April 7, 2020 • 25 mins
This is Amy’s ‘5th Thing’ (a bonus episode) where she answers your questions every Tuesday! ‘4 Things With Amy Brown’ comes out every Thursday, but on Tuesdays Amy answers questions you’ve emailed in. On today’s episode Amy and her husband Ben address all your questions about: her favorite online yoga instructor, advice for being married to someone with ADD, the difference between Vital Proteins Collagen Peptides and gelatin and practical advice for making your eyelash extensions last longer.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Okay, So Tuesday, which means Q and A day, which
also means time to share a quote day before I
get into the quote. My husband's here with me, which
he was on last week's Four Things episode. Did you
do the Q and A the last Tuesday too? I
don't even remember. But he's definitely gonna be on the
podcast a lot more because well, we're home together a
(00:25):
lot more and I'm recording these from the house, so
I can't Chase can't come over. He's actually quarantined in Kansas.
He was flying to Kansas to see his family about
a month ago and was supposed to fly to New
York because he had a special job he was going
to do in New York for a month and a
half and then New York shut down. It's a good
(00:46):
thing timing wise, because then he would have been stuck
in New York And now he's out on his parents
farm ranch thing in Kansas, and it's beautiful. I love
seeing his pictures on Instagram, Like, I feel like, if
you are quarantined on a ranch with a family right now,
that's pretty awesome. Yeah, it's really lucky. Yeah, very blessed.
(01:06):
That's not us. But I know a couple of people, Yeah,
a couple of people that I follow on Instagram. They
are They just once they realized everything was shutting down
and they had the flexibility to do so, they went
to be with family on a family big piece of land.
And that's just probably got to be really good quality
family time. Now, if you're like us and you can't
(01:26):
get good quality family time, try to face time or
video chat. Like I feel like this weekend for Easter, Ben,
We're gonna have to get your parents on FaceTime for
the kids or Zoom or something. We'll figure something out.
They don't have Apple things. They have Zoom now because
our church group does Zoom perfect, so we can zoom
with them and then we can do Amazon show with
(01:49):
Dad and that way the kids still get to see
their their grandparents. So my quote for today I pulled
from Bob Goff, which he's been on my podcast before
if you missed that episod. So it was really awesome
interview last year that I did with him. He did
all four things with me, but this is a good one.
I used to be afraid of failing at something that
(02:11):
really mattered to me, but now I'm more afraid of
succeeding at things that don't matter. And I feel like
this is a good one for the current time because
it's when you really start to assess what matters to you.
You have time to reflect and how you're going to
spend your time, and things are slowing down. I know
(02:34):
that we still feel busy because, thank goodness, we still
have jobs that we can work remotely, and we have
two kids that are in school, and we have life
for us hasn't really changed that much other than that
we're confined to the house and we still go to
the grocery store whatnot, but we can't really leave that much.
(02:57):
But there is time for reflection and growth and how
do we want to be when we come out on
the other side of this figuring out what really does
matter to you? Right and from what Bob Goff is saying,
and then go after that, it'll be afraid to fail.
It like something that really does matter to you. And
this might be a time where it's pushing your limits.
(03:18):
Now you have the time, or you have lost your
job and you have to finally step into something you've
been scared of doing before, but now you're forced to
do it, and you could come out on the other side,
successful at that or stronger. But even if you do
fail at it, it's okay. You failed at something that
mattered and you will grow no matter what if you
(03:41):
look at it in the right way. At least you
try to fix something that mattered instead of fixing something
that doesn't matter at all to you, right exactly. Okay,
So you want to get into the questions that were
sent in. I don't know. I don't I don't know.
I warmed up my voice yet. Oh that you're saying
I don't know. I was like, Okay, if you don't
want to help me, it's fine. No, I mean I'm
(04:01):
trying to because we're gonna be doing this more. I'm
trying to get my radio voice. How do you do that?
How now? Brown Cow, Unique New York, Unique New York
now brown Cow. Yeah. So it's practice that so that
I don't um so I sound like a professional radio personality. Okay, Yeah,
we do that. We do that in the in the
(04:22):
backstage or before we go on air somewhere, to try
to loosen up our vocals. Okay, So, am I supposed
to like do this with like emotion or I just
read these things? Just this emails from Danielle and then
you read the email Hey girl, like do that or
I just say, hey girl, you just read it how
you would read it like normal? Hey, Um, I remember
(04:44):
you mentioned a YouTube yoga instructor that you liked. Who
was that? That's yoga with Adrian and it's a d
R I E N E is how you spell her name.
And she has so many great YouTube classes on or
yoga classes on YouTube. You've done the she has a
minute flow for that's good for digestion. You've done that
(05:04):
with me lots of times income digestion. But well, that's
what she calls it. I have no idea for digestion. Literally,
I think she calls it. The subject or the title
is twenty minute flow for digestion because some of the
moves probably work those organs. I assume, so, yes, that
is who it is. Okay, Next question, that's so hot? Um?
(05:26):
What's so from him? Digestion? Okay? Okay, Next question is
from Aaron. Hi, Amy, I know you've been open about
having a d D, and I'd love if you and
Ben did a thing about this on your podcast. I
guess I'm assuming Ben doesn't have a d D for
this particular scenario, but I could be wrong. No, Aaron,
(05:48):
You're not wrong. Ben doesn't have a d D and
I do. And I don't know what's it like, uh,
dealing with me in a d D. She had more
to her email, but for times sake, we cut it short.
