April 1, 2023 • 11 mins
OUTWEIGH: Leanne Ellington says there are 5 ingredients of self-imaging:
- Self Acceptance
- Self Care
- Self Esteem
- Self Worth
- Self Endorsement
Amy shares some questions that she got from Leanne that you can ask yourself surrounding all 5 of these ingredients that make up how you see yourself! Answering the questions will help you understand what kind of goggles you have on because "what you see is who you be", and you are worthy of being the BEST version of yourself possible. The great news is....you can get a NEW pair of goggles if need to...you can rewire your brain!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I won't let my body outwa outweigh everything that I'm
made of, won't spend my life trying to change. I'm
learning to love who I am again. I'm strong, I
feel free, I know who every part of me. It's
beautiful and then will always outway if you feel it
(00:24):
with your hands in the air, she'lls love to the boom.
By m there, let's say good day and time did
you and die out? Happy Saturday? Outweigh fam amy here
and we're gonna talk about what you see is who
you be. And this comes from my friend Leanne Ellington,
and she says there are five ingredients of self imaging,
(00:47):
self acceptance, self care, self esteem, self worth, and self endorsement.
She calls them the goggles of your self image. And
I'm gonna go through each one and ask some questions
for you to reflect on surrounding each thing. And these
come from lean This is stuff she uses to help
(01:08):
gauge what goggles do you have on how do you
really see yourself? And so when I asked these questions,
I want you to think about them. What's your honest answer?
And be honest with yourself only you know the answers
to these and Lan was actually a guest at my
live events in Nashville last Saturday, Four Things with Amy
Brown Live from Franklin Theater. We did a three pm show,
(01:30):
in a seven pm show, and then Houston, our producer
Shout Out, combined some things from both shows and created
one episode which loaded two days ago on Thursday, March
thirtieth this year. So if you just go back a
couple of days, you can listen to the live and
it's all about knowing your worth and you are worthy
(01:50):
of doing this work. You are worthy of seeing yourself
in an amazing way. You're worthy of believing in yourself,
knowing you can trust yourself. You deserve a full and
beautiful life. And that was our theme of the day
of the night, and all of my guests spoke to
that in their own way. And Leanne focused mostly on
the brain and how these thoughts are patterns. They've been
(02:12):
there a long time. They loop over and over, and
the more they loop, the more they get a grip
on your brain and they take hold of you. But
the beauty of it is, and it really is beautiful.
It's magical, honestly, to know that your brain can go
another direction. You have the ability to rewire it. But
(02:33):
you've got to be aware of what you need to change,
and you've got to be aware of the things that
pop up and be like, oh, stop that in its
tracks and go another direction and start building a new neuropathway.
That's what I had to do at the beginning of
my eating disorder recovery, and I tried to recover multiple times.
But honestly, when I started seeing my brain as the
(02:54):
problem and not me and not food and not my
body actually just my brain, it helped me a lot
because there was hope. I was like, Okay, I saw
it as this. Okay, my brain is doing this. It's
trying to protect me. I have made it this way.
But guess what, I can use another part of my brain,
a higher part of my brain to help mold the
(03:16):
lower part of my brain that now is stuck in
this food addiction or workout addiction or horrible disordered habits
that I had going on. Okay, so we're going to
go to the self image questions again. What you see
is who you be, So answer these questions for yourself.
When it comes to self acceptance, are you living in
the past or accepting what is? Are you criticizing where
(03:40):
or what you're not or are you accepting what is?
Are you focusing on what you cannot control or accepting
and influencing what you can self care? Are you taking
care of your full three dimensional self? And Leanne likes
to use the PMS acronym for the three dimensional self,
(04:05):
and that's physically, mentally, social emotionally, so PMS physically mentally,
social emotionally. Are you taking care of yourself in those
three areas? When it comes to self esteem, do you
trust yourself? Now? At the live I asked this question
(04:25):
in a little bit of a different way, but there
were so many people that said check. We kind of
had the crowd say back check if they felt a
certain way about themselves, and it was like, if you
don't trust yourself or there have been times where you
don't trust yourself, I'm pretty sure everybody said check. That
is something we all struggle with. Do you have confidence
(04:48):
and belief in yourself or do you not believe a
word that you say and the promises that you make?
What has become negotiable? That needs to be up leveled
and it needs to become non negotiable. Think about that.
