December 19, 2024 • 45 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
From Hollywood to you.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Thank you for listening to.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Air on Air with a Ryan Seacrest.
Speaker 4 (00:09):
All right, speaking of couples, no real segue there.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
But that's pretty good.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
There's a new term that potential couples or non couples
are using, detached dating.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
But is it New Systney where we've seen this.
Speaker 5 (00:25):
That's where I was like, I don't know, because detached dating,
if you're single, you may be a detached dater if
you are kind of dating multiple people. And I think
it's a slippery slope with all the dating apps because
it's just so easy to see ipe left right and
date casually not fully commit to a relationship. So we
can break down what exactly is a detached dater or
(00:47):
signs that you might be guilty of it. And one
is that you might feel a wall is up between
you and your partners, and you always kind of have
that guard up, you always have that wall. You don't
you don't let those people in, you won't let them
close to you. Another one is that you keep things
casual or date multiple people at a time, using that
(01:08):
as a way to avoid attachment. But then I just
think at the end of the day, it's just your player.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
That's what I'm trying to say. It's like, isn't it
just wanting to play? But it's like you Okay, So
let's say you're a detached dater because you have this
wall up between you and your partners.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
You won't let people get close to you. So what's
going on with you?
Speaker 2 (01:28):
If you want to like get deeper into it, like
what is your issue?
Speaker 5 (01:33):
That's the that's what the more you can get with
the quote unquote experts, it's all about you finding peace
within yourself. You know, it's all that blah blah blah
love stuff where it's.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Like you got to love somebody else. There's an author
David Brooks, and he writes about I wrote this down.
He writes about that some say you have to actually
be loved before you can love, Like you have to
be loved so you can understand what love is to
give it to somebody else.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
So I'm not so sure. So you need to love
you first?
Speaker 5 (02:09):
Did you feel that from your parents? Or is it
that not the same type of love?
Speaker 2 (02:14):
It could be the same, could be different. But I think,
like you know, you always see her. I mean, I'm
kind of I don't know if I'm so much about
it anymore.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
It's I can keep here from everybody.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Well, you've got to love yourself before you can love everybody. Yes,
I don't know if that works for everybody. Maybe you
need to like understand what love feels like to receive
it to be able to give it back to someone else.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
I know, I see what you're saying, right, But then
you can also fall into the trap of loving that
so much that you would never know to give it
back because you're just trapped in that vortex of just
this is awesome, Like, why do I have to give
it back to somebody else if I'm just getting all
this love?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Tanya, Well, I think it's important to know the love
languages because you could be love the way that you
could be giving love the way that you like to
receive it, but that person might not receive love in
the same way as you, So then you're basically just
like speaking different languages.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
But the concept of feeling loved to give that back
to somebody is an interesting one that's different than oh,
I've just got to love me before I love you.
Speaker 5 (03:20):
I think it starts with your children. I think it's
the way that you're loved by your parents.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Because what if you didn't have the kind of love
you need from your parents right then you need to
find that from a partner and someone else before you
understand how to get You might need to have that
breakthrough with someone before you can understand how to give
it back to someone.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
It all goes back to childhood. Let me tell you
every therapy session I have, it's like this reminds you
of a time.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
Every session tells you the same time, stop paying.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Well no, no, no, But like I'm not saying every single session,
but most most.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Every session they're telling you to childhood.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
You're good.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Most cases things come from things that stem from your childhood.
It really all does.
Speaker 4 (04:00):
It is true?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Yeah, it is true, just fromout therapy sessions here. Yeah,
happy dating. Okay, let's get to these talkbacks that you
send in anytime about anything really inside the IRRADI app.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
It's a red microphone.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
There are a lot of fun used to play back there,
a bit of a potpourri of things.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
This one is from Blondie in Orange County.
Speaker 6 (04:20):
Hey, Ryan, Sisiny and Tanya, good morning. I was just
listening to you guys, and Ryan you're talking about your
sweating some days you sweat and some days you don't.
I have the exact same problem. It could be your anxiety.
And you can ask your doctor for dry salt deoder it.
It's prescribed, but it really really works. It's called dry salt.
Speaker 7 (04:43):
You're welcome.
Speaker 5 (04:43):
Have a wonderful day.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
I just changed your life. You're welcome. Yeah. Yeah, I
was saying that some days I noticed that I can
wear a shirt, especially these hot summer days and have
real pit sweat. Other day is I don't have it?
It could be anxiety. I also think I have to
do maybe what I.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
Eat that maybe have something to do with it as well.
But yeah, that dry soul.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
But why is it embarrassing? It shouldn't be embarrassing. Summer
day you have wet pits, like it's not. We act
like it's a toot.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
You know, it's not like the most attractive thing to
look at, and it's not it's not equivalent to it.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Its natural. I mean, it's a lot of things.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Are natural that we don't need to see.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
But but like what if I perspire on my back
the same thing that's a weird actual thing.
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Meaning to go to lunch and you showed up with
like super sweaty pits.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I'd be like, bro. But by the way, if we
were to walk to lunch here in Burbank in the heat,
my stomach would be wet.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Yes, I'm not going to lunch with you guys anyway.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Get that dry so and fix your pits. People get
sweaty all over, like this girl on Love Island, USA
has like extremely sweaty palms.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
I mean it can also be a sign that your
your your furnace is burning calories, right, I mean, you're
you're got that metabolism alive.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
True, I'll talk it up to that.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Uh. This is from Brittany and San Bernardino telling us
what to do if we ever get a cold.
Speaker 8 (06:11):
If you have a cold, you should put a fresh
garlic in your sock at night.
Speaker 5 (06:18):
I've heard of them, and.
Speaker 6 (06:19):
It should help draw out the virus.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
This is something I believe Patty told us about.
Speaker 5 (06:25):
It's not garlic. You can do chopped onions like raw onions,
and then you put them in like a in like
a bag, and then put the put the bag on
your feet, wrap it around, and then.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Put a sock on and onions. I f like onions
stay in the room for a long time garlic. I
don't know garlic doesn't onions have a for me?
Speaker 4 (06:46):
Onion.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Raw onions are stronger than raw garlic. I don't mind
raw garlic scent and aroma, but raw onions have a
have not.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
It has like a tanging.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Please send us these random to walk back. There sinside
the iheartradiop at red microphone.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Brittany want to try and help out Marissa. So Marissa
number one, thank you for listening. Number two, Yes, thank
you for trusting us enough to call in and talk
about this.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
What's up?
Speaker 8 (07:15):
Oh man? Thanks? Okay, Well, basically this is a weird
small world story. But I'm not sure what to do,
so I'm calling you. I'm going to a friend's wedding
next month, and I'm bringing my boyfriend. He hasn't met
the bride because she was like on the East Coast
and I don't get to see her much at all,
but she is truly one of my best friends, like
(07:35):
best friends. Anyway, I showed him a photo of her
with her fiance and he immediately swore he was like, uh,
I know him, like and not not in a good way.
He's like he is not a good guy, which freaked
me out. So I was, like, my boyfriend basically studied
in Guadalajara for six months in college, and he swears
(07:57):
that this guy was there and he must have fucked
with thirty women in the six weeks they were down there.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
What was thirty?
Speaker 9 (08:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (08:05):
I know, yeah according to Yeah, my partner and I know.
And he said on top of that, you guys that
he got a reputation for like walking out on bar
tabs and he was literally banned from some of the
bars over there, but he didn't care because like he
knew he was leaving, so he just would do it
all the time. So I'm calling because I'm like, do
(08:27):
I tell my friend this? And my boyfriend I've asked
him a million times. He is one, sure this is him?
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Have they interacted yet?
Speaker 5 (08:37):
Your boyfriend and him?
Speaker 8 (08:38):
No? No, He like this is gonna be the first
time meeting you know, well, like he's seen him again.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Don't you think.
Speaker 5 (08:44):
That that's gonna I think you let that happen naturally,
like at the wedding, so intense. When I think we're going.
Speaker 8 (08:56):
I mean, like in what the next next month.
Speaker 5 (09:00):
There's no way you're going to like break up that marriage, right,
now or that might be his old self.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Yeah, turned over a new leaf.
Speaker 8 (09:09):
Yeah, I mean I'd like to that. That is something
I said to him. I was like, listen, like they
seem very much in love. I've obviously been talking to
my best friend this whole time, and she's like, there
sounds amazing, but I have you met I met him
briefly over FaceTime, like like I said, I don't get
over to the East coast often, but like he seemed
(09:29):
great and I didn't have any contexts like my boyfriend has,
so I was just right, like off of instinct, I
was like, oh, she's happy. I'm I'm happy if she's happy. Right,
But this is freaking me out.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
So I've been waiting patiently to give you clear no opinion,
whatblutely you get this story?
Speaker 4 (09:53):
Told?
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Notbsolutely?
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Really really no, Ryan, You're wrong?
Speaker 10 (10:00):
Ryan?
Speaker 7 (10:00):
Why Why do you say that?
Speaker 8 (10:01):
Ryan?
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Because I think if you know that and your friends
in this situation with something that might not work out
because of character issues, they want to know before.
Speaker 4 (10:13):
I mean, there's these are character flaws.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
You have the information, and then information is pretty powerful information.
And if you didn't say anything and it didn't work out,
I think you would carry guilt. I don't want you
to care.
Speaker 8 (10:30):
I actually am. You're bringing up a good point, and
I can feel like in my system like this feels
even though it's a hard conversation, maybe you're right. Because
when I think about it, I'm like, what if she
finds out six months from now, a year from now,
and she's like, you didn't tell me this.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Exactly, then you're a bad right. I'm trying to keep
you up the bad person.
Speaker 5 (10:50):
I mean, you're gonna say something, and then he could
also deny it or say whatever to swear hair, and
then now you're out of.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
The certain trum. But there's only one right answer, and
that is to tell your friend because yeah, because you
don't want to carry gil if it doesn't work out.
These are character flaws, so right you.
Speaker 8 (11:12):
Decide, Okay, I really appreciate you guys. It's like really
helpful to talk this through.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
A lot of people.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
A character flaw.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
Out of his bill is not great. Yeah, it's stealing,
it's death, it's criminal.
Speaker 10 (11:31):
Yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
Know, I know.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
No, I know you don't want to hear that you
got to do it, but you got to do it.
Thanks for calling it.
Speaker 4 (11:39):
Good luck to do it.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
What if there's a world in which he wasn't dining
in maybe he was like leaving cash and nobody news says.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
What he's going to probably tell the fiance, And then
now the friend is going to be like the snitch
that they don't like anymore.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
Yeah, well, so what.
Speaker 5 (11:58):
They're not going to break up a this, They're still
gonna get married. And now she put her foot in
her mouth where she didn't need to.
