. We're like,
oh my gosh, like that's insane. I start telling my
stories blah blah blah. Everyone gets gives their perspective no, no, no, no nah,
And then we're kind of wrapping up the conversation, which
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was a pretty long conversation. I would say like maybe
like thirty minutes I grabbed my burner phone and I go, Shelly,
you didn't turn off the live. And the look on
her face when she turned pale white like a ghost,
thinking that everything she just said was on a TikTok
live stream. Oh my gosh. She was just like, no, wait,
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but I did, But I did. I said, no, no, look, look,
look just kidding. You did turn off the live. And
everyone in the room was like, Cristal, you're crazy for that.
Oh no, And oh my gosh, it was so good.
It was so good. It was so so, so good,
and we were just rolling. And even the next day
she comes in, we do crossover again. She goes, Crystal,
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I have to tell you I woke up today and
I was still panicked that for some reason, the live
was on, and I say, says, don't worry, it was off.
I did double check when you said it off, because
I knew that we were about to get into some
crazy tea. But yeah, no, that was an amazing prank
on Shelley Rome number one. The second one I need
to share is with our girl Keana. She does overnights
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here on Z one hundred. She thought me in oh
my gosh it, I'm so blessed with them, like she
is just the sweetest angel. She's been at Z one
hundred for I want to say, maybe over a year now,
so she's relatively new compared to me and Josh. But
she is such a powerhouse. She's so talented on air.
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I'm so proud of her and thankful that she's part
of our squad. She's the sweetest sweetheart ever. She would
never even harm even a fly. She comes from far away.
She comes. She comes from all the way deep in
Long Island, so she'd be driving in most days. And
this is one of our weekend shifts that she was
coming in and I was doing the morning weekend shift,
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so I was wrapping up around two pm. And sometimes
there's like random stuff, random accidents, random things here and there,
especially on the weekends, the trains run super super late.
I've been a victim of this, of like running in
right at the top of the hour were whatever the
case may be. So about thirty minutes before I'm supposed
to take off of the shift and she's supposed to
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start her shift, I get a text from her. She's like, Crystal,
there's a crazy accident. Like I might be like a
minute or two late. Can you just like seg the
top of hour for me. I'm so so sorry. I'm like, hey,
don't worry, says like I got you. It's all good,
no problem. It's really not a problem at all, Like
it doesn't impede on me at all. And I'm not
gonna leave the station until she gets there. So and
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like I said, I've ran like a minute or well
actually probably more, but yeah, I've been late before for work.
It happens to the best of us. We try not
to make it happen. But the good thing about zero
hundred is that there's always someone there that can help
you out usually, so you know, we always give grace
to situations and things like that. So she tells you that,
and I'm on FaceTime with Zaddy at the time. I'm
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here in the station in the studio on FaceTime with Zaddi.
I'm like, Babe, when I tell you, oh, she just
got here, can you respond and say thanks for letting
me know. I'll talk to you later on speaker And
he said, okay, all right, but he didn't really know
what was going on. So I'm gonna pull an epic
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prank now on Kiana. So the top of the Hour starts.
I like run the songs as if nothing. I mean,
it's really not a big deal. And I see her.
She is sprinting in with bags, coming in, huffing and puffing.
She opens the door and again I'm on FaceTime with Zaddy,
but she doesn't know that, and I go, oh, Mark,
don't worry, she just ran in. And then Zaddi responds,
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he goes, okay, sounds good. Thanks for letting me know,
have a good afternoon. And Keana is like tiptoeing in
and she goes oh, and I go, sorry, that's our boss.
Like I just I had to let She goes, oh yeah, yeah, okay, okay,
and I go bye. And then I just kind of
like he just like is there. And then I go
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just kidding and Zaddie and She's like dang. She goes dang.
I was thinking, Oh, I thought Crystal was cooler than that.