But pretty much, she's married to someone newly married that
has a d D and she doesn't, so she would
like to know how to handle it. Well, I just
(06:08):
gotta appreciate it and realize that they're you know that
they are going to skip around from thing to thing
on whatever is the most important or whatever is the
I call it a shiny object like whatever that's just
going to hop to the next important thing on their mind.
My squirrel like moments. Yeah, they happen well, But yes,
I love that you're advising people to appreciate it, but
(06:30):
you don't always. No, it's hard. I mean it's hard
to always appreciate. At the beginning, it was really difficult.
I'm like, no, no, we weren't even talking about that.
Why did that even come up? But you would just
go whatever is right at the front of your mind
is going to come out. So just understanding that that's
the way they think The best thing I've learned is
understand that's the way they think, and if you have
to get back to something or finish a conversation, then
(06:50):
just once they get done and go hey, like I
want to go back to this because Amy's gonna keep
moving forward on whatever top of mind, right, and I in.
Another thing you do for me is you try to
help me with my schedule. Yes, that has been we're
going into fourteen years in the making, right, But we
actually sat down and did that last night, and you
(07:13):
were I think that's the most attractive you've been to me.
I said, I think I want you to help me
with my schedule, and you lit up like I basically
had just taken all my clothes off or something, and
it was the best. You hopped in bed with your
notepad and your pins. Well, I thought you're gonna blow
me off for a while. I was like, because it
(07:34):
got close to bedtime, I was like, oh, she's not
gonna want to do it. And then you're like yeah.
When we get into bed, I'm like, no way, We're
still doing this pan pad and my glasses on, and
we did. We took my day hour by hour and
worked in all the details in so far today we've
done good at it. We've had to move a few
(07:55):
things around, but nothing that was my fauld that my
A D D. We're learning it were and how to
do it right. So, Aaron, what you can do is
try to, yes, appreciate that your husband, his mind is,
has a lot of things going at once, but you
just bring him back around when you need to, and
(08:16):
then also help him with it. If that's one of
your strengths is scheduling and being organized, then maybe you
can help him with that. Now. I'm open to it.
I wouldn't say that I always have been, but you
may have to get him there, and then once you do,
y'all can work as a team. And then I also
like to think that I can help Ben loosen up
(08:36):
sometimes not everything has to be so rigid and scheduled,
And I hate changing plants. When we talk about something
and tomorrow morning you say this is what we're gonna do,
I'm like, great, this is what we're gonna do. And
then next morning you're like, you know, would be fun
to do. I'm like, no, absolutely would not be fun.
I had my mindset on what we talked about last night,
So changing is not fun, even if it actually is
(08:58):
ends up being more fun. I think there's a compromise
somewhere in the middle. Like I'm so rigid and not
that a D D has to do with not being
able to stay on schedule, but sometimes we maybe just
do a one A D and like to go the
other direction, and so it can you can the ying
(09:18):
to the yang kind of thing. Am I the ying
to your yang? Absolutely sometimes sometimes, But there's you just
I think you just you really got to talk about it.
And I found like interrupting when she's skipping to her
next initial thought is not good, like letting her finish
it and then going, hey, let's go back. I really
wanted we didn't finish talking about this, or I need
to bring this point up right. That's a strategy for communication.
(09:42):
Just let the person just finish their rabbit trail or say, hey,
do you mind if I bring us back to this
real quick and then we can go talk about X,
Y and Z. But we really need to focus on
getting this conversation done before we move on to the next.
And I think I could appreciate that, And Aaron, I
think your husband would too if he bounced from one
(10:02):
topic to the next, you could say, whoa, hey, remember
because you're gonna have a conversation with him about this,
Say remember when we decided we probably should finish a
conversation before moving on to the next and that'll that's
a strategy how communicate. Communication is key in any relationship.
But you have to communicate about the fact that he
has a d D D and you don't or she's I
(10:25):
don't know is he diagnosed? She said, my husband has
a d D, so I don't know. Depends. I don't
know if he's diagnosed. I don't know if he takes medication.
I do not I have in our relationship. I've taken
adderall and I've taken vivance. I'm not some people may
need that. I don't feel that I function best on
(10:47):
it because it just made me feel awful in other ways.
The first few days on it. It's amazing for me
because I was prescribed it and I needed it, But
then I don't like how I feel a couple of
weeks into it, or how I feel when I'm coming
down from something, and I would rather just and then
it altered my personality a little bit, and I would
rather just be able to be myself and try to
(11:10):
have tools in my back pocket that helped me focus,
like having a schedule and trying to stay on task.
I just have to concentrate on it a little bit
more than some people, right, And you have to have compromises,
Like I wanted to get a blowhorn out, so every
time we hit the time, I would just like yell
or hit the horn like it's time to move to
the next event to like you, I'm not at school, Ben,
(11:31):
I know, but I thought that that would really set
the point in. But then I realized, like she would
not appreciate that, really stress you out. Now I'm thirty
nine years old, so that's compromised. But I was going
to use the horn. Well, thank you for not welcome.
