Mojo is Meeting the Parents This Weekend

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, it is Mojo in the morning. Uh.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
Oh, you know what, I got to tell you guys
this and I want to see if listeners can give
me some advice on it, especially those that have had
to do this with their parents. Uh, Chelsea and I
are going to meet our son, Jacob's boyfriend's family. Follow
the bouncing ball a little bit, because it can get confusing.
Our son, Jacob is dating a very very nice guy

(00:25):
but named Chris, who, by the way, spells it very
weird like Meghan spells Megan weird. How does he spells
it with no H or no K it's c rs.

Speaker 3 (00:37):
I love the way you phrased that like it was
my fault, like I chose the spelling of my own name.

Speaker 2 (00:42):
Well it's true. Well I'm going to meet Chris's people
that chose his spelling because guess what we're doing this weekend.
We Chelsea and I are going to have dinner with
Jacob's boyfriend, Chris's parents.

Speaker 1 (00:56):
I mean that's a big it's a big time. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (00:59):
And actually, I'll be quite honest with you, I've never
experienced something like this with you know, being a dad.
I've experienced this obviously when I was younger and Chelsea
was younger, and my dad and my stepmother met Chelsea's
mom and dad, and it was honestly nerve wracking, Like

(01:22):
I was worried. I knew Chelsea's mom and dad and
obviously knew my parents. And Chelsea knew my dad because
she had gone, you know, to visit him when we
went to Chicago, but they never met face to face,
both of them before we got married, and my dad
came to visit. We lived in Arizona, so he came
to Arizona to visit, and I remember the first time
them sitting down together. All I kept thinking of myself
was what if a my dad doesn't like them because

(01:46):
I loved them, And what if they don't like my dad?
What if my dad says something that's offensive? What if
Chelsea's dad more likely says something that's offensive? Right, Like
I thought to myself, I'm like, what happens here?

Speaker 1 (02:00):
What kind of the bus? Did you just throw him under?
Joe is the best. Joe already knows he was Joe.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
Joe is the guy that will say anything and then
he'll go, oh, I probably shouldn't have said that, but
then he knows, he knows he said it. But here's
here's the thing that's interesting. I'm that person. So we're
gonna go and meet these guys. And Jacob's boyfriend, Chris,
has an interesting situation because his parents are both they're divorced, huh,
but they're they So we're meeting. We're meeting Chris's mom

(02:29):
and her new husband, so his stepfather and then his
the dad. And I said to Jake, I go, is
the dad bring in like a girlfriend? And he goes, well,
that would be kind of weird because the dad's girlfriend
was like twenty nine years old like that.

Speaker 1 (02:45):
And I'm like, I like this guy already. Though.

Speaker 4 (02:48):
I love that you get that they're doing this all together. Yeah,
so that makes my heart seriously, very very happy.

Speaker 2 (02:54):
Oh you love these By the way, I want to
hear craziest thing. From what I understand, I don't know.
I'll tell you guys next week with their like, but
from what I understand, uh, the dad and the stepfather
are really good friends. Like they get along and hang
out and stuff, which is honestly so mature. And Chris
is it's obvious that's that Chris has been raised by

(03:15):
great people because he is an amazing young man. I
love this kid. He reminds me a lot of me
emotionally because he's a he's a crier and he is
sensitive guy. Yeah, and he's oh no, he's a crier.
This kid, I can make him cry, like you wait
till you see him. I'm gonna I'm gonna do something
to make.

Speaker 3 (03:33):
That kid cry, cry in like an emotional like sensitivity way,
or cry like you're just bullying him.

Speaker 1 (03:37):
No, I kick him in the knee, and ye, that's
what it is.

Speaker 2 (03:41):
So I want to but I want to ask this
question because I really want to get advice from you guys.
And I'm being honest on this. I'm not just looking
for good stories. I want to know what happened when
the parent when your parents met the person that you're
dating's parents, Like, did anything weird happen?

Speaker 1 (03:59):
Like?