Me and Zaddy start busting out laughing. I'm like, babe,
I just praank Keana, like making her think that you
were our boss Mark, our boss is awesome Mark, our
boss Mark, and like tattling on her that she was late,
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and we start heaving in Keana's face. I'm telling you
Keana's face when she really thought that I was talking
to our boss, so so good, so funny. Mind you
our boss Mark, he's hella cool. I mean, he doesn't
want us coming in late, No boss does. But if
he heard the situation, he'd be totally cool about it,
and he'd just be like, you know, just be careful,
maybe give yourself a little extra buffer, Like let's try
not to be late. It's good that Crystal is there.
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You know, maybe next time she might not be there
and that's normal, Like that's that's totally fine. But like Keana,
you know, she still knew and as new as a
newer person on the team, Like you don't want, you know,
your boss knowing that, like maybe you just came in
a few seconds late, like you know, for us in radio,
like at one point in our career is like being
late was the end of the world for us, and
you know it still is, like we don't again, we
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don't like to be late. We try not to be late,
but it does happen to the best of us, especially
if you're driving in from Long Island on a weekend
and there's like, hella traffic. I'm telling you it's like
it'd be going down like that sometimes. But uh yeah,
but when I see that little Kiana, she was freaking
the heck out. She really thought that I tattled on
her and was the ops And I would never, ever, ever,
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ever do that, And even like in this case, like again,
I'm of course sharing this with you here on the pod,
and you know, maybe someone's like, it doesn't matter. At
the end of the day, it was a prank. It's
not that big of a deal that she was four
seconds late to work. But to her and to us
in radio, like it could have been, it could have
felt like a big deal, especially if it looks like
your coworker who you thought was your homide is out
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here snitching. But poor Keana, love you, sis, I'm glad
I got you good and I cannot wait to continue
my strings of pranks and just tear my coworkers and
people around me because I love pranking people. It brings
me so so so much joy, So please be prepared
for more pranks in the future. So that's what's been
going on with me and my life. Just a few
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stories to share that I hope but kept you entertained
for this past half hour. Thank you for hanging out
for another episode of Crystal's Nightcap. We like to wrap
up this show with a little daily motivation. It's called
the Daily Motivator. Great Day dot Com. This one on Monday,
April seventh. It's called Marvels of this Day. Your very breast,
each and everyone is a miracle. Take some time to
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focus on your breathing and only on your breathing and
the life energy continually brings. The light you are able
to see is amazing in all its hues, intensities, directions,
and motions. Pay attention to the light, the shadows, how
they change, the feelings and thoughts they bring. Consider all
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the physical reality you touch and walk upon and hold
in your hands. Imagine the possibilities and all the substance,
and challenge yourself to fulfill some of the best ones.
Listen as the when seeings of a journey it's been
making for hundreds or thousands of miles. Feel in its
restless stance the connection you have to all that is
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with simple acts of awareness, awaken to the beauty and
power of existence. That's nice. That's a good one. With
simple acts of awareness, awaken the body the beauty and
power of existence. Awaken to the beauty and power of existence.
Remind yourself again and again of the potential for meaning
and fulfillment. Fill your thoughts with gratitude, fill your heart
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with peace, and fill your awareness with the best possibilities.
With positive and purposeful energy, live the marvels of today.
To needs to hear that with positive and purposeful energy,
live the marvels of today. The ah stay present is
so hard, and I say that all the time. We
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always talk about staying present, but it really helps. So
I hope that helped you. Now we're moving on to
our prayer of the day. This is from the book
Jesus Calling by Sarah Young. I always encourage you to
get it on Amazon if you haven't. Now, if you're
not on a spiritual journey, that's okay. You don't have
to do this prayer with us. Thank you so much
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for hanging out. I will see you next week. If
you've never done a prayer before, you just want to
see what it's like this daily calendar prayer book, you
can hang out with me and we can go through
it together. This one today is called I Am the
Potter April seventh. I Am the Potter. You are maclay.
I designed you before the foundation of the world. I
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arrange the events of each day to form you into
the preconceived pattern. My everlasting love is at work in
every event of your life. On some days, your will
and mind will flow smoothly together. You tend to feel
in control of your life when all wills are in harmony.