We need that horn for the kids though, they just
had lunch time, which is great. Then now they're outside
(11:52):
playing for like a little outdoor recess pe time. But gosh,
during lunch you had to go take all of steve
Since toys out of his room. Bummer. But we're having
some Just I just want to say for any parents
out there that are also homeschooling and working and having
the kids at home, and then you're at home, it's
(12:17):
a lot and you got to give yourself grace, but
also don't let the kids end up walking all over you,
because I feel at this time it's just easy to
just throw your hands in the air and say whatever.
I don't care, just do what you want. But we
have been well, y'all need to know the details. But
with Stevenson, this has been a thing for about a
(12:39):
week and a half of if you continue this behavior,
some of your toys are leaving your room if you could,
and then we've warned him again if you continue, and
then at lunch he continued that behavior that's been going
on for about a week and a half and we
finally had to, you know, stick to our guns and
go remove the toys. And that's hard to do because
(12:59):
then and it just invites more of the you have
to deal with the aftermath of that. But I'm hoping
that on the other side of it it will be
better because we were stuck to it. But trust me,
and it's no fun. There's no getting away. We're all
here together away. Yeah, and so just know that you're
(13:25):
not alone, but you have don't don't throw in the
towel yet, just because I know the hard days you
want to so badly, but if stick to your guns,
take away the toys if you need to. Next question
from Angela Amy. Thank you for your podcast. I've been
benj listening, trying to catch up and thankful for all
(13:45):
of your healthy tips. One thing I've heard of you
talk about is the vital protein collagen peptis, But I
was wondering what the difference is with gelatine. Should we
be taking both? I mean, really, it's up to you.
I just share with you all from time to time
things I incorporate if I notice that they're good for me.
And I like the collagen peptides because they keep my
nails strong and my skin seems clear, but I don't
(14:08):
know that that's going to be the case for everybody.
The Vital Proteins is the brand that we like, and
they say too, it's good for your joints, and I
tend to trust that. But I like the blue can
which is the collagen peptides, and then the green canister
is the beef gelatin, which I don't use that, but
I know the difference is. Like it Aaron Opria, my trainer,
(14:35):
she uses those to make little gummies, so you have
to bloom those or something in cold water before you
can put it into hot liquid and dissolve them. And
I know that the beef gelatins take a little bit
longer to digest because they coat the small intestine, which
is really good for people dealing with gut issues. So
(14:57):
if you're on a gut healing diet. I see people
on Instagram that I followed that use this um and
they have to take care of their gut big time,
which we all should be aware of taking care of
our gut. But I don't. I don't personally use the
beef gelatin, but I know that there's different recipes out there.
When it comes to putting it in my machete or
(15:18):
ben you put the college and I don't even coffee.
Yeah it's unflavored UM. That's it's like no mess, no fuss,
just easy throw it in. You don't even notice it,
and boom, you're getting a little collagen. My hair and
nails are looks so good I can tell from here. Okay,
(15:39):
next question, which there's other brands out there. Ancient Nutrition
is a brand that I recently tried to and I
really like I got the little travel to go packets
and not that we're traveling anywhere right now by any means.
But I started using them before we went into Lockdown
on a few different trips. And the unflavored I really
(16:00):
like those as well. And the the mixture of collagen
is different. It's not all I think from a cow,
maybe some from a fish, I'm not quite sure. But
Ancient proteins that's another brand, our ancient nutrition collagen peptides.
So there's different brands. I'm not I don't endorse any
particular brand at the moment. Okay, next question from Kara
(16:34):
Hi Amy oh r, I P this may bring a
tear to your eye. I've noticed I greet your eye
lashes extensions always look. I've got an eyelash extensions for
a few months now, but I feel like after a week,
my no look volumes anymore. Help. What type of lashes
do you get? How do you maintain your lashes? And
how often to do you get them filled? And I
say help because right now, like fall out, rest in
(16:58):
Peace would be beca as nobody's getting lashes right now.
That is definitely not an essential business. So I feel
for my girl Amy who that's who I go to,
and she's the owner of lash Nashville, and I reached
out what they're just reached out to her just to
get the information so I could tell you what I get,
so that once y'all are able to go back and
(17:19):
start getting Lash extensions again, you can get what I get.
Before I get into that, I will say I just
had to order some mascara because my lashes are totally
falling out and I won't see Amy probably for who
knows another month or more. But I love Lourel's original
voluminous mascara and I've loved that one since high school.
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It's my go to and it's only six or seven dollars,
so you can find that a drug store, order it online.
I like blackest black. And then when you do get
back to getting lashes, Amy said that for me, we
do a super fine extension and she builds short wide
bass fans consists sing of about three to four extensions,
(18:02):
so that I get extra fluff and volume, which I
love the volume. Look. That's probably why I love the
voluminous mascara from Loreal. She I also wash my lashes
regularly with Lash bath and they sell that at Lash Nashville.
I was against it at first because, like, why would
I wash them less I washed them, I felt like
the more they would stay on because I wouldn't take
(18:23):
them off. But actually oil gets in there and then
it loosens it up. If you don't keep them clean
and they fall off faster than if you wash them.
How do you wash them? Yeah, the lash bath comes
with a little brush and then I just brush it
on there. And then also, never wear mascara about with
your lashes. So the mascara is only for if you
(18:44):
don't have lashes, But if you have lashes, do not
put mascara on top of them. And then I get
fills every two to three weeks. I try to keep
it on the two week mark just because of my job.
