April 20, 2023 • 19 mins
Amy’s sister, Cristi Dozier, just got a new necklace with a buffalo on it and she learned from someone she works with that buffalos turn into a snow storm rather than drifting with the wind because they instinctively know that walking into the storm will get them out of the weather quicker. So next time you are faced with a challenge, whether it be a situation at work or a difficult conversation you need to have with someone, ‘Be the Buffalo’ and avoid procrastination. Go directly toward the obstacle. Take it head on.
Amy also shares what she did today to change her mood when it turned negative!! Shout out Gabby Bernstein for these 4 things we can ask ourselves and work through to shift our mindset: How do I want to feel today? Who do I want to be today? What do I want to receive today? What do I want to give today?
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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Cats up broad little food for yourself life. Oh it's pretty,
but hey, it's pretty beautiful than beautiful. That for a
little more exciting, said he.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
You're kicking with four.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
With Amy Brown, Happy Thursday, Welcome before things. I'm Amy
and I am joined today. But my sister Christy Doser, Hello,
she's in town from Colorado. Came to Nashville for season
two of her show Building Roots. Can we talk about that?
If not, well, here you go. But y'all have some
(00:52):
stuff that you're doing here and all along, I knew
we were going to record tonight, but I just learned
that y'all went to get She and you were kind
of celebrating something and you maybe had some soke.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Well, we left the other project. We drove past a
bowling alley. We had to bowl a couple games. Then
we had to bowl like a third game because Ben
and Justin, who we work with, we're having like a
bowl off. Then everybody wanted to go get sushi. And
then that took a while because the night rolled on
and on and on and here you go, it's late
and you need this recorded.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Oh the episode loads in like a few hours, so
this is Wednesday night.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Sorry, Houston.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Houston is the producer. He texted me a minute. Guy's
like everything, okay, just checking in because normally we have
episodes done way in advance. But I really really, really
really wanted my sister to join me. I had a
totally different episode planned. But then last night when she
got here, she started telling me about her new buffalo
necklace and all about buffalo's how they run into the storm.
(01:57):
Bison too, which I don't know a buffalo is a
by essentially, I was about to say, I don't honestly
know the difference. Yeah, well whatever, they both. I was
doing some research and cows run away from a storm
and buffalo's or bison run into it. I don't think
you got the necklace for that meaning. But then later
you learned about it, and you have been walking through
(02:21):
a storm, and I don't know if you would say
you were really walking into it or if you were
trying to walk away from it. And now, knowing what
you know about your necklace, how will you approach future storms?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Right?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
So Ben got me a necklace. That's my husband. Ben
gave me a necklace about a week or two ago,
and it's kind of a coin shaped necklace. And it's
got the imprint of a buffalo on it, so I
don't know if it's some type of buffalo coin.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
I love buffalo.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
We have some in our area, and every time we
drive past them, I have to just I'm enamored by them.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
They're beautiful, beautiful creatures. And I walked.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Into our coffee shop in Colorado, and our manager Meredith
there noticed I had a new necklace and I was like,
it's a buffalo. And she said, buffaloes run towards the storms,
That's all she said. And I was like, what does
that mean? And she started telling me about the buffalo,
and then I went home and did my own research,
and then the necklace became even that much more special
(03:17):
because when you do read about storms and cows versus buffalo,
when the storm is being sensed by a cow, like
if he senses a storm coming, he will turn away
from the storm and start walking away from the storm.
Eventually the storm catches up to him and all of
a sudden, he's walking with the storm, and he stays
(03:38):
in the storm way longer because he's trying to get away,
and ends up actually just walking with it. Whereas the buffalo,
if they sense a storm, they literally turn their bodies
towards the storm, their whole entire face, and start walking
towards the storm. So when the second they start entering
the storm, it actually passes them wicker because they have
(04:01):
faced the storm with courage and bravery and just with
this sense of Okay, I want to get through this storm,
and I'm going to face it.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
I'm not going to turn from it. I'm not going
to run from it.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And you know, we've all gone through difficult things, you know,
us particularly, we've been walking through something that's very painful
and difficult, and I think there was kind of a
shift in our own mindset of Okay, we're going to
start just facing the storm.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
We want to get to the other side of it.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
We don't want to walk around it, we don't want
to walk away from it.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
We want to walk through it.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
We want to glean everything we can from it to
grow us and to get to the other side. Healed
and hole, and I think that's you know now, I
don't even know if Ben realized that the necklace he
was giving me was going to kind of take me
down this rabbit hole of buffalo knowledge.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
And us being buffalos from here on out because I
was encouraged and inspired by learning that, because I think
at times naturally we may think like the cows and
just want to avoid it as long as possible, and
thinking that, okay, well if we just turn away from it,
maybe we want to deal with it and then we'll
figure it out. But ultimately you end up being in
(05:13):
the storm longer than if you were to go head on.