On other days, you feel as if you're swimming stream
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against the current of My purpose. When this happens, stop
and seek my face. The opposition you feel may be
from me, or it may be from the evil one.
Talk with me about what you are experiencing. Let my
spirit guide you through treacherous waters. As you move through
the turbulent stream with me, Let circumstances mold you into
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the one I desire you to be. Say yes to
your potter as you go through this day Isaiah sixty
four to eight, Psalm twenty seven to eight. Talk with
me about what you're experiencing. Let my spirit guide you
through treacherous waters. That Oh my gosh, I need that girl,
I need that I use this other day. I use
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that exact thing the other day. And that's why it's
so important for me to continue to read my daily
prayer every day because it helps me when I'm going
through little treacherous waters. Oh my gosh, I have to
share with you what happened. So the other day I
made a pretty personal post, and I think it was
bold of me. For a long time I've been and
even here with the pod, honestly, I've been hiding parts
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of my life because there are just some energies and
peoples that are sending bad vibes and the evil one,
I could say, is among us and among me, and
I feel like when I share certain parts of my
life there are familiar spirits I would say that I
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need to bide and banish that try to pose any
happiness that I am living through or share. And so
it's been really tough. And I know I'm being a
little vague here, but just walk with me. So the
other day I decided to post a very personal part
of my life, and one of those familiar spirits comes
along in the comments and leaves a very scathing, snappy, rude, detailed,
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a necessary comment. And what's interesting is that that I
was just in, like, you know, just go to sleep
per usual, but like for some reason, like I got
the urch, like check my phone, and just check my
comments one more time, and yeah, sure enough, someone's posted
like a very nasty, evil comment publicly, and so I
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immediately screenshotted it and I deleted it, and I blocked
that person. I've been blocking like people around that one
like person. Like there's people around like one person that
I've just been vigorously blocking in every area of my
life because there they come at me in different ways
to just like disrupt my joy and happiness. So it
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was sitting with me for a second, and of course,
like when you see hurple things, first you go want
to like retaliate, and you just you know, sometimes are
instinct is just to go into defense mode. But I
just decided to just stop and not tell anyone and
deal with this alone and just kind of literally, I'm like,
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when they go low, we go hi. Michelle Obama. Michelle
Obama always comes into my head when they go low,
we go high. So yeah, instead of responding or talking
to them directly or talking to my loved ones that
are going to be really hurt and upset about it, immediately,
I just deleted, blocked, and I just decided to do
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what lavitansith that would do what Jesus would do, and
I just didn't engage. And I feel so proud of myself.
I feel so proud of myself because there are people
that don't know you at all, don't know your situation
at all, are just going to like hear things from
people that have bad intentions and feelings on the inside
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and are really hurt. And I've said it before, hurt people,
hurt people, so I know it comes from a place
of hurt, and I just prayed for them. I pray
for them. I prayed for that whole of people that
like really have been wishing eel ill and hatred and
evil to me. And I know that is not god like.
I know that is opposite of God. And I know
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that God has a purpose for me. God has a
beautiful plan for me. And God sometimes there are going
to be those evil spirits, familiar evil spirits. There's going
to be negativity that wants to bring you down any
chance they can. But I do decide that I am
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not gonna all of those people bring me down. I
am not going to be silenced. I am not going
to stop sharing beautiful moments of my life and the
life that I'm building. I am not gonna be quiet anymore.