I try to. I always have something going on, so
I need them to about shedding. What you're shedding? The
cycle was for your last Nobody knows. I mean, lashes
(19:05):
shed but I don't know my shedding cycle. Sometimes it
sheds more than others. Why do you know your last
shedding cycle? No, I was really just thinking about how
this is a conversation I never thought i'd ever have,
and now I'm interested in your your shedding schedule. For
some reason, I have no idea but any time that
lashes have fallen out the past few days, we have
(19:27):
a moment of silence because they're just getting They're getting
so thin, which is fine. I just was used to
waking up looking awake because I was against lashes for
so many years. I could never I never went to
someone that I really liked and they were just really bad.
And then I found Amy and Lash Nashville, and I
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was obsessed with her and I have not quick going.
And that was what maybe three or four years ago.
Probably you don't remember. You didn't notice the difference in
my lashes right exactly three six and a half months.
That's the thing. Girls. We think that guys noticed certain stuff,
and they don't. So right now we need to just
chill out. No, you're not even noticing if my lashes
(20:11):
are falling out, are you? Yeah? I do, because you cry,
not physically cry. Okay, I'm slightly dramatic about it, but
I have not cried, okay at all. I was mean
a little over the top on that one, but you
have been dramatic about it. So I mean, there are
worse things going on in the world, obviously, so I
can get over my lashes real quick. It's all about perspective.
(20:34):
I think the other day before you all got home,
so it must have been a week and a half ago,
I was on a walk in our neighborhood and I
was just frustrated with all the things that were happening
with being quarantined at home. And then I went on
a walk and I in our neighborhood was walking past
the houses that were ruined by the tornado, which was
(20:57):
a month ago, and I had an instant attitude change.
It was a perspective that I needed and a reminder that, Okay, wow,
there are people that lost their house in a tornado
and now they're dealing with coronavirus, so I need to
pump the brakes a little bit. But it was okay.
(21:19):
It's okay for you to recognize things that you're frustrated
with or you're sad about, or that have disrupted your
lifestyle and have a moment at that you don't need
to ignore your feelings because what you're feeling is not wrong,
and it's okay to talk to friends about it or
voice it out loud. It doesn't matter. But then just
keep a perspective too, so that way you're in touch
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with what's really going on and the heart some super
hard things that a lot of people are dealing with.
And I like that our school. I don't know if
you know, like you've heard the kids talking about it,
but the school when they first start in the morning,
they have to say something to the like one of
their first assignments is yeah, so say one thing you're
grateful for, right, And we've continued doing the to challenge.
It's you know, was supposed to be for the month
(22:02):
of March, but if you want to join it now.
We have a Four Things Gratitude Journal which you can
get at four Things dot com or Radio Amy dot com.
You can find it there. There's lots of gifts up
there for Mother's Day. I know I'm biased, but shop
us ball in the Shop Forward. It's a small business,
so I know a lot of people are wanting to
find small businesses to support. So look around your community
(22:25):
and see how you can do that or you know
our community here ways that uh options we have are
through the splaw line or Pimp and Joy, which a
spa has the four Things totes which you can customize
for your mom for Mother's Day. We have a cute
star necklace that I wear every day. It's like three
gold stars a little choker, but it's adjustable and I
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love it. We have little zip pouches. We have the
Four Things Gratitude Journal. We have cool Mom, cool Dad,
cool Grandma, cool Grandpa. But I guess in regards of
Mother's Day, cool mom and cool Grandma would work. We
have cool Aunt in case you have an aunt you
want to celebrate on Mother's Day. Uh Ben, there's um
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Shot Forward has some stuff. There's Pimp and Joy Things,
which we've shifted that too. That was doing all tornado
reallyf recently, but we've shifted that to coronavirus needs, which,
um what else is helping with that right now? Um?
Oh are four Things Healthcare Heroes line, which is we
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have a four Things tea and a four Things tote
that's helping healthcare heroes and getting them protective gear. The
PPE to hospitals were working with organizations that are doing
that in America, which typically Four Things Stuff supports HAITI
still is, but we're making an effort to support healthcare
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workers here as well, So that's an option. I don't
know what are you gonna get me for Mother's Day?
M I have no idea. I guess it's a surprise, surprise.
We've already been working less than five weeks away. You know,
something's come from the heart. Yeah. Oh, my sister has
a coffee shop where they have if your mom likes coffee,
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and they have coffee they can mail out and it's
in super cute packaging and they have spoons that say
choose Joy, which is cute to go along with your coffee.
Something really and that's root house code dot com, which
when you shop with any business you think of the
trickle down effect that it has. You know, she's got
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employees there at the coffee shop, but there's a man
that roasts the coffee beans. Then there's a woman in
New Mexico that makes the spoons, and like for our totes,
we have printers that print the bags, and warehouse people
that work at the shop for it that gets to
come to work to ship things out. And then when
shipping is happening, ups workers that X workers, postal serve
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us people. Everybody has a job to do. So yeah,
these are crazy times. And I guess we probably all
thought we'd be with our families for Easter this weekend
and Mother's Day coming up in five weeks, but the
reality is you probably won't be so if you order
something online, then you're staying safe at home, and that's
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what we need to do right now. The best thing
we can do for everybody is stay home and not
wash your hands, and wash your hands and don't touch
your face, but until they tell us otherwise. I mean,
always wash your face and don't wash your hands and
don't touch your face, but stay home until otherwise they
tell us. Okay, alright, Well, I hope everyone has a
(25:44):
great rest of your Tuesday, and we'll talk to you
on Thursday for four things
Okay, So Tuesday, which means Q and A day, which
also means time to share a quote day before I
get into the quote. My husband's here with me, which
he was on last week's Four Things episode. Did you
do the Q and A the last Tuesday too? I
don't even remember. But he's definitely gonna be on the
podcast a lot more because well, we're home together a
(00:25):
lot more and I'm recording these from the house, so
I can't Chase can't come over. He's actually quarantined in Kansas.