Where are you selling yourself short? What can you do
to start believing in yourself? For me, I just I
(05:09):
feel like I have to ask everybody's opinion about anything.
I don't think whatever I've come up with as the
right thing or clearly I don't know what I'm talking about.
But I'm working on rewiring that part of me and
trusting myself and listening to myself and knowing my body
and knowing that I have the ability and I'm totally
capable to make decisions for myself and they can be
the right decision. When it comes to self worth, what
(05:31):
are you weighing and measuring and is it making you
happy or sad? Are you measuring things like gene size,
scale weight, the number of likes or compliments you get,
your bank balance, relationship status, or other quantifiables that don't
really make you happy? Or are you using a currency
that you intentionally created and is based on how you
(05:53):
want to feel. I love that we get to come
up with our own currency for what makes us happy.
And lastly, self endorsement. Are you doing what you're doing
for you or for someone or something else? Are you
solely relying on requiring the support, approval and endorsement of
(06:14):
others or are you learning to use your own internal
compass to help you support, approve of, and endorse yourself.
So I love all of those questions. You may have
to get a journal out and pause this episode and
write down some of the questions. Which speaking of journaling,
(06:34):
Ali Fallon was the second thing at both live shows,
and she talked about the power of writing it down
and journaling through things and how healing it can be
and being able to write something down about yourself if
you answer some of these questions honestly, and then if
you're able to go back and read what you've written,
it's super powerful because you'd be like, oh, wow, this
(06:56):
is how I feel about myself. Some thoughts can be fleeting,
and then you don't even really remember that you thought
something about yourself when you put it pin to paper
and then you go back and read it. My hope
is that you will have compassion for yourself and know
that you would likely never talk to anybody else that way.
If you're a parent, you would never talk to your
(07:17):
child that way, you would never talk to your best
friend that way. But then you'll realize, oh, shoot, I'm
talking to myself in a way that I don't approve
of at all. It's not right, but guess what, a
lot of us do it. So when it comes to
the goggles of your self image again, what you see
(07:38):
is who you be. It also makes me think of
something we've talked about a lot here on outweigh and
it's acting as if like I'm going to go ahead
and act as if I am in recovery. I'm going
to act as if ordering pizza out to dinner is
totally normal. I'm gonna buy the other thoughts that tell
(08:01):
me it's not normal. And then when I do that,
I'm building that new neuropathway, acting as if everything is
totally fine, acting as if it's totally normal for me
to throw cookies in my cart at the grocery store
and put them in my pantry and not eat them
all in one sitting. I am that person. I am
acting as if I am that person. I did that
(08:22):
so early on in my recovery, and it really is
a powerful tool. And it makes me think of another
quote that's really really good, and it's your mind must
arrive at the destination before your life does. It's very
similar to acting as if your mind must arrive at
the destination before your life does, so put on a
(08:44):
different set of goggles, start seeing yourself in a different
way even before you get there. Believing it is possible
and knowing that that is the real you can work
wonders in the process. Another thing that happened at the
Brittany Spencer was our musical guest, excuse me, and she
(09:05):
performed Cowboy take Me Away by The Chicks, Rainbow by
Casey Musgrave's an original song of hers called a hundred
years Old, which I highly recommend you check out. It
was such a special special moment or thing of music.
Music is therapy too, right. And then my daughter came out, Stashira.
She's fifteen years old and Brittany's a mentor of sorts
(09:28):
for her and a family friend. And Brittany and I
wrote the Outweigh theme song together, which you hear the
chorus part at the beginning of each episode, but there's
a verse that's at the beginning, and Stashira was with
us the night we wrote it around my kitchen table,
and then we all worked on it together and fine
tuned it together and sang it together. So Stashira asked, Hey,
(09:50):
if Brittany's going to perform that at the live. I
would love to sing with her. So Stashira came out
and sang with her. And that's what I'm going to
play for you right now is Brittany featuring my daughter
Stashira live from Nashville, Tennessee. Here is outweigh. You can
(10:11):
see the words are right. We'll never leasure to all standards.
Obsessing over girls and magazines. He is family around the
(10:32):
table because what rab my man is bad, so we're
not ever. We'll stop it just to bes rob you
of the joy those boys brain. I won't let my
(10:53):
body otway. I haven't been made. What's been my life
trying to chant? I'm burning the look who I am?
