February 27, 2025 • 41 mins
This week Dr. Jaz helps Krista to begin writing her self help book! It's been a passion of Krista's to help other young ladies who have experienced sexual assault. This is a journey that Krista wants to share with others who have gone through trauma and to teach others on how to heal. "Trauma does not have to own you" Krista states. We can live a happy and prosperous life living with the effects of trauma and our mental health. The number one step is to have a voice. We welcome you to take this journey with the ladies and to hopefully not only inspire you to heal, but to perhaps write your own book someday. Everyone has a story.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is the Mad to Own Mom Squad podcast, a
production of iHeartRadio. Hard working real mamas having real conversations.
Now sit back, relax, and get ready to talk mom
life with Christa and her squad.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Well, I have the gorgeous and amazing doctor Jazz back
in studio. And Jazz, I know, the last time you
and I were together, I kind of made a bet
with you. Actually, you made the bet with me that
I had to stick with what I said to you
on air.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
Yes, were you want to interview about my book? One
of my books? And then we were talking about let's
get your book done, Krista. Okay, girl, you're gonna do it.
I said, don't play with me. I'll interview you live,
We'll write your whole book. And so now here we
are today, I know, are you still up for it?
Speaker 4 (00:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Yeah, I have no idea whatsoever what I'm doing, and
I don't think I'm alone on this, but I do
believe there's a lot of people out there, beautiful moms
dads in general, that everyone has a story.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Yes, you know, h it's how do you share it exactly?
And that's what's so powerful. This is something that I've
been doing almost a decade not only writing my own books,
but as I've been writing books and speaking and touring
and doing all kinds of great things, people have been
asking me over and over, doctor Jazz, how do we
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write our own book? So that's why I started coaching
people and developing a system to quickly and easily transform
your life story into a book that can impact other people,
increase your influence, your impact, and your income.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
And so oh yeah, bring when you.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Said you want to write a book, Christa, don't play
with me.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
I know I'm not playing with you girls.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Okay, well this is going to be so exciting. We're
going to do it over the next couple sessions. But
before we can get started writing your book, the number
one secret is to begin with the end in mind.
The end, the end in mind, And what I mean
by that is I want you to envision, like what
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big doors and opportunities do you want to open up
as a result of this book. Who do you want
to reach? And like what is your deeper reason for
even wanting to write this book? So just take a
big step back and tell me a little bit about
like a little bit more about this book and what
doors and opportunities you would want to open up.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Well, the focus for me would be on the mental
health aspect, but gaining your power back because again at
a young age, when I was ten, that was when
I was first sexually assaulted. And that's what you lose
is your power and who you are. But again I
was an innocent child and then growing up, you know,
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being in other situations of.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Sexual assault, having that.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Power of being taken away from me, and then you know,
having that trigger mental health issues that I've had that
I've struggled right throughout my life, but gaining help with
therapeans and things like that. So it's my way of
wanting to share with women and boys too, and men
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too because it happens to them as well, is that
you can live a happy, successful, prosperous life with mental health.
But again it's it's learning how to heal. And I
say this, the strongest people I know get up every
single day with mental health.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
So it's just.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
It's just you know, created who I am today.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Mmm. I love that. Yeah, I love that. And another
thing that's very important to do the next thing is
to be very crystal clear on who it is that
you're going to serve, what problems you're going to help
them solve. I do this to all my students. I
make them say out loud, my book is the solution.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
Say that my book is a solution.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
And my book solves a problem, and my book solves
a problem exactly. So you have to be crystal clear
on what problem your book solves and who exactly you're
doing this for. So one activity that I love to
do and even for all of our listeners who want
to write a book, and I want you to do
this too. It's a visualization exercise where you close your eyes,
or if you don't feel comfortable closing your eyes, you
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just kind of look off to the wall or something.
But I want you to envision a door in front
of you and you're holding your book in your hand.
Your book is finally out, and as a result of
this book coming out, this door in front of you
starts to slowly open and there's a bright light flashing
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from that door. You walk through the door, and when
you walk through, there's someone sitting at a table facing
you with tears in their eyes and they're saying, thank you,
thank you, Krista for finally writing this book. I have
been waiting for you for years to get this book out.
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I'm going through right now the very thing that you
have overcome. I've been waiting for you to get this book.
Thank you so much, and you sit down. You hand
them the book. They're so excited. They flip through the pages.
They have a smile on their face, and then they
say to you, please, can you share with us what
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are the top lessons that you can teach me? What
are some tips, what are some words of wisdom or advice?
I only have about twenty minutes with you. Can you
please just share from your heart? How did you make
it through? What are things that I should do too?
I only have twenty minutes and then I have to go.
And then for the next twenty minutes, you just sit
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there and you don't need any book or any instructions
or any notes at all. You just start to pour
from your heart and share with them the different lessons
that you have learned about this topic, how you were
able to overcome. You just pour it out from your heart.
And then at the end they give you a big
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hug and they say thank you, and they are clinging
to your book and they go on their way.
Speaker 4 (06:28):
It's interesting.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
I feel that I'm looking at myself when I was
a little girl walking through those doors and seeing who
I am today. But it's us together being able to
come together, to hold each other and tell each other
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that it's okay and that we have each other, and
that we're always going to protect each other, and that
I as an adult, will never leave her side and
she will never leave my side. Wow.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
I love that soul really, So what I get out
of that is that one of the people that you
see that you're meant to and this just confirms it.
You're meant to speak to that little ten year old
girl inside of even others that needs healing, like letting
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that little almost like if you could go back in
time and talk to yourself right after that first assault
that you said happened that you when you were ten
and give and have a conversation with that little girl
about strategies for her to heal, still be successful, live
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a prosperous life, if you were to share with her,
like from what you know now, pour into her life,
Like I hear, are you saying that that is someone
that you would want to help, not just yourself, but
like that ten year old girl, Yes, so many other people.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Not until two years ago was I able to finally
heal from all of my traumas, you know, because there
was I want to say, seven seven assaults so that
includes sexual assaults, that includes muggings and physical assault. So
not until I, you know, received edm R trauma therapy
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was I finally able. So that was very new to me.
But I lived if you you know, I'm forty seven, Yeah,
my life. Yeah. Not being able to close that and forgiveness, right,
that was a big thing that I learned, learning to
forgive myself because I was a child.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
Wow. Yeah, well, thank you. This is really great because
this is helping to shape your outline. Okay, so just
to recap so far. When you're writing a book, the
number one thing, begin with the end in mind. Understand
like what doors and opportunities do you want to open up?
I've heard you say you want to speak, you wanna
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talk to other people about your story. Begin with the
big picture in mind. And also get crystal clear on
who it is that you serve and what problem you
help solve. And you just did that. I feel like
we're crystal clear on the types of people that you're
gonna be helping. And then After that, the next secret
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is to create a purpose driven outline, and what that
is is simply sharing seven strategies or steps or action
steps the reader can do in order to get the
transformation you said you're gonna help them with. You said
your help your book helped solve a problem. So you said,
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your book is gonna help people in life who have experience,
who have mental health concerns, or who have experienced trauma,
learn how to heal and know that they can still
be successful and live a prosperous life.
Speaker 4 (10:13):
Correct.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Correct, they're struggling with that, and you're gonna help them.