I think it's a beautiful metaphor and something that will
be an encouragement to a lot of people. And I
even want to get my own buffalo necklace to match you.
Ben's in the room. You want to buy me one?
I know it's from that nice place.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
She wants one of those buffalo necklaces.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
So Gabby Bernstein is someone that you and I both follow.
At the beginning of the year, we did her Manifestation
Challenge and then I'm currently on day nineteen of her
twenty one day meditation challenge. Don't mess with my vibe,
Like for how long? Some of the meditations are ten minutes?
(05:54):
This morning's was six. You could have gone longer if
you wanted, but the recording.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Stopped its so I was like, now to go get rid.
It's like a guided meditation.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Guided Okay, some have been fifteen minutes, it just depends
on the day, but nothing more than fifteen, so totally doable. Obviously.
I think it's she's taken into consideration that people are
new to the practice and don't want to be overwhelmed.
It's been really cool and helpful. Although today I did
(06:23):
a meditation and I was on cloud nine feeling really
good and went to work, had a great day, and
then suddenly you just got really irritated. On my way
home from work, just multiple things were popping up, and
I was like, why is this happening? And then I
saw my negative energy shift, and then all kinds of
things sort of happening, Like I walk in the door
(06:47):
from work and I see that my dog is eating
out of the trash upstairs and coming downstairs with all
the trash in her face, and I'm like, oh, So
I go upstairs to pick up the trash. And then
I noticed that dishes are up there for my kids
having breakfast and they didn't take them down, and so
I'm begrudgingly like grabbing everything and trying to hold all
my arms. I'm like oh, And then I'm walking down
(07:07):
the stairs with all the dishes and the glass falls
and breaks everywhere, and I was like, oh my gosh,
negative brings on more negative.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
That is my point because so stush Shira ran into
the garage. Well, that I had to have grace for
because I.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Know what I'm saying, that did happen earlier today.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Yeah, and then I borrowed that car in the in
the mirrors did you know the mirrors?
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Great? Yeah, the mirror broke.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Okay, it's fine.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
I heard about that, yes, because I was already at
work because she was she wanted to drive to school
with an adult in the car, by the way, but
it I don't know. Yes, she had.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
A little fair having these individual garage doors and they're
tricky to back out of.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Right, I have grace for it because I have not
in this home, but a previous home ran into a
garage exciting thing. And then also at work and Bin's
truck a few years ago, I turned too quickly to
get out of the gate and ended up I don't know,
somehow taking the tire up on the roly gate thing
(08:14):
because at work we had this huge garage gate and
it popped the tire and then like messed up the
rim like it was a big time mess. So I
was frustrated with Stashira, but I couldn't get mad because
I don't know if this is one of those like
motherlike daughter, or.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
You ran into other things? Haven't you run into other things?
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Here?
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Those are the basketball goal? No, yeah, but that's not
a garage. I was just telling my garage stories. Yes,
I've run into the basketball goal. I've run into a
fire hydrant, I've run into poles. Most of the time,
if I hit something, it's a non moving object. Yeah, thanks, So.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
That's a win the Lord.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Except for when I was over Christmas traveling with your
husband in New Mexico and we got hit by a car.