Speaker 2 (03:59):
Is there anying I should say away from we're doing
it in a public place, We're going to a restaurant.
I invited them, so I already said I'm that Chelsea
and I are paying for this, like we're taking care
of it because I wanted this to happen. And the
reason was because Jacob and Chris moved in together and
so when Jacob and Chris moved in together, I'm like,
I don't know if this kids wanted like I and

(04:21):
I want to know what's going on, and I want
to know what his parents are all about, and I
want to know, you know, all that stuff. And honestly,
Jacob talks about them because he spends a lot of
time with Chris's family, and I hear him say so
many great things. I'm going, if these people are this great,
prove it.

Speaker 4 (04:36):
So they live in the Chicago area, Yes, and you
want to hear a crazy story.

Speaker 2 (04:42):
Chris Is dad and I grew up within fifteen twenty
minutes of each other. Chris's dad grew up on the
same block as one of my very very good friends,
George McFly, my buddy who I worked with. George, Yeah,
and Chris Chris's Jacob says, and Chris's dad and I

(05:02):
are the same age, So I think that we're almost
exactly people.

Speaker 1 (05:06):
I'm hoping that we do.

Speaker 2 (05:07):
Like, I'm hoping that we find this out, Like, honestly,
can I tell you something I love? I love the
idea that this could be one of those situations where
we find out that Jacob might actually be related to
christ you know what to.

Speaker 5 (05:26):
Be crazy cousins if his dad doesn't show up with
a twenty six year old but instead his date it's
Tracy rose ekmember.

Speaker 1 (05:41):
Or named Nancy who used to.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
Be Maybe he knows Nancy. Maybe he knows Nancy. That
would be That's no, that would be honestly, Kevin, that
is I can't believe Ken remember that name?

Speaker 1 (05:57):
You are? You got a frickage fall of a memory there.

Speaker 2 (06:03):
Honestly, I'd hate him, you son of a No, I'm
really excited. I can I say something about Jacob. So
I talked to Jacob and Chris yesterday. My relationship with
Jacob is not as close as my relationship with Joe
and uh and Luke. And it's because I don't like
gay people. So I'm just kidding.

Speaker 1 (06:25):
I'm just kidding. You know there are people that probably
don't exactly.

Speaker 2 (06:30):
Yeah, I'll never be able to run from mayor. I
I was thinking about running from mayor of Detroit. Now
I can't. No, it's because of proximity for him, but
also you know Jacob and I. Jacob's so close with
his mom. They are they are literally tight. Last yesterday
I was on the phone with Jacob and Chris for
over an hour. We had an amazing conversation. And I

(06:52):
say this with all sincerity. I think that Chris is
somebody that is so good for Jacob, but also is
somebody that might bring Jacob and I even closer together.
And I don't And I'm not putting pressure because who
knows if these guys ever stay in the relationship.

Speaker 1 (07:09):
I fall in love with.

Speaker 2 (07:10):
My kids, you know, significant others significance, and so that's
that's kind of a problem. But that's not a problem,
by the way, Well it's not when they until they break.

Speaker 3 (07:21):
Up, but even then, it's a good thing to have
a great relationship with them.

Speaker 1 (07:25):
No, it is.

Speaker 2 (07:25):
And honestly, all I want is I just want somebody
that's going to be respectful of my kids and they
will be respectful back at them.

Speaker 1 (07:32):
And then I want, you know, him to marry a
rich family. I hope. This is why do I joke
so much. I fall back on joking on this because
I'm not getting Saturday.

Speaker 2 (07:41):
We're getting together Saturday. Nobody has it? Did you did?

Speaker 1 (07:46):
Well?

Speaker 6 (07:46):
Uh?

Speaker 1 (07:47):
Wes? Wes's parents are dead.

Speaker 4 (07:48):
And I only say it like that because he always says, man,
you have it really easy, like we don't have to
share any holidays, you didn't have to meet anybody. He
would joke like that as well, but yeah, his parents
have both passed, so my but my family met his
siblings for the first time at our wedding. Yeah, I mean,
and to him, like he was essentially raised by his

(08:13):
older sister and older brother. They're more than a decade
older than him, so to him, I feel like that
felt like my parents were meeting well.