That's the problem you solve. So in order to create
your seven chapter outline, your purpose driven outline, you simply say,
what are seven action steps a person can do in
order to reach that goal.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
I know the first one because again this will but
this is how.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
I grew up.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
We didn't talk about our feelings. The number one thing
I would talk about is sharing your feelings. How important
it is to share your feelings.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
I love that, I love that. Okay, okay, okay, what
else if you okay, let's go back through that door.
When you were sitting during that visualization exercise and you
were pouring out from your heart. Let's say they asked
you that exact question. Please, I just got Let's say
they I just got assaulted. I am still actively working
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to heal. I don't know if I can have a
prosperous life. It feels like my whole life is crashing down. Krista,
can you just give me any advice? I okay? The
first thing is share your feelings? What else? What other
big picture things would you say that they should do? What?
Speaker 4 (11:26):
What helped you self worth? Because I think you lose that.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
M wow, So remember your self worth? Okay? What else?
So share your feelings, remember your self worth?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Learning tools, tools, how to heal.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
You know, like know your tools? Learning tools?
Speaker 2 (11:55):
I mean not until I started therapy did I learn?
Speaker 3 (11:59):
You know?
Speaker 2 (11:59):
So what maybe what type of tools helped me, you know,
get through that? Yes, because not all therapy is the same.
Some is very specific driven. A big thing is also
learning how to give yourself grace? Yes?
Speaker 3 (12:17):
Right, yeah? I love that. Oh you said something earlier
about you know you're know you're not alone. When you
said you wanted to that idea to embrace the child
in person like you're not you said something like you're
gonna be Okay, you're not alone.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
I'm here for you, and she's here for for me,
because right, you always live with that child and you yeah,
and right, And then you know, I could have I
could have gotten two different ways in my life, right,
and I have and I have taken the dark.
Speaker 4 (12:48):
I have taken the dark side to giving up. But
then I learned the tools.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
That's not until you know, I learned, you know, how
to talk about my feelings, but how to be successful,
how to finally how to finally let those things go
and not have it own you anymore, because it it
can own you forever, your mind, your body, your soul.
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It's learning how to let go and then learning how
to protect yourself. Oh. I love that, right, because no
matter what, no matter who it is, we're still gonna enter,
We're still going to be crossing paths with people that
are not good for us in our life.
Speaker 4 (13:32):
It doesn't have to be a sexual assault. It could
be a toxic person.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Ooh, I love that about the piece. Yeah, Okay, this
is good, this is good. I'm taking some really good notes. Okay,
and then what would be like any less advice? You've
said some really good ones so far. Anything else. Like,
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let's say if you somebody was right in front of
you right now that literally was going through the exact
thing that you've been through, what would be your last thing?
Like if if there's only one last thing that I
can share with you, here would be like the last
thing make sure to do.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
I've got you.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Oh yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
Okay, So maybe outlets, you know a lot of people
don't know where to go.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Perhaps this is so I'm getting I'm on in my brain.
We're on tour, were speaking with this book. You are
healing so many people. Okay, so take a deep breath.
Take a deep breath.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
Oh you're trying to say this tour, it was Karina.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Yes, take the breathing breath because it is getting hot
in here. You're doing so good and it's and it's
keep your clothes on the radio station. But this is
another point for our listeners. If you are out here
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writing your book and this is exciting you, listen our listeners,
and Mama's out there. You can be writing your book
right alongside of us as we're going through this, going
through these same steps. But one thing that this reminded
me of, make sure to take care of yourself during
this book writing process. And the reason is because when
you start to open up about your own past traumas,
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the things that you've gone through, it can trigger things absolutely,
And that's why I said, yeah, let's take the breath. Yea,
let's take the breath. The beautiful thing about writing a book.
And I've worked with now over two hundred authors from
across the country where they've been under my personal coaching
to write and self publish their books. Many of them
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say that this process is just in and of itself,
a healing process for them.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
I could see that absolutely, and the reason.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
One of the reasons is because so many times in
life other people have taken control. It felt like you
didn't have control of the things that happened to you.
But now that you're writing this book, guess who is
writing the narrative. Guess who is reshaping it. It doesn't
just end with the pain that you went through. You're
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going to be sharing encouragement for other people. You're sharing
how the story ended. You are in control, You're rewriting
your narrative.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
I love it, Oh yes, I do, I do, yes, yeah, yeah, no,
I think that's wonderful. And I you know, and just
for me to be able to have this platform, you know,
for me to have fallen into this career, that's the
most important thing for me is to be able to
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is to help others. Entertaining is great, it's fun, but
it's what can I do to help? And that's a
really huge passion of mine, Jazz. Yes, I don't want
any of body to go through right what I went through,
but a lot a lot of people have gone through much,
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much worse than me.
Speaker 4 (17:11):
So I don't know.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
It's just but you're you, the fact that you have
all these these skills of brightening people's lives. Every every
day you're on the radio and people hear your voice.
When I would be driving before this, like before I
would even know you, and like I would hear your
voice on the radio, I just get happy. I don't
even know what you're talking about. I'm just like, oh,
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Chris Son, I just feel good. I don't even know
what you're talking about.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
What's that crazy ginger talking about to me?
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Yeah, because you bring so much and you have the
gift of communication, you have the gift of storytelling, and
so even though you're like other people have been through
worse than me. Don't let that like downplay the powerful
story you have and the powerful way that you're going
to impact people's lives because of your platform, because of
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your skills. You're in the field of communication. That's wonderful.
If you have a great story and things you've been through,
it's not gonna help anybody else if you just bottle it.
In the fact, like, the way to impact people is
to share it, and you have those skills already. We
just got to get this book. Okay.
Speaker 4 (18:19):
Oh, she did the snaps.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Okay, I did. I did the snaps. We gotta just
get out of this book, all right. So are you
ready to hear your seven chapter purpose driven outline? We
just wrote the whole outline for your book. I hope
you know.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
I did not know the last couple of minutes. Okay,
but yes, you have your entire seven chapters done. Are
you ready?
Speaker 4 (18:40):
Did you come from?
Speaker 3 (18:41):
Where did you come from?
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Jack?
Speaker 4 (18:43):
She shouldn't unbelievable? I know you did, Okay, I'm ready?
Speaker 3 (18:49):
All right, Okay, So these are your seven chapters. Now,
It's very important to understand when you're writing the seven
chapters of your book, every chapter or must start with
an action.
Speaker 4 (19:01):
Word, oh okay, or a verb an action word.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
And the reason for that is we want, as people
read your book, it's not just a memoir of like
from start to finish, an autobiography of your life, where
you're gonna just be saying, blow by blow, what happened
to you? The book that we help our authors create
our self help books, and what that means is it's
not focused on just you. The main focus is your
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reader because remember your book is solving a problem. Yes,
so when you start each chapter with an action word,
it's focusing on the actions the reader can take to
have a transformation because ultimately that's what your book is
helping to do. It's not focused just on what happened
to me, what happened to me, but it's focused on
how can I use my life and my encouraging words
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and the lessons that I've learned to pour into you
the reader.
Speaker 4 (19:53):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (19:53):
So that's why each one has to start with the
action word. Okay, So let's say that your book is
tied up old, I'm just we're gonna revisit what the
title is, but this is just our placeholder title for
now gaining or gaining your Power Back. Seven strategies for
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women who have experienced trauma to heal and know that
they can still be happy, successful, and prosperous in life.
By what's what's your author name?
Speaker 4 (20:26):
Going to be my author name?