Speaker 4 (12:04):
Well, or she didn't say anything.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
They get married and he is a steady, cheating thief
and she knew the whole time, and she then loses
her friend. Know, someday you'll realize that I understand marriages,
what needs to happen, how it needs to happen.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
Someday you'll realize.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
So if you're getting married, everybody here is right tany
you are Ruby, you are called let you are Tubs.
Are you still getting married?
Speaker 10 (12:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
He's getting married.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
I don't care about it.
Speaker 5 (12:36):
Yeah maybe like for all we know, Tubbs like already
has a set date and like, oh, wedding invites have
been sent.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Out, you have a set date. You have a date set.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
I'm waiting you get back from Yes, I am.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I'm gonna tell you March. Okay, it's March.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
It's not okay, perfect, thank you so much. That's what
that's what we were leading towards.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Anyway, Well, I had options May or March to choose from. Yeah,
I'm not waiting. I don't want anything to happen in between.
March and May.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Are going for it, worry about anything happening. It was
more like weather. Weather at the end of May gets
very very warm, so it's going to be like toasty wedding.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Yeah, all right, I'm coming down early to dress, rehearse,
check the lighting, the staging. Yeah, Megan, nice thing for
my big performance.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Yeah, we'll have to We're definitely gonna have to like
get into that very soon.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
Okay, I can't wait. But now even date in March.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
So anyway, you guys are all getting married and wedding planning.
From what I look at and I see people do it,
I look from afar, but it's a lot Where do
you spend your budget? Right, because it can get expensive,
especially if you've got a lot of people.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
So where do you put that budget?
Speaker 2 (13:50):
Wedding planners say these things are not worth it. One
real flowers get over yourself sis now or not?
Speaker 5 (14:03):
Do not have fake flowers at your wedding.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
No, I try to save a few bucks here.
Speaker 5 (14:07):
First of all, you don't need to have a crazy bouquet.
But you can have very simple real flowers just in
little vases and it still looks beautiful. But fake flowers.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
I've seen some gorgeous fake flower arrangements at weddings.
Speaker 4 (14:18):
Fake flowers off at them.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Well, maybe you're not available in March.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
I don't know. Here's what you could save on liquor.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Go with beer and wine cheaper and in the spirits
beer wine bar right and personalized cocktail. Now, yeah, you
don't need those. No one cares, No one pays attention,
No one cares.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
Don't do it.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
No, that is definitely happening, which you're wasting money.
Speaker 4 (14:47):
Rather you have a food truck for us than napkins.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
No, I'm gonna get ones with Sunny's face on them.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
No one really cares.
Speaker 5 (14:54):
Nobody cares.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Save your money.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
You can save money in those.
Speaker 5 (14:59):
Get real flowers in seud of your napkins.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Gosh, you too in the drama with the weddings. Today's
quote every day there's a quote. Today's Thursday Quote stars
don't beg the world for attention. Their beauty forces us
to look up. Oh yeah, they don't beg for attention,
So lay off. Don't say look at me and post
it and say look at me and post it again,
(15:24):
and say look at me, post it again. Side true
from another angle. Don't need to see that much of you.
Speaker 4 (15:30):
Just FM headlines with siciny well.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
The Teamsters Union launched a strike against Amazon this morning
that includes facilities in Victorville, the City of Industry, Palmdale,
and San Bernardino. Governor Gavenusom declared a state of emergency
to expedite the state's response to bird flu as more
cases were detected in so called dairy farm cows. The
Torrents Fire Department announced the rollout of a new emergency
(15:55):
alert system that will deliver real time messages to cars
and through ways apps and Apple Maps, and Bluie is.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Heading to the big screen.
Speaker 5 (16:06):
A film based on the hit Australian animated series will
arrive in theaters in twenty twenty seven.
Speaker 4 (16:12):
Okay, let's go right now into this TikTok.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
A lot of hacks, a lot of things happening on TikTok,
but you gotta be careful about some of this stuff.
Does it work when you see everybody doing it? Is
it a good idea? Is it dangerous? So, for example,
this is what I'm seeing right now in TikTok raw
potatoes to get rid of eyebags. They're cutting off TikTokers
are cutting up raw potatoes and rubbing them under their
(16:37):
eyes to get rid of eyebags.
Speaker 5 (16:39):
I've heard of cucumbers, what about potatoes. I don't know
the same.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Well it works, it works?
Speaker 4 (16:45):
Uh?
Speaker 7 (16:46):
What?
Speaker 11 (16:47):
Uh?
Speaker 4 (16:47):
It's it's safe. It works.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Doctors say potatoes are high invitament C and safe for
your skin. So grab yourself some starch and put it
under your eyes. Wait wait, wait, are you doing this?
What are you making your own sunscreen? Sorry, everybody's talking
about this too on TikTok okay recipe. So the recipe
for homemade sunscreen. It contains coconut oil, cocoa butter, bees wax,
(17:12):
and Georgia ba oil with zinc oxide powder. I mean
it's a complicated recipe. But are you making your own
sunscreen with that stuff? And does it work? I do
have coconut oil beside my bed.
Speaker 4 (17:29):
Put it on behead, right beside your bed.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Yeah, I got it. You don't have cocona oil beside
your bedmark. No, no, well you don't have enough fun.
So it's good for your skin.
Speaker 5 (17:45):
And I'm going to put on your elbow, your knees,
the places that really get extra dry, among other things.
Speaker 4 (17:55):
It is a good place to store on your bedside table.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
Like a slip and fly.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
A little bit, have a little fun. Coconut oil is
safe for all things. All things, so anyway sidetrack. But
they say, no, don't use this. Homemade sunscreen rarely works.
There's no way to tell much sun protection. It gives
you that one one more, one more, okay to the
bottom one okay.
Speaker 4 (18:23):
Two more first the top one. Eating raw garlic to
cure acne? Does that work?
Speaker 5 (18:30):
Eating raw garlictic cure acne? Okay? Let me, I would
give me. Garlic's great for you. It can help you
in your set.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
Does Yeah, it doesn't work. There is a lot of
health benefits, like you were saying, but not to cure your.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Acte because acne is like hormonal.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
This is what tiny wants. Sleeping with chin straps TikTok trends.
They're saying to help with snoring, teeth grinding, sleep apnea,
and sharpen your.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
Jaw with the jaw line. Let me tell you, Yeah,
can you.
Speaker 4 (18:55):
Do you sleep with the chin strap to tighten that
jaw line?
Speaker 1 (18:58):
I don't. I sleep with mouth tape.
Speaker 4 (19:02):
And in like a when I don't say what else
you sleep? But I don't know what else.
Speaker 5 (19:10):
The fact that you're doing all of this stuff.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Wow, the look at me. In six months, my jawline
is going to be snat.
Speaker 5 (19:16):
I didn't think it needed any different.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
If it does work, I'll start doing it this Uh anyway,
is it safe? Yeah, it's safe to sleep with a
chin strap. Anything that restricts you from breathing freely is
a problem. There's no evidence that it helps with any
of those things. So I don't know tany if you're
going to be I.
Speaker 5 (19:35):
Don't think that's safe.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
Let me tell you, Okay, but no, you don't need
to tell me. I just told you what the doctors
are saying. Hey, Jim, I want to take your quick
call before we get to Ryan's ross.
Speaker 10 (19:44):
How are you good?
Speaker 2 (19:47):
So you have a question about your fiance, Is that right?
Speaker 12 (19:51):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (19:52):
How can we help?
Speaker 13 (19:54):
Well, my fiance and are planning our wedding and we've
run into an ish Unfortunately. You know, her dad hasn't
been in her life since she was young, and so
she doesn't want to have any dances dedicated to parents
since he won't be at the wedding. However, my mom
(20:15):
really wants to dance with me at the wedding. I'm
our only child, and you know, she's talked about this
ever since I got engaged. I told her about you know,
how my fiance doesn't want to do any dances, and
she's just super upset. So yeah, she understands why my
(20:36):
fiance doesn't want to have any dances, but she's still
pushing for us to dance, and I don't want to.
You know, I don't want my fiance to be uncomfortable
at our wedding, but I also don't want to take
this away from my mom. So I'm wondering. You know,
do you guys have any alternate ideas for this or
what do you think is the best way to go here?
Speaker 5 (20:55):
You have to do it? Well, no, well, this is
a non negotiably. You have to do this.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
You don't have to do anything.
Speaker 5 (21:02):
You have to dance with your mom or your wedding.
If your mom and you're her only child, and your
fiance needs to come around, and marriage is about compromise,
and this is one of your first lessons.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
You can say, like digging into this, this is all
things worried. I am, Yeah, I'm worried. Why is your
fiance digging into this?
Speaker 13 (21:29):
I don't know, it's I guess she just feels like
it's something you know, it's going to bring up bad
feelings for her.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Yeah, you guys have to look at this from her
perspective too. Maybe it's like really painful. Maybe the relationships
she had with her dad is like really triggering and traumatic,
and and her seeing her husband dance with his mom
might make her really sad that she doesn't have that
with her dad, and she doesn't want to be sad
on her wedding day.
Speaker 5 (21:56):
She used to get over it.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
I'm sistany on this. I mean, jare me, but we
say she's get over bro. That's gonna be a great, great,
great life together. You guys are gonna have so much
love and good times.
Speaker 5 (22:11):
It doesn't have to be like the whole three minutes
of a song too. Yeah, when I danced with our parents,
it was like a minute, like to the first quar.
Speaker 4 (22:25):
All right, I'll talk about maybe.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Maybe there's a compromise where there's somebody else in her
life that's maybe not her dad, but like that's a
good Maybe is somebody that's that is like a parental
figure in her life that she could do the dance
with them, Maybe they could do it together with his
dad or his dad his dad.
Speaker 5 (22:43):
Compromise, compromise.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
But like whenever it gets so rigid about an issue, guys,
not rigid. Don't have to draw a line in the sand.
It's you're getting married, it's your families. You're celebrating the supply.
They tell me, this is the greatest moment of your
life when you get married.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
Tell me.
Speaker 5 (22:59):
And as a mom, I am dancing with Maxon at
his wedding. I don't care.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
I got to get to Ryan's rose. It's time for
Ryan's roses. We've been talking about it all morning. Let's
do it. Olivia Sherman Oaks, Olivia. We have a lot
of questions, but we sort of distilled them down to
a couple here. And thanks for coming on. You tell
us that your husband told you he's having an affair.
Speaker 7 (23:20):
Yeah, yes, I think, Well, Okay really showed before that part.
Speaker 4 (23:26):
What did he say, how did he tell you? What
were the words?
Speaker 7 (23:31):
Okay, well, so he was a little hazy on those details.
He just said her name was Brooke and that they
met at a grocery store and they'd been sneaking around
since March. But he's not a lady's man. It just
felt a little desperate.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
Okay. Then my next question is why is he telling
you had an affair if he didn't have an affair?
Speaker 10 (23:53):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (23:54):
Okay, So I cheated on him about six years ago.
There he found out about it and we got through it.