Speaker 1 (08:20):
And to be fair, his family's in a different country. Yeah. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2 (08:24):
So when my sisters came to visit, Chelsea's grandfather, who
Danny Mansiel, was the greatest guy ever. He treated my
family like they were like his family. And I never
will forget my sister. I'm getting emotional thing about this
because he's an here. Chelsea's grandfather treated them. He gave
up his house to them to stay there, and then

(08:47):
he you know, stayed somewhere else because he didn't want
them staying in a hotel. And I remember my sister
married Joe saying to me, this is a great family
because this family took us in as their family, and
that's kind of what else and I hope to do
you know, when we have a conversation to let them
know that their to those parents, your your son. If

(09:09):
he's good to my son, we will treat him.

Speaker 1 (09:11):
Like he's our son.

Speaker 4 (09:12):
By the way, it sounds like Chris's family is already
doing that a lot of think Saco, and so I
feel like, oh, like you are going to like, you
guys are going to have a really beautiful dinner and
relationship because you can already tell their good hearted people.

Speaker 2 (09:25):
And honestly, that's what I want to thank you know,
both of us want to thank them for because they
are closer to Jacob proximity wise than we are. And
I know that if anything happened to Jake, like if
he got sick and needed somebody immediately. It sounds to
me like Chris's parents are great people. Kayla, what's going on.
It's Mojo in the morning. We're meeting the parents this weekend.
What's going on?

Speaker 6 (09:47):
Oh, that's it, that's really exciting.

Speaker 5 (09:48):
I actually we just have that that.

Speaker 1 (09:51):
Just happened with my uh with my boyfriend, and we
found out that uh, my parents and his parents actually
want to like my mom, like our moms want to
school together. Oh my god, what a small world.

Speaker 6 (10:04):
Yeah, we're from so we're like from an hour and
a half away.

Speaker 1 (10:07):
So we didn't even know and found out that our
parents went to school together and stuff, and now they're
really good friends and you know, they they you know,
they make sure that we're good. So it's really good.

Speaker 2 (10:17):
I feel like to have like a really good relationship
with them. Did you get nervous at all, like that
they wouldn't like each other or is that just not
even something that was on your mind.

Speaker 4 (10:28):
It was kind of no.

Speaker 1 (10:29):
It was definitely kind of nerve wracking.

Speaker 7 (10:32):
And then once they.

Speaker 1 (10:33):
Found out you know, hey you went to high school
with me, blah blah.

Speaker 2 (10:35):
Blah, everything was like great, and.

Speaker 7 (10:37):
You know, they talk like constantly now, so it's almost
like they reconducted from like long lost friends or something.
So I thought that was kind of weird that we
we didn't even know our parents knew each other.

Speaker 1 (10:47):
And then it's like, hey, you know, I'm talking in
a while and they're they're good friends. Now that's cool.

Speaker 6 (10:52):
That's a big part.

Speaker 3 (10:53):
Yeah, I would worry they would plot against me, you
know what I mean, Like I don't need them getting
too close.

Speaker 2 (10:58):
What if what happens in the case if you don't
like them, Like do you say to your son you
know what? I really don't, you know, because that you know,
I don't think that's just you know, a situation obviously
that we'll have to face with us. But I almost want,
you know, yeah, you want to give your kid a
good piece of advice. Susan, what's going on?

Speaker 6 (11:21):
Hey guys, good morning, good morning.

Speaker 1 (11:23):
What's going on?

Speaker 6 (11:24):
Well? I actually have four married daughters, and you know
that you're going to love the parents because the child
is a reflection of the parents. Sure, And and like
my son in law, my old my my so my
daughter has been very twenty years to my son in
law and when I met him, I instantly loved him. Yeah,

(11:45):
my parents are the same way. And that goes for
all of the husbands that married my daughters. I just
I love their parents and we get together without the kids.