He was flying to Kansas to see his family about
a month ago and was supposed to fly to New
York because he had a special job he was going
to do in New York for a month and a
half and then New York shut down. It's a good
(00:46):
thing timing wise, because then he would have been stuck
in New York And now he's out on his parents
farm ranch thing in Kansas, and it's beautiful. I love
seeing his pictures on Instagram, Like, I feel like, if
you are quarantined on a ranch with a family right now,
that's pretty awesome. Yeah, it's really lucky. Yeah, very blessed.
(01:06):
That's not us. But I know a couple of people, Yeah,
a couple of people that I follow on Instagram. They
are They just once they realized everything was shutting down
and they had the flexibility to do so, they went
to be with family on a family big piece of land.
And that's just probably got to be really good quality
family time. Now, if you're like us and you can't
(01:26):
get good quality family time, try to face time or
video chat. Like I feel like this weekend for Easter, Ben,
We're gonna have to get your parents on FaceTime for
the kids or Zoom or something. We'll figure something out.
They don't have Apple things. They have Zoom now because
our church group does Zoom perfect, so we can zoom
with them and then we can do Amazon show with
(01:49):
Dad and that way the kids still get to see
their their grandparents. So my quote for today I pulled
from Bob Goff, which he's been on my podcast before
if you missed that episod. So it was really awesome
interview last year that I did with him. He did
all four things with me, but this is a good one.
I used to be afraid of failing at something that
(02:11):
really mattered to me, but now I'm more afraid of
succeeding at things that don't matter. And I feel like
this is a good one for the current time because
it's when you really start to assess what matters to you.
You have time to reflect and how you're going to
spend your time, and things are slowing down. I know
(02:34):
that we still feel busy because, thank goodness, we still
have jobs that we can work remotely, and we have
two kids that are in school, and we have life
for us hasn't really changed that much other than that
we're confined to the house and we still go to
the grocery store whatnot, but we can't really leave that much.
(02:57):
But there is time for reflection and growth and how
do we want to be when we come out on
the other side of this figuring out what really does
matter to you? Right and from what Bob Goff is saying,
and then go after that, it'll be afraid to fail.
It like something that really does matter to you. And
this might be a time where it's pushing your limits.
(03:18):
Now you have the time, or you have lost your
job and you have to finally step into something you've
been scared of doing before, but now you're forced to
do it, and you could come out on the other side,
successful at that or stronger. But even if you do
fail at it, it's okay. You failed at something that
mattered and you will grow no matter what if you
(03:41):
look at it in the right way. At least you
try to fix something that mattered instead of fixing something
that doesn't matter at all to you, right exactly. Okay,
So you want to get into the questions that were
sent in. I don't know. I don't I don't know.
I warmed up my voice yet. Oh that you're saying
I don't know. I was like, Okay, if you don't
want to help me, it's fine. No, I mean I'm
(04:01):
trying to because we're gonna be doing this more. I'm
trying to get my radio voice. How do you do that?
How now? Brown Cow, Unique New York, Unique New York
now brown Cow. Yeah. So it's practice that so that
I don't um so I sound like a professional radio personality. Okay, Yeah,
we do that. We do that in the in the
(04:22):
backstage or before we go on air somewhere, to try
to loosen up our vocals. Okay, So, am I supposed
to like do this with like emotion or I just
read these things? Just this emails from Danielle and then
you read the email Hey girl, like do that or
I just say, hey girl, you just read it how
you would read it like normal? Hey, Um, I remember
(04:44):
you mentioned a YouTube yoga instructor that you liked. Who
was that? That's yoga with Adrian and it's a d
R I E N E is how you spell her name.
And she has so many great YouTube classes on or
yoga classes on YouTube. You've done the she has a
minute flow for that's good for digestion. You've done that
(05:04):
with me lots of times income digestion. But well, that's
what she calls it. I have no idea for digestion. Literally,
I think she calls it. The subject or the title
is twenty minute flow for digestion because some of the
moves probably work those organs. I assume, so, yes, that
is who it is. Okay, Next question, that's so hot? Um?
(05:26):
What's so from him? Digestion? Okay? Okay, Next question is
from Aaron. Hi, Amy, I know you've been open about
having a d D, and I'd love if you and
Ben did a thing about this on your podcast. I
guess I'm assuming Ben doesn't have a d D for
this particular scenario, but I could be wrong. No, Aaron,
(05:48):
You're not wrong. Ben doesn't have a d D and
I do. And I don't know what's it like, uh,
dealing with me in a d D. She had more
to her email, but for times sake, we cut it short.
But pretty much, she's married to someone newly married that
has a d D and she doesn't, so she would
like to know how to handle it. Well, I just
(06:08):
gotta appreciate it and realize that they're you know that
they are going to skip around from thing to thing
on whatever is the most important or whatever is the
I call it a shiny object like whatever that's just
going to hop to the next important thing on their mind.