He decided to stay with me, but things have never
really been the same, Like he checks my phone a lot.
The trust really isn't there, The romance isn't there anymore.
(24:14):
So anyway, the other day he came to me and
he's said he had a confession to make, that he
had been having an affair for a few months, and
that he wanted me to know he felt terrible about it,
but that hopefully now that we have both made a mistake,
that we can make things like they used to be.
Speaker 10 (24:37):
I don't know.
Speaker 7 (24:37):
I think he's making it up. I think he wants
me to feel what he felt back in twenty eighteen.
And I think his theory is that if we're even,
that will help the marriage.
Speaker 4 (24:51):
We are not qualified, but we can make this call.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
Okay, And you think it's revenge and even the playing field,
and that's going to make it stronger. So what do
you want to happen here? Do you want him to
be sending roses to another woman or you?
Speaker 7 (25:06):
I'm I mean having an affair would be worse if
he sends the roses to someone else. I know this
is really over.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
But if he but but but, Olivia, if he's if
he's concocting this thing because you did this, and he's
lying about the affair, he's likely to make up a
name to get you to believe he's having an affair.
Speaker 7 (25:28):
I just want you to dig a little further. I
just feel like something's off. And look, if he isn't cheating,
I will get us in the couple's therapy. I want
to make this work.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Well, of course you do, because you cheated, right?
Speaker 4 (25:41):
Bad on you?
Speaker 11 (25:42):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (25:43):
No judgment?
Speaker 4 (25:43):
Well, yes, judgment? What what olive you hold on for?
Speaker 10 (25:48):
Seen? Sorry?
Speaker 4 (25:49):
Why can't I why? Why? Why can't have an opinion
that she cheated on.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
Them Okay, but I know, but I mean it's not
for us to project.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
By the way, we do these every single day, twice
how many times we do them a week? And we
make judgments job we do every single mark. Am I
making this up? Don't We actually make a judgment every
single time we do this? And now times like show
no judgment.
Speaker 4 (26:13):
We are anti cheating as a show, I would say,
and yeah, I'm.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Not talking about that. I'm talking about we make a
judgment the premise of the thing she reads out to us,
and we judge them. That's what we do.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
It's not a no judgment segment.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
We take calls and people judging the people like what
where did I come to the wrong old this morning?
I don't understand. You just throw these things at me
and they get me wound up. This is where we judge. Judge, judge, judge,
so judge, this.
Speaker 5 (26:48):
Is a judge.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Oh my gosh, Yes, Olivia, we're gonna make the call.
I want to get serious with you. I need you
to say, Ryan, you have my permission to call, and
then your husband's go ahead.
Speaker 7 (27:02):
Ryan, you have my permission to call.
Speaker 4 (27:05):
Okay, be very quiet. Let us try and find out.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
My view is if you think he's making up the affair,
he might make up a name here to send the
flowers to, just to get under your skin.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
So hold on, here we go.
Speaker 10 (27:20):
Okay everyone, Yeah, Hello.
Speaker 5 (27:36):
Hi is this Gabriel. This is he Hi Gabriel. My
name is Stacy. I'm calling from Flowers on Ventura. How
are you doing this morning?
Speaker 12 (27:46):
I'm good? How are you?
Speaker 10 (27:47):
I'm good?
Speaker 5 (27:47):
Thank you for asking. We're a flower shop on here
in Sherman Oaks and deliver all over the valley parts
of la and offering a promotion. It's a free dozen
red roses that you can send to anybody that you'd like.
They are free. I don't need cash, credit card info,
anything like that. I just hope that if you like
our arrangements, you come back as a customer one day.
Speaker 12 (28:04):
I'm sorry, this is just not something I'm interested in.
Speaker 5 (28:07):
Are you sure? I don't need cash from you, I
don't need credit card info. It's They're absolutely free and
you can brighten up somebody's days. Is there anybody in
your life that you'd want to send roses to?
Speaker 12 (28:17):
I'm sorry, I can't help you.
Speaker 5 (28:19):
Not one person.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
Gabriel, your voice is being broadcast in the radio my
name is Ryan. Can I ask you some questions real fast.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
Before you hang up?
Speaker 10 (28:27):
What?
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Thank you? Your voice is being broadcast in the radio.
I have Sistany and Tany with me and your wife
Olivia on the line. Just a couple of quick questions. Okay, So, Gabriel,
we have come to understand that you are having an affair.
Is that true?
Speaker 12 (28:48):
I told my wife about all that?
Speaker 10 (28:50):
All right?
Speaker 4 (28:50):
How long is the affair of been going on?
Speaker 12 (28:53):
Listen?
Speaker 14 (28:54):
This is not something I want to talk about right now.
This is none of anybody's business. This is between me
and my wife.
Speaker 10 (29:01):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
So the thing is we know more than you know.
Get real, that's the thing. And so we are trying
to get to the truth here.
Speaker 7 (29:15):
Is Brook a real person? Or did you make it
up to make me jealous?
Speaker 12 (29:20):
Are you doing this on the radio?
Speaker 10 (29:23):
Tell me the truth.
Speaker 12 (29:28):
I mean, you didn't seem very jealous when I told.
Speaker 7 (29:30):
You because it didn't seem like the truth.
Speaker 12 (29:38):
No, I'm not having an affair.
Speaker 7 (29:42):
Oh my god.
Speaker 12 (29:44):
Look, I can't believe you want to trouble.
Speaker 7 (29:50):
It's because I love you.
Speaker 10 (29:51):
I will.
Speaker 7 (29:52):
I will spend the rest of my life trying to
make this up to you. I promise I will.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
So, Gibril, why did you make up the story of
you having an affair?
Speaker 12 (30:07):
Listen?
Speaker 14 (30:08):
She had she had an affair six years ago, and
you know, it just crushed me and I just wanted
her to feel how I was feeling at that time.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
Do you feel like this is a relation you got
cheated on? Now you lie about cheating? Is this relationship healthy?
Speaker 10 (30:24):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (30:25):
Six years later, you still can't let it go. Are
you ever going to Okay?
Speaker 14 (30:29):
Look, listen, this is between me and my wife. This
is this is not as an easy situation to have
dealt with. This is this is difficult.
Speaker 12 (30:36):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
So I sound very complicated, and that's something that we
are appreciating wholly here. But do you think you're in
a healthy place to make it work, Olivia, Gabriel.
Speaker 7 (30:52):
Look, Monica gave me the number of a really good
couple therapists.
Speaker 12 (30:56):
Listen. That's worked before.
Speaker 7 (30:59):
Yeah, but it's time to try again with somebody new.
Will you please do that with me?
Speaker 11 (31:05):
Please?
Speaker 12 (31:07):
Yes, yes, I will, Yes, I will do that. I
will do whatever it takes.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
Oh my god, So, gabrit you've forgiven her of the cheating.
Speaker 4 (31:16):
You're good?
Speaker 14 (31:19):
Yes, we need we obviously need therapy and to talk
about this more. But yes, I'm willing to do whatever
I need to do.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Well, this is great, Actually, this is great. Well done,
and congratulations because a lot of these calls end very differently,
where people are walking away, throwing it away and out
of no choice. But you two are saying, hey, you
cheated on me. I lied about cheating on you. I'm
not cheating on you, but you cheated on me and
I forgive you for that, and Olivia forgives you for
(31:45):
lying about cheating on her. And that's where we are,
and this is in some way a beautiful thing.
Speaker 10 (31:53):
Thank you, Gabriel, because I.
Speaker 4 (31:55):
Believe the two of you, in the strangest way ever
want to make.
Speaker 10 (32:00):
It work cute.
Speaker 4 (32:05):
And we're gonna let you go. That's it, thank you
very much.
Speaker 10 (32:09):
Right.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
I think that what I hear there now, I couldn't
have done it. I could have been Gabriel on that
and forgiven.
Speaker 1 (32:16):
They say they forgive, but they're not forgetting.
Speaker 5 (32:18):
Yeah he can't. He's making up these lies six years
years later.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
No, you don't hear healthy there no just going back
to the Ryan's roses. So it is a bit choisted,
but look, we are not in their shoes.
Speaker 4 (32:31):
We don't know.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
It sounded by the end of the call like you
have two people that have unique situations in a marriage
but really want to make it work. A little desperation,
a little in FIDELI washed itself out to those two
and they want to try and dig in and see
a therapist and make their marriage last and work. So
what happened? She cheated six years ago? He comes to
(32:55):
her and says, I cheated. I'm admitting to an affair.
She doesn't believe. Turns out he did make it up.
He lied.
Speaker 4 (33:02):
There was no woman named Brooke.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
He lied about having an affair because he wanted to
feel a little better about the fact that she cheated, right,
like even the playing field here, right, But he did
it knowing he.
Speaker 4 (33:16):
Wanted to make it work in the marriage.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
Like he lied knowing if she did believe him, he
was going to say, but okay, we both did this,
let's try and fix it. Turns out she says to us, well,
if he did cheat him out, well, how can she
say that after she cheated and he stayed in? And
that was my judgment, Tanya, I understand what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (33:38):
I do.
Speaker 5 (33:39):
I'm just saying he can't have it both ways.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
There are various sides to every story.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
But Sistney, in a way, I saw beauty at the
end of that call. I saw one person go, I
made a mistake, one person I made up some lies,
but two people going, let's make it work.
Speaker 4 (33:56):
That's what's all.
Speaker 5 (33:56):
Yeah, but he's not over it. No, and I don't
know that he ever will be. No, And you know
what he said, He was like, you didn't even seem
that sad when I told you that I was cheating
exactly any charades and games. And it's like, what are
we doing?
Speaker 2 (34:13):
It's not healthy, but I do I did. At the
end of the call, here two people going, we're not
great at this, but we want to try and make
it work. And I appreciate that. I wouldn't have been
Gabriel in this situation. I wouldn't stuck around after six years.
I wouldn't have So Nikki Rinando Beach talk to me here.
Speaker 10 (34:34):
You know, it.
Speaker 15 (34:36):
Sounds like a happy ending, but it just seems like
he doesn't trust her, and it sounds like.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
I think you're going to be like his confidence is gone,
he doesn't trust her, and here we have a problem.
She called him desperate. Guys, Remember she said, he seems
a little desperate. She said that. Yeah, but they want
to try and make it work, and maybe they can.
Speaker 4 (34:58):
You hope for the best.
Speaker 15 (35:00):
Yeah, no, I wish them well, but I just it
feels like this is a relationship that's not built on
anything good.
Speaker 4 (35:07):
Well, that's what Ryan's roses can be.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Sometimes I'm silence from Nikki there on that one.
Speaker 4 (35:15):
She's out. That's what Ryan's roses is. Monday's Thursday.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
On the other side of the spectrum, I was looking
at this article about little things couples have been doing.
These are couples have been married thirty plus years. They
do every day. They make each other laugh, they eat
meals together. They always kiss goodbye and good night.
