Josiah Wants Kev and His Mom to get back Together

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it's Mojo in the morning show. Kevin has

(00:03):
kind of something interesting going on. For those Kevin that
are either new to the show or newer right now
and haven't listened to us or podcasts in a while,
you got to catch up. Kevin made a big announcement
that he and his girlfriend have broken up and that
you and scherrel are going to go your separate ways.

(00:23):
And you guys have had some struggles that have been
going on for the past like six about six months,
six months, which we're happy that you are doing well,
and we're happy that we hear Sharrella is doing well.
But this is an interesting one because you guys are
both got family going on here, you got kids and stuff.
So you had something very interesting though, happen with Josiah.

Speaker 2 (00:47):
Your son. So Josiah is eleven years old.

Speaker 3 (00:50):
For those who don't know, I have share appearancing with
his mother, Jasmine, So Cherrell is not Josiah's biological mom. So,
like Mojo Sai, I've been going through some things. And
six months ago, Chrelle and I we split ways, and
obviously some days are better than others, but I'm in
a much much much better place on a consistent level

(01:10):
than I was earlier on.

Speaker 2 (01:12):
So blessed and thankful for that.

Speaker 3 (01:14):
So Josiah obviously is aware of what's going on and
has been aware for some time. And as a parent,
you want your children to be the happiest that they
can possibly be. And right now I feel like the
thing that would make Josiah the happiest is for a
new relationship to commence, and that relationship being between myself

(01:36):
and his mother. Oh and he started to drop little
hints here and there, and one of them being just
to give you an example, when I dropped him off
to her house two days ago, I gave him, like,
you know, he in the car, give him a kiss
on the cheek. He gets out of the car, He's like,
don't you want to come in and give mom a kiss?

(01:56):
And these are things that he would never say, Like
he's never said that.

Speaker 4 (02:00):
Is he saying it in a joky way or is
he like it's like a half joking serious.

Speaker 3 (02:04):
It's half joking initially and this is the first time
that he said it.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
He would joke about that or never not until now.

Speaker 1 (02:11):
If you say half joking, you really I mean, you
think he was really joking or you think he's probably
serious when I asked, because I mean.

Speaker 3 (02:17):
I talked to Josiah like I talked to y'all. Yeah,
I've done that ever since, you know, ever since he
was born. So we have real conversation. I asked, like,
are you do you you think that you know? Or
would you like from your mother and no, how to
get together? He's like, you know, you know, I'm like,
you keep saying these things. He's like, I'm just joking.
But I asked his therapist about it too, and she
said that he brought it up in therapy, so I

(02:37):
don't think that he's fully joking.

Speaker 2 (02:40):
Yeah, he's I mean, and what child doesn't want that, right?
You know what I mean?

Speaker 3 (02:43):
Like that's what he wants to see his mom and
his dad be together. That would be perfect for him
not to have to wake up on Christmas and like
FACETI on somebody, he want.

Speaker 2 (02:51):
To be there half of us.

Speaker 1 (02:53):
Have you asked his mom if she does the same
to her where he says, yeah.

Speaker 3 (02:57):
She's mentioned it, okay, Like I remember had the pe
real quick and like we've done been. Jasmine and I
are in such a better place right now, and I
thank God that we've both matured. I was twenty two
when I had Josiah. She was twenty one, So we
were kids, you know what I mean. And we've gotten
to a place now we're very mature, and we've always
put Josiah at the center of it on and if

(03:18):
you visually look at that, that means there's a separation
between us, and now we're at a point where we're
more together than ever, which is healthy for Josiah. So
I'm saying all this to say, for a while, I
didn't know where she lived. She didn't know where I lived,
and we've lived in different places, and that's crazy, Bro,
I'm telling you, we was petty as hell like that.

Speaker 5 (03:33):
And Bro, for really and for Josiah now to be
in a place where you're in a much better place
with his mom too, there is that even more like
spark of hope, Bro.

Speaker 3 (03:43):
And he can see it the way that we converse.
He can hear the love in our conversation. So I
say all that to say, I needed to use the
bathroom when I picked them up, and like for her
to like allow me to come in and pete it's
like a huge step. So when I hugged Joside or
Josiah hugged his mom to leave. He's like, let's make
it a family hood. And it's like when I wasn't like, damn,

(04:03):
I don't really want to do this. But it was
those moments that moment her and I looked at each
other like Okay, like let's do this for Joe.

