Mojo is Meeting the Parents This Weekend

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it is Mojo in the morning.

Speaker 2 (00:02):
Uh.

Speaker 1 (00:03):
Oh, you know what, I got to tell you guys
this and I want to see if listeners can give
me some advice on it, especially those that have had
to do this with their parents. Uh, Chelsea and I
are going to meet our son, Jacob's boyfriend's family. Follow
the bouncing ball a little bit, because it can get confusing.
Our son, Jacob is dating a very very nice guy

(00:25):
but named Chris, who, by the way, spells it very
weird like Megan spells Megan weird. How does he spells
it with no H or no K it's c rs.
I love the way you phrased that like it was
my fault, like I chose the spelling of my own name.
Well it's true. Well I'm going to meet Chris's people

(00:45):
that chose his spelling because guess what we're doing this weekend.
We Chelsea and I are going to have dinner with
Jacob's boyfriend, Chris's parents.

Speaker 2 (00:56):
I mean that's a big.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
It's a big time. Yeah. And actually, I'll be quite
honest with you, I've never experienced something like this with
you know, being a dad. I've experienced this obviously when
I was younger and Chelsea was younger, and my dad
and my stepmother met Chelsea's mom and dad, and it

(01:21):
was honestly nerve wracking, Like I was worried. I knew
Chelsea's mom and dad and obviously knew my parents, and
Chelsea knew my dad because she had gone, you know,
to visit him when we went to Chicago, but they
never met face to face, both of them before we
got married, and my dad came to visit. We lived
in Arizona, so he came to Arizona to visit, and
I remember the first time them sitting down together. All
I kept thinking of myself was what if a my

(01:44):
dad doesn't like them because I loved them, And what
if they don't like my dad? What if my dad
says something that's offensive? What if Chelsea's dad, more likely
says something that's offensive? All right, Like I thought to myself,
I'm like, what happens here? What kind of the bus?
Did you just throw him under? Joe is the best Joe.

(02:04):
Joe already knows he was Joe. Joe is the guy
that will say anything and then he'll go, oh, I
probably shouldn't have said that, but then he knows he
knows he said it. But here's here's the thing that's interesting.
I'm that person. So we're going to go and meet
these guys. And Jacob's boyfriend, Chris, has an interesting situation
because his parents are both they're divorced HU, but they're

(02:25):
they So we're meeting. We're meeting Chris's mom and her
new husband, so his stepfather and then his the dad.
And I said to Jake, I go, is the dad
bring in like a girlfriend? And he goes, well, that
would be kind of weird because the dad's girlfriend was
like twenty nine years old like that. And I'm like,

(02:46):
I like this guy already. Though.

Speaker 2 (02:48):
I love that you get that they're doing this all together. Yeah,
so that makes my heart seriously, very very happy.

Speaker 1 (02:55):
Oh you love these By the way, I want to
hear craziest thing from what I understand, I don't know.
I'll tell you guys next week with their like, but
from what I understand, uh, the dad and the stepfather
are really good friends. Like they get along and hang
out and stuff, which is honestly so mature. And Chris
is it's obvious that's that Chris has been raised by

(03:15):
great people because he is an amazing young man. I
love this kid. He reminds me a lot of me
emotionally because he's a he's a crier and he is
sensitive guy. Yeah, and he's oh no, he's a Crier's
this kid? I can make him cry? Like you wait
till you see him. I'm gonna I'm gonna do something
to make that kid cry. Cry im like an emotional
like sensitivity way or cry like you're just bullying him. No,

(03:38):
I kick him in the knee. And it is so
I want to But I want to ask this question
because I really want to get advice from you guys,
And I'm being honest on this. I'm not just looking
for good stories. I want to know what happened when
the parent when your parents met the person that you're
dating's parents, Like, did anything weird happen?

Speaker 2 (03:59):
Like?

Speaker 1 (03:59):
Is there anything I shoul stay away from. We're doing
it in a public place, We're going to a restaurant.
I invited them, so I already said I'm that Chelsea
and I are paying for this, like we're taking care
of it because I wanted this to happen. And the
reason was because Jacob and Chris moved in together and
so when Jacob and Chris moved in together, I'm like,
I don't know if this kids wanted, like, and I

(04:21):
want to know what's going on, and I want to
know what his parents are all about, and I want
to know, you know, all that stuff. And honestly, Jacob
talks about them because he spends a lot of time
with Chris's family, and I hear him say so many
great things. I'm going, if these people are this great,
prove it.

Speaker 2 (04:36):
So they live they live in the Chicago area, Yes,
and you want to hear a crazy story.