My squirrel like moments. Yeah, they happen well, But yes,
I love that you're advising people to appreciate it, but
(06:30):
you don't always. No, it's hard. I mean it's hard
to always appreciate. At the beginning, it was really difficult.
I'm like, no, no, we weren't even talking about that.
Why did that even come up? But you would just
go whatever is right at the front of your mind
is going to come out. So just understanding that that's
the way they think The best thing I've learned is
understand that's the way they think, and if you have
to get back to something or finish a conversation, then
(06:50):
just once they get done and go hey, like I
want to go back to this because Amy's gonna keep
moving forward on whatever top of mind, right, and I in.
Another thing you do for me is you try to
help me with my schedule. Yes, that has been we're
going into fourteen years in the making, right, But we
actually sat down and did that last night, and you
(07:13):
were I think that's the most attractive you've been to me.
I said, I think I want you to help me
with my schedule, and you lit up like I basically
had just taken all my clothes off or something, and
it was the best. You hopped in bed with your
notepad and your pins. Well, I thought you're gonna blow
me off for a while. I was like, because it
(07:34):
got close to bedtime, I was like, oh, she's not
gonna want to do it. And then you're like yeah.
When we get into bed, I'm like, no way, We're
still doing this pan pad and my glasses on, and
we did. We took my day hour by hour and
worked in all the details in so far today we've
done good at it. We've had to move a few
(07:55):
things around, but nothing that was my fauld that my
A D D. We're learning it were and how to
do it right. So, Aaron, what you can do is
try to, yes, appreciate that your husband, his mind is,
has a lot of things going at once, but you
just bring him back around when you need to, and
(08:16):
then also help him with it. If that's one of
your strengths is scheduling and being organized, then maybe you
can help him with that. Now. I'm open to it.
I wouldn't say that I always have been, but you
may have to get him there, and then once you do,
y'all can work as a team. And then I also
like to think that I can help Ben loosen up
(08:36):
sometimes not everything has to be so rigid and scheduled,
And I hate changing plants. When we talk about something
and tomorrow morning you say this is what we're gonna do,
I'm like, great, this is what we're gonna do. And
then next morning you're like, you know, would be fun
to do. I'm like, no, absolutely would not be fun.
I had my mindset on what we talked about last night,
So changing is not fun, even if it actually is
(08:58):
ends up being more fun. I think there's a compromise
somewhere in the middle. Like I'm so rigid and not
that a D D has to do with not being
able to stay on schedule, but sometimes we maybe just
do a one A D and like to go the
other direction, and so it can you can the ying
(09:18):
to the yang kind of thing. Am I the ying
to your yang? Absolutely sometimes sometimes, But there's you just
I think you just you really got to talk about it.
And I found like interrupting when she's skipping to her
next initial thought is not good, like letting her finish
it and then going, hey, let's go back. I really
wanted we didn't finish talking about this, or I need
to bring this point up right. That's a strategy for communication.
(09:42):
Just let the person just finish their rabbit trail or say, hey,
do you mind if I bring us back to this
real quick and then we can go talk about X,
Y and Z. But we really need to focus on
getting this conversation done before we move on to the next.
And I think I could appreciate that, And Aaron, I
think your husband would too if he bounced from one
(10:02):
topic to the next, you could say, whoa, hey, remember
because you're gonna have a conversation with him about this,
Say remember when we decided we probably should finish a
conversation before moving on to the next and that'll that's
a strategy how communicate. Communication is key in any relationship.
But you have to communicate about the fact that he
has a d D D and you don't or she's I
(10:25):
don't know is he diagnosed? She said, my husband has
a d D, so I don't know. Depends. I don't
know if he's diagnosed. I don't know if he takes medication.
I do not I have in our relationship. I've taken
adderall and I've taken vivance. I'm not some people may
need that. I don't feel that I function best on
(10:47):
it because it just made me feel awful in other ways.
The first few days on it. It's amazing for me
because I was prescribed it and I needed it, But
then I don't like how I feel a couple of
weeks into it, or how I feel when I'm coming
down from something, and I would rather just and then
it altered my personality a little bit, and I would
rather just be able to be myself and try to
(11:10):
have tools in my back pocket that helped me focus,
like having a schedule and trying to stay on task.
I just have to concentrate on it a little bit
more than some people, right, And you have to have compromises,
Like I wanted to get a blowhorn out, so every
time we hit the time, I would just like yell
or hit the horn like it's time to move to
the next event to like you, I'm not at school, Ben,
(11:31):
I know, but I thought that that would really set
the point in. But then I realized, like she would
not appreciate that, really stress you out. Now I'm thirty
nine years old, so that's compromised. But I was going
to use the horn. Well, thank you for not welcome.
We need that horn for the kids though, they just
had lunch time, which is great. Then now they're outside
(11:52):
playing for like a little outdoor recess pe time. But gosh,
during lunch you had to go take all of steve
Since toys out of his room. Bummer. But we're having
some Just I just want to say for any parents
out there that are also homeschooling and working and having
the kids at home, and then you're at home, it's
(12:17):
a lot and you got to give yourself grace, but
also don't let the kids end up walking all over you,
because I feel at this time it's just easy to
just throw your hands in the air and say whatever.