Speaker 3 (20:28):
Yeah, just christ the Christa like Christa the entertainer or
I don't know what, just gonna be your first and
last name. What's your author?
Speaker 4 (20:37):
Yeah, don't be on the breath, probably yeah. Krista Hatcher
Kristal Hatcher.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
So gain your Power Back. Seven strategies for women who
have experienced trauma to heal and know that they can
still live a happy, successful and prosperous life by Krista Hatcher.
And I can see you on the front cover with
your on your hip, looking fierce and fabulous. We'll come
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back to talk about the CoA. But that's like the vision, okay,
So now we flip. Oh okay, that's oh, this is
a good book. I see it. I see it. You
flip to the table of contents. Chapter one, Activate your
Healing Tools, And that's gonna chapter We're gonna talk about
like the tools that you mentioned on a therapy sharing
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your feelings. So that's chapter one, Activate your Healing Tools
Chapter two is forgive yourself, Yes, and we're gonna go
into that all about that. Chapter three is protect your piece, Yes,
and we're in that chapter we're gonna talk about getting
toxic people out your life strategy to protect your piece.
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Chapter four is remember your self worth. Chapter five is
give yourself grace. Chapter six is learn to let go
and don't let it own you.
Speaker 4 (21:59):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
And then chapter seven is no, you aren't alone. I've
got you.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
Yeah. Cool.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
I don't know how I need a high five. Give
me a high five? Okay, high five? Oh my gosh,
what do we do? How do you feel? How do
you feel?
Speaker 1 (22:14):
Very?
Speaker 2 (22:14):
First, uh, honored that you are going to take this
journey with me, and uh excited excited you know it's
something I've always wondered, like, I'm gonna get emotional. Yeah, yeah,
I'm yeah, Yeah, I'm very excited.
Speaker 3 (22:31):
Yes, Oh my gosh, exciting. So woo. So yeah, that's
your and you did it. You did the work. This
is not me, This is your story. These are your chapters.
I just helped kind of pull it out of you.
But this is you. You came up with these topics
because we were we begin with the end in mind.
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You did that visualization exercise to get crystal clear on
like who you want to serve and what you would
pour out of your heart and say to them and
then out of your heart, these were the seven things.
These are the seven steps. This is your seven step
framework for helping women who've experienced trauma be able to
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get back up again, heal, thrive, and be prosperous.
Speaker 4 (23:15):
These are the suv and then and then you're gonna
write this for me?
Speaker 3 (23:19):
Yeah, oh, I still got We still got a couple
of minutes left on this episode. We're not done yet. Okay,
we're gonna be dying. I'm not right. I don't know
how to write a book. Okay, Well, lucky for you,
they got doctor Jazz in your life, and I have
created a framework called the Triple P Method, ok to
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write your chapters quickly and easily. Okay, Okay, so don't worry,
I got you. Okay. What we're gonna do is in
our closing minutes of the episode, we're actually gonna get
started with chapter one. Chapter one is called Activate your
Healing Tools. Okay, okay, and all you have to do
is answer some question. We're gonna get started on chapter
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one now, the triple P method that I have created
and we've used to help hundreds of authors nationwide get
their books done easily and quickly. It's called the triple
P method. The first P stands for provide education, and
what that means is for every one of these chapters,
we're going to just give a little bit of background information.
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And then the second piece stands for personalized. You want
to actually tell a personal story. This is what makes
your book unique. Nobody else. I don't care how many
people wrote a book on mental health. Nobody has your story.
So you have to insert insert in this personalized part
a little bit of a personal story related to that topic.
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And then the last piece stands for empower. Yeah okay, okay,
empower or provide provide tools for the reader or empower.
So that's the third P, empower, And what that is
is instead of ending with just your story, Remember our
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book is focused on helping and empowering other people. So
you shifting the like if it's like a movie, we're
shifting the spotlight from you. You you to like them,
and what you always end with empowerment. If you're somebody
who's struggling with what I did, here's some practical tools
that you can use right now, don't give up, stay encouraged.
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You're always ending each chapter with giving something to your reader.
And that's what makes these books different than a memoir.
A memoir or an autobiography just kind of from starts
to finish, what was your life? We're rewriting our story.
We're taking our power back. We're taking what try to
kill us and destroy us to help somebody else, and
it can literally save a life, Chris. So that's why
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you really have to get this book out, because there's
many people who have experienced what you did and they
don't have the same outcomes of you.
Speaker 4 (25:59):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely, and.
Speaker 3 (26:01):
Not even me and you. Just a little while ago,
we're talking about people who died from suicide.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
Absolutely so absolutely.
Speaker 3 (26:09):
Okay, So let's just get started. We're gonna get a
sneak peak for chapter one. Are you ready, Krista, All
you have to do let me do my magic of
let me just interview you.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
I wish you right now.
Speaker 4 (26:21):
She's like glowing sheet the big I've.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
Been waiting for this moment. You should have told me
to wrecte your but I okay, So all you have
to do is answer my questions and speak from your heart. Okay,
so you told me Christa that on someone's journey to healing,
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living a prosperous life, knowing that they can still be
happy and successful even after trauma, you said, one of
the first tools is to activate or one of the
first steps is to activate their healing tools. Active their tools,
understand what tools they have. Just in general, can you
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tell me what do you mean by that? What do
you mean by healing tools? What do you mean by tools?
Just in general?
Speaker 2 (27:12):
Being vocal, because if you're not vocal, you are not
releasing anything that's inside of you. So I think first
acknowledging to yourself, especially if for you know, if we're
talking specifically about sexual assault, it is not your fault,
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number one, So we got to get that out of
your head. I think a lot of times that we self,
you know, destroy our inner, ourselves because you end up
not liking yourself. So being vocal is very very important.
I think that's the first thing. If I would have
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been vocal as a child, you know, things that would
have been different maybe.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
But you're saying like your voice is a tool.
Speaker 4 (28:05):
Yes, which is interesting.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
What I do for a living now, how I just
thought of that.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Yeah, but no, I think, yeah, being vocal.
Speaker 3 (28:14):
And that's why it's so important. It's so important because
if you if what happens if you don't? I guess
my question is, why is it so important to be vocal?
What will happen if you're not? Tell me more about that.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
If you're not well, if you're not you you keep that,
you keep that inside you, and it ends up owning you.
And you know, and for me, I didn't like myself
anxiety depression.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Okay, so tell me if I would have.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Gotten help at an earlier age, if I would have
spoken up, maybe you know, my life would have been different,
got it right, and and it would have helped me
through my other.
Speaker 4 (28:55):
One assaults that I've had.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
Got it?
Speaker 4 (28:59):
Loving yourself? I mean, I think that's super important.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
I love that. I don't know, That's exactly what I
was asking. It's important to give me a little bit
of background of just like, why if I've been going
through this, why should I take the time to you know,
activate my tools.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
Suffering in silence is the worst thing you can do
to yourself.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
I think, yeah, Okay, now now I want you to
get a little more personal. I know you've mentioned therapy
a lot and things like that, get a little bit
more personal. When you decided to share your feelings, activate
your voice as a tool. Tell me the first time
you kind of use that power using your voice as
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a tool. Tell me about like.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Actually, well, the first time I ever spoke spoke about
anything was when I attempted suicide in college.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
Can you are you comfortable to tell me?
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Yeah, I've been yeah, so so yeah, so I've always
had an issue with abandonment.