Speaker 1 (04:42):
Chris Is dad and I grew up within fifteen twenty
minutes of each other. Chris's dad grew up on the
same block as one of my very very good friends,
George McFly, my buddy who I worked with. George. Yeah,
and Chris Chris's Jacob says in Chris's dad and I

(05:02):
are the same age, so I think that we're almost
exactly people. I'm hoping that we do. Like, I'm hoping
that we find this out, Like, honestly, can I tell
you something I love? I love the idea that this
could be one of those situations where we find out
that Jacob might actually be related to Chris forgot you

(05:26):
know what to be crazy cousins if his dad doesn't
show up with a twenty six year old but instead
his date it's Tracy rose Eck. Remember that or.

Speaker 2 (05:43):
Named Nancy who used to.

Speaker 1 (05:45):
Be Maybe he knows Nancy. Maybe he knows Nancy. That
would be No, that would be honestly, Kevin, that is
I can't believe remember that name? You are? You got
a frication vault of a memory there. Honestly, I'd hate him,
you son of a No, I'm really excited. I can

(06:09):
I say something about Jacob. So I talked to Jacob
and Chris yesterday. My relationship with Jacob is not as
close as my relationship with Joe and uh and Luke.
And it's because I don't like gay people. So I'm
just kidding. I'm just kidding. You know there are people
that probably don't know exactly. Yeah, I'll never be able

(06:31):
to run from mayor. I I was thinking about running
from mayor of Detroit. Now I can't. No, it's because
of proximity for him, but also you know Jacob and I.
Jacob's so close with his mom, they are they are
literally tight. Last yesterday, I was on the phone with
Jacob and Chris for over an hour. We had an
amazing conversation. And I say this with all sincerity. I

(06:55):
think that Chris is somebody that is so good for Jacob,
but also is somebody that might bring Jacob and I
even closer together. And I don't And I'm not putting
pressure because who knows if these guys ever stay in
the relationship. I fall in love with my kids, you know,
significant others significance, and so that's that's kind of a problem.

(07:16):
But no, that's not a problem, by the way, Well
it's not when they until they break up, but even then,
it's a good thing to have a great relationship with them. No,
it is. And honestly, all I want is I just
want somebody that's going to be respectful of my kids
and they will be respectful back at them. And then
I want, you know, him to marry a rich family.
I hope this. Why do I joke so much? I

(07:37):
fall back on joking on this because I'm not getting Saturday.
We're getting together Saturday? Nobody has it? Did you did? Well?

Speaker 2 (07:46):
Uh? Wes West's parents are dead. And I only say
it like that because he always says, man you have
it really easy, like we don't have to share any holidays,
You didn't have to meet anybody. He would joke like
that as well, but yeah, his parents have both passed,
so my but my family met his siblings for the
first time at our wedding. Yeah, I mean, and to him,

(08:09):
like he was essentially raised by his older sister and
older brother. They're more than a decade older than him,
so to him, I feel like that felt like their
parents my parents were meeting well.

Speaker 1 (08:20):
And to be fair, his family's in a different country. Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
So when my sisters came to visit Chelsea's grandfather, who
Danny Manzel, is the greatest guy ever, he treated my
family like they were like his family. And I never
will forget my sister. I'm gonet emotional thing about this
because he's not there. Chelsea's grandfather treated them like he

(08:43):
gave up his house to them to stay there, and
then he, you know, stayed somewhere else because he didn't
want them stay in a hotel. And I remember my
sister married just saying to me, this is a great
family because this family took us in as their family,
and that's kind of what Chelsea and I hope to do,
you know, when we have a conversation, to let them

(09:04):
know that their to those parents, your your son. If
he's good to my son, we will treat him like
he's our son.

Speaker 2 (09:12):
By the way, it sounds like Chris's family is already
doing that a lot of things sake, and so I
feel like like you are going to like, you guys
are going to have a really beautiful dinner and relationship
because you can already tell their good hearted people.

Speaker 1 (09:25):
And honestly, that's what I want to thank you know,
both of us want to thank them for because they
are closer to Jacob proximity wise than we are, and
I know that if anything happened to Jake, like if
he got sick and needed somebody immediately. It sounds to
me like Chris's parents are are great people. Kayla, what's
going on? It's Mojo in the morning. We're meeting the
parents this weekend. What's going on?

Speaker 3 (09:47):
Oh, that's it, that's really exciting.

Speaker 2 (09:49):
I actually we just have that that just happened.

Speaker 1 (09:51):
With my uh with my boyfriend, and we found out
that uh, my parents and his parents actually went to
like my mom like our mom's will to school together
Oh my god, what a small world.

Speaker 3 (10:04):
We're so we're like from an hour and a half away,
so we didn't even know and found out that our
parents went to school together and stuff, and now they're
really good friends.

Speaker 1 (10:13):
And you know, they they you know, they make sure.

Speaker 3 (10:16):
That we're good.

Speaker 1 (10:17):
So it's really good. I feel like to have like
really good relationship with them. Did you get nervous at all,
like that they wouldn't like each other or is that
just not even something that was on your mind. It
was kind of no.

Speaker 2 (10:30):
It was definitely kind of nerve wracking. And then once
they found.

Speaker 1 (10:33):
Out you know, hey you went to high school with me,
blah blah blah, everything was like great.