Speaker 5 (35:35):
Yeah that's important.
Speaker 4 (35:36):
I think so too.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
Yeah, you always gotta kiss good night. Even in the dark.
You can find those lips. Yeah, yeah, it's true, you can.
If you're not meant to be together, you can't find
those lips in the dark.
Speaker 4 (35:48):
You know what they say, what do they say?
Speaker 2 (35:50):
They say, you'll find the lips of your soulmate in
the dark. It's electric, it's magnetic. And the other thing
they do have find fascinating. A couple of thirty plus
years find little ways to lighten each other's load.
Speaker 5 (36:06):
That's nice.
Speaker 10 (36:07):
That is.
Speaker 4 (36:09):
A day today. So I handled something right that I
appreciate too.
Speaker 5 (36:14):
Good as the service.
Speaker 4 (36:15):
Good morning, Amanda. How are you doing?
Speaker 16 (36:18):
Hey, I'm good.
Speaker 10 (36:19):
How are you good?
Speaker 2 (36:20):
So we have everybody here, all hands are here on
deck to help you out. So you're calling about bringing
a guy friend to a wedding.
Speaker 16 (36:29):
Yes, yes, I need everyone's advice.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
So what's the story.
Speaker 15 (36:33):
So I just found.
Speaker 16 (36:34):
Out that I have a plus.
Speaker 11 (36:35):
One to a family member's wedding next month, and I'm
wondering if it's okay to ask my guy friend to
be my plus one, and when I'm not exactly sure
if we're just friends. So I've known it for a
really long time, but we've gotten close there recently, and
we're always a bit flirty. He actually just made it
(36:57):
a points to tell me that he broke up with
his girlfriend, and I want to ask him, but I
don't want to like give the wrong idea if it
doesn't mean anything, you.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
Know, do you want it to mean you?
Speaker 10 (37:13):
I don't know, I.
Speaker 16 (37:14):
Mean a little bit, like I'm curious to see how
it would go. But I don't know if I asked
him if I should define it as like just friends
just in case, Like I basically I'm afraid of being rejected.
Speaker 2 (37:25):
Yeah, I mean this is like the situation that's so
common here.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
You know, what would have happened if Sofia Bush did this.
Sophia Bush did this, she would never be Yes, she
asked out Ashland Harris and now there's together.
Speaker 4 (37:40):
She wanted to be with Ashland.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
I know, but I'm saying, let's just take fear aside
and let's just go for it.
Speaker 5 (37:47):
We invite him as your date and then once you know,
liquid courage and see what happens.
Speaker 16 (37:55):
Yeah. But is it weird that it's like a family
member's wedding.
Speaker 5 (37:58):
No, I think that makes it better. He's like one
of your best friends. It's like innocent. Yeah, you don't
have to explain much to your family.
Speaker 4 (38:06):
You just read the signals as you're going through it.
Speaker 16 (38:09):
How do I like ask him though without it being weird?
Speaker 5 (38:13):
Does he know any of the family members?
Speaker 7 (38:17):
Like? Barely?
Speaker 13 (38:18):
Not?
Speaker 7 (38:18):
Not?
Speaker 2 (38:19):
Well, I just think you asked me, say, Look, I
would I've got to go to this wedding of a
family member and would love for you to join.
Speaker 4 (38:26):
Be a fun event.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
No, I gotta go.
Speaker 5 (38:29):
I would would be a fun event. Please hang out
kind of movie premiere.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
Yeah, it's fun.
Speaker 4 (38:42):
I thought it'd be nice.
Speaker 5 (38:44):
No, you'd be like, hey, do you remember my cousin
Rachel blah blah blah, she's getting married. Hey, something along
those lines.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
Oh my god, man.
Speaker 4 (38:52):
Let us know how it goes. Good luck, thank you bye.
Speaker 2 (38:56):
Yeah that's what I would say. Hey, I got a thing.
I got a thing this weekend. Thought maybe be fun
if we just hang at it.
Speaker 5 (39:06):
Wow, what is that a hair tie on your hand?
I'm gonna wear it.
Speaker 4 (39:10):
Okay, no one gets that.
Speaker 5 (39:15):
Our true listeners will.
Speaker 4 (39:17):
I thought that was actually very clever at the time.
So this is interesting.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
Madiana has come from the back room into the main
studio here. It's symbolic. I guess what she's thinking about.
She wants to well explain.
Speaker 9 (39:31):
So what I want to do is get a new number,
like a brand new number phone number, Yes, brand new
cell phone number, and get rid of my old cell
phone number because I feel like I just have so
many people that I don't know anymore that have my number,
they have access to me.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
Yeah, fresh start, new era.
Speaker 9 (39:46):
You know, I feel like I'm kind of like thirsty
for a change in my life. Yeah, so I'm like,
I want something different, and I also want to get
like an LA Aero code. That way I can manifest
moving out here.
Speaker 2 (39:57):
So you're in the nine to five to one, an
eight one eight or something three two three like you
said it for any area area. That's interesting because back
in the day, you could every time you move to
get a new phone number, right, but now you can
have a phone number. I have your own phone number
for forever.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
I've literally had my same phone number since I was
fifteen years old. I've had about six.
Speaker 5 (40:14):
Different phone numbers.
Speaker 2 (40:15):
But see, I don't know. I always worry that maybe
that one friend from high school it has my cell
phone number.
Speaker 4 (40:19):
I can't reach out at somebody to.
Speaker 1 (40:22):
Love that I have people that reach out to me
from Like I get birthday messages from high school teachers.
I think I d M you.
Speaker 2 (40:28):
I mean, that's a big reset. And are you sure
you don't want to get any random message from somebody
every once in a while.
Speaker 9 (40:33):
No, I feel like I'm ready for that change.
Speaker 2 (40:35):
So you would start from scratch from scratch, then do
you have to send your old phone number to like
a list of other people.
Speaker 4 (40:41):
So they haven't. It seems like a lot of work.
Speaker 9 (40:42):
That's what I was thinking about too, But you.
Speaker 5 (40:45):
Start with like the core, the core circle.
Speaker 9 (40:47):
It's my close friends.
Speaker 2 (40:48):
It's like when I lose a credit card and I
got to go back and reset Postmates.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
My my debit card, and I'm like, I'm holding it.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
I don't think in the pocket. I think i'd be
too overwhelmed to handle the admin.
Speaker 1 (40:59):
Oh I can't do it.
Speaker 2 (41:00):
However, I do like your manifestation component to this, like
you want to be in the three two three, Why
don't you.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
Just tattoo the area code on your risk or something.
Sounds easier commitments, easier than changing your number.
Speaker 2 (41:14):
And I don't have any tattoos.
Speaker 5 (41:16):
So I will tell you what though, your whoever gets
your old number is going to be super annoyed because
that everyone's gonna text you. But when they finally get
your new number, they're like, oh, whoever has your old
number hates you because I keep texting them or they
keep getting all your texts.
Speaker 4 (41:28):
Yeah, all right, go for it, keep us posting.
Speaker 1 (41:30):
No, don't do it.
Speaker 2 (41:31):
I'll send you guys my new number. So I guess
my phone, because it is right here. My phone in
front of me is right here, and I guess it.
Hears us right talking about Tanya's wedding. So every now
and then my feed sends wedding articles and the latest
one I got was the newest member of wedding teams.
(41:54):
People are hiring social media concierges for their wedding, so
not just catering, not just music or DJ. Now as
social media concierge, and this person, this social media concierge
is not the photographer, not separate the social media concierge.
Their job is to post in real time things are happening.
Speaker 4 (42:14):
At the wedding.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
That is next level, to create the narrative you've told
them to create, correct in real time while it's happening, Tony,
you want that I saw this. I have to take
it to you. As the only member of the team
planning a wedding. Is this something that's legit?
Speaker 1 (42:31):
It is legit. So we've only met with two wedding
planners so far, but one of them did bring this
up to us about because I was like, I give
me the basics, like what are some things that we
absolutely need? And she brought this up. She didn't call
it what the wedding content creator or social media concierge is,
but she did say that you basically hire out this
(42:53):
staff that is on site to film your vision for
social posting, and it's like small, bite sized clips, so
it's like Instagram TikTok and you basically just like hire
them per hour to be there doing that.
Speaker 2 (43:07):
I don't know how I feel about real time and
live posting. It seems like you could compile something later,
but yeah, while you're dancing, it's.
Speaker 1 (43:15):
Not necessarily you don't have to do it real time.
It's like to capture the I don't know, it's like
to edit it to make it that bite size TikTok
of type stuff.
Speaker 2 (43:23):
A lot of the brides and rooms that are hiring
the wedding content creators social media concires are doing it live.
Speaker 4 (43:29):
They're posting in real time and so but that seems there.
Speaker 1 (43:32):
That seems so weird to me that you're spending your
time posting stuff at your wedding.
Speaker 4 (43:37):
You're not.
Speaker 2 (43:37):
They are, No, that's why you hire that.
Speaker 1 (43:39):
So they're just doing it without your consent while you're.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
Then you hire them, you give them the narrative. You
tell the kind of things you want and they get
it and they post in real time, and.
Speaker 4 (43:48):
You trust getting them control. Does this make you rethink anything?
Speaker 1 (43:53):
Well, no, I mean I didn't really, I didn't. I
just laughed because I thought it was actually kind of
a great idea. I was like, wow, what a great idea.
Speaker 5 (44:00):
You know when we got married. I guess it's kind
of like replaces the hashtag because when we had hashtags
ten years ago, everyone used that hashtag and that was
the live posting.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
Why don't you invite Ronnie to the wedding and Ronnie
from the Kiss Social team can just post it.
Speaker 1 (44:16):
He wants to enjoy himself.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
By the way I saw the guy jingle Ball, he's
enjoying himself posting. He's telling me what to do. He's like, guys,
could you do post for a Christmas photo?
Speaker 4 (44:25):
And do it again? Do it again? That was in
the right light.
Speaker 1 (44:27):
Yeah, he takes a job very seriously. But no, I
would not I would not want to hire him to work.
I would want him to just enjoy. But it is
it is a very much a thing. And she did
say like she's like, I have tons of people doing it,
so that you could choose from different people's aesthetic that
you like.
Speaker 2 (44:41):
I was like, Wow, tomorrow we shall do it to
gain and dare I say it? Tomorrow? It is finally Friday, right,
have a good Thursday.
Speaker 4 (44:54):
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From Hollywood to you.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Thank you for listening to.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Air on Air with a Ryan Seacrest.
Speaker 4 (00:09):
All right, speaking of couples, no real segue there.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
But that's pretty good.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
There's a new term that potential couples or non couples
are using, detached dating.
Speaker 4 (00:21):
But is it New Systney where we've seen this.
