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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Good morning, Grace. What's going on?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Good morning? So I've been with my boyfriend for like
four years now, and I believe he's my person, Like
genuinely I love this man, and we've talked about marriage
a lot of times. We've talked about the future. I
feel like we're super aligned in that regard, and so,
(00:23):
you know, we're like going on a seat and I'm
thinking this is the one, Like he's going to propose.
I got my nails done everything. You know, I'm twenty eight.
I'm like it's time. And he gives me a promise
ring and it's like, you know, I was just sitting
there thinking this was going to be an engagement ring,
(00:45):
and so I'm just sitting there and smiling and pretending
like it's okay, and on the inside, I'm kind of
just asking myself, like is this his way of saying
not yet or not ever? Like if it's not yet,
how much longer is it going to be? Like how
much longer do I have to wait? And I'm just
(01:06):
kind of confused right now, like do I leave someone
I love because of this kind of timeline that isn't
matching up? Or you know, am I settling for less?
Than I deserve. I'm just I'm just not sure, like
what to do right now.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
I've been with my boyfriend for almost five years, and
if he gave me a promise ring, I would leave him.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
He would be like, it's just not time. I'm just
gonna be patient.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
Are you guys serious?
Speaker 5 (01:41):
You know?
Speaker 1 (01:41):
I would literally look like you guys.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
You know I wouldn't. I would have come in here
and be like, Kyle this, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I'd be like, look at this he got me.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I would be.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
I just do you, guys, I've been through this before.
Speaker 5 (01:57):
And I when I gave my wife, like we've been
married a lot time and Grace and Peyton, I just
let you guys know, I was trying. I found her,
I was like, she's amazing. I can't let this kind
of person go right. And I was never ever gonna
get married, never ever, ever, ever, But when you meet
someone like my wife, I was like, I got a marryer.
So I got her a ring, and I thought this
would delay anything. I thought it was like a pre
(02:19):
promise ring. I gave her this ring and then she'll
be happy. Then I could buy another year, year and
a half, then a promise ring. Then the engage ring.
But what I did was I got out of the ring,
and for some it sped everything up. It's sped it
all up. I because because, I think because in her
mind it was like, here's a ring, Oh my god,
you know it.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
And then it was like I had this guilt that
I didn't get to the ring. So then I got it.
I went and I got the ring, and then we
got married.
Speaker 5 (02:45):
But I did make sure it was an eighteen month engagement,
so we waited as long as possible. So Grace, I
don't think it's that bad of a deal. I think
if you just wait, you might get another one pretty soon.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
I do I think it's that bad of a deal.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I don't think you dumped that guy.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
I think I would totally not if I am a
expecting to move on to the next stage in our
life and I've been talking to my boyfriend about this
and you give me a promise ring. No, why why
can't you commit?
Speaker 4 (03:08):
I just see it as like a jumping off point
for that conversation, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
It's like, Grace, we can't answer that.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
But that's a great time for you to establish open
communication in your relationship and say this is beautiful. I
know it's a sign of your commitment, but also what
does this mean.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
For our future?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
It's a promise of what a promise to keep.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
On stringing me.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
A promise ring isn't necessarily a pre engagement ring. Like
a lot of people do promise rings just to say, like,
you know, I see a future with you. This isn't
necessarily coming. Some people do promise rings just to like
basically tell you it's like it's just you and me.
Speaker 6 (03:43):
I don't think guys think like that means. I think
guys feel like I've got you the appetizer. Dinner's come
in too, But the appetizer should keep you tied over
until dinner, and dinner's going to be great. That's what
I think guys think about.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
I'd rather have a ring pop than a promise ring.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
I gave my wife ring Pop two.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
I would rather take the ring pop pully right.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
Now, Dean brought you a ring. There's no promise ring.
There's no way, dude, there's.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
The will there's okay, y'all don't know so much.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Part of the rebrandrand.
Speaker 6 (04:16):
This is not a part of the rebrand.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
The part of the rebrand is the engagement ring that
I need on my finger, not no freaking promise ring.
I'd be mortified if he handed me a promise ring.
Speaker 6 (04:25):
You might be at first, but there's no way you
would leave your band. I would, no way.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
You look at too much and I do love him.
I would, and I probably wouldn't take the promise ring.
I'd be like, keep your little ring, go return it.
Speaker 6 (04:37):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
It's not a jerk move. He's not being a jerk.
He's not sleeping with your friend, he's not sleeping behind
your back. Why would you leave him? He got you
a gift.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Commit to believe. It doesn't make I mean, it doesn't.
Just continue. That's what I said.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
I would rather have nothing.
Speaker 5 (04:50):
Than the promise ring, because either way, believe or not,
this is in about painting right now, Grace, Grace, that's all.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
That's our advice. What do you think?
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I kind of agree with her. I'm just like, don't
get me anything if it's not going to be the
engagement ring, Like, what does this commitment mean? I'm still
confused by it.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Yeah, Kyle, I think Kyle had the most rational response
for you, and probably the best advice for you. Just
talk to him. Let it open up the conversation.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
All right, grace, good luck, and congratulations believe or not.
So there you go.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Thank you guys.