I don't care, just do what you want. But we
have been well, y'all need to know the details. But
with Stevenson, this has been a thing for about a
(12:39):
week and a half of if you continue this behavior,
some of your toys are leaving your room if you could,
and then we've warned him again if you continue, and
then at lunch he continued that behavior that's been going
on for about a week and a half and we
finally had to, you know, stick to our guns and
go remove the toys. And that's hard to do because
(12:59):
then and it just invites more of the you have
to deal with the aftermath of that. But I'm hoping
that on the other side of it it will be
better because we were stuck to it. But trust me,
and it's no fun. There's no getting away. We're all
here together away. Yeah, and so just know that you're
(13:25):
not alone, but you have don't don't throw in the
towel yet, just because I know the hard days you
want to so badly, but if stick to your guns,
take away the toys if you need to. Next question
from Angela Amy. Thank you for your podcast. I've been
benj listening, trying to catch up and thankful for all
(13:45):
of your healthy tips. One thing I've heard of you
talk about is the vital protein collagen peptis, But I
was wondering what the difference is with gelatine. Should we
be taking both? I mean, really, it's up to you.
I just share with you all from time to time
things I incorporate if I notice that they're good for me.
And I like the collagen peptides because they keep my
nails strong and my skin seems clear, but I don't
(14:08):
know that that's going to be the case for everybody.
The Vital Proteins is the brand that we like, and
they say too, it's good for your joints, and I
tend to trust that. But I like the blue can
which is the collagen peptides, and then the green canister
is the beef gelatin, which I don't use that, but
I know the difference is. Like it Aaron Opria, my trainer,
(14:35):
she uses those to make little gummies, so you have
to bloom those or something in cold water before you
can put it into hot liquid and dissolve them. And
I know that the beef gelatins take a little bit
longer to digest because they coat the small intestine, which
is really good for people dealing with gut issues. So
(14:57):
if you're on a gut healing diet. I see people
on Instagram that I followed that use this um and
they have to take care of their gut big time,
which we all should be aware of taking care of
our gut. But I don't. I don't personally use the
beef gelatin, but I know that there's different recipes out there.
When it comes to putting it in my machete or
(15:18):
ben you put the college and I don't even coffee.
Yeah it's unflavored UM. That's it's like no mess, no fuss,
just easy throw it in. You don't even notice it,
and boom, you're getting a little collagen. My hair and
nails are looks so good I can tell from here. Okay,
(15:39):
next question, which there's other brands out there. Ancient Nutrition
is a brand that I recently tried to and I
really like I got the little travel to go packets
and not that we're traveling anywhere right now by any means.
But I started using them before we went into Lockdown
on a few different trips. And the unflavored I really
(16:00):
like those as well. And the the mixture of collagen
is different. It's not all I think from a cow,
maybe some from a fish, I'm not quite sure. But
Ancient proteins that's another brand, our ancient nutrition collagen peptides.
So there's different brands. I'm not I don't endorse any
particular brand at the moment. Okay, next question from Kara
(16:34):
Hi Amy oh r, I P this may bring a
tear to your eye. I've noticed I greet your eye
lashes extensions always look. I've got an eyelash extensions for
a few months now, but I feel like after a week,
my no look volumes anymore. Help. What type of lashes
do you get? How do you maintain your lashes? And
how often to do you get them filled? And I
say help because right now, like fall out, rest in
(16:58):
Peace would be beca as nobody's getting lashes right now.
That is definitely not an essential business. So I feel
for my girl Amy who that's who I go to,
and she's the owner of lash Nashville, and I reached
out what they're just reached out to her just to
get the information so I could tell you what I get,
so that once y'all are able to go back and
(17:19):
start getting Lash extensions again, you can get what I get.
Before I get into that, I will say I just
had to order some mascara because my lashes are totally
falling out and I won't see Amy probably for who
knows another month or more. But I love Lourel's original
voluminous mascara and I've loved that one since high school.
(17:40):
It's my go to and it's only six or seven dollars,
so you can find that a drug store, order it online.
I like blackest black. And then when you do get
back to getting lashes, Amy said that for me, we
do a super fine extension and she builds short wide
bass fans consists sing of about three to four extensions,
(18:02):
so that I get extra fluff and volume, which I
love the volume. Look. That's probably why I love the
voluminous mascara from Loreal. She I also wash my lashes
regularly with Lash bath and they sell that at Lash Nashville.
I was against it at first because, like, why would
I wash them less I washed them, I felt like
the more they would stay on because I wouldn't take
(18:23):
them off. But actually oil gets in there and then
it loosens it up. If you don't keep them clean
and they fall off faster than if you wash them.
How do you wash them? Yeah, the lash bath comes
with a little brush and then I just brush it
on there. And then also, never wear mascara about with
your lashes. So the mascara is only for if you
(18:44):
don't have lashes, But if you have lashes, do not
put mascara on top of them. And then I get
fills every two to three weeks. I try to keep
it on the two week mark just because of my job.
I try to. I always have something going on, so
I need them to about shedding. What you're shedding? The
cycle was for your last Nobody knows. I mean, lashes
(19:05):
shed but I don't know my shedding cycle. Sometimes it
sheds more than others. Why do you know your last
shedding cycle? No, I was really just thinking about how
this is a conversation I never thought i'd ever have,
and now I'm interested in your your shedding schedule. For
some reason, I have no idea but any time that
lashes have fallen out the past few days, we have
(19:27):
a moment of silence because they're just getting They're getting
so thin, which is fine. I just was used to
waking up looking awake because I was against lashes for
so many years. I could never I never went to
someone that I really liked and they were just really bad.