That's my first real highway accident. Oh yeah, and he
had like a champ and then luckily, yeah, luckily, we
were okay. And I can't believe the driver of the
other car that rolled like I cannot believe he survived
walked away unbelievable because he's also hauling a trailer. So
(09:13):
it's pretty because he had a seatbelt on.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
So, Gabby Bernstein back to her, she has four ways
to change your mood fast. I needed this today, Yes,
because I was in a good mood, and then I
let the negatives start to pile on, and then all
the negative things started happening, so I had to stop
drop and reset, stop dropping, meditate. Okay, are you with me?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
I'm just impressed at your meditation skills. That's not like
a normal thing for you to like sit still and
go inside.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
I'm definitely being more intentional about it because most experts
that I'm listening to right now that know a lot
about the body and even coming down to preventing disease,
like neuroscientists, Oh yes, they're not just some woo woo
people that are come, you know, feel they've had this
life changing moment. Now. They're basing it off of actual
(10:11):
studies with people and scientific evidence and miraculous things that
are happening and healing and all that. To say, I
I carry around a little bit of fear because both
our parents had cancer. But I also don't even want
to acknowledge that fear because then I'm inviting it in
and I want to release it out. So I'm just
(10:34):
sharing it for the sake of the dear body. I'm
only saying this out loud to share with others. You
see how I don't even want to bring it in.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I do.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Okay, you're trying to tiptoe around it, right, So I
would like to meditate more, to have more calm, to
release more stress and not hold it inside and cause
inflammation and disease.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Ish okay, but.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
I'm still beginner. And it just it makes you like,
can make you more creative, can make you a better sister,
can make you a better mom, a better employee or
employer because you show up differently. And I'm I'm trying
like I feel like in the last nineteen days, my
vibe is a little higher.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
It's definitely high.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
Except for except for around noon to three. So I
sat with this way that you can reset yourself. And
so I sat down and I said, how do I
want to feel today? Who do I want to be today?
What do I want to receive today? And what do
I want to give today? And I start to really
focus on those four things. And she says, when you
(11:42):
set intentions for each of those four things, you'll shift.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
So were you like sitting amongst broken glass?
Speaker 3 (11:48):
No, I cleaned that up. You cleaned it up because
I pinched my kids coming home and getting barefoot, and
then studying on the glass, and I thought, okay, I've
better said I have to go to the hospital than
on the way the hospital. There's good because that was
the trajectory of going to be traffic.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
So I got the broom and the vacuum and I
got everything up, and I was very proud of myself.
And then I think I did the dishes because that
makes me feel better too. I don't even know why
I can just vacuum and do dishes and I suddenly
feel a little bit better. But then I sat with
how do I want to feel today? Moving forward? Definitely
(12:26):
didn't want to feel like I was feeling Who do
I want to be today? I didn't want to be
the negative person because I was also once I got negative.
I ended up on a phone call with someone and
I felt like I was giving my negative energy to them,
and I even acknowledged that and they were sweet and
they were like, no, I don't really feel it, but
I know they were like, good gosh, this is girl's
annoying to talk to, because I when you become more
(12:47):
aware of it, you get annoyed with your own self.
So that's where I was, and so who do I
want to be today? I don't want to be someone
that's bringing negative energy to somebody else when I'm on
a phone call with them. I don't want to be
someone that's thinking negative thoughts and then in turn more
negative things are happening.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
So how do I want to feel today? Who do
I want to be today?
Speaker 3 (13:10):
What do I want to receive today? And if I'm
blocked off by all kinds of the negative things that
are happening, I can't receive. I want to receive other
people's energy, and you know what, They're going to block
me if I'm negative, And then what do I want
to give today? I wanted to give better energy. I
wanted to be able to pour into my kids tonight.
(13:31):
I wanted to be able to go to Stashera's game
and not be annoyed about the garage or any other things,
or that I had to sit at a however long
baseball game that was tied forever and kept going and
going and going.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I ended up.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
Winning the other team by one nodding. Then I'm getting
my son to bed late. Everything just starts to pile on.
But you know what, because I reset with the four
things here, How do I want to feel today? Who
do I want to be today? What do I want
to receive today? And what do I want to give today?
Was the chillest person at the softball game? So chill,
(14:04):
so chill. When we got home and had dinner late,
so chill. When I got Stevenson to bed late, chill, chill.
Right now, you're so chill, so chill. I'm not even
trying to convince you that I'm chill. I'm just genuinely
saying like I couldn't be bothered. And I know for
a fact, because I know me and my personality and
(14:24):
my being, which I'm working to shift. I'm listening to
this book that's called Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself.
