Done Being Single

Done Being Single

How did Treva and Robby Scharf know it was time to settle down? Because they were done being single. Before getting married for the first time in their 50's, Treva and Robby did it all, dated it all, and lived to tell. Treva and Robby are dating survivors. They’re the authorities on being single and finding love later in life. Treva and Robby don’t just offer empty platitudes and promises, they offer dating intervention. From dating apps to dating gaffes, from getting a second date to getting laid, Treva and Robby have a toolbox of tips, and a guest list of dating coaches, relationship experts, therapists, personal growth influencers, and thought leaders to help people get out of dating hell and find real love. If you’re a dating hater ready to up your dating game, then you’re ready for DONE BEING SINGLE.

Episodes

March 7, 2024 46 mins

If you’ve ever overstayed your welcome in a bad relationship, or struggled with when to call it quits, therapist and author Crystal Jackson knows why: Childhood trauma, low self-esteem, abandonment issues, anxious attachment, even love addiction, could be to blame. 

Should you stay or should you go? Should you hang in and work things out, or pack it up and get the hell out? When it comes to ditching bad relationships for healthy lo...

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If you have a need to be liked, a fear of being unloved, or if you're a people-pleaser or approval seeker, then you might be struggling with boundaries. Boundaries are protective and empowering for both singles and couples, and we're going to show you how to set boundaries and keep them. 

With guest Bex Burton, dating & relationship expert. 

 

 

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September 13, 2023 52 mins

Are you swiping more left than right or using pickiness as an excuse not to date? "I'm too picky" could be another way of saying "I'm not good enough."

Dig a little deeper and you'll find that pickiness is fear-based. It signals insecurity, not selectivity, finding fault, not finding love. 

Join Treva and intimacy expert Allana Pratt as they discuss the perils of pickiness and how to overcome it with self-acceptance and compassion.

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June 4, 2023 46 mins

Modern feminism, MeToo, and changing gender dynamics have put masculinity at a crossroads. Is our current idea of masculinity toxic or progressive? Are men expected to step up or back down? And what does this mean for the current dating culture? On this episode, Simon T. Bailey, author of “Ignite the Power of Women,” discusses how to ignite the power of men to be better men.

 

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November 20, 2022 43 mins

We're giving dating apps a piece of our mind. From bad behavior to no accountability, there's a supply chain issue of basic kindness in dating apps that must be called out! 

Author, podcaster, and singles advocate Shani Silver, is just the person to call it out. There are options to dating apps--it's called finding a happy singlehood. Tune in and learn how you can find yours. 

 

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September 11, 2022 49 mins

When you say "YES," you activate your internal guidance, you connect with your Inner Authority, and you power out of your comfort zone. You don't find your "YES" in your head, you feel it in your heart, and it's not random. 

Don't get stuck in "NO." Let relationship coach Ken Bechtel author of the new book "Follow Your YES" show you how to do just that. 

 

 

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World renown psychic-medium Matthew Stapley gives us the lowdown on love, loss, and divine timing, the way the spirits intended. Learn how to trust your intuition, process grief, distinguish between gut feelings and fear, break old cycles, and open yourself up to new possibilities. All you have to do is read the signs, listen to the messages, and tune in.   

 

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If you have a fear of abandonment, avoid intimacy, or struggle with relationship anxiety, you’ve come to the right podcast. This week, Behavioral Relationship expert Tracy Crossley comes to the rescue with her profound insights on attachment theory, and on how knowing your attachment style can help you feel secure, get close, and find love. 

 

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On this episode of Done Being Single, we're connecting heart to c*ck by turning outdated male conditioning & culture into healthy templates for love. Men, it's time to breathe new life into your relationships (and your other parts too!)

 

 

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45,000 years of evolutionary psychology confirms it: humans are hardwired to date a certain way.

In this episode of Done Being Single, Dr. Duana Welch shares her insights and data on human dating rituals. From playing hard to get, to the prerogative of pursuit, to waiting for sex, Dr. Welch proves that evolution doesn't have an off switch, and that's good news for dating. 