Speaker 5 (00:25):
That's where I was like, I don't know, because detached dating,
if you're single, you may be a detached dater if
you are kind of dating multiple people. And I think
it's a slippery slope with all the dating apps because
it's just so easy to see ipe left right and
date casually not fully commit to a relationship. So we
can break down what exactly is a detached dater or
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signs that you might be guilty of it. And one
is that you might feel a wall is up between
you and your partners, and you always kind of have
that guard up, you always have that wall. You don't
you don't let those people in, you won't let them
close to you. Another one is that you keep things
casual or date multiple people at a time, using that
(01:08):
as a way to avoid attachment. But then I just
think at the end of the day, it's just your player.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
That's what I'm trying to say. It's like, isn't it
just wanting to play? But it's like you Okay, So
let's say you're a detached dater because you have this
wall up between you and your partners.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
You won't let people get close to you. So what's
going on with you?
Speaker 2 (01:28):
If you want to like get deeper into it, like
what is your issue?
Speaker 5 (01:33):
That's the that's what the more you can get with
the quote unquote experts, it's all about you finding peace
within yourself. You know, it's all that blah blah blah
love stuff where it's.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Like you got to love somebody else. There's an author
David Brooks, and he writes about I wrote this down.
He writes about that some say you have to actually
be loved before you can love, Like you have to
be loved so you can understand what love is to
give it to somebody else.
Speaker 4 (02:06):
So I'm not so sure. So you need to love
you first?
Speaker 5 (02:09):
Did you feel that from your parents? Or is it
that not the same type of love?
Speaker 2 (02:14):
It could be the same, could be different. But I think,
like you know, you always see her. I mean, I'm
kind of I don't know if I'm so much about
it anymore.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
It's I can keep here from everybody.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Well, you've got to love yourself before you can love everybody. Yes,
I don't know if that works for everybody. Maybe you
need to like understand what love feels like to receive
it to be able to give it back to someone else.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
I know, I see what you're saying, right, But then
you can also fall into the trap of loving that
so much that you would never know to give it
back because you're just trapped in that vortex of just
this is awesome, Like, why do I have to give
it back to somebody else if I'm just getting all
this love?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Tanya, Well, I think it's important to know the love
languages because you could be love the way that you
could be giving love the way that you like to
receive it, but that person might not receive love in
the same way as you, So then you're basically just
like speaking different languages.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
But the concept of feeling loved to give that back
to somebody is an interesting one that's different than oh,
I've just got to love me before I love you.
Speaker 5 (03:20):
I think it starts with your children. I think it's
the way that you're loved by your parents.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Because what if you didn't have the kind of love
you need from your parents right then you need to
find that from a partner and someone else before you
understand how to get You might need to have that
breakthrough with someone before you can understand how to give
it back to someone.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
It all goes back to childhood. Let me tell you
every therapy session I have, it's like this reminds you
of a time.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
Every session tells you the same time, stop paying.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Well no, no, no, But like I'm not saying every single session,
but most most.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Every session they're telling you to childhood.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
You're good.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Most cases things come from things that stem from your childhood.
It really all does.
Speaker 4 (04:00):
It is true?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Yeah, it is true, just fromout therapy sessions here. Yeah,
happy dating. Okay, let's get to these talkbacks that you
send in anytime about anything really inside the IRRADI app.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
It's a red microphone.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
There are a lot of fun used to play back there,
a bit of a potpourri of things.
Speaker 4 (04:17):
This one is from Blondie in Orange County.
Speaker 6 (04:20):
Hey, Ryan, Sisiny and Tanya, good morning. I was just
listening to you guys, and Ryan you're talking about your
sweating some days you sweat and some days you don't.
I have the exact same problem. It could be your anxiety.
And you can ask your doctor for dry salt deoder it.
It's prescribed, but it really really works. It's called dry salt.
Speaker 7 (04:43):
You're welcome.
Speaker 5 (04:43):
Have a wonderful day.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
I just changed your life. You're welcome. Yeah. Yeah, I
was saying that some days I noticed that I can
wear a shirt, especially these hot summer days and have
real pit sweat. Other day is I don't have it?
It could be anxiety. I also think I have to
do maybe what I.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
Eat that maybe have something to do with it as well.
But yeah, that dry soul.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
But why is it embarrassing? It shouldn't be embarrassing. Summer
day you have wet pits, like it's not. We act
like it's a toot.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
You know, it's not like the most attractive thing to
look at, and it's not it's not equivalent to it.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Its natural. I mean, it's a lot of things.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Are natural that we don't need to see.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
But but like what if I perspire on my back
the same thing that's a weird actual thing.
Speaker 5 (05:29):
Meaning to go to lunch and you showed up with
like super sweaty pits.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I'd be like, bro. But by the way, if we
were to walk to lunch here in Burbank in the heat,
my stomach would be wet.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Yes, I'm not going to lunch with you guys anyway.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Get that dry so and fix your pits. People get
sweaty all over, like this girl on Love Island, USA
has like extremely sweaty palms.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
I mean it can also be a sign that your
your your furnace is burning calories, right, I mean, you're
you're got that metabolism alive.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
True, I'll talk it up to that.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
Uh. This is from Brittany and San Bernardino telling us
what to do if we ever get a cold.
Speaker 8 (06:11):
If you have a cold, you should put a fresh
garlic in your sock at night.
Speaker 5 (06:18):
I've heard of them, and.
Speaker 6 (06:19):
It should help draw out the virus.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
This is something I believe Patty told us about.
Speaker 5 (06:25):
It's not garlic. You can do chopped onions like raw onions,
and then you put them in like a in like
a bag, and then put the put the bag on
your feet, wrap it around, and then.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Put a sock on and onions. I f like onions
stay in the room for a long time garlic. I
don't know garlic doesn't onions have a for me?
Speaker 4 (06:46):
Onion.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Raw onions are stronger than raw garlic. I don't mind
raw garlic scent and aroma, but raw onions have a
have not.
Speaker 5 (06:55):
It has like a tanging.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Please send us these random to walk back. There sinside
the iheartradiop at red microphone.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
Appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Brittany want to try and help out Marissa. So Marissa
number one, thank you for listening. Number two, Yes, thank
you for trusting us enough to call in and talk
about this.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
What's up?
Speaker 8 (07:15):
Oh man? Thanks? Okay, Well, basically this is a weird
small world story. But I'm not sure what to do,
so I'm calling you. I'm going to a friend's wedding
next month, and I'm bringing my boyfriend. He hasn't met
the bride because she was like on the East Coast
and I don't get to see her much at all,
but she is truly one of my best friends, like
(07:35):
best friends. Anyway, I showed him a photo of her
with her fiance and he immediately swore he was like, uh,
I know him, like and not not in a good way.
He's like he is not a good guy, which freaked
me out. So I was, like, my boyfriend basically studied
in Guadalajara for six months in college, and he swears
(07:57):
that this guy was there and he must have fucked
with thirty women in the six weeks they were down there.
Speaker 4 (08:03):
What was thirty?
Speaker 9 (08:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 8 (08:05):
I know, yeah according to Yeah, my partner and I know.
And he said on top of that, you guys that
he got a reputation for like walking out on bar
tabs and he was literally banned from some of the
bars over there, but he didn't care because like he
knew he was leaving, so he just would do it
all the time. So I'm calling because I'm like, do
(08:27):
I tell my friend this? And my boyfriend I've asked
him a million times. He is one, sure this is him?
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Have they interacted yet?
Speaker 5 (08:37):
Your boyfriend and him?
Speaker 8 (08:38):
No? No, He like this is gonna be the first
time meeting you know, well, like he's seen him again.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Don't you think.
Speaker 5 (08:44):
That that's gonna I think you let that happen naturally,
like at the wedding, so intense. When I think we're going.
Speaker 8 (08:56):
I mean, like in what the next next month.
Speaker 5 (09:00):
There's no way you're going to like break up that marriage, right,
now or that might be his old self.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Yeah, turned over a new leaf.
Speaker 8 (09:09):
Yeah, I mean I'd like to that. That is something
I said to him. I was like, listen, like they
seem very much in love. I've obviously been talking to
my best friend this whole time, and she's like, there
sounds amazing, but I have you met I met him
briefly over FaceTime, like like I said, I don't get
over to the East coast often, but like he seemed
(09:29):
great and I didn't have any contexts like my boyfriend has,
so I was just right, like off of instinct, I
was like, oh, she's happy. I'm I'm happy if she's happy. Right,
But this is freaking me out.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
So I've been waiting patiently to give you clear no opinion,
whatblutely you get this story?
Speaker 4 (09:53):
Told?
Speaker 2 (09:53):
Notbsolutely?
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Really really no, Ryan, You're wrong?
Speaker 10 (10:00):
Ryan?
Speaker 7 (10:00):
Why Why do you say that?
Speaker 8 (10:01):
Ryan?
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Because I think if you know that and your friends
in this situation with something that might not work out
because of character issues, they want to know before.
Speaker 4 (10:13):
I mean, there's these are character flaws.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
You have the information, and then information is pretty powerful information.
And if you didn't say anything and it didn't work out,
I think you would carry guilt. I don't want you
to care.
Speaker 8 (10:30):
I actually am. You're bringing up a good point, and
I can feel like in my system like this feels
even though it's a hard conversation, maybe you're right. Because
when I think about it, I'm like, what if she
finds out six months from now, a year from now,
and she's like, you didn't tell me this.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
Exactly, then you're a bad right. I'm trying to keep
you up the bad person.
Speaker 5 (10:50):
I mean, you're gonna say something, and then he could
also deny it or say whatever to swear hair, and
then now you're out of.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
The certain trum. But there's only one right answer, and
that is to tell your friend because yeah, because you
don't want to carry gil if it doesn't work out.
These are character flaws, so right you.
Speaker 8 (11:12):
Decide, Okay, I really appreciate you guys. It's like really
helpful to talk this through.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
A lot of people.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
A character flaw.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
Out of his bill is not great. Yeah, it's stealing,
it's death, it's criminal.
Speaker 10 (11:31):
Yeah, yeah, I.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
Know, I know.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
No, I know you don't want to hear that you
got to do it, but you got to do it.
Thanks for calling it.
Speaker 4 (11:39):
Good luck to do it.
Speaker 1 (11:41):
What if there's a world in which he wasn't dining
in maybe he was like leaving cash and nobody news says.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
What he's going to probably tell the fiance, And then
now the friend is going to be like the snitch
that they don't like anymore.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
Yeah, well, so what.
Speaker 5 (11:58):
They're not going to break up a this, They're still
gonna get married. And now she put her foot in
her mouth where she didn't need to.
Speaker 4 (12:04):
Well, or she didn't say anything.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
They get married and he is a steady, cheating thief
and she knew the whole time, and she then loses
her friend. Know, someday you'll realize that I understand marriages,
what needs to happen, how it needs to happen.
Speaker 4 (12:26):
Someday you'll realize.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
So if you're getting married, everybody here is right tany
you are Ruby, you are called let you are Tubs.