I'm just listening to it on audible when I can
bits and pieces. But I feel like I even want
to just go back a couple chapters and read listen
to them because I know now, especially from listening to
what I have so far of this, I can change
(14:45):
my personality. And I think that for years I am
the person that be so set off by the littlest things,
and then it would snowball, and now I realized tonight
so cool?
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Right Well, at the game, in a matter of minute,
you don't need like an eight hour night's sleep and
a whole new day right in set.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
You can do it now, and it doesn't have to
be a twenty minute meditation. I just sat with these
questions and then gave myself a minute to reset. And
so I just would encourage others to do whatever you
need to do. Maybe for you it's it's something else.
Maybe it's a five minute walk outside in the sun
and you reflect over these questions. It doesn't mean you
have to sit crisscross apple sauce on your bedroom floor
(15:27):
with your palms in the air, although it is nice.
I have a little mat.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Well, although I have one.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Well, you know, I know you talk about going to
therapy a lot, and Ben and I just started recently,
and in our therapy the last couple weeks, I remember
the first week she talked about, you know, kind of
the storm we're walking through and some different things, and
she said, when you go through something hard, you can
look at it as whatever terrible type of shipwreck you
want to think of. It could be a train wreck,
(15:55):
car wreck, shipwreck, whatever it is, you are in need
of recovery time. And so our first homework excitement for
that week was to just be really tender with ourselves,
to be gentle with ourselves, to do things that would
lend towards recovery. So you just mentioned the five minute walk,
and I found for me a five or ten minute
(16:16):
walk was an amazing reset. It didn't need to be
thirty minutes, which sometimes I'll put myself in the box
of well, if I can't do a twenty or thirty
minute walk, what's the point. But the five or ten
minute walk is just as effective in at least resetting
your mind as a thirty minute walk would be. Yeah,
that's really good encouragement because I think when we have
the you're in a box and you have the time
(16:37):
limit limit, then you get overwhelmed and then it's like, well, okay,
I'll just or when am I going to find the time,
or I'll do it later, and then later becomes later,
it becomes later, and then you never end up doing it. Well.
I sensed your chillness when I got home tonight and
you were just waiting at.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Your podcastsk But I was chill about it. I even said,
I have other things prepared, so I'll throw it together
real quick.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
Plus the thing is my phone died, so then I
couldn't communicate with you. Yeah, but your phone always dies?
Speaker 3 (17:03):
Why didn't have a charger? But that's who cares like that.
I don't care that.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I know, but I couldn't be like, hey, may, I'm
running later than I thought. I guess I could have
reached out to you on Bin's phone.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
Be honest. Is the energy I gave off that I
was mad?
Speaker 1 (17:17):
No way.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
In my head, I was like, Okay, she probably already
did something else. And then I walked in and I
was like, oh, she wants to do this right now?
Speaker 3 (17:24):
Okay, because I didn't know, I'll be said on my purse,
I never heard from you, I know, so okay.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Well, I love the Buffalo story, so I was happy
to share that.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
I don't know what we were going to tangent off into.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
No, I'm obsessed with the Buffalo story and now I
want to I feel as though there's storms I went through,
probably for way too long, that I could have faced
head on and they would have been over quicker. But
obviously who wants to run towards pain because it's not
even just like rainstorms, it's snowstorms, like blizzards.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Fire story, I read all of it well, the fire Oh,
but I'm saying like your storm sometimes can feel hot.
Speaker 3 (18:04):
Yeah, I was fiery.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
I was just throwing out all types of storms that
it could feel like. But you know, fire is another
good analogy too of when you're walking through a storm,
going through a heated situation, say a hard and heated situation.
The best way is not around the fire, but through
the fire, because as you walk through the fire, you
get through it faster, and not only that, you're refined
(18:28):
in the process. You know, how you go through things
that are super hard, and on the other side you
realize you've grown and changed and gained all these things
that you could have never really gotten any other way.
Speaker 3 (18:39):
It makes me think, since your husband's in the room
and asleep. He's asleep on the couch, but he used
to make you beautiful pieces of pottery, and it would
have to go through the fire, right you mold the fire,
put it, and then you put it in the oven.
Right to I wish he was a Ben Ben No, Ben, No,
don't sure.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
Also, you mentioned your coffee shop failure and you didn't
say the name though, so I'm going to say it.