I'm going to continue to live my life as I've
always lived it, and I'm not going to be scared
of nobody. I'm not going to let anyone's threats or
negativity in any weird ways that they try to contact
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me bother me. I am going to go high when
they go low, and I know that nothing good will
come if I react or interact in those situations. I
Am just gonna rise above it. And I'm telling you now,
you know, less than a week later, I feel so
much better. I feel so much better. I feel very
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thankful and very proud of myself because toxic Crystal would
have been blast in that, and I would have been,
you know, Crystal, like without the foundation of God. Crystal
without the foundation of God would have been so petty
and I would have like dragged this person to smithereens
and I would have like had them scared and freaking
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having to put all their profiles on private because I know,
I know, like what could have really been done if
I decided to be petty and hit evil with evil
and hurt with her. But I am deciding to just
lead with love instead. And I'm even getting hot right
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now thinking about what petty toxic without God, Crystal would
have done. Yeah, I've grown up a lot. I've had
a grown up a lot. I mean, you guys, remember
when like years ago, I got in I got into
like a public dispute with one of my my pittymas
and it was negative and looking back, like it was
a moment for sure, like I feel like it definitely
added to the plot, but you know it was it
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was like nasty. It was nasty on both ends. And
I wouldn't say that I completely regret how I handle things,
but I am happy that I am a someone different
that handles things differently now and moves in different ways now.
And I know for a fact that that wouldn't be
happening if I personally don't lean on God in those
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tough times when those shaky waters comes, like what are
we gonna do? Are we gonna sink? Or are we
gonna swim? And rise above? So I'm deciding to rise above.
And I'm very, very proud of myself. I talked to
Zaddi all about it, and he just so proud of me.
And he too, like you know, when someone someone hurt
someone that you love, you just want to bring out
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all the knives. But him and I are in a
very equally yoked space where we go to church and
we pray and we've been asking for God. And he
really reads a lot. He reads the Bible everysingle day,
so he's even closer to the Word than even I
could be. And I'm so thankful for him for that.
And yeah, like that is just where we are in
our journey, and I pray for that for you. You know,
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it takes a lot to be hateful. It takes a
lot to publicly hate on someone. It takes a lot
to say.
Speaker 2 (45:37):
Say that you hate, Like I even have tried to
completely abolish the word hate from my vocabulary because that's
just not right to have in your heart, Like to
have hate in your heart means that you even have
hate within yourself.
Speaker 1 (45:49):
And I've tried really hard. And I mean, I'm not
a perfect person. I've never claimed to be. No one
is perfect. I know everyone has their faults. I'm just
trying to be better day by day. And you know,
well even the situation, like I haven't told my friends.
Oh actually I did tell my buddy, my gobby what happened,
But I can't tell my mom My mom would go
off like I know I know somebody that she would
be so furious about that. But it's okay, Like I
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am gonna continue to be the best person I could be.
I'm gonna continue to ask got to walk right next
to me when the waters get shaky, and I am
praying for that for you, like I am praying that
next time you get a hot headed situation, just take
a deep breath, just walk away. There are some people
and some situations that just do not deserve your energy
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and time, and I have been finding those own boundaries
with me. Either if it's the rotisory chicken at church
that you don't want to carve up and get under
your press on nails, or if it's people around your
life that try to make your life very hard to
live and just bring negativity and hate no matter what
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you do or what you share, no matter what your
motivation or intent are, there are just some people with
hurt and their heart that need healing, and they're gonna
take out those negative feelings out on you. And I'm
very very thankful that I have been able to lean
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on God for those times. So let's stay strong, Let's
try to be as positive as we can you know
even me, I was like talking about how there's like
an artist recently that or one of those artists that
just you know, I haven't had good situations with, but
you know, I've even talked about them too and said,
you know, they've suffered some heartaches in the world, and
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so that's why they are the way that they are
and more healing to them no matter what they say
on the outside, that they you know, are doing the
work and whatever, like, hopefully they are. And that's all
we could really do risis, right. So I hope that
you enjoyed that prayer. I hope that I sat with you.
I hope that you enjoyed my little antidote that went
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with it. Thank you so much again for hanging out
another episodes of Crystal's Nightcap. We are going to be
back next week until that on Everything at Lack, Crystal
Role Sas and on TikTok Live Monday through Friday one
at like twelve thirty Eastern to six eastern. So hang
out with me if you want to, just choose me
up and have a good old Grendel time. Okay. I
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love love, love love love you, and I will see
you on the next one.
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