Are you still getting married?
Speaker 10 (12:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
He's getting married.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
I don't care about it.
Speaker 5 (12:36):
Yeah maybe like for all we know, Tubbs like already
has a set date and like, oh, wedding invites have
been sent.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
Out, you have a set date. You have a date set.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
I'm waiting you get back from Yes, I am.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
I'm gonna tell you March. Okay, it's March.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
It's not okay, perfect, thank you so much. That's what
that's what we were leading towards.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Anyway, Well, I had options May or March to choose from. Yeah,
I'm not waiting. I don't want anything to happen in between.
March and May.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Are going for it, worry about anything happening. It was
more like weather. Weather at the end of May gets
very very warm, so it's going to be like toasty wedding.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Yeah, all right, I'm coming down early to dress, rehearse,
check the lighting, the staging. Yeah, Megan, nice thing for
my big performance.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Yeah, we'll have to We're definitely gonna have to like
get into that very soon.
Speaker 4 (13:29):
Okay, I can't wait. But now even date in March.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
So anyway, you guys are all getting married and wedding planning.
From what I look at and I see people do it,
I look from afar, but it's a lot Where do
you spend your budget? Right, because it can get expensive,
especially if you've got a lot of people.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
So where do you put that budget?
Speaker 2 (13:50):
Wedding planners say these things are not worth it. One
real flowers get over yourself sis now or not?
Speaker 5 (14:03):
Do not have fake flowers at your wedding.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
No, I try to save a few bucks here.
Speaker 5 (14:07):
First of all, you don't need to have a crazy bouquet.
But you can have very simple real flowers just in
little vases and it still looks beautiful. But fake flowers.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
I've seen some gorgeous fake flower arrangements at weddings.
Speaker 4 (14:18):
Fake flowers off at them.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
Well, maybe you're not available in March.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
I don't know. Here's what you could save on liquor.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Go with beer and wine cheaper and in the spirits
beer wine bar right and personalized cocktail. Now, yeah, you
don't need those. No one cares, No one pays attention,
No one cares.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
Don't do it.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
No, that is definitely happening, which you're wasting money.
Speaker 4 (14:47):
Rather you have a food truck for us than napkins.
Speaker 1 (14:50):
No, I'm gonna get ones with Sunny's face on them.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
No one really cares.
Speaker 5 (14:54):
Nobody cares.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Save your money.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
You can save money in those.
Speaker 5 (14:59):
Get real flowers in seud of your napkins.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Gosh, you too in the drama with the weddings. Today's
quote every day there's a quote. Today's Thursday Quote stars
don't beg the world for attention. Their beauty forces us
to look up. Oh yeah, they don't beg for attention,
So lay off. Don't say look at me and post
it and say look at me and post it again,
(15:24):
and say look at me, post it again. Side true
from another angle. Don't need to see that much of you.
Speaker 4 (15:30):
Just FM headlines with siciny well.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
The Teamsters Union launched a strike against Amazon this morning
that includes facilities in Victorville, the City of Industry, Palmdale,
and San Bernardino. Governor Gavenusom declared a state of emergency
to expedite the state's response to bird flu as more
cases were detected in so called dairy farm cows. The
Torrents Fire Department announced the rollout of a new emergency
(15:55):
alert system that will deliver real time messages to cars
and through ways apps and Apple Maps, and Bluie is.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Heading to the big screen.
Speaker 5 (16:06):
A film based on the hit Australian animated series will
arrive in theaters in twenty twenty seven.
Speaker 4 (16:12):
Okay, let's go right now into this TikTok.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
A lot of hacks, a lot of things happening on TikTok,
but you gotta be careful about some of this stuff.
Does it work when you see everybody doing it? Is
it a good idea? Is it dangerous? So, for example,
this is what I'm seeing right now in TikTok raw
potatoes to get rid of eyebags. They're cutting off TikTokers
are cutting up raw potatoes and rubbing them under their
(16:37):
eyes to get rid of eyebags.
Speaker 5 (16:39):
I've heard of cucumbers, what about potatoes. I don't know
the same.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Well it works, it works?
Speaker 4 (16:45):
Uh?
Speaker 7 (16:46):
What?
Speaker 11 (16:47):
Uh?
Speaker 4 (16:47):
It's it's safe. It works.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Doctors say potatoes are high invitament C and safe for
your skin. So grab yourself some starch and put it
under your eyes. Wait wait, wait, are you doing this?
What are you making your own sunscreen? Sorry, everybody's talking
about this too on TikTok okay recipe. So the recipe
for homemade sunscreen. It contains coconut oil, cocoa butter, bees wax,
(17:12):
and Georgia ba oil with zinc oxide powder. I mean
it's a complicated recipe. But are you making your own
sunscreen with that stuff? And does it work? I do
have coconut oil beside my bed.
Speaker 4 (17:29):
Put it on behead, right beside your bed.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Yeah, I got it. You don't have cocona oil beside
your bedmark. No, no, well you don't have enough fun.
So it's good for your skin.
Speaker 5 (17:45):
And I'm going to put on your elbow, your knees,
the places that really get extra dry, among other things.
Speaker 4 (17:55):
It is a good place to store on your bedside table.
Speaker 3 (17:58):
Like a slip and fly.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
A little bit, have a little fun. Coconut oil is
safe for all things. All things, so anyway sidetrack. But
they say, no, don't use this. Homemade sunscreen rarely works.
There's no way to tell much sun protection. It gives
you that one one more, one more, okay to the
bottom one okay.
Speaker 4 (18:23):
Two more first the top one. Eating raw garlic to
cure acne? Does that work?
Speaker 5 (18:30):
Eating raw garlictic cure acne? Okay? Let me, I would
give me. Garlic's great for you. It can help you
in your set.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
Does Yeah, it doesn't work. There is a lot of
health benefits, like you were saying, but not to cure your.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Acte because acne is like hormonal.
Speaker 2 (18:44):
This is what tiny wants. Sleeping with chin straps TikTok trends.
They're saying to help with snoring, teeth grinding, sleep apnea,
and sharpen your.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
Jaw with the jaw line. Let me tell you, Yeah,
can you.
Speaker 4 (18:55):
Do you sleep with the chin strap to tighten that
jaw line?
Speaker 1 (18:58):
I don't. I sleep with mouth tape.
Speaker 4 (19:02):
And in like a when I don't say what else
you sleep? But I don't know what else.
Speaker 5 (19:10):
The fact that you're doing all of this stuff.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Wow, the look at me. In six months, my jawline
is going to be snat.
Speaker 5 (19:16):
I didn't think it needed any different.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
If it does work, I'll start doing it this Uh anyway,
is it safe? Yeah, it's safe to sleep with a
chin strap. Anything that restricts you from breathing freely is
a problem. There's no evidence that it helps with any
of those things. So I don't know tany if you're
going to be I.
Speaker 5 (19:35):
Don't think that's safe.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
Let me tell you, Okay, but no, you don't need
to tell me. I just told you what the doctors
are saying. Hey, Jim, I want to take your quick
call before we get to Ryan's ross.
Speaker 10 (19:44):
How are you good?
Speaker 2 (19:47):
So you have a question about your fiance, Is that right?
Speaker 12 (19:51):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (19:52):
How can we help?
Speaker 13 (19:54):
Well, my fiance and are planning our wedding and we've
run into an ish Unfortunately. You know, her dad hasn't
been in her life since she was young, and so
she doesn't want to have any dances dedicated to parents
since he won't be at the wedding. However, my mom
(20:15):
really wants to dance with me at the wedding. I'm
our only child, and you know, she's talked about this
ever since I got engaged. I told her about you know,
how my fiance doesn't want to do any dances, and
she's just super upset. So yeah, she understands why my
(20:36):
fiance doesn't want to have any dances, but she's still
pushing for us to dance, and I don't want to.
You know, I don't want my fiance to be uncomfortable
at our wedding, but I also don't want to take
this away from my mom. So I'm wondering. You know,
do you guys have any alternate ideas for this or
what do you think is the best way to go here?
Speaker 5 (20:55):
You have to do it? Well, no, well, this is
a non negotiably. You have to do this.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
You don't have to do anything.
Speaker 5 (21:02):
You have to dance with your mom or your wedding.
If your mom and you're her only child, and your
fiance needs to come around, and marriage is about compromise,
and this is one of your first lessons.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
You can say, like digging into this, this is all
things worried. I am, Yeah, I'm worried. Why is your
fiance digging into this?
Speaker 13 (21:29):
I don't know, it's I guess she just feels like
it's something you know, it's going to bring up bad
feelings for her.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Yeah, you guys have to look at this from her
perspective too. Maybe it's like really painful. Maybe the relationships
she had with her dad is like really triggering and traumatic,
and and her seeing her husband dance with his mom
might make her really sad that she doesn't have that
with her dad, and she doesn't want to be sad
on her wedding day.
Speaker 5 (21:56):
She used to get over it.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
I'm sistany on this. I mean, jare me, but we
say she's get over bro. That's gonna be a great, great,
great life together. You guys are gonna have so much
love and good times.
Speaker 5 (22:11):
It doesn't have to be like the whole three minutes
of a song too. Yeah, when I danced with our parents,
it was like a minute, like to the first quar.
Speaker 4 (22:25):
All right, I'll talk about maybe.
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Maybe there's a compromise where there's somebody else in her
life that's maybe not her dad, but like that's a
good Maybe is somebody that's that is like a parental
figure in her life that she could do the dance
with them, Maybe they could do it together with his
dad or his dad his dad.
Speaker 5 (22:43):
Compromise, compromise.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
But like whenever it gets so rigid about an issue, guys,
not rigid. Don't have to draw a line in the sand.
It's you're getting married, it's your families. You're celebrating the supply.
They tell me, this is the greatest moment of your
life when you get married.
Speaker 1 (22:58):
Tell me.
Speaker 5 (22:59):
And as a mom, I am dancing with Maxon at
his wedding. I don't care.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
I got to get to Ryan's rose. It's time for
Ryan's roses. We've been talking about it all morning. Let's
do it. Olivia Sherman Oaks, Olivia. We have a lot
of questions, but we sort of distilled them down to
a couple here. And thanks for coming on. You tell
us that your husband told you he's having an affair.
Speaker 7 (23:20):
Yeah, yes, I think, Well, Okay really showed before that part.
Speaker 4 (23:26):
What did he say, how did he tell you? What
were the words?
Speaker 7 (23:31):
Okay, well, so he was a little hazy on those details.
He just said her name was Brooke and that they
met at a grocery store and they'd been sneaking around
since March. But he's not a lady's man. It just
felt a little desperate.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
Okay. Then my next question is why is he telling
you had an affair if he didn't have an affair?
Speaker 10 (23:53):
Oh?
Speaker 7 (23:54):
Okay, So I cheated on him about six years ago.
There he found out about it and we got through it.