I am shot? I know everybody? Hello? Oh is you really?
(11:18):
What you saying? My day at a time, so many
hands in there, so shoon. This is her first day
singing in front of people like this, So can y'all
(11:38):
give it up for her? And it's not easy to
do what she did, and she freaking did it twice today.
You're incredible
I won't let my body outwa outweigh everything that I'm
made of, won't spend my life trying to change. I'm
learning to love who I am again. I'm strong, I
feel free, I know who every part of me. It's
beautiful and then will always outway if you feel it
(00:24):
with your hands in the air, she'lls love to the boom.
By m there, let's say good day and time did
you and die out? Happy Saturday? Outweigh fam amy here
and we're gonna talk about what you see is who
you be. And this comes from my friend Leanne Ellington,
and she says there are five ingredients of self imaging,
(00:47):
self acceptance, self care, self esteem, self worth, and self endorsement.
She calls them the goggles of your self image. And
I'm gonna go through each one and ask some questions
for you to reflect on surrounding each thing. And these
come from lean This is stuff she uses to help
(01:08):
gauge what goggles do you have on how do you
really see yourself? And so when I asked these questions,
I want you to think about them. What's your honest answer?
And be honest with yourself only you know the answers
to these and Lan was actually a guest at my
live events in Nashville last Saturday, Four Things with Amy
Brown Live from Franklin Theater. We did a three pm show,
(01:30):
in a seven pm show, and then Houston, our producer
Shout Out, combined some things from both shows and created
one episode which loaded two days ago on Thursday, March
thirtieth this year. So if you just go back a
couple of days, you can listen to the live and
it's all about knowing your worth and you are worthy
(01:50):
of doing this work. You are worthy of seeing yourself
in an amazing way. You're worthy of believing in yourself,
knowing you can trust yourself. You deserve a full and
beautiful life. And that was our theme of the day
of the night, and all of my guests spoke to
that in their own way. And Leanne focused mostly on
the brain and how these thoughts are patterns. They've been
(02:12):
there a long time. They loop over and over, and
the more they loop, the more they get a grip
on your brain and they take hold of you. But
the beauty of it is, and it really is beautiful.
It's magical, honestly, to know that your brain can go
another direction. You have the ability to rewire it. But
(02:33):
you've got to be aware of what you need to change,
and you've got to be aware of the things that
pop up and be like, oh, stop that in its
tracks and go another direction and start building a new neuropathway.
That's what I had to do at the beginning of
my eating disorder recovery, and I tried to recover multiple times.
But honestly, when I started seeing my brain as the
(02:54):
problem and not me and not food and not my
body actually just my brain, it helped me a lot
because there was hope. I was like, Okay, I saw
it as this. Okay, my brain is doing this. It's
trying to protect me. I have made it this way.
But guess what, I can use another part of my brain,
a higher part of my brain to help mold the
(03:16):
lower part of my brain that now is stuck in
this food addiction or workout addiction or horrible disordered habits
that I had going on. Okay, so we're going to
go to the self image questions again. What you see
is who you be, So answer these questions for yourself.
When it comes to self acceptance, are you living in
the past or accepting what is? Are you criticizing where
(03:40):
or what you're not or are you accepting what is?
Are you focusing on what you cannot control or accepting
and influencing what you can self care? Are you taking
care of your full three dimensional self? And Leanne likes
to use the PMS acronym for the three dimensional self,
(04:05):
and that's physically, mentally, social emotionally, so PMS physically mentally,
social emotionally. Are you taking care of yourself in those
three areas? When it comes to self esteem, do you
trust yourself? Now? At the live I asked this question
(04:25):
in a little bit of a different way, but there
were so many people that said check. We kind of
had the crowd say back check if they felt a
certain way about themselves, and it was like, if you
don't trust yourself or there have been times where you
don't trust yourself, I'm pretty sure everybody said check. That
is something we all struggle with. Do you have confidence
(04:48):
and belief in yourself or do you not believe a
word that you say and the promises that you make?
What has become negotiable? That needs to be up leveled
and it needs to become non negotiable. Think about that.
Where are you selling yourself short? What can you do
to start believing in yourself? For me, I just I
(05:09):
feel like I have to ask everybody's opinion about anything.
I don't think whatever I've come up with as the
right thing or clearly I don't know what I'm talking about.