Speaker 5 (05:24):
All right, you got an comments on that shoes, the
text text JJR whatever your comments are, and the promise
ring to ninety six eight ninety three
Good morning, Grace. What's going on?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Good morning? So I've been with my boyfriend for like
four years now, and I believe he's my person, Like
genuinely I love this man, and we've talked about marriage
a lot of times. We've talked about the future. I
feel like we're super aligned in that regard, and so,
(00:23):
you know, we're like going on a seat and I'm
thinking this is the one, Like he's going to propose.
I got my nails done everything. You know, I'm twenty eight.
I'm like it's time. And he gives me a promise
ring and it's like, you know, I was just sitting
there thinking this was going to be an engagement ring,
(00:45):
and so I'm just sitting there and smiling and pretending
like it's okay, and on the inside, I'm kind of
just asking myself, like is this his way of saying
not yet or not ever? Like if it's not yet,
how much longer is it going to be? Like how
much longer do I have to wait? And I'm just
(01:06):
kind of confused right now, like do I leave someone
I love because of this kind of timeline that isn't
matching up? Or you know, am I settling for less?
Than I deserve. I'm just I'm just not sure, like
what to do right now.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
I've been with my boyfriend for almost five years, and
if he gave me a promise ring, I would leave him.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
He would be like, it's just not time. I'm just
gonna be patient.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
Are you guys serious?
Speaker 5 (01:41):
You know?
Speaker 1 (01:41):
I would literally look like you guys.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
You know I wouldn't. I would have come in here
and be like, Kyle this, Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I'd be like, look at this he got me.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I would be.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
I just do you, guys, I've been through this before.
Speaker 5 (01:57):
And I when I gave my wife, like we've been
married a lot time and Grace and Peyton, I just
let you guys know, I was trying. I found her,
I was like, she's amazing. I can't let this kind
of person go right. And I was never ever gonna
get married, never ever, ever, ever, But when you meet
someone like my wife, I was like, I got a marryer.
So I got her a ring, and I thought this
would delay anything. I thought it was like a pre
(02:19):
promise ring. I gave her this ring and then she'll
be happy. Then I could buy another year, year and
a half, then a promise ring. Then the engage ring.
But what I did was I got out of the ring,
and for some it sped everything up. It's sped it
all up. I because because, I think because in her
mind it was like, here's a ring, Oh my god,
you know it.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
And then it was like I had this guilt that
I didn't get to the ring. So then I got it.
I went and I got the ring, and then we
got married.
Speaker 5 (02:45):
But I did make sure it was an eighteen month engagement,
so we waited as long as possible. So Grace, I
don't think it's that bad of a deal. I think
if you just wait, you might get another one pretty soon.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
I do I think it's that bad of a deal.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
I don't think you dumped that guy.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
I think I would totally not if I am a
expecting to move on to the next stage in our
life and I've been talking to my boyfriend about this
and you give me a promise ring. No, why why
can't you commit?
Speaker 4 (03:08):
I just see it as like a jumping off point
for that conversation, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
It's like, Grace, we can't answer that.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
But that's a great time for you to establish open
communication in your relationship and say this is beautiful. I
know it's a sign of your commitment, but also what
does this mean.
Speaker 5 (03:24):
For our future?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
It's a promise of what a promise to keep.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
On stringing me.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
A promise ring isn't necessarily a pre engagement ring. Like
a lot of people do promise rings just to say, like,
you know, I see a future with you. This isn't
necessarily coming. Some people do promise rings just to like
basically tell you it's like it's just you and me.
Speaker 6 (03:43):
I don't think guys think like that means. I think
guys feel like I've got you the appetizer. Dinner's come
in too, But the appetizer should keep you tied over
until dinner, and dinner's going to be great. That's what
I think guys think about.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
I'd rather have a ring pop than a promise ring.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
I gave my wife ring Pop two.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
I would rather take the ring pop pully right.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
Now, Dean brought you a ring. There's no promise ring.
There's no way, dude, there's.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
The will there's okay, y'all don't know so much.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Part of the rebrandrand.
Speaker 6 (04:16):
This is not a part of the rebrand.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
The part of the rebrand is the engagement ring that
I need on my finger, not no freaking promise ring.
I'd be mortified if he handed me a promise ring.
Speaker 6 (04:25):
You might be at first, but there's no way you
would leave your band. I would, no way.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
You look at too much and I do love him.
I would, and I probably wouldn't take the promise ring.
I'd be like, keep your little ring, go return it.
Speaker 6 (04:37):
I don't know.
Speaker 5 (04:37):
It's not a jerk move. He's not being a jerk.
He's not sleeping with your friend, he's not sleeping behind
your back. Why would you leave him? He got you
a gift.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
Commit to believe. It doesn't make I mean, it doesn't.
Just continue. That's what I said.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
I would rather have nothing.
Speaker 5 (04:50):
Than the promise ring, because either way, believe or not,
this is in about painting right now, Grace, Grace, that's all.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
That's our advice. What do you think?
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I kind of agree with her. I'm just like, don't
get me anything if it's not going to be the
engagement ring, Like, what does this commitment mean? I'm still
confused by it.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Yeah, Kyle, I think Kyle had the most rational response
for you, and probably the best advice for you. Just
talk to him. Let it open up the conversation.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
All right, grace, good luck, and congratulations believe or not.
So there you go.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Thank you guys.
Speaker 5 (05:24):
All right, you got an comments on that shoes, the
text text JJR whatever your comments are, and the promise
ring to ninety six eight ninety three
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