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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, Mojo in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
If you are somebody that, if you're somebody that's ever
given birth to a baby, you know that sometimes in
family situations, people might get offended when it comes to
who's in the delivery room and who's not in the
delivery room.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Megan, You've got a friend that's going through this right now.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
So this past weekend, I was at a birthday party.
Speaker 5 (00:20):
A friend of mine is pregnant and her and her
husband are expecting their second child.
Speaker 4 (00:25):
And they were fighting and I was like, ooh, girl,
give me all the details. What's wrong.
Speaker 5 (00:32):
And they're fighting because his mother wants to be in
the delivery room and she said absolutely not. And her
husband thinks that it's unreasonable for her to say no
to his mom being in the delivery room. And let
me tell you, I know he said.
Speaker 4 (00:52):
Somebody was like, I don't stand. I don't understand. She
gets to have her mom. Why can't my mom be
in there?
Speaker 5 (00:59):
And she was like Every girl in that room was like, Brah,
let it go.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
This is not your choice. You do not get to
say this.
Speaker 5 (01:07):
It's causing major issues in their relationship. But all the
girls are on her side and his mom should not
be in the delivery room.
Speaker 4 (01:16):
They were all on her side.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Did you have moms in the delivery room?
Speaker 6 (01:20):
Had zero moms, zero family members. We decided that we
just wanted it to be a moment between, you know,
the two of us, and that was it. And that
was a very very hard conversation to have.
Speaker 5 (01:34):
Interest Well, he was like, I don't understand because for
the first one we did it your way, and I
was just like.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
It's still her way. It's still her first.
Speaker 6 (01:41):
Let me tell you something that it is her body
that is exposed.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
Crazy things happen.
Speaker 6 (01:48):
You need to the mama needs to feel the most
comfortable in this decision making. And if I feel like
she very much gets a say and who's in there
and who's not?
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Like you?
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Yeah, I mean, does she get to say her body expose?
But that just means that I don't have any say
so in this process at all. Is my baby coming
through that vagina as well? Why can't I be her?
I hear all of that, but my experience doesn't matter
at all in this No, that's Crazy's just a firm down.
Until she asked for Chelse, you exactly you gave birth,
I gave life. But somehow, some way, I'm not a
(02:21):
part of this.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
We UH in our three cases, Chelsea's mom was in
the delivery room with Chelsea and myself, and then in
one of the cases, we wanted to have Chelsea's dad
in the delivery room UH to cut the umbilical cord,
but unfortunately somebody directed him to the wrong room room
and he walked into the right room after we had
(02:43):
already done everything, and he goes, I'm suing, which, by
the way, a hospital doesn't like that, but you go
back to it. I believe, as a dad of a
of three children, that first off, my mom has passed,
so she there was no even thought of this, you know,
like I wasn't going to bring her back from the
dead and have her in the room with us, although
she probably wasn't. But as like, I think that is
(03:09):
Chelsea's right to pick because she is giving birth to
the baby. But I think Chelsea, if I were to
to have said to her, hey, would I would be okay,
my mom would love to be in the room. I
don't think Chelsea would have turned it down. It just
wasn't an option. But I do think that it's the
mom's choice on this one like, I don't think that
the mom like and as a guy, and keV, I
know this because keV, you weren't, unfortunately in the room
(03:32):
for Joe, but for Journey, you were in the room.
Did who was in the room with nobody?
Speaker 3 (03:40):
So it's just it wasn't even like a question, like
nobody asked for that moment. But if Srel Mama was
in there, mama wanted to be an autumn like you.
Why no, hyyo, Mama gonna get in here, and now
my mama like, what are we doing? Okay, yeah, probably
it differently.
Speaker 6 (03:53):
But vulnerable wild moment. There's so much going on.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Doctors don't don't necessarily even want anybody else in there.
Speaker 7 (04:02):
For sure.
Speaker 6 (04:02):
I remember doctor Werner Andrew and I had said to
doctor Warner like we just wanted to be the two
of us. And I remember doctor Warner and I said,
I think my mom especially is going to have a
very hard time with this. And he said, let me
and let my nurses be the bad guys, Like have
this conversation with your family's beforehand, but on that day,
like everybody's feelings, you know, are heightened. Let the nurses
(04:25):
be the bad guys in this situation, so you guys
don't have to.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Hey Carrie, what's up? Hey, what's going on?
Speaker 8 (04:33):
Not much?
Speaker 9 (04:34):
So?
Speaker 7 (04:35):
Yeah, my daughter she was, you know, probably a couple
hours before giving birth, and her boyfriend, no Lie sent
her text to say that he would appreciate it if
I left so they could have it would just be
him and her.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Oh so your grandma? Huh?
Speaker 7 (04:54):
I am grandma and I am the grandma.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
He kicked grandma out of the delivery room? How did
that go?