But I'm working on rewiring that part of me and
trusting myself and listening to myself and knowing my body
and knowing that I have the ability and I'm totally
capable to make decisions for myself and they can be
the right decision. When it comes to self worth, what
(05:31):
are you weighing and measuring and is it making you
happy or sad? Are you measuring things like gene size,
scale weight, the number of likes or compliments you get,
your bank balance, relationship status, or other quantifiables that don't
really make you happy? Or are you using a currency
that you intentionally created and is based on how you
(05:53):
want to feel. I love that we get to come
up with our own currency for what makes us happy.
And lastly, self endorsement. Are you doing what you're doing
for you or for someone or something else? Are you
solely relying on requiring the support, approval and endorsement of
(06:14):
others or are you learning to use your own internal
compass to help you support, approve of, and endorse yourself.
So I love all of those questions. You may have
to get a journal out and pause this episode and
write down some of the questions. Which speaking of journaling,
(06:34):
Ali Fallon was the second thing at both live shows,
and she talked about the power of writing it down
and journaling through things and how healing it can be
and being able to write something down about yourself if
you answer some of these questions honestly, and then if
you're able to go back and read what you've written,
it's super powerful because you'd be like, oh, wow, this
(06:56):
is how I feel about myself. Some thoughts can be fleeting,
and then you don't even really remember that you thought
something about yourself when you put it pin to paper
and then you go back and read it. My hope
is that you will have compassion for yourself and know
that you would likely never talk to anybody else that way.
If you're a parent, you would never talk to your
(07:17):
child that way, you would never talk to your best
friend that way. But then you'll realize, oh, shoot, I'm
talking to myself in a way that I don't approve
of at all. It's not right, but guess what, a
lot of us do it. So when it comes to
the goggles of your self image again, what you see
(07:38):
is who you be. It also makes me think of
something we've talked about a lot here on outweigh and
it's acting as if like I'm going to go ahead
and act as if I am in recovery. I'm going
to act as if ordering pizza out to dinner is
totally normal. I'm gonna buy the other thoughts that tell
(08:01):
me it's not normal. And then when I do that,
I'm building that new neuropathway, acting as if everything is
totally fine, acting as if it's totally normal for me
to throw cookies in my cart at the grocery store
and put them in my pantry and not eat them
all in one sitting. I am that person. I am
acting as if I am that person. I did that
(08:22):
so early on in my recovery, and it really is
a powerful tool. And it makes me think of another
quote that's really really good, and it's your mind must
arrive at the destination before your life does. It's very
similar to acting as if your mind must arrive at
the destination before your life does, so put on a
(08:44):
different set of goggles, start seeing yourself in a different
way even before you get there. Believing it is possible
and knowing that that is the real you can work
wonders in the process. Another thing that happened at the
Brittany Spencer was our musical guest, excuse me, and she
(09:05):
performed Cowboy take Me Away by The Chicks, Rainbow by
Casey Musgrave's an original song of hers called a hundred
years Old, which I highly recommend you check out. It
was such a special special moment or thing of music.
Music is therapy too, right. And then my daughter came out, Stashira.
She's fifteen years old and Brittany's a mentor of sorts
(09:28):
for her and a family friend. And Brittany and I
wrote the Outweigh theme song together, which you hear the
chorus part at the beginning of each episode, but there's
a verse that's at the beginning, and Stashira was with
us the night we wrote it around my kitchen table,
and then we all worked on it together and fine
tuned it together and sang it together. So Stashira asked, Hey,
(09:50):
if Brittany's going to perform that at the live. I
would love to sing with her. So Stashira came out
and sang with her. And that's what I'm going to
play for you right now is Brittany featuring my daughter
Stashira live from Nashville, Tennessee. Here is outweigh. You can
(10:11):
see the words are right. We'll never leasure to all standards.
Obsessing over girls and magazines. He is family around the
(10:32):
table because what rab my man is bad, so we're
not ever. We'll stop it just to bes rob you
of the joy those boys brain. I won't let my
(10:53):
body otway. I haven't been made. What's been my life
trying to chant? I'm burning the look who I am?
I am shot? I know everybody? Hello? Oh is you really?
(11:18):
What you saying? My day at a time, so many
hands in there, so shoon. This is her first day
singing in front of people like this, So can y'all
(11:38):
give it up for her? And it's not easy to
do what she did, and she freaking did it twice today.
You're incredible
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