 

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Ever heard someone use the excuse they're too picky and that's why they can't meet anyone? Or, maybe you know someone who isn't picky enough and keeps attracting losers. Haven't we all been a little of both at times? Remember, nobody's perfect--especially in the dating world. Join us as we explore the deeper reasons for pickiness, and it's flip side, not picky enough.

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June 10, 2021 60 mins

After a year plus of pandemic stress eating and drinking, we're finally getting back to normal, and back into action. But what about those extra pounds and bad habits we picked up along the way? How do we lose the weight and get fit? What kind of diet should we be on, and where do we find the motivation if we've turned into lazy sloths?

Look no further than fitness guru and nutritional expert, Jill Brown, our guest this week on Don...

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March 9, 2021 57 mins

Science geeks and horny bastards, this episode is for you!

Sexpert and sexy brainiac Susan Bratton bares it all with her newest techniques, hottest tips, latest science, and reveals her own struggles and recovery from COVID. From cock rings to hyperbaric oxygen therapy, Susan knows all. 

Whether you're looking to spice things up, enhance your intimacy, or are curious about COVID treatments and ways to stay healthy and sexually acti...

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February 19, 2021 61 mins

What does business and dating have in common? The highly desirable, very elusive "It Factor." It's more than charm, looks, and charisma, it's about having conviction and passion about what you do, and who you are. 

Our guest this week, author and professor Suneel Gupta, cracks the code on how to pick a winner, how to stand out, and how to get someone to take a chance on you. In other words, how to be "Backable," the name of his for...

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This episode is like Xanax for dating jitters. Get rid of nerves and performance anxiety by understanding your attachment style, honoring your needs, and practicing science backed coping mechanisms. With Chris Rackliffe's expert guidance and insights, you'll recognize your core gifts, and get the love and affection you deserve--all without a doctor's prescription! 

 

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December 15, 2020 55 mins

We've all chased love at one time or another, some of us still do. We do it when we're lonely or insecure, when we're seeking approval or need connection. We chase love because we don't trust it will come on its own. And the harder we try to catch it, the further it stays away. 

Not even a pandemic will stop people from chasing!

On this episode, Dasha Schindler, author of the new book "Don't Chase Love, Cut To The Chase: Or, How To...

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October 16, 2020 50 mins

Robby and Treva aren't parents, but they're tipping their hats to the (single) parents doing the heavy lifting. Managing home, work, life, kids AND a love life is never easy, but doing it in a pandemic takes mad skills and patience.

This week's guest, licensed marriage and family therapist Kristin MacDermott, shares her tips, tools, and strategies for successful pandemic parenting.

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September 18, 2020 60 mins

In an election year that's more contentious than ever, is it possible to hate someone's politics but still love them?

According to our guests Jeanne Safer and Richard Brookhiser, it is. 

Jeanne is a Liberal, and the author of the book, "I Love You, But I Hate Your Politics." Richard is a Conservative, and the Sr. Editor of the National Review, the leading conservative journal of opinion. Despite being on opposite sides of the aisle...

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September 3, 2020 48 mins

Cougars are having a moment. Not that midlife women dating and marrying younger men is anything new, it's just that midlife isn't what it used to be. Gone are the rules, parameters, restrictions, and judgement. Today's post-50 women are free to be who they want, date who they want, and be equal partner with the ones they love.

Older women/younger men, your time has come. 

Joining the discussion is Vicki Larson, award-winning journa...

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August 21, 2020 43 mins

When you slay your anxiety, you slay your need for control. Dealing with the unknowns and tolerating the uncertainty of a pandemic are skills that need learned and practiced. On this week's episode, we've got the perfect teacher, Lisa Gornall. 

 

A spiritual medium, healer, mindset & energy coach, and author, Lisa has the tools to help you slay anxiety, and connect with your power. Because when it comes to beating back any monster,...

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