And it's roothouse. So if people are ever in Pagosa Springs.
They should go there. And then coming soon to HG
TV is season two of Building Roots. And then y'all's
company is Root Design All the Roots. Okay, love you,
(19:22):
thank you for doing this, Love you too. Bye,
Cats up broad little food for yourself life. Oh it's pretty,
but hey, it's pretty beautiful than beautiful. That for a
little more exciting, said he.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
You're kicking with four.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
With Amy Brown, Happy Thursday, Welcome before things. I'm Amy
and I am joined today. But my sister Christy Doser, Hello,
she's in town from Colorado. Came to Nashville for season
two of her show Building Roots. Can we talk about that?
If not, well, here you go. But y'all have some
(00:52):
stuff that you're doing here and all along, I knew
we were going to record tonight, but I just learned
that y'all went to get She and you were kind
of celebrating something and you maybe had some soke.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Well, we left the other project. We drove past a
bowling alley. We had to bowl a couple games. Then
we had to bowl like a third game because Ben
and Justin, who we work with, we're having like a
bowl off. Then everybody wanted to go get sushi. And
then that took a while because the night rolled on
and on and on and here you go, it's late
and you need this recorded.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Oh the episode loads in like a few hours, so
this is Wednesday night.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Sorry, Houston.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Houston is the producer. He texted me a minute. Guy's
like everything, okay, just checking in because normally we have
episodes done way in advance. But I really really, really
really wanted my sister to join me. I had a
totally different episode planned. But then last night when she
got here, she started telling me about her new buffalo
necklace and all about buffalo's how they run into the storm.
(01:57):
Bison too, which I don't know a buffalo is a
by essentially, I was about to say, I don't honestly
know the difference. Yeah, well whatever, they both. I was
doing some research and cows run away from a storm
and buffalo's or bison run into it. I don't think
you got the necklace for that meaning. But then later
you learned about it, and you have been walking through
(02:21):
a storm, and I don't know if you would say
you were really walking into it or if you were
trying to walk away from it. And now, knowing what
you know about your necklace, how will you approach future storms?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Right?
Speaker 2 (02:31):
So Ben got me a necklace. That's my husband. Ben
gave me a necklace about a week or two ago,
and it's kind of a coin shaped necklace. And it's
got the imprint of a buffalo on it, so I
don't know if it's some type of buffalo coin.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
I love buffalo.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
We have some in our area, and every time we
drive past them, I have to just I'm enamored by them.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
They're beautiful, beautiful creatures. And I walked.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Into our coffee shop in Colorado, and our manager Meredith
there noticed I had a new necklace and I was like,
it's a buffalo. And she said, buffaloes run towards the storms,
That's all she said. And I was like, what does
that mean? And she started telling me about the buffalo,
and then I went home and did my own research,
and then the necklace became even that much more special
(03:17):
because when you do read about storms and cows versus buffalo,
when the storm is being sensed by a cow, like
if he senses a storm coming, he will turn away
from the storm and start walking away from the storm.
Eventually the storm catches up to him and all of
a sudden, he's walking with the storm, and he stays
(03:38):
in the storm way longer because he's trying to get away,
and ends up actually just walking with it. Whereas the buffalo,
if they sense a storm, they literally turn their bodies
towards the storm, their whole entire face, and start walking
towards the storm. So when the second they start entering
the storm, it actually passes them wicker because they have
(04:01):
faced the storm with courage and bravery and just with
this sense of Okay, I want to get through this storm,
and I'm going to face it.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
I'm not going to turn from it. I'm not going
to run from it.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And you know, we've all gone through difficult things, you know,
us particularly, we've been walking through something that's very painful
and difficult, and I think there was kind of a
shift in our own mindset of Okay, we're going to
start just facing the storm.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
We want to get to the other side of it.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
We don't want to walk around it, we don't want
to walk away from it.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
We want to walk through it.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
We want to glean everything we can from it to
grow us and to get to the other side. Healed
and hole, and I think that's you know now, I
don't even know if Ben realized that the necklace he
was giving me was going to kind of take me
down this rabbit hole of buffalo knowledge.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
And us being buffalos from here on out because I
was encouraged and inspired by learning that, because I think
at times naturally we may think like the cows and
just want to avoid it as long as possible, and
thinking that, okay, well if we just turn away from it,
maybe we want to deal with it and then we'll
figure it out. But ultimately you end up being in
(05:13):
the storm longer than if you were to go head on.