Speaker 4 (30:06):
And then again self love.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
I don't know if the things that I had gone
through in my life with men trying to take from me,
which that's what happens, They take a part of you
away when you're assaulted.
Speaker 4 (30:26):
That I that I just want. One day, lit a
candle and said I'm done with the pain. I can't,
I can't, I can't take it anymore.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
And and so yeah, so and then I woke up
the next day and my roommates found me and they
brought me today, I see you, and the doctor said,
if you would have waited two more hours, you probably
wouldn't have made it. And then you know, I decided
to put myself in a sech word. It was the
best daying decision I'd ever made, because why once again,
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it's the first time I was ever able to talk
about my fe and talk about what I went through
that hoping that opened such a big doorway for me.
Speaker 4 (31:10):
Yeah, and I'm not ashamed of it.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
No, I think I think a lot of people would
be ashamed of it, you know, to talk about something
like that.
Speaker 4 (31:17):
But it was, you know, kind of a gift I
gave to myself.
Speaker 3 (31:24):
Yeah, oh wow, I love that. No, that that's true
and just just for my understanding, and I'm thank you
again for open up about this. When you say you
lit a candle, you were trying to how what was
the mechanism you were.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
That l Again there's yeah, there's more story behind that,
but you know ours like were you trying to like, oh, yes,
I overdosed.
Speaker 3 (31:50):
Thank you, That's what I was trying to connect. Oh
did you try to light the room?
Speaker 1 (31:53):
No?
Speaker 3 (31:54):
No, no, no, no, no no, And then well okay, okay, yeah,
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
For some for some reason, it was like very symbolic
for me to like focus on that candle and then
once I you know, blew it out, that that was it.
Speaker 3 (32:06):
The pain And then thank you that's the part that
I us. Okay, thank you, this is just yeah, yeah, yeah, okay.
I love you. Thank you for sharing that. And I'm
so happy that you put yourself first and you you
use your voice. And that was your first at the
psych word. Was your first experience with the therapist. I
know later on and you'll probably talk about it more
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in the book of like other therapists you've had in life,
but that was your first time connecting with a therapist, yes,
at the psyche word. Okay. And finally, just to wrap
it up, what just if there's somebody right now who's like,
I've been assaulted, I'm I'm feeling the way that you
felt that night you lit the candle and took the pills.
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I'm feeling that like that right now and I'm not
talking to anyone. My voice is not being used as
a tool. What exact advice would you give to that
person right now?
Speaker 4 (32:59):
Call me, m message me, okay, absolutely?
Speaker 3 (33:05):
What else would you.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
Reach out to someone? Reach out to your best friend.
Speaker 2 (33:11):
I think it's so important for parents, and I try
to stress this to my daughter. Open communication is everything
with your child. If you don't have that, you do
not know what is going on in our kiddo's heads,
and especially with that the crisis that we have.
Speaker 4 (33:27):
So I'm so I remind my daughter all the time.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
Please, if you're ever going through something, please make sure
you talk to me. And you know, and so I
try to I try to break that cycle from what
I grew up, you know, keeping everything in not doing that,
you know, as she's a child, I want her to
open up about her feelings.
Speaker 3 (33:50):
So got it? Okay? Okay, okay, So congratulations, just wrote
your first chapter. Okay, and we're ending, and we're gonna
end with giving them a sneak peek of the chapter.
Are you ready to hear it?
Speaker 4 (34:04):
Yes, ma'am?
Speaker 3 (34:05):
Yeah, are you ready to hear it? This is great?
This is great, And so I'm gonna be talking out
your chapter. You could use this triple P method to
either type it out or talk it out. I like
talking out the chapters because it's just easier to type
it out and then you can get it transcribed into
writing later. Okay, Okay, so just know that this is
(34:25):
your chapter. I'm gonna talk it out. But if you
wanted to, another strategy to write a book is to
type it out. But we're using the strategy of talking
it out. Okay, okay, so just listen and then we're
gonna close. After I read your chapter, I'm gonna hand
it over you to wrap.
Speaker 4 (34:39):
Up this episode so I can get on the radio.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
Okay, all right, all right, all right, okay. So this
chapter is chapter one CHRISTA. Hatcher's book, and chapter one
is called Activate your Healing Tools. Dear reader, I am
so excited that you have taken the time to read
this book. On your journey to healing and living a
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prosperous life and being happy and successful even after trauma.
One of the first critical steps that you must take
is to activate your healing tools. One of the most
important tools that you need to activate is something you
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have right inside of you, which is your voice. It's
so important to get the pain and the trauma that
you are feeling out of your head and heart into
the atmosphere and speak about the things that you've been
going through. If you don't activate this powerful tool, which
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is your voice, it can start to own you and
destroy your inner self. Suffering in silence is the worst
thing that you can do. It can lead to anxiety,
it can lead to depression. This is a tool that
I wish I would have activated even earlier in my life,
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and it would have helped me to avoid many of
the things that I've been through. Activating your voice is
so incredibly important because it will help you get one
step closer to healing and living a prosperous life. I
now like to share with you a personal story about
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a time in my life that I had to activate
this tool. I'll never forget. Back when I was in college,
the pain and hurt and overwhelm and torment from the
prior sexual and physical assaults that I had experienced in
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my life, dating even back to age ten, had become
so painful that I couldn't take it anymore. There had
been so many men that had taken so much from
me in my sexual assaults, where it felt like pieces
of me were actually gone. I'll never forget one night
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I lit a candle and decided tonight was going to
be my last night on this earth because I was
done with the pain. The next thing I did was
I took some pain pills, and the next thing I
remember is waking up in the ICU. The doctor said,
if my friends would have found me just two hours later,
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I would not be here. Anymore. At that time, I
made a critical decision and I decided to put myself
in the psych word. That was the first time in
my life I was able to finally open up and
talk about everything that had happened to me. I was
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finally able to activate the healing tool of using my voice.
That was a huge door that opened up for me
in that moment, and it was the first critical step
in my healing journey. For those of you who are
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reading this book, I'd like to conclude this chapter by
speaking directly to you. If you are someone who is
experiencing trauma and have not yet activated the tool of
using your voice, you can call me. I'll include my
contact information at the end of this book so you
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know that you're not alone. Also, another piece of advice
is to reach out to someone, even if it's your
friends or family. Reach out to someone, use your voice,
speak up about what happened, don't hold your emotions in.
You might even reach out to a professional. I love
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the psychologist that I have, the professional that I have
that helps me talk through my feelings, and that is
something that has tremendously changed your that has tremendously changed
my life. It's the best gift that I was able
to give myself. I also want to speak to any
parents reading this book and let you know how important
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it is to have open communication with your children. I
always talk to my daughter about if anything is going
on in your life. Please know that I'm someone here
just to listen. Parents. That goes a powerful way, and overall,
just remember on your journey toward healing and living a
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prosperous and happy life even after trauma. The first critical
step to is to activate your healing tools. And the
first most important tool is your voice. Use it.
Speaker 4 (40:10):
Love love. That's amazing.
Speaker 3 (40:17):
All right, this is just getting too good.
Speaker 2 (40:21):
All right again, We're just gonna continue like writing this
book live.
Speaker 3 (40:26):
Yeah. Is that the next chapter? Girl? Forgive yourself. So
I'm gonna be asking you some questions.
Speaker 4 (40:31):
Okay, Okay, We're gonna talk about that next.