Speaker 3 (05:00):
He did?
Speaker 8 (05:00):
Didn't he have the boss to tell me?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Lee?
Speaker 8 (05:03):
He had to send her a.
Speaker 7 (05:04):
Text and she sent me the text.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Wow, so what did you?
Speaker 4 (05:06):
I looked at her.
Speaker 7 (05:07):
I'm like, what in the.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
World did you get? Did you leave or did you
go kicking and screaming?
Speaker 7 (05:13):
I only left because my daughter sent me know of
text and just didn't want to stir anything up. But
I tell you what, she does regret it to this day.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (05:24):
I mean, that's not anything that she can get back.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
And that moment is the boyfriend still part of the picture.
Speaker 7 (05:31):
Yeah, and the top it off, he's two years younger
than me.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Oh Jesus, Oh yeah, yeah. It gives me a good indication.
He's a fruit pie.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Wait, wait, hold on, hold on Google, hold on your boyfriend.
I don't want to google at the dump it.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Uh, you're the baby daddy. The baby daddy was how
old and how old was your daughter?
Speaker 7 (05:53):
Well he's forty seven, and she's Oh my god, Yeah,
you're telling me that's fun.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
You're telling me that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Yeah, oh my god, that's nuts. Deanna, what's up? It's
Mojo in the morning.
Speaker 8 (06:07):
I just because I kind of I've been there it
four times with my and he meed his mother in
and it's freakolutely not because at that point, and it's
one of those things where it's all about our level
of comfortability. We're already in enough pain and stressed and
seeing our the daddy's rat faced moms that some of
us don't have the.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Mother in law. Oh my gosh, mother in law anymore.
Speaker 9 (06:37):
I'm good.
Speaker 10 (06:37):
That woman's the devil.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Oh geez.
Speaker 10 (06:40):
Now the guy that I'm like now had if we
were to have kids, yeah, I would absolutely let him.
Speaker 8 (06:44):
Moment inside.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
If you're listening, new mother in law, don't ever get
a Deanna angry.
Speaker 10 (06:54):
In California, Chaka. But no, it's like I get Kevin's
play and is his baby too, but at that current
moment is our level of comfortability and awkwardness because you
don't want every time to can hear you looking at
our view? Hal, Well, areosed enough?
Speaker 6 (07:08):
I have mom in the room during the labor even
like hang out. But when it's time to push, everybody
can wait out day.
Speaker 5 (07:16):
Can I tell you my friend's response that was the
absolute funniest part of the conversation. She said, if she
wants to be in the room, she has to get
up on the table and poop in front of me. Wow,
and then she can be whoa in the birthing room. Really, yeah,
because it is possible for you too poop during labor.
Speaker 6 (07:34):
I promise you it's very possible.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
It's funny that you said that because Kate is on
the phone here and the call screen says, Kate let
the dad poop in front of her parents first.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Why did you say that?
Speaker 9 (07:45):
Oh my gosh, that's so funny because I have given
birth four times, and there are other things that happened
to your body during the delivery process other than just
giving birth.
Speaker 8 (07:55):
Yeah, and it's a very intimate time. And so if
you wants to go ahead, get naked.
Speaker 10 (08:02):
And poop in front of her parents.
Speaker 4 (08:05):
Over and over and over and over and over again.
Oh my god, we're over again.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
I didn't.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
I did not know that that's the case. That's crazy.
I hope you call your bluff, Christina, what's up.
Speaker 9 (08:19):
I agree that it depends on the comfortability with the
mother in law or anything else. But it's a very
vulnerable state for so it's not that the guy's feelings
or wanting.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
His mother doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
It should.
Speaker 9 (08:35):
Our feelings should matter more at that point.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
It should get and it should be Honestly, it should
be a moment I think between the dad and the
mom where they get to like experience it together. But
I will tell you there is no relationship that sometimes
is stronger than the relationship of the birthing mother and
the mother. So I think sometimes their mothers want to
be there to help them go through it.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Here's the thing this, let's compromise here.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Yeah, if we want to put on my pants and
I got a dodo in front of your parents, let's
do this then, right, since you want your mom in
the delivery room for that beautiful moment. Next time we
bake cookies and I put a baby in you, I
want my mom in there. How about that? Is that okay,
that's kind of kinky.
Speaker 4 (09:12):
Do you think her mom should be at your vasectomy?
Speaker 1 (09:15):
I'm not getting a.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Yeah, but you know what I mean, Like, I'm just
saying to be there and like, watch you get a vasectomy.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
I'm not getting one. I can't ask what what what? Wait?
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Real quick, hypothetically, what if she says, Okay, your mom
can be in the room when you guys can.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
See that child, here's your chair. Yeah, O, God to
listen to you.