I think it's a beautiful metaphor and something that will
be an encouragement to a lot of people. And I
even want to get my own buffalo necklace to match you.
Ben's in the room. You want to buy me one?
I know it's from that nice place.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
She wants one of those buffalo necklaces.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
So Gabby Bernstein is someone that you and I both follow.
At the beginning of the year, we did her Manifestation
Challenge and then I'm currently on day nineteen of her
twenty one day meditation challenge. Don't mess with my vibe,
Like for how long? Some of the meditations are ten minutes?
(05:54):
This morning's was six. You could have gone longer if
you wanted, but the recording.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Stopped its so I was like, now to go get rid.
It's like a guided meditation.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
Guided Okay, some have been fifteen minutes, it just depends
on the day, but nothing more than fifteen, so totally doable. Obviously.
I think it's she's taken into consideration that people are
new to the practice and don't want to be overwhelmed.
It's been really cool and helpful. Although today I did
(06:23):
a meditation and I was on cloud nine feeling really
good and went to work, had a great day, and
then suddenly you just got really irritated. On my way
home from work, just multiple things were popping up, and
I was like, why is this happening? And then I
saw my negative energy shift, and then all kinds of
things sort of happening, Like I walk in the door
(06:47):
from work and I see that my dog is eating
out of the trash upstairs and coming downstairs with all
the trash in her face, and I'm like, oh, So
I go upstairs to pick up the trash. And then
I noticed that dishes are up there for my kids
having breakfast and they didn't take them down, and so
I'm begrudgingly like grabbing everything and trying to hold all
my arms. I'm like oh, And then I'm walking down
(07:07):
the stairs with all the dishes and the glass falls
and breaks everywhere, and I was like, oh my gosh,
negative brings on more negative.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
That is my point because so stush Shira ran into
the garage. Well, that I had to have grace for
because I.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Know what I'm saying, that did happen earlier today.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Yeah, and then I borrowed that car in the in
the mirrors did you know the mirrors?
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Great? Yeah, the mirror broke.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Okay, it's fine.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
I heard about that, yes, because I was already at
work because she was she wanted to drive to school
with an adult in the car, by the way, but
it I don't know. Yes, she had.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
A little fair having these individual garage doors and they're
tricky to back out of.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Right, I have grace for it because I have not
in this home, but a previous home ran into a
garage exciting thing. And then also at work and Bin's
truck a few years ago, I turned too quickly to
get out of the gate and ended up I don't know,
somehow taking the tire up on the roly gate thing
(08:14):
because at work we had this huge garage gate and
it popped the tire and then like messed up the
rim like it was a big time mess. So I
was frustrated with Stashira, but I couldn't get mad because
I don't know if this is one of those like
motherlike daughter, or.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
You ran into other things? Haven't you run into other things?
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Here?
Speaker 3 (08:33):
Those are the basketball goal? No, yeah, but that's not
a garage. I was just telling my garage stories. Yes,
I've run into the basketball goal. I've run into a
fire hydrant, I've run into poles. Most of the time,
if I hit something, it's a non moving object. Yeah, thanks, So.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
That's a win the Lord.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Except for when I was over Christmas traveling with your
husband in New Mexico and we got hit by a car.
That's my first real highway accident. Oh yeah, and he
had like a champ and then luckily, yeah, luckily, we
were okay. And I can't believe the driver of the
other car that rolled like I cannot believe he survived
walked away unbelievable because he's also hauling a trailer. So
(09:13):
it's pretty because he had a seatbelt on.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
So, Gabby Bernstein back to her, she has four ways
to change your mood fast. I needed this today, Yes,
because I was in a good mood, and then I
let the negatives start to pile on, and then all
the negative things started happening, so I had to stop
drop and reset, stop dropping, meditate. Okay, are you with me?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
I'm just impressed at your meditation skills. That's not like
a normal thing for you to like sit still and
go inside.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
I'm definitely being more intentional about it because most experts
that I'm listening to right now that know a lot
about the body and even coming down to preventing disease,
like neuroscientists, Oh yes, they're not just some woo woo
people that are come, you know, feel they've had this
life changing moment. Now. They're basing it off of actual
(10:11):
studies with people and scientific evidence and miraculous things that
are happening and healing and all that. To say, I
I carry around a little bit of fear because both
our parents had cancer. But I also don't even want
to acknowledge that fear because then I'm inviting it in
and I want to release it out. So I'm just
(10:34):
sharing it for the sake of the dear body. I'm
only saying this out loud to share with others. You
see how I don't even want to bring it in.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I do.