He decided to stay with me, but things have never
really been the same, Like he checks my phone a lot.
The trust really isn't there, The romance isn't there anymore.
(24:14):
So anyway, the other day he came to me and
he's said he had a confession to make, that he
had been having an affair for a few months, and
that he wanted me to know he felt terrible about it,
but that hopefully now that we have both made a mistake,
that we can make things like they used to be.
Speaker 10 (24:37):
I don't know.
Speaker 7 (24:37):
I think he's making it up. I think he wants
me to feel what he felt back in twenty eighteen.
And I think his theory is that if we're even,
that will help the marriage.
Speaker 4 (24:51):
We are not qualified, but we can make this call.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
Okay, And you think it's revenge and even the playing field,
and that's going to make it stronger. So what do
you want to happen here? Do you want him to
be sending roses to another woman or you?
Speaker 7 (25:06):
I'm I mean having an affair would be worse if
he sends the roses to someone else. I know this
is really over.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
But if he but but but, Olivia, if he's if
he's concocting this thing because you did this, and he's
lying about the affair, he's likely to make up a
name to get you to believe he's having an affair.
Speaker 7 (25:28):
I just want you to dig a little further. I
just feel like something's off. And look, if he isn't cheating,
I will get us in the couple's therapy. I want
to make this work.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Well, of course you do, because you cheated, right?
Speaker 4 (25:41):
Bad on you?
Speaker 11 (25:42):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (25:43):
No judgment?
Speaker 4 (25:43):
Well, yes, judgment? What what olive you hold on for?
Speaker 10 (25:48):
Seen? Sorry?
Speaker 4 (25:49):
Why can't I why? Why? Why can't have an opinion
that she cheated on.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
Them Okay, but I know, but I mean it's not
for us to project.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
By the way, we do these every single day, twice
how many times we do them a week? And we
make judgments job we do every single mark. Am I
making this up? Don't We actually make a judgment every
single time we do this? And now times like show
no judgment.
Speaker 4 (26:13):
We are anti cheating as a show, I would say,
and yeah, I'm.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Not talking about that. I'm talking about we make a
judgment the premise of the thing she reads out to us,
and we judge them. That's what we do.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
It's not a no judgment segment.
Speaker 2 (26:29):
We take calls and people judging the people like what
where did I come to the wrong old this morning?
I don't understand. You just throw these things at me
and they get me wound up. This is where we judge. Judge, judge, judge,
so judge, this.
Speaker 5 (26:48):
Is a judge.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Oh my gosh, Yes, Olivia, we're gonna make the call.
I want to get serious with you. I need you
to say, Ryan, you have my permission to call, and
then your husband's go ahead.
Speaker 7 (27:02):
Ryan, you have my permission to call.
Speaker 4 (27:05):
Okay, be very quiet. Let us try and find out.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
My view is if you think he's making up the affair,
he might make up a name here to send the
flowers to, just to get under your skin.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
So hold on, here we go.
Speaker 10 (27:20):
Okay everyone, Yeah, Hello.
Speaker 5 (27:36):
Hi is this Gabriel. This is he Hi Gabriel. My
name is Stacy. I'm calling from Flowers on Ventura. How
are you doing this morning?
Speaker 12 (27:46):
I'm good? How are you?
Speaker 10 (27:47):
I'm good?
Speaker 5 (27:47):
Thank you for asking. We're a flower shop on here
in Sherman Oaks and deliver all over the valley parts
of la and offering a promotion. It's a free dozen
red roses that you can send to anybody that you'd like.
They are free. I don't need cash, credit card info,
anything like that. I just hope that if you like
our arrangements, you come back as a customer one day.
Speaker 12 (28:04):
I'm sorry, this is just not something I'm interested in.
Speaker 5 (28:07):
Are you sure? I don't need cash from you, I
don't need credit card info. It's They're absolutely free and
you can brighten up somebody's days. Is there anybody in
your life that you'd want to send roses to?
Speaker 12 (28:17):
I'm sorry, I can't help you.
Speaker 5 (28:19):
Not one person.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
Gabriel, your voice is being broadcast in the radio my
name is Ryan. Can I ask you some questions real fast.
Speaker 4 (28:25):
Before you hang up?
Speaker 10 (28:27):
What?
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Thank you? Your voice is being broadcast in the radio.
I have Sistany and Tany with me and your wife
Olivia on the line. Just a couple of quick questions. Okay, So, Gabriel,
we have come to understand that you are having an affair.
Is that true?
Speaker 12 (28:48):
I told my wife about all that?
Speaker 10 (28:50):
All right?
Speaker 4 (28:50):
How long is the affair of been going on?
Speaker 12 (28:53):
Listen?
Speaker 14 (28:54):
This is not something I want to talk about right now.
This is none of anybody's business. This is between me
and my wife.
Speaker 10 (29:01):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
So the thing is we know more than you know.
Get real, that's the thing. And so we are trying
to get to the truth here.
Speaker 7 (29:15):
Is Brook a real person? Or did you make it
up to make me jealous?
Speaker 12 (29:20):
Are you doing this on the radio?
Speaker 10 (29:23):
Tell me the truth.
Speaker 12 (29:28):
I mean, you didn't seem very jealous when I told.
Speaker 7 (29:30):
You because it didn't seem like the truth.
Speaker 12 (29:38):
No, I'm not having an affair.
Speaker 7 (29:42):
Oh my god.
Speaker 12 (29:44):
Look, I can't believe you want to trouble.
Speaker 7 (29:50):
It's because I love you.
Speaker 10 (29:51):
I will.
Speaker 7 (29:52):
I will spend the rest of my life trying to
make this up to you. I promise I will.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
So, Gibril, why did you make up the story of
you having an affair?
Speaker 12 (30:07):
Listen?
Speaker 14 (30:08):
She had she had an affair six years ago, and
you know, it just crushed me and I just wanted
her to feel how I was feeling at that time.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
Do you feel like this is a relation you got
cheated on? Now you lie about cheating? Is this relationship healthy?
Speaker 10 (30:24):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (30:25):
Six years later, you still can't let it go. Are
you ever going to Okay?
Speaker 14 (30:29):
Look, listen, this is between me and my wife. This
is this is not as an easy situation to have
dealt with. This is this is difficult.
Speaker 12 (30:36):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
So I sound very complicated, and that's something that we
are appreciating wholly here. But do you think you're in
a healthy place to make it work, Olivia, Gabriel.
Speaker 7 (30:52):
Look, Monica gave me the number of a really good
couple therapists.
Speaker 12 (30:56):
Listen. That's worked before.
Speaker 7 (30:59):
Yeah, but it's time to try again with somebody new.
Will you please do that with me?
Speaker 11 (31:05):
Please?
Speaker 12 (31:07):
Yes, yes, I will, Yes, I will do that. I
will do whatever it takes.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
Oh my god, So, gabrit you've forgiven her of the cheating.
Speaker 4 (31:16):
You're good?
Speaker 14 (31:19):
Yes, we need we obviously need therapy and to talk
about this more. But yes, I'm willing to do whatever
I need to do.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Well, this is great, Actually, this is great. Well done,
and congratulations because a lot of these calls end very differently,
where people are walking away, throwing it away and out
of no choice. But you two are saying, hey, you
cheated on me. I lied about cheating on you. I'm
not cheating on you, but you cheated on me and
I forgive you for that, and Olivia forgives you for
(31:45):
lying about cheating on her. And that's where we are,
and this is in some way a beautiful thing.
Speaker 10 (31:53):
Thank you, Gabriel, because I.
Speaker 4 (31:55):
Believe the two of you, in the strangest way ever
want to make.
Speaker 10 (32:00):
It work cute.
Speaker 4 (32:05):
And we're gonna let you go. That's it, thank you
very much.
Speaker 10 (32:09):
Right.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
I think that what I hear there now, I couldn't
have done it. I could have been Gabriel on that
and forgiven.
Speaker 1 (32:16):
They say they forgive, but they're not forgetting.
Speaker 5 (32:18):
Yeah he can't. He's making up these lies six years
years later.
Speaker 2 (32:22):
No, you don't hear healthy there no just going back
to the Ryan's roses. So it is a bit choisted,
but look, we are not in their shoes.
Speaker 4 (32:31):
We don't know.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
It sounded by the end of the call like you
have two people that have unique situations in a marriage
but really want to make it work. A little desperation,
a little in FIDELI washed itself out to those two
and they want to try and dig in and see
a therapist and make their marriage last and work. So
what happened? She cheated six years ago? He comes to
(32:55):
her and says, I cheated. I'm admitting to an affair.
She doesn't believe. Turns out he did make it up.
He lied.
Speaker 4 (33:02):
There was no woman named Brooke.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
He lied about having an affair because he wanted to
feel a little better about the fact that she cheated, right,
like even the playing field here, right, But he did
it knowing he.
Speaker 4 (33:16):
Wanted to make it work in the marriage.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
Like he lied knowing if she did believe him, he
was going to say, but okay, we both did this,
let's try and fix it. Turns out she says to us, well,
if he did cheat him out, well, how can she
say that after she cheated and he stayed in? And
that was my judgment, Tanya, I understand what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (33:38):
I do.
Speaker 5 (33:39):
I'm just saying he can't have it both ways.
Speaker 1 (33:42):
There are various sides to every story.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
But Sistney, in a way, I saw beauty at the
end of that call. I saw one person go, I
made a mistake, one person I made up some lies,
but two people going, let's make it work.
Speaker 4 (33:56):
That's what's all.
Speaker 5 (33:56):
Yeah, but he's not over it. No, and I don't
know that he ever will be. No, And you know
what he said, He was like, you didn't even seem
that sad when I told you that I was cheating
exactly any charades and games. And it's like, what are
we doing?
Speaker 2 (34:13):
It's not healthy, but I do I did. At the
end of the call, here two people going, we're not
great at this, but we want to try and make
it work. And I appreciate that. I wouldn't have been
Gabriel in this situation. I wouldn't stuck around after six years.
I wouldn't have So Nikki Rinando Beach talk to me here.
Speaker 10 (34:34):
You know, it.
Speaker 15 (34:36):
Sounds like a happy ending, but it just seems like
he doesn't trust her, and it sounds like.
Speaker 2 (34:40):
I think you're going to be like his confidence is gone,
he doesn't trust her, and here we have a problem.
She called him desperate. Guys, Remember she said, he seems
a little desperate. She said that. Yeah, but they want
to try and make it work, and maybe they can.
Speaker 4 (34:58):
You hope for the best.
Speaker 15 (35:00):
Yeah, no, I wish them well, but I just it
feels like this is a relationship that's not built on
anything good.
Speaker 4 (35:07):
Well, that's what Ryan's roses can be.
Speaker 2 (35:09):
Sometimes I'm silence from Nikki there on that one.
Speaker 4 (35:15):
She's out. That's what Ryan's roses is. Monday's Thursday.