All right, Mojo in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
If you are somebody that, if you're somebody that's ever
given birth to a baby, you know that sometimes in
family situations, people might get offended when it comes to
who's in the delivery room and who's not in the
delivery room.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Megan, You've got a friend that's going through this right now.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
So this past weekend, I was at a birthday party.
Speaker 5 (00:20):
A friend of mine is pregnant and her and her
husband are expecting their second child.
Speaker 4 (00:25):
And they were fighting and I was like, ooh, girl,
give me all the details. What's wrong.
Speaker 5 (00:32):
And they're fighting because his mother wants to be in
the delivery room and she said absolutely not. And her
husband thinks that it's unreasonable for her to say no
to his mom being in the delivery room. And let
me tell you, I know he said.
Speaker 4 (00:52):
Somebody was like, I don't stand. I don't understand. She
gets to have her mom. Why can't my mom be
in there?
Speaker 5 (00:59):
And she was like Every girl in that room was like, Brah,
let it go.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
This is not your choice. You do not get to
say this.
Speaker 5 (01:07):
It's causing major issues in their relationship. But all the
girls are on her side and his mom should not
be in the delivery room.
Speaker 4 (01:16):
They were all on her side.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Did you have moms in the delivery room?
Speaker 6 (01:20):
Had zero moms, zero family members. We decided that we
just wanted it to be a moment between, you know,
the two of us, and that was it. And that
was a very very hard conversation to have.
Speaker 5 (01:34):
Interest Well, he was like, I don't understand because for
the first one we did it your way, and I
was just like.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
It's still her way. It's still her first.
Speaker 6 (01:41):
Let me tell you something that it is her body
that is exposed.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
Crazy things happen.
Speaker 6 (01:48):
You need to the mama needs to feel the most
comfortable in this decision making. And if I feel like
she very much gets a say and who's in there
and who's not?
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Like you?
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Yeah, I mean, does she get to say her body expose?
But that just means that I don't have any say
so in this process at all. Is my baby coming
through that vagina as well? Why can't I be her?
I hear all of that, but my experience doesn't matter
at all in this No, that's Crazy's just a firm down.
Until she asked for Chelse, you exactly you gave birth,
I gave life. But somehow, some way, I'm not a
(02:21):
part of this.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
We UH in our three cases, Chelsea's mom was in
the delivery room with Chelsea and myself, and then in
one of the cases, we wanted to have Chelsea's dad
in the delivery room UH to cut the umbilical cord,
but unfortunately somebody directed him to the wrong room room
and he walked into the right room after we had
(02:43):
already done everything, and he goes, I'm suing, which, by
the way, a hospital doesn't like that, but you go
back to it. I believe, as a dad of a
of three children, that first off, my mom has passed,
so she there was no even thought of this, you know,
like I wasn't going to bring her back from the
dead and have her in the room with us, although
she probably wasn't. But as like, I think that is
(03:09):
Chelsea's right to pick because she is giving birth to
the baby. But I think Chelsea, if I were to
to have said to her, hey, would I would be okay,
my mom would love to be in the room. I
don't think Chelsea would have turned it down. It just
wasn't an option. But I do think that it's the
mom's choice on this one like, I don't think that
the mom like and as a guy, and keV, I
know this because keV, you weren't, unfortunately in the room
(03:32):
for Joe, but for Journey, you were in the room.
Did who was in the room with nobody?
Speaker 3 (03:40):
So it's just it wasn't even like a question, like
nobody asked for that moment. But if Srel Mama was
in there, mama wanted to be an autumn like you.
Why no, hyyo, Mama gonna get in here, and now
my mama like, what are we doing? Okay, yeah, probably
it differently.
Speaker 6 (03:53):
But vulnerable wild moment. There's so much going on.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Doctors don't don't necessarily even want anybody else in there.
Speaker 7 (04:02):
For sure.
Speaker 6 (04:02):
I remember doctor Werner Andrew and I had said to
doctor Warner like we just wanted to be the two
of us. And I remember doctor Warner and I said,
I think my mom especially is going to have a
very hard time with this. And he said, let me
and let my nurses be the bad guys, Like have
this conversation with your family's beforehand, but on that day,
like everybody's feelings, you know, are heightened. Let the nurses
(04:25):
be the bad guys in this situation, so you guys
don't have to.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Hey Carrie, what's up? Hey, what's going on?
Speaker 8 (04:33):
Not much?
Speaker 9 (04:34):
So?
Speaker 7 (04:35):
Yeah, my daughter she was, you know, probably a couple
hours before giving birth, and her boyfriend, no Lie sent
her text to say that he would appreciate it if
I left so they could have it would just be
him and her.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
Oh so your grandma? Huh?
Speaker 7 (04:54):
I am grandma and I am the grandma.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
He kicked grandma out of the delivery room? How did
that go?