Speaker 2 (40:35):
I love you, Thank you for taking this journey with me.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
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Speaker 2 (00:15):
Well, I have the gorgeous and amazing doctor Jazz back
in studio. And Jazz, I know, the last time you
and I were together, I kind of made a bet
with you. Actually, you made the bet with me that
I had to stick with what I said to you
on air.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
Yes, were you want to interview about my book? One
of my books? And then we were talking about let's
get your book done, Krista. Okay, girl, you're gonna do it.
I said, don't play with me. I'll interview you live,
We'll write your whole book. And so now here we
are today, I know, are you still up for it?
Speaker 4 (00:49):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Yeah, I have no idea whatsoever what I'm doing, and
I don't think I'm alone on this, but I do
believe there's a lot of people out there, beautiful moms
dads in general, that everyone has a story.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
Yes, you know, h it's how do you share it exactly?
And that's what's so powerful. This is something that I've
been doing almost a decade not only writing my own books,
but as I've been writing books and speaking and touring
and doing all kinds of great things, people have been
asking me over and over, doctor Jazz, how do we
(01:27):
write our own book? So that's why I started coaching
people and developing a system to quickly and easily transform
your life story into a book that can impact other people,
increase your influence, your impact, and your income.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
And so oh yeah, bring when you.
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Said you want to write a book, Christa, don't play
with me.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
I know I'm not playing with you girls.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Okay, well this is going to be so exciting. We're
going to do it over the next couple sessions. But
before we can get started writing your book, the number
one secret is to begin with the end in mind.
The end, the end in mind, And what I mean
by that is I want you to envision, like what
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big doors and opportunities do you want to open up
as a result of this book. Who do you want
to reach? And like what is your deeper reason for
even wanting to write this book? So just take a
big step back and tell me a little bit about
like a little bit more about this book and what
doors and opportunities you would want to open up.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Well, the focus for me would be on the mental
health aspect, but gaining your power back because again at
a young age, when I was ten, that was when
I was first sexually assaulted. And that's what you lose
is your power and who you are. But again I
was an innocent child and then growing up, you know,
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being in other situations of.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Sexual assault, having that.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Power of being taken away from me, and then you know,
having that trigger mental health issues that I've had that
I've struggled right throughout my life, but gaining help with
therapeans and things like that. So it's my way of
wanting to share with women and boys too, and men
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too because it happens to them as well, is that
you can live a happy, successful, prosperous life with mental health.
But again it's it's learning how to heal. And I
say this, the strongest people I know get up every
single day with mental health.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
So it's just.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
It's just you know, created who I am today.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Mmm. I love that. Yeah, I love that. And another
thing that's very important to do the next thing is
to be very crystal clear on who it is that
you're going to serve, what problems you're going to help
them solve. I do this to all my students. I
make them say out loud, my book is the solution.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
Say that my book is a solution.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
And my book solves a problem, and my book solves
a problem exactly. So you have to be crystal clear
on what problem your book solves and who exactly you're
doing this for. So one activity that I love to
do and even for all of our listeners who want
to write a book, and I want you to do
this too. It's a visualization exercise where you close your eyes,
or if you don't feel comfortable closing your eyes, you
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just kind of look off to the wall or something.
But I want you to envision a door in front
of you and you're holding your book in your hand.
Your book is finally out, and as a result of
this book coming out, this door in front of you
starts to slowly open and there's a bright light flashing
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from that door. You walk through the door, and when
you walk through, there's someone sitting at a table facing
you with tears in their eyes and they're saying, thank you,
thank you, Krista for finally writing this book. I have
been waiting for you for years to get this book out.
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I'm going through right now the very thing that you
have overcome. I've been waiting for you to get this book.
Thank you so much, and you sit down. You hand
them the book. They're so excited. They flip through the pages.
They have a smile on their face, and then they
say to you, please, can you share with us what
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are the top lessons that you can teach me? What
are some tips, what are some words of wisdom or advice?
I only have about twenty minutes with you. Can you
please just share from your heart? How did you make
it through? What are things that I should do too?
I only have twenty minutes and then I have to go.
And then for the next twenty minutes, you just sit
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there and you don't need any book or any instructions
or any notes at all. You just start to pour
from your heart and share with them the different lessons
that you have learned about this topic, how you were
able to overcome. You just pour it out from your heart.
And then at the end they give you a big
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hug and they say thank you, and they are clinging
to your book and they go on their way.
Speaker 4 (06:28):
It's interesting.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
I feel that I'm looking at myself when I was
a little girl walking through those doors and seeing who
I am today. But it's us together being able to
come together, to hold each other and tell each other
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that it's okay and that we have each other, and
that we're always going to protect each other, and that
I as an adult, will never leave her side and
she will never leave my side. Wow.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
I love that soul really, So what I get out
of that is that one of the people that you
see that you're meant to and this just confirms it.
You're meant to speak to that little ten year old
girl inside of even others that needs healing, like letting
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that little almost like if you could go back in
time and talk to yourself right after that first assault
that you said happened that you when you were ten
and give and have a conversation with that little girl
about strategies for her to heal, still be successful, live
(07:53):
a prosperous life, if you were to share with her,
like from what you know now, pour into her life,
Like I hear, are you saying that that is someone
that you would want to help, not just yourself, but
like that ten year old girl, Yes, so many other people.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Not until two years ago was I able to finally
heal from all of my traumas, you know, because there
was I want to say, seven seven assaults so that
includes sexual assaults, that includes muggings and physical assault. So
not until I, you know, received edm R trauma therapy
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was I finally able. So that was very new to me.
But I lived if you you know, I'm forty seven, Yeah,
my life. Yeah. Not being able to close that and forgiveness, right,
that was a big thing that I learned, learning to
forgive myself because I was a child.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
Wow. Yeah, well, thank you. This is really great because
this is helping to shape your outline. Okay, so just
to recap so far. When you're writing a book, the
number one thing, begin with the end in mind. Understand
like what doors and opportunities do you want to open up?
I've heard you say you want to speak, you wanna
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talk to other people about your story. Begin with the
big picture in mind. And also get crystal clear on
who it is that you serve and what problem you
help solve. And you just did that. I feel like
we're crystal clear on the types of people that you're
gonna be helping. And then After that, the next secret
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is to create a purpose driven outline, and what that
is is simply sharing seven strategies or steps or action
steps the reader can do in order to get the
transformation you said you're gonna help them with. You said
your help your book helped solve a problem. So you said,
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your book is gonna help people in life who have experience,
who have mental health concerns, or who have experienced trauma,
learn how to heal and know that they can still
be successful and live a prosperous life.
Speaker 4 (10:13):
Correct.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Correct, they're struggling with that, and you're gonna help them.
That's the problem you solve. So in order to create
your seven chapter outline, your purpose driven outline, you simply say,
what are seven action steps a person can do in
order to reach that goal.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
I know the first one because again this will but
this is how.
Speaker 4 (10:36):
I grew up.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
We didn't talk about our feelings. The number one thing
I would talk about is sharing your feelings. How important
it is to share your feelings.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
I love that, I love that. Okay, okay, okay, what
else if you okay, let's go back through that door.
When you were sitting during that visualization exercise and you
were pouring out from your heart. Let's say they asked
you that exact question. Please, I just got Let's say
they I just got assaulted. I am still actively working
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to heal. I don't know if I can have a
prosperous life. It feels like my whole life is crashing down. Krista,
can you just give me any advice? I okay? The
first thing is share your feelings? What else? What other
big picture things would you say that they should do? What?