Speaker 1 (11:54):
Now that's cool. That's in need.

Speaker 2 (11:57):
Can I tell you something, Susan that I'm that I'm
hoping for is like I'm hoping for that like I'm
hoping for it's a it's a moment where you know,
we we get done and I know it's not going
to happen in one dinner.

Speaker 1 (12:08):
But I'm hoping it's a moment.

Speaker 2 (12:09):
Where we all realize we have the common goal of
we love each other's children.

Speaker 6 (12:16):
Absolutely, and that happens and it's really great. And I
have an next husband. You were married for almost twenty
years and I'm remarried and he's remarried, and we invite
them to holidays. It's great because we have we have grandkids, right. Wow,
And everybody has to be.

Speaker 1 (12:32):
Adults healthy about it.

Speaker 2 (12:34):
It's nice. It's good to hear healthy stuff going on.
That's and that's the way it should be anybody that's
in relationships. And it's not like that. You guys got
to rethink yourselves because it's hard on your kids. Can
I say something that I am truly honestly, this is
no joke. So my son Jacob is gay and Chris
is Isn't you know a man? And I wonder how

(12:56):
does the wedding thing happen? Like, you know how with
a guy and a girl getting married that usually it's
the bride's family that kind of like helps out with
majority and then the groom's family does like you know,
rehearsal dinners and things like that.

Speaker 4 (13:09):
You're not even gonna have to worry about that. Jacob
was a kid that didn't even want a graduation party.
They're going to Elope and that's it. They're going to
go to the courthouse.

Speaker 1 (13:16):
That's it.

Speaker 3 (13:16):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (13:17):
I love that your main priority here is how to
save money. Wouldn't that be no?

Speaker 2 (13:20):
I well, I want to make sure it's a good wedding,
either that or.

Speaker 6 (13:25):
The parents you're gonna get together and half and half.

Speaker 1 (13:27):
I mean, I'm not fifty to fifty with nothing.

Speaker 2 (13:32):
You gotta be kidding me. No, Susan would do anything
for those guys. All right, Well, we love you. We'll
talk to you later. Thanks so much. Thanks for positive
vibes on this whole thing. Hold on, I got a
negative one here, B.

Speaker 1 (13:45):
Are you there?

Speaker 7 (13:46):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (13:46):
Hi?

Speaker 1 (13:47):
What happened? B.

Speaker 7 (13:49):
It's actually been like every single one of my boyfriends
in the past and my current boyfriend, my mom has
just never had a really good experience with any of his,
any of my like, any of the in laws, essentially,
especially my like current boyfriend. We had them over after
Christmas for a nice dinner and she laughed and my

(14:12):
mom was like, God, she was just really loud. But
I still have a feeling that, like any of my
in laws are ever going to be like friends. Like
it's really nice to hear other people be friends with
their Yeah, you know in mos. But my parents are probably.

Speaker 1 (14:28):
Just never going what if it's your mom?

Speaker 2 (14:30):
If all of them don't get along, it might be
a common denominator that your mom might be the pain
of the ass.

Speaker 7 (14:37):
I mean, I love my mom, so I'm not going
to say that it is. But but there.

Speaker 2 (14:46):
I'm going to watch my alcohol intake. I will tell
you that that's one thing I got to be very
careful of.

Speaker 3 (14:51):
So does let Chelsea lead the conversation?

Speaker 2 (14:54):
Oh no, yeah, no, no, no, no, no, you know,
Chelsea's Chelsea's very Chelsea's very honest, and I you know,
I sometimes you need to be a little diplomatic.

Speaker 1 (15:08):
Yeah, but Chelsea knows how to not cross the line.

Speaker 2 (15:10):
Okay, she is good at that. But I will say this, man,
I'll know five seconds in. But I think with Jacob
because uh, you know, Jake is Jake wouldn't put himself
in a situation that wasn't great.

Speaker 1 (15:25):
Joe luke Man