And then I found Amy and Lash Nashville, and I
(19:49):
was obsessed with her and I have not quick going.
And that was what maybe three or four years ago.
Probably you don't remember. You didn't notice the difference in
my lashes right exactly three six and a half months.
That's the thing. Girls. We think that guys noticed certain stuff,
and they don't. So right now we need to just
chill out. No, you're not even noticing if my lashes
(20:11):
are falling out, are you? Yeah? I do, because you cry,
not physically cry. Okay, I'm slightly dramatic about it, but
I have not cried, okay at all. I was mean
a little over the top on that one, but you
have been dramatic about it. So I mean, there are
worse things going on in the world, obviously, so I
can get over my lashes real quick. It's all about perspective.
(20:34):
I think the other day before you all got home,
so it must have been a week and a half ago,
I was on a walk in our neighborhood and I
was just frustrated with all the things that were happening
with being quarantined at home. And then I went on
a walk and I in our neighborhood was walking past
the houses that were ruined by the tornado, which was
(20:57):
a month ago, and I had an instant attitude change.
It was a perspective that I needed and a reminder that, Okay, wow,
there are people that lost their house in a tornado
and now they're dealing with coronavirus, so I need to
pump the brakes a little bit. But it was okay.
(21:19):
It's okay for you to recognize things that you're frustrated
with or you're sad about, or that have disrupted your
lifestyle and have a moment at that you don't need
to ignore your feelings because what you're feeling is not wrong,
and it's okay to talk to friends about it or
voice it out loud. It doesn't matter. But then just
keep a perspective too, so that way you're in touch
(21:41):
with what's really going on and the heart some super
hard things that a lot of people are dealing with.
And I like that our school. I don't know if
you know, like you've heard the kids talking about it,
but the school when they first start in the morning,
they have to say something to the like one of
their first assignments is yeah, so say one thing you're
grateful for, right, And we've continued doing the to challenge.
It's you know, was supposed to be for the month
(22:02):
of March, but if you want to join it now.
We have a Four Things Gratitude Journal which you can
get at four Things dot com or Radio Amy dot com.
You can find it there. There's lots of gifts up
there for Mother's Day. I know I'm biased, but shop
us ball in the Shop Forward. It's a small business,
so I know a lot of people are wanting to
find small businesses to support. So look around your community
(22:25):
and see how you can do that or you know
our community here ways that uh options we have are
through the splaw line or Pimp and Joy, which a
spa has the four Things totes which you can customize
for your mom for Mother's Day. We have a cute
star necklace that I wear every day. It's like three
gold stars a little choker, but it's adjustable and I
(22:48):
love it. We have little zip pouches. We have the
Four Things Gratitude Journal. We have cool Mom, cool Dad,
cool Grandma, cool Grandpa. But I guess in regards of
Mother's Day, cool mom and cool Grandma would work. We
have cool Aunt in case you have an aunt you
want to celebrate on Mother's Day. Uh Ben, there's um
(23:11):
Shot Forward has some stuff. There's Pimp and Joy Things,
which we've shifted that too. That was doing all tornado
reallyf recently, but we've shifted that to coronavirus needs, which,
um what else is helping with that right now? Um?
Oh are four Things Healthcare Heroes line, which is we
(23:33):
have a four Things tea and a four Things tote
that's helping healthcare heroes and getting them protective gear. The
PPE to hospitals were working with organizations that are doing
that in America, which typically Four Things Stuff supports HAITI
still is, but we're making an effort to support healthcare
(23:53):
workers here as well, So that's an option. I don't
know what are you gonna get me for Mother's Day?
M I have no idea. I guess it's a surprise, surprise.
We've already been working less than five weeks away. You know,
something's come from the heart. Yeah. Oh, my sister has
a coffee shop where they have if your mom likes coffee,
(24:15):
and they have coffee they can mail out and it's
in super cute packaging and they have spoons that say
choose Joy, which is cute to go along with your coffee.
Something really and that's root house code dot com, which
when you shop with any business you think of the
trickle down effect that it has. You know, she's got
(24:37):
employees there at the coffee shop, but there's a man
that roasts the coffee beans. Then there's a woman in
New Mexico that makes the spoons, and like for our totes,
we have printers that print the bags, and warehouse people
that work at the shop for it that gets to
come to work to ship things out. And then when
shipping is happening, ups workers that X workers, postal serve
(25:00):
us people. Everybody has a job to do. So yeah,
these are crazy times. And I guess we probably all
thought we'd be with our families for Easter this weekend
and Mother's Day coming up in five weeks, but the
reality is you probably won't be so if you order
something online, then you're staying safe at home, and that's
(25:22):
what we need to do right now. The best thing
we can do for everybody is stay home and not
wash your hands, and wash your hands and don't touch
your face, but until they tell us otherwise. I mean,
always wash your face and don't wash your hands and
don't touch your face, but stay home until otherwise they
tell us. Okay, alright, Well, I hope everyone has a
(25:44):
great rest of your Tuesday, and we'll talk to you
on Thursday for four things
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