Speaker 2 (10:37):
And you know, they talk like constantly now, so it's
almost like they reconducted from like long lost friends or something.

Speaker 1 (10:43):
So I thought that was kind of weird that we
we didn't even know our parents knew each other.

Speaker 3 (10:47):
And then it's like, hey, you know, I'm talking in
a while.

Speaker 1 (10:50):
And they're they're good friends. Now that's cool.

Speaker 3 (10:52):
That's a big part.

Speaker 1 (10:53):
Yeah, I would worry they would plot against me, you
know what I mean, Like I don't need them getting
too close. What if what happens in the case if
you don't like them, like do you say to your
son you know what? I really don't, you know, because
that you know, I don't think that's just you know,
a situation obviously that we'll have to face with us.
But I almost want, you know, yep, you want to

(11:16):
give your kid a good piece of advice. Susan, what's
going on?

Speaker 3 (11:21):
Hey guys, good morning, good morning.

Speaker 2 (11:23):
What's going on?

Speaker 3 (11:24):
Well? I actually have four married daughters, and you know
that you're going to love the parents because the child
is a reflection of the parents. Sure, And and like
my son in law, my old my my so my
daughter has been Mary twenty years to my son in
law and when I met him, I instantly loved him.

(11:45):
And my parents are the same way. And that goes
for all of the husbands that married my daughters. I
just I love their parents and we get together with
all the kids.

Speaker 1 (11:55):
Now, that's cool, that's in need. Can I tell you something,
Susan that I'm that I'm hoping for is like I'm
hoping for that like I'm hoping for it's a it's
a moment where you know, we we get done and
I know it's not going to happen in one dinner.
But I'm hoping it's a moment where we all realize
we have the common goal of we love each other's

(12:15):
children absolutely.

Speaker 3 (12:17):
And that happens and it's really great. And I have
an next husband. We were married for almost twenty years
and I'm remarried and he's remarried and we invite them
to holidays. It's great because we have we have grandkids, right, wow,
And everybody has to be adults healthy.

Speaker 1 (12:34):
It's nice. It's good to hear healthy stuff going on.
That's and that's the way it should be anybody that's
in relationships. And it's not like that. You guys got
to rethink yourselves because it's it's hard on your kids.
Can I say something that I am truly honestly, this
is no joke. So my son Jacob is gay and
Chris is isn' you know a man? And I wonder

(12:56):
how does the wedding thing happen? Like, you know how
with a guy and a girl getting married that usually
it's the bride's family that kind of like helps out
with majority and then the groom's family does like you know,
rehearsal dinners and things like that.

Speaker 2 (13:09):
You're not even gonna have to worry about that. Jacob
was the kid that didn't even want a graduation party.
They're going to Elope and that's it. To the courthouse,
that's it. Oh.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
I love that your main priority here is how to
save money. Wouldn't that be no? I well, I want
to make sure it's a good wedding.

Speaker 3 (13:24):
Either that or the parents you're gonna get together and
split it half and half.

Speaker 1 (13:28):
I mean, I'm not fifty to fifty with nothing. You
gotta be kidding me. No, Susan would do anything for
those guys. All right, Well, we love you. We'll talk
to you later. Thanks so much. Thanks for positive vibes
on this whole thing. Hold on, I got a negative
one here, B. Are you there?

Speaker 2 (13:47):
Yeah? Hi?

Speaker 1 (13:48):
What happened? B. It's actually been like every single one
of my boyfriends in the past and my current boyfriend,
my mom is just never had a really good experience with.

Speaker 3 (14:02):
Any of his, any of my like, any of the.

Speaker 2 (14:05):
In laws, essentially, especially my like current boyfriend. We had
them over after Christmas for a nice dinner.

Speaker 1 (14:12):
And she laughed and my mom was like, God, she was.

Speaker 3 (14:16):
Just really loud.

Speaker 2 (14:20):
But I just do have a feeling that, like any
of my in laws are ever going to be like friends.

Speaker 1 (14:25):
Like it's really nice to hear other people be friends
with their yeah you know in mom, but my parents
are probably just never got what if it's your mom,
if all of them don't get along, it might be
a common denominator that your mom might be the pain
of the ass.

Speaker 3 (14:39):
I mean, I love my mom, so I'm not going
to say that it is. But but there.

Speaker 1 (14:49):
I'm going to watch my alcohol intake. I will tell
you that that's one thing I got to be very
careful of. So do just let Chelsea lead the conversation.
Oh no, yeah, yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Chelsea's Chelsea's very Chelsea's very honest, and I you know,
I sometimes you need to be a little diplomatic. Yeah,

(15:10):
but Chelsea knows how to not cross the line. Okay,
she is good at that. But I will say this, man,
I'll know five seconds in. But I think with Jacob
because uh, you know, Jake is Jake wouldn't put himself
in a situation that wasn't great. Joe Luke, all right,