Speaker 3 (05:00):
He did?
Speaker 8 (05:00):
Didn't he have the boss to tell me?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Lee?
Speaker 8 (05:03):
He had to send her a.
Speaker 7 (05:04):
Text and she sent me the text.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Wow, so what did you?
Speaker 4 (05:06):
I looked at her.
Speaker 7 (05:07):
I'm like, what in the.
Speaker 2 (05:09):
World did you get? Did you leave or did you
go kicking and screaming?
Speaker 7 (05:13):
I only left because my daughter sent me know of
text and just didn't want to stir anything up. But
I tell you what, she does regret it to this day.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (05:24):
I mean, that's not anything that she can get back.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
And that moment is the boyfriend still part of the picture.
Speaker 7 (05:31):
Yeah, and the top it off, he's two years younger
than me.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Oh Jesus, Oh yeah, yeah. It gives me a good indication.
He's a fruit pie.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Wait, wait, hold on, hold on Google, hold on your boyfriend.
I don't want to google at the dump it.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Uh, you're the baby daddy. The baby daddy was how
old and how old was your daughter?
Speaker 7 (05:53):
Well he's forty seven, and she's Oh my god, Yeah,
you're telling me that's fun.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
You're telling me that's crazy.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Yeah, oh my god, that's nuts. Deanna, what's up? It's
Mojo in the morning.
Speaker 8 (06:07):
I just because I kind of I've been there it
four times with my and he meed his mother in
and it's freakolutely not because at that point, and it's
one of those things where it's all about our level
of comfortability. We're already in enough pain and stressed and
seeing our the daddy's rat faced moms that some of
us don't have the.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Mother in law. Oh my gosh, mother in law anymore.
Speaker 9 (06:37):
I'm good.
Speaker 10 (06:37):
That woman's the devil.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Oh geez.
Speaker 10 (06:40):
Now the guy that I'm like now had if we
were to have kids, yeah, I would absolutely let him.
Speaker 8 (06:44):
Moment inside.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
If you're listening, new mother in law, don't ever get
a Deanna angry.
Speaker 10 (06:54):
In California, Chaka. But no, it's like I get Kevin's
play and is his baby too, but at that current
moment is our level of comfortability and awkwardness because you
don't want every time to can hear you looking at
our view? Hal, Well, areosed enough?
Speaker 6 (07:08):
I have mom in the room during the labor even
like hang out. But when it's time to push, everybody
can wait out day.
Speaker 5 (07:16):
Can I tell you my friend's response that was the
absolute funniest part of the conversation. She said, if she
wants to be in the room, she has to get
up on the table and poop in front of me. Wow,
and then she can be whoa in the birthing room. Really, yeah,
because it is possible for you too poop during labor.
Speaker 6 (07:34):
I promise you it's very possible.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
It's funny that you said that because Kate is on
the phone here and the call screen says, Kate let
the dad poop in front of her parents first.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Why did you say that?
Speaker 9 (07:45):
Oh my gosh, that's so funny because I have given
birth four times, and there are other things that happened
to your body during the delivery process other than just
giving birth.
Speaker 8 (07:55):
Yeah, and it's a very intimate time. And so if
you wants to go ahead, get naked.
Speaker 10 (08:02):
And poop in front of her parents.
Speaker 4 (08:05):
Over and over and over and over and over again.
Oh my god, we're over again.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
I didn't.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
I did not know that that's the case. That's crazy.
I hope you call your bluff, Christina, what's up.
Speaker 9 (08:19):
I agree that it depends on the comfortability with the
mother in law or anything else. But it's a very
vulnerable state for so it's not that the guy's feelings
or wanting.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
His mother doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
It should.
Speaker 9 (08:35):
Our feelings should matter more at that point.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
It should get and it should be Honestly, it should
be a moment I think between the dad and the
mom where they get to like experience it together. But
I will tell you there is no relationship that sometimes
is stronger than the relationship of the birthing mother and
the mother. So I think sometimes their mothers want to
be there to help them go through it.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
Here's the thing this, let's compromise here.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Yeah, if we want to put on my pants and
I got a dodo in front of your parents, let's
do this then, right, since you want your mom in
the delivery room for that beautiful moment. Next time we
bake cookies and I put a baby in you, I
want my mom in there. How about that? Is that okay,
that's kind of kinky.
Speaker 4 (09:12):
Do you think her mom should be at your vasectomy?
Speaker 1 (09:15):
I'm not getting a.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Yeah, but you know what I mean, Like, I'm just
saying to be there and like, watch you get a vasectomy.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
I'm not getting one. I can't ask what what what? Wait?
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Real quick, hypothetically, what if she says, Okay, your mom
can be in the room when you guys can.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
See that child, here's your chair. Yeah, O, God to
listen to you.
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