Speaker 2 (35:20):
On the other side of the spectrum, I was looking
at this article about little things couples have been doing.
These are couples have been married thirty plus years. They
do every day. They make each other laugh, they eat
meals together. They always kiss goodbye and good night.
Speaker 5 (35:35):
Yeah that's important.
Speaker 4 (35:36):
I think so too.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
Yeah, you always gotta kiss good night. Even in the dark.
You can find those lips. Yeah, yeah, it's true, you can.
If you're not meant to be together, you can't find
those lips in the dark.
Speaker 4 (35:48):
You know what they say, what do they say?
Speaker 2 (35:50):
They say, you'll find the lips of your soulmate in
the dark. It's electric, it's magnetic. And the other thing
they do have find fascinating. A couple of thirty plus
years find little ways to lighten each other's load.
Speaker 5 (36:06):
That's nice.
Speaker 10 (36:07):
That is.
Speaker 4 (36:09):
A day today. So I handled something right that I
appreciate too.
Speaker 5 (36:14):
Good as the service.
Speaker 4 (36:15):
Good morning, Amanda. How are you doing?
Speaker 16 (36:18):
Hey, I'm good.
Speaker 10 (36:19):
How are you good?
Speaker 2 (36:20):
So we have everybody here, all hands are here on
deck to help you out. So you're calling about bringing
a guy friend to a wedding.
Speaker 16 (36:29):
Yes, yes, I need everyone's advice.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
So what's the story.
Speaker 15 (36:33):
So I just found.
Speaker 16 (36:34):
Out that I have a plus.
Speaker 11 (36:35):
One to a family member's wedding next month, and I'm
wondering if it's okay to ask my guy friend to
be my plus one, and when I'm not exactly sure
if we're just friends. So I've known it for a
really long time, but we've gotten close there recently, and
we're always a bit flirty. He actually just made it
(36:57):
a points to tell me that he broke up with
his girlfriend, and I want to ask him, but I
don't want to like give the wrong idea if it
doesn't mean anything, you.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
Know, do you want it to mean you?
Speaker 10 (37:13):
I don't know, I.
Speaker 16 (37:14):
Mean a little bit, like I'm curious to see how
it would go. But I don't know if I asked
him if I should define it as like just friends
just in case, Like I basically I'm afraid of being rejected.
Speaker 2 (37:25):
Yeah, I mean this is like the situation that's so
common here.
Speaker 1 (37:28):
You know, what would have happened if Sofia Bush did this.
Sophia Bush did this, she would never be Yes, she
asked out Ashland Harris and now there's together.
Speaker 4 (37:40):
She wanted to be with Ashland.
Speaker 1 (37:42):
I know, but I'm saying, let's just take fear aside
and let's just go for it.
Speaker 5 (37:47):
We invite him as your date and then once you know,
liquid courage and see what happens.
Speaker 16 (37:55):
Yeah. But is it weird that it's like a family
member's wedding.
Speaker 5 (37:58):
No, I think that makes it better. He's like one
of your best friends. It's like innocent. Yeah, you don't
have to explain much to your family.
Speaker 4 (38:06):
You just read the signals as you're going through it.
Speaker 16 (38:09):
How do I like ask him though without it being weird?
Speaker 5 (38:13):
Does he know any of the family members?
Speaker 7 (38:17):
Like? Barely?
Speaker 13 (38:18):
Not?
Speaker 7 (38:18):
Not?
Speaker 2 (38:19):
Well, I just think you asked me, say, Look, I
would I've got to go to this wedding of a
family member and would love for you to join.
Speaker 4 (38:26):
Be a fun event.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
No, I gotta go.
Speaker 5 (38:29):
I would would be a fun event. Please hang out
kind of movie premiere.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
Yeah, it's fun.
Speaker 4 (38:42):
I thought it'd be nice.
Speaker 5 (38:44):
No, you'd be like, hey, do you remember my cousin
Rachel blah blah blah, she's getting married. Hey, something along
those lines.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
Oh my god, man.
Speaker 4 (38:52):
Let us know how it goes. Good luck, thank you bye.
Speaker 2 (38:56):
Yeah that's what I would say. Hey, I got a thing.
I got a thing this weekend. Thought maybe be fun
if we just hang at it.
Speaker 5 (39:06):
Wow, what is that a hair tie on your hand?
I'm gonna wear it.
Speaker 4 (39:10):
Okay, no one gets that.
Speaker 5 (39:15):
Our true listeners will.
Speaker 4 (39:17):
I thought that was actually very clever at the time.
So this is interesting.
Speaker 2 (39:22):
Madiana has come from the back room into the main
studio here. It's symbolic. I guess what she's thinking about.
She wants to well explain.
Speaker 9 (39:31):
So what I want to do is get a new number,
like a brand new number phone number, Yes, brand new
cell phone number, and get rid of my old cell
phone number because I feel like I just have so
many people that I don't know anymore that have my number,
they have access to me.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
Yeah, fresh start, new era.
Speaker 9 (39:46):
You know, I feel like I'm kind of like thirsty
for a change in my life. Yeah, so I'm like,
I want something different, and I also want to get
like an LA Aero code. That way I can manifest
moving out here.
Speaker 2 (39:57):
So you're in the nine to five to one, an
eight one eight or something three two three like you
said it for any area area. That's interesting because back
in the day, you could every time you move to
get a new phone number, right, but now you can
have a phone number. I have your own phone number
for forever.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
I've literally had my same phone number since I was
fifteen years old. I've had about six.
Speaker 5 (40:14):
Different phone numbers.
Speaker 2 (40:15):
But see, I don't know. I always worry that maybe
that one friend from high school it has my cell
phone number.
Speaker 4 (40:19):
I can't reach out at somebody to.
Speaker 1 (40:22):
Love that I have people that reach out to me
from Like I get birthday messages from high school teachers.
I think I d M you.
Speaker 2 (40:28):
I mean, that's a big reset. And are you sure
you don't want to get any random message from somebody
every once in a while.
Speaker 9 (40:33):
No, I feel like I'm ready for that change.
Speaker 2 (40:35):
So you would start from scratch from scratch, then do
you have to send your old phone number to like
a list of other people.
Speaker 4 (40:41):
So they haven't. It seems like a lot of work.
Speaker 9 (40:42):
That's what I was thinking about too, But you.
Speaker 5 (40:45):
Start with like the core, the core circle.
Speaker 9 (40:47):
It's my close friends.
Speaker 2 (40:48):
It's like when I lose a credit card and I
got to go back and reset Postmates.
Speaker 1 (40:51):
My my debit card, and I'm like, I'm holding it.
Speaker 2 (40:55):
I don't think in the pocket. I think i'd be
too overwhelmed to handle the admin.
Speaker 1 (40:59):
Oh I can't do it.
Speaker 2 (41:00):
However, I do like your manifestation component to this, like
you want to be in the three two three, Why
don't you.
Speaker 1 (41:08):
Just tattoo the area code on your risk or something.
Sounds easier commitments, easier than changing your number.
Speaker 2 (41:14):
And I don't have any tattoos.
Speaker 5 (41:16):
So I will tell you what though, your whoever gets
your old number is going to be super annoyed because
that everyone's gonna text you. But when they finally get
your new number, they're like, oh, whoever has your old
number hates you because I keep texting them or they
keep getting all your texts.
Speaker 4 (41:28):
Yeah, all right, go for it, keep us posting.
Speaker 1 (41:30):
No, don't do it.
Speaker 2 (41:31):
I'll send you guys my new number. So I guess
my phone, because it is right here. My phone in
front of me is right here, and I guess it.
Hears us right talking about Tanya's wedding. So every now
and then my feed sends wedding articles and the latest
one I got was the newest member of wedding teams.
(41:54):
People are hiring social media concierges for their wedding, so
not just catering, not just music or DJ. Now as
social media concierge, and this person, this social media concierge
is not the photographer, not separate the social media concierge.
Their job is to post in real time things are happening.
Speaker 4 (42:14):
At the wedding.
Speaker 2 (42:15):
That is next level, to create the narrative you've told
them to create, correct in real time while it's happening, Tony,
you want that I saw this. I have to take
it to you. As the only member of the team
planning a wedding. Is this something that's legit?
Speaker 1 (42:31):
It is legit. So we've only met with two wedding
planners so far, but one of them did bring this
up to us about because I was like, I give
me the basics, like what are some things that we
absolutely need? And she brought this up. She didn't call
it what the wedding content creator or social media concierge is,
but she did say that you basically hire out this
(42:53):
staff that is on site to film your vision for
social posting, and it's like small, bite sized clips, so
it's like Instagram TikTok and you basically just like hire
them per hour to be there doing that.
Speaker 2 (43:07):
I don't know how I feel about real time and
live posting. It seems like you could compile something later,
but yeah, while you're dancing, it's.
Speaker 1 (43:15):
Not necessarily you don't have to do it real time.
It's like to capture the I don't know, it's like
to edit it to make it that bite size TikTok
of type stuff.
Speaker 2 (43:23):
A lot of the brides and rooms that are hiring
the wedding content creators social media concires are doing it live.
Speaker 4 (43:29):
They're posting in real time and so but that seems there.
Speaker 1 (43:32):
That seems so weird to me that you're spending your
time posting stuff at your wedding.
Speaker 4 (43:37):
You're not.
Speaker 2 (43:37):
They are, No, that's why you hire that.
Speaker 1 (43:39):
So they're just doing it without your consent while you're.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
Then you hire them, you give them the narrative. You
tell the kind of things you want and they get
it and they post in real time, and.
Speaker 4 (43:48):
You trust getting them control. Does this make you rethink anything?
Speaker 1 (43:53):
Well, no, I mean I didn't really, I didn't. I
just laughed because I thought it was actually kind of
a great idea. I was like, wow, what a great idea.
Speaker 5 (44:00):
You know when we got married. I guess it's kind
of like replaces the hashtag because when we had hashtags
ten years ago, everyone used that hashtag and that was
the live posting.
Speaker 2 (44:11):
Why don't you invite Ronnie to the wedding and Ronnie
from the Kiss Social team can just post it.
Speaker 1 (44:16):
He wants to enjoy himself.
Speaker 2 (44:18):
By the way I saw the guy jingle Ball, he's
enjoying himself posting. He's telling me what to do. He's like, guys,
could you do post for a Christmas photo?
Speaker 4 (44:25):
And do it again? Do it again? That was in
the right light.
Speaker 1 (44:27):
Yeah, he takes a job very seriously. But no, I
would not I would not want to hire him to work.
I would want him to just enjoy. But it is
it is a very much a thing. And she did
say like she's like, I have tons of people doing it,
so that you could choose from different people's aesthetic that
you like.
Speaker 2 (44:41):
I was like, Wow, tomorrow we shall do it to
gain and dare I say it? Tomorrow? It is finally Friday, right,
have a good Thursday.
Speaker 4 (44:54):
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