Speaker 4 (04:09):
I'm going to ask the question that I already know
the answer to, but I want you to answer it
for everybody who's listening right now, because they're probably thinking it,
is that even a possibility for you in Jasmine to
get back together.

Speaker 3 (04:20):
I'm a firm believer of never say never, because I've
done things that I've said I never would. Yeah, I
felt like things have happened in my life that I
thought never would happen. There's a ninety nine point nine
percent chance that it will never happen, though, Ye.

Speaker 2 (04:36):
For something on who's part? You're part of my party?

Speaker 3 (04:39):
I just I'm I'm a I'm a firm believer on
standing on business, bro and you have to you have
to put yourself in a position to succeed no matter
the situation.

Speaker 2 (04:50):
And before you love anybody, you have to love yourself.

Speaker 3 (04:53):
And when there are things that can contradict that love
that you have for yourself and can potentially push you
over the edge.

Speaker 2 (04:59):
Don't put your and those situations.

Speaker 1 (05:01):
I asked the listeners this eight four to four Joe
Live eight four four six sixty five sixty five four
eight Has this ever happened to you? And if it did,
has anybody ever had it happen to them? And you
guys did get back together. So you got back together
with your child's parent, and it was because your child
was the one that was asking for it to happen.

(05:22):
Because that's something out of like it's like a Hallmark movie.

Speaker 4 (05:24):
We know, we know somebody. It just happened to our
friend Joe. It just happened, you know, Joe.

Speaker 2 (05:29):
Yeah, Joe.

Speaker 4 (05:30):
I don't know if he wants me to say his
full names, they're not going to. But he I remember
he and his wife got divorced, They had to kids,
they dated other people, they moved into separate houses. Sorry,
I had to mouth the top Megan until she knew.
And they got picked together.

Speaker 2 (05:42):
They did.

Speaker 4 (05:43):
Yeah, good for them, and they're.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
Very very happy.

Speaker 1 (05:46):
Well, it's interesting, and in that case, it's an interesting
one too, because their child was older children or children
were older, so it wasn't like there were little kids.
So similar to probably Josiah too, because I wonder sometimes
like when you see your kids, it's being little and
you know, because there's been times I'm sure, I'm sure
Shannon you had this too, but you have these moments

(06:07):
where your kids are little and you just go, I
just want our family.

Speaker 2 (06:10):
I'm trying. She was trying. She wasn't trying to get
on all like that. Yeah, I asked her.

Speaker 3 (06:14):
I vividly remember asking her just maybe like four or
five years and I'm like, listen, do you want to
try this? Like do you want to give it a shot?
And she was like no, I'm good. She was stayed
somebody else and not Ada broke up, So yo lost, Hey, deed,
what's going on? I said to her face, you know

(06:36):
you don't.

Speaker 2 (06:36):
Think about throws and respecting each other. I should have
gone to the call fast. What's up?

Speaker 6 (06:46):
So h Kev're talking about about backtracking?

Speaker 3 (06:50):
My grandma told me when I was young, when you
take out the trash, make sure it's trash.

Speaker 2 (06:55):
Don't go back then to diving.

Speaker 1 (06:57):
Well, but yeah, please let's not say that because Josiah's
mom is not trash in Josiah's mom, not at.

Speaker 7 (07:04):
All, not at all, but relationship.

Speaker 2 (07:07):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (07:07):
And actually I've had the pleasure to talk to Josiah's
mom just by hearing keV was on speakerphone talking about something,
arranging something for Josiah, and I actually said, Hey, I'm
gonna interrupt this conversation. I am so incredibly proud of
the two of you guys for how you guys talk
with each other and how you talk about your son blessed.

(07:30):
And I was very and this was actually you were
and Chirell were together and you were you guys were
so kind to each other but also kind to you know,
the others too.

Speaker 3 (07:41):
So and if you if you think Josiah is amazing,
trust me as not all me.

Speaker 2 (07:46):
His mom is a huge piece why Josiah is who
he is. Leo, what's up? It's Mojoe in the morning.

Speaker 8 (07:53):
Good morning.

Speaker 2 (07:54):
Yeah.

Speaker 7 (07:55):
So I had a similar situation where me and my
son badly split up when he was young, before he
was a year old, and in like early two thousand
and three now twenty twenty three, I got really sick
and his dad was the one who took care of me,
and during.

Speaker 8 (08:09):
That we all got back together. As like a family,
and my son was really he loved it at first,
but then he also kind of struggled because he was
so used to us living separately and having you know,
a routine at his dad's and a routine at his mom.
So we all got together, he was, you know, now
there's two people who discipline, and now there's you know,

(08:30):
we don't spend a lot of one on one time together,
and so he struggled with that a little bit. And
then we were together for two years and then we
separated again.