Speaker 4 (11:26):
What helped you self worth? Because I think you lose that.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
M wow, So remember your self worth? Okay? What else?
So share your feelings, remember your self worth?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Learning tools, tools, how to heal.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
You know, like know your tools? Learning tools?
Speaker 2 (11:55):
I mean not until I started therapy did I learn?
Speaker 3 (11:59):
You know?
Speaker 2 (11:59):
So what maybe what type of tools helped me, you know,
get through that? Yes, because not all therapy is the same.
Some is very specific driven. A big thing is also
learning how to give yourself grace? Yes?
Speaker 3 (12:17):
Right, yeah? I love that. Oh you said something earlier
about you know you're know you're not alone. When you
said you wanted to that idea to embrace the child
in person like you're not you said something like you're
gonna be Okay, you're not alone.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
I'm here for you, and she's here for for me,
because right, you always live with that child and you yeah,
and right, And then you know, I could have I
could have gotten two different ways in my life, right,
and I have and I have taken the dark.
Speaker 4 (12:48):
I have taken the dark side to giving up. But
then I learned the tools.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
That's not until you know, I learned, you know, how
to talk about my feelings, but how to be successful,
how to finally how to finally let those things go
and not have it own you anymore, because it it
can own you forever, your mind, your body, your soul.
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It's learning how to let go and then learning how
to protect yourself. Oh. I love that, right, because no
matter what, no matter who it is, we're still gonna enter,
We're still going to be crossing paths with people that
are not good for us in our life.
Speaker 4 (13:32):
It doesn't have to be a sexual assault. It could
be a toxic person.
Speaker 3 (13:39):
Ooh, I love that about the piece. Yeah, Okay, this
is good, this is good. I'm taking some really good notes. Okay,
and then what would be like any less advice? You've
said some really good ones so far. Anything else. Like,
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let's say if you somebody was right in front of
you right now that literally was going through the exact
thing that you've been through, what would be your last thing?
Like if if there's only one last thing that I
can share with you, here would be like the last
thing make sure to do.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
I've got you.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Oh yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
Okay, So maybe outlets, you know a lot of people
don't know where to go.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Perhaps this is so I'm getting I'm on in my brain.
We're on tour, were speaking with this book. You are
healing so many people. Okay, so take a deep breath.
Take a deep breath.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
Oh you're trying to say this tour, it was Karina.
Speaker 3 (14:43):
Yes, take the breathing breath because it is getting hot
in here. You're doing so good and it's and it's
keep your clothes on the radio station. But this is
another point for our listeners. If you are out here
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writing your book and this is exciting you, listen our listeners,
and Mama's out there. You can be writing your book
right alongside of us as we're going through this, going
through these same steps. But one thing that this reminded
me of, make sure to take care of yourself during
this book writing process. And the reason is because when
you start to open up about your own past traumas,
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the things that you've gone through, it can trigger things absolutely,
And that's why I said, yeah, let's take the breath. Yea,
let's take the breath. The beautiful thing about writing a book.
And I've worked with now over two hundred authors from
across the country where they've been under my personal coaching
to write and self publish their books. Many of them
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say that this process is just in and of itself,
a healing process for them.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
I could see that absolutely, and the reason.
Speaker 3 (15:58):
One of the reasons is because so many times in
life other people have taken control. It felt like you
didn't have control of the things that happened to you.
But now that you're writing this book, guess who is
writing the narrative. Guess who is reshaping it. It doesn't
just end with the pain that you went through. You're
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going to be sharing encouragement for other people. You're sharing
how the story ended. You are in control, You're rewriting
your narrative.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
I love it, Oh yes, I do, I do, yes, yeah, yeah, no,
I think that's wonderful. And I you know, and just
for me to be able to have this platform, you know,
for me to have fallen into this career, that's the
most important thing for me is to be able to
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is to help others. Entertaining is great, it's fun, but
it's what can I do to help? And that's a
really huge passion of mine, Jazz. Yes, I don't want
any of body to go through right what I went through,
but a lot a lot of people have gone through much,
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much worse than me.
Speaker 4 (17:11):
So I don't know.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
It's just but you're you, the fact that you have
all these these skills of brightening people's lives. Every every
day you're on the radio and people hear your voice.
When I would be driving before this, like before I
would even know you, and like I would hear your
voice on the radio, I just get happy. I don't
even know what you're talking about. I'm just like, oh,
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Chris Son, I just feel good. I don't even know
what you're talking about.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
What's that crazy ginger talking about to me?
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Yeah, because you bring so much and you have the
gift of communication, you have the gift of storytelling, and
so even though you're like other people have been through
worse than me. Don't let that like downplay the powerful
story you have and the powerful way that you're going
to impact people's lives because of your platform, because of
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your skills. You're in the field of communication. That's wonderful.
If you have a great story and things you've been through,
it's not gonna help anybody else if you just bottle it.
In the fact, like, the way to impact people is
to share it, and you have those skills already. We
just got to get this book. Okay.
Speaker 4 (18:19):
Oh, she did the snaps.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
Okay, I did. I did the snaps. We gotta just
get out of this book, all right. So are you
ready to hear your seven chapter purpose driven outline? We
just wrote the whole outline for your book. I hope
you know.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
I did not know the last couple of minutes. Okay,
but yes, you have your entire seven chapters done. Are
you ready?
Speaker 4 (18:40):
Did you come from?
Speaker 3 (18:41):
Where did you come from?
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Jack?
Speaker 4 (18:43):
She shouldn't unbelievable? I know you did, Okay, I'm ready?
Speaker 3 (18:49):
All right, Okay, So these are your seven chapters. Now,
It's very important to understand when you're writing the seven
chapters of your book, every chapter or must start with
an action.
Speaker 4 (19:01):
Word, oh okay, or a verb an action word.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
And the reason for that is we want, as people
read your book, it's not just a memoir of like
from start to finish, an autobiography of your life, where
you're gonna just be saying, blow by blow, what happened
to you? The book that we help our authors create
our self help books, and what that means is it's
not focused on just you. The main focus is your
(19:27):
reader because remember your book is solving a problem. Yes,
so when you start each chapter with an action word,
it's focusing on the actions the reader can take to
have a transformation because ultimately that's what your book is
helping to do. It's not focused just on what happened
to me, what happened to me, but it's focused on
how can I use my life and my encouraging words
(19:50):
and the lessons that I've learned to pour into you
the reader.
Speaker 4 (19:53):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (19:53):
So that's why each one has to start with the
action word. Okay, So let's say that your book is
tied up old, I'm just we're gonna revisit what the
title is, but this is just our placeholder title for
now gaining or gaining your Power Back. Seven strategies for
(20:14):
women who have experienced trauma to heal and know that
they can still be happy, successful, and prosperous in life.
By what's what's your author name?
Speaker 4 (20:26):
Going to be my author name?
Speaker 3 (20:28):
Yeah, just christ the Christa like Christa the entertainer or
I don't know what, just gonna be your first and
last name. What's your author?
Speaker 4 (20:37):
Yeah, don't be on the breath, probably yeah. Krista Hatcher
Kristal Hatcher.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
So gain your Power Back. Seven strategies for women who
have experienced trauma to heal and know that they can
still live a happy, successful and prosperous life by Krista Hatcher.