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Okay, you're trying to tiptoe around it, right, So I
would like to meditate more, to have more calm, to
release more stress and not hold it inside and cause
inflammation and disease.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Ish okay, but.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
I'm still beginner. And it just it makes you like,
can make you more creative, can make you a better sister,
can make you a better mom, a better employee or
employer because you show up differently. And I'm I'm trying
like I feel like in the last nineteen days, my
vibe is a little higher.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
It's definitely high.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
Except for except for around noon to three. So I
sat with this way that you can reset yourself. And
so I sat down and I said, how do I
want to feel today? Who do I want to be today?
What do I want to receive today? And what do
I want to give today? And I start to really
focus on those four things. And she says, when you
(11:42):
set intentions for each of those four things, you'll shift.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
So were you like sitting amongst broken glass?
Speaker 3 (11:48):
No, I cleaned that up. You cleaned it up because
I pinched my kids coming home and getting barefoot, and
then studying on the glass, and I thought, okay, I've
better said I have to go to the hospital than
on the way the hospital. There's good because that was
the trajectory of going to be traffic.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
So I got the broom and the vacuum and I
got everything up, and I was very proud of myself.
And then I think I did the dishes because that
makes me feel better too. I don't even know why
I can just vacuum and do dishes and I suddenly
feel a little bit better. But then I sat with
how do I want to feel today? Moving forward? Definitely
(12:26):
didn't want to feel like I was feeling Who do
I want to be today? I didn't want to be
the negative person because I was also once I got negative.
I ended up on a phone call with someone and
I felt like I was giving my negative energy to them,
and I even acknowledged that and they were sweet and
they were like, no, I don't really feel it, but
I know they were like, good gosh, this is girl's
annoying to talk to, because I when you become more
(12:47):
aware of it, you get annoyed with your own self.
So that's where I was, and so who do I
want to be today? I don't want to be someone
that's bringing negative energy to somebody else when I'm on
a phone call with them. I don't want to be
someone that's thinking negative thoughts and then in turn more
negative things are happening.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
So how do I want to feel today? Who do
I want to be today?
Speaker 3 (13:10):
What do I want to receive today? And if I'm
blocked off by all kinds of the negative things that
are happening, I can't receive. I want to receive other
people's energy, and you know what, They're going to block
me if I'm negative, And then what do I want
to give today? I wanted to give better energy. I
wanted to be able to pour into my kids tonight.
(13:31):
I wanted to be able to go to Stashera's game
and not be annoyed about the garage or any other things,
or that I had to sit at a however long
baseball game that was tied forever and kept going and
going and going.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I ended up.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
Winning the other team by one nodding. Then I'm getting
my son to bed late. Everything just starts to pile on.
But you know what, because I reset with the four
things here, How do I want to feel today? Who
do I want to be today? What do I want
to receive today? And what do I want to give today?
Was the chillest person at the softball game? So chill,
(14:04):
so chill. When we got home and had dinner late,
so chill. When I got Stevenson to bed late, chill, chill.
Right now, you're so chill, so chill. I'm not even
trying to convince you that I'm chill. I'm just genuinely
saying like I couldn't be bothered. And I know for
a fact, because I know me and my personality and
(14:24):
my being, which I'm working to shift. I'm listening to
this book that's called Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself.
I'm just listening to it on audible when I can
bits and pieces. But I feel like I even want
to just go back a couple chapters and read listen
to them because I know now, especially from listening to
what I have so far of this, I can change
(14:45):
my personality. And I think that for years I am
the person that be so set off by the littlest things,
and then it would snowball, and now I realized tonight
so cool?