Speaker 2 (08:37):
Yeah, it's tough.

Speaker 1 (08:38):
You got to if you're going to do it, you
got to make sure that you're going to do it,
and you're going to you know, nothing's ever guaranteed in life,
but it's almost like one of those things where all
you're doing is yo yo and your kids if it
keeps going back and forth, and I feel those kids
just have to be really stressed out of the whole situation. Yeah,
I will say this to you, Kevin, I really appreciate

(09:00):
you bringing this to the air because I think it
is about as real as you can possibly get. And
I think that it's awesome that Josiah does still feel
the love of the two of you guys, and thinks
that so important and thinks that mom and dad potentially
could love each other because it means that your relationship
is good.

Speaker 4 (09:18):
But also, like Wes always says this to me, it's
kind of like our mantra, like you have to remind
your kids kids of divorced families that they were created
in love. Like you know, at one point in the
story there was a lot of love between mom and dad,
and that you know that that is part of their story.

Speaker 2 (09:37):
Sure, Erica, what's up me?

Speaker 5 (09:42):
So my parents got divorced when I was born and
then remarried when I was eighteen.

Speaker 2 (09:50):
Oh my gosh, how did that make you feel? As
an adult all of a sudden you see her?

Speaker 1 (09:55):
Because I would think that it would be icky to
see your parents all of a sudden kissing.

Speaker 5 (09:58):
And again, I hated it. It was It was really
hard for me because my because my dad was never
in the picture when I was growing up. I never
I never met him, so it was.

Speaker 2 (10:17):
Really really tough for me.

Speaker 5 (10:18):
And yeah, it.

Speaker 2 (10:20):
Was really hard.

Speaker 1 (10:21):
But could I ask this, was it because you you
had such baggage in trauma from him doing that? Did
you eventually grow to love this or did it work out?

Speaker 5 (10:33):
Yeah, I'll tell you. Actually I made him pay, like
buy my love actually for for some years.

Speaker 2 (10:46):
Which I'm not proud of. It was not to forgive
him for what happens.

Speaker 5 (10:52):
Yeah, because you know, he had other children and he
was married prior to my mom and then divorced my
mom and then had other kids. So this is not
something I mean, this was like a.

Speaker 2 (11:10):
Pattern for him. So are they still together right now?

Speaker 3 (11:15):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (11:15):
Yeah?

Speaker 5 (11:16):
After you know, I'm fifty three, so.

Speaker 2 (11:19):
Oh wow, Okay, it's a while back.

Speaker 5 (11:22):
Yeah. So he's my dad, and you know I have
my siblings.

Speaker 6 (11:28):
Are you know?

Speaker 5 (11:30):
I have other siblings and you know we're not both.
I do have one of my sisters. I'm close with
one of my sisters, so, but my other siblings I'm not.

Speaker 2 (11:41):
Really close with.

Speaker 5 (11:43):
So. But yeah, it was a kind of a learning thing.

Speaker 2 (11:48):
So but he does it give you therapy to talk
to us?

Speaker 1 (11:51):
Because I'm listening you're talking right now, and I can
tell that this is something that is not easy. You
probably don't talk about very much, but it sounds to
me like this calling us.

Speaker 6 (11:59):
I did it.

Speaker 5 (12:00):
I did go through therapy a lot, and I talked
to my friends a lot, and you know it did
kind of you know, have.

Speaker 6 (12:09):
Get to have a wall with my mom for a
little while, but got through it, and you know, yeah,
it helps talking to it, talking to people, and I can't.

Speaker 1 (12:22):
By the way, I got to go because literally the
show is going to be over in ten thirty and
I feel like I'm gonna be talking to you all
day literally no offense. I feel like I'm giving you
your therapy of today. Make an appointment at the at
the counter and we'll talk to you next week.

Speaker 2 (12:36):
Okay.

Speaker 5 (12:38):
By the way, first time, long time.

Speaker 1 (12:39):
Hey there, as I know as Erica, her name is
still Erica. Holy Jesus that. By the way, the phone
call was longer than Kev's relationship with.

Speaker 2 (12:56):
I feel like a tomic.

Speaker 4 (13:00):
Just leave it, just leave it or leave it.

Speaker 3 (13:03):
Yeah, how long it took to make you comebine your
mama so fat