And I can see you on the front cover with
your on your hip, looking fierce and fabulous. We'll come
(21:03):
back to talk about the CoA. But that's like the vision, okay,
So now we flip. Oh okay, that's oh, this is
a good book. I see it. I see it. You
flip to the table of contents. Chapter one, Activate your
Healing Tools, And that's gonna chapter We're gonna talk about
like the tools that you mentioned on a therapy sharing
(21:24):
your feelings. So that's chapter one, Activate your Healing Tools
Chapter two is forgive yourself, Yes, and we're gonna go
into that all about that. Chapter three is protect your piece, Yes,
and we're in that chapter we're gonna talk about getting
toxic people out your life strategy to protect your piece.
(21:44):
Chapter four is remember your self worth. Chapter five is
give yourself grace. Chapter six is learn to let go
and don't let it own you.
Speaker 4 (21:59):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
And then chapter seven is no, you aren't alone. I've
got you.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
Yeah. Cool.
Speaker 3 (22:07):
I don't know how I need a high five. Give
me a high five? Okay, high five? Oh my gosh,
what do we do? How do you feel? How do
you feel?
Speaker 1 (22:14):
Very?
Speaker 2 (22:14):
First, uh, honored that you are going to take this
journey with me, and uh excited excited you know it's
something I've always wondered, like, I'm gonna get emotional. Yeah, yeah,
I'm yeah, Yeah, I'm very excited.
Speaker 3 (22:31):
Yes, Oh my gosh, exciting. So woo. So yeah, that's
your and you did it. You did the work. This
is not me, This is your story. These are your chapters.
I just helped kind of pull it out of you.
But this is you. You came up with these topics
because we were we begin with the end in mind.
(22:51):
You did that visualization exercise to get crystal clear on
like who you want to serve and what you would
pour out of your heart and say to them and
then out of your heart, these were the seven things.
These are the seven steps. This is your seven step
framework for helping women who've experienced trauma be able to
(23:11):
get back up again, heal, thrive, and be prosperous.
Speaker 4 (23:15):
These are the suv and then and then you're gonna
write this for me?
Speaker 3 (23:19):
Yeah, oh, I still got We still got a couple
of minutes left on this episode. We're not done yet. Okay,
we're gonna be dying. I'm not right. I don't know
how to write a book. Okay, Well, lucky for you,
they got doctor Jazz in your life, and I have
created a framework called the Triple P Method, ok to
(23:39):
write your chapters quickly and easily. Okay, Okay, so don't worry,
I got you. Okay. What we're gonna do is in
our closing minutes of the episode, we're actually gonna get
started with chapter one. Chapter one is called Activate your
Healing Tools. Okay, okay, and all you have to do
is answer some question. We're gonna get started on chapter
(24:01):
one now, the triple P method that I have created
and we've used to help hundreds of authors nationwide get
their books done easily and quickly. It's called the triple
P method. The first P stands for provide education, and
what that means is for every one of these chapters,
we're going to just give a little bit of background information.
(24:24):
And then the second piece stands for personalized. You want
to actually tell a personal story. This is what makes
your book unique. Nobody else. I don't care how many
people wrote a book on mental health. Nobody has your story.
So you have to insert insert in this personalized part
a little bit of a personal story related to that topic.
(24:47):
And then the last piece stands for empower. Yeah okay, okay,
empower or provide provide tools for the reader or empower.
So that's the third P, empower, And what that is
is instead of ending with just your story, Remember our
(25:07):
book is focused on helping and empowering other people. So
you shifting the like if it's like a movie, we're
shifting the spotlight from you. You you to like them,
and what you always end with empowerment. If you're somebody
who's struggling with what I did, here's some practical tools
that you can use right now, don't give up, stay encouraged.
(25:29):
You're always ending each chapter with giving something to your reader.
And that's what makes these books different than a memoir.
A memoir or an autobiography just kind of from starts
to finish, what was your life? We're rewriting our story.
We're taking our power back. We're taking what try to
kill us and destroy us to help somebody else, and
it can literally save a life, Chris. So that's why
(25:51):
you really have to get this book out, because there's
many people who have experienced what you did and they
don't have the same outcomes of you.
Speaker 4 (25:59):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely, and.
Speaker 3 (26:01):
Not even me and you. Just a little while ago,
we're talking about people who died from suicide.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
Absolutely so absolutely.
Speaker 3 (26:09):
Okay, So let's just get started. We're gonna get a
sneak peak for chapter one. Are you ready, Krista, All
you have to do let me do my magic of
let me just interview you.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
I wish you right now.
Speaker 4 (26:21):
She's like glowing sheet the big I've.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
Been waiting for this moment. You should have told me
to wrecte your but I okay, So all you have
to do is answer my questions and speak from your heart. Okay,
so you told me Christa that on someone's journey to healing,
(26:43):
living a prosperous life, knowing that they can still be
happy and successful even after trauma, you said, one of
the first tools is to activate or one of the
first steps is to activate their healing tools. Active their tools,
understand what tools they have. Just in general, can you
(27:04):
tell me what do you mean by that? What do
you mean by healing tools? What do you mean by tools?
Just in general?
Speaker 2 (27:12):
Being vocal, because if you're not vocal, you are not
releasing anything that's inside of you. So I think first
acknowledging to yourself, especially if for you know, if we're
talking specifically about sexual assault, it is not your fault,
(27:34):
number one, So we got to get that out of
your head. I think a lot of times that we self,
you know, destroy our inner, ourselves because you end up
not liking yourself. So being vocal is very very important.
I think that's the first thing. If I would have
(27:54):
been vocal as a child, you know, things that would
have been different maybe.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
But you're saying like your voice is a tool.
Speaker 4 (28:05):
Yes, which is interesting.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
What I do for a living now, how I just
thought of that.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Yeah, but no, I think, yeah, being vocal.
Speaker 3 (28:14):
And that's why it's so important. It's so important because
if you if what happens if you don't? I guess
my question is, why is it so important to be vocal?
What will happen if you're not? Tell me more about that.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
If you're not well, if you're not you you keep that,
you keep that inside you, and it ends up owning you.
And you know, and for me, I didn't like myself
anxiety depression.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
Okay, so tell me if I would have.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Gotten help at an earlier age, if I would have
spoken up, maybe you know, my life would have been different,
got it right, and and it would have helped me
through my other.
Speaker 4 (28:55):
One assaults that I've had.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
Got it?
Speaker 4 (28:59):
Loving yourself? I mean, I think that's super important.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
I love that. I don't know, That's exactly what I
was asking. It's important to give me a little bit
of background of just like, why if I've been going
through this, why should I take the time to you know,
activate my tools.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
Suffering in silence is the worst thing you can do
to yourself.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
I think, yeah, Okay, now now I want you to
get a little more personal. I know you've mentioned therapy
a lot and things like that, get a little bit
more personal. When you decided to share your feelings, activate
your voice as a tool. Tell me the first time
you kind of use that power using your voice as
(29:43):
a tool. Tell me about like.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Actually, well, the first time I ever spoke spoke about
anything was when I attempted suicide in college.
Speaker 3 (29:54):
Can you are you comfortable to tell me?
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Yeah, I've been yeah, so so yeah, so I've always
had an issue with abandonment.
Speaker 4 (30:06):
And then again self love.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
I don't know if the things that I had gone
through in my life with men trying to take from me,
which that's what happens, They take a part of you
away when you're assaulted.