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Right Well, at the game, in a matter of minute,
you don't need like an eight hour night's sleep and
a whole new day right in set.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
You can do it now, and it doesn't have to
be a twenty minute meditation. I just sat with these
questions and then gave myself a minute to reset. And
so I just would encourage others to do whatever you
need to do. Maybe for you it's it's something else.
Maybe it's a five minute walk outside in the sun
and you reflect over these questions. It doesn't mean you
have to sit crisscross apple sauce on your bedroom floor
(15:27):
with your palms in the air, although it is nice.
I have a little mat.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Well, although I have one.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Well, you know, I know you talk about going to
therapy a lot, and Ben and I just started recently,
and in our therapy the last couple weeks, I remember
the first week she talked about, you know, kind of
the storm we're walking through and some different things, and
she said, when you go through something hard, you can
look at it as whatever terrible type of shipwreck you
want to think of. It could be a train wreck,
(15:55):
car wreck, shipwreck, whatever it is, you are in need
of recovery time. And so our first homework excitement for
that week was to just be really tender with ourselves,
to be gentle with ourselves, to do things that would
lend towards recovery. So you just mentioned the five minute walk,
and I found for me a five or ten minute
(16:16):
walk was an amazing reset. It didn't need to be
thirty minutes, which sometimes I'll put myself in the box
of well, if I can't do a twenty or thirty
minute walk, what's the point. But the five or ten
minute walk is just as effective in at least resetting
your mind as a thirty minute walk would be. Yeah,
that's really good encouragement because I think when we have
the you're in a box and you have the time
(16:37):
limit limit, then you get overwhelmed and then it's like, well, okay,
I'll just or when am I going to find the time,
or I'll do it later, and then later becomes later,
it becomes later, and then you never end up doing it. Well.
I sensed your chillness when I got home tonight and
you were just waiting at.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Your podcastsk But I was chill about it. I even said,
I have other things prepared, so I'll throw it together
real quick.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
Plus the thing is my phone died, so then I
couldn't communicate with you. Yeah, but your phone always dies?
Speaker 3 (17:03):
Why didn't have a charger? But that's who cares like that.
I don't care that.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I know, but I couldn't be like, hey, may, I'm
running later than I thought. I guess I could have
reached out to you on Bin's phone.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
Be honest. Is the energy I gave off that I
was mad?
Speaker 1 (17:17):
No way.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
In my head, I was like, Okay, she probably already
did something else. And then I walked in and I
was like, oh, she wants to do this right now?
Speaker 3 (17:24):
Okay, because I didn't know, I'll be said on my purse,
I never heard from you, I know, so okay.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Well, I love the Buffalo story, so I was happy
to share that.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
I don't know what we were going to tangent off into.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
No, I'm obsessed with the Buffalo story and now I
want to I feel as though there's storms I went through,
probably for way too long, that I could have faced
head on and they would have been over quicker. But
obviously who wants to run towards pain because it's not
even just like rainstorms, it's snowstorms, like blizzards.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Fire story, I read all of it well, the fire Oh,
but I'm saying like your storm sometimes can feel hot.
Speaker 3 (18:04):
Yeah, I was fiery.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
I was just throwing out all types of storms that
it could feel like. But you know, fire is another
good analogy too of when you're walking through a storm,
going through a heated situation, say a hard and heated situation.
The best way is not around the fire, but through
the fire, because as you walk through the fire, you
get through it faster, and not only that, you're refined
(18:28):
in the process. You know, how you go through things
that are super hard, and on the other side you
realize you've grown and changed and gained all these things
that you could have never really gotten any other way.
Speaker 3 (18:39):
It makes me think, since your husband's in the room
and asleep. He's asleep on the couch, but he used
to make you beautiful pieces of pottery, and it would
have to go through the fire, right you mold the fire,
put it, and then you put it in the oven.
Right to I wish he was a Ben Ben No, Ben, No,
don't sure.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (19:00):
Also, you mentioned your coffee shop failure and you didn't
say the name though, so I'm going to say it.
And it's roothouse. So if people are ever in Pagosa Springs.
They should go there. And then coming soon to HG
TV is season two of Building Roots. And then y'all's
company is Root Design All the Roots. Okay, love you,
(19:22):
thank you for doing this, Love you too. Bye,
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