Speaker 4 (30:26):
That I that I just want. One day, lit a
candle and said I'm done with the pain. I can't,
I can't, I can't take it anymore.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
And and so yeah, so and then I woke up
the next day and my roommates found me and they
brought me today, I see you, and the doctor said,
if you would have waited two more hours, you probably
wouldn't have made it. And then you know, I decided
to put myself in a sech word. It was the
best daying decision I'd ever made, because why once again,
(30:56):
it's the first time I was ever able to talk
about my fe and talk about what I went through
that hoping that opened such a big doorway for me.
Speaker 4 (31:10):
Yeah, and I'm not ashamed of it.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
No, I think I think a lot of people would
be ashamed of it, you know, to talk about something
like that.
Speaker 4 (31:17):
But it was, you know, kind of a gift I
gave to myself.
Speaker 3 (31:24):
Yeah, oh wow, I love that. No, that that's true
and just just for my understanding, and I'm thank you
again for open up about this. When you say you
lit a candle, you were trying to how what was
the mechanism you were.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
That l Again there's yeah, there's more story behind that,
but you know ours like were you trying to like, oh, yes,
I overdosed.
Speaker 3 (31:50):
Thank you, That's what I was trying to connect. Oh
did you try to light the room?
Speaker 1 (31:53):
No?
Speaker 3 (31:54):
No, no, no, no, no no, And then well okay, okay, yeah,
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (31:57):
For some for some reason, it was like very symbolic
for me to like focus on that candle and then
once I you know, blew it out, that that was it.
Speaker 3 (32:06):
The pain And then thank you that's the part that
I us. Okay, thank you, this is just yeah, yeah, yeah, okay.
I love you. Thank you for sharing that. And I'm
so happy that you put yourself first and you you
use your voice. And that was your first at the
psych word. Was your first experience with the therapist. I
know later on and you'll probably talk about it more
(32:29):
in the book of like other therapists you've had in life,
but that was your first time connecting with a therapist, yes,
at the psyche word. Okay. And finally, just to wrap
it up, what just if there's somebody right now who's like,
I've been assaulted, I'm I'm feeling the way that you
felt that night you lit the candle and took the pills.
(32:49):
I'm feeling that like that right now and I'm not
talking to anyone. My voice is not being used as
a tool. What exact advice would you give to that
person right now?
Speaker 4 (32:59):
Call me, m message me, okay, absolutely?
Speaker 3 (33:05):
What else would you.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
Reach out to someone? Reach out to your best friend.
Speaker 2 (33:11):
I think it's so important for parents, and I try
to stress this to my daughter. Open communication is everything
with your child. If you don't have that, you do
not know what is going on in our kiddo's heads,
and especially with that the crisis that we have.
Speaker 4 (33:27):
So I'm so I remind my daughter all the time.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
Please, if you're ever going through something, please make sure
you talk to me. And you know, and so I
try to I try to break that cycle from what
I grew up, you know, keeping everything in not doing that,
you know, as she's a child, I want her to
open up about her feelings.
Speaker 3 (33:50):
So got it? Okay? Okay, okay, So congratulations, just wrote
your first chapter. Okay, and we're ending, and we're gonna
end with giving them a sneak peek of the chapter.
Are you ready to hear it?
Speaker 4 (34:04):
Yes, ma'am?
Speaker 3 (34:05):
Yeah, are you ready to hear it? This is great?
This is great, And so I'm gonna be talking out
your chapter. You could use this triple P method to
either type it out or talk it out. I like
talking out the chapters because it's just easier to type
it out and then you can get it transcribed into
writing later. Okay, Okay, so just know that this is
(34:25):
your chapter. I'm gonna talk it out. But if you
wanted to, another strategy to write a book is to
type it out. But we're using the strategy of talking
it out. Okay, okay, so just listen and then we're
gonna close. After I read your chapter, I'm gonna hand
it over you to wrap.
Speaker 4 (34:39):
Up this episode so I can get on the radio.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
Okay, all right, all right, all right, okay. So this
chapter is chapter one CHRISTA. Hatcher's book, and chapter one
is called Activate your Healing Tools. Dear reader, I am
so excited that you have taken the time to read
this book. On your journey to healing and living a
(35:06):
prosperous life and being happy and successful even after trauma.
One of the first critical steps that you must take
is to activate your healing tools. One of the most
important tools that you need to activate is something you
(35:31):
have right inside of you, which is your voice. It's
so important to get the pain and the trauma that
you are feeling out of your head and heart into
the atmosphere and speak about the things that you've been
going through. If you don't activate this powerful tool, which
(35:53):
is your voice, it can start to own you and
destroy your inner self. Suffering in silence is the worst
thing that you can do. It can lead to anxiety,
it can lead to depression. This is a tool that
I wish I would have activated even earlier in my life,
(36:16):
and it would have helped me to avoid many of
the things that I've been through. Activating your voice is
so incredibly important because it will help you get one
step closer to healing and living a prosperous life. I
now like to share with you a personal story about
(36:37):
a time in my life that I had to activate
this tool. I'll never forget. Back when I was in college,
the pain and hurt and overwhelm and torment from the
prior sexual and physical assaults that I had experienced in
(36:59):
my life, dating even back to age ten, had become
so painful that I couldn't take it anymore. There had
been so many men that had taken so much from
me in my sexual assaults, where it felt like pieces
of me were actually gone. I'll never forget one night
(37:21):
I lit a candle and decided tonight was going to
be my last night on this earth because I was
done with the pain. The next thing I did was
I took some pain pills, and the next thing I
remember is waking up in the ICU. The doctor said,
if my friends would have found me just two hours later,
(37:43):
I would not be here. Anymore. At that time, I
made a critical decision and I decided to put myself
in the psych word. That was the first time in
my life I was able to finally open up and
talk about everything that had happened to me. I was
(38:06):
finally able to activate the healing tool of using my voice.
That was a huge door that opened up for me
in that moment, and it was the first critical step
in my healing journey. For those of you who are
(38:26):
reading this book, I'd like to conclude this chapter by
speaking directly to you. If you are someone who is
experiencing trauma and have not yet activated the tool of
using your voice, you can call me. I'll include my
contact information at the end of this book so you
(38:48):
know that you're not alone. Also, another piece of advice
is to reach out to someone, even if it's your
friends or family. Reach out to someone, use your voice,
speak up about what happened, don't hold your emotions in.
You might even reach out to a professional. I love
(39:09):
the psychologist that I have, the professional that I have
that helps me talk through my feelings, and that is
something that has tremendously changed your that has tremendously changed
my life. It's the best gift that I was able
to give myself. I also want to speak to any
parents reading this book and let you know how important
(39:32):
it is to have open communication with your children. I
always talk to my daughter about if anything is going
on in your life. Please know that I'm someone here
just to listen. Parents. That goes a powerful way, and overall,
just remember on your journey toward healing and living a
(39:54):
prosperous and happy life even after trauma. The first critical
step to is to activate your healing tools. And the
first most important tool is your voice. Use it.
Speaker 4 (40:10):
Love love. That's amazing.
Speaker 3 (40:17):
All right, this is just getting too good.
Speaker 2 (40:21):
All right again, We're just gonna continue like writing this
book live.
Speaker 3 (40:26):
Yeah. Is that the next chapter? Girl? Forgive yourself. So
I'm gonna be asking you some questions.
Speaker 4 (40:31):
Okay, Okay, We're gonna talk about that next.
Speaker 2 (40:35):
I love you, Thank you for taking this journey with me.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
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